Deyemi on marriage for money, ego and social media success | Dear Ife series Podcast

[@toluadegbite2794]

This hit close to home Ife. I was in a similar situation, but I eventually left. I feel this guys know what they are doing. They look for women that are doing well and leech off them. They are parasites. She is not married and see what she is already doing. Renting house? He won't pay school fees, he won't drop money for summer travels, children's clothes, Hospital bills. He means every word. You are his ticket to ease...My dear if you don't leave now you will later. My two cents. Sorry it's a bit harsh

[@simisolaolufunke860]

It's not harsh that is the truth. She will be the one to take care of the guy and the kids till she get tired or old. And she should remember now that the money at hand is enough now coz she's only feeding herself and partially the guy but if responsibility comes up I mean the kids that when she will know that the money at hand isn't enough.

[@imoleayookikiola3159]

I totally agree💯🙌

[@deola4653]

We need to see more of this Deyemis side. He is soo real and has soo much depth to him. Love this episode. ❤️

[@dims1607]

I'm actually impressed by the wisdom and insight displayed by the guest. He really does have "sense". His responses were well thought out and very fair. He's just earned himself one more fan. 👍

[@xtinedike4334]

Marrying for financial purposes shouldn’t be confused with marrying strategically, one is a get rich scheme whilst the other has benefits for both parties within a relationship 🙌.

[@mideblack7843]

Let's normalize guests taking a second to think before answering questions.. Most hosts need to learn this. I really appreciate those silent moments he took for himself to think.

[@cynthiachizaramnwachukwu2754]

I thought i was the only one that noticed and appreciated it

[@Kennie3044]

I enjoyed the conversation Ife, Deyemi was also quite honest from the POV of a man on the issues you raised, no sugar coating. As for the lady that wrote in, there's really no way to spin it. She should run for her life. That was God's 11th hour deliverance for her. He doesn't strike me as an ambitious person, she's not a source of motivation for him to also work harder to build something or even expand her business further as a team, rather he is already planning for money that does not belong to him. One of the worst things anyone can do to himself or herself is to surround themselves with unambitious people.

[@uwaagbogun1832]

If something happens and she no longer has her money, then what happens? His motivation to be with her would be gone.... I hope she has the courage to do what is needed.

[@kachongkaboshio]

I grew up just like Deyemi. The women in my family had jobs or businesses, so it made sense to grow up wanting to work. I came out to the world and found out some women dont work and it blew my mind.

[@agborruth9934]

Women should really learn to start prioritizing themselves. Self abandonment is destructive. I'd never advise any woman to be with whom she's doing better far than in this day and age. Most times, it doesn't end well; we see so many stories like that on the internet. I'm a firm believer that men should (aspire to) be the primary providers. This your man is lazyyy and unambitious. You don't want to be a submissive provider, but this is the path you're on. Please take a walk. It's unfortunate that it took this long, wedding plans already in place, but that man would drain you, and your eye will clear. He doesn't like you. I pray for courage for you. Please love yourself so much that you recognise bullsh*t from a mile away and use your pride to take a walk. At the end of the day, we accept the love we think we deserve. Shalom

[@bukolaiji]

I love how Deyemi navigated the conversation around finances and whether or not he shares responsibility with his wife. He did it with tact and respect.

[@andrewyisa642]

"At face value she should get heck out", "They agreed online". Words of a wise man 💯👌🏾

[@cynthiachizaramnwachukwu2754]

😅

[@olawalebolanle7908]

Deyemi is a blessed man to have his wife and his wife is blessed to have him!

[@baisinbu98]

This is a brilliant conversation. Deyemi has depth as a person. It would be nice for the guest to finish their thought process without interjection from the host trying to finish off their sentences. I understand Ife is trying to move the discussion along but it diverts the guest’s trend of thought from driving their point home adequately. Overall, a pertinent topic. This marriage of a thing, reasonable people are struggling to find other reasonable people to marry. We are single pringles laidis fr fr for life like play oh. Di world don scatter.

[@busayoajimoko8157]

Deyemi is so intelligent

[@cesakanbi5154]

Thank you Deyemi ooooo. Get the heck out of that relationship! What??????

[@maybelline7587]

Deyemi is so cool. Saw him at the cinema last week and he was really warm ❤❤❤

[@bisiriyufunmilola8780]

This episode has said it all. I hope the lady involved takes the courage to leave. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. I wish her the best🤗

[@OmoniyiTaiwoVictoria]

He really has sense. I like your guest list like mad. This series is going to be very successful.

