I will teach you : how to find your command position in Feng Shui like a pro

[@EmptyFeet]

I've never felt so validated in my obsession with picking the right seat in a cafe

[@dalladi]

Haha. Nice one

[@danoyse8233]

I do it all the time. Drives my husband mad. I don’t faff about, I just know where I need to be.

[@audhumbla6927]

my ptsd makes me need to find "comand positions" outdoors aswell. like, just to stop and look at my phone or drink water, ir arely stop just on the middle of the pavement, i step aside with my back towards a wall. best is back in a corner.

[@stupidusername3333]

I used to have me desk facing the wall because it seemed to be the best sit for my small room, but could never keep my focus while I was trying to work. Since I started watching your videos and learnt about this, it made sense and I rotated me desk so I could have my back to the wall. Now I have a separate “office” space verses sleeping space and I feel more focused and comfortable working at my desk. Now I know! 😁

[@IEnoro]

Is your desk in the same room as your bed? If so how did you create the feeling of separation between your working and your sleeping space?

[@stupidusername3333]

@@IEnoro My space is really small, so my desk is actually facing the end of my bed. It was not great at first so I got a large body pillow and sat it lengthwise along the end of my bed. With it there, I can see my desk while I'm sitting or lying in bed, and blocks the bed while I'm sitting at my desk. It actually surprised me how well it defined the individual spaces

[@Chloe-mp5sj]

thanks for sharing. i am in a very similar position now and your reallife example made me want to make a change! thank you

[@sbhatti534]

It's very tricky when you live in a small space and have to use that space in multiple ways. In my room I have my work/study area, yoga/exercise area, reading/film-and-youtube-watching/fixing stuff/crafting and making stuff/art areas, storage-for-putting-away-my-stuff area, botanical garden area... You've inspired me, I think I'm going to move my desk around too as it "faces" a corner with my back to the room. I will see how it goes 😊

[@AiSyYoo]

Same, it's so effective. What's crazy is that I haven't seen this video before I changed my room's layout so it's not like a placebo effect. I can vouch based on experience that it's working like magic. my desk used to face the wall because I can easily reach my shelves. but even though it's so convenient having everything in my reach, for some reason I feel unsettled and messy. I could never sit still and focus for even 30 minutes. I'd get up to get water, stretch, sort papers, every little shxt my pea brain would order me to do just so that I can avoid the projects in my face😂 One of that little weird out-of-pure-whim I did just today is moved my desk to the middle of my room (since I finished collating my papers anyway) with my back now on the wall. I finally finished the project I've been slowly chipping off for two weeks lol xD

[@alleycatfire]

I really like how you acknowledge personality/personal differences. I literally just shifted my furniture to a more traditional command position and I realized that being able to see the entire space is making me anxious so I changed it back. Having a smaller field of vigilance in my home helps me turn off my scanning brain and contributes to a sense of safety and calm.

[@LethalLuggage]

Well, now you know!

[@SerendipityChild]

I hate a similar experience with bedroom feng shui .. conventionally you shouldn't have the foot of the bed pointed toward the door or window, but after a lot of rearranging I found I love to look down the bed and see the sunrise

[@pameladavies337]

Back when I was a banquet server we would sometimes over set the room by a substantial amount. At lunchtime, to expedite the service so guests could get back to their meetings, we would preset the first course. Every time the first guests entering the room would look around the room and make a bee line for the unpreset tables. I always assumed it was because humans are territorial and they sought out the territory that looked less crowded (preset table looked more crowded). Now I see that these tables were always in the command positions in the far corners of the room. Thanks for this insight!!

[@mrsbee6368]

The pre-set looks reserved. Preset suggests in a hurry. Empty table means I can take my time over this, get my things on the table first and settle in for a long comfortable stay.

[@NerdTalkDan]

Found you in TikTok then binged your videos as I started getting ready to move into a new place. Been super helpful and entertaining!

[@leonardjavier]

This is great work, Cliff! Such a brilliant and simple explanation for what seems like an abstract idea. Thank you for this video!

[@avni8277]

Love how the overarching message is trust your intuition and do what's right for you😊

[@leofahringer9446]

omg you’re so handsome !!!! i always love your videos and it’s such a nice surprise to see your face in this one!

