Do Men HATE Women Deep Down?

[@joshuarodriguez7184]

Who else is just sick and tired of women bashing men and men bashing women?

[@rattales58]

Me

[@MegaBobo234]

These people are bored. They don't have any hobbies or personality so they jump on these social media sites and spread nonsense. It gets them attention. It unfortunately reaches to the younger and younger audiences which breeds more and more misinformation. None of these people actually go outside to develop themselves or relationships. They just need clout for their inner circle.

[@CovershotV8]

Me. I'm fucking exhausted of this "battle of the sexes".

[@laurapotpie]

Like they say - Men are from Mars women are from Venus. Don't hold you breath it's been going on for a long long time lol

[@zaq1337]

🤣😂 Men aren’t bashing anyone 😂🤣

[@taylerescene3332]

Tik tok is a negative echo chamber!

[@Gulogulo7387]

Same goes for Bluesky

[@alysialeibold5596]

Agree!

[@lisal2556]

I will be so glad when social media stops being a thing.

[@zaq1337]

The brain rot 👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀👯‍♀

[@FranzPaskov]

Echo chamber to the highest degree

[@daviddow3260]

I'm a man who genuinely loves women, but what I don't love is toxic behavior. The thing about toxic behavior is it's not gender specific, I see a lot of toxic behavior coming from both sides. The biggest thing contributing to that behavior is what I call the "I" problem i.e. everything is about me, me, me!

[@NaeK188]

Amen! I’ve met so many women AND men with toxic behaviour, and you’re spot on with how narcissism and selfishness is the root of the toxicity.

[@Red_Four]

I think that both men and women are wisening up to the narcissism present in these individuals because they go on camera and out themselves, but they also serve as a good example to spot others like them. They seem to be finding it more difficult to find a person willing to put up with their narcissism, and so now they are going on social media and lashing out at the world.

[@qobikwezi656]

Individualism is a crisis.

[@UzitheSaint]

EXACTLY. I think we’ve taken “individualism” a bit too far and don’t really have a community/village mindset anymore. I’ve seen it on both sides and it’s odd, the same ones that always shoot someone is being a narcissist are the same ones that celebrate their “birth week” or birth month”. A lot of people want and want and want but scoff at just giving

[@CocoBoo_Anti-Oblivious]

Thank you yes 👏🏽

[@Anchezio]

10:41 - As a woman, I don't understand what's wrong with a man saying he loves me because of things I do for him or how I make him feel, because that literally describes my character. "You make me feel supported and safe" = you are kind, loving, and supportive People describe virtues by their actions. It ain't that deep, lady.

[@tinycatfromhell]

Because he doesn't love you for YOU. He just loves what he can get out of you.

[@Hydraclone]

@@tinycatfromhell Wrong. We are DEFINED by our actions. When somebody changes the actions they take, then it can signify issues. I love my partner for an endless list of reasons, but a big one is that she gives me peace. Every moment with her is relaxed, loving and peaceful. Likewise, she loves me for the things I do for her too. We judge somebody's character by the actions they take. It's not too farfetched to describe why you love them in the same manner.

[@geoffreydpearce]

I gotta admit that video went right over my head. How else could you possibly describe your love for someone other than how they make you feel through the actions they take. Am I crazy?

[@DrDeen1828]

It's especially funny because the women in the videos absolutely only care about the things that she can get from men. Its all projection.

[@DictatorDoPa]

@@tinycatfromhell I'm going to frame this thread. You seriously believe that a man shouldn't be trying to get anything from a woman? Don't women often laugh at a man who loves them for no reason? Yes, particularly when they don't find that man attractive.

[@truthhurtts]

Had a friend whose ex broke up with him because he was “too nice” as a boyfriend. She’s now alone and spouts BS about men hating women and her hating all men. That perfectly sums this up.

[@Mereologist]

My ex cheated on me because I was a 'good husband' and she felt she wasn't a 'good wife'. And when I forgave her, that made the imbalance even worse.

