Deceived into Catching HIV: My Story

This is the intimate and shocking account by one of the men who was abused by Daryll Rowe - the first ever person in the UK to be convicted after deliberately infecting men with HIV.
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[@mrschinadoll921]

Any person in this day and time that refuses to use condoms right off the bat is not a person you want to be involved with.

[@longbranch11207]

Thank You

[@shawnafuego26]

Period

[@swine13]

He didn't refuse, though. He ended up saying "fine" then taking it off later. I agree that him being adamant about unprotected sex was a red flag, though.

[@mrschinadoll921]

@@swine13 I was going by what he said..... He said right off the bat that the man was ready to dive in RAW!!!! Then he stated that the man tore a hole in the condom and then sent him a taunting text about what he done. He said that both of his parents died from HIV so I doubt it if he was a willing participant to his shenanigans.

[@TonyTony-oq8kk]

Big red flag

[@OMGJOELLE]

Wow he got life in prison??? I'm surprised justice was actually served.

[@Persvades]

Joelle R. In America he would have been in jail for two weeks

[@Cultsurvivor]

Justice would be lenny getting to have his way with him

[@oneiceb5974]

@@Persvades It depends on what State he's in.

[@patrickbateman3244]

Joelle R. Life in prison over here in the uk is about 8 years with good behaviour

[@happy5808]

I'd be scared for the inmates closento him there in prison. He shouldn't be near men in general

[@18000rpm]

"He was very adamant about not using a condom" - there's your warning right there.

[@mauriceboyd1910]

Then he said he trusted him in the next sentence. He just met him

[@GuyAye]

Facts

[@michellejackson1096]

He should be angry 😡 at himself. The hand ✍️ was on the 🧱

[@user-fy7iy6vd6c]

DRETIKOCURE on KZbin thank you for using your herbs to unravel the complexities of HPV and provide me with the finest medical care possible.🚩

[@user-wv1lh8yu4c]

Thank you doctor for the professionalism with which you do your work and I celebrate you, Herpes free with DRETIKOCURE on YT for curing my HSV1&2

[@stefaniamalatesta8076]

If someone is refusing to wear a condom, that’s someone you don’t wanna mess with. I am still so sorry for this man. He is so strong to share his story. He’s potentially saving lives.

[@M60gunner1971]

Pack not fudge

[@sandersonbr18]

making hiv criminal is wrong... hiv is no longer death sentence.... And any person that does have unprotected sex is responsible for his or her actions and life.... shouldn't hold any hiver guilty. This man sentenced in life prison... can and must sue the goverment for this situation he is in right now. He has to be set free... where are his lawyers?

[@stefaniamalatesta8076]

@@sandersonbr18 someone who knows they have HIV, doesn’t disclose it to their partners, etc is a horrible human being and doesn’t deserve to live.

[@sandersonbr18]

@@stefaniamalatesta8076 they don't have to disclose.... prejudice is all over.... hivers now being undetectable through medicine can have babies and never infect people... people should take care of themselves and never play unsafe... if you play ... that means you are responsible for yourself.... Hivers have the same rights... and what do you think how they got positive?// well, doing unprotected sex... you reap what you saw..... NO more drama queen! he who does play unsafe, will have his or hers.... for others diseases too..

[@stefaniamalatesta8076]

@@sandersonbr18 I’m sure you’d feel differently if someone purposely gave you HIV. Grow up.

[@oliviap8490]

The sexual aggression without a condom was a BIG warning

[@14Jezka831]

Olivia P Yes! Honestly, that was a huge 🚩

[@kenshinscott]

Olivia P The riskiest part having blind sex with someone you hardly trust that’s the huge warning people today seem to ignore

[@lndingalle9605]

I had a guy do this with me once, guy who never met 😂

[@tequisaholloway1738]

Absolutely

[@johnvaldivia4718]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤦‍♂️

[@shaecolon692]

THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL FOR ALL PERSONS GAY OR STRAIGHT

[@lillylazer429]

@@stalkerdarwinstalkerdarwin4854 Stop. Judging ppl. It is not some disease sent by God to make ppl sick for their behaviour. No one deserves to die from this disease. You religious ppl make me sick. Thank the Goddess that I'm Pagan. We have love for everyone and don't judge ppl. What this man did to ppl was wrong. He purposely infected ppl. Those men didn't deserve this.

[@gamerincorporated154]

@@stalkerdarwinstalkerdarwin4854 First off, HIV doesn't kill you, AIDS do. Next, his mother died from AIDS when she caught it from her STRAIGHT HETEROSEXUAL HUSBAND, who caught from drug use. So there are two people who died from AIDS not HIV who were straight and married. Have you even read the Bible or are you just recycling stuff you heard from other others in your cult?

[@stalkerdarwinstalkerdarwin4854]

Lilly Lazer READ CAREFULLY I NEVER JUDGED. ALL I SAID IS SIN IS THE CAUSE AND AGAIN SIN IS THE CAUSE PETER 5 verse 8 BE ALERT AND SOBER OF MIND, YOUR ENEMY THE DEVIL PROWLS AROUND LIKE A ROARING LION LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO DEVOUR. SO THE BIBLE STAND THE TEST OF TIME AGAIN. Beg to differ?