[@Your_Biwom]

Deyemi Speaks and sounds Smartly

[@Adesewahoney]

I feel she should call it quit with the guy. He is obviously with her for soft-landing. He’s not a responsible person, so if she isn’t comfortable with having to be paying all the bills…she should just leave. He’s an insecured and irresponsible guy. Ladies!!! Please, never let the quest for marriage make you settle for someone you’re not okay with, be yourself, real love will compliment you and bring the better out of you without having to condescend yourself in anyway. Seeing that chat and not leaving that relationship means she doesn’t love herself enough…that relationship is a sham…feelings will end, but consequences will always remain, she should have a rethink, knowing herself will help her determine who is fit to be at her table and in extension, who she really wants to spend her life with. Self-realization is key. My opinion!.

[@omodeleayobami1899]

This conversation with Deyemi is real and relatable, he speaks so well 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Great episode Ife ❤️

[@cinematicshowtv9529]

I feel so sorry for the lady… this is all I have to say to her note: If he loves you he will not speak of you in such manner to is friend read again and understand ❤ And also from the chat with the friend I noticed the friend is more concerned for her because he knows that’s a wrong step and a bad man for her… but he can’t do nothing about it because his is friend… so he just have to shut it

[@joypeters1245]

Deyemi is indeed a brilliant man. He should show us more of that side as well, not everytime bants with KR😅even though I enjoy that too. Also, not every Nigerian is “insane” so pls some sane people like us still need to see the intelligent part of you more😀. Thank you❤

[@Boluwatifeyusuf-sd7eq]

I think by now, everybody knows that a growing man can be accepted, but a laid-back man? A laid-back man? A huge red flag. The boy isn't only not providing now, he has the thought process of enjoying the wealth of his 'big fish'. I understand Deymi's POV on how men are unnecessarily jam-talking, saying things they don't mean because of vibes but he said too much and his word should really be taken for it. It's better late than never. Deyemi and Ife, did justice to the complaint.

[@dailywordprayers]

Deyemi is a fine man sha. He is real and very relatable. No scandals.

[@bakaredamilola6198]

Deyemi is very intelligent, I enjoyed this conversation

[@YaaChoco]

Deyemi is the realest! Well done! We love to see it! More grace unto you Sir🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@rachealodey9318]

The process of being grateful for how far you have handled life and overcome daily life trials. E reach to give yourself kudos

[@odeytheresao]

20 ish minutes in, and this is one vulnerable conversation ❤

[@kareemlateefat5108]

I agree with Ife, Deyemi really have sense. Still watching the video, yet to even get to the main issue but from he and Ife's conversation, his sense really comes through 😂

[@FreckledWit]

The reason there is an issue is because she did not date her financial class. Now she has to deal with the fragile ego of her fiancé. To add to the injury, he is planning his retirement based on her finances? Where did she find this man?

[@jerninzpaul7498]

What if there’s no money from her side anymore? What if she falls sick When life happens will he be by her side??

[@bisolaakintunde4900]

Oga Deyemi has given all singles pressure o. Between now and the end of 2025, marriage is the goal🤚🏾.

[@perpetualmeninwa6695]

BTW Ife, your glow is glowing... ✨✨✨... The screen is a whole lot brighter because of your skin... Loveeetttt ❤❤❤

[@badejoaminat4677]

Can I double like😊, this is really insightful

[@fayo_fireee]

This episode contains so much knowledge! When I heard "ban" on marriage, I had to wait for the remaining sentences to agree😂😂 There's a lot of rotten mentality these days, that you'll just pause and ask "where did this resurrect from again?" I enjoyed watching this 😂😂 And Deyemi's reactionss?? Top notch😂😂😂

[@martybarly2788]

Deyemi is a mature man, and that is the product of a dedicated man in relation to his family and work. Well done, Sir!

[@nomsobekee]

I think that the man should be the one to pay the rent of a new place if he doesn’t want to live in her own house. He can’t be saying that he won’t live in her house and still expect her to pay the rent. Being laid back on your responsibility is just a subtle way of being irresponsible.

[@isabellacharles3946]

An interesting episode👌 hmmm... I feel bad for the lady in question and I think she should confront the guy. His body language will tell her all she needs to know.