[@tus1165]

The cycle never stops I see Travis hunter’s girl turning like this real soooooon!!🎯💯🎯💯🎯💯🎯💯🎯💯

[@christinapedroza8645]

Sounds like she can't be happy

[@elCONQUEROR81]

There isn’t any hate for women unless you secretly a gay man. The way …. Childish childless women speak is scary. She went on that diatribe (fur coat) about her feelings and how she could cry about past future and the present. Family, she is unstable. Men don’t hate you, mean don’t want crazy in their lives. Unless you want a man who is just ass crazy in the mind as you. Women hate those men tho? 🤷🏾‍♂️ get all up in arms about men and how women are the future. She could end up with a baby boy. Then what? You will cry? You will cry for the future women he will misuse and abuse and all those terrible things you think about men? Yea poor children who have to be raised by numbskulls

[@flipturnsandbutterfly]

i've had 7 girlfriends over the past 16 years. I have had that as the reason for the breakup 4 times. All 4 of them went on to get beat by multiple boyfriends, 3 are single moms, that 4th one got the herps. The other 3 ladies are divorced and single. I'm engaged though, to someone who appreciates how I treat her, it's nice to have my actions valued.

[@LIVEFRMNYC]

Those same women hate when men find women elsewhere. 😂

[@KDan-x1l]

Problem is comparing these women. Just date out for the sake and wanting to, not to spite others

[@neimadize]

It’s weird. I don’t understand why they even care if they hate these men anyway. Make it make sense.

[@LeniBats]

Then they get butthurt that the man found better and decide to attack both the man and his new woman. Because deep down that man was meant for her and she views him as property, her toy and now another woman is playing with her toy. The kicker is that the jealous woman only wants the man if he is willing to bend a knee to her and her whims. She doesn't love him or respect him as a person. She just wants her toy back in its box, where she can always know what it's doing at all times.

[@ithamarlowe6158]

And men have every right to. We got feelings that feminism won’t pay any attention to. Feminists hate men, they don’t need a man. It’s literally their slogan.

[@oblitusunum6979]

​@neimadize they basically want men to be their slaves. If they are the only women then men have no choice but to bow to them. However the men finding a good woman destroys this. Thus the grooming and narrative push

[@DixieLane304]

My brilliant husband and I just celebrated 45 years. I would never give that up! ❤

[@TheAmalaEkpunobi]

Congrats!

[@tinaslonsky5332]

My husband and I celebrated 34 years. My sister (a devout feminist) regrets her choices of not having a family. Just saying. 🙏🏻❤️🇺🇸

[@weswolever7477]

👍👍👍

[@therealfatou]

@@tinaslonsky5332 wow 😂😂

[@patriziacathey605]

So happy for you ! I know the dedication it took to get there . My husband and I are on year 43 !

[@derekalineal]

I've been married to my wife for 20 years. She had a catastrophic stroke at age 35 that changed her body and mind, so I'm not even married to the same person anymore. But I still love her because I choose to. Love is a choice not an emotion. Love is to sacrifice one's own desires for another. Unconditional love is not dependent upon the behavior of the partner. A relationship will usually not last unless both parties approach it with this attitude.

[@ad6723]

They fail to remember “Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself” actually gathers the kinds of people you want around you.

[@Notmyname979]

also who's gonna tell them that unconditional love doesn't exist? Of course people love you if you treat them right. Just like people stop loving you if you don't treat them right. Love and respect are earned. Anything is earned is conditional. These are the same women that say men do nothing for them but will complain that men only value them for what they do for them smh. Purposely set up arbitrary tests designed to make their partners fail & reinforce their victim mindset which is why men hate these kinds of questions. They know there is no right answer. Just like why white people feel uncomfortable discussing race. They know they're gonna be blamed for it all. I'm not even a woman but I can smell the manipulation on women like this who claim they are empowering other women. These women do not speak for me nor do I claim them. We are not sisters here and I am not a "girl's girl" when it comes to girls like them. We are not allies with the same stuggles lol. When you believe you're a victim, suddenly everyone is out to get you. People like this stay bitter and single, as they should. Natural selection at it's best. The last thing we need is people like this passing the same mind disease on to their children.

[@MikeyohMikey]

Zero desire to even know women like this. I take care of myself. I get my things done and I don’t go out here cheating on everyone. These kinds of women are just going to keep losing out on normal men.

[@kayawhitefield4501]

I’m glad to know there’s still good men out there. These types of women really try to convince everyone that it’s hopeless and ‘all men are trash’. And it’s gives all women a bad name.

