Deciding if moving to the FRENCH COUNTRYSIDE is a good fit for us.

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In this second installment, I dive into other key aspects of living here in France and how we've been adapting to this entirely new culture. All with the ultimate goal of answering the question: Is France really it?
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00:00 - Intro
01:06 - The House Hunt
02:55 - The Airbnb Gamble
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08:06 - Learning French
10:04 - Navigating the New
13:27 - The Final Verdict
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[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

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[@maryking2597]

Can Grammarly make you less whiny?

[@LoveLaRieXO]

@@maryking2597 Probably as much as it can make you less hateful💁🏾‍♀️ Grow up.

[@lanehartwell]

I’m going to step out on a limb here and give you some words of warning. For the past ten years my husband and I have been traveling around the USA trying to find “home.” We’ve spent months in vacation rentals and furnished hotels and it’s truly exhausting not to mention very expensive. During these years we have taken longer leases in homes in different cities and overall I really regret what we did. It has been a giant soul sucking, cash sucking experience that has left both of us with burn out. This past summer we finally bought a house but realized a month or two later that it wasn’t the right house or city for us and we are already talking about selling and moving back to the west. My fear is that you are burning yourself out, and burnout is really hard to recover from. We’re pretty close in age to you and your wife and while we have resilience in some ways, we don’t have the boundless energy or patience of being young and seeing everything as an adventure. If anything I would advise you to just lease a place for a year or so and take your time with finding a home to buy. You honestly seem very stressed and frustrated in your videos, and I get it. Find a house to rent, move your things in, and stop living out of a suitcase. Also, I feel for Cecilia, I’ve had three kidney stones over the years and it’s the worst. Hope she has seen a doctor and had a CT scan.

[@safaabahar2786]

I like your advice and I hope you find home and peace wherever you go. Also, I think renting can be good start.

[@darladressler]

Very good advice, we have thought we found THE place several times and have lived in all parts of france

[@mynamename5172]

@@bodilyc Haha true. Not even the French like France that much, unless you say something negative about it. Then they get mad, bien sûr. If you look at the "youtubers in chateaux" scene you will notice that a) it is a business for them and b) they seem to hang out and work with other ex-pats a lot. I am sure it works out fine for some people, but don't be hard on yourself if it is/was not for you and good luck settling back in to the US!

[@bodilyc]

@@mynamename5172 Thank you. I guess if we hadn't done it we would always wonder "what if" But what an expensive lesson we learned.

[@taral.ackerman918]

Well said. We are planning on moving from the US (either to France or Canada) and our plan is to rent one place for several months in both countries, make a decision, and stick with it. Thanks for sharing your experience and the advice that comes from it - it is much appreciated. And best of luck to you and your husband too in your quest for home.

[@anaanastasoglou9498]

The way i see it, until you change your mindset no place will be perfect for you. Until you accept that things cant be the same as the us, the process of relocating to another country wont be easy. The beauty of moving to another country it is to adjust, absorb, and welcome change!. como decimos en espanol. " Donde vayas, haz lo que vieres" . Food for thought.

[@infodrop231]

I said the same, it didn't go down well. Watching with interest...

[@agithehun]

100% agree

[@ananastea]

I don’t think they were expecting perfection? It’s normal to be upset with airbnbs being not what was advertised at all - or with bureaucracy, things that could’ve been made convenient for everybody yet they are not. It’s not like someone came to a country to criticize its culture, people or whatnot. I don’t quite understand the purpose of this comment maybe, from my perspective it picks at people just sharing the highs and lows of moving - as is, but why?

[@christinabayma119]

@@ananasteaI totally agree with you. I don’t think they were expecting perfection. I’ve certainly experienced accommodations, or just AirBNB, that were beyond disappointing. There’s no excuse for filth. Most of my experiences have been great. Some have certainly been ok but didn’t match their photos, at all. We’ve only left one place early and we weren’t able to get any of the money refunded but we were ok with it and decided it was worth the money loss to move elsewhere. It’s all part of the adventure. Which is what this family is sharing too. They’re up for the adventure even though they have some requirements. Don’t we all really, especially as we get older?

[@todrapayne]

As someone who has moved to another country, I think you're missing what this couple is saying. They aren't complaining that there are no McDonald's in their town. They are expressing frustration with trying to meet their simple goal of finding a place to live and dealing with Airbnb hosts lying about accommodations. Those are not cultural or mindset issues.

