People who have no money or specialized skill so how can they move to Europe? How can they work without speaking the local languages?

Given what is happening in the US, with increasing antisemitism amongst the woke left, your decision to leave the country was a good idea.

Thanks for being so vulnerable and share a part of what helped you grow.

"the charm is on steroids" lol! I love it!

Don't worry. People may not want to hang out with you either at this point.

What's the point about complaining about most everything? Mericans...

I am surrounded by people all days long on my job. I communicate well with them, some of them are even dear to me. So, I don't miss interactions. I am married, have a kid. We live a normal, good life, pretty well balanced, we function well with people and our surroundings.. But..we don't have friends, no guests at our home. Why? Because, we don't need, we don't want, we enjoy time alone. Reason? The point of life of incredibly high percentage of people ; 1. Gossiping 2. Always same, boring stories about trivial things 3. Alcohol 4. Pretending, self marketing, comparing 5. Talking nonsense pretending knowing things, but actually having almost zero knowledge 6. Just killing a day wasting it with people who also just kill their day since they have no mental and internal capacity for investing their time and energy for mental rest, thinking, exploring, self reflection 7. Wasting tones of money for stupid I-give to you-You-give-to-me presents for birthdays, anniversaries and tones of other parades that people do today for maintaining their social status (pretending that it is just friendliness and care) So, no thank you dear people. Wish you well, but fk off.

My man, it's easy to make friends in Europe (that's part of why you're there right?) You just have to shed those insular American mentalities and get out there. The are waiting and they will be wonderful life long friends. Ok I disagree with you. Why? Because where you are, France, the people are world renowned for being deeply emotional and impassioned people. You need to find your soul again. You need to go out dancing for starters.

Due diligence makes a difference. It's hard to listen to complaints when you didn't' do you home work.

Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear, so true, I lost my husband of 32 yrs of marriage,come back to Mexico ,that where I grow up, and I find out that 2 of my childhood friends are still here for me anytime I needed.i don’t need more than that,besides my brothers …and my son…take care and thank you….i follow your son too since he started his channel….

Vous avez beaucoup de courage . On a qu'une vie a vivre , autant quelle soit intéressante .

I'm 42 years old and have been feeling like this before COVID. Listen to you go into depth like you did was validating and refreshing.

Hello, I must wanted to say thank you for your documentary of the bravest decision ever you made! Good for you! I am now a US citizen with 2 houses but the more I am watching people leave the US, the better and clearer my understanding is that in a few years I want to find a job in EU and just leave the US forever.. I wonder if such people like you move only after having a job out there (in EU) or you just moved with all full adventure and with no plan?

Hi, you said in one of your videos that there were no good tacos in France but I saw on KZbin an American couple who said: The best tacos in Paris are at the "Candelaria" bar in the third district, so try it ! 😉

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I love and honor your humbleness and willing to share your story here with us

oh my gosh...im right there with you

My dog feels the same way.

I've never had many friends. My biggest problem with some people is their lack of growth and their conversations are just gossip. Tearing people down instead of trying to understand and help them. I have no time in my life for that at all. I am very happy with my quiet life. And the past year I've lost the art of conversation and that's ok as well.

When I think about my parents they had each other and the family, but they didn’t really seem to have “friends”. Yes they had work colleagues, or people they were friendly with on some level. Sometimes these people might even came round for coffee, or dinner……but they didn’t seem to have people around them that they spent inordinate amounts of time with, having regular social meet-ups, and deep and meaningful conversations with etc etc. And now I am their age, I know who the few people that I really like and feel comfortable with are. The rest I will be cordial and pleasant with if they are with me, and again sometimes I might even do coffee/lunch with them, but rarely do I feel the need to develop things any further…..

this is all so vague it's hard to even react to it. "This feels like the end of a long road. And yet, it's a new beginning." OK, but what are we supposed to glean from this?

I agree 💯 👍

I've had a similar viewpoint for about a decade. I've been drawn towards a period deep inward reflection and its put me in a position where I don't relate well to others on a casual superficial level. Small talk feels like a chore and I can't relate well in all social situations until there's a deeper common passion. But I'm heading quickly for retirement and a future move to Europe and I've developed a streak of sentimentality where I'm starting to reach out to old friends a little more I don't know if its because I'm seeing people getting older and sicker and they're starting to pass away, or its because of a stoic tendency towards challenges (this is intentional) and I'm looking to get out of my comfort zone (being alone) and trying to make time for friendships. But I think I get what you're saying and that superficial relationships can feel hollow and while the deep relationships can be fleeting. This video is really thoughtful and I want to say thank you for sharing. And I admire your bravery.

This certainly resonated with me. Early 60's, introvert my whole life, but always one special person in my life. My husband is my best friend. I have my best Girl friend that I see twice a year. We have a two hour breakfast in Spring and Fall. I look forward to that, but basically, that's it. It's all the time I have to spare. On that note, I converse (a LOT) with folks when I am out and about and I do enjoy that, but I am exhausted when I get home and am tapped out again for another week. I garden, I go hiking, bicycling, long walks, read. I'm teaching myself German and piano. Who has time for shallow friends????? I love my life and wouldn't change a thing!

I think our lack of deep friendships in modernity is due to the disfunction of modern communities. We are rarely all rowing the same boat these days. That makes it hard to share a ride.

I'm exactly like this. But on top of all that... I'm also a bit of a dck. If I could find the magic person it would make sense to befriend, I'd be lucky to know him for a year before he'd be tired of my sht.