[@gayloverboy9517]

Love the name

[@indepthmike5578]

All the men that have gotten played for chumps and suckas by being cheated on divorced or having little to no custody have more than enough reason to be upset and the men that know other men that have gone through this stuff should take notice and perhaps consider being a bachelor long term and fine tuning their life so they can be happy and safe as life long single man.

[@Rob-uv6fb]

Plot twist, they're not interested in normal men.

[@HappinessDIY]

Yeah I get the impression that it’s not men hate women, just these obnoxious ones obsessed with themselves.

[@pinkladies66]

I think the issue is that everyone is too chronically online. Whenever I see a video featuring a woman on a social media platform, especially instagram, the comment section is always filled with men hating, commenting on her age, how she’s probably a cat lady or been “ran through” (they like to use that one a lot) so it’s easy to slip into the mindset of oh yeah men may be attracted to women sexually but they don’t like them as people. Men may be seeing the reverse on their algorithms. Essentially we all need to go touch some grass and make irl connections with real people lol

[@I_snort_when_I_laugh]

“304” and “pair bonding” are some more buzz words you see a lot in those comments 😂

[@bwright88dragon]

Well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. People that actually live their lives, go outside and interact with people IRL understand that the world is nothing like what we see mostly online. The algorithms keep people locked within their echo chambers. So if you are not careful you will find yourself getting a very narrowed but skewed view of reality. Common sense which is ironically seems uncommon these days needs to make a comeback 😅

[@themalawiandiner180]

@@pinkladies66 Facts 💯 people need to spend less time online or atleast in these online love discussions, some are generalizations, projections and mostly a matter of experience and perspective, everything is relative to some degree.

[@sarahbostedt2352]

exactly. There is going to be a concentration of jerks online and its weird that people haven't figured this out. In real life, most men would not talk to you like that.

[@RachelNichols-writer]

I agree.

[@devenchy3k947]

The thing that most people fail to mention is that when women on TikTok are talking about men as whole is that they're really only talking about 20 out of every 100 men. And they're all referring to those same 20 guys but associate their experience with every man that exists.

[@copperhead2694]

You can say the same thing about men who complain about women .. they base it off their one or two experiences and all of a sudden it’s every woman.

[@devenchy3k947]

@copperhead2694 My point was moreso that it's literally the same men that the women are talking about. Like those Facebook pages women make where they find out they are literally all dating the same man in their city. & Then say they hate men in general.

[@Royaleoake]

@@copperhead2694 No. You missed the point. The point is that women only consider the very top 20% of men at all. MOST women date up, and the only reason they don’t is for status or money or both. You’re a fool if you believe anything else.

[@jaybstyles_official520]

The difference is the large majority of women believe this (not experienced) ​@@copperhead2694

[@bftb]

intolerable women are weeding themselves from the dating marketplace. it is greatly appreciated.

[@zaq1337]

“ dating. “ 🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@canyouseethroughmytears]

Truly.

[@FranzPaskov]

@@zaq1337 😆

[@Loakley1998]

Factual

[@kafjaf6387]

*yawn* Yes - that is the point of not dating .....

[@rydbthatsme]

Sorry but not a single one of these women were likable. I’m gay but none of my girlfriends who are happy talk like these ones do. It’s nauseating tbh

[@bummblebee77]

YES!!! I thought the same thing!!

[@rebekahwebster3104]

It is possible that what you are picking up from them is bitterness that they have now that started because of how badly their boyfriends or other men treated them.

[@chaoticjoker247]

Ssmeee

[@OrthoLou]

​@@rebekahwebster3104 The fact that even women who identify as Christians like yourself even spout the nonsense that you just spouted makes me feel insermountably hopeless.

[@Victory000-c9z]

proving the point

[@williamoconnor5450]

Any woman who mentions patriarchy, in this day and age, is disqualified from the dating pool for men that aren't simps.

[@rattales58]

Bingo

[@zaq1337]

🚩🚩🚩 They’re telling you their red flags pay attention

[@Lesevesel]

Boom.

[@GetKingShorty]

Damn straight

[@andresanguianozuniga6798]

You mean mentioning...it or using it as their argument?

