I Was Mugged, Part 2: Five-and-a-Half Days Later (A Public Service Message)

[@scottbartel8163]

We care for you Daniel

[@dmackler58]

thanks Scott!!!!!

[@lextor4712]

Daniel, the reason why those guys left the bad comments is because they themselves could never put up a video like you did. Not in a million years. They're afraid the most of appearing as what they consider "not manly" in public according to their belief system - what a societal standard should be for a man. Surely it is deeply rooted in their childhood experiences as well. Who knows what happened to those little trolls.

[@dmackler58]

thanks Tom. Sad but true!!! Warm hello! Daniel

[@Sssssss527]

Men who refuse their humanity to appear brave are battling an internal fight surrounding confidence. Its false bravado. Its not helpful to anyone.

[@dmackler58]

@@Sssssss527 agreed. I kept thinking, also, how it would be to be those men's children. that's the saddest of all...to have those men as role models.

[@andrewparry1474]

This is what I was intending to comment on. But Daniel raises the real problem. These trolls will probably breed :-0

[@Sssssss527]

If everyone was this open can you imagine how society would feel? Way more connecting. Well done, Daniel. Cyber hug for you. ❤️

[@RevolutionaryThinking]

I think we're born with it. It's just taken out of us by parents, schools, society, etc. Some of us figure out it's a good thing and gain it back.

[@dmackler58]

thanks S !!

[@claudieC.]

You're just so genuine and open about this experience. I'm really proud of you to share this experience so openly and honestly. You're so brave and courageous; such admirable traits. Always insightful and humanistic. You're the best!

[@dmackler58]

thanks Claudie!!!!! you are very kind. kindness goes a long way!!!!

[@patriciapolhemus8425]

Daniel, such a descriptive and accurate expression of the myriad of emotional, physical, and psychological ramifications that were the result of this traumatic assault. You illustrate and bring to mind similar effects from an abusive relationship that I’ve been trying to resolve and move past. The two effects that you described that are the biggest barrier to moving on are the constant thought loop that dominates my mind … and the ever present second thinking, rechecking, and general distrust in my own judgement that stems from being pulled into the abusive relationship in the first place. Thank you for sharing that these are natural responses to the trauma of enduring an unsafe and violating situation. You have a beautiful heart, Daniel. The world is a better place with you in it! Thank you!

[@spetruck1]

-they stole your peace...way more valuable than money -it's funny how when abusers get taken in for justice they ask for mercy and empathy -in the military...when a strong one needed to be punished....they'd torture their smaller friend and make the strong one watch....to force them to understand that we are connected. You identified the weaker perpetrator... the stronger one will now have to know his friend took all the punishment. -it is nice to feel like anyone is on my side after so many years of never being heard. I feel you on that. -You definitely have listening equity with me ...because your time donated to enlighten me has been very valuable. ❤

[@scottbartel8163]

It takes a real man to open up the way that you do

[@dmackler58]

I hope so!!!

[@tnt01]

100%

[@dmackler58]

@@tnt01 thanks tnt.

[@romyman1971]

I studied eyewitness testimony as a psych major in college and people are very bad at identifying perps. Sounds like you did pretty well. The cop you're dealing also sounds like a gem, so thank goodness for small miracles. Glad you shared your experience with us and keep getting as much support as you need.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you Romy. God, looking at that photo array was not easy. I'm glad I picked one.

[@annejohnson8890]

I so admire your genuine attitude - like many New Yorkers, I too have been a victim of street crime and I didn't come to terms with it as well as you have. Your thoughts and comments are very enlightening - I hope you continue to heal and feel better.

[@dmackler58]

thank you Anne. You know, after making that video yesterday I have been wondering if I overstated the degree to which I have come to terms with what happened. I think I haven't. I plan to make another video in a week or so, and maybe I'll explore that more there... Wishing you the best!!!! Daniel

[@beckbabej]

Hi Daniel, here is a quote from a judge that may offer some perspective, "Prison is not for those we wish to punish, it is for those we are afraid of.". There's a difference between harming someone versus allowing the natural consequences of their own behavior. I think this video truly is a PSA, as you are modeling how to work through traumatic events. Keep healing, and please know that through your videos, you are healing others as well.

[@dmackler58]

thanks myreality!!! I appreciate your words. Daniel

[@CaratacusTheOtter]

The last part about feeling split off from humanity was really hard to hear. Last year I felt betrayed by several people who were close to me and I've noticed all those things in myself (poor listener, self centred, unable to relate or empathize to others) since then. I've been trying to claw my way back to feeling connected and feeling part of a social fabric but I never feel more than a few days' success before I'm back in my minimal, closed-off state. I don't feel like I know anyone who would understand this feeling. Part of it is definitely COVID and the separation it facilitates. But I also realize it's largely this feeling of paranoia, driven by guilt and shame, that I've lived with on some level for a long, long time. Thanks for sharing, Daniel, your channel is sometimes the only mirror into myself that I can find anywhere, literally anywhere.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Caratacus. Wow -- I hear you. Truly wishing you the best. What a long messy process healing is (for me now, at least, well, then again, for decades of my life). Yes, thanks again for your words. Daniel

[@efehansahin2172]

Wow. I just left a comment that I feel silenced in life too!

[@efehansahin2172]

Before seeing this. I am sure I am gonna come out of this.

[@efehansahin2172]

I want to be someone who has a developed sense of awareness. I want to be more able to move my body. Communicate. I feel underdeveloped, my childhood didnt have enough play socialize time. I am so sad that and alone and have lack of purpose. I want to be like the ones who can afford to be rude to stupid teachers and get away. Not enslaving to everyone who comes across!!

[@_whatnext_9319]

Just keep being you Daniel. There's most likely nothing you could have done differently to have avoided this. You are in no way at fault. Thank you for updating us, karma will most certainly catch them (if it hasn't already). I meant to mention it in the last video, but the police usually treat everyone as a suspect (yes even the victim) until they get the entirety of the story due to the things they've dealt with. I sincerely hope this can become a distant memory for you sooner than later.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you!!! I sure hope this can become a distant memory SOON. Not soon enough. And what you write in the first part of your comment, I believe, is true. Perhaps even wise on their part. But it was still very unpleasant for me...

