I Learnt To Live With HIV: That Moment When

An individual finds perspective from nature to come to terms with their HIV diagnosis.
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[@PluTiD]

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm also HIV+. i was diagnosed 8 years ago at the age of 18. At the time it was a huge trauma for me. However, as I learned more about the virus and adjusted to live with it, as well as being on my medication, I came to understand that the scariest thing about the virus is the stigma and the lack of understanding. These days, having access to medicaiton, makes having HIV just a minor inconvenience for me. We're lucky to be living in a time when it is so treatable.

[@vovanminh999]

in the next 10 years , you will be cure from this virus . just wait and see .

[@alexanderp9509]

van vo AMEN!!! the cure is just around the corner :)!

[@ludiaosewe4500]

Even me but for me I was born with HIV virus sadly 😔😔and I was in medication my whole life some times I would not take medication for 6months straight 😑😑because I just wanted to die 😔😔😷but funny enough when I went back to the hospital my doctors said that my cd4 count was zero so yeah I'm really struggling

[@ludiaosewe4500]

vo amen

[@mariposaorofusionfoodchann7573]

Hats off to you!! Keep healthy for as long as possible!! Bless you!

[@melvinvillamor6107]

So brave of you sharing your story. Thank you.

[@trishtraynor]

I lost many friends to this hideous disease in the 1980s and 1990s. You MUST protect yourselves guys. Go well 🌈❤️

[@da1stamericus]

@Robert Ward I understand where you are coming from. How about married women?.

[@favouritepeople1519]

My friend who is an example to all of us in terms of being married,very disciplined, dovouted christian and everything else that comes with being a good woman was infected by her husband. The woman was so loyal to her husband but HIV found her seated in the house of the Lord. It's really sad that each time l look at her, l am reminded of Jobe in the bible

[@edaguila1975]

I remembered getting my own Diagnosis I was walking from Work And I got a Phone Call And It was the Doctor Personally Calling me And Saying that I my Test Was Reactive and He Said " Mr.****** you are HIV positive " and I stopped and Cried It was September 15,2009 that Day My World had Changed..... I am a Straight man

[@DatActiveGuy]

I’m just looking at my homie, I’m like something ain’t right, I can tell in his eyes he’s going through a fight, popping pills left and right he out there every night, it’s like it’s only getting dark, it’s hard to see the light 🙏🏾 That one mistake is all it takes. That one quick hook up with that jezzabel could be your fate, you’d rather the news be that she’s pregnant and keeping the baby but instead she called to say she you gave you the human rabies 🙏🏾 You were an atheist but now you look up to the sky and ask God why, what did you do to deserve this, you preaching for a second chance at life. God doesn’t give man more than he can handle, maybe you were going too fast and he sent you a sign to calm down or maybe he saw your bad deed and casted the disease that bought you to your knees, that you’re begging please and hoping it’s a bad dream🙏🏾

[@nemospence2724]

How did you get it?

[@mariposaorofusionfoodchann7573]

Wow. One mistake and your life changes.. This should be a lesson to youngsters with a nonchalant attitude. Sad story.

[@naungthaw]

that rather sounds ironic though. just one mistake and how could you know which one is the one that's going to change your life forever?

[@brianmartinez749]

Robert Ward could not be farther from the truth. Shaming your fellow human and using religion as your support is so wrong on your part. Humans created religion as a coping mechanism and to create rules so that everyone can be the same and be controlled. This was not a punishment. It was a cause and effect situation. I am sending him all my love and support and he is brave for speaking out about it and sharing his story.

[@tupikahielos4758]

IT happened to anybody

[@Mrscarricom]

Sadly loads of the 'more mature 'community are still making this mistake. A nurse shared with us this 65 year old wasn't feeling well but the cough wouldn't leave her after several antibiotics, The doctor asked the nurse to ask her if she would consent to a hiv test which to these young nurses came as a shock 🤔 the test came back positive , those nurses most in there late 20's couldn't phantom that. So the knowledge is for EVERYONE , because of the lifestyle people are living their will soon if not already have hiv dating sites , people who dont have aids will be on it looking for a partner,I heard a guy said 'could as might as well catch it now medications are better' I thought what a sad man.

