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[@keithd1219]

I also worked in a government job. I know two guys that on the day they retired, their wives filed for divorce. Both came right back to work after putting in 30 years each as their pensions were cut in half. As far as I know, they're still working.....an absolute nightmare.

[@keithd1219]

@@Tony-eb5kh oh very nasty. One of the guys was a super nice guy also...his nickname was Happy....but his son also worked for the same agency, he liked his job and he ended up meeting a new woman....as far as I know he's happy 😂.....the other guy was an arrogant douchebag so he probably deserved it 😆

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Same here I wrote a comment in another post I know several woman who did this to Firefighters retiring and on the day the pension letter arrived so did the Divorce papers.

[@acr9319]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream You can't get lower than that REALLY!... and none of these events were "accidental" they were all planned months or years ahead. I believe the wives were waiting for that particular day to make a statement. Low lives!

[@aralsea1]

Divorce after retirement is on the rise. Be careful men.

[@SteveSmith-jc7pc]

Les, This is an absolute inspiration. Great video. I commented on one of your previous stories about a friend who hit financial difficulties and ended up in a really bad place. You have shown how someone can face financial ruin and build something even better in the future. Keep living the dream!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you Steve Hardship I have just touched the tip of the iceberg how many times I have been kicked in the B*LLS Its how you deal with it counts get up shake yourself down move on.

[@macthejack4962]

So true Les . In three words “ life goes on “ embrace it , enjoy it .. learn from it .. and lastly.. keep sharing it .. thanks

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Exactly Life goes on, Looking outside of my window whilst typing this reply is a beautiful tropical view warm weather and a great feeling of living the good life. Thanks for your comment

[@macthejack4962]

Lol well looking out my window .. it’s raining ..London style .. Les u mention working with youth , as a Fire man , was that in London ? I too did some work “ called junior citizens, involving all the services lol we may have passed each other lol enjoy ur day .. keep those positive , factual, interesting videos coming 🙏

[@chriskay3440]

Appreciate your honesty Les…..we come into this world with nothing and leave with nothing…..what we do in between is what counts…..sounds like you hit the jackpot and found happiness……that’s all that matters…..well done 🙏

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks Chris, so true I have always been a good guy and always will, I hold no grudges or wish harm to others just get on doing what you like.

[@therunning-farang3656]

Marriage is the contract, divorce is the expiry date-good to hear your head strong-subscribed x Over a period of 14yrs I've divorced/parted ways with a Thai then a Filipino, but I learnt so much.......financial it did not cost, mentally it did.....self doubt, confidence, self respect etc, however roll on another 3yrs and I'm in the best place possible wellness wise, back living a single life in Indonesia......living the dream lol.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

No matter what Country your in Woman can take their toll . Be strong and carry on. Thanks for your support

[@golden.lights.twinkle2329]

Having a wife that doesn't work is a fatal mistake when divorce comes along. I got married in 1987 and divorced 24 years later. My wife did not work for the last 22 years. I ended up having to work for 5 extra years beyond my planned retirement date just to recoup my lost pension.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for sharing, I have many such stories from others about this.

[@JennaHasm]

​@@RetiredandLivingthedream Is it a UK law problem? Your set of circumstances and divorce outcomes are unheard of in other countries. Very unfair this happened to you. Why do you believe she decided to divorce you out of the blue?

[@kevinrobinson2745]

Good Boost and info for guys in that divorce zone now Les. Been there myself....head down, turned life around😊

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Divorce is horrible for anyone, except the Lawyers. They revel in it like blood sucking creatures they are.

[@robertkolleck1508]

Good story, I can think of a win for a man that wasn't conniving. In the early 80s in the US when health benefits did not apply to everyone, a civil service coworker was told by his wife she was going to clean him out of everything. A month later she was quite shaken up begging not to get divorced as she needed a half million dollar experimental operation to save her life. He said sign the papers to take what you put into the marriage only and don't touch mine and I will stay married on the books until your operation is complete, but we are done, and that's how it went.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Wow I know a millionaire who lives separate lives in the same big house because divorce would hit them both in their pockets. His lives upstairs and she lives downstairs. It works for them.

