A HOUR of TRYING to CLEAN my CLUTTERED home, OVERWHELMING

[@CindyArnold-e5t]

First time viewer. I’m noticing that with each task you successfully complete, you say “I’m lazy, that was disgusting, I should have…, etc.”. You accomplished so much…give yourself the credit you so deserve.

[@feraltradwife]

I’ll pay more attention to that! Thank you. I will say that I’m usually way more upbeat and positive. I recorded my voiceover the night after being in the hospital with my husband and the negativity really pulled through.

[@CindyArnold-e5t]

I am so sorry that your husband and your family is facing this serious health concern. I will keep you in prayer, know that you are all so loved.❤️

[@kristinmann9988]

@@feraltradwife I love how you take constructive criticism without feeling attacked. We are all here as support for one another and your channel is the best place for it. Positive thoughts to you and your family through these tough times.

[@feraltradwife]

@@kristinmann9988 thank you! There are some great things for me to learn in the comments! And it’s pretty easy to see those who have good intentions over those who are just being snooty.

[@angelasepi657]

Park. never said you're lazy. All I'm saying is if you have too much stuff, you're just going to have more to clean up, whether the stuff is toys, clothes, dishes, etc.

[@lynnturney9773]

You are doing way too much, you are going to burn yourself out! Your kids are all old enough to help you, and to clean their own rooms. I’m so sorry your husband is having serious health problems. All the more reason for your kids to start immediately helping you out. You can’t be expected to do everything by yourself. Really you husband will most likely need you to in the near future. Therefore the kids need to start helping you around the house. Assign chores to each one of them, and have them clean their own rooms.

[@jenniferwilliams7086]

Yesss

[@jenniferannfox2316]

I was thinking the same thing. If kids don’t have routine habits assigned they don’t learn responsibility later

[@tjall]

I'm sure she said 2 of her children are autistic so don't think they can

[@mallymakings2853]

@@tjallI completely disagree with this comment. My son has Autism and everything else that goes with it. In my experience with my son and the autistic children he’s with, doing some chores is an absolute must. It gives them responsibility and it add’s benefit to their routine. For example, every time my son eats, he is responsible for taking his plate and cutlery to the dishwasher. If there’s food then he is responsible for putting that into the bin. Every Saturday, (he has it on his calendar)that he needs to strip his bedding and pick everything up off the floor and then vacuum. It’s all about trial and error. Children both with and without autism learn that “calm” in the household comes from everyone doing something to contribute.

[@mutigeart3024]

​​@@mallymakings2853 вы правы абсолютно 👍. Я, моя жена и дети тоже аутисты. Я с женой ходим на работу, дети в школу , но каждый вечер наша кухня чистая, у нас маленькая 45 см посудомоечная машина и каждый вечер мы включаем ее. Чистота дело привычки, привычки очень важны для аутистов, это успокаивает ,ежедневная рутина, каждый знает что делать и где какая вещь лежит, где ее место и никогда не надо искать ❤

[@paulabrown6840]

I’m coming from a caring place here. I recommend a family meeting. Your kids are old enough to take some of the responsibility in keeping an uncluttered house. Maybe new rules about clothes shoes and putting dishes away. You could give them each aage appropriate list of chores and create a reward system for accomplishments. Otherwise Beth it’s like you’re digging a hole in the sand that just keeps falling back in the hole. You deserve help and the kids will learn at the same time. You deserve joy! 🌷💛

[@feraltradwife]

I love that idea! I am working on transitioning the responsibilities but not really enforcing it. I think I feel like it’s hypocritical for me to nag them on mess when I’m also wildly messy. I do think it’s time for me to buckle down and get them to pull their own. Thank you so much Paula ❤️❤️

[@MillennialMeg]

@@feraltradwifethis is what holds me back too. I literally told my 12 year old this exact thing a couple of weeks ago. How can I ask them to be disciplined when I still struggle? But we have to.

[@tamsheyclark6531]

Tell them you are struggling with being messy too and maybe they will offer to help. 🙏🏻♥️🤗

[@lauramitchell6725]

@@feraltradwifeTell them that you’re struggling and NEED their help!

[@elckefahwehinmi1466]

Thus is not normal Your childeren dont help

[@helloworld441]

I have some tips for keeping the house somewhat tidy; 1. Everything should have a home and everyone should know where things belong 2. Never cook in a messy kitchen and clean as you cook 3. To help motivate the kids, make cleaning a group activity- music playing, set a timer to race against. 4. really build up the sense of ownership of the house and accomplishment when cleaning ie. This is OUR home, we are so lucky to have it. Encourage them to style the cushins/decor etc.. Hope this is helpful

[@nikio3650]

I love these ideas!

[@angelasepi657]

Having less things helps so pare down as much as possible.

[@brandykenoly6532]

This was great advice ❤

[@amymonteagudo5516]

Thank you

[@debbysouthworth5606]

Totally agree. My house gets a deep clean every 3-4 months because it never gets out of hand because I do things on a schedule. Always have. Laundry once a week. Kitchen cleaned after meals. Beds made every morning. Following these simple strategies frees up SO MUCH time for more enjoyable pursuits.

[@singerjo5791]

One time I enlisted my daughter and husband for a 15 minute cleaning session. They could pick kitchen, bathroom or living room. We all worked for 15 minutes and it made a Hugh difference. I also used to have everyone clean during commercials of whatever show we were watching. You would be surprised at how much can be accomplished in just a few minutes at a time. And, the kids didn’t complain so much.

[@Chrissyhappy]

I watch a man called Midwest magic. He is fantastic explaining things. He has autism and explains how his brain works. He explains the best way to clean. He cleans professionally too. I watch him for motivation and help. Good luck to everyone on their journey.😊

[@jennifermonk4275]

I love that channel because 1- He’s hilarious and 2-He’s kind and doesn’t judge people’s circumstances. My house is a mess as I just went through a very personal grieving process recently and I felt paralyzed in my grief. I am getting back at it today but I felt myself getting emotional and needed to sit for a moment. Sometimes we only have the energy we have at the time. Cleaning as you go and having kids help are all great in theory but sometimes life gets in the way of even the best of intentions. Be gentle with yourself. It will be clean again and then messy again. It’s life and this is completely normal.

