Discover Your Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu | Mel Robbins

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If you are struggling with anxiety, uncertainty, grief or fear, you need to watch this video.
This is one of the most emotional interviews I’ve ever done.
I did not expect the interview to go this way.
In this interview, I’m talking with ‪@lisabilyeu8103‬ (you might know her from her podcast ‪@LisaBilyeu‬ or any of her other incredible endeavors).
We are talking about her new, amazing book, Radical Confidence.
Radical confidence is EXACTLY what I need right now. And in this video, Lisa talks me through it and coaches ME on how I can pull through my anxiety and rediscover my confidence.
This conversation with Lisa literally changed my life. I’m not kidding.
So PLEASE watch this entire video if you are struggling with anxiety, uncertainty, grief or fear. And then go pick up a copy of this book. I needed it. You need it.
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[@shootingstar7374]

I just started reading Lisa’s book. I am lost at 47y and I hope that this book will give me some guidance on what’s next . I am tired of being stuck in the constant struggle , being broke figuratively and literally. I love LIFE , I appreciate everything, but I know that there is more out there for me .

[@ebonywaru160]

All the very best abundance to you Shooting star. Please let us know how you are tracking on Lisa's book. I would love to hear how it goes

[@guidedbysunshine333]

You’re never lost my dear. You’re doing great. Your life is greater than you know. Trust in the greater good for your life is all yours and yours alone. Just trust in the all knowing higher power within you. You’ll get there sooner than you know 💜

[@cryptowildgem]

Someone told me we’re right were we’re supposed to be. That took away alot of anxiety. Sending hugs!

[@melrobbins]

This book is exactly what you need. I hope it brings you some clarity ❤️

[@susannah7797]

Mel, I relate!! I am 56 and in the process of moving to a different part of rhe state, new job, so much more. It was supposed to be a dream come true, but it ended up knocking me down! The timing of your videos on your own changes is perfect timing and I appreciate it!!! ❤️

[@lucinda44]

I really needed this and am crying. I'm literally closing on selling my house today. I have gone through some major life changes and am grieving a life that I used to have, grieving the person I was, grieving what could have been, facing the shame of not handling things the way I think I should have, worrying about what others think and on and on. Fear, fear, fear!! Panic attacks have suddenly become a daily reality, and I am constantly in a state of fight or flight. I so needed this! Thank you!

[@lauri-jokotzen6690]

Big changes and yes some grief comes with that . Like a butterfly coming out of a cocoon.. Try hard to look out the front windshield. And listen to affirmations as much as possible. My best wishes are being sent your way. Grab the brass ring. Never easy but keep trying. ✨💫✨

[@fml5910]

Been there, and it sucks, I can relate.

[@beanburrito8903]

I love see great women coming together. 🙌 women power baby !

[@Elaine-dh1oy]

Mel, I love that you go thru the ups and downs like the rest of us. It gives us all hope. ✋

[@jackieb363]

Lisa is a fantastic space holder. She gives you space to speak and actively listens.

[@carolemanzi4758]

Must read book. I too want move out of a house of 32 years. I’m scared to leave my family and friends. I think I need to read this book

[@tatyanagold7189]

Thank you, Mel, for sharing this interview with us! I am a foreigner who moved from Ukraine with two little children 22 years ago. I was moving to the absolutely unknown, strange society not to mention without knowledge of English language, culture, traditions of this country. I felt like a huge boulder was on my chest not letting me breathe. It was absolutely unbearable feeling, I had to be strong because of my children. I had to get my shit together and move on. I am very grateful to you for all your videos, for being soooo natural, organic, high energy, cool!,,

[@nje1234]

Amazing conversation. Thank you for talking about the mourning/grief process that comes along with life changes and how it has no timeline 💖

[@lauri-jokotzen6690]

“Don’t let the grief take away from the why”. So impactful and a quite powerful emotional statement. Really well said. Thank you.

