Divorced Woman Says THIS is How You Find True Love 😬

Divorced Woman Says THIS is How You Find True Love 😬 #shorts
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[@annarodriguez9868]

I'm almost 77 and been a widow 19 years. This lady is absolutely right about marriage. Your spouse absolutely has to be your very best friend in your life. Romance takes 2nd or 3rd place as you begin to focus on children and paying bills, but your friendship deepens and grows stronger with each challenge life throws at you. My husband and I met in high school and we became good friends right away. I had a crush on another guy, but then I realized he was not as much fun to be with as I was with my best friend. I began to realize that I missed seeing him when school let out for Christmas and Easter. By the time summer vacation rolled around we became more than best friends. We were going steady. This was 1964. We got married in 68 and he got drafted and went to Vietnam. Thankfully he came home safe. I got to be his wife for 36 years before he passed away from cancer. He was only 59. He was the best friend I ever had. ❤

[@McCarthy_Paul_Servant_of_God]

I hope you meet again in heaven ❤

[@annarodriguez9868]

@@McCarthy_Paul_Servant_of_God Thank you for your kind response. Yes, I believe he is waiting for me and that he watches over me. Today would have been my husband's 79th birthday. Not a day passes that I don't think of him.

[@McCarthy_Paul_Servant_of_God]

@@annarodriguez9868 oh wow, what a coincidence, glad you're able to be reminded of him fondly today then! :)

[@321MjC]

​@@annarodriguez9868 Your story brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful❤ Thank you for sharing!!

[@annarodriguez9868]

@@McCarthy_Paul_Servant_of_God Not a day goes by that I don't think of my beloved. He was the quiet soul and I was rambunctious spirit. We balanced each other very well. Peace and blessings, friend!

[@31Alden]

Beautiful words and wise sentiments. May all of her days be richly blessed with goodness and light.

[@crystalgreen9441]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@icantcook9998]

What she said was 100% correct to many people get married to the wrong person for the wrong reasons it's all about money and sex these days instead of friendship

[@scotthearts9634]

​@@icantcook9998true!

[@bookbwitched6823]

I am loving YOU! What a wonderful comment & I send those blessings right to you all in this chat stream. I had the same reaction. I wrote that I wasn't to hang out with her & make her laugh.

[@badhabit714]

Shut up'

[@Tanya-ob5tb]

"You're not on the market!?" was so sweet. But her "No" was even sweeter. God bless this pretty lady.

[@user-mq2wy7uh9d]

What is the inner meaning of "you are not on the market!?" 🤔 why did he asked that ???

[@pattyervin7242]

I thought it was disrespectful. - he made an "oh well" gesture, and was basically making fun of her.

[@Magamomma22245]

He was NOT making fun of her. It was a micro flirt.

[@chrismac1507]

@@Magamomma22245someone with social skills 🤦‍♂️

[@jeanettewight6365]

​@@pattyervin7242He meant it as a compliment! She was not at all offended & his comment made me smile. His voice was very kind to her.

[@tamaraleausa2964]

Ive had a hard marriage. We are not best friends. I tell my adult children this exact advice. Marry your best friend who makes you laugh, who will be easy to communicate with.

[@smania7575]

Just playing devils advocate, but what if you are the difficult one from your spouse's POV? What if they see you as the person who cannot communicate?

[@anons090]

But can you fall in love with your best friend? Friend is different from spouse. I love my husband but he is not my best friend for sure. And he doesn't love me at all. Sometimes I wonder if my love is an obsession. And I never had any feelings for people who could have been a good match in terms of interests and habits.

[@SieMiezekatze]

I am confused ? Why dating someone you don't enjoy being with ? Why hanging out with someone that you cant communicate with? There is plenty of people , why choose to be in that type of relationship?

[@zacharysherry2910]

What's communicate

[@anons090]

@@zacharysherry2910 I am assuming you are not asking the literal meaning. Most probably, in this context she meant carrying day to day conversation in general. Yes, that is important. If one cannot talk to a person without a fight or some kind of altercation or has to be extremely careful while talking or even maintaining silence, the relationship will be difficult to maintain. Life gets really stressful. So while choosing spouse one has to think about that, but the funny thing is most people go with someone who they think they will get along. Their past influences their decisions unfortunately, not their intellect. They don't pay attention to their needs, rather they want something and keep chasing the same.

[@eileenbenson1294]

She's lovely, so genuine, well spoken, and very wise

[@niveditapandey6083]

❤❤❤❤ Great understanding

[@rogerringold616]

NOW....NOW... BACK THEN ?!

[@creativewriter3887]

Yes.. She didn’t sound bitter, resentful or forelorn. There’s a quiet kind of “So this is how life is and I’m actually okay with that”

[@25Soupy]

Lovely yes, genuine yes, wise no that's why she's divorced.

[@eileenbenson1294]

@25Soupy She was twenty years old when she married, seriously , the heart takes over, she was very young , she is wise, her wisdom, knowledge and experience makes her wise, her divorce has nothing .to do with her not being "wise" experience, living life etc...breeds "wisdom'" youvl sound very judgemental

[@missp5152]

Her acceptance of making a wrong choice while young, and not blaming herself nor her spouse, is the key to her calm serenity. 💝

[@thearough]

😮She did what men say she raced and married not to hit the wall before she even know herself to choose a spouse. I see noone here is accusing her of being with pookie and Ray Ray.or laughing and feeling vindicated that shes dying alone Hmmmm

[@chookinathunderstorm3446]

She spoke facts without actually describing him as being uncaring about her well being and happiness (as a spouse who was also a friend would never do) and that a spouse with neglected feelings cannot raise the will to continue to pretend to be passionate about someone who they have come to realise cares only about themselves and, in truth, sees them as just a handy second class citizen in their life plan. She is older and and accepting of it as she has seen many such relationships fall apart as she was married in the days (the 60's) when teens were encouraged to get married and start a family as soon as possible and, if you were not a married woman with a child before you were 25 you were considered on the shelf. Also easy divorce for women did not come in until the late 70's before which, the woman had to lie in court that she had commtted adultery (ruining her reputation) just to be granted one if the husband was unwilling to divorce her..

[@ian_ford]

She has emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and humility. Something many modern women lack significantly.