[@vergillives9890]

10 years of "WE DONT NEED NO MAN" and men stopped approaching wow "WHY ARENT MEN APPROACHING ME"

[@zaklinahauza5068]

None of this women are complaining about men not approaching them

[@robertclark5874]

When you have both of those complaints happening, it's probably more that people enjoy complaining or getting some positive feedback from it.

[@leah__gail]

They’re afraid to approach women out of fear for being accused of doing something they didn’t do, as well.

[@GemmaDann]

Men in my local neighbourhood talk to me all the time. Too many unhappy teenagers, commenting online, that people assume are adults. Adults that barely ever go into the real world and are chronically online. Online just isn't real life at all.

[@St4rTr3v1Ut10n]

Is the statement false then?​@@zaklinahauza5068

[@shirleydanby4123]

I genuinely want to see where these women are at in 10 years. For me I remember feeling I knew myself and the world at 18, then I realised that changed when i was 25 and again at 30, then 38 and again as I approach my mid 40's. The one thing you can rely of being consistent is change and change of mind and circumstances. So yeah. See you in 10 years ladies.

[@alexfriedman2152]

Most of them end up either single with cats or with a simp that they don't respect. Then when the kids are grown they divorce the simp!!! Don't be the simp who pays for Chad's leftovers!!!

[@sonofage]

a lot of things can change within 3-4 years . sometimes, i look back and wonder how did that shit change so quickly

[@Dgenius0506]

We will see. We honestly don’t have to wait that long. The fertility rate has dropped dramatically. Lowest it’s ever been

[@jasons1688]

We are actually seeing that in women within the 37-44 age range. Much of them did not date or seek a relationship due to traveling and having fun in their 20s and thirties and are now left scrambling to find anyone to get themselves pregnant before the “clock” runs out. I don’t touch those women with a 10 foot pole. Not being a jerk or sexist, it’s a real observation I’ve made after being in the dating pool the last 2 years.

[@alexfriedman2152]

@@jasons1688 Yeah it's disgusting. They get the simps to pay for their travels and then when they realize they are about to be OLD they seek a simp to marry, and they usually get it!! Too many Simps out there. Then they divorce the simp when the kids are grown and take half his money! It's disgusting they get away with it. They can't keep getting away with it 😭😭

[@Edge-mv3jw]

Gonna be honest, I don’t hate women. I just gave up after constant disappointment. I’m at a place where my peace just doesn’t seem worth it, and I haven’t met anyone that makes me feel like trying is worth it. On a second note, I feel like too many people reside in their own echo chambers and instead of being asked what makes them feel a specific way, the other party’s first instinct is just to make it about themselves. It’s all just annoying.

[@Priya-qi4ji]

Preach! Same with me and men.

[@TattyDarling]

As a woman, I’m in the same place. 13 years single, and I’m the only woman i know who lives in peace without drama.

[@NLTJNET]

Agreed. This right here.

[@Anastasia-ex7iw]

Edge, do you have a job that you like?

[@miepmiep3017]

This is me with men because finding decent people, and I'm sorry to say this, especially men in my experience is difficult. I won't be anyone's se-ual experiment, I don't want weed addicts, corn watchers, I want a monogamous relationship with a man who has the same values. I know a lot of women who agree with me in rl on all that. But no single man.

[@monikapanko2800]

If these women have issues with these types of men, they are always attracting these types of men and date them. Then complain about it. Because if it was a nice guy, he would be deemed boring. I've seen it so many times.

[@larryescher]

You are correct in your analysis. I was "friend zoned" as far back as the 80's before that term existed.

[@alexfriedman2152]

It's evil the way Women have been. "Toxic femininity". Hypergamy, and selfishness, double standards, etc. They say "wHeRe AlL AlL tHe GoOd Men?!?" But they don't want good men. They want either SIMPS or they want Chad and Tyrone. The only way for Women to understand the truth and be a Good person is with God. Generally it's the same with Men except way less as far as relationships. The thing is tehre's a spiritual component. Femininsm is evil.

[@PhanRegSop]

@@larryescherwomen have the right to turn you down.

[@Rob-uv6fb]

We all know how the "nice guy" fares.

[@alexfriedman2152]

They freaking deleted my comment but yeah... They always say they want a good guy and all this stuff but they want like a clown with a bazooka who makes 6 figures, cries, but also is tuff, etc. 6 pack, 6 figures. They absolutely do NOT want nice, good Men, like me.