[@Mrscarricom]

@Robert Ward you lost me with the' GAY' talk you're sure you read my comment correctly or this was intended for someone else.

[@jeffreyskinner7002]

Thank you I respect you for sharing your story . I have lived with hiv for 3o years . You are lovely .

[@justinamusyoka4986]

Thank you,i've lived with the virus for 30 years now also and i'm happy meds found me waiting. Its a rough journey full of uncertainty. Shalom.

[@arung5905]

Really you're great

[@arung5905]

@@justinamusyoka4986 you and your life is very strong and valuable than others

[@DaveHumphrey2514]

Very inspiring.

[@jeffreyskinner7002]

My case a man I trusted who is a star ballet dancer lied about his status . Please people protect yourself .

[@Ngim905]

Jeffrey Skinner Why didn’t you sue him?

[@tyronesmith4622]

What a handsome, inspiring man.

[@starsigngirl9789]

He’s so hot xx

[@onengkusumah2905]

that's life. there are people that have unprotected sex for years and never catch STD, and there are people that always use protection, skipped once or twice, and got life changing surprise. Life fak us all good lol

[@thatomalemela9774]

True

[@gdroce8569]

I used to think it's something that happens to other people and I would never be like that but just like that one mistake and your life is changed forever. He is right it takes time to really process it and there are good days and bad but it dosent define you and it's not the end of the world... This is where im at, thanks for this🙂

[@cosmic2096]

✌🏽🌎😑

[@MustacheCashStash125]

He’s a very handsome young man. I’m glad he’s doing fine now. Don’t let your medical conditions let you down!

[@user-xx4uj9rk8o]

I'm also infected with HiV. I am 25 years old. I got infected from my last boyfriend. In my whole life, I have only 3 boyfriends I don't think that the nightmares that I always fear will happen to me. Over the past year, I have always concealed my family, friends, and people around me. I'm not happy Because the society here Thailand is not yet open for this disease and people still hate it. I'm in paranoia I have to keep myself quiet.And it's hard for me to find work, I want to move to another country that nobody knows me

[@user-xx4uj9rk8o]

Robert Ward thank you very much ❤️😘

[@it-ke9od]

please dont infect more people. if you do that's considered murder...

[@sherrybaba3418]

you are a brave girl

[@user-xx4uj9rk8o]

sherry Baba No I am a gay!

[@Jax2533]

that's why..don't do sex before marriage, and get tested before marriage

[@daryleden152]

So much respect hope things in life go well for you x ❤

[@aaronmartinezsmith]

I got back a day after to that clinic just to be sure that yes I'm negative... And the doctor called me inside the chamber.. And he told me that I'm 'positive' I'm 20 years old.. And my world got upside down and pitch blank for 5 or 10 mins.. And I knew that I had nothing to do and nowhere to go to cure it.. Its been 3 months now that I'm under medications.. Its been a tough way ever since.. But I've learnt to live with it ❤️ and so will you... The biggest sideeffect that you'll face is your own fear and depression.. Don't let that overcome you. Ever. It's not the end of the world.. Yeah? 😊 Take that one pill everyday.. And live on.. U=U

[@arung5905]

Positive man

[@mundo3240]

I got diagnoses 3days ago. And i feel my world is still in amess

[@AaronW-ww4ds]

As long as you take the medication you will become undetectable and will not ever be able to pass the virus on to someone negative as you don't have enough of the virus in your viral load it only spreads from those newly infected , don't know they're positive because they've not had a std test or had a std check and got a negative first time thinking they're negative only for a few months later another test positive as it can takes weeks to months for it to incubate and show up on a test and not on treatment and have a large amount of the virus in viral load and even though there's 3 stages of HIV before the 4th and final stage which is AIDS with the treatment sooner rather than later noone ever reaches to the later stages thank god

[@flyboysagar]

What was your cd4 count?

[@fernandocorreia5096]

May We chat with whatsapp? I am a recent infected

[@JimmiAlli]

This guy looks so lovely. I wish him all of the best.

[@Jess23icaaci32sseJ]

Every time you have unprotected sexual relations with someone you’re putting yourself at risk.. it’s sad that it happens to people but this is why they need to teach kids and young adults about the importance.