[@Cosmogirl014]

Watching the second video made me realize how important it is to have a large social network to lean on. Something I've lost due to trauma.I've always said I've never been able to speak my trauma enough to those who genuinely listen. Daniel you are a victim and you are a survivor, thanks for sharing and keep sharing please. We need more like you who are making us aware of what can and does happen to anyone at any time and the aftermath. Not being afraid to stand up and advocate oneself, thank you. Peace to you and btw ... love the hat on you by the infamous East River.

[@dmackler58]

thanks Pamela. Right now I am so feeling for people who don't have much of a social network. I wish mine were even stronger!!! Also, although I have spoken pretty harshly of therapy (in general), and never had a good experience in therapy, I'm even considering returning now. I want all the help I can get...

[@Maxmaxmax63]

A truly magnificent pair of videos here. Your ability to introspect and express yourself as clearly as you do impresses the hell out of me! I hope making these videos was healing for you.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Max. I think it has been healing to make them, though, I admit, I have stress about being so open publicly right now. Mixed feelings. But I plan to make more. Hopefully! Warm hello. Daniel

[@Yuttle]

Hope you continue to keep us updated! Glad you're feeling better Daniel.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Jibt!

[@josefinesvenson638]

Going through this for real, and not just turn to drugs, is a big meaningful thing.

[@dmackler58]

I agree. Part of me would just like to numb out.

[@carlaoddo6171]

Daniel, I want you to know I listened to this video and the last one in their entirety. I have never been mugged but have felt threatened and followed in the subway years ago. However, it is because you have helped me so much with your other videos and books to feel heard and seen. You've expressed so many of my thoughts and feelings in relation to my own history and trauma as you talked about your own. It gave me permission to not feel shame. You've made me feel understood in a way no one else ever had (despite my having an excellent therapist) because you expressed yourself with such authenticity. I hope you share the videos you already made. They shouldn't go to waste and if we are growing we must leave room for new experiences to change our perspective. Everything is just a snapshot in time. These videos had messages in them for me as well (especially talking about your Dad and the self-blame, stream of thinking, etc.) . You hit the nail on the head that the negative comments you received were from folks who do not know how courageous and hard doing the work of healing is. Turning into the pain over and over again, self-examination, challenging yourself to be aware and look at your blindspots. I'm so glad the detective validated you in the way you needed... in the way you have validated me through your videos many times. You are more a man, more a human in my eyes because of your choosing, despite your reluctance and valid concerns, to be vulnerable. 🌻

[@dmackler58]

thanks Carla!! I really appreciate your words. Yes, thank you very much. Daniel

[@carlaoddo6171]

@@dmackler58 💞

[@donnygat]

I have PTSD and I don't trust anyone on the street. This goes double true for secluded areas. If someone walks towards me on a trail I typically make an effort to get away. Yesterday I went to a park and a man was walking down the path in my direction. I literally ran away from him!! Not walked, RAN. And when I turned around he wasn't going in my direction anymore. I felt so silly but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I don't know how to be less alert, I'm always on guard. After seeing the world like this, it's hard to think I'm overreacting. Stuff like this happens too often for me to feel completely safe outside.

[@dmackler58]

Wishing you the best, Donny!

[@nobutterinhell]

what you are sharing is very helpful to others to see the effects of trauma

[@dmackler58]

thanks Deborah!!!!!!

[@dianeconklin6374]

Hi Daniel. I'm so happy that you're starting to feel better. You've been in my thoughts. I'm glad you have the courage to vent here...but please dont be hard on yourself. This was a terrifying event for you and in no way your fault. Give yourself a big hug and know that you handled the situation in a way that probably stopped you from being seriously injured (physically) or worse. Good job Daniel. My best wishes and blessings to you.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Diane. I appreciate this!!!

[@jalena3379]

I'm glad you're getting so much support from people online, and those in your life. You deserve it. :)

[@dmackler58]

thanks Jalena :)

[@ZAZA-pv1pg]

Daniel. I love hearing your inner thoughts and your process of healing. It’s like listening to case studies for self therapy, and I always come away from each video you make with more wisdom and knowledge. For the past 12 months I have been watching your videos almost every day, or at least when a new one comes out. Your sharing of personal thoughts and experience is far more value to me than my degree and my exploration of the academic world. Thank you for all that you do.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks ZAZA! I appreciate this. Actually, I appreciate it more now than ever!! I feel rather uprooted inside myself. Not a fun time!!! So thank you!

[@Myraisins1]

I'm surprised you were even able to identify even one person. I have difficulty remembering faces and even more so if I were traumatized. Thanks for sharing your insight on this.

[@dmackler58]

you're welcome! I appreciate your comment.

[@FROFilmsIRE]

Daniel, really sorry to hear about that traumatic experience. Typically of you, you will probably make a positive out of a negative by sharing the experience with us all, which will be cathartic. Well done to you! Fergus

[@dmackler58]

I sure hope, Fergus. THANK YOU. What a strange time for me. Sending you good vibes!!

[@noneyobusiness7331]

we love you Daniel, glad you are safe and thanks for all you do

[@dmackler58]

Awwww -- thanks!!!! Slowly I'm feeling safer. Hopefully a lot more safe soon...

[@jane9469]

The same day you posted this these people stole from my workplace while my back was turned. Its definitely a violation and it is good to be cautious and also not live in fear.

[@RevolutionaryThinking]

Sorry to hear that. I live near Beverly Hills and this restaurant Il Pastio had a robbery involving a gun where the robbers stole a half a million dollar watch.

[@dmackler58]

Ah -- sorry to hear that!

[@jboughtin7522]

Don't be to hard on yourself Daniel. It's like a kind PTSD your going through. Just give yourself some time. I guess I'm glad the perps may see some justice for their actions, but I can only imagine how screwed up and depraved a childhood they must have had to resort to robbing people to get by. I also believe that prison time should be more about rehabbing people.

[@dmackler58]

Yes. yes, yes, and yes. Thanks!

[@starsonmars]

Thanks for the update Daniel! Im glad to see you have already initiated your healing process :) The police officer that handled your case seems to be professional. Him saying you were in "emotional control" makes me feel he has studied psychology or is atleast interested in the field!

[@dmackler58]

He's a smart guy. Thanks Starsonmars. That's where I feel I'm at -- in the early stages of healing. A LOT of work and process yet to go...