[@stalkerdarwinstalkerdarwin4854]

Kevin Dukes AND BLASPHEMY IS THE UNFORGIVABLE SIN. YOUR ONLY CHOOSING PAGAN SO YOU CAN BE HOMOSEXUAL AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT BUT LISTEN TO THIS kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y17PYYBva5iVa6M start at 15:06 That’s all I can do for you

[@jinxterpinxter]

@@gamerincorporated154 AIDS doesnt kill you either. It is the opportunistic diseases that do.

[@DeeDee-ww9ve]

How mad is it that his parents died from HIV. Then later on in his life he got hiv himself from a total psycho. God bless him

[@user-wv1lh8yu4c]

Thank you doctor for the professionalism with which you do your work and I celebrate you, Herpes free with DRETIKOCURE on YT for curing my HSV1&2!!

[@tommertuck1041]

I just got Herpes from tinder. The last thing on my mind is wanting to give it to someone else.

[@em-or7qc]

It's just not normal is it? To have the mindset of giving people a disease! I feel guilty if someone catches a cold/cough from me! He's a complete sociopath.

[@timothytillman6513]

I'm sorry you caught that

[@bodylotionv7230]

Wow smh

[@Kanal7Indonesia]

I think herpes is curable

[@rinogeorge8232]

indonesian cat holic herpes is not curable

[@323hernandez]

Never trust forceful overly kinky psychopath men

[@sssdrrrv3759]

Anonymous Panacea dafuq?

[@lillady1770]

Yeah I thinking the same red flag...

[@MiguelSanchez-ll3ty]

Never trust Anonymous Panacea

[@TASconfidential]

Red flags: 1.) forceful 2.) in a rush for sex 3.) don’t want to ask clarifying questions 4.) try to guilt you into their kinks/fetishes

[@TASconfidential]

beverly ledbetter he was naive, but not careless. If he was careless, he wouldn’t have used condoms in the beginning. He was just too trusting, of a predator.

[@ZLM88]

I'm shocked daryll hasn't been murdered...you can't play with people like that

[@kaymanning4227]

juicy mae Thank you

[@myfuckeduplife-kw1em]

Okurrrtz

[@shesagoddess3592]

Thankfully he wasn't because in prison he will be beaten up regularly and have to live through it.

[@thinblacknoodles]

If he pulled that shit in America straight or gay would have killed he or at the very least whipped that ass

[@harshnemesis]

Hiv terrorists are too pussy to tell their real status, I doubt anyone of them has actual balls to harm anyone without their virus.

[@kenjipolicardpolicard6986]

Hid father died of HIV and then he caught it himself? Oh man what a curse.

[@maryem8263]

Kenji policard Policard and his Mom

[@justinamusyoka4986]

So sad.it still will continue to wreak havoc to others in the family.its a generational curse.

[@janekimani2269]

Sure,it will only be broken if they know Jesus

[@Joshua-dc1bs]

@@janekimani2269 LoL

[@rashimabwirevalentine523]

I hate when people do this shit. These comments are total bullshit

[@clare_jordin]

Nothing good comes from this hook up culture. God bless this man.

[@dadiva2475]

TRUTH! In the end, someone is going to pay a price 💯

[@christianchappell4193]

It's too late he had sex with a man that's a sin men are supposed to be with women and he had sex before marriage so it's nothing he can do

[@whitlock1988]

Christian Alexander thanks for sharing your 2 cent , what else? What other sins would you like to play judge, and juror to?

[@M60gunner1971]

@@whitlock1988 you're gay

[@user-se1gt6ek2i]

@@christianchappell4193 u do know we're all sinners right no bodies sin is greater than anyones. Smh🤔😬

[@Cultsurvivor]

I couldnt imagine gettig a text from someone laughing saying they have hiv and that i was going to burn. I just cant process this. This is some next level shit. This is crazy i cant i have to take another walk to go cry

[@breannedixon9712]

At least he knows he’s got it. It’s very treatable these days

[@infectedfunerals5670]

Aaliyah 😍😘

[@sirquincywashington7584]

girl please these dudes dont care

[@Elbaz8]

Yes, that pretty messed up!

[@solomongrundy1467]

@@breannedixon9712 I just read an article about hiv being cured in mice. Scientists are hoping that this treatment will work on humans.

[@myfoot_urneck3571]

Omg! When he shared that both of his parents died from HIV because of his junkie father contracting it via a contaminated needle and then passing it into his mom...that just broke my heart even more!!! 💔 This man has incredible strength 💪 and courage for not only sharing his personal story, but also for standing up to the asshole who intentionally infected him and all those other innocent individuals! Justice may not have been fully served, and more people could have gotten purposely infected, if it weren't for this amazing man!! The world needs more courageous and outspoken people like this super man!! 💕👍✌🌟

[@amaranthinebeauty]

Myfoot_urneck yes It really made me 😞 what a beautiful mom.

[@angelaxtrium2213]

Is died from Aids not HIV

[@elicapers2446]

He should have stood up for his own butthole.

[@user-wv1lh8yu4c]

Thank you doctor for the professionalism with which you do your work and I celebrate you, Herpes free with DRETIKOCURE on YT for curing my HSV1&2!!