[@Shiva-te6jq]

@@ian_fordI think you meant to say modern men

[@LilXancheX]

@@ian_fordbecause modern women lack a brain. Not only women but men too. I swear most people these days act so mentally regressed it’s ridiculous

[@marilyncalvert4143]

I’m 66 I met my husband when I was 23. He died when I was 42. He was my best friend and he was my very best friend. We had water balloon fights and we enjoyed each other and traveled. We had two kids and did so much together.my world collapsed when he died. I never married again because I couldn’t find anyone close to being like him. He was a person I could forgive and he was a black man that even those who were prejudice liked him. He was a very giving person. If I found someone like him again I could see dropping everything to do it again. I’m coming to a time in my life I’m near the end. He made my life complete.

[@mawatrop5575]

❤❤❤

[@sonderexpeditions]

42 is so young. Sorry for your loss 🙏🏿

[@marika7848]

My condolences. What a special relationship the two of you had! May you be blessed to find another one, which might be different but just as wonderful.

[@MN-br5nb]

❤ I hope you find someone similar…66 is young

[@KofoshiiKaro]

❤

[@HailHydreigon]

I got married at 38 years old, last year, for the first and only time. I never rushed relationships or into marriage in my 20s and ended up marrying my best friend. We are so happy together. This lovely lady was correct.😊

[@Dancediva240]

Congrats! Had he always been in the picture as a friend or is that how u felt after getting to know him and dating him?

[@HailHydreigon]

@@Dancediva240 we started off as friends for about 6 months then we got really close and then he flirted with me and we gave a try. I guess we always had an eye for each other and he confessed that he had a crush on me from the start but didn’t think I’d like him like that. It was so cute. Lol

[@Dancediva240]

@@HailHydreigon I am so happy for u that is a very cute story❤️ dont mind me asking how did u guys meet?

[@TK-el4sr]

I'm just dropping a comment here to read how you guys met

[@paulhomsy2751]

"you have to find a person who's going to be your best friend". Words of wisdom.

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

Yes

[@teresev1435]

Facts

[@scouperful]

That's the key to a long, happy marriage; best friends , loving, honouring and respecting each other. Total dedication

[@eltoneagle8136]

And you'll love passionately she said...don't forget that

[@amelieremp8749]

it's wiser to stay free on your own.

[@toneykaasman2359]

I love this woman's demeanor, so articulate in her manner of speech. She is special.

[@infiniteinspiration1628]

Extremely ❤

[@vallerietolliver5739]

Yes. I agree he is so uplifting and he treats each person with honor and great respect!

[@maggiejetson7904]

You can tell in between the line that she made mistakes, and she learned.

[@emmawalton1849]

​@@maggiejetson7904 Haven't we all! Welcome to humanity 😊

[@deliveryguyrx]

This 65 year old man finds her quite lovely.Now, if only I wasn't married.....lol.

[@joshuwabrand5123]

I thought my husband was my best friend for 20 years i was faithful, loyal, honest and loved him but i have learnt a painful lesson that you can be faithful and loyal to someone but they can cheat and destroy your life. I am damaged. So being single sounds very peaceful and good.

[@katherineasimah]

Yes, it takes time to pick up the pieces...I still find some that were hidden. But through everything, I know that I loved my husband with all my heart. And, now I must love myself, my emotions and my passion with all my heart. Putting myself first was hard, but day by day 🙏🏽❤️

[@joshuwabrand5123]

@katherineasimah I am sorry you are going through this. I don't understand why people don't just say they want out instead of betraying someone as it causes so much damage, but I guess they just don't care. It is hard trying to pick up all the pieces 😪

[@Twothousand.24]

Yeah, they break that innocence and purity of the loyalty, faith, and unconditional love you give them. They not only make you lose them but also your trust in others.

[@joshuwabrand5123]

@Twothousand.4 exactly, I basically don't trust anyone anymore all I am constantly thinking of how to protect myself so I don't get hurt as well as dealing with trauma and panic attacks. It's certainly not fair the way they damage others.

[@RoxxiWalker]

@@joshuwabrand5123 because a lot of times they don’t really want out. They want to have their cake and eat it too.

[@TiffanyHerrera-lh6yu]

My hubby is my best friend. He treated me so good I fell in love with him. Met at work, took another job together at the same company then left and started our business together. We spend most of our time together and just love it. I mainly stay home with our kids but still help with the business at times. Def marry your best friend ❤

[@mammi3577]

Her voice is so beautiful 🪄

[@mditt7]

yes yes I was thinking exactly the same

[@annikalund2329]

She sounds much younger than she is.

[@luwamalem9537]

I know, she seems so sweet! 😊

[@IloveJesus777j77]

Have faith in Jesus alone to be saved.❤

[@jofipps376]

@@IloveJesus777j77 No truer words were ever spoken!

[@RebelAllianceJAC]

She is the type of woman you want to sit and have tea with and listen to her story. What a lovely soul she has.

[@masterprophet8378]

Facts!

[@margaret4807]

AGREE 😘

[@Henry_the_Frenchie]

She is so beautiful still both inside and outside!

[@auntiesemite9295]

Marriage requires effort and "passionate" love " doesn't last that long, but contentment and affection does.

[@renugadevi1818]

Absolutely

[@FC-PeakVersatility]

She is so right about that best friend thing. When everything else has taken its course, that best friend glue is what’s going to hold it all together.

[@doraclarke885]

Bless her. She is sweet, stoic, philosophical. Very admirable. ❤

[@jamesvokral4934]

Going on 50 years with my wife and this nice lady is absolutely right.

[@ibberman]

She's right, if it doesn't work out, it's sad.

[@StacyAlvar33z]

James.. congratulations 🎊 to you and you wife. You are blessed to have one another. ❤

[@lauriecoon1114]

I was married 25 years and I still miss him so yes it is very sad, especially for the one who doesn't want the divorce. I just turned 60 and I still have so much love for the right man but I'm waiting on God to find him for ❤ God bless all those reading this and in search of the right person 🙏

[@michelleluz4253]

God Bless You

[@RK-fi7ek]

You have each other. We all have our personality. In a relation important to be forgiving and unselfish

[@italianduded1161]

What a nice and distinguished lady. Those are very good lessons. 👍

[@Bat_Boy]

She also said: “Lots of lingerie, toys, lube, plugs…you gotta be a wild cat in the sack”. 😅 (Alexa, play Doo Doo Brown, by Too Live Crew. Granny gotta pop dat boo-tay!)