[@Lumi1009able]

This was so nice to watch, it was just so chilled yet deep with all the right messages. Well done Ife and ‘Deyemi

[@BaMoAmin]

Thanks for another interesting episode, Ife. I was just wondering if the sitting position could be more comfortable, been worried about the strain on both of your necks😅

[@ivyludovic]

Ahhh Ife, you are a great host!!Enjoyed this episode a lot. Was a little distracted with the questions by the lady behind the scenes though. I can't wait for the next episode. Kudos

[@dididorgu]

My first question is, "He doesn't want to move into her house, but he is comfortable with using 'her money' to rent another place???" Please help me make it make sense.😢

[@nafisatyusuf991]

And she said he's not asking money from her. That guy has asked a lot from her

[@NanaMudasiru-to6dh]

Exactly. Not asking for money indeed

[@SecondPassport-Consultant]

Beautiful people and deep conversations…. Well done 👍

[@temiolueh1926]

I love Deyemi’s realness💯💯💯

[@bimia1120]

That’s why I encourage snooping biko. I’m sure there’s a follow up to this story and I’m hoping she confronted him and left the relationship. It’s not going to end there especially since she’s seen his message to a buddy. No respect at all. She’ll be alright. Better a called off relationship as soon as she can. Wishing her all the best.

[@ObasanyaRhoda]

This shows that she will have to take care of the bills all through the marriage, of course a responsible mother wont watch her kids go hungry or lack good things, especially when she can afford it and even if she can't, she strives to The man will always say the mantra "I cannot kill myself" when things go south I will just advise she leave while it is still early, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

[@Seyi_Idowu]

"You can't deal with a modern woman with an archaic mindset"....#Deep

[@preshsofresh1494]

Thank you, Deyemi. I agree with all that has been said

[@evelyneffiong8158]

I think there should be a continuation to this episode. I loved it!

[@oluwabusayoayodeji1386]

This is a wholesome conversation. Had a great time watching it.

[@aderonkeige-zebrawoman]

Thank you, 'Deyemi! Well-rounded perspective❤

[@blessingelenya3938]

Deyemi is such an intelligent man. Nice conversation.

[@jiboqueoluwatomisin3642]

Be a provider progressively

[@chikogwuhappychinyere5862]

I enjoyed the conversation Deyemi is very intelligent

[@preciousdurojaiye976]

44:45 I understand where Deyemi is coming from but the fact is that marriage is based on two individuals. Individuals should work on themselves and figure out their purposes first before getting ready to settle down (if they want to). If a marriage involves people with no purpose and no purpose for their marriage as well that’s the start of another dysfunctional home. God help us to get this thing right honestly

[@toniaoboli5498]

As much as i enjoyed this discussion I need to take a moment to comment on Ife's "glass skin" my god 😮

[@pureconfidencehair]

This is how I feel now. Not knowing how to survive bills every year. They never end

[@faithadeniyi7181]

Deyemi is such a gentleman❤

[@doradominic]

Deyemi my guy. I love his POV. The lady should leave that relationship and look for her husband elsewhere. Also who wants to snoop should snoop o but dont waste the snooping. Make sure you take the right action

[@mariaeze-e3t]

Deyemi was awesome great conversation.. who is the backup interrupter… it wasn’t nice her cutting in between them

[@bidemioyewo3246]

The guy sees you as a meal ticket and except you’re ready to be the sole provider for the home and children it’s best you abort this mission now. And let me throw in another probability this man may leave you in between the marriage for the “one” he loves with the hope that his children will forgive him and take care of him in his old age. Girl please wise up

[@adebolaolowoye4798]

She should carry her shoes on her head and run ooooo

[@mojisolaglobal]

Deyemi is an original Nigerian man 😅

[@perpetualafolabi6316]

My advise to her is to leave him. It’s hard cos they are engaged but she would be fine. Bless her

[@BukolaRY_TV]

Great interview. First time here 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Deyemi, is a great Actor.

[@synthiarh]

I enjoyed this conversation Very intelligent

[@TheEEonly]

Everybody needs to see all is fair in love honestly. That movie was a masterpiece. Love you deyemi ❤

[@JulietChiamakaIke]

Love love this conversation 👏🏽👏🏽❤️

[@estherjoseph1775]

I feel bad for the lady 😞,She should leave the man for her sanity.. Dear Ife, Relationship is very very hard nowadays

[@Abiodunscorner]

Social capital is such an important thing these days

[@Boluwatifeyusuf-sd7eq]

I don't know if it's only me, but the number/duration of ads in this episode is almost equal to the duration of the episode😂

[@titilayoobakinolaitan4965]

Deyemi is so real. I enjoyed the conversation. He has depth. As per the lady , she should flee without looking back. The guy is a leech and he’s going to suck her dry. The best time to leave is now ! When there’s no encumbrance. My 2 cents. She’s just his meal ticket. Carefully selected.

[@Winifred_Brown]

I feel bad for the lady, almost every woman supports the home. But this man in question is obviously getting in for the wrong reasons.