[@jml4774]

Please post more frequently. Your content is interesting and I really like seeing it. My husband and I were going to try a year in France but you are making us see reality!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Trying for monthly now. Best I can do. These take a lot of time! In any case, thank you so much for your support. 😁

[@Songbirdstress]

​@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Hiya, first time I've been critical :p Real estate in France, you need to call the agency and ask for a viewing on a property you like. Then, if you like the agent, make a relationship with them and they will look out for properties which suit you. It's very easy and you don't need to be locked in to one person. Go down high streets and walk in. They often have lots of things that aren't in the window. They can also help you find something to rent while you're waiting. Renting is hard in the countryside, people want to sell not rent. A b n B is horrendously expensive. You never know, you might find something you love and buy it afterwards. (I just finished the vid, and you got that one :) , why don't you buy the house?) 2nd, you must sort out the health care. Medicine is mainly socialized in France, and they will treat you, but it's totally not fair to sponge off other people paying for your health care. Especially as you can get insured for not very much. Big social no no in France. You will be looked askance at if you don't. French is a must. People DO NOT have to speak American in their own country. (Though lots will try, especially young people). But, it's what I call the low point of the year, and where everything is at its most depressing, so hang on in there, spring will spring very soon :)

[@mirthacacho2630]

Please post more often loooove your content and energy

[@niallmcdonagh1093]

One of those few KZbin 'events'...a posting from Beneath Surface...I prepare something to eat/drink..and settle in....and nearly spew it out my nose in laughter when Chucky visits the Air BnB!!!!

[@RetiredExpatEnjoyingLife]

Still try it! 80% awesome, 20% struggles.

[@jennyoung586]

I can't begin to tell you how much your videos have been appreciated by my husband and me! We are Americans in our fifties who, like you, have become dispassionate with the quality of life here, and have set our sights on relocating to France or Portugal. Thank you for sharing your experiences so transparently. Looking forward to what comes next for you two!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you so much, Jenn! :)

[@blakehahn-atlantaga8510]

Great vlog! Love your honest delivery and great info! Really well done!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

@@blakehahn-atlantaga8510 Thanks, Blake!

[@stayfocused1041]

Watch out for immigration issues and the insecurity that stems from it. Not everyone immigrates from the US and wants to integrate!

[@kristinab1078]

From someone who has lived overseas for a long time, there is usually a tradeoff when you move from the US. For example, you may find more affordable healthcare elsewhere. However, you may drown in a sea of red tape and inefficiency when trying to accomplish anything in many countries compared to the US. I guess it's what you prioritize the most and what you can tolerate. Rarely, can you have it all.

[@midwestlakelife]

I give you both so much credit. This is why people don't move. It's hard. It's challenging. Add on top of that moving to a country where you don't speak the language. You both are incredible. Thank you for showing us how much work goes into moving your life from one continent to another. We all have fantasized about it, but goodness, it's very challenging.

[@not-even-german4892]

Moving is great though 👍✅💚

[@amandabradley6256]

Oh I’m so hearing you. 7 years ago we packed up our 3 kids and 2 dogs and a cat and moved from Australia to India. It has had so many Ups and millions of downs…..and just when you think you have a handle on everything…..a curveball. We’ve moved between two states. 5 houses, went through a 2.5 year school lockdown due to Covid, but wow it’s been an incredible journey. One our boys will never forget.

[@GrunonFeliz]

It is uncanny how your present reality mirrors ours. My husband and I sold a ton of our stuff and set off to move to Panama but as soon as we arrived, we realized it was not the place for us and moved to Chile. We love it here and found that warm feeling in a southern region called Aysen. We rented a house for the summer (it’s summer here now) and in May, we will bed in the daunting task that you are on of finding our spot. Thanks for outlining the process so poetically and realistically.

[@Revan89]

Bienvenidos a Chile

[@AccrochezVosAiguilles]

OMG, I totally get it! I’m a Brazilian who moved to France in my twenties, then to the US in my thirties (married and 1kid), then came back to France 5 years later with more kids, then we bought a house … I feel bad for the language barrier you are facing… I’m fluent in French and Portuguese and speak decent English. If you need a little help communicating you can ask me a hand (or ear, or mouth😂) . Good luck and I hope you’ll find a home that you’ll love!

[@Ari-hn7gd]

Decent English? Based on this comment. Your English seems excellent!!

[@mw5755]

Thanks for sharing your experience. After a few years in France we can confirm that France (especially in the country) makes you work for EVERYTHING and a lot of patience is required. But things usually (🤞) work their way around to a resolution. It’s a mistake to assume that because France is a another western country, the French will always think and respond the same as in the USA or Australia, in our case. We’ve found that they approach and resolve issues very differently and it takes some time to get into that “groove”. But we are the immigrants so that’s on us.

[@bodilyc]

Accurate feedback, being an expat in France is the most difficult and (almost) soul destroying thing I ever did. Patience in abundance is needed and you will work 100times harder for even the simplest task to be accomplished.

[@matthawksworth]

Its possible for things to NOT work out into a nice resolution. Its easy to go broke, then you're stuck. Please, do thorough research before hand and do not just go on a whim bc a place seems dreamy or being there for a few days felt good. People date usually for a year before marriage, not a few days and this is the same sort of thing. There are many factors to consider when deciding on a new home.

[@bodilyc]

@@matthawksworth Absolutely could not agree more. We finally left France last year and the financial ramifications of having bought property there and EVERYTHING that went wrong has almost destroyed us financially.The French do things so very differently and if you are a foreigner they WILL take advantage of you and be dishonest in dealing with you. Biggest mistake of my adult life.

[@stayfocused1041]

@@bodilyc I am a French expat - going over 40 years of expatriation now - and I understand you 100%!