[@jojom6505]

Don't listen to those 4 devils Daniel, you are much more of a man than they are because of your awareness. You already know what type of ppl they are who don't know how to be empathetic. Their conscience is being called out and so they are projecting their resistance and/mental state on you. They told on themselves. Keep vibrating higher. Don't accomodate low vibrations. They don't understand? That's ok. Praying for you and people like us out there 🙏

[@dmackler58]

Yes!! Thanks Joneil!!

[@andresf491]

you are a very insightful man, glad you're doing better

[@dmackler58]

thanks!!!! I'm slowly doing better, at least...

[@not2tees]

I'm enjoying this video so much - you are covering all the angles of the incident like no one else could do, all the effects of mugging on your psychological history and speaking for many when you recall your impressions of your parent's venality and the conflicting emotions about the father, pride and shame all mixed together. I feel like you are helping others through being so open and just going over the real contradictory feelings about justice - it's so great and down to earth instead of all the pre-formed conclusions. What would Jung say about the synchronicity of it all, I wonder?

[@dmackler58]

Thank you not2tees. I appreciate your words! Warm greetings!

[@laurar.2866]

You deserve all the support, Daniel. You are always so generous sharing with everybody and helping all of us. I hope you feel better little by little.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Laura!! I'm hoping that I keep feeling better too. Intense times!!

[@MagentaMauve]

I really like and identify with many parts of your video analysis but the thing that is most relevant to me right now is the compulsion to bear testimony. What it means for us internally and externally as part of society when others receive that testimony with compassion and empathy. You've really helped me understand something thank you.

[@dmackler58]

Hi Mag Mauve. Yes, I'm learning that too, more than ever. One might almost say I have a compulsion to share, but I see it as a healthy thing, going to save my life... It's so different from when I was a teenager and had no one to talk to. Yet even then I tried: I tried to talk with my traumatizers! And that pretty much only made it worse...

[@Liieszy]

You’re so right- when people show a willingness to break those basic social boundaries there’s really no telling how far they will go even perhaps by accident. Any sound person would need to decompress after that.

[@dmackler58]

thanks Anneliese. Much appreciated!!!!

[@sanelaosmanagic5430]

So glad to hear from you Daniel. Sending you hugs and positive vibes:) 🤗 Please keep in mind you’re helping many people by sharing your experience openly. Thank you for your courage 🙌

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Sanela. I sure hope you're right!!!!!!

[@dmackler58]

this inspires me, gives me strength. and I need that now!!

[@sanelaosmanagic5430]

Daniel, you’re stronger than many people I know. Including myself. I admire your courage, kindness and especially your authenticity! 🙌 🙌

[@dmackler58]

@@sanelaosmanagic5430 Aww -- thanks. I don't know how strong I am. Right about now I feel pretty shaken up!!!!!

[@thehumbleofsoul2256]

It is so beautiful and touching to witness your vulnerability and the expanding of your soul.. I love the softness you are facing the world with and I want to be as courageous as you are and do the same. Thank you Daniel, I am in awe.

[@interludo]

I see myself when I went through this listening to you. I am still in it somehow. This is quality content in my opinion (and so pleasant that there's no advertising interruption, makes youtube look good). Thank you again Daniel.

[@interludo]

100% public service

[@dmackler58]

Thanks ;) Wishing you the best. Daniel

[@happytrails699]

Some people cannot be rehabilitated... or don't chose to be. The river was the first thing that crossed my mind.

[@dmackler58]

Perhaps so! I think a rehabilitative environment is key, and so often people profoundly lack that.

[@jacqueschammah8490]

I am learning from your perseverence, resilience, and intelligemce. I would be interested to watch part 3 and part 10. You have my support snd my admiration.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Jacques!! I plan to make at least one more video, or maybe a few. If it helps me and it helps others, I'll keep chronicling my experience... Warm hello to you!

[@damanodrama]

I am so glad you are ok

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Flor!!!!!

[@CDubzWhat]

"I don't believe in jail" thank you for using your voice man... We're from Illinois, notorious for building, transferring, and shutting down mental health facilities /abnormal behavior/developmental centers. ...And building a new one according to media. this hits so close to home. Humane treatment is all a human is really asking for.... can't we figure it out? I think that sometimes.

[@janegarval8235]

I know this is older but I’m just watching this video now, I had to say that those negative comments sound like muggers themselves feeling guilty watching your video. You are a blessing and incredibly courageous!

[@DaveG-qd6ug]

We love you Daniel ! Thanks for being you.

[@dmackler58]

awwwww!!! thanks David!!

[@anneburland5306]

I can't read through all the comments, but no doubt this has already been suggested. Whatever, it bears repeating, you need to get rid of the hat you were wearing at the time of the mugging, as well as any similar ones. It's too much of an identifier, for either the two guys who did it or their friends, and they could very well come after you again. Despite your mistakes (wearing headphones, particularly after dark and in a largely empty park with plenty of trees/shrubs for the muggers to hide behind, etc.), you showed remarkable intelligence and presence of mind in the way you handled yourself. Thank goodness for your psychological training, all those years providing counseling, not to mention natural empathy! You have also provided a great service retelling your story, for a number of reasons, as well as giving others an example of an alternative way to respond. I can well imagine myself getting very angry (a knee-jerk reaction), and I'll file this one away for sure. Of course, being female, reacting with unexpected aggression might work in some circumstances too (it has for me), but one needs more than one tactic in one's arsenal. Anyway, bravo and mush on, one foot in front of the other. As for your father, he sounds perfectly awful. Besides his mistreatment of you, to my mind people (lawyers) who defend the lowest of the low and then rejoice in their use of manipulation and sophistry, etc., to get them off are every bit as bad. Well, you're two different generations and who knows what his circumstances were, but you're clearly mirror opposites and you've done a great deal to redeem him. I also think you've shown the most commendable courage in breaking from your family and forging your own path. Again, bravo Daniel, you are an inspiration and great help to others. Keep sharing!❤🌠

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Anne. I appreciate your words. And now I agree -- I'm done with that hat for a while!!!! I wore it for a couple of days, but not more!! Daniel

[@Sketch_Sesh]

Wow, the way you explain Finally being acknowledged and validated as a victim really hit me

[@dmackler58]

Thanks for sharing this. Yes, it's odd for me, because it's new. And strange. Everything about this process of the last week has been strange. A time for me to learn a lot. Not fun, but provocative of new things.