[@elsinorebrewing3841]

I got divorced in 2003 and it cost me very little as she was employed and I had no assets.I ended up with what I put into the marital home but the satisfaction of cutting her out of my life like a surgeon removes a cancerous tumor.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Every person entering a divorce is in for a rough ride, its how you cope after the event, I would say leave bitterness out of it and move on and make a better future for yourself. Good luck with your future best wishes my friend. Thanks you for taking time to comment and for watching the video

[@devilsadvocate721]

I'm so happy you survived a divorce. Thanks for the great advice.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for watching and taking time to comment.

[@jr-life]

good to hear this life story thank you

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for listening and thanks for taking time to comment.

[@rudolfdesadeleer7995]

damn I have trust issues without having ever a divorce

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

lol Trust is important in any relationships married or not. Thanks for your comment.

[@darrenjoyce2475]

Fair play to ya mate, turns out your the winner after all, living the dream 💪👏👍

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Some say I lost but I would say I won. If i did not get divorced then Id not have discovered this place Thailand, I fell in love with this place when I first came here.

[@djangsthemangs4085]

Nice info - been through a similar story and you’re so right, come through it in a better place and happier person

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Always a solution you can co out of the dark side of life into the light.

[@rich7913]

Congrats my friend. The more vids of yours that I see the more knowledge and encouragement I get. I'm no longer with my wife and retired, so my happy retirement plans are now a shambles. However, after watching this I believe there is a light that may be flickering now but will shine much stronger in the near future. I hope to experience your dream soon.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

You can do it! Rich. This is exactly why I did my video's I have been in your shoes and know how your feeling, Be strong. Life does get better release the hate and look at it with different eyes, being the cost of freedom. Then take every opportunity that comes your way. Good luck with your retirement plans. Thanks for your comment and watching.

[@martinpeacocke8968]

So true Les! I feel the same. I so appreciate the lifestyle and freedom of living here in Thailand. How lucky we are!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Spot on Martin you have to live here to understand that feeling. Thanks.

[@markinthailand1201]

Having finalised my divorce last year and the property settlement at the start of this year, the sweatiest moment was receiving a 6 figure cheque from my ex as she wanted to keep the property, whilst there was some dark days in and out of the lawyer office and the completely unnecessary costs there was always an end date

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

It is a good feeling when it is over it is then you can move forward because then you know where to start from good or bad its the 1st step.. I had to wait 8 years to get my sweet moment, I sent my ex wife a postcard from every country I visited around the World whilst she still had to work.

[@markinthailand1201]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream haha you have given me an idea her extra large mortgage paying for my retirement whilst my superannuation remaining untouched 🤣

[@therunning-farang3656]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream brilliant ending!

[@jimmymac4778]

Well done Les , you’ve moved on and enjoying life happy days 🙏🙏🙏

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Yes, thank you Yes always move on there is no need to dwell on the past, learn from mistakes and always move on. You can change your future but not the past. Don't let bitterness destroy your life with others.

[@zx600ninja]

Thanks for sharing your story with us. Things definitely happen for a reason mate. Glad that you managed to get back on your feet. Keep living the dream Les.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks Mark, its hard sometimes getting back up but it was worth it for sure.

[@swisspierre]

Great info Me too, i live the dream here in the Province of Phetchaburi

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Wonderful Cheers Peter we live in a Wonderful Country

[@brandonjoseph3422]

I think Thai courts or Asian courts in general are not as predatory as family courts in the west. Looking at the family laws in countries like Denmark Sweden US, men have become totally expendables. But hats off to you that you’ve pulled yourself back from the abyss to the kind of life you’re living right now. I sincerely wish, it never happens again

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you so much for your best wishes. Yes men are viewed as cash cows now in some country's Does not matter the reason for divorce the man pays 90% of the time. I know of many cases of wives divorcing their husbands the day the pension cheque hits the floor

[@stevekostakis2983]

Wow…inspiring. Thank you

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

You are so welcome! Recovery can happen. Thanks for watching.

