Detrans Awareness Day 2024 - Why Boys Transition

[@Connie-ty5zb]

Excellent conversation! We need so much more of this. Please do another interview. Thank you both.

[@Poecilia1963]

A very good conversation. "Unique" is a very interesting person and brought up some things about AGP that really need to be discussed in certain circles. It makes it sound a lot like the spectrum for many sexual proclivities, which can range from the occasional fantasy which a person would never consider acting out, to a full-on lifestyle.

[@lizzysmith5365]

One of the things that changed my mind about male transitioners was when my ex came out at trans. He has always had severe mental health issues, and has an incredibly incestious/abusive relationship with his mom. He started identifying as trans after his mom attempted to kill herself when he wanted to move out of the family home at 22. I think that he developed his trans identity because of this event as a way to escape himself/his life.

[@Engrave.Danger]

"True trans" is like "true vegan" if you opt out due to health issues, you're disqualified. It's an honorary goal for the idealogues to strive for but ultimately can only be achieved by living and dying with the belief.

[@jvee8489]

Thank you for this much-needed open conversation. So much that needs to be brought to light - I hope this is shared far & wide.

[@AndyJarman]

North Americans might not know "The Samaritans" is an organisation like a telephone help line.

[@tubenamel]

I don’t know why this has so few views. Excellent discussion! I’m going to share and hope it gets around. I will be back for the follow up conversation!

[@cariroundy7814]

Please do another interview! I want to hear more! Thank you!

[@vincentpsychsa-existential]

Hi! I follow what Genspect needs, so we usually wait until they get requests (you can let them know) or it is Detrans Awareness Day again.

[@BarnabyWild13]

I’m a 6’4” male, 56, in fairly good health. I am fairly attractive I am told. I feel and see I am often viewed as a privileged toxic white male. I can see it in peoples expressions, tone, and body language. It’s distressing because I have always been sympathetic to people of color and the gay and lesbian communities, reading books from many socially conscious authors starting in my adolescence. Out in public I overhear discussions of my “toxicity” which I feel is intentionally spoken loud enough for me to hear. I’ve had a black women glare at me for politely asking if a seat was available at a busy breakfast bar, as if it were a “micro-transgression”. All of this has left me feeling utterly alone. Not liking the characteristics of racists and non inclusive individuals while being viewed as such. Whatever happened to each person is an individual and should be be judged on the content of their character? As a result of all this I am now a non verbal ally who feels my voice is not qualified to speak.

[@gerdolmen]

Sorry to hear that bro, hope you can find support and belonging

[@srose6965]

My nephew is a victim. Men are under attack. I am a woman

[@Woodman-Spare-that-tree]

I’d like to see them get a female pelvis and the shorter female arm bones. Let’s see how they recover from that operation

[@katieandnick4113]

My belief is that all humans are born with what would be considered more of a stereotypically feminine temperament(empathic, generous, cooperative), and that masculinity is more of a “mask” forced upon boys that doesn’t come naturally the way femininity does to girls(and boys). Again, by “femininity”, I don’t mean wearing dresses and makeup and being submissive. Sadly, in this world, few people can even conceive of the concept of cooperation. It’s either dominant or submissive in our minds, though this is not how humans inherently operate. So because masculinity is much harder for males to achieve than femininity is for females, it makes so much sense to me that, up until fairly recently, it was far far more common for men to identify as women than vice versa. I also believe that males repress experiences, feelings and thoughts, and end up manifesting them sexually in a way females do not, which explains AGP to me(as well as other paraphilias). Now, I think that if a boy has parents who are very accepting of him and not concerned about gender roles(meaning they don’t expect their sons to be masculine or their daughters to be feminine, either consciously or unconsciously), boys will not develop confusion about their sex. But this is so rare. The vast majority of people do expect their children to behave certain ways, whether or not they realize they expect this or are putting pressure on them. I actually think masculinity(dominance, greed, rigidity, etc.) is ultimately a product of sustained trauma in both males and females. And the root of that trauma is lack of complete acceptance by the mother. The foundation of security for all humans is the unconditional acceptance of a woman. If a woman accepts you unconditionally, you will feel secure and safe. We are told, from the time we are born, that mothers naturally love their children unconditionally, and while this may be true, it’s not nature that causes mothers to be incapable of unconditional love for their children. It’s the world around us that does that. Sadly, from what I’ve observed when listening to mothers of trans kids or gender confused kids, there is absolutely no self reflection that happens when a child experiences gender confusion, on the parts of their mothers. They blame everyone else(the school, the internet, peers), but never look within themselves to try and figure out what they may or may not have done that contributed to their child’s suffering. Maybe the alternative is also true, in that if a woman hates you, you will never feel secure and safe, and that’s why society allows women to believe whatever it is they want to believe that feels comfortable to them. We just really don’t wanna piss off women. Least of all, mothers. So we tip toe around the enormous elephant in the room, which is that nobody plays a greater role in the life of a child than their mother. I’m not saying mothers deserve blame, because that implies that they are the way they are all because of them, and that’s not how people work. No mother chooses to not be able to accept her child unconditionally. But like you said, we can never understand how to deal with an issue unless we understand where that issue came from, and also, accountability is incredibly empowering. Shoot, maybe that’s why we don’t encourage mothers to take accountability. Because by encouraging them to take accountability, we’d be empowering them, and a patriarchal society doesn’t want mothers to be empowered. Empowered mothers equal empowered children, and an entirely empowered society, which would be the death of patriarchy, capitalism, and probably civilization itself.

[@cariroundy7814]

I am a mother with a son who is identifying as trans and I have definitely looked at myself and picked apart myself and blamed myself and am willing to sacrifice myself for him… I also had an amazing relationship within my son before he came out as trans… I wish it was easier to have simple answers, but my experience with my son is different… 😢

[@lizicadumitru9683]

I'm wondering, not that my thought experiment could ever be done, is when these young people experience pornography that they first should be told, this is not how humans actually behave in relationships, it is a lie. If that would have the effects differ...?

[@polarmouse3943]

60% of your conversation is excuses and self-corrections. Just speak what's on your mind, gosh.