[@dropdeadhysteria]

Imagine the trauma and therapy and overall shit this guy had to go through just to be able to have the strength to give this interview. I'm sorry that happened to him and anyone else like him. 😢😞

[@mr.garlicman3134]

It is a felony to have a STD and not tell someone when you are about to have sex with someone with a STD. major prison time you can get for it.

[@naut_nigel]

Such a horrific story considering the condom was ripped without his consent and his parents died of the disease he was so adamant about preventing. All the best to him. ❤

[@patriciaguiden5858]

Nigel Murillo they keep being victims.hes lying .he could have said no get up was he black

[@itsfaithkay]

Patricia Guiden what’s race got to do with this ?

[@helena3631]

This is a generational curse hopefully someone in his family can break this curse

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Patricia Guiden stfu with race moron

[@courtnmoopsmama]

Right?! My heart hurts for him!!!

[@rimmy1819]

You saved so many other men.. honestly heartbreaking to hear this

[@M60gunner1971]

He saved no one

[@josecabrera7346]

@@M60gunner1971 he saved others by having that guy locked up wtf you mean he saved no one?

[@erucya2799]

He really did!

[@MsLA-tz4si]

He couldn't even save himself. The guy told him he only has unprotected s_x. Then the guy tries to force s_x on him without a condom and then the dumb guy still lets the other guy have s_x with him. 🤣🤣🤣Just dumb or dumb horny.

[@user-fy7iy6vd6c]

DRETIKOCURE on KZbin thank you for using your herbs to unravel the complexities of HPV and provide me with the finest medical care possible🚩

[@ladynottingham89]

A lesson that when people violate your boundaries multiple times, cut them off, NO more chances. After Rowe tried to force himself on him Lenny should have kicked him out. But instead Lenny gives the other guy the condom to put on himself. Let this be a lesson to others. If someone makes you uncomfortable in anyway, you tell them and they continue, that person cannot be trusted and you need to get away. My prayers for Lenny and may Mr. Rowe rot in jail.

[@Crows23rdChapter]

He was a previously unknown hook-up, literally. He gave you two HUGE warnings flags. And you "trusted" him? NO ONE deserves to have something like this happen, but, damn...

[@treyvorable]

I am not blaming him but the guy suggesting unprotected sex multiple times and even forcing himself on you unprotected should have been a cue to kick hiss ass out ASAP!!

[@yawade8797]

Woke exactly and how can you trust someone you've met on tinder 😂😂

[@ayeevizzy8723]

Woke exactly!

[@flowerpink33]

Woke you know what I was thinking the same thing. Him keep suggesting unprotected sex was a red flag 🚩. That meant RUN 🏃🏾‍♀️

[@defrand14able]

@@yawade8797 He said Grindr, which is even worse.

[@AwfulDog1]

hindsight is useful..he was too trusting.

[@xingxi2497]

Nothing good comes off of Grindr.

[@Penelope416]

True dat

[@Mslovely42]

I barely trust people I meet on a daily basis meeting someone off the internet I do not trust

[@chamariano4833]

Agree Grindr is for hook ups only If u meet someone that leads into a relationship from this app it will not end well for both parties

[@dpcisunbreakable]

Speak for yourself. You make bad choices, not all of us.

[@johnsmi213]

I met Darryll on Tinder because I'm anti-Grindr. Luckily, after telling him I had to sign off to do something, I came back to finding out he had gone ape shit telling me I was ignoring him and cancelling our plans. He was cute and I would have gone out with him.

[@monkeybabydance]

I had a conversation with him on Grindr years ago wanting to hook up with me. I got a barrage of comments when I didn't come round as soon as I could and thought he was a little of his rocker. I decided not to meet and block him and can't help but think what would have happened if I'd met with him... ,

[@marcosjuarez1490]

True story??

[@monkeybabydance]

@@marcosjuarez1490 yes. I lived in Edinburgh at the time.

[@elicapers2446]

You would have been victimized by the sodomite.

[@monkeybabydance]

@Glen Coco deadass?

[@M60gunner1971]

That's really gay

[@GoddessAlkebulan]

Although I am sympathetic to his plight, the man told him in word and in deed that he was not going to use protection. Please pay attention and heed the signs of predatory behavior.

[@chae1557]

He stealthed him and didn’t tell him until 2 weeks later.....

[@vitaldreamer8981]

I hate to say it but the title shouldn't say deceived- its rape. He didn't agree or consent whatsoever to have sex without condom. And this guy FORCED himself on him. Just cause its two guys doesn't make it not rape. This is horrible and breaks my heart.

[@VAULT865]

HE DIDN'T FORCE HIMSELF ON HIM- HE PUT ON TORN CONDOM OR DID NOT PUT IT ON. HE DECEIVED HIM. RELISTEN TO VIDEO BUT MESSED UP EITHER WAY. WELL, WHERE HE'S AT NOW HE CAN GET ALL THE FREE& FORCED SEX HE CAN LIKES SO MUCH! SICKO!!😞😞😞

[@TheOfficialBLUEHURB]

Angela Logan That’s exactly what rape is.

[@meganod279]

@Hannah Hobbs I'm sorry but it's not legally rape. The guy said he gave the condom to him and after that they had sex while he didn't know what the other dude did. This is the difinition of decieving and not rape. He didn't push him away, he didn't show any sign of not wanting to have sex. I'm sure that if the dude knew about him having hiv he would have pushed him away and that could be considered rape in case the other dude would force him. This example is clearly decieving and I feel bad for the guy cause it wasn't something that he controlled. The biggest mistake is that he trusted him blindly and the worst is that he gave him every right to do anything he wanted. Big mistake.