[@MommaLousKitchen]

Turned me off with a few judgey EPS.

[@jylromain6439]

Love his videos.

[@thedockertysautismlife2393]

Yes I watch him to I have autism to and he helps me get motivated. I love the names he calls him self and hiw he teases his lovely son Jason.

[@TammyB-x2h]

He’s my favorite cleaner and I love listening to him talk about his autism.

[@belb5091]

Omg you remind me so much me. I feel exactly how you feel. I feel so burnt out. But i try not to give up. My house looks just like yours and i get no help. I am here for you. Thank you for sharing and making me feel like I'm not the only one going through.❤

[@feraltradwife]

You are so welcome here! I’m here for you too babe! I really feel like little by little we can improve, and it’s not the worst thing that we have messy homes!

[@susiesjourneytofreedom6058]

Thank you for this realistic video. You have got this. We are in this same transition of getting our home decluttered and children completing chores.

[@erikabritton5341]

Hello, just watching this for the first time to get some motivation to clean and declutter my own house and I just wanted to offer some kind advice and support. Firstly, you are not just cleaning your house, you are doing three things (cleaning, organizing and decluttering) at once! Girl, no wonder you're tired anyone would be, so give yourself some grace! I agree with the other commenters about getting your family involved as much as you can but until then try setting smaller goals, for example: 1) before bed spend 10 minutes removing just the trash, nothing else, and do this every night, this is will automatically reduce your visual clutter and the emotions that come with it 2) pick a day or time and give yourself 10 minutes to declutter/organize a room or space each day, also a way to reduce visual clutter 3) use a basket system on the first floor (each person get's one) and as your organizing, put items into that persons basket so that they can be put away by that person at a later time, this gives a landing space for things on the first floor without you have to expend energy/time to put things back where they belong and 4) separate deep cleaning from regular cleaning, deep cleaning is much more time consuming when sometimes just a good wipe down is all you need. When we separate cleaning from organizing/decluttering it allows us to focus on smaller tasks and the cleaning becomes easier because we are not trying to do it all at once. I think this will help with the overwhelming feeling. Also, it's important to remember life has seasons and sometimes what we could accomplish in one season is not what we can do in the current season and that's ok. Blessing to you, you are more than enough and you will get through this.

[@jenniferhuerta9824]

I don't want you to be stressed like this. I'm new to your channel and I'm going to be rooting you on for change to make your life simpler so you can enjoy the day! ❤

[@alexisrush91]

i love how your dog just stays where you put him when you move him from cushion to pillow to puppy bed lol

[@feraltradwife]

lol, right? Just happy to be a couch pup!

[@michellebooker2994]

Please don't hate your life, you are doing a great job....

[@vickiwatson1801]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@theothermothermoney]

I had a tidy home for a long time, and when I started getting overwhelmed with life, personal, jobs, marriage, financial, my house started to look like this all the time, I would clean it if I had the energy or was just so over it looking destroyed that I had to do something and I would turn around and it was like this again. I was in a deep depression for around 17 months; and I finally got the help I needed and taking care of my home, my job, my kids, and my marriage doesn't feel so overwhelming. My house is not always perfect now, it still gets crazy, but I don't feel like I'm drowning. A home is a blessing, but it should feel that way too. I feel your overwhelm and your stress in this video. hugs mama, you're doing what you can, but nobody can do it all alone.

[@meaganmccullah8882]

Okay, so I’m here. Hello! So far I’ve heard your husband is sick, you’re homeschooling your kids, two of which are twins with autism. I feel like you have a lot going on. Please do not compare yourself to others who always have it together and always “seem” to have a clean home. Your house got/gets crazy because you have so so so much more on you than what others do. I’m not saying it’s impossible for you to keep up with everything, but it is harder for you solely based on your circumstances. Just do what you can and give yourself grace when you cannot. 💞

[@shinetta87]

Thank you so much for posting this content! This video came into my feed the same day I looked around at my own house and immediately felt overwhelmed and ready to give up. You’ve given me hope ❤

[@feraltradwife]

We can do this!!! I’m glad I helped in any small way. ❤️

[@BBG2911]

Let me preface by saying, you are putting in the effort to clean your home. You're doing great! My only thought is you don't finish cleaning an area completely. You get side tracked, and move to another area. You were making progress in the living room, and moved to the patio. I'm not an expert, but if you can see an area completely clean, maybe it will give you motivation to move to another room. Idk, thats my two cents.

[@satisfiedsoul6921]

And I don't know if you were doing this for the purpose of content creation interest or not, but why were you wasting time with two different vacuums and a broom in the laundry room? You could have swept that space in 1/3rd of the time. And you could have moved and swept behind the rolling cart. It was frustrating for me to watch.

[@dymphnacallaghan7420]

Sounds like you have ADHD. I struggle with the decision making and finishing a task before moving to next one. It’s key to do the basics once a day, a laundry load at least one set of dishes once with the hoover. ❤

[@maryrizzo9127]

OMG! I’m not even half way through your video. And your thoughts are so comforting. Just plain normal. I can’t explain how you make me feel. We can’t be perfect. Keep striving.❤

[@christinemcloughlin7025]

The thing about teaching your kids to tidy up after themselves, and put things away , is that you are setting them up for a better future life, able to look after themselves when they go out into the big world.

[@lauriekapalka9859]

I decided to watch your video because I can no longer clean and I really miss doing it. I guess it’s not always fun when it’s too much. Now I remember being overwhelmed after watching you work so hard. You did an amazing job. Thank you for sharing

[@patrickregan5248]

Where your Focus goes, it grows! Stay positive and don't put yourself down, don't throw out negativity about yourself! Focus on the beautiful Mother you are!