So totally agree with you, however, it gets a little challenging at times. I do have a special friend that I see occasionally and we can have the conversations that we like! Then, we are on our own to explore and follow our own spirits. Thank you for the video. Cheers

I have/had one friend who's stuck with me since we were 13. That's a 35 year friendship. But after he got married I saw less of him, and after they had a kid you could only visit by appointment. I'm more spontaneous a person than that, plus I have an ongoing illness that means I don't tend to be good at keeping appointments. So when I'm well, I want to do things. What all this really turned into was him hassling me, saying he wants to see me more often, for years... but the only way we saw each other was when I went to him. I've lived in this house, two hours away from him, for a decade now, and he's never been here. Then covid happened. I tried to visit him but he refused to see me because I'm not vaxxed, and he insisted he can't afford to get ill. But I don't have it, I've never had it, and his whole family is vaxxed, so it really shouldn't matter that I'm not. You can't catch something from someone who doesn't have it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ And I haven't seen him in four years now. The irony, I guess, is that later that year he caught cv. He caught it from his vaxxed work colleague, and then went and passed it on to his vaxxed wife and their vaxxed son. I'm still not vaxxed and I've still never had it. What a stupid way to end a friendship. But, as with all my past friendships, it seems that if I don't go to see them then we don't see each other and so we drift apart.

Friends are great for mental health... if you're the kind of person who seeks the approval of others, or if you can't enjoy something without sharing the experience with someone else (because you feel that if it wasn't witnessed, it didn't happen). I know when I've cooked a good meal and I don't need anyone else to eat it and pat me on the back.

Is this a house or manor house or a modern Reno in a bastide

I can concur with what you said, and in so far friendships I believe not all friendships can stand the test of time.. Certainly this is not necessarily a bad thing IMO, as it usually is a sign of growth. I also discovered that meanings talking (small talk) is more exhausting than deep debate or philosophy.. I ended up growing apart from my X wife and her family because I could not engage with them, they loved small talk, and it decimated me…I was physically exhausted after a visit to them.. For some reason my 16 yr old son is showing the same personality traits, although he is very popular at school, but he said to me that I have a very small “social battery”, and he does too. Therefore we easily and quickly tires from engaging in meaningless interactions.. I appreciated your message, thanks.

You seem a bit ‘privileged’.

I my best response to this meaning of this video is DITTO. I feel everything you're saying.

My god this man is insufferable. I want I want I need I need I'm so deep everyone else is so superficial. He doesn't need anyone until the Better Help commercial where he unironically says that no one can do it alone. Glad he has a wife to meet his needs, though I wonder what her perspective is.

Had our first trip to northern France last august and loved it. We are visiting mid France this august as we hope to retire there in approximately 9years, Thanks for the video,helps us out enormously 😊

Thank you for this wonderfully direct, thoughtful and succinct video. At 61, I can completely relate to EVERYTHING you said. I don't wish to be around superficial conversations. That includes with family. At first, I thought there was something wrong with me for not wanting to be around other people. I enjoy my peace alongside my hubby with whom I've been with for 44 years (40th wedding anniversary coming up this June). Life is good as is. One mantra I heard online this morning is, "I am who I am and I am enough." Kinda all ties together with your message. God is awesome that way -- sending loving messages thru others. Thank you again for your fantastic video. God bless you and your family...🙏💕🙏

If you want a friend, be a friend. Don't be a jerk.

My best friends are all 100% from my fraternity brothers from college. We all have a deep common bond. We have been through similar things.

Earrh is flat.

I don't get this idea, "I don't 'need' friends", like if we had friends because something is "missing"... Not to talk about the burden of the spouse to need to be everything in the other person's life!

I relate very much to what you have said here. I, too, have a constantly curious mind, always asking questions, and quickly become bored with superficial conversations. Made a variety of friendships over the years but few have lasted the test of time. Now find myself to be pretty reclusive. I certainly appreciate the value of good friends but am not seeking them out right now. Maybe I am just too sensitive. If my partner goes before me, will likely look at things differently…..

I totally understand.

¿¿¿ Is that "aerial shot" from your house ????? IT'S REALLY GORGEOUS ... AND THE FOREST SOURROUNDING ARE MAGICAL... if i live in a place like that i ll have no problem OF NOT HAVING FRIENDS !!!!!!!!!!!!!

This video has given me permission to be ok with my choice of alone time. I don't have connections with any of my past friendships. As we left childhood, we disconnected with no looking back. At 57, I'm at a great place to grow and not settle on any relationship just to not look lonely or sad. I agree with your definition of relationships. It has to have depth and be intentional. Thank you for sharing and making me feel less alone and more in charge of my life.

Are those your wife's paintings in the opening minutes? They're stunning!

I'm sorry to tell you this but we would probably be good friends. *Now I am a pain in the ass, full disclosure 😁🌴

Find a hobby and a friend will be the last thing you’ll worry about.

I wish I back every night I wasted going out with friend instead of practicing my guitar. Now I’m making up for time by staying by myself.

You have put that very well together and I can relate. You deliver very convincingely that you bring everything to the table to be a friend and your expectations of a friend are very well thought over and quite understandable. I myself have similar standards. you appear to be very content and happy with yourself and yes I hear that you are without friends but not lonely at all and that you have furthermore people who mean a lot to to you and you to them. Everything sounds great. Priciples before personalities! Keep going and thanks for sharing. Markus from Munich.