[@TheOfficialBLUEHURB]

MEGANOD ! I’m sorry, but you’re just being purposely dense. The definition of rape: “unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person's will or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or DECEPTION.” 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@kittydollsxo189]

I think for KZbin reasons they can't really straight up put rape in the title idk

[@introvertedaquarius5844]

That was a red flag. Him being so aggressive

[@cc3184]

I know right. How can you trust someone who was so aggressively adamant about wanting to not use condoms. Like immediately no.

[@mehmeh7567]

Cc That right there would’ve scared the sh!t out of me 😂😂😂...But how it is now people are confused and not educated at all bc you can’t see H.I.V at all smh this isn’t the 80’s where folks was walking around looking like skin & bones dying within 6 months bc scientists didn’t invent the proper medication to curb the gestational period for Aids to manifest making it full blown. They look healthy as hell now due to the MEDICATION but in the eye area (The eyes always sink in). So me personally I always look at the major things in H.I.V patients and that’s The eye area, skin discoloration and last but not least their hair!!!! Which are the things I learned from my aunt who passed away from H.I.V some years back...Her eyes were sunk in really bad and she had pigmentation of the skin as well as her hair went from course to smooth like silky smooth from the medication they take which is real crazy & scary at the same time bc your literally watching them deteriorate”

[@tiberiusedwards3968]

Major red flag

[@M60gunner1971]

Pack not fudge

[@ernagoofy9540]

@@mehmeh7567 oh my

[@slave4glue]

To commit a truly wicked act and then to mock your victim after you know there's no chance for them get emergency help... You can't really get much more sadistic and cruel can you? A really evil guy. Respect to this lad for his bravery and speaking out and going to the police.

[@nikkiarmstrong3991]

I hope everyone who has this disease will healed. I hope in the future someone finds a cure for this and cancer.

[@Ninatoro39]

This happened to my best friend. He found out after his ex partner died of “pancreas cancer”. Years later someone told him it was because he was HIV positive. People like that should be arrested.

[@Stars33d77]

Euthanized

[@kekoakaawa8879]

I feel sad for this beautiful man. I would not wish this on anyone. I hope that this handsone bearded man lives a good long healthy life full of peace and joy.

[@sahkouyate435]

Amen

[@mdawson8386]

@@sahkouyate435 STOP WITH THE MONOTHEISTIC MYTHOLOGY AND PROPAGANDA!

[@j-stilt9746]

Sexy woman

[@Donnie-sg2cj]

Kekoa Kaawa Why do you keep focusing on his looks? If he weren’t attractive to you would you still care?

[@SmartRobot-wc2fb]

@@Donnie-sg2cj 😂Most probably she / he / it wouldn't!

[@AlbertInSanAntonio]

If you deliberately infect someone with they intent to cause pain and suffering and then taunt your partner with text and voicemails.. you should go to prison or serve time ..what an awful person just awful..

[@triciaapplewhite4939]

As a nurse hearing this story is inspiring. Will definitely share this video with my patients

[@TheRazorTongue]

Don't ignore red flags especially if you're going to be on the receiving end of any sexual encounter. If a person tries to get you to lower your defenses it's because they're trying to hurt you. Good people respect boundaries. If you think something like this has happened to you please report it to the police. Don't let someone like this getaway with it.

[@lizzy4827]

It was a huge red flag, if he keeps insisting once you said no, it means he's gonna try to do what he wants anyways, he doesn't respect you.

[@user-wv1lh8yu4c]

Thank you doctor for the professionalism with which you do your work and I celebrate you, Herpes free with DRETIKOCURE on YT for curing my HSV1&2!!

[@StevieMichelle]

This is why I am scared of sleeping with just anyone :( I don't and this is why I never will.

[@cbenjamin7582]

Are are you sure the reason you haven't had sex with anyone has nothing to do with your outer appearance or your personality. I'm not trying to discredit you at all I'm just trying to figure out if in all honesty you being a virgin is in all truthfulness not in your control.

[@StevieMichelle]

Mam, I never said I was a virgin lmao. I said I am scared to sleep with JUST ANYONE which is different. I've only been intimate with people I am very attracted to and have confidence but even then you will never be safe from an STD.

[@iiabdullahf1699]

Yes don’t sleep with anyone if you want your life 👍🏻

[@iiabdullahf1699]

C.C. Benjie i am 28 years old and i never had sex with any girl and I won’t have without marriage blood test 👍🏻👍🏻

[@StevieMichelle]

@@iiabdullahf1699 I've only slept with my ex boyfriends who I trusted completely. On some occasional I've met guys who wanted to sleep with me like a sexual relationship and that's and I've felt like taking because it's tempting but it's not me! I don't think I could sleep with a guy who's slept with dozens of women not even with protection. I do wish I didn't sleep with those other 2 exes so I would of stayed a virgin till marriage ! So in that I am happy for you I hope you remain that way until you meet the right one.

[@Alexandraalejandro798]

Casual encounters with random people already is trouble looking for a place to happen. No matter which angle you look at it or excuse to justify it, in every time you are to set off to meet a stranger the closer you get to danger. He is very lucky AIDS these days isn’t like what it was back he is still very young he still has a lot ahead of him.