[@CR-pf1es]

I don't get this 'why' thing, does she mean to ask why we feel fear, anxiety or whatever? ~ not sure how to achieve this 'why' they talk about or what is it? thanks

[@lauri-jokotzen6690]

@@CR-pf1es your why can mean anything from why you get up in the morning and brush your teeth to why you work. I.e. I work and am motivated to learn more about the real estate biz. because I like the idea that people trust me enough to find them a place to live which is so essential to their everyday lives. And my why is also to make money so that I can do extra things with my family like take them for dinners, invite them to travel with me and buy them gifts. It could be whatever makes you tick and then ask yourself “why”. That will be your why.

[@InfinityHealthPilates]

Did the same ! Left a house we raised a family in fir 30 years. It felt like the right thing until we signed the papers and I felt like the world tilted on it’s axis . Then the pandemic hits, then my husband lost his job. I’d never felt so unsteady. I’ve recovered now. But I have empathy for you. I’m still have waves of anxiety but am able to move through it with a lot of help from you and other coaches.

[@laurab9867]

I just got reminded again that ages ago I read a book called "The Magic of Thinking Big" and learned the strategy ""Fight fear with Action."" But today I learned to use the deprecating inner voice as my BITCH. 🤔😃 Thanks for sharing this personal moment, Mel.

[@jackieleffew7611]

This is why I love Mel, she goes through everything and shares it with us and this is why I do not get tired of listening to her and I am that's all I listen to I just listen to Mel Robbins everyday in my car on my walks whatever riding my horse on my way to the barn and I just love that she shares everyday stuff it's awesome thanks so much Mel love you bunches XO Jackie from Holland

[@trustyt85]

Amazing! Thank you! It's everything I needed to hear. I'm going through a life change too and struggling! It should be a super happy time but the fear has crept in to steal my joy! My ego has been talking sh*t like yours but now I can see that she is just looking out for me. I now am focusing on my WHY which makes me so excited to move forward!! I am listening to my ego and making a plan for the WHAT IFS so I'm prepared if things don't work out the way I hope. Thank you so much for being real, raw and vulnerable! Thank you for sharing!

[@ms.crosby4215]

Mel, I fucking love you. Honesty, transparency , and vulnerability are rare these days. I jumped and there have been a few days where I've wanted to un-jump, which we know is NOT a thing. I now feel I have the permission to grieve the loss, BUT embrace the WHY. ❤

[@roxannesteed4675]

OMG- this has helped me SO MUCH!!! I've been sitting on a decision for TWO YEARS!!! ugh....holding on to career stuff that I'm feeling the need to let go of to move forward in another direction, but have resisted (and wondered why? WTF?!?!). I feel a lightness, and (holy cow...is that the radical confidence kicking in?). That freedom to mourn what you're letting go of? It's like Marie Kondo's decluttering process...'to honor and thank with gratitude the stuff you're letting go of, because it has served it's purpose in one form or another'. This conversation helped me see this in a deeper way that hit the latch to spring my brain free!!! Thanks so much!!

[@tessag5699]

I want Lisa or Mel as a coach! What an amazing show. Here I go running toward my future. Thank you.🌺

[@dbunnysport]

Thank you for sharing with us your vulnerability... I truly love Lisa so much! I'm glad she was able to help you/us. I LOVE the fact, though you are both strong women, you are able to HELP and EMPOWER each other!

[@trudyreid1706]

“The path that you choose in life will mean that you leave things behind “ Awesome video. Must get the book. Thanks Mel…

[@rrg2248]

It’s like luggage weight limits…we can only carry so much. Or like toddlers who haven’t yet figured out that they have to let go of the toy in one hand to pick up another toy

[@charmaineward9461]

Just ordered to book. I want to go back and read one of your books and now hers. Thank you Mel.

[@Rubysturn3]

It’s like you read my mind when I received your email today!!! I’ve bought your book her book!! And know I want your necklace!!!! You both are angels in my world right now. In perfect timing.

[@SoulWashing-LeensEsteem]

I really enjoyed this, thank you for allowing us to witness your evolution as we all learn together.