[@DANIELJRAINEY]

Retired in January 2022 from the USA, as we spent 2022 in and out of the Schengen waiting for citizenship appointments. Cyprus, Croatia, Montenegro, and Bosnia definitely have a range of Airbnb experiences. We had some really awful experiences. Finally we are in our purchased property in Italy. But now it’s healthcare, taxes, and eventually a drivers license. All of which are specifically complicated in Italy! We feel your pain

[@Infragelb]

Honestly you two, being a young adult navigating life and prioritizing what is important, this channel gives so much practical insight and offers life experience our generation can only wish for. Thank you for sticking around and offering your perspective, even if this channel stays a side project for you both documenting and supporting your endeavors. Your son really grew up with the right framework of inspiration and values to enable his youtube story!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you Julius, for your lovely words! 🙏❤️😁

[@loricronwell89]

Having recently journeyed from Portland, OR to purchase a house in French countryside, I empathize with all you are going through - the crazy house-hunting process, the less than ideal Airbnbs and especially learning the language. I’m doing it all solo and in my 60s! And I wouldn't change a thing. I had no problem opening a bank account, but I am very interested in the process of obtaining a French driver’s license. I’ve heard it can be an expensive and arduous process. Please let us know how it goes, and bonne chance!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Lori, and you too! :)

[@janebaker966]

Watch the video by Jay Swanson on this subject.

[@maddscientist3170]

why not just get an International Drivers license in the mean time using your US based license until you actually move to France

[@loricronwell89]

@@maddscientist3170 It's good to have an International Driver's License, but once you become a French resident, you have up to one year to obtain a French Driver's License and it's not a fast process.

[@loricronwell89]

@@janebaker966 Thanks! That's a great video. It's all possible.

[@nylesgregory2120]

So - brief update from your #1 Fan from Portugal. I'm a little ahead of you and chose to stay and "embrace the discomfort," (Minute 3:40 on your vid. of "Shocking reality of moving to Europe") instead of shit-canning the idea altogether and spring-boarding to France instead. I've reviewed your "Shocking reality/Europe" video three times, because it hit home so hard. Anyway, #1. I've found the Dream Home. #2. I'm in love with the surroundings = 270 degree views of Atlantic Ocean AND Canyon. However, locals in neighborhood were not trustworthy and had to install security/surveillance system to keep everyone honest. So there it is on next steps in the chapter of "Embracing Discomfort." Pray you have better luck when you get to this point in your journey. I am anticipating five full renovation projects over the next two years. That's my horizon. Will be very interested to see if/when your dream home will also require an upgrade and how well you're able to obtain labore support and materials/supplies to make the home meet your signature needs. I'm really looking forward to that part of your journey. From one hard to please customer to another - we're Birds of a feather. Best of luck and wishes always in all ways. Sincerely, Nyles. Josh - the Quality of your videos is nothing short of awesome. Prayers for Cecillia (sp.?), I hear passing a kindey stone is one of the most painful experiences in life (male or female). Yikes!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Awesome comment, Nyles, thank you so much. Wishing you all the very best. And yes, a lot more to come on our future home… once we find it!

[@V_Reimagined94]

You two are inspiring me. Thank you for being open with your journey and showing us the nitty gritty of moving abroad. I love your relationship AND feel more aware of what to expect when trying to live in outside of the US.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks!

[@theparisiancorner9622]

Haha just for the food i would not leave France !

[@mynamename5172]

@@theparisiancorner9622 French food is the best! And although they are not afraid of butter, bacon and wine it seems to be quite healthy for them. Probably because it is real food grown there, and not whatever we get here in the US where even the organic healthy stuff lacks flavor and texture. I just walked by someone eating a chicken breast (plain), with broccoli from a plastic bag. Because it is healthy! But is it? Really? Maybe, but it certainly brings the eater no joy. Nor the rest of us smelling that bag o broccoli! =)

[@theparisiancorner9622]

@@mynamename5172 Being a French chef myself, i could not agree more with what you say. Thanks for your comment

[@flytec]

I always set time aside when your videos pop up in my feed. Being an "older guy" my self, I really appreciate your videos. There is something - refreshing - seeing more mature people taking the leap into the unknown. I wish you the best of luck on finding your forever home in France.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you so much, my friend. :)

[@venuskirby8243]

Thank you for the update on your journey!!! I really appreciate the transparency of your family adventures. I hope you find your home soon 😊

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you so much, Venus. :)

[@Danipallone]

What a great way to end a Sunday watching a video of your adventures! I must say the whole real estate process reminds me a lot to the Argentinian system back in the day when I lived in Buenos Aires. After all, there is plenty of European influence in Argentina! This series is so wholesome and real, and I feel like I'm in France with both of you. I wish Cecilia do not get more Kidney stone pains so she can keep up being her wonderful energetic self. I truly admire how persistent you both are on following your dreams and learning new things and I also look up to the way you both deal with obstacles together with so much love and patience. I can't wait for the moment you can settle down in your new home, but in the meantime I enjoy seeing your adventures so much!