[@arvyarvy4242]

Underrated comment

[@el-maiki]

What makes you think you’re exempt from this just for having a regular/monogamous partner?

[@keta3341]

I'm so so sorry this happened to you. Prayers and love to you and the other victims. 💕💕💕

[@cthulhutentacles4994]

I was in a relationship with someone who withdrew the fact that he had HIV until he got meningitis. For whatever messed up reason, he was trying to infect me with HIV, although I was never infected; we were together for almost two years. It makes me furious knowing that such people exist. I wish I could comfort this man and tell him everything is going to be ok.

[@cthulhutentacles4994]

R K ok?

[@CEDL4072]

Omg I'm glad ur ok though!

[@sgnibble1]

That was very inconsiderate and selfish of him. I’m glad you are well and that he didn’t change your life drastically. I can’t believe how judgmental people are as this can happen to anyone. Even married couples have infected their spouses. People need to stop being high and mighty and practice more empathy. Take care of yourself

[@harshnemesis]

Looks like your sick ex didn't know that he cannot infect others while is is on meds. If he didn't use meds then would probably get it, if you guys did raw which you probably did.

[@em-or7qc]

Bloody hell! Was he on treatment for the HIV?

[@ghanshyam1990]

Most people would have stayed silent but thank your for reporting it to the police. Wrongdoers should be published.

[@muffdiver240]

"Published"?

[@M60gunner1971]

What did he tell the cops? That guy packed my fudge and I said he could!

[@SilverScreenDreamer]

My heart just sank watching this. There isn’t even a word to accurately describe how disgusted I am over what Darryl did.

[@amymenjivar3489]

Thank you for having the courage to report it. 20 something came forward. Imagine how many didn't.

[@VIVABELLAVIVAHERMANO]

My own brother is s covert narcissist, I have never met anyone who does cruel things as him and he's capable of doing something similar to this. These people do exist

[@33ladyRAM]

Yes they do!! 💯💙

[@CocotheNut]

Narcissists will literally try to kill you then try to make you think it was your fault, it's insane

[@thomasfritz6425]

Sad but true.

[@jenniferholmes6644]

My brother is one too. And my ex... that's why hes an ex

[@sandersonbr18]

making hiv criminal is wrong... hiv is no longer death sentence.... And any person that does have unprotected sex is responsible for his or her actions and life.... shouldn't hold any hiver guilty. This man sentenced in life prison... can and must sue the goverment for this situation he is in right now. He has to be set free... where are his lawyers?

[@waynewantobe]

Some people are just soo sick ! How could he do such a thing😢

[@oliviakirby1409]

Because he let him.

[@oliviakirby1409]

@Orange Blossom Absolute bullshit. This guy stated Rowe asked him for unsafe sex. He said he didn't do that. At that point he should have walked away, said no, he had the choice. But he didn't. His choice. Rowe then attempted to enter him without a condom - at this point everything should have stopped. Indeed we're at the point of illegality. But he decided, HE DECIDED, to carry on. He stated he GAVE HIM the condom and said 'I'm trusting you' - when Rowe had proven he was not to be trusted. He let him put on the condom, he didn't supervise or check the condom was on and then let him enter him. Moreover, he could have felt that it was an unsheathed penis - there is a difference. He made all the choices, decisions to go through with it, he abnegated responsibility for himself. He let it happen. He is not Rowe's victim. I do believe however, given his history he'd been looking for a surrogate father to finish off the job his father started on his mother. This guy is as mentally ill, in his own way as Rowe.

[@MissSpaz]

Thank you for reporting it to police, you have saved so many from also getting infected.

[@reunreid7237]

This has taught me a lesson. No more unprotected sex for me from now on unless with a loving bf

[@cecegiles7753]

Reun Reid Why would you have it anyway, and by the way, you can't trust your so called boyfriend

[@justinamusyoka4986]

Please keep off till the right place ...marriage or abstain for good.more plagues are coming.my advise.

[@princeecho8317]

Cece Giles you’re right. So many ppl also get cheated on by their wives and husbands and contract HIV. I even told my own boyfriend this when he wanted to have unprotected sex w/ me and he tried to play the “You dont trust me?” game. I told him that I do trust him, I just trust me more.

[@reunreid7237]

@@princeecho8317 If you cant trust your partner they ain't the right partner for you at all

[@princeecho8317]

Reun Reid it’s not about trusting a partner. I can trust my partner but I trust ME more.

[@blacktulip2407]

"I've got u, u stupid!", my God! How cruel, how sick!... I am so sorry... U should have stopped in the very moment u saw he wanted to break ur initial agreement. I dont blame u, but this should be a warning for others.

[@M60gunner1971]

How...gay...

[@dawnlee866]

The first time he forced himself on me...his a$$ would've been out the door

[@ree3197]

He's so handsome btw.. hope he's doing well. So brave and strong for telling his story and going to the police, doing something about it, saving lives for certain. Bravo. 👏🏾😍

[@M60gunner1971]

You'd still pack his fudge

[@trishloiacono8524]

I'm just so sorry for what happened to you, there are some really horrible people out there, you are not one , I pray you live a lo g a happy life.