[@KJ.392]

Great video. Happy for you.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you! for your comment and for watching.

[@hagar6359]

Les thanks for your great videos. I am learning a lot from you. Please keep posting

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks, will do! thanks for watching.

[@kaiman5307]

Great video Les

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you kindly

[@brucepeterleinwand]

great video

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi Billy thank you for saying my houses were nice. Once in Thailand there are many bargains to be had now for renting and buying. Have a good look before making any decisions.

[@darrenfrancis8264]

Totally agree with all you said, you told many peoples story ,

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you Darren

[@rudd2962]

Glad that you emerged victorious n am happy n living the dream Your resilience n ability to bounce back is an inspiration to many

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for your comment, we all have dark moments but then the light at the end of the tunnel appears and you can build on that. Thanks for watching

[@rudd2962]

Rightly said, where is the best place to set up base in Thailand in your opinion ..

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

@@rudd2962 It all depends what your looking for. If your single you want to be where it’s exciting, and plenty to do, I’m married so have no need for this type of entertainment. Of course Covid is here I have to say Thailand Entertainment is Closed. If you want just to chill enjoy living here Chang Mai and Pai Relaxing and Cheap. Phuket stunning but expensive . The Joy of Thailand is to discover it yourself I spent a year visiting many places before settling here in Rayong. Cheap to live here Koh Samet Island on our doorstep, Bangkok 3 hrs away. Great location for us. Travel around Thailand find yourself a nice location your happy with.

[@rudd2962]

Thanks mate, am single but not really looking for action. Liked Chiang mai but was deterred by its yearly 3 month burning season. Pattaya was nice but didn’t like its sleazy reputation, Koh Samui looks ok but not sure if island living will be too isolated Do u often encounter snakes when staying at your villa ? .. what do you think of Hua Hin, Cha Am, Krabi or the mae phim beach area in Rayon ? Someone says to go up north to Chiang Rai or Pai to live for a while to get to know some fair skin women or univ student, then bring them down south to live ..

[@jamesmorrin2729]

Good on you Les.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks you James, this blog got a lot of interest

[@rohitsengupta6822]

You have a great attitude mate, thanks for the video

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you for your kind words

[@mickmorley5557]

Thank you

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

You're welcome

[@ashp5648]

Thank you for sharing very informative video, the system is definitely stacked against the earner (male). The more you give the more they will take and become less grateful for it. Well done on your recovery and well done on creating a new lifestyle for yourself in Thailand. Having 3 divorces didn't put you off getting married again, more power to you

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I have nothing to lose now but I did tred careful in Thailand my wife is a 100% genuine nice girl and always will be. I am lucky we almost never met but im glad we did.

[@tajkharey590]

Such a lovely man and story. Youre very strong. It was sad to hear but you really did turn your experience which must have been painful into something positive. Its so nice that you have met someone now and can share and enjoy your life with together. I guess sometimes you have to go through these unpleasant experiences before finding the right person for you. Your lady was always waiting for you. All the best to you. Your story was very powerful and uplifting. Thank you. Peace & Love England.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for that, yes the rough and smo🙏oth. Me and my wife have just returned from a wonderful holiday which we extended by two nights as we were enjoying the moment. She is a wonderful girl and we do have fun together. Yes Lucky for sure. Thanks for watching and taking time to comment.

[@erics4127]

I'm going through it right now, homeless because of it. Living in my office, on the floor, for about 1.5 years now.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Good morning Eric, so sad to read this the thing that spurned me on was when I got the divorce over with I ended up going Bankrupt and living in a 1 bedroom flat in a not so nice location Picking my kids up at the house I worked so hard for and she now owned it and I was paying for it via maintenance to the kids ( never objected to paying this for the kids ) she did not work and was 300 pounds a month better off than me working full time. When she said how's your new place that was a kick in the nuts for me. When I met her she had a suitcase full of clothes and now she had everything. Long story short, this might be your wake up call and you can turn that corner and make things happen. You can do it for sure. Chin up Eric I know your feeling as I have been there.