[@heatherj3030]

Wow, you're amazing! I saw plenty of comments about making your kids do more around the house. I just wanted to give you a little encouragement. You're doing great! I homeschooled my 2 boys for 17 years (one is autisic and the other one has ADHD.) Often the house suffered a bit. If I could go back in time, I would have focused more on decluttering. We just had too much stuff for me to manage, and it caused a lot of stress. If I was stressed about it, the kids definitely were reactive too. My youngest graduated last year, and I've really been focusing on getting things out of the house since then. I can feel so much stress leave the house with every car load. It's been so much easier to make myself keep up on daily cleaning. Not perfect, but better. "Dawn the Minimal Mom" and "Dana at A Slob Comes Clean," have both been so helpful to me when I'm feeling overwhelmed. Dawn is also a homeschooling mom and so calm, and Dana has ADHD and has the best declutteringmethodfor people who are easily distracted or overwhelmed. They are awesome for encouragement and motivation. Don't too hard on yourself. You are giving your kids the most important thing, your love and time. I hope your husband feels better soon.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much for the encouragement! I can’t express how much it means to me

[@marthahubbard9463]

I’m much older, after retirement I started cleaning for others. Having ocd it helped with my obsession to clean and organize. Eventually my back and hands gave out and have had 4 hand surgeries. Now I’m a full time nanny. And I clean their house like it’s my own. Having kids and keeping up a home is never ending. Yes, putting things away is the most important part of keeping organized. Organization makes cleaning so much easier. It’s overwhelming. Keep plugging away, you’ll get there.

[@sharonchandler6245]

This is my first time on here. I appreciate your honesty and your sense of humor. My family knows that coffee is essential for a peaceful home I don’t function well without it. 😂😂. You need to pace yourself. Do one small section at a time. My daughter is ADHD and that is how I taught her to clean. You will get there in time.

[@sharonmumi]

It's hard when its mainly one person doing the cleaning and in your case 5 people doing the uncleaning, in my case its 4, it's hard even when the others help out some, its still difficult to keep ahead unless you're a robot and cleaning like you having nothing else to do and then have a breakdown from nervous exhaustion , don't be so hard on yourself Beth, from what I can see you're kicking it most of the time, if all else fails treat yourself to a whole house top to bottom clean from a cleaning company while you go get a pedicure, not too often 3-4 times a year is probably safe to get away with 🤪Really enjoyed this clean!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you Sharon!!! I realized after watching it back I was so so negative. But I think it’s just the extra issues in our lives pulling me down a bit.

[@sharonmumi]

@@feraltradwife I'm the queen of negative, I've fallen out this week with my sister, nothing major, both at fault but both stubborn so that's going to be fun , I'm not backing down this time ( bet I do!) my husband is just annoying most of the time, and our oldest son seems to be parroting him lately, youngest son is my darling and can do no wrong, it's all their fault anyway, perimenopause and GAD has nothing to do with it....... er what was I saying?!?

[@feraltradwife]

@@sharonmumi right?! When it rains it pours!!!

[@TheTidyNest]

'uncleaning' is my new favorite term 😂 my kids and hubby do help a ton with housework, but with a family of 9 it only takes one day of being off our game to completely trash the house. It's so frustrating to work so hard and have it all basically crapped on immediately 😅

[@cleanwithmimi]

I am so looking forward to seeing the before and after of this! Trust me, my home gets out of control at times too. Don't be embarrassed! This is the best kind of content... the after is always so amazing! Your face when you took a sniff in that bottle 😭😭🤣🤣. I know how you felt! Love your videos! Have an amazing weekend! ❤❤❤

[@feraltradwife]

Oh man. Brace yourself. The ending is not great. :/

[@cassieborg3075]

I have 2 ADHD / ASD kids and get overwhelmed with my cleaning too... and my house is tiny in comparison to yours! My kids do simple chores and it helps SO much. Eg. Rise dishes after eating and put straight into diahwasher, pick up ALL shoes around the house and put in 1 cupboard, pick up ALL dirty clothes from around the entire house and put in laundry basket etc. Nothing too hard - but i tell you, it makes life SO much easier! I wish you luck finding a solution within your family to help your day to day cleaning routine. ❤

[@MrsJilly]

Hi 😊 Could you go around the house and just collect the trash everyday? And then go back to doing a 10min tidy in each room everyday? I genuinely come from a place of wanting to help 🫶 I’m a perfectionist and I had to overcome the high standards I would set to myself and change my mindset to, it’s good enough. My perfectionism would stop me from even beginning the task. You are doing amazing! Try not to be so hard on yourself ♥️

[@feraltradwife]

You know what, I’m going to do that this morning. I’ll do the trash in the morning and a tidy in each room once an hour. Meaning pick a room for that hour and do the 10. I bet I’ll feel much better at the end of the day. And I know you’re coming form a good place my dear, I’m happy to see you again!!

[@MrsJilly]

@@feraltradwifeHopefully won’t be as long next time 😊sending love to you and your family ❤

[@MrsSpur]

I relate so much to this! It either stops me from doing it, or I hyper focus on one room and take hours to clean it, and never get everything done.

[@AliceLynnBeautyandMore]

Hello, I am new here. But wow, you are way too hard on yourself! You can't be expected to keep your home spotless at all times. Your children are definitely old enough to help you around the house. You should make a chore list and have them all do things around the house as well. Such as folding laundry and putting it away. Sweeping and vacuuming, loading and unloading the dishwasher. So many other things! My children did chores growing up and I rewarded them every week with an allowance. They really enjoyed the reward, they would save it up and I would take them to shop at their favorite store. I am truly sorry to hear about your husband, it sounds like he will be needing you even more down the road, so your children should definitely be helping more around the house. Speaking of, I heard you say the front of your house was many shoes, I would have your children go through all of the shoes, get rid of the ones they no longer wear or no longer fit into etc.... My heart really hurt listening to you! Please stop being so hard on yourself, you are only one person with way to much on your plate. It is time for your children to help out as it is their home too! God Bless You All! Much love and Prayers 🙏❤

[@karamalone1169]

I’m here to reassure that what you are showing is REAL and RAW! Most content creators DO NOT show that! With that being said congratulations for keeping it real! As a momma of 7 kiddos I assure you our house gets out of wack a lot also! No matter how much I clean! I feel like I go through cycles! I’ll be so on top of the house for so long that I feel like I burn myself out then there is a period I “slack” then get overwhelmed and have to start all over again! It’s amazingly comforting when mommas share REAL overwhelming situations! I feel “Not alone”! And not so much like a failure, because the truth is, we are just busy moms and can’t do it all perfectly all the time! I subscribed! Enjoyed your content! Thank you! ❤