[@AshaAsha-ou1ih]

The moment someone mentions the word “unprotected” it’s no longer worth the risk at that point. So sad that happened. No stranger deserves your trust especially when it comes to sex.

[@TASconfidential]

There are tons of sexual predators out here, especially on those apps. The moment someone proposes doing something you don’t want to do, don’t brother with The negotiations. Just say “No thanks,” and move on to the next potential guy.

[@achernev]

You’re so strong and thank you for sharing your story to protect others. ❤️

[@lalamakeuprehab]

Absolutely unacceptable and disturbing for someone to do that another human being let alone multiple...... he’s gunna burn in hell !!!

[@cbenjamin7582]

I am so sorry about the level of cruelty that you have endured. You are a sweet Angel for helping others for speaking your pain & truth.

[@M60gunner1971]

He brought it on himself. He knew the risks of packing men's fudge but yet he packed it anyways.

[@lindachicana4214]

Lenny you are without a doubt a very brave and courageous human being!!

[@keishawilliams7546]

This is sad. Red flag number one is him being so set on having unprotected sex with you. I had this happen once and i stop messing with him it was odd behavior to me. Prayers going up to you.

[@hakimyohannes5122]

The background music towards the end and the middle is really a masterclass from you guys, bravo! And my greetings to the brave souls that have stood up and had this monster locked up.

[@Lynnvandenbrink]

This makes me so mad, I can’t😫 So proud of this guy for coming forward.. takes guts. Wish him all the best 💗

[@georgiarogers79]

Poor guy what that man did to him is appalling

[@yawade8797]

He has no one to blame but himself! Silly man

[@CowieThomas1997]

How was he "deceived"?!?! A grown ass man who should be considering his health and safety over "NSA fun" with strangers. It's a joke. 😂 A poor guy because he couldn't resist the urge to have more sex with a total stranger? This is what both gay men and the coutnry have an issue with. Passive carelessness...He let it happen and is a fuckin fool. Period.

[@zrayne]

Cowie Thomas he wanted to use protection but his partner deceived him

[@KantusKid]

Whatever happened to meeting someone and getting to know them before having any sexual encounters? We live in a selfish day and age where people want instant gratification. There are unfortunate consequences.

[@TreyParkersBitch]

Well…not everyone wants a relationship. Relationships hurt. We’re still human with needs. People sometimes just want the physical without the emotional part of relationships.

[@jacastillo796]

I’m so sorry you went through this. It truly breaks my heart.

[@bendu1ba6]

Awe man! He should’ve followed his instincts. Subconsciously he got a bad energy and aura from that guy and went against it.

[@paulhunter1525]

Depending on vibes and feelings are NOT protection. Always insist partner wearing condoms. Better safe the life time of regret...

[@01musicbabe]

Paul Masters Johnson but he did use a condom? The guy ripped it off secretly. He should have just not had sex with the guy as he was already giving off red flags

[@M60gunner1971]

But he decided on gay sex and now everyone feels sorry for this homosexual?

[@reyr.7439]

Men don't think rationally when they are horny.

[@CityGuyGoesCounty]

Trust No One People ! You must protect yourself at all time !😡🤬😡🤬😡🤬😡🤬😡🤬😡

[@crusaderofthelowlands3750]

He tried, it didn't work. Sometimes those things are out of your control and it just comes down to having bad luck. (By meeting the wrong person)

[@crusaderofthelowlands3750]

@Angel rose He literally said that the guy "forced him down", so he was basically raped. Which, judging by the amount of people this guys has knowingly infected, I find plausible.

[@melissarambo7998]

@@crusaderofthelowlands3750 He wasn't raped. He pushed the guy away, but allowed him to continue after the man agreed to use a condom. The man ripped the condom after without him knowing.

[@crusaderofthelowlands3750]

@@melissarambo7998 Removing/ripping the condom without someone else's knowledge (and most likely against their will) can be classified as either sexual assault or rape, depending on your country.

[@dustywalter1947]

Amen. wait until marriage

[@mfanwelikeit3760]

Good on you for getting justice, I hope you continue healthy and have a great life, thank goodness it’s not a death sentence anymore.

[@thesilentdiva]

This is horrible. The fact that he went around doing this knowingly then taunted the ppl...what a sicko

[@littlebopeeps5852]

That is so unforgivable. Wishing you good health and a wonderful future.

[@katekashperskaya7669]

Lenny, you are a hero for being open about your experience and bringing this sociopath to justice. HIV is no longer a death sentence. May you live a healthy, happy and long life!

[@kittygrimm7301]

Poor Lenny. What happened to him is awful, but he's so brave for speaking out.

[@shesagoddess3592]

Lenny, you are so brave. Thank you for standing up for you and the other men. JUSTICE IS SERVED. We are so blessed that HIV cannot hurt us in the same way it did. Keep your head up, you did amazingly to get him jailed. Act on criminals immediately. Stay strong x

[@nikolanikola8543]

AVOID dating apps at all costs... It's almost impossible to find a good person there...

[@dpcisunbreakable]

They're not designed for dating, they're for hookups at that moment. You want a relationship, go to Christian Mingle.

[@asumpi34]

@@dpcisunbreakable what if you are atheist..?

[@dpcisunbreakable]

@@asumpi34 find your dates in nontraditional ways. I mean, I don't subscribe to organized religion myself, so I appreciate your question.