[@truthtarot7074]

👍

[@yvonneplant9434]

Wise too. Hope the young guy listened to her.

[@aboutmyfathersbiz]

“Distinguished” is truly an excellent, spot-on word for this beautiful lady 👌🏽🙏🏽🫶🏽

[@grand-georgeproductions3857]

Definitely ❤👏🤝👌💯

[@td436]

She speaks so gentle. My eyes got so teary when she said "its hard" because its almost as if i felt her since of loneliness... but when she said im not looking i felt a little better, besides she probably has her children and beautiful grandbabies to fill her with happiness...❤❤ My blessings ma'am you seem to be such a sweet lady.

[@christa3224]

She didn’t say anything about having children.

[@melissaparker340]

I wish this women all the happiness and all the positivity in the world ❤

[@sarahs4759]

Yes authentic Friendship is best relationship.

[@pattimaeda6097]

I married my best friend but neither of us were passionate for the other

[@VicToria-sd1dn]

​@@pattimaeda6097 Really? How's the marriage going?

[@angelarose249]

I love my friends but usually don't want passionate love with them. With that said, I'm very fortunate if I would find that.

[@madjunir]

As long as the guy is not friend zoned it could work. Women tend to friend zone the BETA Males and are attracted to the ALPHAS. If there's real respect. Real love and real attraction it would work long term. Men are usually easy to please. Women on the other hand are harder to please and usually leave (80% divorce initiated by women) because of female Hypergamy. They get bored and want to level up.

[@debbier9555]

​@@pattimaeda6097Are you still together? How has your relationship been working out? Strong friendship can develop into a romantic relationship.

[@thelongestshadow3389]

I don't know about you, but that gentle "No" she gave when she said she's not on the market had all the grace in the world. You can tell she's so settled in her soul where she's at. Beautiful clip.

[@notreallyafamousartist695]

That hurt me. I know she’s in her later later years but man she deserves unconditional love (based on this clip) it hurts that she’s made peace in being alone till death :(

[@jdcool038]

Yes that struck me too. She is strong.

[@lw0987]

I think that she might have felt a bit patronized by the question. She didn’t indulge him in the way that he was implying an, “Of course you’re not.” And then the joke about how he’s bummed that she’s not on the market. (As to say “Of course I’m not bummed.”) But she was having none of it. She ignored the implications and responded about it in a serious tone.

[@NonoNana-et9we]

What is the meaning of on the market?

[@nalublackwater9729]

@@NonoNana-et9we Be looking for someone to date. Sadly, in recent years people have taken to call "market" to what we used to call "look for your special someone".

[@kimfm2713]

My husband of 30 years often reminds me I'm his best friend. It means so much to me that he considers me, his wife, as his best friend. It just makes me love him even more! 😊

[@Consistentlycrazy]

Listening to what this lady has to say really makes me wish I have paid attention to what my amazing Nan had to say, but instead i was very young and out of control and had no interest in listening to her wisdom. Make the most of your grandparents cos they love you more than you ever realise and they've got so much to tell you xxxx

[@jasonauric]

My wife and I have had many arcs, in our relationship, but we are still obsessed with each other after 30 years together. I knew the moment I met her that we were going to go on adventures together. We still support each other, have children together, and we remember to be forgiving (within reason); to be nice to each other. I am just glad a beautiful woman, like her is in my life, she is a gift from the gods, and I am privileged to be her partner in life ❤!

[@sabrina77769]

How sweet 🤍 thanks for sharing. Gives some of us hope out there

[@marang5939]

You’re raving about her in a random comments section even after 30 years? 😂😂😂 I wish you both so many more years of good health, amazing experiences and beautiful days❤

[@moonchildcloset]

How long did you take to decide when to marry your wife? Genuinely curious😊

[@jasonauric]

@@moonchildcloset Not long, two years of dating:)

[@reachtrita]

Wow that sounds beautiful

[@clarkvaughan]

I found my best friend. I didn't know it at the time. Our personalities complemented each other. Her strengths were my weaknesses and vice versa. We were a team. Rest in Heaven, Joy 😊😊😊

[@hanochkurian5933]

😢

[@dawnstonerock4253]

There will be a reunion. Blessings! ❤

[@terri5624]

I'm sorry for your loss, Joy is with you always and I'll bet she won't let you chose anyone BUT your best friend 😊 ❤🙏

[@BunnyRabit-yo3lx]

When did you realise that she was your best friend?

[@vanessamccarthy7807]

This is beautiful to read. Thank you for sharing. May your beautiful memories of your time with Joy sustain you until you meet again ❤

[@Faye786]

She was so honest and you can tell she meant every word. Such a sweet lady, wishing her the best ❤❤❤❤

[@collinsotutu6132]

She is so soft-spoken. Adorable

[@gailcroslin1647]

We've been married for 48 years. I get up every morning and realize how much I love this man. How I feel when he walks thru the door and smiles at me. My heart still beats faster. He's a true friend and lifes companion. We were married at 18 and decided to make it work thru all the hard times. I'm glad we did.

[@Samuelee97]

Cuteee

[@mmconceicao]

How do you keep the love alive?

[@user-cc1ji6nq6n]

God bless you!❤

[@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke]

Did you work?

[@KristenKimberly]

Like #100🤗 I wish you both, 48 more years together. My parents have been married for 50 years. (51 yrs, this July)

[@frankcienciala3328]

I'm 70. This lady is completely correct. I'd add that you must speak respectfully, even when you're upset.

[@sdm101869]

Thank you , God is showing me how to do that with my wife as well!

[@leafyutube]

Nothing wrong with righteous anger. Even Jesus was upset at one time.

[@DynamicUnreal]

@@leafyutubeYou can be angry and show anger without using slurs or words purposefully meant to hurt your partner.

[@leafyutube]

@@DynamicUnreal The problem with many marriages are not those words but what triggered those words in the first place.