[@101hamilton]

You two rock! I’m the same age and get so much inspiration from watching your wonderful videos. Thank you for sharing your adventures, inspiring the rest of us and creating such high quality content.

[@JeanPaulConnock]

I wanted to offer a very sincere thank you for the transparency and open communication of all the challenges you've encountered on your journey. I'm turning 50 this year and my wife and I have begun to consider France as a retirement / semi-retirement destination in the next year or two. Moving from Canada, with one francophone and one willing-to-learn anglophone, presents a daunting opportunity. Your videos are helping put the effort into context. Thank you .. merci, merci, merci!

[@kaireenaraj3010]

Your videos are so motivating, realistic, and down to earth! You tell it like it is, not hiding the challenges that definitely can be frustrating, but also manageable at the same time. I feel like I'm on this journey with you guys, that's why I just subscribed! Hope Cecilia feels better soon and gets relief!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Kaireena! Love it when people get it. :) She's doing great now, thank you!!

[@christine2014]

Your positivity and determination, but also your realism, are inspiring for anyone contemplating moving to a different country, completely out of their comfort zone. I'm French but I sympathize with your difficulties when it comes to French admin. After living in the UK for 25 years, I often found myself tearing my hair out trying to understand how things ran in my own country, even without the language barrier you have to face. Two things that you might find helpful: DeepL to translate your written communications into French. I use it professionally, it's excellent. And for money transfers from anywhere to anywhere and opening local accounts in lots of different countries: Wise. I've used them for several years. Bon courage with everything and bonne chance with the house hunting!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Christine! :)

[@annawest1854]

thanks I will try from Russian to English

[@christine2014]

@@annawest1854 If you are referring to DeepL, quality varies from one language to another - I hope RU to EN will be as good as EN to FR.

[@djlondon7956]

Positivity? Where?

[@kristinab1078]

@@djlondon7956 Perhaps "reality" would be a better term than "positivity." Transparency is always appreciated by anyone who may be considering spending their hard earned savings on an international move.

[@carrielamarr2845]

Thanks for the update. I cannot imagine finding the time to put this out on KZbin, but grateful. Your experience is providing valuable insight for the rest of us. truly. I wish this entire process had been easier for you both, but sincerely believe the light is at the end of the tunnel. Cheers.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Carrie, for your sweet words. :)

[@TheMidlifeGallivanters]

We have loved following along since the very beginning and are delighted, that the two of you, are in the final stretch of the game... I know you have a ways to go, but we are rooting for you! So excited to see how you navigate the buying process and find that French home.

[@kathy2910]

Your videos are so interesting and well done! Thanks for taking us along!

[@yvonnebirch6026]

Thank you for the update. Your hunt for a home may be frustrating but once you find the right place it will be so rewarding ! Great video ! I left Europe long ago but will always miss it. Soon it will be spring and you will find your home in beautiful France. Much love from an old Dutch lady in California. 💕🌷

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Yvonne! :)

[@David_10157]

This was interesting to watch. Good luck with learning French. I’m an older learner myself, and a year and a half in, I feel like I’m barely finding my rhythm. It’s not as easy as some would think, and I say this as someone fluent in English and Spanish. Commit to a little every day, and don’t neglect grammar. Looking forward to the next one. Cheers!

[@lencomua]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It motivates me a lot ❤

[@narcissismrehabilitation]

Keep kicking ass, you two! Thank you for your channel and sharing your story!

[@noremu3165]

You are coming back to US...that is all I see with you guys...good thing you both are in it....and have eachother

[@banzy3]

Respect to you both - not many people willingly go from a comfortable life to one of uncertainty and discomfort, but it feels like much of the battle has already been won. You have years ahead to explore your new region and enjoy all the cultural changes, and there's nothing like moving to a new country (especially with a change in language) to keep you in the present moment... Add to that the reassurance of having your children close to hand. Looking forward to seeing how things unfold... As someone who made the journey to France many years ago, I find it all so very relatable.

[@ccj7942]

I love love love your attitude and way of seeing life! You are an inspiration to many, not just people in your age range but to everyone. Thank you and I agree with the other comment, please post more often and keep sharing your wisdom!

[@debbieottman4207]

Love love your channel!! Your attitude towards life in general is so positive! You are both so brave taking on this challenge and you already know you will be rewarded! You are taking all the steps with smiles on your faces and I'm so excited for you to find your lovely future home😊🇨🇦

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Debbie. You're the best! :)

[@3506Dodge]

that's how many French people live. Simple, modest functional housing is common in France. It doesn't have the financial/credit system to pour money into housing as in the English speaking countries. So, there is no incentive to create zillow or redfin like sites and large accessible markets in housing. Housing is just for living in in France, It's not seen as an investment with the possible exception of central Paris and a bit along the eastern Riviera. French people would think the places you stayed were fine and would wonder what you were complaining about. Even middle-class French people live simply and have little choice about housing. They take what they can find and assume you'll see it the same way. It's all very different from the US.