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!! 7 kiddos has to be crazy and amazing. I’m trying to baby trap my husband into another handful of kids but he’s wildly resistant. 😂🤣

[@madisonturner3076]

Thank you for showing your home in this state! I have a 1 year old, 2 year old, and 5 year old and a very hardworking husband…10 hour days sometimes 6 days out of the week. I teach at our local high school. It’s so incredibly hard to manage little people with great needs and all the responsibilities of adulting whilst also caring for the home! I do the same bounce around you do in trying to do so much because you want to do as much as possible in such a short period of time. I can’t tell you how many times I have stopped doing a task to start laundry because “oh the washer should be going too!!” Minimizing the inventory in our home helps me a ton when I start to feel overwhelmed. Wishing you joy and strength in your kingdom work. You’re amazing

[@zuzanakrajnakova8853]

You are not the problem, your family is.

[@susanf4857]

Rule # 1 - if you take something out, put it away when you are done

[@cbhere]

WHos the MOM, whos trains the Kids to clean or NOT clean...??? whos the BOSS??? ...... yes she is also the problem...

[@paulabrown6840]

We teach people how to treat us.

[@lisasymonds6732]

You would probably find it easier to tidy one area in the house at a time. Only move on to another area when its finished. You are doing lots of cleaning and tiding but because no area is complete, it looks like you haven't done much. Once you see an area completely done, it will give you the motivation to finish another area.

[@feraltradwife]

Thanks for the tips!

[@marzplanet6057]

So needed this comment. I just moved. Thanks . ❤

[@TammyB-x2h]

I learned to start in a corner and work my way around the room. In the kitchen I start with the sink.

[@leem200]

It is not as bad as it looks. It is putting garbage in can, and dishes put in sink, and clothes taken care of as you go. The problem I see is not cleaning as you go. Which is nothing but a bad habit. Do dishes as you use them. Had a family of 8 in 900 square feet. Never had that because we cleaned and picked up after ourselves from a small age on. No dish washier, no dryer. You do it as you go. When you cook wash dishes as you go. Put all dishes you eat from or drink from in empty dish washier. NO large bowls or pans, wash them in sink. Dry put a way. Children need to help, have a clean and pick up twice a day, morning, and evening. Kids can rinse dishes place in dish washier, like glasses. no drink unless you put can in trash. Assign everyone a cup and they can rinse it and reuse it during the day. Have kids put away things as they go. You'd be surprised how it doesn't get bad with good habits. Stop letting it get that way to begin with no reason for it. Grandmother had 13 kids in a small three bedroom. Everyone cleans and helps. Beds made daily; clothes taken care of. Everyone is responsible for dishes they use.

[@angelaweathersbee1334]

Everyone should help clean after meals, and set a timer to straighten the common areas every night before bed. The mess may sometimes get out of control, but hey, it gives you You Tube content. 😂

[@thesimplelife7934]

Chores are good for children. Not to mention, you want them to know how to take care of themselves someday right? I have 4 boys and one is DD to the point he will probably live at home forever, but even he has chores. My husband doesn’t do much as he is the bread winner although if I ask of course he helps, but everything I do is a lot so having the kids pick up, keep tidy rooms, do chores helps SO much! Give it a try. Your kids will surprise you ❤ Love this video. While my home is tidy, I enjoy watching REAL cleaning. Remember you can’t pour from an empty cup.

[@michaelletrottier6018]

I love the way you respond to the meanies. 😂 It made me keep reading the comments! I am inspired and want to go clean something. I struggle with certain rooms, my kitchen and living area I am super focused on, but my basement and bedrooms need attention! I keep procrastinating on decluttering those areas. It’s hard to keep up and you have a lot on your plate. Cut yourself some slack! I enjoyed your content.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you :) I usually has a designated room that is my hoarder room and I throw everything in there and it becomes horrifying. I don’t have that here so much because we don’t have a guest room. But I haven’t been upstairs in a while and I’m guessing it’s pretty bad 😫 it’s so easy to just keep procrastinating and not going up there!!! But eventually I’ll get a wild hair and attack it, and hopefully you will too!

[@younglady3141]

These comments. It's easy to talk about what should do. We are only getting a piece of what someones life looks like. Remember that. Be kind. Take it a step at a time. You can only do so much. As long as you do your best thats all that matters. I hope your husband is feeling better. It would be great if you had help. I wish you and your family the best. Enjoy your time with your family. Love the content. You look great by the way.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you! 😊

[@tamaraleewhipple1522]

This is what it looks like when you're living in a house. We mess it up, then we clean it up repeat , repeat. You are doing amazing! I've visited some people's home's every single item & furniture is for show, not for use, no sitting at the dinning table ,drinking from wine glasses, no flopping back on the sofa. I want kids to jump up on the sofa, make messes and then I'll clean up at some point. Just so grateful to have a home and all the material things...If you living in a house, with a family it's not gonna be perfection all ways! But I do enjoy watching Cleaning videos like this, because it's real life family.

[@vickiwatson1801]

Really? You live in filth?

[@Doris86pl]

When I have situation like yours today I follow the visibility rule and start with most visible spaces, it's tempting to declutter pantry or closet, but when I follow that temptation I have clean space but hidden, still when I will enter the room it will feel like nothing was done. As you I start load of loundry. Than I proceed with trash, it's quick and no decision is needed. After that stuff that has spot somewhere in the house. These two steps make huge difference. Than dishes and flat surfaces. When I have time I do quick vacuuming. Thank you for inspiration.

[@lulubellecataloni5605]

I just found your channel- you sound really overwhelmed. Setting up a cleaning schedule and involving your kids in simple tasks like breaking down cardboard boxes might be helpful. The kids are capable of folding their own clothes and putting them away. One of my chores when I lived with my family was folding everyone’s laundry and putting it away, if your kids helped you out with that, it would take so much burden off of you. You also beat yourself up alot in this video- I felt like saying hey sis! Stop- you are doing GREAT!