[@sbella6719]

Totally agree. Respect is big. Something I wish I had learned earlier

[@bryandavis8789]

Very well spoken about marriage. "You need to find person who is going to be your best friend, and who you will love passionately. Otherwise it will not work out".

[@craftychick48]

I'm friends with a widower. His wife died at 48 from 3 bouts of cancer. I admitted to him earlier than I liked him more than a friend and he said he's not looking for something like he had with her. She was his best friend and possibly his only true friend. ( He's introverted). I respected his answer and we have remained friends.

[@kadvaneem1691]

Hi you are kind soul

[@estar1277]

She is humble and sweet. God strengthen her and fill her heart with Joy.

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

❤

[@frankosei9726]

If only the young fools will deeply understand the wise words she is saying.At her age what will be more beautiful than having her old partner strolling along at the weekly local market

[@lakeyshavaughn8066]

Amen

[@luvyourchannel923]

That's exactly what my mother said when my dad passed away. She said, " He was not only my husband, he was my best friend." I've never forgotten that.

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

This woman is not married. Do you see the difference?

[@junnakashima4552]

That’s so beautiful but also sad, I’m very sorry for your loss, it sounds like you had very loving parents

[@junnakashima4552]

@@Michelle-pn9xt How miserable and pathetic must you be to make not just one, but several comments about how a divorced woman’s opinion shouldn’t matter, when it’s obvious that many people, single or married, fully agree with what she has to say? She’s obviously learned and grown a lot from her many experiences, and that makes her opinion more valid than anyone’s. If you can’t even see past the fact that she’s a divorced woman and take the time to really consider the message of her words, then you really can’t consider yourself in a position to give your own advice on such topics.

[@thegreatestislove8604]

I agree my husband is my best friend. I’m always excited to hang out with him and do things we like together. In the beginning it was rocky but a few years in and we figured out how to communicate with each other and let each other be ourselves without trying to change the other person. Now instead of arguing with each other about our faults every day we have passionate debates and conversations about things going on in the world it’s fun😊

[@eyekandy3000]

Never heard that before

[@beatricepeter995]

😮I married at 28.No boyfriends before 😅 What I understood was that I hadn't the faintest idea of " love"😢Yes, it was hard day by day especially my so - called marriage was the work of a matchmaker😢 Now I have found a "Best Friend ",divorced, I could not have even imagined what Love was 😊

[@WillowB-dn6if]

100% correct, marriage is a big commitment but is really hard if you do end up with the wrong person. Sad but true. Lovely lady and eloquently put.

[@justme8340]

She’s articulate, sensitive and beautiful.

[@ouvretagueule]

She said she's not looking!

[@justme8340]

@@ouvretagueule Yeah, I got that.

[@GranolaBear13]

And the guy interviewing her is so sweet. His face when she said she wasn’t looking…..I had to watch twice.

[@timhanser1943]

She is .

[@Badm00nrRising]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤like her

[@Junjo900]

I just love the way she speaks, so calming

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

I noticed 😅❤

[@TheOtherBoobJustDropped]

Right? Like I want to listen to her narrate an audiobook about bunnies or something

[@myjourneytotruth]

Well, when you've been through so much 💩 in life and have figured life out like never before, it only makes sense to speak at your own pace and have formed opinions and advice about important topics of life. With each passing year, I find it not necessary to speak much and care much about what anyone thinks. My focus in life is to be kind, spread kindness, surround myself with God fearing individuals and build a good reputation with Him, afterall there's life after death.

[@nathalieduverna6963]

❤❤❤

[@sbaumgartner9848]

I agree with her. You also need to know you can trust each other. This is very important. No lying, no hiding things, etc.

[@hermosotino]

She is accurate. Best friends with passionate love ....and respect...are the ingredients to a solid foundation for an everlasting relationship.

[@brandyyolidio4213]

She is a very logical thinker with no room for silliness. I love how refined and clear her diction is.

[@hamiltonconway6966]

Yes. People speak so fast and without clear diction it is hard to understand what people are saying these days.

[@Ch215t1anxyz]

Hope she will have a safe, healthy, and joyful senior life, surrounded by friends and children.

[@nicka302]

She mentions she was alone and divorced. I hope she has extended family, but seems content otherwise

[@tksmusic1735]

It's how she said the "No" ever so soft and gentle, yet so painful and deafening.

[@decristal48]

True, I'm 27 but I learned this watching others fail.

[@diabeatit5189]

So wonderful to hear her speak. Clear, concise, not a filler word in sight.

[@sonicstep]

What's a filler word and how is it seen?

[@LazyIRanch]

Umm, you know, like whatever.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

There are a lot of cut edits though, likely due to filler words. Not a big deal imo, just saying

[@caldwellfisher5288]

@@sonicstep swear words are fillers, and "like um" "she's like", "he's like"...stuff you say while you're "oh um like" hesitating

[@isabelbecerra9258]

My husband and I have been together 41 years and we are each others best friend!

[@Lady-Kawai]

Are you sure?

[@zy8753]

@@Lady-Kawaido you doubt? Then don’t share your weak, intrusive thoughts to others.

[@rondanatan6198]

That’s lucky and a blessing.

[@blackhokage1744]

​@@zy8753You mean he should not say the truth?

[@zy8753]

@@blackhokage1744 they don’t need a third party rando stranger with greased fingers, typing their feelings out to deter someone else cos they can’t handle life themselves. 41 years is better than what you or most can do. You celebrate news like this. Congratulate. Not tear down in fear or doubt. Don’t be stupid.

[@jacolinechase537]

This Woman is Such a Beautiful Soul!!!! Really learned a lot from Her. GOD BLESS HER ALWAYS.❤

[@hollyroxy25]

As someone that just separated from my ex of 20 years (we were together since we were teens), I completely identify with her saying “Nope, I’m not on the market” because that’s exactly how I feel. I’m totally drained by that relationship & honestly I just prefer being alone right now 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Mystic_Light]

When I say to prospects that we really must be good friends, or there is no point in a relationship if we can not be, I'm often met with puzzled looks. It's the sensible way to go about a relationship. Sure, chemistry is important but not as important as respecting and liking each other.