[@lele1497]

Tbh Grindr is pretty disgusting in general it’s honestly degrading getting on grindr

[@logicalfallacydetector5196]

LELE yep! Grindr is a superficial, elitist, ageist, racist app

[@gshsy6syysudu810]

@@logicalfallacydetector5196 01

[@porschenator]

It's Tinders twin brother.

[@TheZeeme]

I found my boyfriend of 3 years so far on grindr. But I agree haha

[@darrenpat182]

I've been on grindr 10 years, had tons of great sex, made lots of random guys laugh too, made good friends, had mutual counselling, its how you use it.

[@janicesanders9981]

So happy you sought help. That was a ruthless thing he did to you. I pray you continue to be strong and stay healthy. God has you....

[@TheItachifan1]

Omg I'm 22 now but that guy messaged me when i was 17 on Instagram and kept trying to turn the conversation sexual and get me to go to his house 🤢

[@redsreds6598]

How could someone be so horrible & selfish. Wow I am lost for words God bless all theses people he done this too. This guy will receive his punishment the low life. Very upsetting thinking of poor Freddie mercury too

[@Samuel115s]

bcfc red army im negative but none of us know what type of person HIV could turn us into.

[@redsreds6598]

@@Samuel115s how could someone do this knowing they had HIV what a horrible person.

[@viviannamontenegro4841]

I think it’s the lack of god in their lives actually that would cause them to be that evil:/?

[@redsreds6598]

@@viviannamontenegro4841 your right very sad we all need our Lord Jesus in our life's amen

[@Gapeaches77able]

it's just me Thank you!

[@treyweeeee]

I pray for the cure one day for people like this and many more individuals. Things will get better.

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Trey Bandsaw Phramaceutics don’t want a cure! They earn more money by selling médicament

[@treyweeeee]

@@beatricedevarenne2621 it's sad. But we have to demand it. Hold these people accountable. We can do it!

[@Soul56293]

I think a vaccine is more likely than a cure.

[@treyweeeee]

@@Soul56293 I don't know or I don't care if you're trolling but if you're not and you genuinely don't know this then this is kind of how it goes, cure is an umbrella term for anything that treats you of any sort of ailment. Surgery could be a cure. Penicillin can be a cure, and maybe rx glasses, prescriptions, you name it, well all be you actually did! Vaccine would definitely be a cure! So yes, there might be a vaccine! But, it could also be CRISPR-Cas9 injected with saline very similar to how we are given vaccines but, just a little bit different so technically would be named something after the individual that perfected it more than likely or whatever it gets named. But, that could very much be a cure where it can rewrite our genome to just naturally have a resistance to it all together so we can't catch it at all. But, like a lot of things, there has to be a lot of hardcore study on this so we will see what happens. 💛

[@AnAdorableWombat]

There is a cure but the money is in the medicine. It's sad

[@blackestcat-ce4zc]

I'm so glad they convicted him!!! Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

[@millenialfragrancenerd94]

On behalf of the whole humankind, we don't claim Rowe

[@missmorgue4331]

… I'm HORRIFIED I feel so bad for him… what kind of person does this.

[@omadjourney]

It's a sick ol' world we live in, he needs to be in isolation because who knows how many he will infect in prison.

[@skilled1015]

exactly!

[@inoclasism]

They all need to be you can't let the infestation roam free.

[@deborahhernandez1505]

This made me cry. Looking all their faces. Its heartbreaking

[@viviennebartlett9456]

Modern hook ups equal deadly danger , think twice as I rather talk for weeks first together to know if they are a narcissist

[@ijt3131]

May this serve as a wake up call to the gay community. As a gay man I found this incredibly moving and it moved me to tears.

[@ENZOxDV9]

@@bolly384 wrong, from 2016, 54% of all new HIV cases were men to men sexual intercourse while only 20% new cases were from women to men.

[@danielhooper502]

@@ENZOxDV9 not true, majority are straight and subsaharan, it may be over half for gays in Britain, but that isn't the globe

[@ENZOxDV9]

@@danielhooper502 I'm talking about britain since this video was about 2 british people

[@jemmaj2919]

@@bolly384 , oh waw stop spreading shit... 67% of tested gays r found to have HIV, they r the highest percentage. Take a look at CDC HIV research. "In 2016, gay and bisexual men accounted for 67% (26,844) of all HIV diagnoses" [in the US]

[@xXspedXx]

I’m pretty sure straight men stealth/rape by deception/take off condoms just as much and even MORE than gay men. But nice try...

[@jadiquaify]

This man is a hero period I appreciate his bravery and he is such a inspiration.... my dad also died from AIDS and it devastated me and my family completely.

[@M60gunner1971]

A hero? You need therapy.

[@jadiquaify]

M60gunner1971 And you need to be quite because talking about a subject like this is complicated.

[@M60gunner1971]

@@jadiquaify I hate to hear that.

[@sandersonbr18]

making hiv criminal is wrong... hiv is no longer death sentence.... And any person that does have unprotected sex is responsible for his or her actions and life.... shouldn't hold any hiver guilty. This man sentenced in life prison... can and must sue the goverment for this situation he is in right now. He has to be set free... where are his lawyers?