[@michellelithgow7881]

Part of parenting is teaching children to do regular chores to be a helpful responsible cleaning part of the family. Also, decluttering may help you all too . Wishing you better help & better times and some ...happiness, sometime.

[@aliciataylor4820]

You did an amazing job don’t forget that. I hope your husband is doing better!❤

[@feraltradwife]

Hey babe! How are you? He is feeling a bit better, and we have follow ups with nephrologist, cardio, and neuro in the coming weeks. Fingers crossed for answers

[@aliciataylor4820]

@@feraltradwife I’m doing well thanks for asking!! 🙏🙏🙏

[@janemitchell8003]

Thank you for sharing and being real. I'm new to your channel and this is 2nd video I'm in tune with. Your voice helped me fall asleep last night (a good thing). I SOOOO identify with washing dishes before loading. My DW does NOT remove all the almond butter off the knives, nor caked on food, nor shine my stainless steel pots, even with Cascade Ultra. I recently cleaned my drain filter in my DW after 14 years. All it had mainly was a lot of lint and hair. No yukky deceased food! Also, I know two homeschool sisters who are a singing duo called, "Mom Brain". Keep on with your journey. If God allows, my goal is to be a healthier 70 than how I am at 68. This is one reason I became a subscriber. Someone gave your channel a shout out. Either Midwest Magic Cleaning or A Beautiful Mess. They are both on autism spectrum. Also, I ask God to help me in my HUGH accumulation of STUFF. Midwest MC says 3 feet at a time.😊👌💝 You are getting there!

[@KelleyMiller-fj5mr]

I get it! I have the same problem. When i get down and my mental health is not good it takes a huge toll on me and makes simple things like taking the trash out hard to do. I can tell you that somtimes for me juat getting one thing done can help. Be kind to yourself and just do what you can and it will get better!

[@staffything]

I’m just watching this, but don’t feel bad about yourself. This was the most motivational video I’ve seen to help me clean. It’s just me and my husband and our house is such a mess because I’m pregnant and just not in the mood to clean

[@alisonm2257]

Oh yes. Get the kids involved. From the age of 9, i had routine chores. My mom wasnt a Nazi or anything, but I was expected to put everything back in its place. If I left my shoes or book bag in the living room, she would tell me to get it. My mom cooked, and we (kids) did the dishes.

[@tereseczimbal8099]

You are doing GREAT!😊❤ I have two Special Needs children and they are unable to help much for various reasons. I suggest a clean-up song and game and/or a chore chart/wheel, depending on ages and abilities. Put on a good movie, music or TV show and try to start with laundry, recycling/trash, loading dishwasher... Please take many breaks😊❤. I greatly appreciate your willingness to show a mess and being so honest and vulnerable!

[@alisonm2257]

Beautiful home. I feel like people with newer, up to date homes can get away more with messes. My home is old and small. I cant let anything pile up or get messy.

[@kp5302]

Mine too

[@jamieandfamily729]

I appreciate your honesty in recording your home in real. Thank you for this video.

[@MemyselfandSica]

GIRL! Give yourself some grace. You are way too negative towards yourself. My boys can make a mess like this is one day. You didn't make that mess by yourself, and you shouldn't have to clean and put it all away by yourself. Your home is beautiful. You are beautiful. Please start looking in the mirror and telling you you're important, needed and doing a great job. I need you. I don't know you but I need you so that I can be motivated to get my house cleaned as well! You're helping us. Be proud of you.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you :) I recorded this voice over after being in the er with my husband all night and I think I was still really negative from all of that. I promise I’m much more positive in general!!

[@MemyselfandSica]

@feraltradwife good. And I hope that he is doing well. I'm sure I will hear because I will be watching all of your videos from Here on out. Because you are absolutely amazing!

[@SafeSpaceInc]

You have a BEAUTIFUL house, in spite of the clutter, etc. Indecision and being distracted contributes to the chaos and feelings of being overwhelmed. Keep on keepin' on, one-moment-at-a-time. Hang in there. Focus on what you HAVE done, not on what you HAVEN'T done YET.

[@vickiwatson1801]

😂😂😂😂😂 beautiful? 😂😂😂😂

[@Minbeta.ss1]

Cleaning is a family affair. Everyone must do their part. Kids need to be cleaning their rooms and helping you maintain the home neat. It all starts at home and teaching them to take pride in the home they live in.

[@NicoleWing-q5q]

Awesome video and understand about cleaning. It does get messed up so fast. No matter what you do been there Then it takes longer to clean it back up. Don’t give up. We enjoyed your video Hope your husband is feeling better Keep the videos coming and be kind to yourself.

[@naturl2012]

New subbie here! Wow! I have really found a cleaning channel. Thanks for sharing. 👍🏾

[@feraltradwife]

Awesome! Thank you!😊

[@shellyt7173]

Midwest Magic Cleaning recommended your page. So here I am. So thankful you’re sharing your days and how life rolls. It’s helpful, super relatable. Thanks!!!❤ I raised 4 boys, all adults now and making their own homes work. We didn’t have YT or all this access to folks’ lives. But boy, it would’ve been so encouraging.

[@feraltradwife]

I’m so glad you’re here Shelly!

[@lorriemangum6734]

I keep hot dish water the sink. Put silverware to soak. Put the hard to scrub in there too. Much easier and dishwasher ready.

[@Caemen87B]

I wish I could come over and help! I have 6 kids, smallest is 18 months. My mother always thought us to wash our dish after we use it. Takes 1 minute, for a mom to do all of the dishes takes a day. I love cleaning. Sending hugs from Arizona ❤

[@jowatkins6375]

Hi, just come across your channel. Please be kind to yourself; you did a great job and showed real life. You will have helped so many people by doing that. I hope your husband's health improves and he gets an answer. Not sure if you have ever seen Remi Clog; she has some great ways of cleaning and tidying when feeling overwhelmed and you don't know where to start.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much! I have reflected on how negative I was in this video and I really hope it’s just leftover bad vibes from worrying about my husband. I really do like myself! 🤣 I have seen Remi Clog but not a ton, I’ll give her a deep dive for some tips! Thank you.