[@janetidika3541]

Videos keep getting ✨✨🔥💛💛👏 Weldone ma'am Ifedayo Oya make I watch

[@janetidika3541]

1st 10 mins 🥺✨🫡; next 10mins 🥺✨💐 Mr. Deyemi - God gives you your heart desires according to divine purpose. This 2nd series got me glue...I'm definitely watching to the end, no skipping. Ma'am Ifedayo and as a veteran 😅😂

[@janetidika3541]

Wawu, what an interesting series 👏👏 Fun, emotional and insightful Take your flowers 💐💐💐 One for ma'am Ifedayo, Mr. Deyemi and the lady behind the camera (her voice ✨)

[@aderinalezainab]

This episode is fun and insightful 🤩🤩. Kudos on this one❤

[@AdetounA]

Great episode! Love the conversation. I would suggest that the conversation sticks with the host and guest. Having another voice in the background was distracting and seemed weird in a way. Probably cut it out or not have background people involved in the conversation. It made it kind of fragmented.

[@abiesdew4319]

While I agree that it’s unusual to have the third party input, the person asked valuable questions and contributed meaningfully. My suggestion is for Ife to brainstorm with this person before the show starts, for a robust experience without the interjections when recording has commenced.

[@graceignatius906]

It never really ends well and it’s very overwhelming to be with someone like that. Married life is so stressful that you want to do all your self

[@Solja88]

Well 2 things. 1 , she should leave if she was hoping for an ideal marriage. But if she’s advanced in age like pointed out and just want to move on either way her life, then…. 2, she should continue with the marriage but bear in mind she’ll be the mummy and daddy of the children and not expect any help. It’ll also benefit her not to rent her house and rush child bearing if that’s possible, because I don’t see this marriage settling more than 5 years and he’ll seriously start to misbehave. It’s up to her to decide to either be used by him or become the user herself. Information is power and 2 can definitely play the game.

[@chiddy1291]

Love this thought pattern too... Using the "User" is fine

[@chiomaamarachi291]

Even if she is advanced in age...... Advanced age is not a ticket to walk into a life of slavery and future trauma.

[@adeolanaomi]

#just leave Girl# God will do a good and provide A kind Man for you❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@temiloluwaakindele4685]

Rushed in here when I saw the update 😊😊😊😊

[@jewelsbyk]

Loved the conversation but the sound it was somehow different to hear the words unless you listen carefully . I don’t know the right words to describe it but it sounded somehow distant

[@kesienaokoro9081]

Loveddddd this 💞💞💞💞💞

[@musaamenda5448]

Deyemi's facial expression eh!!!!!😂😂😂"Say na where did they agree"

[@onyekaokonkwo]

She's shrinking for this man. My dear, leave now. It will not get better if it already hurts yoh now.

[@onyinyechukwu3973]

Dear Sir Deyemi!❤❤❤

[@firdawsalaga3919]

Ife is beautiful! Damn!

[@tolulopegbadebo]

Ife i'm the six hundred and sixty sixth person to like🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@diaryofa9jacreative]

Deyemi is actually funnier than I thought he was… 😂 Omo this was just a whole lot of audacity, marriages really should be evaluated in this day and age. People are misbehaving 😅😅

[@momentswithbeth]

First❤

[@temiolueh1926]

Dear writer, if you’re reading please leave there’s still time, a lot was said and you saw it just in time. The mentality of that boy you’re with is completely rotten and you deserve better!

[@theiaID]

Who else noticed that Deyemi didn’t need the kindness cup

[@oluwapelumiokunoye]

Welldone ❤

[@unwanabede4420]

All I could think about is the innocent children that she would have for the clown. She certainly doesn’t want to raise children with someone like that. What kind of value will a man with that kind of mindset give to his children? God forbid bad thing

[@yomide_naturals]

Someone that has no financial value is the one that will give kids value 😂😂😂 man is just planning his retirement. A real clown

[@mofepope]

Deyemi is such a character 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@naanmiapnaanshep6299]

She should walk away. He’s a user and she will definitely regret being with him. God forbid she falls critically ill while being married to him or she loses her source of income, he will definitely bolt. When they say women should prioritize themselves and be selfish about their wombs, this is the exact reason.

[@SherrieMahun]

That word What is love ask for me ooo I need an answer

[@fideliamarcel]

It’s the switch for me😂

[@BambiO.]

9:20,that’s love ..like if I start gushing ehn,we will sleep here

[@chikaokeke5058]

Deyemi is a man, I like his points of view in these matters.