[@DearModern]

Aw thank you! Still, the most important thing to focus on is the Feng Shui! :)

[@batman3490]

@@DearModern hahahahahahahh

[@jasmijnooms2242]

Your video's really make me so happy! You have a wonderful spirit and I cant wait to see more video's you might share with us!

[@DearModern]

Gosh my hair is so messy I need to start doing these videos professionally!

[@PauloCoelho99]

Don't worry! your videos are great!

[@DearModern]

@@PauloCoelho99 thank you Paulo!! :)

[@elizabethr4107]

Pls don't 🙏

[@marunekochannel]

Naaah it looks nice 🐢✨

[@helga.]

We prefer people in a Real state. Not instaglamour makeup etc

[@h0neybee77]

Great Smile and great energy. 🫶🏾Thanks for the tips. 🙏🏾and your hair is fine. 👍🏾

[@ivanaandric5703]

I looove your videos. They are brilliantly explained and I love watching them and I've learned a lot! Thank you ❤!

[@ThePicManiac]

Maybe a silly question, but does this also apply to water/feeding bowls for pets? Is there a way we should set them up in the room to make them feel safe? Thanks!

[@nahyutarightsactivist]

i suggest you place bowls close to but away from a wall. this isn’t feng shui but rather animal nature! leave just enough space between the wall and bowl for the animal to get there and eat. this is because animals feel quite vulnerable when they eat as they’re focused on their food rather than their surroundings ; if their back is to a wall they feel they can’t be attacked from behind and can see any attackers from the front!

[@JavaRivers]

My cat's a skiddish one. We always set his food where he can see the room while he eats, and he also has a direct line to hide under some nearby furniture.

[@JavaRivers]

Cliff has said before that pets deserve Feng shui too! (I can't find the video or I'd quote him)

[@fredericapanon207]

For cats, do separate the water bowl(s) from the food bowl(s). Cats are finicky in nature and never drink near where they eat in order to avoid contaminated water. It is best to refresh the water every day. If you have more than one cat, also keep their bowls fairly separated so they are less likely to have territorial issues.

[@AshleyBromiley]

As others have said for cats it's best to separate food and water bowls (or get a water fountain) and separate bowls if you have multiple pets. Most animals prefer to be able to see their surroundings while eating too just like us. I keep my cats food bowls on either side of my dining table and they eat facing the rest of the room. If you don't have a lot of space you can put the bowl/plate up against the wall but rotate it so that they are parallel to the wall instead of facing it.

[@farmgirlnew2]

I love your vibes. You emit happiness 😊

[@berthabranns09]

You’re so pleasant, I enjoy your videos. Excited for more

[@DearModern]

Thank you Bertha! I understand that feng Shui can be quite complicated so I try to make it as simple to understand as possible! :)

[@scorpioftw]

Although I do agree on the logic on how I would choose the spot in the cafee, I dont really like having my desktop separated from the wall. I feel like when I face the fall there are less distractions. On the other side its true that I dont like people seeing what Im doing in my pc, but I dont have that issue with my partner, quite the oposite, we often do stuff together and like having easy access to the pc.

[@scorpioftw]

Now we are rearanging the house and we will have separate offices. I dont know if I like that as we will be more separate from each other and it wont be the same

[@SunShine_sublime]

​@@scorpioftwYou're clingy 😂

[@plaidpirate]

My dog always tries to sit in the command position, whatever room she is in she finds it.

[@thissunchild]

This is super helpful. Thank you. Now I know that I have to change something in my living room.

[@plakette26]

Wow, that's the most brilliant and exact explanation I've ever heard.😊

[@javihntay6445]

keep doing whatcha doing man. its easy to uds and helpful!! 👍

[@DearModern]

Thank you!!!