[@BlueEyedMomof378]

You're exactly right. There are any number of things that can ruin a sex life. That's especially true if you're married for 50 years. Menopause for women, and impotence for men, are just 2 examples. If you're best friends, and your like eachother there will be many forms of intimacy. Those will get you though the times when you're unable to rely on chemistry. The only thing I would add is that you have to enter a marriage with the intent to work through why hard times, or fights, that will come along. Many people, when they think of getting married, don't spare even a second to recognize that every marriage will have it's rocky times. If you aren't truly committed to weathering any, and all, storms.

[@user-se6jv1rn9m]

Hi p9

[@Kim-ri1hg]

Amen

[@AndreaMartinez-qu1be]

BINGO!

[@Mityob67]

Well said, thanks for your insight.​@@BlueEyedMomof378

[@daffodilfleur]

Older people have so much to offer and help the younger people, but most of the time not many want to listen. I just want to say thanks for asking her this question!

[@equine2020]

America doesn't appreciate older people. It's youth oriented. Older people have lived life. The good/bad. They've gained wisdom. All seniors aren't Joe Biden.

[@IrishFrank22]

The older women lead young women astray with bad advice on living your life by sleeping around and partying so they will end up alone like them. In boarder context my generation have learned what not to do from observing the older generations (particularly boomers) who broke the economy.

[@margaretr5701]

​@@IrishFrank22What a narrow mind you have. There's good and bad in all ages. And boomers didn't break anything, they worked hard to get what they needed, or went without until they could do better. I was raised by that generation.

[@IrishFrank22]

@@margaretr5701 The boomers caused the recession as they were the legal adults at the time signing contracts to borrow money way beyond their means because of their greed!!! The boomers and the next generation most certainly did not go without until they could do better. What generation was in charge in 2008? With regards to my point on older women, I meant what I said because it's true. Women cause 80% of divorces, cheat more, and financially extort men more. It is clear you have a very closed mind from reality and you have lived a very sheltered and privileged life!

[@factsrus3462]

Wisdom so sure of herself and her words

[@PlanetC64]

"You're not looking?" Sweet guy

[@VitoVeccia]

One of the biggest factors that I have noticed, that people overlook is, they look at the present. They don't stop and say: what are my lifelong goals and ambitions? What am i willing to commit and sacrifice? What are my partners strengths and weaknesses? This reminds me of a story that a late priest I knew, told at mass one day: a couple came to him to get married. And halfway through the marriage classes, he said I'm sorry but I can't marry you two yet. They got mad, went to another church,and found a younger and less experienced priest to marry them. 8 months later, they got a divorce. As the nice lady said, marriage is a life long commitment.

[@evadebruijn]

If/when everything else falls away (health, wealth) then yes friendship is so important to have as foundation ✌️

[@angelwings7930]

Even without everything falling away.

[@britzel71]

​@@angelwings7930 Exactly!

[@evadebruijn]

@@angelwings7930 Obviously! ✌️

[@MeeMeeG]

Yes

[@k27ism]

Reminds me of that meme, you know the one where the treasure hunter finds lost treasure and in it is a scroll, that reads, "the real treasure is friendship" and he throws it away in disgust. Ghahahahahah😂

[@JaneDoe-np4gh]

The adage "be the person you want to attract" is starting to seem true to me. You be you. Work on yourself. Be grateful. Then alone or with someone you will have good energy!

[@velmasablan2290]

Love your comment ❤

[@strongbamboo5947]

🙏💖 I am a woman that suffer from attachments, I am not proud of that. How at my 64 years can learn to be and do all alone? Greu up in a toxic family, I learned not to love myself nor respect me. In my adult life, intentionally chose my partners relationships to take of me. My form to pay for their care was submission of my part. Say yes to all, of course, that made me very unhappy. I put them in high throne and lower myself. That doesn't work, at the end both parts get tired, one of taking care and I of loosing myself. Presently, I am married to a narcissist. I dream at night and daydream too of leaving him, but I am like a chained elephant with a small bracelet.

[@SB-ln2dj]

So sorry to hear about your situation. I am also married to a narcissist at 61 and praying for the courage to divorce him. We are not alone as I now realize how many other women are living in these toxic relationships. May we all find our way to a happier and fulfilled life.

[@de-nz4jp]

​@@strongbamboo5947practice daily bringing a new feeling of goodness, love, in remembrance of your past self and past experiences no matter what they were.. in the present, focus your energy on yourself and all that you need to accomplish in your daily life.. this is not about ignoring another person but the prevention of fuelling, energetically another's negative behaviour .. as simplistic as this sounds this can be transformative..

[@quashiesuzanne]

And avoid the narcissists and the ones who support them

[@viktonner2368]

Wise words I waited till I was 38 before I got married and I can honestly say that I wouldn’t of changed my life, I was wild but I’m 55 now and I’m happy with my kids and husband, I think you’ve got to want it and be ready to bend a little bit and put the work in you’ve got to take care of it

[@marmurry]

I like how she subtly touched on the difference between 'learned' and 'understood'.

[@vickyferreira3259]

She's absolutely right, you have to find your best friend. Nowadays, people are looking for the "hot guy" or the "hot girl" or someone who makes a lot of money. Nobody is looking for the ones that will stimulate your mind and soul.

[@ramblerdave1339]

Nothing new about that, been that way for all my 73 years. Had a few " best friend" women in my life. They were always looking for a handsome prince to sweep them off their feet. And then married some some alpha loser, with a guitar or Corvette.

[@auemmjee]

Most of the married people I know are average looking.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

exactly

[@Reform4Trump]

Very well stated 😊

[@ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow]

@@ramblerdave1339 - The Vette get'em wet. Know what I'm saying?

[@Annyoungcat]

I would also add that before you marry, you should know yourself well enough to be able to know what you are and most importantly, what you would not be able to put up with, because throughout a marriage, there will undoubtedly be things you both don’t like about one another.

[@positivevibe7684]

@anny I agree 💯❤

[@mlm7598]

Totally agree!

[@jacquuelinesimpson191]

Agreed...know who you are is important takes years or also paying attention...then you dont take bullshit as you are putting in 100 per cent.❤❤❤

[@BS-dq1kz]

Absolutely! I agree.