[@arung5905]

Absolutely true

[@rob162100]

Definitely! London do a great ad campaign in autumn but they should run it throughout the year. Info is key. I think a lot of people would have their perception change

[@AaronW-ww4ds]

It doesn't always come down to unprotected sex. My uncle was a paramedic had to use a needle on a patient who was HIV positive in a moving ambulance withdrew the needle and it slipped into him then boom ended up HIV positive and died before I was born. But this day and age there's measures that can be taken which includes prep also once someone with hiv becomes undetectable they can no longer pass the virus on due to the fact they do not have enough of the virus in their viral load the only time it can be passed on to someone is if someone is newly infected/ thinks they're negative when they're positive and hasn't had a STD screening ( which is quite a lot of people never have a STD screening which sexual health clinics recommend being tested every 3-6 months )or is not on treatment as they have huge amounts of the virus in their viral load and if you ever think you've had sex etc with someone whos HIV positive detectable go straight to the clinic they'll put you on a month supply of pills aslong as it is within the first 72 hours

[@dyazkiprit]

i feel you, we share the same burden. i wish we're close i really want to hug you. we all need to stand together, encourage each other, keep healthy, and i have a big faith that one day, the cure is possible. and i wish it's soon.

[@ryanblack3285]

Wow. July 11 is my day too. Only a different year. So glad you were able to learn to move on and know that it doesn't define you.

[@rob162100]

So thankful for prep and u=u, we will beat this. Never forget those we lost but people now will live long lives. Let's continue to fight stigma! For those reading you can get prep no charge on the nhs, let's protect our community

[@AaronW-ww4ds]

In Wales it is on the NHS and free like all prescriptions in England you actually have to pay for it and people with HIV on their treatment they become undetectable and can not pass the virus on its only spread by those who are positive and haven't had a STD screening and by those newly infected and those who are not on their treatment and have huge amounts of the virus in viral load

[@dean9330]

What a guy. You are a special person. Your story will help people x

[@billieribot6339]

You are amazing. Your words helped me a lot. Thank you. Hugs from Argentina!

[@arung5905]

Fact

[@JimmiAlli]

It is so unfair. Sometimes life can be inexplicable.

[@ijt3131]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@KimPhilby203]

You beautiful precious Soul....sending love .....Cork ....

[@FINEDIAMOND]

Much love and respect to this beautiful man. ♥️

[@dnats275]

The good thing you look healthy and beautiful thank God that your still breathing ..your not even alone ..lol

[@jaleosupply2862]

Thanks to share you history nobody has to judge you,,,I wish all the best..Take care yourself, you are so cute...Bye.

[@majidcarti5277]

God bless you.

[@takudzwamazwienduna]

Beautiful! Thank you man.

[@Mr.Majestic77]

I see and hear a LOT of stories of gay being infected and women as well but not that many heterosexual men. Why?

[@vanillasugar4119]

I read somewhere that it's harder for heterosexual men to contract it because the virus isn't as strong in vaginal secretions. But easier for a woman to contract because the virus is stronger in the semen.

[@starsigngirl9789]

Italia oh wow !! Xx

[@arung5905]

@@vanillasugar4119 you're saying that true..???

[@Fantabbydozy2608]

Beautiful video. Thanks for sharing this. ❤️

[@justinamusyoka4986]

I respect your humility in explaining your life.Now i think you've changed your lifestyle back to normal. I have lived with the virus for 30 years now and more closer to my creator.I regret my earlier lifestyle.

[@arung5905]

Really you're great

[@tshepomahura5425]

Hello sorry to hear such news....and thank you for your story....if I may ask after how long did u test positive after the exposure

[@rahulaggarwal7296]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Keep well man.

[@abrahamcharifs]

Thanks so much for sharing ur story… Very motivating

[@incognitooooooooooooo123spy]

wishing him all the best :)

[@aminaly6215]

Stay strong and positive. U not alone. ❤️❤️❤️

[@gisellekirby3352]

This is so inspiring

[@cryptopiacreep7301]

Unreliable rapid test 😢 but always get thrown people say your just having anxiety

[@rdsunsb]

Knowing your status is important. HIV is no more dreaded if you take the medicine regularly and in fact many are leading normal life and are healthier . People with diabetes, blood pressure, cholesterol, mineral deficiency take Mede daily. Just know your status! Also go on prep discovy or truvada.