[@rpgzan2028]

Dear Daniel, I can't tell you how much I appreciate your honesty and empathy towards human beings. YOU have given ME so much through sharing your videos I can't thank you enough. It is so sad to see you had this terrible experience and I wish you get yourself back ASAP. I had terrible experiences like assaults and violations done to me throughout the years of my life so It just a matter of social convenience to support each other in this situations. Much love from IRAN to notice your voice spreads around the globe.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Davood!!! Warm greetings from New York! Daniel

[@charlottem6065]

I'm so glad you have updated us Daniel I was wondering how you were... It's another trauma you will process and boss out! ❤️ The experience will add to your repertoire and be part of your teachings and benefit many eventually.. Don't forget you are an amazing human ❤️💋❤️

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Charlotte. I hope you're right!!!

[@donnag.3611]

Daniel thank you for sharing what a real man is like! The opposite of whatever the world says a man ought to be! And since you have listened to so many people for so many years, why wouldn't people listen to you? You are worth it, Daniel. I resonate w/ you & your story & I am thankful that you have had this avenue for sharing your life along w/ helping people on their tough journeys too! You are unique in the world of YT & those who still help others w/ your counseling/therapy wisdom & honesty & transparency. God bless you Daniel.

[@krystle8534]

So sorry this happened to you. You handled the situation really well and probably prevented an even worse experience! Sending you warm thoughts and well wishes❤

[@dmackler58]

Thank you KrystLe!!!!

[@Taikina]

you said you felt arrogant in retrospect because you thought you could outrun potential muggers or something, well the arrogant celebratory money flashing exposed the weakness of the mugger and got him caught. Karmic symmetry.

[@dmackler58]

Yes, I believe that is true!

[@gigi9301]

Exactly! They wore masks, and must have known the ATM machines have cameras, but couldn't help themselves!!

[@fatgreta1066]

I’m sorry this happened to you. The way you’ve talked about your experiences in these two videos is tremendous. I’m a therapist and I’ll certainly share this with clients as appropriate. I hope you continue to heal.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Chris. I appreciate this. It's still tough for me -- but I'm proceeding as best I can. Warm hello -- Daniel

[@SopraTutt1]

Love you for sharing all these! I just realized a 3-4 lines TLDR at the end of your video description would help few a lot (had enough time on hand to see the first episode, this one took me a long time). BTW, my dad almost did the same thing, stealing all the time and telling me about it while in the same time would punish me harshly every time I'd do things not even close to it (lies mostly) while I was a pre-adolescent.

[@dmackler58]

thanks for the message, Sopra! sending you good vibes. Daniel

[@willd6215]

Sorry to hear this happened to you but also it's awesome you have this platform to express yourself. Love listening to you. Much love x

[@dmackler58]

thank you Will!!

[@quietcranberry]

again Daniel i'm so glad that you're safe! it's inspiring to watch you be so open, vulnerable, and insightful. i hope justice is served in this case, without you having to go to trial or relive those thoughts of & with your father. wishing you continued healing! 💚

[@dmackler58]

Awww -- thanks Kyla!!!

[@realtownboy6763]

Take it easy on yourself Daniel. Even knowing you have PTSD symptoms ( and likely C-ptsd) isn't the same as processing the experience. I know you know this, but no harm in being reminded. It does get easier. Eventually the memory will be there, but not the trauma associated with the memory. At least, this has been my experience. I firmly believe that this will hold true for you too. Hope this helps in some small way. You are a good man, Daniel, and no-one can take that away from you. ...EVER.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Realtownboy!!!

[@sw7205]

Daniel thank you so much for expressing yourself so articulately. I have gone through a traumatic experience three years ago and aftermath reaction was exactly how you now describe it. It’s so reassuring to know that it wasn’t just me or that I was weak or crazy or exaggerating. You have our sympathy and empathy and I shall pray for you to heal soon. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@dmackler58]

thanks Muert. Can I ask you more about your healing process? How long it took? How you are doing now? Warm greetings!!! Daniel

[@sw7205]

@@dmackler58 it took about two year to regain some semblance or normalcy and by time things got better. I’ve listen to Jordan Peterson’s lectures especially the parts regarding PTSD and malevolence. I’ve used homeopathy and spirituality has helped me the most. For me, the most important point was to rationalize what had had happened to me because I felt lots my decisions were irrational which implied that I was to blame for my demise. But by time I came to the conclusion that I had to accept that some things just cannot be rationalized. I’m doing much much better. I remembered the day I was able to laugh again was such a blessing and miracle because I really thought I was destroyed beyond repair. But somethings just don’t go back to the way they used to be. I like the part when you said as if your life has been divided into the time before and after the incident. For me I have tried to bridge that gap and to create a continuity with my past life. The gap has been minimized but it still feels as if I have been reincarnated in a different body in different dimension. Also the question about who I really am still bothers me a lot. The introversion my impatience with others etc, still these changes are more or less under control. Once again, thank you for sharing

[@dmackler58]

@@sw7205 Thank you very much for sharing this. I appreciate it deeply. Daniel

[@realtownboy6763]

@@dmackler58 and Muert Mort. In 1999 I had my door kicked down. (This was a separate incident from the mugging I alluded to earlier(in your first vid Daniel). The door to my room in nursing accommodation. I was with my gf at the time and i was still a student nurse ( final year) One of the assailants was known to me. The other was not. I was naked. She was naked. I was attacked with a tyre iron( to change car wheels). Ok ..long story short. For me the hyper-vigilance lasted a good 3 months. I carried a rape alarm for that 3 month period. Any guy so much as looked at me I was in instant fight, flight or freeze mode. Weirdly I felt nothing at the time, suffice to say I managed to get them to go..( I had a small knife in my room). As soon as they left I collapsed in a heap on the floor. Shock. Did i feel violated? YES! Did my gf feel violated? YES. Did my sense of being a man feel usurped(?) Hell yes! Could it have turned out worse? Yes. For many reasons. BUT it didn't. After about a year to 18 months later, I could relay the story without feeling re-traumatised. THIS next is for DM. My childhood was something of a war-zone. Much like your own by the sounds of it, in many ways. Perhaps this helps us 'deal' with traumatic situations in a different way compared to those who have less brutal upbringings and maybe even furnishes us with some resilience. Who knows. My intuition ( etc) leads me to think you'll be pretty much free of this within a year - 2 years. Best guess. M. 💜

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Realtownboy. Your story is so intense!! I hope to be all better within that time frame. Hoping!