[@positivevibe7684]

@jacquuelinesimpson191 I agree. It takes years working on inner self, and it's no picnic in the park. You will face things that you've suppressed for years. I've been doing the work for years (counseling has helped tremendously). And I can say I'm pleasantly pleased. I am more at peace, I handle external problems in a more calm manner, I let go of what I can't control, I'm able to ask myself what role did I play when problems arises; among other things. Im still a work in progress. I manifest and attract love and kindness in my life. ❤️❤️

[@nicciseabrook4249]

This woman is complete inspiration. She has said so much with only a few gentle words. ❤

[@user-gy3fj1gt9i]

Loved her message ❤ as a 25 years old I will keep it in mind to make my choice

[@ginapalmer2817]

That's a very sweet, soft spoken and wise elderly lady!!

[@charleslee5707]

Don't look for only smartness but marry a person who is gentle and value the meaning of relationship ❤🎉

[@user-ty8ve3oz4b]

I accept it. Thank you🎉

[@iam_yahsgrace29]

Amen🙏🕊💜💯

[@willyboy6126]

It's true...you have to be each others best friend. If you have that as a foundation, the relationship will last a life time...like my dear late parents had - now happy together in Heaven❤️

[@lily_liya]

Aww touched my heart..may God bless all and grant a happy life with the person they love! True love is rare! Never hurt, make anyone crying and break anyone's heart, please..

[@CherylBerryl]

Our elders have So Much to teach us! I LOVE that this young man obviously feels the same!

[@GnosisDharma]

This woman have good advice however it does not mean all older people are wise because they are not, I saw a short video yesterday, well she accused young people of being selfish, encorage marrying young and have children even if it's hard because they had it hard, well that is super bad advice! People that can't take care of children obviosly should not and it's not selfish to not marry young and decide to not have children. It's not true that if there is a will there is a way. Life is suffering and if you don't have the means to provide for your children you absolutly should not! Then she talked about laces and how important it with a nice home. However people need to be able to afford a nice home and all don't think laces look good. So I would say and elder person that don't talk trash about young people are actually wise otherwise not!

[@LazyIRanch]

We found the "Okay Boomer" person who can't just say something nice about this lovely woman without spouting their hate towards elderly people in general. You choose to cling to negative stereotypes about them, while accusing them of doing exactly what YOU are doing.

[@GnosisDharma]

@@LazyIRanch There are wise elderly people and wise young people, it's not about age but many think so. Ofcourse I very much dislike hate towards young people, it's not okay, however I don't think this woman on this particular video hate young people. I believe in the younger generation and I will defend them. Okay boomer was response towards hate against younger people. What is wrong with that? Well you do you.

[@M21L35]

@@GnosisDharma 'laces' ?...what is being referred to here?

[@GnosisDharma]

@@M21L35 decorationsstyles of peoples homes.

[@user-gs6jl2jq6q]

I met my husband at age 20 and we got married 2 years later. We have been married now coming up on 30 years this year and have 2 grown kids. I credit our success to the fact that we were both very blunt and open with each other about what we wanted out of a relationship and what we didn't from the very beginning. We also have a rule that we never go to bed without saying I love you even if we are mad.

[@annarodriguez9868]

Yes! Always say you love each other no matter what! My husband and I used to say "I love you more" but when I was angry or upset I would be a brat and say "I love you anyway." He would still say "I love you more anyway."

[@user-gs6jl2jq6q]

@@annarodriguez9868 there have been a couple times when I would say "I love you tomorrow."

[@user-bf5bh4bi9y]

I have been happily married for 27 years! There were rough patches, but we got through them! My husband is the best! Communication is key! And congratulations! 💜

[@d.d.sarason8749]

​@@annarodriguez9868I don't understand why people constantly have to say that they love someone. My mom told me that she started dating my father when she was 15 and the very poor daughter of a share cropper in SC in the 50s . My father was 19 and moved to DC to make a living outside of the south in '61 . My mother came to DC in '63 and they got married and stayed married until he died when he was 70. They had 4 sons bought a house in DC and another in SC .my Dad died with my mother holding his had and singing "yes Jesus loves me "to him. I never once heard either one say "I love you to each other or to us" .. My dad never wore a weding ring.My mother was literally the nicest most giving person that I have ever met. She never once told me that she loved me and I never needed her to. My wife and my brothers wife insisted that we say that I love everyday. Both of our wives left us for another man. I have co workers and acquaintances tell me that they love me. I know that they don't. My Three adult children and I never say that we love each other and we are as close as can be. People that love me I can feel it, people who say that they love me I never believe them

[@TomNoles007]

​@annarodriguez9868 You say you and your husband 'used to say'; could I politely ask what happened if that marriage is in the past? Either way, thank you for sharing that lovely comment.

[@BritCrime_Central]

Aww 😢 words of wisdom from a lovely elderly lady.

[@ChrissaSD]

❤ This made me cry. I was married at 19... so I understand this completely. First and foremost, be happy alone and like yourself first. Then you can give your love to someone. ❤

[@adamdws1986]

The calmness and not rushed to gst her point accross was so soothing

[@mariehaverty8209]

Agree 100% we all have time to get the point across like this gorgeous woman we just don’t think we have, life is to short anything else. Well done to her❤😊

[@sheila95472]

Bless your heart young man, for making that face after she said she wasn’t available. That was the sweetest.

[@trishmcl9055]

I think it looked silly. I also think that lady thinks it looks silly. My husband died four years ago. Now I'm 60 years old and it's impossible to find love when you're old. Unless you have money to buy love and that isn't the kind of love I want.

[@zacky61]

I think a lot of people misunderstood her,e. she was talking about the time when she was in her 20s, Her advice is you must look for a friend to marry not just anyone you like

[@ThatGirlJD]

​@@trishmcl9055It's not impossible to find love when you are older without money. Many people have done it. Some people just choose not to because for very personal reasons. Either choice is a good choice as long as it's the right choice for that person.

[@HOXHOXHOX]

Bless your heart mean summ else boo boo 💀💀

[@seaturtle5719]

Meh, seemed sarcastic

[@Jessica-he3ft]

I work in a retirement home and one of our residents recently turned 101. I overheard her telling another resident "I never wanted to get married. I didn't have a bad marriage, but I got married very young and I didn't want to be." That's kind of sad considering that she stayed with her husband until passed away over 10 year ago. It sounded like she loved him in a way, but wasn't passionately in love with him. It was expected of her to get married (and stay married) so that's what she did.