[@christieadragna2249]

This interview popped in my inbox the exact moment I absolutely needed it! Must be fate! So grateful to you both

[@jennifersilverstein2106]

Thank you, Lisa and Mel for this interview. I immediately when and got Radical Compassion and can't wait to dig in!!

[@jackiegoodsman6796]

Great interview, I am a Life Coach and Circle Facilitator.I teach the women I work with to thank that negative voice that comes up, as its only come up because it's noticed they are expanding and growing and it's trying to keep them safe

[@ambergereghty9778]

Your courage in the face of anxiety and fear blows me away every time. I'm struggling right now, too, but this brought me light today. Sending you positive vibes and hugs. Thank you for your honesty.

[@masakochoate5648]

Hi Mel, I love all of your podcasts, but this is one of the best episodes. Thank you for being open about your vulnerability so we can all relate to you. I got to know Lisa recently, and I’m in love with her show! I’ll definitely read “Radical Confidence”.

[@MixTrend88]

Sometimes it's ok not to be ok. We love you Mel! ❤️

[@decemberlotus]

Please unwire

[@retirewithpossibilities]

Great show. So real. Selling a home is always difficult but rest assured you'll always have the memories. Control what you can, and let go of the rest.

[@beccybenedict8336]

Wow...thank you Mel and Lisa for such an awesome video. I think it becoming like a live therapy session for Mel was actually really good because you could see someone applying the actions to their life and a very real, in the moment situation. Can't wait to look up Lisa for more. Xxx

[@gabefuller5212]

This was mind blowing. I cried. I’m also from a small town in Western Michigan, you may know it, Mel, Three Rivers just south of Kalamazoo. I left and have lived in NYC for over 10 years but leaping at any chance to go visit home and I always feel torn between the person and life I thought I would have (and what others thought I would) vs having a “smaller” life and probably being a lot happier. Ugh. I hope I find a remote position so that I can live part time in NY and part time home. Otherwise I have to make the final decision soon. But my god, either decision carries so much grief.

[@dawnfreiberger]

Fabulous! Watching Lisa’s process at work with Mel was incredibly moving and motivating. This was so genuine, and so very helpful as a result. Thank you!

[@theteaonmewithlindora6687]

I needed this my father put on hospice. The family made the decision do not resuscitate. My father was very active strong man. It's very painful to see him it's like he is now. The timing sucks because I just got done writing my book. When you come and I'm in the midst of starting my business. I'm working on staying confident and all I do. It's been very tough but this talk helps a lot. Thanks so much this this top was amazing.

[@tanyakloeffler2821]

This is why I love you Mel! You are so honest and real and it makes me feel so good to know I am not alone. I love how open you are in this. Thank you

[@nettadebeer9936]

Dear Mel..I lived in my house for 27 years ..my husband died 2 years ago..I had to leave my house Start all over from scratch..I am still not myself..this is why I am so happy to come across your videos..but it takes much..much time to be myself or to pick up and making big discussions…it’s scary..

[@carolgeorge6409]

Yes I am going through the loss of my husband 9 months ago. It is a very fearful time

[@sahaara7946]

I've been watching this video every day since it's release and it does indeed help. I also started to read Lisas book and I really enjoy it. It is very entertaining and helpfull since I came down with burnout. It's like someone out of nowhere pulls the rug out from under yourself and you end up flat on your face. One day you go to work just fine, maybe not enjoying it but you go, because this is what you do and you tell yourself 'maybe the day won't be so bad after all'. The next day my whole body and mind broke down when I tried to leave the door. I couldn't stand on my feet and I couldn't breath. It's like someone opened the flood gates of everything I had supressed since last October or maybe even longer. By now I'm glad if I know my name and that's it. My mind went completely empty. I once knew who I was and what I'm capable of but no more. This video and Lisas book actually do help me to get back on my feet and just do. Like just do. No hesitation. Just do. No overthinking or doom thinking. Just do and just do you. The internal believes I was ingrained for so long no longer serve me and I have to re-think.