[@Astrid-88]

Say what you want but for me the command position is facing the window. It is true for both my bed and my desk, although the bed needs to be far from the window and desk can be close to it. I literally can't sleep if there is a windows on the side of me (despite me closing the curtains at night) and I would be really uncomfortable/anxious if there was a window behind me. Door next to the bed doesn't bother me because I keep it locked at night. However I currently struggle with the desk placement during the day at my parents house (my own apartment doesn't matter because I live alone so noone walks behind my back anyway). In both houses the furniture is set like this: Door->Bed->Desk->Window with door behind the bed, bed facing the desk and desk facing the window. But I don't feel comfortable with my parents sneaking behind my back when I am at my laptop so I limit my activities at my parents home (not like I do anything shameful in my apartment either, but I just don't like my parents to sneak behind my back to read what I write or comment how I play a game). I need to think about a solution. All I know is I can't move my desk in a position that doesn't let me see the window though. I am too extroverted for that despite being social introvert. In my apartment I even added a huge mirror so I can actually see everything from south-east, through south to southwest from my desk. The window in my parents house is already bad because it's quite small, and all I can see is neighbor house and an empty street. In cafes I also tend to choose spots in front of the window. I actually have a favorite spot at a nearby cafe - it's in the 2nd floor and contains a bar table attached to a huge window with street view. I enjoy looking at the world. Alternatively I will choose a spot facing the cafe and the door and a window, basically having as much view as possible.

[@ashleybucher1576]

I love your videos! Thank you for making them :)

[@DearModern]

And thank you for liking them! It really means alot and I am planning a more structured series now...

[@tareginda]

Fengshui made easy! Thank you~

[@MsNurkay]

You're the guy i've been looking for! I saw your tiktoks and finally found your tube!

[@John...44...]

So my sofa should be in the cafe and my bed in the park! Now I know!

[@CC.R0Y]

The command position makes it so much easier to play horror games

[@bookkeepingsmes2089]

So informative and entertaining thank you! Also as cute as a button!

[@matthewmastrobuono582]

Lol that cafe decision would take me 10 minutes. I’m so indecisive

[@sonjakidd502]

I love when you include the danger

[@kairinase]

Thanks a lot! That sure made sense.

[@roberthernandez4809]

So i have a pretty difficult room to work with. The spot i feel most comfortable in is directly in line with the door which faces one corner of the living room. It is also the one spot in the room where my huge L shaped desk can fit nicely without making my living room look like theres no space and also away from the window where the blinds let in too much light. However from what i read, you should never place ur desk in front of the door, what are your thoughts?

[@roberthernandez4809]

An alternative would be to have my desk facing a wall diagonally across from the door is. My back would have to be against the center of the room to make my living room seem more spacious and less boxy; also the window is located at that spot so either my back is facing the window or to the living room.

[@gurubhaikhalsa9337]

Place a Room divider of some sort to slow and redirect the flow of chi coming right at you. That should be a good enough cure for the desk placement being directly in line with the door.

[@kiwirooks7299]

"You want to sleep so you want a place that's really quiet" I am someone who literally cannot sleep in silence and is known for falling asleep at loud concerts and movie theaters. I usually play a podcast to fall asleep to. Keeps intrusive thought spirals quiet.

[@sinkintostillness]

I take the worst spot in my yoga classes so my clients don't feel vulnerable, but they do like to have a giggle at my need to shut the storage room door because it makes me uneasy when it's left open!

[@kabelinmel1]

This helps a lot!

[@erinreviews5444]

This guy pretty much described my local cafe lol

[@lgd4247]

I love this guy!

[@nquiztor]

I have just realized my desk is in a corner, and I have 2 doors behind me. Can't wait to redecorate my home office!

thanks for sharing mate. from VietNam 🇻🇳. i do love fengshui

[@robertwestfall_M.A.R.S.O.]

@Dear Modern My bedroom doubles as my computer and hobby space, with my bed in the kitty-corner area away from the doorway (no door, BTW); my PC and hobby space setup directly in front of said doorway; my closet just past the short wall that supports my light, thermostat, an low-down electric outlet, and my light switch. My bed is also against my window in the western wall. My plans for my room are to keep the hobby/PC area where it is, but split it off from my bed using some furniture that can hold my overwhelming amount of free-hand drawn artworks and my Hobby models of Gundam Plastic models, aka Gunpla. General room dimensions are 12ft. (E.-W.) x 10ft. (N.-S.), not including the recessed closet. How would you recommend I accomplish my goal with Feng Shui...? I can't exactly move my be, since the door is NE corner with closet taking up N wall. (also, still need family to see my online activities, just in case I go NSFW as I used to...)