[@vwb9695]

It’s f-ed up that they knew who the second guy was, but because you didn’t identify correctly, then they couldn’t move forward. What a slap in the face! They knew who the second guy was! The system is messed up. Requiring you to also correctly id the guy when they knew who it was, and therefore putting the responsibility in your hands for responsibility that should have been theirs.

[@TheEnergyv]

Your such a courageous beautiful human being Daniel and what a wonderful video you have shared, this one and the other related to this story. I am sending you so much love 💕 and wish you so much peace. Thank you 🙏 for the gift of courage that is uplifting indeed.

[@dmackler58]

thanks Lynnie!!!! it's a strange time for me, and I appreciate your feedback. I'm glad that at least now I feel strong enough to share. hopefully I can keep doing so!!

[@AnnaPrzebudzona]

The story about your father defending criminals gives a whole new perspectives on your childhood and what you've been doing in your adult life, at least publicly. The fact that you've been able to break off from him is really impressive. I can't even imagine what it must have taken; he was brutal, immoral and yet so powerful and socially acclaimed.

[@jaysmithcool]

It's really good to see that you seem to be doing much better. Good on you for fully devoting yourself to processing and actively healing from this trauma. And thank you for sharing your journey with us.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks J.S. !

[@toddboothbee1361]

Daniel, thanks for sharing this. This video has led me to understand something about myself: your post mugging discombobulation is my usual condition, and has been since my childhood. You descriptions are of me when I must perform ordinary tasks. On a good day, I only second guess myself four or five times, and berate myself as often. Thanks for the insight! I feel a little less isolated and crazy now.

[@dmackler58]

Greetings Todd. I really have been thinking a lot about how trauma affects children... It's thrown me for a loop and I'm a fairly healthy adult!!!

[@lextor4712]

@@dmackler58 The outcome is that children are left with a psyche so broken, they spend a good portion of their life time trying to piece it back together, fighting against themselves and the rest of the world.

[@dmackler58]

@@lextor4712 Yes, I think that's exactly it.

[@shalashardil530]

Daniel you're truly special, and lovable. I adore you.

[@jnewmark41]

Hi Daniel! So glad to see you again.....been thinking about you since your mugging. Sending you a big hug and lots of love....... Thanks for sharing!!!

[@dmackler58]

Thanks John!!!!!!

[@adonaiel-rohi2460]

I love you Daniel! ❤ glad you’re alive bro ❤

[@daviddeveloper44]

Sad you went through this Daniel You may want to reach out to me and we can work on defense techniques. You have more strength than you realize

[@PurelyNaturalWoman]

Thank you for sharing and update us. I'm glad that things worked out regarding $. I'm glad that you are starting to heal from this horrible experience. I feel those men who were hurtful in their comments are not do well in life and are lashing out. I hope you continue to heal and find a new normal.

[@dmackler58]

thanks PurelyNaturalWoman. I appreciate your words. Yes, I'm hoping to find a new, healthy, centered normal. warm hello.

[@PurelyNaturalWoman]

@@dmackler58 You are very welcome. With time you will.. A warm hello to you too.

[@juliettailor1616]

Oh goodness, what a father. They say four sets of professionals have a high pencentage of sociopaths: politicians, lawyers, salesmen and medical doctors.

[@citisite]

This is from Prof. Dr. Hare. You forgot: "Psychologists and therapists are also part of it!"

[@dmackler58]

well said, Juliet. thanks!!!

[@solarflaresoftruth]

Infinite respect and gratitude! Your existence informs mine with every video! Multiply that by your viewership, and then take that in! Give yourself permission to do some self-nurturing. I’m glad you are healing, and making good use of your experience.

[@dmackler58]

thank you!!!! much appreciated!!!! Daniel

[@laraoneal7284]

Please Daniel be more vigilant. I’m so sorry you went through this. It sounds horrific. Blessings to you Daniel. We need you in our lives.

[@Hemulionbotanisti]

Thank you for sharing this story and your process Daniel! I'm sure that this will help people in many ways and that you'll grow even stronger by going through this! 🙏❤️

[@dmackler58]

thanks Hemuli! I sure hope you're right!!! Much appreciated!!!!! Daniel

[@kamilsmrcek8998]

Thank you for sharing this (both parts).

[@dmackler58]

You're welcome Kamil !!

[@VegasUnicorn]

Sending you so much love Daniel. I love you so much

[@dmackler58]

Awww -- thanks B B !!

[@grambypamby]

Thank you Daniel for sharing all this information with us . I learned so much and I am glad you are working through this . God Bless

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Pamela!

[@laraoneal7284]

I wish I would have seen this sooner to when this happened. I will say this Daniel , coming from my own childhood trauma and doing at least a 20 year recovery process I’ve actually thought of if I went through a break in or an attack of some kind I’ve said to God don’t let that ever happen to me ever. I prayed that prayer bc I honestly think I could not recover from it.

[@elipotter369]

Thanks for this - very insightful. I didn't watch the first one you did,and was worried this would be negative to watch, but you gave A LOT of insights on the system, your family and dealing with trauma. What you said about feeling different after: I had a traumatizing experience a month or so ago where I got stung very badly by a jellyfish and afterwards, which a lot of people trivialise, but due to the amount of venom and my allergies, it was a shock tomy body and mind. Afterwards, I felt like I just wanted to clear all negativity and situations I feel ambiguous in out of my life and focus right down into what is positive for me and what I enjoy. It has changed the way I approach life - for the better.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Eli!! Strange to say, but one of the videos I have yet to share is about my experience of being stung by a jellyfish!! it was painful and terrifying. I also thought I would die. absolutely a horror. I also later helped save a friend who got stung by a jellyfish. She was in deep water and panic, and then afterward had an allergic reaction. Absolutely terrifying!!! Warm greetings to you!!!!!!