[@sandersonbr18]

@Simply me you wrong! modern drugs now .... HIV-positive patients can expect to live long just as a non-positive people and have happy lives. Treatments are different from 20 0r 30 years ago. People have antiretroviral treatment that makes the virus undetectable and untransmittable to others. Hiv+ can have babies... that's why bareback sexual activities came back at full speed around people. Misinformation of yours and stigma persist in part because of poor sex education you may have at this moment. One pill a day can make HIV undetectable... accept this as a vaccine every single day of your life until the cure is ahead. Hiv is not a death sentence anymore!

[@brendawalters93]

Lenny I pray for you and your health. Be strong you are an amazing person

[@stevejohn429]

A while ago I was inspired after watching a couple of coming out videos. Now, I am aspired after watching this because it takes a full throttle gut to confess, confide and contemplate a past that once haunted you. Regardless, you are living with HAART now, so go soar the sky ! The Earth is yours to discover in your own path. Hugs

[@M60gunner1971]

Why is that so hard to believe? He packs fudge so he'd do anything.

[@blackamericanlesbianprofes4357]

Wow, thank you for posting this interview. I hope Lenny has much support and care.

[@priyanktiwari5152]

I am speechless n I hv this strange feeling in my stomach I feel proud of him that he took the task to report that monster n got him arrested

[@M60gunner1971]

Is that strange feeling in your stomach you regretting sex with other men?

[@oki2660]

That demon derserves the death penalty.. Also promiscuity with people you dont know has cost folks......

[@karlygriffin4435]

Ollie the death penalty is mercy He needs to suffer in jail for the rest of his life

[@mamakalami]

He was so unlucky, infected on the first encounter...

[@a.almulla3811]

People need to stop having sex as strangers. Its not normal , never going to be and and its disgusting. I feel sorry for this man.

[@shaktra1563]

I mean, that’s a good thought but at the same time you need to realize the gay community has a lot of repressed sexual tension. Not using it as an excuse but when some people finally come out, they literally go ham because they have had to hide that part of themselves for so long. The best thing anyone can do is take the right safety precautions. That means wearing a condom and not putting your trust into those who give you multiple red flags.

[@libertasca1636]

Agreed! So terrifying and disgusting!!

[@melissarambo7998]

@@shaktra1563 oh give me a break

[@shaktra1563]

Melissa Rambo 🤔 lol you gay? didn’t think so

[@melissarambo7998]

@@shaktra1563 You are totally using it as an excuse. Take accountability for your behavior.

[@agathangenzirabona8339]

Testing before having intimacy

[@deenabee6279]

Agatha Ngenzirabona - Exactly. I was best friends with the clinic when I was dating after separating and eventually divorcing my husband! Where I live (at that time, dont know what it is now) U were allowed free hiv testing every 6 months. If u came in between 6 months it was sliding scale, so still affordable. I dont know if people forget doctors exist or what.....AND I still used condoms. But I wanted to know what I was looking at in case of condom mishaps. And this is why.

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

Exactly. If I don't see test results in black &wht I don't want anyone touching me inside. You can't go by looks. Those the ones packing the most!!!

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

@@deenabee6279 condoms are the biggest tricks of all. Only abstinence after a negative testing is for sure. Even is someone shows you their last test dates, it doesn't mean they haven't had unprotected sex between then. What's the point of sex if we have to worry about all these diseases!!!!

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Purple Rane well fun fact is most of new contamination are without comdom! So clearly comdoms are not the problem

[@dustywalter1947]

Oraquick is easy to use and FDA approved

[@davidzauni3560]

That feelings how he talks about it 😢 You are really brave to get through this fight with the justice. He get what he deserved. I can imagine how you feeling because i have HIV too. Undetectable also 👍🏼 But in my form it comes from my bpd impulses.. i don't get forced to get it.. it's more like i don't think that this could happen to me as well SO PEOPLE! PLEASE STAY SAFE! IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT BECAUSE: YOU ARE IMPORTANT ♥️

[@jenelleoglesbee8594]

Wow...heartbreaking!!! He was so cautious because of his parents...people are sick!!!

[@blaeck_kitty8149]

I feel so sorry for you. I had a boyfriend for 6 months, he gave me deliberately genital herpes and I know that it is seen as harmless but it has destroyed a huge part of my life. It is so hard Not to give in those negative feelings like wrath and anxiety. I wish you the best.

[@Minnaloushe110]

Post the whole documentary for people who are outside the UK and cannot view it on BBC iPlayer.

[@shittymcrvids3119]

yes please

[@ragnarox16]

Yes!

[@sianpursglove4346]

Is this a full documentary on iplayer then?

[@pia2904]

@@sianpursglove4346 yes

[@pia2904]

Guys use vpn I keep commenting this. They only post full documentaries that are under half an hour

[@justjayok]

Wow, this is so ruthless. I thank him for being courageous and sharing his story.

[@sofiaadams9474]

This is so awful and cruel! Fair play to this guy for sharing his story, it must be difficult :(

[@mariedalencourt3104]

This is so cruel, I'm lost for words!😪

[@jasmineriveraba574]

I can't begin to imagine the pain this has caused you. You are SO strong.

[@sophiemiller9224]

Gosh Lenny you are so brave and because of that this has allowed other men to come forward. So pleased you got him locked up, I hope it was for attempted murder!