[@J-R2D2]

Oh no !! Where do you live my brother!!

[@erics4127]

@@RetiredandLivingthedreamthat is a very tough situation as well. thank you so much for the encouraging words!!! Sometimes it helps me just being able to tell someone about it.

[@erics4127]

@@J-R2D2 sometimes in my car and sometimes able to sleep on the floor where I work

[@J-R2D2]

@@erics4127 oh dang !!! Yeah I had to leave my house and get a rental place while she’s living in a place I gave the skin of back to build. Where are you located …UK or in North America??

[@bradleys4783]

Spot on !

[@kottan1397]

Decent man....who made the smart choice.....best of luck... get your Covid 19 Vaccine..

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks do much, will do

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks.

[@ctsmith580]

This story is so familiar. It's not my story but shares common themes. I've been researching retiring overseas, watching the youtube videos and keep running into men who did everything that was expected of them. Men who worked hard, followed all the rules, were good husbands, fathers and taxpayers. All these men getting to the end of their careers and they have nothing in their home country. Their country and women betrayed them and frankly could care less what happens to them. You're the one supposed to give them stuff, you're not ever supposed to ask for anything back. After they have used you up and thrown you out, they will shame you for doing well and finding a foriegn wife willing to love you like they wouldn't.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Visiting Thailand whilst getting Divorced was used against me during one of our Court hearing's My wife's Lawyer was female the Judge at that hearing was Female and a remark made to the Judge as we all know the reasons Men go to Thailand Don't we!!! My reply to her was that she was small minded. Women frown when they know you have been to Thailand and we are looked down upon by women in the UK but looking at the available females in the UK Thailand wins hands down. I know many Guys hard working genuine guys have lost everything because she want to get a divorce. You can only recover so many times. Not bitter or angry if I did not make her happy I hope she finds someone that does make her happy. Life goes on

[@ctsmith580]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream God Bless.

[@farangtravels3956]

You won by KO 🥊

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

It put a smile on my face every day living here.

[@thomas24469]

So its best not to be married in the first place !

[@DiscoDrew]

Agreed

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I like being married its why I have done it again 4th time. Its a feeling you get its different to when you just live together. But I can see why many people do not get married.

[@acr9319]

@Tom williams,.. I would say its best to be married but to a feminine woman who knows her place in the home and society and enjoys her role as a wife, mother, housewife etc. Human beings were created to be with one another in a partnership or family role, we are not like some animals who just meet to procreate then never see each other again. Humans were created to be in a family environment, all the science and signs prove that, but its the F' up feminist movement that has desecrated that whole family unit ideal and created animals (for lack of a better word) out of women and therefore making it impossible for humans to be in this union any longer. Asia is one of the last bastions where we men can still find such a feminine woman who was brought up with proper old-school values, but this is why its crucial you never bring her back to the west or you will lose her as she assimilates into the western society and its values (what values). So our "window of opportunity" is very short as mobile phones are destroying this opportunity.

[@fatterthanbeyonce764]

Thanks

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Welcome Thanks for watching

[@welshboywebby]

never a true word said mate when i was getting divorced 7 years ago i thought my world had ended how wrong was i it was just the start of a new life im waiting to move to thailand as soon as this covid is over

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks so much for your reply I hope others read it we all feel despair at Divorce but like you said happier times are ahead. Covid will end one day so make that day a new start day. Enjoy Thailand when you get here.

[@welshboywebby]

dream think it will be around march time now this covid hasn't stopped my plans just put them back a year or 2

[@acr9319]

@welshboywebby.... Funny enough almost ALL women think they'll be better off divorced, then reality hits them once they blow your money and they start panicking and look for another victim or try get back with you. Yeah.. go girl.. 🤣 You are just fine at 200lbs, 5'4" size 18. you deserve better, you strong and independent girl! 🤣🤣 But for us men yes we suffer in the beginning, but then we realize that we are finally free of bondage and God it feels great!.. Whilst it hits them later - Oh F*CK what just happened?! I've run out of money! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mrdan7740]

Good video Les. Just curious why you didn’t rent out the house you built instead of selling it?