[@elipotter369]

@@dmackler58 Thanks for your reply! I was stung by an Australian Portuguese Man o'War - they are called a "bluebottle" in Australia. I wrote a long blurb about it for my Facebook friends - mostly about how to treat it: - get the stinging cells off, don't rub, put water hot enough to cook the protein (like egg white) on it for 10 minutes - and do the water yourself so you can control the heat and not burn yourself - test the heat on another part of your body. - get medical attention if necessary. I used anti-histamine, anti-inflammatory, pain killers, Ventolin (for asthma). And was given anti-nausea pill and Prednisone (some kind of anti allergy pill which has strange hallucinatory side effect of feeling like you will die when you are dropping off to sleep). The life savers and a lot (not all) of the medical staff trivialised what had happened to me and implied I was being a wimp/weakling. I ended up telling them I had been stung 10 times prior, so they would know I can handle a bit of pain (as in - 9 1/2 out of ten level pain). But this time it was way more venom and I was getting a lot worse symptoms than the usual extreme pain - symptoms that were worrying - severe abdominal cramps and disruption to digestion, asthma, dizzy, lymph glands so swollen I limped (for well over a week), heart was flip floppy and weird, cold sweating, shaking, numb over whole side of body including face, and later severe headaches, thirsty and recurring attacks. Luckily, I got a good young thoughtful doctor on my third hospital visit who explained that because the venom was trapped in my toes where the circulation was poor, I would get flare up attacks of symptoms as it released - - which I noticed mostly happened some time after a bit of exercise. What is frustrating is how little knowledge there is out there in the medical community etc on severe jellyfish stings that are unlikely to kill you but are way worse than just a bit of extreme pain. Even on the Internet there is very little information.

[@dmackler58]

@@elipotter369 WOW -- totally intense. much worse than what I experienced, and my experience was terrifying enough. and the experience with my friend was scarier because she had a worse reaction. mine was in the mediterranean. I don't even know the species name of the jellyfish that got me. thank you for sharing this!! Daniel

[@elipotter369]

@@dmackler58 There is a type of box jellyfish in the Mediterranean that delivers a painful sting. Also, some species of Portuguese Man o'War have been in the Mediterranean since about 2009. They can appear in large clumps ("blooms") and are predominant in certain seasons, eg I found out in Australia it's November to May - our warmest months! The common medical knowledge is either: you just get pain: or you get anyphalaxis (sp? severe allergy that is life threatening) - and nothing in between! Which is actually not true as I am clearly in that middle ground. I wish the medical assistance system and the available information was better. But perhaps I am such a rarity, they don't care - yet. Environmental disruption is causing increase in jellyfish numbers, so there will be an increase in stings. There are two kinds of deadly jellyfish in Australia, which they have antidotes developed for, but the species I was stung by is rarely deadly, so isn't taken seriously here. But it can be serious to anyone under 50kilos, plus if you have allergies, (such as I do, eg to MSG a food additive that is also a neurotoxin) that can make it worse. I was only walking through wavelets when it stranded on my foot, then stung me with everything it got - and took me a while to wash off all the blue glowing stinging cells. My foot puffed up and I got the white-turned-red spots. Needless to say, I now only go into saltwater pools where I can check the surface before I enter! No more walking on sand where the dead but still stinging bodies are, or paddling in the waves! I will listen to your jellyfish story with interest if you post the video on it.

[@dmackler58]

@@elipotter369 Very intense! Mine was definitely not that bad. I found out afterward from local people that the treatment for the stings of the jellyfish that stung me was to put pee on it. But I also have read that putting urine on other jellyfish strings concentrates the venom and makes it worse!! I also was in Darwin in Australia many years ago and wanted to swim but was told it was too dangerous because of the box jellyfish. Wishing you the best, Eli!

[@christinebadostain6887]

Feeling like a victim makes sense when one has been violated. Our culture is averse to victimhood: "I am not a victim. I am a survivor!" However, to own being a victim of an oppressor leads to healing. The other attitude is conducive to dissociation which is what is generally expected: just pretend (dissociate) and get back to "normal."

[@josefinesvenson638]

Totally agree! (As long as a person don't reduce them selves to being only a victim, like thats their hole identity. But I don't think thats what you ment.)

[@threethrushes]

I disagree. A very strong narrative within Western culture is to embrace victimhood - count the ways you can be a victim in modern society: gender, race, skin colour, socio-economic status, sexuality. Ironically, when we stop seeing ourselves as victims of imaginary enemies, then we become 'empowered'.

[@josefinesvenson638]

@@threethrushes I feel like I have to recognice when I get hurt, moast importantly if its in a repetitive pattern, or an extreme event. Thats the first step. Then I can start to figure out ways to deal with it. Then after a while I feel stronger, a bit empowered and have more energy to engage in the other things in life.

[@christinebadostain6887]

@@threethrushes thanks for your response. Agreed: both/and

[@christinebadostain6887]

Thanks for response@@josefinesvenson638 Exactly!

[@elizabethgalipault8295]

You are an amazing psychotherapist my God you can turn any situation into a positive. Wow you really did you work? Thank you for sharing how hard that must’ve been. I know it’s two years ago but I just thank you.

[@upendasana7857]

Daniel,we love you.You have your community here..your tribe and you have brought us all together and helped affirm our own wounds and understanding of our pain.Those people who wrote such things about "being a wimp"or such things are often the most disconnected unable to feel intimacy and have real satisfying relationships because they can never be vulnerable.Of course you would feel traumatised especially based on your past history of never being protected or defended.Also in that moment you are right you have no idea what might happen,these things can turn in a moment and you never know what could trigger someone.I'm glad you have found empathy and understanding and realise you matter and are cared for by others.Glad also that you are getting financial help as well.take care Daniel and thank you x

[@dmackler58]

thanks Upenda!! I appreciate your words so much. Daniel

[@lxMaDnEsSxl]

Thank you for sharing your experience, Daniel. I think this may help me.

[@lxMaDnEsSxl]

I totally came to the same conclusion that my childhood and onward were worse than the gunpoint home invasion in my teens. Also to be honest I really don't like criminal defense lawyers that defend the guilty. The whole system is a sham. The court system with my dad's S.A. if it carried on were going to challenge me and my sister. Also conviction rates for S.A. here are actually very very low like 1 or a couple in a 1000, and just couple years too.