[@koalathekyle]

You guys make such a great video + editing (that Chuckie doll...) and tell such a fun and earnest story of this life arc. Look forward to hearing and learning more updates in the future! Heal up!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Kyle. 🙏😁

[@koalathekyle]

@@BeneaththeSurfaceYTBeen following since the beginning. Fellow Oregonian who has once lived abroad and chases that dream again. You both are very interesting to follow and your story is so earnest and pure. Wishing you both the best!

[@agyos]

Delightful and informative, with a handful of sobering, and a dash of hilarity. Merci!

[@charmaineferguson1242]

I love how you explain stuff in your videos!! :) You are a great story teller. Thanks for sharing and taking us with you on your awesome journey.

[@eileencronk7520]

Have been waiting for more content! Your presentation is so engaging and informative! Que bella aventura. Gracias por incluirme.

[@stockkiller9587]

I would advise you to rent first before buying. The rents are generally reasonable and it gives you much more time to really make a good choice about location and house. Frais de notaire are expensive so it is not very easy to sell fast without losing money if you don’t like your house or realise that there are hidden issues. I bought a country side house and overpaid it as I was from Paris. I am sure it is even worse for foreigners. Most of the houses are very old and require a lot of renovation. Plus there are new energy saving rules in France which make it risky to buy old houses. France is not easy - rent first, especially prices are bound to drop with higher interest rates

[@trique9776]

Just a suggestion, when you critisize something about the way that things are done, its important to not be biased. There are many times other positive things that come to light if you look just below the surface. For example, not having the central real estate database like in the USA, this means that each individual agency is more in tune with their set up properties rather than having a realtor show any place in the US in the database, and they may know very little about the place. That being said, I enjoyed the video, and good luck on the house hunting.

[@kellibauer238]

Love following your journey! Best of luck in finding a home and mastering a third language. It definitely gets harder the older we get, but you’re right - it does keep life exciting and our minds sharp.

[@chrismd00]

I'm so happy I found your channel! I've been following since you left PDX. Your videos are great and very helpful, and I really like your positive attitude! Change will keep you young, and challenges will help that "old noodle."

[@leslieweiser5455]

I feel like I have been moving with you both! I think of you two often and send only love your way. Happy for your adventure & hope ours isn’t to far away…

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Leslie. :)

[@EMarie85]

Love your perspective in this. It's been a similar journey when I purchased abroad a year ago and every few weeks brings a whole new thing to learn and resolve (and I'm fluent in the language!) -- banking, repairs, property management, tenants, local utilities and taxes -- it has often felt overwhelming. But your video drives home what I keep telling myself -- I made this decision for a reason, and it's worth seeing through. Thanks for the inspo

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Elizabeth. :)

[@sallyscrive]

So happy everything is working out for you both. This videos are se motivational anche inspiring, thank you ☺

[@GlobetrotterGranny]

I absolutely LOVE the raw authenticity of your videos sharing the good and the bad of your experience. This is often lacking on other folks videos. As someone who is contemplating an expat lifestyle down the road, what you are sharing is invaluable. Thank you!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

So happy to hear. Thank you, Rebecca! :)

[@gatatica1]

Los admiro muchisímo! Cambiar la rutina después de tantos años es difísil pero es exitante para la gente que quiere seguir viviendo y no existiendo. La vida es HERMOSA y tenemos que honrar a Dios por darnosla y una de esas maneras es lanzarnos sin miedo y con confianza de que todo tarde o temprano saldrá bien. El aprendizaje viene en todas formas y siempre pienso en ustedes tienen todo mi respeto porque son una inspiración para mi. Este año cumplo 50 y estoy de acuerdo con ustedes, esta no es edad para quedarse en casa y ser presos de una rutina, al contrario, vamos a vivir! a aprender! a tener nuevas experiencias porque eso es lo que nos mantiene engage in life! God bless you, beautiful people. Hugs from Texas.

[@drewsparkle149]

Tout est compliqué en France, mais une partie en vaut encore la peine. Bienvenue!

[@ludmilacanderton4155]

I love watching your progress. Truly inspiring ! We are on the same journey moving from England to the south west of France . It is an education . Can't wait to see the next instalment.

[@Winterbiker333]

Thank you for your honest explanation of your experience to date, warts and all.

[@sandweiler4640]

Hey guys, good to hear that you picked Yvelines. It is a very large « département » and I am sure you will find your dream house there. I was born in Paris and spend a major chunk of my life near Versailles. When buying your house just watch carefully the “passeport énergétique” as it lowers or enhances the value (and resale value) of your property. It also lowers your bills if you have a well insulated house. French winters are not harsh but still…

[@bethsaari6209]

Good luck on your crazy house hunt! Looking forward to seeing your new home in France! ❤️

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Beth! :)

[@JRspeaking]

Keep these videos coming! So nice to hear from people my age and the experience and opinions you have as a middle aged person.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, and will do! 😁

[@limavox]

Excelente video. Su producción mejora con cada nuevo video. Y tb gracias por la honestidad.