[@thomascrook6826]

I completely relate to the negative ego whispers when major changes are inevitable but so hard to action. Such a great session. Thank you Mel and Lisa x

[@jackiegrass1469]

Mel, thank you so much for being really honest and vulnerable. You are truly an inspiration and being open like you are helps so many of us normalize what we are all going through! Love you so much!

[@kellygould22]

Mel you are so awesome. So real and thank you for sharing this! Every time I see you speak, you inspire!

[@lcchristinechia5842]

Thank you both for this amazing conversation. "Don't let the grief deter you from your WHY" - loving it. An absolute powerful statement one can apply in the process with life changes. Acceptance and giving ample space is key! Thanks Mel!

[@daniellefrancis6520]

thanks for letting us see that even you the power house has things to work through and being vulnerable!

[@shellyspencerfoley4728]

Thank You for this! Have so many life changing events going on in the last several years that have been out of my control and the grief that has gone along with all of this. With this grief and change I did not choose, has come choices I have had to make to continue to move forward. Listening to many of your videos and reading your books have given me tools to be able to overcome the fear, grief and immobilization I was feeling at this time in my life. I am taking steps to move forward even if they are tiny baby steps. I am at least going forward through all this emotional change, mental change and physical change. Grief is something you can not run from. It does catch up with you! You do have to work through it and it is different for everyone. This podcast made me realize I have found tools to move me forward through all the different types of grief in my life and to embrace there is a better life for me in the future even with the fear of moving through all the obstacles in my way!

[@mauraallard904]

Mel you are saying exactly how I feel. Thank you for being vunerable.

[@carolynshane295]

“She dropped into my life like a little angel to bitch slap me…” LOL wow that was the best quote I’ve heard all day!! Love this interview!

[@doemadd6325]

I don't know Lisa, she sounds like a buddhist. She says everything my teacher shares with me. What a wonderful conversation! Love you both

[@marilynhaverly570]

Welcoming our demons... :-) I'm familiar with this philosophy and it's so helpful.

[@SandcastleDesigns]

Renee here...this book and both you and Lisa have made such a huge impact in my life! This is the best interview ever!!! Thank you!

[@debraelms2585]

Wow just listened to this twice as it had so much to unpack. I have started a few lists about what are my hopes etc and then I had an aha moment. I want to find my voice (be able to speak my opinion, have the courage to have difficult conversations, find what is my perspective and how I can help others using my voice). I have always wanted to write something but I can't find my voice, this is holding me back. I don't know what my next step is but this feels amazing and right!

[@ruthjoines5239]

Thankyou Mel and Lisa for this talk. Over the last six months I have moved from family and friends and retired from work. I love my new relaxing life but the family I've moved closer to are now possibly moving and I feel very alone. I'm going to buy Lisa's book as just with this interview I've learnt ways to manage my fears. Thankyou.

[@carlaserban4411]

Hi Mel! Thank you for this! I was in such a slump today and wanted to listen to something fun, and uplifting. I thought of you and there you were with a brand new interview! I got so much out of this and I’m going to listen to it again. Good luck with your move as I know how hard a decision it was for you. (I’m recalling the story you told in “the High 5 Habit”). Many blessings to you and your family ❤️

[@silvermoonspa]

Always the right thing I need to hear at the right time. Thank you both. Need to separate my fear from my why and turn my critic into my coach. Moving forward. Love you Mel! 🥰

[@angelas1726]

I needed to see this. Thank you for sharing this. I am moving to Nee England from SC with my young boys after losing my husband 7 years ago. I have a new job with UMass and am terrified of leaving my home of 17 years.

[@traceyjohnston6303]

Welcome back Mel, you show your ego who is boss. Thank you Mel & Lisa, this is the most profound podcast I have ever heard, I really heard it! Powerful, I feel like a light switch has been turned on. My wish would be for everyone in the world to listen to this and hear this. Imagine, the world would be full of happy people. Thank you, thank you, thank you lady’s, you have changed my life in this moment . Wishing you both love & light in all that you do and all that you are. “This To Shall Pass” , today is the day for me to really really really love the life that I want, the life I am attracting. 🙏🏼🌝🌙✨🍃

[@DerekHoiem]

Loved this conversation. I feel like I need to watch this like 3x. The concept having the "bitch" teach you things you need to prepare for, and then also having the "icky" conversations because of things that you really want. Wow.