[@zzulm]

In my life I learned that sometimes I feel pain and I'm allowed to feel it and learn where is coming from. My father didn't know this and he came from a country destroyed by civil war to Mexico where I was born. I don't remember him being happy ever, he didn't heal and was stressed and mad most of the time. And this video makes me feel happy because you have so much insight and an interesting point of view, Thank you Daniel.

[@dmackler58]

Your welcome Zzul. Thank you for sharing. Very interesting.

[@gigi9301]

Thank You So Much for Sharing! You might want to consider not using a debit card at all; just shred it. I always keep my phone inside my purse or coat, and never display it when walking around. I have PTSD, and if those guys would have accosted me like that I probably would have screamed and fought back/freaked out instinctively. That might have gotten me killed. You were MUCH more level-headed than I would have been. Considering I'm about 100 pounds and 5'2" tall, those guys could easily have hurt me very badly...especially if I had reacted that way. You're using it as a learning tool, which is fantastic!!

[@thegroovypatriot]

Amazing story Daniel. Thank you for sharing. Especially about how it relates with your father. ❤️

[@katatarot597]

You are welcome Daniel. It's really a wonderful thing, to see that there's a person out there who is so genuine about their life experiences and hopefully that'll attract more caring people into your life.

[@dmackler58]

I hope so Kat. Thank you!!!

[@katatarot597]

@@dmackler58 you are welcome :)

[@rallicaRaluca]

Thank you for sharing! I’m sure you’re going find the way through healing from this. Your story triggered some memories from my childhood when I got humiliated or abused or harassed by strangers when I was a kid and young woman. Do you know what my first thought was ? I hope my parents didn’t see it or I hope my parents will not hear about this. Because I was more afraid of their reactions, they ( my mom specially) would have punished me and blamed me. When I was around 9-10 years old, I was on my way home from school with some other kids. I was eating my lunch which I didn’t get to eat at lunchtime. I was hungry on my way home, eating. A stranger, a bigger kid ( probably very hungry) came from behind and stole my lunch box from my hand. I didn’t let go so I was dragged on the pavement a bit, then he just ran with my lunch. My first thought was :” oh my God! My mom is going to be furious about me loosing the glass bottle in the lunch box”). So I went home, took the bottle from my brother’s bag and replaced mine. My brother got a big reaction from her, but I got away with it. Crazy right? As an adult, I apologized several times to my brother and I try to repair every time I remember something. He doesn’t remember anything of this.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you Pascanu -- for your kindness and for the words you've shared. Wishing you the best! Daniel

[@sevendaughs7d]

That is an incredible story, Daniel. So many layers, threads, influences, connections. Thank you for sharing the amazing complexity. What depth. I've had numerous thoughts about it all. One kind of mindblowing thought is what a healing salve on those deep family wounds, those horrifying traumatic life experiences, the mugging brought. Some of the healing medicine you've been longing for your whole life. Wow. Another related thought came, if you hadn't had the mind-bending family experiences you had, would you have been able to have the friendship experiences, the garden relationships, the life path through therapy that affected so many lives, would you be making this video channel? CRAZY, right? Interconnected truth. Some say that we choose our life before we are born, towards our highest soul healing and ascension. These mugging videos seem to be some bit of possible confirmation of that hypothesis. MUCH LOVE. Thank you for giving me these thoughts! ✨🌟♥️🌟✨

[@dmackler58]

Hi Steve, always so good to hear from you. You ask such important questions, and I don't have good answers to them. Life is so strange and interconnected and unpredictable. The more I live the more, in some ways, I simply don't know!!!! MUCH LOVE BACK TO YOU. Big hug old friend. Daniel

[@roxydina7615]

You are so loved by us.

[@dmackler58]

awwwww -- thanks Roxy!!

[@bernadettebockis4120]

I'm so sorry. Daniel. I hope you come through this experience well. You obviously are showing us how to get through a mugging experience.

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Bernadette. I appreciate it!!! I hope I could out the other side healthy!!

[@mayseekify]

Hi Daniel. I hope you'll get stronger and feel better very soon. It's amazing how you maintain your insight, devotion to being your true, gentle self, openness and truthfulness in the face of such a horrible experience. Impressive and valuable videos (as is all your other content) :)

[@dmackler58]

Thank you mayseekify ! Much appreciated!! Daniel

[@tammiepulley7167]

Such great insights about the various trauma connections. Thank you! Please remember you were in no way at fault, in no way looking for trouble. You were at the right place at the wrong time. I know we’ve never met but I feel some love for you as a friend because you’ve helped me a lot and you are so open. Thanks. Please do something for yourself today, have a minute of fun. Watch a funny movie or something. You deserve a laugh. Sending love from CA.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you Tammie! I like your ideas.

[@seanwhitford1537]

Daniel, you are still you. All those vids are you. This is just a chapter in your 'book of life'. You will build from this as you have other tragedies...it just takes time. We are here for you!!! ...as you have been here for us this entire time.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you Sean. I sure hope you're right!!! I'm definitely not at my best now!!!!

[@seanwhitford1537]

@@dmackler58 And we wouldn't expect you to be at your best at the moment. That would be selfish of all of us! You were indeed in real danger. Thank the universe you made it through. You won't forget this, but you will build strength and awareness from this. As the old saying goes...this to shall pass in time. You have helped me, and many others, in ways that you will probably never know and I thank you so much.

[@dmackler58]

@@seanwhitford1537 Thank you Sean. You bring tears to my eyes. I feel lucky to be alive. Greetings to you! Daniel

[@seanwhitford1537]

@@dmackler58 Greetings to you as well my friend. I hope today is a better day for you.

[@dmackler58]

@@seanwhitford1537 thank you Sean!!

[@ronbronb]

Its always physical, this one is more direct, but, every interaction can be traced back to a physical battle and minds are a tool to help menouver this reality. This is why it can never be fixed. Indirect attacks is whats considered normal life, the social contract permits it. If it has a mouth, it'l eat, bite, sting, or, take your lunch.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you Ronbronb. I appreciate your words.