[@nicandtris]

For myself and my husband even being relatively settled here in Germany, the everyday doesn't become mundane because there's always something new or confusing that we're not used to, so I think even when you do settle, it'll stay interesting and to a certain extent challenging. Love your videos, thanks for sharing :)

[@lcwaves]

It is so nice to see a real picture of what it is like to move to another country, it is so easy to romanticize the experience but there are definitely challenges to doing it.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Indeed. Thanks for your support. :)

[@olehleb]

I’m obsessed with your content guys, I wait it much more than the videos of your son Nathaniel (sorry man, love your videos too, but this is something sooo cool). Thank you for your time spent for making this videos :)

[@y.v.g.b.4306]

I would really like to see Nathanial’s videos that everyone talks about- could you post a link here? 😊

[@nolitadinally3279]

I’m so happy I found your channel. I’ve been watching some other channels but this one is by far the most informative.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Great to hear it! Thank you. 🙏😁

[@Ana-Maria-Sierra]

I’m so excited for your decision to stay in Yvelines and I look forward to learning more about it. It would be nice if you could post more frequently, although I do understand that life has been frenetic for you and that you are a professional and perfectionist. 😉 However, something you all might consider is a Q&A. You could request topics or questions before or conduct a live session. It would be nice to speak with you both unscripted. I’m wishing you the best moving forward 💕💕💕

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

A Q&A sounds like a great idea. Will put some thought into it. :)

[@Ana-Maria-Sierra]

@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Awesome! But not too much thought. 🙏🏻

[@franklinstephen3268]

@@Ana-Maria-Sierra Hello 👋 how are you doing?

[@matdurrans3361]

Thanks for part 2, glad to hear that France is really it for you. It is for us, too. Good luck with the house hunting, we tried that route but in the end, after much consideration, opted for long-term rental. We're using the 'house' money for other investments that generate income, avoiding any costs or worry involved in house maintenance, having the option to move and experience another region much more easily (already done, moving north from Tarn to Haute-Loire). It took some extended thinking, having been house owners for so long, but it began to seem more like a trap with more negatives than positives. Get a friendly landlord with a long-term rental option and you can even invest in changing the property to a certain extent (the bit of the ownership element that my wife misses most), but each to their own. Best of luck, big respect for your perseverance and we look forward to seeing where next your journey will take you...

[@stockkiller9587]

I just saw your comments and gave exact same advice and I am French 😊, outside Paris and large cities where real estate market is very efficient and well prices buying in small rural places in France is a gamble I would avoid at all cost (having been burnt myself)

[@y.v.g.b.4306]

I’m thinking of doing the same as well because each time I think am buying my ‘forever’ home, then I find circumstances change and I have to go through the selling process which I hate. And I’m so tired of house upkeep. But I’ve been a homeowner all my life so that would be a big change for me. I like nesting. 😊 And rental homes always have someone else’s furniture in them (and never as good quality or as comfortable as mine or to my taste). But the feeling of liquidating and pure freedom beckons! And I’m really liking just pulling out what I need from investments each month.

[@matdurrans3361]

@@y.v.g.b.4306 Same with us, always home-owners but love the freedom of being able to move so much more easily if the area doesn't suit, or we simply fancy a change. And we rent furniture-free, taking ours with us to each new house, and it certainly helps the new place feel like 'home' that much more quickly. The French law, as far as I can tell, is also very protective of renters, unlike the UK or South Africa (where we have our housing experience) where the law seems to heavily favour the landlord. We feel secure about long-term renting in France, and that's obviously an important element in fostering that 'homely' satisfaction.

[@jjtravis7399]

The very best to both of you.... very inspiring and honest! Thanks

[@marieb3089]

I could not agree more! Good luck with everything!

[@krc5210]

It looks like it is slowly coming together for you both. Very nice. We are visiting France and the UK to take a look at whether moving is right for us. It is fun and informative to follow your journey. Best of luck.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you so much. And best of luck to you as well. :)

[@fairyofdaisies]

i'm always looking forward to your videos! i'm french-american and lived in france til i was about 6 years old and have lived in the south in the united states ever since. and now in my early 20s i, too, hope to move away from here and back to france for a new beginning! there are a lot of steps to get there (including but not limited to relearning french since i haven't fluently spoken it in a decade & saving enough money) so it'll probably take me a couple years at least, but seeing you and your wife go through the process of falling in love with france is reminding me what i miss about it and am really looking forward to being reacquainted with as an adult :) bon courage!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, my friend. Wishing you all the best! 😁

[@ms1295]

Check out this couple- they moved to France via getting an English teaching job kzbin.info/www/bejne/mZOmfJeAeKmbqc0

[@deana4793]

Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you two!

[@Daneiladams555]

I admire your courage and perseverance in holding out for what you want 🎉

[@jaiden9204]

Love that you take your dog everywhere! Had you ever considered moving to Spain?

[@helgaincanada]

I'd love to see the Airbnb that you settled on and the town/area around it. 💕

[@franklinstephen3268]

Hello 👋how’re you doing?

[@thoughtuk]

Great inspiration, wish you both all the best settling and finding your new home.

[@INNO222]

Keep up the great job. All the best!