[@rrg2248]

You just inspired me to inquire about a job…in Spain! BTW, moving is one of the tippy-top MOST STRESSFUL experiences that doesn’t include injury or death (Selye scale of stress-y things). No shame in feeling terror. To not be lonely requires having a couple of friends…not a metropolis. The ladies who live on adjacent mountains are eager to share a mug of Green Mountain coffee and some goat cheese.

[@srijanisaha6559]

Thank you so much 🥰❤️ I really needed it now as I'm moving forward to a major life change. You're a life saver Mel❤️

[@shellyspencerfoley4728]

Thank You! Love these tools! Have been going through major life changes that have immobilized me. Through your books and videos I am being able to change my life and move forward. Love these new tools Lisa just gave us all! 🎉🎊😊

[@carolgeorge6409]

Thank you for sharing Mel. That this is real life for all of us. You are amazing and help me to see me through you. If that makes any sense! I love your beautiful true soul❤️

[@socialsellerslife]

This is one of the most powerful interviews I have ever watched!

[@ginadunne2941]

This too shall pass... my regular mantra. Great inspiring content. You go Mel!!!

[@jeanetteforister9295]

Love you Mel! You got this! We need you to be a "bigger thinker"!! Namaste🦋

[@izilkedejager5999]

@melrobbins this is precisely what I need today going through a lot as well in the last couple of weeks it's just so amazing that this interview pop up and the decision of actually listening to it taking notes, all I can say is wow

[@dorothyedwards7225]

YEAAAHHH Mel and Lisa!!!!

[@julietgichuki9401]

I am so glad i have coke across this video...i am commenting on tye 7th minute because i resonate so much already. I moved from a town i have lived 5 years, changed my nanny and changed my career from IT hardware sale to Software sales all within a less than a month's time. I have a rock in my chest and can't sleep at night, i look forward to this video, i hope i find a solution to this anxiety.

[@rebeccablankenship5493]

Wow talk about timely I’m about to retire and I’ve been changing my mind daily and depressed thinking that that part of my life is over but this gives me away to really unpack the feelings and understand why I’m feeling this way thank you 😊

[@carefulbodycare7053]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks to both of you.

[@michaelwojtowicz5246]

One day at a time! Thank you, Mel.

[@HERJourney2Freedom]

This was sooo good! How many times did I cry?! Jeez! Thank you for sharing. Today I was taking a mental health day and "accidentally" checked my email. I said "no, not today...I need a break from breakthroughs (by the way, thank you Mel! Your changing my life daily). But, nope the whisper said "Just this one and we're done for the weekend". I sucked my teeth put in my earbuds, sat on my garden swing and my soul opened up! I get it! My ego is trying to save me not send me to a mental institution! Today, I am making friends with my ego I believe she is also my intuitive voice. The voice that although annoying and pessimistic sounding at times, she is my parter in this spiritual journey, she means me no harm and I need her. Thanks again. Big xoxoxo's💕✨️🌸

[@lorraineludwicki4500]

WOW! the most authentic conversation and inspirational interview I've ever experienced. THANKYOU!

[@anneyakubovich1246]

Wow! This was so beautiful to see! It touched my soul. Thank you both for sharing this with us! I didn’t know I needed to hear this and see this today! What great motivation for me! Love you both! Now Lisa has a new fan and I am going to check out her book! Thanks ladies! ❤️🥰❤️🥰🖐🏻🖐🏻

[@chantaldesnoyers4506]

I'm listening and I'm at the 20 min mark. Your talking about separating the grief and fear. It would be a disservice to your memories not to mourn and grieve the end of that chapter of your life. It deserves those tears and that heart ache as much as you would grieve the passing of a friend. The fear, well that's just the void where the home once stood. The unknown, and that is scary and feels out of contrôle. Maslove would say you've lost your security. My fear voice, is not a bitch. It's the two old guys in the balcony from the Muppets heckling me day in and day out. I'm trying to embrace their crotchety constructive criticism for what it is; my ego protecting me after years of emotional neglect and abuse. Thing is, I can take care of myself now, they can just sit back and enjoy the show. So when they get a little loud, I tell them to turn it down and sit the fuck down. It's an ongoing process; but I think that's called life. You've got this. Now I'm going back to watching the video. Bye.