[@Musicislife477]

Thank you for posting this! It helps not to feel so alone in the struggle. I see a lot of people giving you "advice" and while I know it's supposed to be helpful, it can make us feel even worse about ourselves. My kids are more than old enough to help me, and if I ask them, they will. I even made a chore chart for all of us. But I am terrible with routine of any kind, I can't ever stick to a plan. It's just how my brain works. Everything you said in this video was so spot on, I was tearing up in some places during your video because I knew that you understood. I super appreciate this video, and everything you said. I work about 50 hours a week, so my house gets cluttered quick and it's overwhelming. I try to stay on top of it, but sometimes I'm just so tired. I hope your hubby gets answers soon about his medical issues. Sending hugs!!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!! We have ruled out all the big scaries for my husband medically. Now we are just trying to manage symptoms and pray. I’m glad you can feel less alone with me! You really aren’t alone, there are so many of us out here. I think we are still amazing people. Just messy amazing people 🥰❤️

[@Musicislife477]

@@feraltradwife my son also has autism and has severe food restrictions. Everything you said about the brand type is spot on, and my son also doesn’t like foods to touch. He won’t eat sandwiches, pizza, casseroles, anything like that because the food is touching. Thank you for sharing that journey too, sometimes I feel alone in that struggle and I’m tired of constantly explaining that to people who don’t understand autism. ❤️

[@feraltradwife]

@@Musicislife477 what also sucks is autism is such a spectrum that sometimes if people have experience with someone who isn’t like your child, they can behave like you’re lying. “My best friends cousins classmate eats casserole all the time and he’s autistic” Uhhhh yep. People are different. I’m here babe. You aren’t alone. ❤️

[@terrybryson6864]

It is great to homeschool, but life skills are a thing to teach too. You are right that you never have them gone, to catch up. You are not lazy. You work hard. You have many animals to care for. Kids can have pet care assignments. When you finally get the kitchen clean..instead of cooking..say hey..this is a burger and fries take out night with paper plates. Give yourself breaks. If your husband burns food, then he can clean it. You need help. I just found you, but I’m worried about you. Tell the kids o food deliveries to the couch unless all bowls, etc. are brought over, rinsed, and all random paper on floor is thrown away. They can cut apples and peppers up. They can fold a load of clothing once a day. You are a precious mom. Take care.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you xoxo

[@ADiaz-tf3cy]

You are an empath, that's why you post to help people. The trolls, critics, narcissists, feed off of emotion. I was prompted to comment because of what you said about your feet. Thank you for being a trusting person and a positive influence!!!!🎉😁

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you for your kindness!! Xoxo

[@tinajernigan1728]

Tip: to easily clean the pan, heat it back up with a little dish soap and water. It will clean up so easy!

[@kp5302]

My dad taught me that. It’s really good for grease in your pan.

[@tatyanaverhola1196]

I add some baking soda and hot water and let it sit for an hour or even more

[@kristinmann9988]

I'm so glad I found your channel. It's nice to see that any class of people can get overloaded with a dirty home. I can relate to the kitchen issue so well. Homeschooling can be a setback to cleaning so much. Thank you for being real and showing how life can set a person back.

[@feraltradwife]

I’m so glad you found me too! Welcome my dear!

[@tiffanyhoudesheldt7004]

Just a friendly reminder that God sees you in the mundane. He sees you when you are over worked and tired, when your killing it, or just don’t feel seen. Your doing great, keep going!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you!

[@xMichelex]

36 minutes in and I love your sense of humor about setting the house on fire and rage cleaning lol. Too many channels don't have a sense of humor. Your house is not dirty it's just not putting stuff away and I think that's why it's so overwhelming for you. Well done on getting it done!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!!

[@keiko99-h4w]

私は日本に住んでます。 とても広くて素敵なお家ですね。 犬達が可愛い！

[@rayarena879]

I love how introspective you are. LOL. I hear you about not knowing where to begin when the task is so overwhelming. It can be daunting, but at the saying goes, "every journey starts with the first step."

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you!!! ☺️

[@tyanneh1]

This is my first time watching your VLOG. I think it's called "decision paralysis," you're so overwhelmed that you just don't know where to start, so you either don't do it, or do just what you know you can't live without, like the dishes and laundry. I do the same thing. A lot of it, for me, has to do with not knowing how to do some things, like I've always had a hard time cleaning my shower, I finally hired a cleaning company to clean my bathrooms. You're doing great, keep it up!!! Can your kids help with chores? Also, are you able to hire a cleaning company to come in once a month to just help you keep up a little? Girl, go ahead and run the half full dishwasher, there's no rule that says you can't, it's not that expensive to run the load and it'll help you at dinner time to have an empty dishwasher. I'm sorry your husband is ill. I hope the doctors figure out soon and they can get him on a road to healing quickly. I bought a pair of shoes just for inside the house to clean in, something about having your shoes on, actually helps me to be more motivated to get stuff done.

[@joannpilgrim1580]

The joys of a mother. Your blessed to have a beautiful house. Your children are old enough to help you. You need to teach them to pitch in everyone lives there and can help. A great time to teach them and spend one on one time with them.

[@feraltradwife]

So true!

[@sheilasherwood9125]

You did it!!! YAY!! It looks amazing!!!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!!

[@helenneal4950]

Just here to say I absolutely love your honesty about life and how our houses can get like this. And even though my kids have chores and they do them, it gets like this. It's fine. Sometimes my mental health is more important than cleaning. Some days we spend outside, as we also homeschool. It's. Fine. Thank you.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much Helen!!

[@Eeeekamouse]

Came for the cleaning, subscribed for the comments. ❤ You sound like my inner dialogue.

[@feraltradwife]

Yay! Thank you!

[@Momsdailyagenda]

Im so happy I found your channel. I to am an Autism Parent. My son will not eat food that is mixed everything has to be its own. He loves to eat meat but it can’t be a recipe or combination. He likes meat with either a vegetable or rice or no side. In our house I’m cooking 4 different meals because we all have our own tastes. But I do want to say, you are doing a great job with everything. ❤

[@feraltradwife]

Welcome!! In a way I suppose it’s a good thing because then we don’t eat as many casseroles and it’s healthier, but man do I wish it was one meal for the family!!! I hope you have a beautiful day!