[@andrews.434]

"You never know" must be the most unexpected sentence I've ever heard from this guy 3:47

[@JIMMYUNKNOWN]

I hope you’re making a decent living. Love what you do and appreciate your insights. Thanks!

[@victorpadilla6964]

command position is also useful in restaurants for seeing where your waiter/waitress is.

[@yvettedesmarais8107]

Thank you. This is helpful.

[@yoongimarryme9053]

Hi my main door opens and I can see my window. Can I use adhesive window film to cover the window to prevent chi from rushing straight out?

[@mudousetsuna]

I live in a cluttered place and work from home. I used to work from the couch but I put a tiny desk in my dining room. It faces the railing of the stairs, but these rails plus my monitors block my view of the living room so if anyone is hanging out in there, I am not distracted. Yes it means my chair sits in line of the kitchen but nobody travels through it- except me when I get up to make tea during work. It changed my work flow. Now to just clean up the mess lol.

[@pakane24]

Awesome! A little change can do so much

[@talleysuehohlfeld3959]

I work on a folding table that I set up and take down each day. Because of Zoom meetings, I set it in an open area in my bedroom so that I’m facing the window. That gives me the light from the window on my face instead of being backlit. And it turns out that it’s a command position.

[@downbntout]

I prefer your vids with placement of model furniture

[@dapawta]

I'm ngl, I use "the command position" in every aspect of my life nowadays. I just got a promotion at work? I'm now in the Command Position. I'm babysitting? I'm in the Command Position. I'm at a party and have my choice of suitors? I'm in The Command Position 😤😎

[@marjurihoney2728]

More Fengshui Videos please

[@otterwhitewaterider7812]

Basically, don't sit with your back to the door, your head near a window, and no one behind you. 😉 Also, low traffic area.

[@pinkroses135]

So where you feel secure and comfortable

[@717379]

This is called a "Sheldon Spot".

[@PrestonAveryDesign]

Hahahaha. I was thinking the exact same thing. I laughed so hard when I saw this comment.

[@olivechege4184]

If the bedroom command position is only where the window is behind you, can you do anything to improve this like having thick curtains?

[@loamingx]

a sturdy headboard!!! it'll act as the wall, and be a barrier

[@MrDelord39]

@@loamingx That won't work as can't open the window like that.

[@laurentzhang2189]

Hi, i want to know the Chinese translation of "command position"

[@sarahdwyer7158]

i love your videos!!!!! will you do my room?

[@milou66]

I come for the feng shui, but I'm always hoping for the leather harness.

[@Discerning_Viewer]

Well, now I won't sleep because I'll be lying awake trying to figure out how the bloody blue blazes a spat dead center on the wall between the kitchen & living room is a "command" position (it's a small space but I apparently set things up in "zones" or something).

[@hashtagmate]

3:09 that's where you're mistaken 😂 i do NOT make this decision in a split second I legit stand there for 3-5 minutes deciding and sometimes i sit down but change my mind and go to a diff table But i'm also neurodivergent af so that might be it lmfao

[@mayradayful]

How can you help me with my bedroom?

[@erica6825]

I've never understood why I cannot work at the desk in my bedroom; it's like I cannot settle, no matter what I do. Now I realise it's because I was sitting with my back to the open room, and I felt vulnerable in this position. I've just changed my desk around so I sit with my back to the wall, facing the room and it feels SO GOOD! Now I'm just concerned about the corner of the desk pointing to the middle of my bed - that can't be good?

[@kitty_s23456]

If your room is small, then I think that's OK. I've watched several of his vids and sometimes he says you have to compromise. As long as you're (ideally) facing the room or your back isn't to the door, then that's OK.

[@callmeqi]

Maybe think of something to put in between or next to your desk if you feel uncomfortable with the table corner. For example, a plant (or even a small plant in a pot but on a round plant holder).

[@mmurphy3473]

Do you use baqua map based on command position (north behind you) or wall with door as north?