[@fallingsky132]

Such a beautiful and emotional interview. Amazing. Thank you Mel and Lisa for this!

[@suebellis6051]

Mel xoxo I hated that I did not raise my kids near my parents. We were in Seattle and they were in Boston. We are back here now and they both are gone. I know that grief. I hear you. Thank you for this interview! THIS is going to serve me so so so well going forward in my life! Just got the Audio book Radical Confidence. THIS Is giving me PERMISSION to honor the things I really want deep down. I am in LAUNCH now and this was my 15 min today to the process and it was FANTASTIC use of time.

[@toniclark3512]

I love you Mel, you have helped so many now it is your turn, continue walking in God's blessing 🙏❤. great video!!!

[@e.mckenna6834]

Thank you girls so so much for all these great inspiring solutions. This lifts our health to a greater level.

[@sharonhenderson1561]

This was an amazing conversation! Thx for sharing your vulnerability Mel!

[@kristinflagestadrenolen4725]

Thank you for sharing this uncut version.🙏

[@michellemorrow-protectionf7978]

WOW, this was great! Such great information and changing the view of how we look at fear. Amazing!

[@Clucehilton]

the cheat sheet is an amazing resource- thank you thank you thank you!!

[@kingaszabo8964]

Such a real conversation, thanks for the honesty, wow! l really appreciate both of your work, both of you empower me

[@lauriemccabe3291]

Mel!!! This is as so impactful for me! I realized I really am not clear on my “WHY” and that is BANANAS to me!!! I thought I knew, and I am sooo unclear! So, I’m in Launch, this was part of my “me time, and now I am off to some more “me time” quiet space to get CLEAR! Thank you! 💋💋💋💋

[@marlenevanrooyen1970]

WOW! This is an incredible interview! LOVED IT!!!!! Thank you!

[@rachelrivera2101]

This is just the start!

[@manonbradshaw]

Love. THIS! Thanks for sharing and being so authentic ❤️

[@pamlaferriere1489]

Thank you so much for this! Can't wait to read the book!

[@robinterhune]

thank you for this amazing eye opening conversation at the perfect time for me ❤️

[@ambergereghty9778]

Thank you both.

[@inspire-mewealth5966]

Omg this is the book I needed to know about & read ya’ll!!!! Great video & thx for being so transparent. Ty for making that decision to NOT have kids! Omg yeeeessss this book is def. gonna be a book that is on & poppin’!!!!

[@shariquartero6196]

Loved this one! Thank you for always being our friend. ❤️❤️❤️

[@lunalynnrising]

I absolutely loved everything about this!!! 💖💖💖😭💖💖💖

[@LINDA-bj2wp]

Thank you! I needed to hear this today.

[@anpe6524]

This is the best PR PLAN FOR A BOOK I have seen, and you Mel you did great at selling this, congrats to the amazing team behind pushing so hard this intense promotion, very well planned to sign in key people from the motivational market,

[@markcafebrown2883]

Great interview and the best of luck in new 🏠 home. You have this Mel 😀💙

[@michellewebster8184]

Just great thank you Mel for sharing your fear

[@kathyparker7837]

Great interview. Rock on!

[@wildcardcoach3745]

How fascinating that I was brought to this video at the perfect time in my life

[@erruiz00]

I love her hair!!!!

[@t.m.estrella7041]

Thaks for all the thing you do I really like learn watching you programs Your fabulous....

[@helenbrazil267]

Mel your great ,it's like a case of healer heal thy self

[@sandram6913]

Wow! Thank you both

[@valeriedubail1563]

❤ thank you so much for this

[@easternwindglass350]

Great video. Thank you .