[@chananjavandewaetere2213]

Now this is a great video❤ you did so much,be proud❤

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much 😊

[@chananjavandewaetere2213]

@@feraltradwife you're welcome hun,i know the feeling 🤗 i also have a cleaning channel if you want to check it out the name is chananja's cozy house

[@MomsBeautifulChaos]

I can feel the overwhelm in your voice and I relate so much! Motherhood is such an overwhelmingly big task. Hugs! You are doing a good job and your best is enough!

[@feraltradwife]

☺️ Thank you!

[@knotjusthooked]

I also have to agree with some of the comments about the kids helping out. The ones I've seen coming and going in this video are more than old enough to help clean up the mess that they helped create. Each one should be responsible for and held accountable for at least one chore in the main part of the house as well as keeping their own room clean. I come from a different generation, and I realize that, but I had two siblings besides myself, and we did everything to help out our mother from cleaning our rooms, changing sheets weekly, doing laundry, cleaning the bathroom that we all used, cutting the grass (and we didn't get paid to do it) the list goes on. We could not expect our mother to work a full-time job and keep a clean house with three capable children. We didn't always like it, but we also felt a sense of pride and accomplishment when it was done. I also realize this is a content video, but maybe include some content of them helping out around the house. I'm not saying hours of them cleaning, but maybe them taking out the garbage or 20 minutes of them doing the dishes. You look exhausted and overwhelmed. Having them help clean up might also have them thinking twice about not putting things away or cleaning up the mess when their done with something.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I am allowing my children have final say on if and when they are in a KZbin video. The shots of them walking in and out are shown to them prior to posting and they can approve or not. Often the twins do not want to be shown. So they do have chores and they do help out, but not on KZbin. ❤️

[@maryannsalas7839]

I have been in a situation where i let my house get worse than this. It took a long time to get out of the mind set and depression i was in. I now, have been in a better state of mind and have been dealing with the depression. One thing i came to realize is, as much as i dont LIKE to clean, i don't LOVE living in a mess. I have pushed myself to work on that part a lot. Now cleaning is more of a form of relief and relaxation. Going to bed to a clean home and waking up not having to worry about "where to start" (bc its never-ending) has really helped. A while back i came across a KZbin video, i REALLY wish i could remember who's it was, bc it made a HUGE impact on the way i do things now. This creator was cleaning her home, she had young children (it was about how you show your home to look). And she spoke of how she came to challenge herself everyday. She picked an area to work on, set a 15 minute timer. Once the timer went off she was done for that moment. She would sit and relax for 15‐20 mins. Then go back for another 15 mins. She said she didn't feel as overwhelmed bc she was stepping away from it. She chose not to work in one room for more than an hour a day, so she would not become overwhelmed again. She did this till she was able to complete her entire home. To control the mess and clutter, she now does a 15 minute clean up every night before going to bed. Whether its cleaning the kitchen or folding laundry, she sets the timer and when it goes off she stops. She says if she is unable to complete the task in that time, that is where she starts in the morning with another 15 minute challenge. I followed this routine and it has worked wonders. I have a 12 yr old son. He helps out. We each work 15 minutes on a task. Before bed we do another 15 minute challenge. If we have a family get together, we work in the area that needs it most for 15 mins and we are usually able to knock it out within that time. Which at that point he motivates me by suggesting we go ahead and do another area bc, as he puts it, "its just 15 minutes." Following this has really helped me out tremendously. Your children may be home schooled, but they are not "in school" for 12 hours. There is no reason they cant help you. When my son became of age to clean without my constant supervision, i would make a list of what all needed to be done. I would let him decide where he was going to clean. I'd tell him if he had any questions to make sure he asked bc if it wasn't done correctly he was going to have to redo the task. It took some time, but he learned. Now he knows what is expected. The only thing he hasn't chosen to do is wash dishes 😂. We dont have a dishwasher...I am the dishwasher 😂😂. Give it a try with your children. You will see how much stress it will take off your shoulders. Also, i hope your husband gets to feeling better soon.

[@tammyrouse7422]

I sure hope your all find out what is going on with your husband You go so much done in your house. It is a never ending battle hang in there and God Bless

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you ❤️🙏

[@UnusualCatz]

honestly thank u so much for making this vid!! I have anxiety, depression, autism, osdd, AND adhd which makes it really hard for me to clean :( so much so ants are coming in room so i bought ant traps :( but this vid helped me feel less overwhelmed!! genuinely, thank u so, so much!! - for any1 reading this- just remember we love u!! and never give up!! :D have a good night/day! :3

[@feraltradwife]

I’m so happy it helped!! I love you and you are worth this effort!

[@gracielacharles5529]

The first thing you need to do is to calm down yourself. You making yourself go wild. I suffer with depression and anxiety is not easy but if you have older kids they can help you to clean that is what I do. If you keep up like that you will end up in the hospital.🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@deanneghoreishi8605]

Thank you for being so honest and transparent. Thanks for letting other women know the struggle is real and we aren’t I. It alone.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you! I have been feeling struggling with some of the negativity lately and really needed to hear that. ❤️

[@soutinavassileiou6703]

Make a plan and let your child hold responsabilities with you like this you can found a time for yourself and you teach them to be responsable and make tasks every day

[@celticjen14]

I see a lot of comments about having your kids help.. I have a feeling that you want to do it because your the MOM, They have other things going on, and/or, you want it done a certain way, since it needs to be done anyway. I am like this too, that’s why I know. But having my 15 year old do some chores and my 22 year old do some, and my husband (sometimes), does help when my house is overwhelming. Just try giving them small chores to start, and see what a difference it makes. You are doing amazing! You are a great loving wife and mama. We are on a learning journey always, together ❤ All my love and prayers..

[@chananjavandewaetere2213]

I really hope they find a solution to help you're husband! I will pray for him🤗

[@feraltradwife]

I deeply appreciate it. It’s scary and I think that’s why my tone is so negative in this video. I am prayerful and hopeful that we will figure it out soon.