[@marionsutcliffe1119]

In my bedsit/kitchenette room, sitting up in bed is where command position would be! Don't want side of bed against wall, want max open floor space for exercise. Desk is currently facing a wall/corner - not nice, so I sit in bed instead - also not nice!

[@potterlinda02]

I cant hide my wires on my desk...i wish i could but my desk has to face a wall....but the reclining desk chair does swivel to face the conversational pieces in the living room...is that ok

[@LeahLuciB]

Can a room have more than one command position?

[@ginasmitasin479]

Once had a young waitress try to seat me next to the kitchen, bathroom and right next to the silverware rolling station. I’d asked to sit by the window and the restaurant was completely empty except for staff. I asked if she was kidding and walked out. Went to the companion restaurant closer to my house and had a conversation with the waitress there about my experience. She said she’d speak to the young woman. I waited tables years ago and would never give a costumer the worse seat in the house…that one shouldn’t have existed.

[@nemesisurvivorleon]

My command position is usually the Mouse when Im playing Civilization.

[@andrewspham278]

I have my desk in commanding position but facing to bad direction Liu Sai ( six killings). What should I do

[@Davicks]

Awesome

[@DemocratSocialistRob]

My choice of a seat changes all the time, just depends on how I’m feeling. Suggestions?

[@Lily-lb5hi]

what if the only solid wall in my bedroom facing the toilet door

[@DearModern]

Then just close the toilet door:) it's more about how you feel than anything!

[@Lily-lb5hi]

@@DearModern wah thank you so much

[@mhk5272]

Does that mean all the backseaters just wanted to be in command position.

[@katharinameinzer6297]

Homoe giving advice for the perfect bench to pick, when you loose your home because you couldn't pay rent anymore 10/10

[@thornandes]

which needs to be prioritized if you have to choose between the command position or your auspicious direction?

[@DearModern]

Command position for sure!

[@stumbling]

If you are looking for an ideal spot to build a city or small settlement, take a cow with you and wherever the cow lies down that is the perfect place to build. Now you know!

[@qwertyqwert2772]

💜

[@dalladi]

But I meaaaaaan...this is home. Not a cafe. ❤

[@The_Charlatan]

This sounds like a Fiverr listing.

[@keric3730]

Or get a spot where cell phone can be plugged in because you spend far too much time on youtube while curled up in bed

[@SerendipityChild]

You said it a year ago, and it spoke to me tonight 🤣

[@daisydaffsforever723]

Can I please ask...are you from Penang, Malaysia. You speak just like my nephews

[@baconpancakes8899]

Brooo you're the Black pen Red pen youtuber

[@robertwestfall_M.A.R.S.O.]

Also, Cliff, the current furniture in my room is a twin-size bed, 5ft. long x 2ft. wide dresser with 6 9in. tall drawers (this is going to be moved out), a make-shift desk out of a rough made "kneeling bench" (pine wood lumber pieces and screws w/ 2 bolts on the outside of the legs) placed up-side -down and a 15in. wide x roughly 30 in. long wooden board on top. (My PC tower rests in the space made by the mock kneeling bench and the board, with my keyboard & computer mouse on the board's top) I also have a few other items of furniture in the room, like a wooden "fold-up" card table for my hobby and art; a closet organizer with 3 coat hanger bars (2 on the W. [1 up top, 1 down low] & 1 up top on the E.); and a semi functional nightstand at the foot of the twin bed (2 twin frames stack on each other with a single mattress, about knee high altogether). Room is a disaster of a mess, even though I keep trying to cut down on my clutter, so I won't put it on video! And although I won't do that, I *AM* highly artistic in free hand art on paper with pencil. I'll draw up my room as is, and include a short list of the 3 or more Items I would like to replace the dresser for storing my arts and craft materials and my finished hobby models. Please ask me for these in the community area so I can post to you?

[@rymaru2138]

I have a hide sort of personality. I don't want to see people coming in. I want to pretend it's not happening at all. Completely shut off the chi 🤣 what do I do then?

[@flip1980ful]

Are you single? ❤cute and smart!

[@cloned81]

A lot of talk, little walk. Unsubscribing

[@joannebutzerin6448]

You are way too good for TicTok.