[@elanacurl]

Love you sweetheart and chin up 🥰

[@nickygreenfingers]

Open your eyes

[@honestysaveseveryonealways5095]

Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏 x

[@Iworkwithnitwits]

He must have never heard of Alison Gertz or Rae Lewis Thornton who got Aids after one unprotected sex act. It only takes one time.

[@stroop3666]

I see it differently. I too have acted irresponsibly in the past, but I ALWSYS feared HIV could happen to me. I am amazed by people who are in high risk categories doing high risk acts being shocked by a positive HIV result. I understand being afraid 😨, but I don't understand being shocked. Not judging just wondering. I hear of people meeting folk on tender and grinder and catching HIV after multiple unprotected acts. Now when I took the tests I was SCARED of a + result but not shocked because I knew the risks I had taken.

[@ajeeshsurendran3701]

God bless you buddy.... Ur a strong man...

[@ludiaosewe4500]

Thanks for sharing that I know how difficult it is 😔😔

[@KimPhilby203]

Thanks for Sharing

[@starsigngirl9789]

You are absolutely gorgeous omfg 😍xxx

[@arung5905]

Fact

[@EvilFiyero]

Thank you for this story

[@khadijahmimi5444]

Thank you

[@eldergod2435]

brave but i hope you take that precautions since day 1..but sadly it isnt

[@fernandocorreia5096]

Is it posible to share my whatsapp with people recently diagnoized

[@generalshrooms]

Learnt?

[@dianajames4717]

i just don't understand why people just don't use protection One simple thing to go can help you prevent so much trouble from coming into your life.

[@AaronW-ww4ds]

Not always the case such as rapes etc and condoms are not a guarantee against it either . My uncle was a paramedic and had to inject a hiv positive person in a moving ambulance and took the needle out of the patient and it slipped into him then boom hiv positive and died from it going from hiv to aids there's 3 stages of hiv before the 4th and final stage which is AIDS even though aids doesn't kill you it's the infections and cancers that will because the HIV has destroyed your immune system but in this day and age its not a death sentence and when someone hiv positive becomes undetectable they can no longer pass the virus on due to the fact the viral load doesn't contain enough virus for it to spread it only spreads via newly infected , those who aren't on treatment, those who get a false negative std test as can take months for it to show up in the system , and those who don't get the checks as they have a large amount of virus in their viral load

[@dianajames4717]

@@AaronW-ww4ds dam I'm so sorry about your uncle.

[@StanshaVevo]

Beautiful

[@lizichell2]

At least you don't have gertsmann straussler sheinker disease

[@amyclarke41]

aww so sad

[@richardjasonminehart3198]

Oh glacier, I say it like glay shur. :)

[@heatherbowlan9822]

God is walking the walk with you ! Praise him PRAISE HIM ! ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦

[@jaleosupply2862]

Thanks for sharing your history,with or whithout hiv you are a brave man,......Keep goin cute men,

[@DCFunBud]

The music was extremely irritating.

[@marcomartinez2567]

I'm not getting the part he took the finger HIV test was negative, and the test from his arm was positive ?? Like how ?

[@fraxinus_ash]

Presumably the fingerprick test is an instant test with limitations that can only detect a certain amount of viral load. And then they do the traditional blood test, which takes longer but is way more accurate.

[@marcomartinez2567]

@@fraxinus_ash so what's the point on having the finger blood test ? As far as I know you only have the arm blood test when you got positive on the finger one for confirmation, quick HIV test is pretty accurate, so that's the part is not sinking in to me.

[@fraxinus_ash]

@@marcomartinez2567 because it's really accurate after a certain amount of time after exposure. Some people might know exactly when they were exposed and so it could be conclusive but others may not be so sure, so may have a follow up blood test.