[@chananjavandewaetere2213]

@@feraltradwife lot off people are struggling with there health,it's so sad😪

[@auzzie-bambii]

I could totally relate to this video. It's nice to know you are normal and not just incapable of the constant tidy house lol Your cleaning style is very much like mine. I always feel like I'm just recleaning the same area and never really finishing one area. I aim for a "clean" home not always a "tidy" home, 5 kids, 2 large dogs, and an adult size child it's impossible to to keep it all tidy. I agree one moment of not cleaning and things get out of control fast! You are doing an amazing job. I really enjoyed watching your video 😊

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you!

[@susanbenton8181]

I see a kid in the background. Teach them to throw away their trash and pickup their clothes shoes toys etc...

[@feraltradwife]

You bet!

[@mikhail114]

Trust me you are not alone. I am easily overwhelmed as well and instead of even doing a little I do nothing. Trying to get better at accepting that something is better than nothing. Hang in there. 😊

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you babe! It is so true that a little is way better than nothing.

[@deborahcincotta3600]

JUST SLOW DOWN AND TAKE IT ONE ROOM AT A TIME AND IT WILL GO SMOOTHER

[@marianaafonso1348]

When you said - I don’t like cleaning up after dinner, because I’m done with it, I just want to chill on the couch… that reminded me of a time where I was going through massive struggles and felt exactly that way… if this helps, my advice would be - address the root cause of you feeling overwhelmed, and everything else will slowly start to fall into place… slowly… with a lot of self love and self forgiveness…

[@koroshtanha4082]

I see your video from Iran, I want to say you good job, please want help your husband and your children to clean because that way your house not clean at all , i think every one of family should clean house ❤

[@feraltradwife]

I agree! My children and husband do help clean from time to time. But it is mostly my job and I’m trying to get better! I’m so grateful for your encouragement!

[@koroshtanha4082]

I glad to see your video any way, it was great 🥰

[@mindyadcock5885]

I love your videos and your honesty! Thank you! I know it is hard. I also struggle with where to start. I get overwhelmed looking at a pile of things when I am not even sure where to put it all. I have learned my ADHD needs a timer. I give myself 15 minutes of work time and 15 break time then repeat. (Unless I by miracle feel like continuing.) Then I learned to pick one room, one corner and clean that corner. when it is done move to the next corner of the room. This helps me so much! Keep up the hard work! You are amazing!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much Mindy! I’m so glad that you can relate to me (not that I want you to struggle). I love the idea of a timer! I use it often and 10 min seems to be my jam. 🤗

[@LaurieHoward-f1e]

Wow you are doing so much! I’m impressed! Maybe you could lighten your load a bit with some house rules for everyone, simple systems and scheduled routines for everyone (with rewards!) and let your machines do most of the work… ex: don’t sweep… just vacuum… don’t fully wash your dishes before loading into the dishwasher… just wash your dishwasher filter weekly ( that thing you have to twist out on the bottom of the dishwasher), oh, and handle everything once as much as possible. You’re doing an amazing job with so much on your plate but I do worry about burn out. Please keep things simple and take good care of yourself! 🤗🙌🙏

[@VictoriaBroome]

You are doing awesome motivating me. Tip that I use if I have a tough stuck on skillet. Put a little dawn in it and water. Place on unit bring to a boil. Let cool (don’t melt your scrub brush) make a pass our two with scrub brush and no stuck on mess or hard scrubbing needed. Thanks for inspiring!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much Victoria! ❤️

[@jennifermorley6487]

This is my first time coming across your content. I know this was a huge amount of work and hard to share, but I wanted to thank you for doing so. It was nice to see a clean with me that was so relatable. We don't all love cleaning and for many of us it can be very overwhelming. Sometimes it can be overwhelming even if it is not as much as you had. As busy women, many of us find keeping up with the house, on top of all our other roles (wife, mother, caregiver, businesswoman, cook, etc.), daunting. I just really appreciate your relatability. I clean my house because I have to, but I too get overwhelmed and I do not enjoy it. I do however try to enjoy the cleanliness afterwards for the few hours it lasts, before I have to start all over again.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much! It is hard work for all of us, isn’t it? I am finding more and more joy in it though. It’s less of a thing I dread but a project in process for me now. You are so welcome in here! I hope to see you around babe

[@randa4m]

Thank you for sharing! You're not alone

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you babe

[@charrysemitchell4198]

Thanks for sharing! I can relate to how the house can get out of hand when life gets busy. You're doing a great Job! God Bless You!

[@jdp2828]

I am a mother of four adult children and grandmother of five. I made every one of my children help me clean the house and as they got older the tasks increased. Each one of them are amazing adults and they all are highly organized and clean with their houses and cars. It sometimes seems to be more of a hassle to train them while they are young but it will pay rich dividends. Thank you for the videos 🙂

[@feraltradwife]

You’re welcome!

[@SheWill905]

Girl, I just wanna give you the biggest hug. Firstly, I am so happy I'm not the only one. This doesn't happen often for me, maybe twice but messes happen & the more mess there is the more depressed I get & the less I wanna do. I can hear your shame and please be nicer to yourself. Life happens and there is no manual for having a perfect life. This is okay. Secondly, I'm sorry were people actually time stamping your feet?! Thats insane! You are beautiful & haters suck. You did great! Keep pushing.

[@feraltradwife]

@@SheWill905 thank you babe! I appreciate it ❤️

[@ndnjewel25]

I have a suggestion about the fried-onto-the-pan. I literally put enough water to cover, low heat, then rinse out. Easy peasy

[@nativeamericanfeather9948]

You're not alone❤ I lost my mom suddenly last year & fell into depression. I need to stop slacking & get my life back on track.But, life happens..& sometimes we cant clean everyday or we just want to take the day off. Self care is important too♡ plus Im an introvert too lol. You did awesome! I usually dont watch cleaning videos with music. Because I have to keep turning volume back off after they talk but so glad I stayed ♡

[@feraltradwife]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers!

[@Reese-os2ex]

I love your channel. You are so honest and transparent. You are a real inspiration. Thank you 🙏🏽 🎉

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you!!