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Mr Dan, that crossed my mind but if we remortgaged the New build house the interest rate at that time would of been 15% on a 150,000 pound Mortgage no way we could of sustained that, Also the cost to furnish the house for renting was a lot of money, fully carpet it furniture well above what we had. I thought of every which way to do this, My last option was to walk away I was lucky to come out with 6,000 pounds we were 5 week away from walking away without anything. If i took on the extra expense we risked losing everything so bit the bullet put both houses up for sale the New build sold 1st.

[@davephillips6362]

hi less iv been married to same thia lady for 12 years everything fine, living in Hereford UK, and wanting to come and live in Thailand and wandering which area you live it lookes good dave

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi Dave well done with your 12 year marriage and Best wishes for your future plans to live in Thailand. I live in the Rayong District of Thailand. A nice part of the World.

[@youwatchme0808]

Very positive person u are Les, amazing that u did it 3 times or 4, im not sure if u got married to ur thai partner, thank u for sharing 🙏🙏

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you for your comment, yes I did get married to my Thai partner now 3 years and going strong.

[@bobbiegoestopattaya4239]

Les you did the right thing. Happiness is priceless. Wish you well for the future.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you so much Bobbie Thailand can be a New beginning.

[@peternettleton119]

So true mate and mirrors my divorces so closely. And you think like me Les, life goes on enjoy it 😏

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

True story I tell it as it is but I'm sure my ex has a different version. Thanks for watching.

[@christophercaruana7734]

Happy days…..

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Always! Every day

[@joewatkinson3225]

Top of the range les

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks so much.

[@ganesankpillay3768]

Good man!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thank you

[@deanhowells6863]

Nice one pal,.....i hope your ex's, see this vlog ! ....I'd give anything, to see their faces ! Deano in Pattaya 👍 🇬🇧 🇹🇭

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I showed her I was having a good time I sent postcards from all the places I visited around the World knowing she had to work for another 15 years. She won the battle but not the War.

[@lindrahena9024]

Sir, so I don't have a chance and I can not be retired in Thailand because I only receive 1,019 U.S. dollars from U.S. Social Security Administration a month. I am homeless in the U.S.A. and I am planning to move to Thailand in order to escape homelessness in the U.S.A.. Please reply... Thanks!!!!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi, sorry to hear your situation in the USA, If you have a regular income on $1,000 every month you can live here in Thailand, with that amount you can live in a reasonable property and be able to survive, some people will say its an existence but if you can achieve a better lifestyle here on the amount of income you have then in my opinion go where your buck goes further. Cambodia is even cheaper than Thailand and your money would go further than here in Thailand. It will be an existence on that amount but it can be done for sure. I have done a couple of videos living on 35,000 Baht and living on 50,000 baht, the 35,000 baht is more in line with what you have to play with, give them a watch and let me know your thoughts. Best of luck with your situation

[@Bamspapa]

Life is good be safe and have fun

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Top man

[@okbilly1]

You built beautiful houses, I’m planning on moving over @ 50yo I will look to rent & not buy, planning on renting a condo

[@keithy507]

I plan to do the same at 50. 45 this year so won’t be long in going in! Either that, or holiday 3 months a year to Thailand for the 5 years, (from 50-55) that’ll bring me to 55, so I can cash in my private pension. I’ll also be mortgage free in 3 years, so I can rent my house out for an extra income! 🙏🏻

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Sounds like a plan to me. Good luck with your planning. Enjoy Retirement.

[@charliestride3116]

Charles from England Morning Les Just a short question men that retired to Thailand have to have a home address in England To make shore they get the pension increase every year Does any of your followers know of a way round this please and thanks again Chaz

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi Charlie, Not having got to that age yet, as far as I understand as long as your registered in the UK then you get the rise, I will cross that bridge when I get to it, but I understand if your in the UK for a month every year then you get the rise but I also understand if you missed a rise for a few years then when you return back to the UK for a month or so then all them rises are added to your pension payment, but are not back dated. I would be interested as you are about this. Thanks for asking the question.