[@hudapicks8685]

Soothing voice and elegant tone

[@rickholland6695]

Excellent advice. My wife, Penny and I worked together as EMT/Paramedic partners on the ambulance for many years (decades). We were a great team on and off duty, building a successful life. We suffered and sacrificed together. I knew Penny for 43 great years. Unfortunately, she passed away suddenly in 2020. I love and miss you, my wonderful wife. But life goes on.

[@Kaakoos_641]

Sorry for your loss! 😢

[@angelwings7930]

Leave out the “but life goes on” part. It’s true but it killed anything romantic that you’d said.

[@rickholland6695]

​@angelwings7930 You are entitled to your opinion. However, it is a phrase my wife used on numerous occasions. So, I plan on keeping it in.

[@biancamaclean4794]

​@@angelwings7930I will kindly say no it doesn't 😅

[@sandy0519871]

@@angelwings7930Right man it sound like she’s dispensable but he has a personal story behind it…. Everyone has their reasons for doing what they do

[@dsamok]

This is why we respect random elders in our culture and touch feet and seek blessings from them.

[@Phoenix-gd4xw]

There's a reply KZbin is hiding from me.

[@theanonymoushelpline7248]

❤❤❤

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

I have a foot phobia. How else to show respect?

[@Phoenix-gd4xw]

@@_asantesana_squashbanana_ as long as you don't have respect phobia it's alright. Show respect the way you can.

[@cocohitchman3209]

Bless her she speaks truth but mixing that into today’s culture is difficult. Our grandparents era was a great time for real love through tough times and all . Now people cheat or leave because they are bored or don’t value relationships and love like the olden days ❤

[@kondwanibanda7819]

The laughter together was just the cutest ❤

[@MM-xh6dp]

This lady is so sweet! She didn’t whine and complain. Very direct but honest and sweet. Loved her and the video!!

[@Dontknockit101]

My husband has been my best friend for 49 years . Marriage is a commitment to each other , we promiced to never give up on eachother. My husband has always stood up for me. He treats me well. He is 72 now, and he is still the most handsome man i have ever met. Dont know what i would do without him. Dont want to find out either. He is my rock , i am so happy he picked me to be in his wife !! HAPPY VALENTINES HONEY ! ❤

[@ClaireGreen-wd2gm]

That's very sweet. 99.9% of people will never have that. Some of us just accept we won't. It's not a bother. I'm 38 and don't care if I ever date again.

[@Dontknockit101]

@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm I met him when he returned from Vietnam. I was 16 and he was 21.

[@justv7370]

Im going on this route with my current bf who also is my best friend, we will get married next year and your comment made me smile and I feel so hopeful because we have the same energy❤🥹🥹thank you so much for sharing 🫂

[@mereese1]

I have that kind of husband, too. This is marriage - year 44, and we love to review how we met and where we've been together (that's our bedtime story every night🥰). Either one of us will say, tell me a story, and we love to hear the same story.... I knew he was the one on the first date. I knew I was safe with him, and he has been a wonderful provider and protector every day since, and I've been blessed to be his wife and lover.❤

[@faridaaali6170]

U truely sound a beautiful❤ soul

[@nadlat8880]

Very sweet and not bitter. God bless her.

[@lindachonghing2484]

What a beautiful and gentle lady. Her wisdom is exceptional. May God bless her 🙏♥️

[@joydeepdas8632]

She is so calm😮...But Intelligent too

[@laurenwood9084]

Every great couple that I've known has had that best friend dynamic. It's beautiful. I wish that everyone could experience a happy marriage.

[@davisholman8149]

Just like this lady….I am a little younger. I got married at 20 also. Even my former in-laws felt I did everything I could to stay. My ex had some mental issues. My children have been the most important thing I have done. I was the best mom I could be - not perfect, but I did all I could to give them a nice, stable life.

[@davisholman8149]

Just like this lady….I am a little younger. I got married at 20 also. Even my former in-laws felt I did everything I could to stay. My ex had some mental issues. My children have been the most important thing I have done. I was the best mom I could be - not perfect, but I did all I could to give them a nice, stable life.

[@davisholman8149]

Just like this lady….I am a little younger. I got married at 20 also. Even my former in-laws felt I did everything I could to stay. My ex had some mental issues. My children have been the most important thing I have done. I was the best mom I could be - not perfect, but I did all I could to give them a nice, stable life.

[@davisholman8149]

Just like this lady….I am a little younger. I got married at 20 also. Even my former in-laws felt I did everything I could to stay. My ex had some mental issues. My children have been the most important thing I have done. I was the best mom I could be - not perfect, but I did all I could to give them a nice, stable life.

[@tatianitanyo]

I have been married for 11 years, however I have never had a problem with my husband, we were best friends for years and I realized I was having more fun with him than with other guys so I took the first step. Maybe I don’t have a lot of experience but I believe friendship is the most important thing you can have with your partner 😊 hopefully I can grow old with my husband and be together forever.

[@bodyofhope]

I pray you and your husband are richly blessed all of your days and are only separated by the end of your lives ❤

[@phorn100]

Isn’t it amazing that the only prerequisite you had was having ‘fun’ with a man. His decency, kindness, masculinity, competency, hard work ethic, honour, standing by his word, helping others, sobriety etc all the traits that make a man solid meant utterly nothing to you. You picked him based on the most superficial, superfluous piece of crap trait you could and yet it worked out for you. Heterosexuality for men is a bloody curse. Decency and honour in a man are traits despised by wahmen yet this simp interviews wahmen like a mangy dog. When are men going to get it?

[@lauramalizia9636]

Had to be your 100th like and 2nd comment 😊

[@garyneilson3075]

"hold fast to what is fine" (1Thess.5 :21, the Bible)

[@kipliethurlow9091]

​@@garyneilson3075thanks for finding a good one❤

[@SurprisedGuitarAmp-or3or]

🤯 GIRL, YOU JUST TOLD THE FULL GOSPEL TRUTH RIGHT THERE🤯

[@erynpoulin8151]

She’s lovely, beautiful, and so wise 😢 I’d visit her if she lived nearby

[@lindaartz3297]

I am a 76 year old widow and she is spot on. I was 20 and not looking but met a man , 22, and we clicked. Same values and goals, same sense of humor and same passion. I told my kids to imagine themselves with their spouse sitting on the porch, having a hard time getting out there, wrinkled and gray, still visiting with each other. If you can’t see it don’t do it.