[@jayclarke6671]

Thankfully my older brother owns seven homes in Spain in Madrid Avila and the Mediterranean. So I'm able to bounce around with only food and transport costs. Unless you've been on a six figure income during most of your career, buying a nice place when you're older is out of reach nowadays due to the steep rise in housing costs across the world.

[@rickemmet1104]

Hey Josh, great explanation as to how things are going, now I know why you don't put out videos every week! Years ago I saw a standup comedian from Hawaii. He said he loved it when the French came to visit the islands, he loved the sound of their accent. He said, "You know, like Jacques Cousteau," and he gave us a sample, "Zee sharks ap-pear a-jee-tate-tid af-ter de-vow-ering two of our camera-men. We ar mov-ving in for a clos-ser luke." Yeah, the language - especially French - is an obstacle! Heck, Spanish is easy compared to French...

[@nicoa6533]

You guys are so motivated, and you are going to be much more settled and really enjoy with far less practical issues in a few months, congrats to you!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Looking forward to that. Thanks, Nico, for the positive words! :)

[@sonicart1808]

This gives me real flash backs....not being able to speak French fluently and trying to navigate normal life while doing this is so tough, unless you've experienced this you will never understand how tough!! I feel for you both ..... my wife and I did a similar thing some years back and it was one of the hardest things we ever did, we were also around your age too..... I wish you the best of luck, thanks for the great video footage and commentary guys.

[@valerieayla4687]

One well known and genuine polyglot (Steve Kauffman) on KZbin talks about how he learned more languages after age 61 than before. I always remind myself of this fact when approaching languages! Du courage!💪

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Nice!

[@leticiapalomino5319]

I love your videos so much. Thanks.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

And thank you right back, Leticia! :)

[@milbethmesa1908]

I really love watching your videos. You two are admirable with the courage you have in facing everyday life. Live life to the fullest!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Milbeth! :)

[@MishaElRusito]

I'm glad that you find positivity even in the setbacks lol keep on going! Great things take time :)

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Indeed they do. Thanks, my friend. :)

[@losarope2473]

Seeing you land in the place I grew up, from a foreigner's perspective, is so weird and fascinating 😅. I'm really looking forwards to seeing how the rest of your adventure turns out !! Yvelines seem like an actually really good fit for you, between countryside and proximity to Paris.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks!

[@mysewingpractice]

I love you videos and am intrigued by the French countryside. I devour each and every clip shown of the rural areas. We are going to the Loire valley in September and renting scooters to tour around. We are even getting our motorcycle licenses here In Kentucky, USA) to make sure we can ride! I look back on some moves I have made, we have moved about 10 times in our 39 year marriage, and I see I have been fiercely negative in some silly issues. Once I was like a rabid dog about a toilet ring! Looking back, I think I was just acting out my anxiety. I know you are loving more than you are recording. I wish you intrepid adventurers the very best!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you so much. :) Yes, loving a lot in the mix of all the challenges. It’s really important to me to always represent it all. Thanks for your support!! 🙏❤️

[@TAG993]

Love how positive you both are regardless of the challenges. Thank you both!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

And thank YOU, Thomas! :)

[@TAG993]

@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT How did you get you pup to Europe? Thanks in advance!

[@dijana8]

I dig your can-do tone is this vid. My journey is very similar in my case left SF Bay Area 1.5 years ago, settling gradually into semi-rural life on a Croatian island. Stayed in airbnb for one week (painful) posted on an apartment rental site for 2 month stay during home search until purchased an old stone house in a village with land. All with a yorkie mix side-kick just to spice things up. Purchased the property, then bought a car. Enjoying road trips from my home, within 5 hours drive can explore cultures, shop, visit friends in Ita, Slo, Ger, Aus, Hungry, Bosnia…so far. Everything you said about why you left PNW and what you hope this next chapter offers: challenging, exciting, learning, delicious…so resonant. This deep dive into the psyche and exploring the world has similar flavor to my 20s, but now 50s. Cheers, and best of luck. I have no doubt your persistence and vibes will pay off.

[@roundpaws]

I love your realistic view of everything. Not always glossing over the bad stuff and explaining why everything is difficult. Most bloggers just show the positive.

[@franklinstephen3268]

Hello 👋how’re you doing?

[@roundpaws]

@@franklinstephen3268 looking at my big move soon to Mexico. Keep ‘em coming

[@franklinstephen3268]

@@roundpaws That’s good, it’s nice meeting with you here. Where are you texting from?

[@roundpaws]

@@franklinstephen3268 San Diego but planning a move to Mexico

[@franklinstephen3268]

@@roundpaws Oh that’s is pretty cool. Well I’m from Florida” how is the weather condition over there?

[@amyspeers8012]

House hunting is crazy here! We did find our house on our own and worked with the sellers….and it still took 4 months to close with my husband doing most of the work. I am embarking on getting to know the healthcare system here with a very serious diagnosis. Like you, I try to keep my focus on the positive. For me, that would be all of my care is covered, nothing out of pocket. Bon courage!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Best of luck, Amy! 😊

[@mexigail]

Another great video! I enjoy your determination. Your chosen place will appear as you have manifested it. Enjoy the journey and the adventures along the way. Looking forward to your next.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Gail! :)

[@Thomassina1]

Love your vids - enjoy watching your journey filled with the fun finds and surprises of moving/living abroad .