[@stephenhume9195]

I've been in Thailand for 25years just found out I don't own my house my wife lost it gambling so retirement is fucked apart from that Great story.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Wow sorry to hear that Stephan, that's got to hurt.

[@timwalker2458]

Les kids parties. Bey they were fun 😂😂

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

It was fun and I enjoyed it so much. I would do that all again. happy faces bring happiness to you also.

[@mackayscanland]

Les, I hope you thank your 'ex' often, as she did you favor!! Nice life now!!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I must send her another Postcard its been a while.

[@acemany1126]

I'm glad to see you bounce back and living your best life my brother. Enjoy your life and F them old beeches!!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Always! Thanks for your comment We can all move forward after a fall.

[@oliversparks1459]

Stay Strong Bud Pleased you Moved Forward

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Always move forward never look back. You make your own path in life.

[@oliversparks1459]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream Very Difficult Sometimes though as Six Years Ago after 12 Yrs of a Thai Wife Marriage she Attacked my Hand With a Machette Meaning I Cannot Work Again Ever at 51 Yrs Old Six years Later two Failed Operations Sometimes it’s Just impossible

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

@@oliversparks1459 wow sorry to hear that. My 1st long term Thai Gf here Threw objects at me hit me with a piece of wood causing injury I called the police, I drew the line when she attacked me with a meat cleaver and just stoped short of cutting me with it, I seen the Red mist in her eyes. She destroyed many of my belongings. But every one we’re shocked when we parted to look at her butter would not melt in her mouth. But as time went on her evil streak came out as she started drinking,

[@oliversparks1459]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream Thank You Just wanted to Share My Experience

[@robbokeys]

Glad it worked out for you in the end. Does sound like you didn’t have much time for your relationship working 7 days a week so divorce was likely. All the best

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

This is true, my wife decided she did not want to work so I took on more work so she did not have to work, I was in a no win situation. She got what she wanted not having to work at the expense of me having to work more.

[@RickTheBoss98]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream some th8ng happened to me

[@michaeltaylor3473]

So do you not recommend marriage in the first place?

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Marriage is recommended by me even though I'm on my 4th But no one knows the future many things in life can happen but enjoy the ride whilst its good.

[@absolutelyeverything298]

How do you make your money

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Retired on my Fire Brigade private pension since 2010.

[@bigal2417]

I got married when I was young and dumb, got divorced at 40 moved to Thailand and looked back. The lesson to learn is never get married, if u do get married like I did as a young man never marry 2 or 3 time that's suicide.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Enjoy yourself and thanks for your comment.

[@alistairmarshall169]

Good luck Les you certainly deserve it with all your bad luck 🍀

[@MajorTom6]

Unfortunately, marriage is a legal contract where one of the parties gets paid to break said contract. I've seen so many friends get crucified by divorce, then watch their ex's drive around town in expensive cars owned by the new partner, while they struggle to afford to eat and run a car to get to work. The legal system is set up so that that when a couple split, money goes one way 90% of the time, and we know which way that is. All the best.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I would agree with that thanks for watching.

[@houseofharmony5907]

I'm sorry this happened to you and glad you're well now. Sounds like you packed in your businesses not because they were failing, and the bankruptcy was due to you closing your businesses while having liabilities. In hindsight, was this a good decision? I'm guessing the children were quite young at the time?

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi thanks for the comment. I closed down the business as my Maintenance for my ex and two kids would of been based on my total income working with my other jobs as well as being a Firefighter and my feeling was why should I work more so my ex got more, When I met my ex she had two suitcases full of clothes that's all. Renting a small room in a house. Yes I had Liability's also which could not be paid because I quit the other jobs but taking my financial advisors advice and legal advice I was advised to close everything and went Bankrupt. It was not my choice to get a Divorce it was my wife who decided she wanted the break up. I tried everything in my power to not get divorced but her mind was made up. Following Divorce she got the house a income for 12 years a House with a small mortgage only had to work 16hrs a week and no debts. In hindsight yes it was the right decision to go Bankrupt. Yes the kids were young and my ex started poisoning their minds from the break up stopping me seeing the kids for 9 months whilst I went through the courts. She delayed at every turn. The badmouthing carried on regardless I never retaliated by badmouthing their mum never did. This eventually turned the kids against me so in the end she won what she wanted to win. Sad situation but Life goes on. A sad time but I hope others who go through this hard time in their lives can see light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for watching.