[@Gabby-qh5co]

Daniel, those comments left by those rude guys were just them being intolerant of vulnerability. They might have seen your ability to be vulnerable (which is a great quality) as a weakness due to lame societal standards. But being vulnerable and open is not a sign of weakness, I think it is a sign of strength because you are also being courageous by being open and honest about how you feel, and you are also not burying your true emotions. And I mean, this was a violent crime after all, it is very healthy for you to feel the way that you do. Anyways I do hope you keep being you Daniel! I think that is one of the best things you can do right now. I wish you a fast recovery and my thoughts and prayers will be with you! :)

[@dmackler58]

thanks Gabby!!!!

[@vonkruel]

Those crappy comments you received were "Internet tough guys" pretending they could never be mugged or victimized in any way. Any story like yours will get some comments like that -- "No way 2 guys could mug me. I'd _______ because I'm a Real Man." Even if they would risk their lives for a few hundred bucks, that's just dumb. Most likely they'd end up seriously regretting fighting the muggers after getting severely beaten or stabbed or shot. Recovering from that would be extra difficult for someone who thought he'd respond like some kind of action hero in a movie. Thanks very much for sharing your experience here. You make it look easy to sit in front of a camera & speak coherently for 48 minutes with no script. I found your story about seeing your father "in action" at his job especially interesting. "Watch this, son. I'm going to enable my friend the violent maniac to continue seriously hurting people after successfully trolling them." That's a mind fuck.

[@dmackler58]

thanks vonkruel!! your imagined quotation about my father made me laugh! my first laugh of the day. wonderful for my healing!! thanks brother!! Daniel

[@jolandak8556]

I am so sorry that this happened to you! Glad you are feeling better. And that nothing worse happened. At 21:20 when you talked about being identified as a victim of mugging by other people, validating your experience, and how you could not get this kind of unconditional validation from anyone when you were victimized by your parents. I resonate with that, because I also have always experienced that the abuse I endured by my parents could not even be told to anyone, and if I did try to tell I was not believed. Still as an adult I am lucky if I am believed even partly by someone close to me. My reality of being the victim of my both parents´ emotional and physical (etc.) abuse is still reality mostly to me only, and to very few people besides me. What a difference it would make if one could just tell other people, - even if only to the close ones whom one likes to confide in - about having been abused by one´s parents as a child! And that it would be validated like any other victimization: "Oh really, I am so sorry it happened to you, how are you now, tell me more..." like people say when one has been in a car accident or gets mugged. Having listened you say that made me imagine what the world would look like to me if that were the case... If half my reality were not something that is usually not believed by others. Something that, if I even dare tell, I have to be prepared to convince people about, and sometimes produce very solid proof... and still many of them probably don´t quite believe it anyway. Or if they do they don´t understand its severity and diminish it in some way. I guess I would have grown up to be an entirely different person if I could have lived my life in that kind of environment, among people who believe and validate my past. Like people normally validate each others pasts... Your channel is so valuable. Your openness and sincerity, and how you always think things through before you express an opinion. Your content is very informative, in addition to the atmosfere of security and humaneness that it conveys. That has probably something to do with you having been a therapist. What a pity that you don´t do therapy anymore.

[@dmackler58]

Thank you for sharing this, Yolande. I send you the best wishes! Daniel

[@zainmudassir2964]

Stay safe Daniel

[@dmackler58]

Thanks Zain!! I'm trying!

[@rishaa682]

maybe the more empathic guy is more likely to be rehabilitated so perhaps in a way its good that you picked him

[@Tiffanynyc2323]

Hmmm maybe you’re on to something

[@dmackler58]

I have wondered the same thing. So many strange aspects to this experience for me. Greetings Risha.

[@rishaa682]

@@dmackler58 thanks for sharing your video/story

[@helenbreeze599]

Hi Daniel, thank you for this. Listening to you is really helping me understand myself. I was attacked by a female as a teenager for asking her to close a door and it wasn’t long before her friends weighed in. It turned into a massive brawl outside, my friends got involved and a vehicle was turned over. In days to come I was spotted in the street by my stepfather. I had a black eye, a split lip, clumps of hair missing, bruises all over, wounds from being dragged over gravel and a torn earlobe. I remember talking about how I fought back and he, being an aggressive and bullying individual heaped on the praise. I was so scared at the time but I never admitted it. My ‘ability to take a beating’ from my stepfather, boyfriends and strangers has been talked about, joked about and the incident I mention here became one of the family stories that comes out from time to time. I became one person on the outside without knowing anything about the person on the inside. It’s so difficult to talk about what has happened to us and for me, impossible to fully stand up for myself with right now. My life experience has been a catalogue of traumatic events starting with a major congenital deformity followed by further physical and mental assaults on my being until I had a breakdown/breakthrough several years ago. Everything I do and think is the action of a traumatised sensitive person and it’s so important to remind myself of this. Hearing from you helps me with this. I am so glad you are continuing to talk about being mugged, it’s resulted in a shift in thinking for me. Daniel I always find your words and approach comforting, inspiring and thought provoking. You are brave and conscientious and compassionate and authentic and august. I wish we were friends x

[@dmackler58]

Thank you for sharing this, Helen. I'm sending you only the best wishes. You are very brave.

[@ProducerMaki]

Glad to see your update!. About telling your story again and again- it's like practicing a speech to get over stage freight. Maybe it's helping you feel comfortable with yourself in your experience. I knew what feeling you meant when you were talking about your dad cuz relatable. Mine was a Dr in psychiatry, also worked 1/2 the time as a counselor at an elementary school and would come home and use all his mental skill to be as abusive, isolating and degrading as possible. Any adult was always like "Oh, you must be so proud, your father is a great man" and made it impossible to tell anyone the truth cuz no one believed me about what a monster he was only at home. Just saying, your willingness to be open helps others feel it's ok to share as well. The donations are well earned. I'm so happy to hear the detective has been so involved and feel free to shoot me a message if you ever get bored. :P

[@dmackler58]

thank you for this message!! I appreciate it.

[@ItsMeKelso]

I’m so glad to hear that they didn’t access your phone and that you can be reimbursed through your bank! And that’s good to know that speaking about it will not hurt your case , I incorrectly assumed that speaking about your situation could l jeopardize your case, it’s good to know that it will not jeopardize your case, and you’re track your life.

[@dmackler58]

thank you! that said, speaking about this publicly might hurt my case, as I'm learning. but it might not. meanwhile, I'm leaving these videos up -- because I believe they can be useful to people, and I want to make good from this experience.

[@ParmyJan]

Sending you lots of love. Your a great person!