[@nukya]

She seems very sweet, but she's not spot on, you are! She didn't mention sharing the same values, interests and goals. She said find a best friend and passion. Passion deepens. It changes Friendship grows. It develops. You found your best friend because of the three things you mentioned. You were smart!

[@spino1i]

Or just dont ever let yourself get wrinkled and grey.. imo a much better approach.

[@VelveteenRabbit77]

Yes! That's great! I say if they are the person that you will be laughing in the bed at night with, hashing the days events with then they are the one.

[@maximuscomfort]

@@nukya the vows kinda spell it out after biology, tolerance and luck to old age.

[@Ceylon727]

She is a pure blossom ❤ May she continue her adventures with joy and in same peacefulness

[@bridgetjoyce469]

This gentleman is a true gem

[@cathy800]

This lady is 100 percent correct. Smart lady.

[@user-qt5jc1qc6n]

She is beautiful inside and out, and has wisdom. 💙

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

I wish wisdom wasn’t wasted on the young. She has so much insight at 77 than she ever could have at 27 that I bet she would make a far better choice this time around in selecting a partner. I know that I would.

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

She is not married.

[@checkmattee222]

​@@Michelle-pn9xt And the sun is round, your point being?

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

@@checkmattee222 😂

[@rajanbabu3448]

Wisdom at the end of the life !!!!!😢

[@amsterdame]

Finally a video that doesn't hate on divorced women.

[@diva70smusic]

She sounds like a lovely person. So wise. So soft spoken. The interviewer was very respectful.

[@georgeginel8932]

The way she speaks,shows a great level of respect,knowledge and compassion.

[@a32tl]

I went to a funeral today of a man I knew who was days before turning 89. His first wife died in 2013. He met a widow whose husband had died in 2012. The couple married in 2014 and had a wonderful 9 1/2 years together. I just visited with them around Thanksgiving 2023 and took them dinner and brought groceries for them. I know this lady in the video said she wasn’t looking but I hope love finds her and that she has another 15 years or so being loved. She seems like a sweetheart.

[@kfollowstheway138]

It seems she understands the Bible and Christians cannot remarry unless widowed. Her first spouse May still be living making her bound for life until he passes. It is sad, but Jesus’ disciples said it’s better not to marry. It comes with much hardship and sorrow if marriage is rushed and one doesn’t understand they’ve entered into a covenant that can’t be broken. I hope she keeps living her life with that wisdom and understanding that can only come from God

[@marieroldan4827]

❤

[@sherriewoods8015]

@@kfollowstheway138 If there is adultery or unbeliever departs, they can remarry as it explicitly states in the Bible.

[@Werewolf0216]

@@kfollowstheway138 That's religious bunk...Christians are so arrogant in their absurd beliefs.

[@figeepoet]

​@@kfollowstheway138 She is not 'bound for life' 😕 For all we know, he could of been beating her. The 'bible' is a book, reproduced many times over, and infused with manmade dikdats... Which generally serve to benefit the entire corrupted system of 'organised religion'. 'Live and let live' needs to be the mantra of all religions. If you do not harm another... Live your life as you choose.

[@jeanneserrano3397]

Thank you, interviewer, for being such a gentleman at your age.

[@thealchemist333]

I agree. It's nice to see young men still be respectful

[@LilXancheX]

You act like us young men can’t be respectful 💀 It’s not about age, it’s about being mature

[@mrm1885]

He made fun of her for not being on the market, not nice

[@sobeit1166]

​@@mrm1885 I did not take it that way at all and I'm a 70 yo woman.

[@awakeatdawnrae6456]

Quite frankly I thought it was sweet ​@@mrm1885

[@lisalister8002]

This is exactly the same advice I told my son - marry someone who will be your best friend.

[@rachels.7477]

BLESS HER HEART ❤️ GOOD FOR YOU MOM, YOU DESERVE NOTHING BUT THE BESTTTT ❤

[@AG-nn8lp]

I married my best friend at 21. Was with him since 17. Still didn't work out. People grow and end up on different paths. Abuse happens. You can remarry if that's what you chose. I chose to stay alone. Never again because no matter how you love, people change

[@yayayoma]

People do change... that's so true. I think your chances of marital success improve if you and your spouse are on the same path so you grow and change in alignment with each other. This is more likely if your communication is strong and you spend a lot of time together. I also agree that marrying young can hurt your chances. When you're that young, it's easy to marry for the wrong reasons, or not thoroughly know the character of the person you are marrying.

[@D.Rosebrock]

Some women try changing their partner as well. That man will never be a different person and must love whom they are for whom they are passionately. I know some men that had to give up all there hobbies and there whole identity no more fishing or hunting or golfing trips or fixing up hotrods 😅

[@D.Rosebrock]

Alot of people below 25 don't know what they want and Pretty much all women by 30 want to be married for usually all the wrong reasons not even knowing the person hardly

[@Skyfoxx23]

Marriage has nothing to do with age but everything to do with maturity

[@MindYourOwn777]

People aren't who they're truly going to be until they're age 26 and above as the brain hasn't fully developed until that time. It's why people shouldn't get married too young. 20 is not mature enough of an age to make a marriage work when difficulties arise. It's unfortunate that he was abusive in your marriage. Not your fault. But don't let that discourage you. There are good men who are not abusive.

[@marishkaspirit]

Indeed. Every succesful marriage i know has a strong foundation of friendship as a base. Passion may come and go but caring/kindness, respect and admiration, if you lose that, the relationship is over. You have to be like a team and on the same team. Is crucial. Don't just get married because society pressures you or you feel lonely. Learn to build that kind of foundation with someone before you take this step

[@geriannroth449]

She's a keeper. Very sincere thoughtful 😊

[@marshabowlin1757]

Yes you are so right you have to be best friend ❤