[@houseofharmony5907]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream Sounds nasty. The children will get older and make up their own minds. I hope they get to see you enough, despite you living so far away. I also hope their mum found a job that she absolutely enjoys and that childcare arrangements were ok while she works .. Maybe she could work around school times. I do have to say, though, that while you worked hard, even 7 days a week at one point, she was also working because looking after young children while maintaining the mechanics of a household is no easy task. I did it for a while and was relieved to go back to my even stressful job outside the home. The homemaker is not earning a pension or financial security, but sacrificing that to make the hunky dory household, raising the kids full time, dealing with the loneliness from not spending time with her spouse, and maybe sometimes getting the sense that what she's doing is not valued because it hasn't been assigned a £ value, so she was likely making a substantial contribution and sacrifice to the marriage, which i think warrants an equal and fair share of the earnings so that she doesn't drop down to zero with no security for the future after all she's done. All that being said, I would never advise a spouse to completely sacrifice a career to be a home maker. It's not healthy for that spouse in my opinion and I think that once the children are of junior school age, having an earning job is good for both spouses. This is all just my opinion and I hope I haven't caused offence. I admire your bounce back and wish you all the best.

[@robertthomas345]

Just had a house built in sakon nakon, have a lovely partner with no children. She has a lovely mum and dad. All this from a divorce in England. And I'm 77. So you divorced people out there if I can do it you can,,BOB,,

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Well done BOB so happy for you Enjoy your retirement in this wonderful Country.

[@lostboi3974]

Is getting divorced from a woman in Thailand as bad as in the West?

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I hope I never have to tell you from experience about this one. But I know a couple of men hurting with what they lost. I have herd others Thai girls paying for divorce so they can marry another foreigner.

[@bigal2417]

Mate I was with u until u told me you got divorced 3 times. You only have yourself to blame. You never learned.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

We all do what we feel do I think it was a mistake No the 1st marriage yes young and stupid, the 2nd marriage I did for love and having kids the divorce reasons were complicated but was shocked when it came. 3rd marriage stupid gut feeling said No but head said yes. 4th one yep 100 % happy with everything here. 3 attempts but the 4th is a good one. ( I hope ) But in saying that I have nothing to lose as I already lost it years ago.

[@bigal2417]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream I hope this time it all works out for u. Good luck 👍

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

@@bigal2417 thanks take care.

[@macthejack4962]

Third times a charm .. we all learn differently , some get it right first time , some the second , but as with “ relationships “ heck who knows … great news .. it’s now working .. so we go on lol 😆

[@macthejack4962]

Oops fourth times a charm lol

[@stormchaser419]

Alimony = I deserve money because I have certain body parts. Marriage to a woman is the most foolish thing a man can do.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

There are many ways to look at this. Interesting Name Strom Chaser I had a Customized Ford Capri named Storm Chaser when I was 18 Thanks for watching

[@jurgschaad4567]

Les l like to living the dream to same like you ,l,m

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

If I can do it anyone can do it. Best wishes and thanks for watching.

[@nickjones8867]

Les best stay single

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Being Single has its benifits but being married also has benifits, I was a single man around Pattaya for 9 months before I met Ploy, I was ready to leave Thailand and travel around Europe for 6 months.

[@davewallace5008]

Was the divorce because money or incompatibility? I am guessing money (greed)

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi Dave a complicated story but money was involved. I always worked hard for the Family and always been a good provider sometimes that's not enough.