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks! :)

[@violetwhite1450]

I left Canada after selling my house in October. We went to several parts of Italy, gave up and now we are looking in France but renting in England because my partner is British. Same issues in France as in Italy real estate agents act like they really don't want to sell the house, that's when they bother answering your emails. In a month my 6 months visa will be up and I have to make a quick decision. BTW I speak French, English and Italian. Did not help me a bit when dealing with the bureaucracy. I also don't have the your budget. I've seen the house you've sold! American money is at par with the Euro. Canadian money doesn't amount to much in Europe so we are limited as to what to buy in case we don't find jobs right away. If only we could combine our situation we would be laughing! I wish you all the best. I really enjoy watching your videos, it makes me feel like I'm not alone. I hope your wife feels better.

[@Sundazs]

AirBNB Gamble, I feel that. I spent a year on the road, with no apartment back home. I bounced around from AirBNB to AirBNB, and dealt with the same struggles. I'm happy you guys found a stable home base. Happy house hunting! You didn't mention Nathaniel's language course. I'm sure he has tips for you. Enjoy the journey!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you! :)

[@brianfilkowski]

Great progress. Very inspirational. I closed on my house in Umbria earlier this month and share your enthusiasm. Also your fears and frustrations but, swimming means jumping in. Keep going!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks, Brian, and congrats! :)

[@carmelitasantos5271]

Luv your videos...what a journey... inspired me to take the plunge and spend time in France this spring. I retired 4 years ago, moved from New Jersey to Florida, to a 55 and up development, and all they do is play cards, go to the pool and go to a restaurant to have a meal. I was used to going to Manhattan on the weekends and I felt alive.... Living here is like I'm in a just waiting to die situation. Your perseverance and determination inspires me. Thank you. I'll say a prayer that you may find the right house, at the right price in the right location and so be it.

[@claravonessen5673]

Realmente cuentan tan bien todo que uno puede transportarse a todas las sensaciones. En el último Airbnb que estuve, tuve que fregar las paredes con cepillo y lavandina, no les digo más. Otro maravilloso vídeo lleno de sensaciones, buenas, malas, pero con un relato magnífico. Me encanta verlos superar cada una de estas etapas

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Gracias, Clara! Y que pena lo que contás. Es realmente lamentable lo que pasa con algunos Airbnbs. :(

[@cannondale514]

Your house-hunting reminded me of A Year in the Merde by Stephen Clarke; in that book, the English character looks for a new home near Paris, and in the winter. Come spring, I'm sure the landscape will be completely and pleasantly transformed.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Look forward to that!

[@ninasperry833]

Keep up the fight! Love your content❤️

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Nina! :)

[@dionline88]

I know you haven't always enjoyed this process, as evidenced by portions of this video - but I had a helluva good time watching it. God love you & Cecelia for going through this process together in good spirits. No, this isn't easy but nothing worth having ever is. Thank you for letting us ride shotgun with you - it continues to be a blast!!

[@PDogB]

Cool that you seem to thrive on all these challenges. I prefer those slow, reliable, mind-numbing home projects over moving abroad. Interesting to follow your progress. I am learning Italian because I love the language, history and people. Any suggestions for fun and effective language learning apps you'd like to share?

[@evazee772]

Hi Guys. Happy you posted.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thanks Eva! 😁

[@dena-mo118]

Your videos are so unique in sharing your experiences. So very interesting! Going into the unknown and relying on past experiences that don't really seem to match up, turn those times into an adjustment and integration of experiences. Being constant nomads makes that adjustment and integration more challenging. So looking forward to where you settle permanently. Glad, in the mean time, you've been able to land in a situation that is good for location and "landlords".

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you, Dena! More on France real soon, you can count on it...

[@deborahdownie8039]

So interesting. Really enjoy your experiences. Hope you find your dream hope.

[@katandantonio]

Quoting Theodore Roosevelt "Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty" You guys are our heroes, it's great to see your determination to live a life of adventure and refusing to fall into the traps of monotony. Your journey is inspiring, looking forward to continuing following along your process of learning and adapting to a new culture.

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Thank you guys! 🙏

[@irinaryvkin5816]

Salut Josh et Cecilia! J'ai suivi votre parcours depuis le "début" - tout est fascinant à regarder. Mais, il y a quelques épisodes, je voulais vous demander - pourquoi pas l'Espagne ? Je sais que je suis partial ici :))) de New York moi-même, vivant à Malaga pendant trois mois... j'adore ça, jusqu'ici tout va bien. Et, quel bonheur, il n'y a pas de barrière de la langue pour vous ! En tout cas je te souhaite bonne chance :)

[@joyfairclough4686]

Ils adorent le calme, ces deux. L’Espagne est beaucoup trop bruyant 😅

[@julies5400]

❤❤❤ love your videos. Impressive! Learning the language, navigating the process - yes my head was spinning!

[@BeneaththeSurfaceYT]

Haha, thanks. :)