[@tannermuncey3379]

Now. They have a fingerprick test that are just as accurate as traditional testing. The fingerprick test that the CDC approves tests for HIV antibodies and antigen. The antigen can be detected much earlier than the the antibodies which is why the CDC recommends you using that fingerprint test instead of the the fingerprick test that just tests for antibodies. It's important to distinguish the difference now.

[@tannermuncey3379]

The new CDC approved fingerprick test can detect HIV anti-gens 2-4 weeks after infection. And it just came out recently. The treatment and testing options for HIV are improving RAPIDLY, no pun intended. It is estimated that we will have a cure and vaccine for HIV in 2030!

[@tala5548]

I’m so early tf

[@magacaleb4763]

Cuz of bareback !!! Wear condoms at all times. Don't be silly wrap that willy

[@alna8630]

Sucking all that D**K by the way is exposing to veneral diseases FYI ( just why do we crave it at those times ....)

[@dan11438]

You play with fire, you get burnt. Simple.

[@jesusanchorofmysoulkatheri3648]

🙏🏼❤️❣️

[@mariaangelicavillarraga2334]

What's his name ?

[@richwatkins4471]

His name is Rich Watkins :-)

[@mariaangelicavillarraga2334]

@@richwatkins4471 oh no! You are the same guy of the video?

[@richwatkins4471]

The finger prick test has a smaller window of detection, compared to the blood test from the arm. So as the virus was contacted within the past few weeks, the finger prick test didn't show it yet. Also, I believe that the arm blood test checks for antibodies which the simple finger prick test doesn't (meaning it picks up recent diagnoses more easily). Finger prick tests are great as a quick, easy way of testing someone who has never been tested/hasn't tested in a long time. A more accurate blood test is useful in picking up new diagnoses and to check viral load - sometimes as an indicator of how long ago the virus was contracted. Hope that helps!

[@manuelavinci3552]

@@richwatkins4471 you are so cute🌸🌹🏵

[@laurenbear4670]

Oh... D-,'

[@teacherkevynkillua3450]

i love you☺️☺️☺️

[@markmarcus1556]

🤗🤗🤗

[@vincentpacifico7764]

BLA BLA BLA NOT THE REAL

[@QueenBeeBeautyXO]

My son is Gay,and I worry all the time!!

[@Enigmaticbeacon]

If he is young educate him about safe sex using protection etc.

[@QueenBeeBeautyXO]

@@Enigmaticbeacon He's 36.He knows,I taught my kids about sex at a young age,like 13/14even had a box of condoms in a drawer they could use.

[@PHlophe]

@@QueenBeeBeautyXO, girl he is educated plenty at 36, you are more concerned about the fact that he is gay .

[@Novel._.]

Lechiffresix six just because we educate our children doesn’t mean they won’t make a mistake and one slip up is all it takes. I can see her point. I also have children. None of them are gay as far as I know and I would be fine with it if they were, but we as mothers always worry. That fear is strong with me even though my kids are straight. I’ve talked to them repeatedly about safe sex but I won’t be there to make sure they are doing it. Nor do I want to be. Just saying.

[@arung5905]

I understand your feelings and concern, but you try to give council with healthcare specialist to your son

[@Finn_Kirk]

So early :D

[@samuelthompson8080]

Called it when he said, "I Graduated from Drama school"

[@PHlophe]

sammie what did you get from it

[@renataostertag6051]

Why you? Well, you said it yourself ! You did stuff with guys !

[@rich8607]

Renata Ostertag Wait! It doesn’t mean he will get HIV because he was with a guy. Heterosexual men and women get it just the same . It doesn’t discriminate..

[@Hazardous975]

@@rich8607 Gay people are much more likely to get it though

[@wo3563]

Gay

[@QueenBeeBeautyXO]

When he said he was an actor,I wonder if it was Porn?

[@JaneTheWren]

QueenBee Bargains .....🤦🏼‍♀️

[@mrblackalchemist]

Now that is a stretch

[@joecramp2987]

No it clearly wasn't, stop making presumptions

[@simonbailey8814]

Says a lot about you that that was where your mind went.

[@incognitooooooooooooo123spy]

making assumptions for no reason stop reaching

[@scia3107]

Share your story so you can teach young people like me

[@scia3107]

@illegit 🖕🏾

[@scia3107]

@illegit well next time say that lol