[@ThailandBob]

Last year at this time I thought I had the perfect marriage of almost 33 years and had no ideal there was any problem. Our only son was in West Point and my wife had everything she needed, or so I thought. Anyhow she soon ghosted/disappeared without even saying what was wrong. With a bogus restraining order, I may never know what caused the divorce!!!! Life moves on for me now! The story of the divorce: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5u4Y6Sumt-ghbs

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Sorry to hear that but sadly a story that I have herd many times. Always here for a chat and a coffee if needed as I have been in that deep dark place your inn. Best wishes on your future there is a light at the end of the tunnel you just need to focus on that. Look at the bigger picture look where you would like to be in 8 years I did that and it helped me focus. Nothing happens quickly.

[@ronaldparker6726]

They marry you for the divorce. Cash and prizes.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Simple but true.

[@johntheaccountant5594]

Married four times = slow learner. Trying to keep up with Jim Davidson?

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Not slow learner I'd say bad choice. but found the right one or until it goes sower but I think not.

[@warlord3017]

Les you seem to be a nice guy but what happens in 7 years when you have paid your Thai mortgage off and your Thai wife decides to kick you out? It's happens a lot ..

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Hi thanks for your message, If I thought for one moment that would be possible I would walk away I fear you have herd too many horror stories, There are many good stories also living here, I know many guys who are very happy with life here with their Thai wives, guys being married for 15 & 20 years why do people dwell on the bad stories. Trust is a large part of life if I did not trust my Thai wife then I would not have bought this house. But as you mentioned being kicked out, this cant be done as I have a 30 year lease renewable for another 30 years to live on the land, Also if this did happen then for 7 years I have only lost the difference between renting and buying not a big difference when all said and done. But as a man you never know what the future holds. The 2nd wife had only a suitcase full of clothes when I met her and following Divorce ended up with a house worth 130,000 pounds with a mortgage of 30,000 pounds and no debt. I put down the 30,000 deposit which I could not get back so I lost far more in this marriage than If I lost everything after 7 years with my Thai wife ( who is by the way the most trustworthy Lady I have ever met in my life ) It all depends how you look at things in Life worry about the bad things can stop you enjoying the good things life has to offer, Just pick yourself up dust yourself down then move on. My ex wife has still 8 years to work before she can retire, on the other hand I have been retired for 12 years now so who won in the end.

[@briannevel5352]

So, what have we learned here?

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Many lessons What I hope people learn from this, Don't give up, Live your Life, There is Life after Divorce, don't let divorce stop you from getting Married again, Start a new life, You can be free from a horrible relationship, Be more careful choosing a partner. Make sure you get a Pre Nup before getting married again. These are jut at the top of my head and I think there are many more. As you can see all positive suggestions I don't do Negativity that is no good for anyone.

[@darryl1755]

It's just the biggest weight of your shoulders when it's all finalized. The best part is you actually make more money without them dragging you down!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

It was a huge relief when the papers were signed, on the Final day at Court I sacked my Divorce team and negotiated myself with her Lawyer as my divorce team were crap. But that is another story. When I picked myself up and dusted myself down I got back on my feet and Lived my life and had some great times. She won that battle but did not win the War. I am sitting here looking out of my Window at a tropical Paradise Traveled around the World being retired for 11 years and she is still working and has 8 more years to do. Magic. SODID I LOSE. I look at it as this was the Cost of Freedom.

[@darryl1755]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream They call it som nom nah in thai as you would know. Enjoy your retirement bud. Nice house for 12,000 a month! What area are you in?

[@tindotti3788]

People need to stop this nonsense of feeling like getting married is the thing. It's not

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Everyone have their own thoughts on this.

[@shauncooke9837]

Just warm I find Thailand hot hot

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Yep it can be hot but living there for 11 years now it gets easier as time goes on. Aircon is a blessing.

[@shauncooke9837]

I lived there for 15 years in Phuket. Going back at the end of the month for five weeks to see if I want to live there again get the feel

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

@@shauncooke9837 Best wishes for your return trip. Best wishes for your future plans.

[@aliasmakaveli6314]

Why do u keep marrying? Smh

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I like being married.

[@philipwebb8297]

Good on you Les.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for watching