[@JustJoshinWithyou]

I love how women always know how men feel and what men think.

[@Nemo-tr2zb]

Lol it makes you realize they know absolutely nothing about how men think

[@Realunq1]

Let’s be honest. Do men even know how to convey how they feel and think or don’t they usually depend on a woman to bring it out of em lol

[@HattoriHanzo-fg8cy]

Women also love to tell men what men should want.

[@Panwere36]

No, they either hate men, or hate the fact that men hold them accountable.

[@Andrew-ew3uv]

yup

[@moderngoblin]

Men don’t hate women just we hate the things women are interested in and talk about and do. And women hate men and the things they’re interested in and do. Don’t believe me try talking to a chick with full stoke about video games or golf or cars, women try to talk to men about makeup, fashion, shopping, or children. You will achieve the Tina Fey level eye roll within seconds.

[@jakethegreatest473]

It's the former....because they are trained by those who hate the later.

[@KarateChopShop]

That’s pretty much it. Men are treated them like adults and holding them accountable to their poor behavior.

[@LivingSpirit-e5s]

@Panwere36 Men need to hold themselves accountable. Men are f-ing unhinged, despicable, and self-destructive. Just ask a doctor who works in emergency medicine and doctors with the dept of correction. Say whatever you freaking want, but men are in serious trouble and the best thing that women can do is avoid them at all costs

[@Justmyopinion772]

Why do they always put on makeup while talking?

[@bernie004]

I always ask that! I just skip the videos now.

[@00z00p]

It’s all about aesthetics. Even their activism is aesthetics.

[@ellam3659]

ADHD and uptick of mental disorders

[@cooliipie]

Honestly it always creeped me out. This generation can't sit still

[@robincooper3]

This. .. it's ridiculous

[@blakethompson2397]

This movement of toxic women walking away from relationships is the best most beneficial movement of our generation !

[@JohnMathews-b5f]

Lowkey facts tho, get those personality traits out of the gene pool

[@C.Church]

That's a cartoon take of the entire situation. It's boisterous purely to make yourself feel strong and winning. Except, it contradicts all the sincere complaints M are having these days.

[@koolsmoothfan]

but they will not keep their word, lol

[@aznboi1027]

4B movement is a blessing in disguise

[@martinh8784]

@@aznboi1027 Totally! I hope all the entitled women in the clips join 4B and stay 4B. A lot of guys will be spared hardship if they do, and none will be missed.

[@JetteK-zd1cx]

I'm a woman who loves men, and a lot of what I hear other women complaining about in regards to men is their masculine traits. Obviously real awful behavior is inexcusable, but most of the complaints show a misunderstanding of how men operate in general.

[@michaelboulware1240]

Thank you

[@JetteK-zd1cx]

@ no problemo

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

​@@JetteK-zd1cx>>> Good on 'ya...👍

[@KnowledgeNation-vj2jk]

Can you explain what you mean by that? Is it toxic masculinity or lack of masculinity

[@JetteK-zd1cx]

@ inherent masculine traits. The way they think differently, see the world differently, and express themselves differently from women. “He didn’t do this and that like the guys in books.” “He plays video games and calls it a hobby.” “I can’t believe guys don’t do blank”

[@livingin1984]

Dear women, men do not hate all women. They just hate you personally. Hope this helps. Sincerely, a woman sick of the kind of women showcased in this video

[@richmann8230]

Yes.. Exactly

[@Anastasia-ex7iw]

Some men hate all woman and some women hate all men

[@Soldiersforchrist_]

They honestly give “im not like other girls”

[@hotteacocoa]

Literally! I’m so tired of women bashing men and clumping all men into one category. It’s such an immature thought process; “one man did a bad thing, so that means all men are bad!” Like, come on, grow up already.😭

[@Crezelltree4261]

These are jilted & jaded women.

[@ZoggFromBetelgeuse]

I like how for the third lady, it's a red flag when a man hesitates when asked those questions, but it's an even bigger red flag when he DOESN'T hesitate. Damn if you do, damn if you don't.

[@teresabrowning4126]

She was creepy! Can you imagine having that sitting across from you with that creepy voice asking about important emotional issues 😱

[@katarinabrunk8698]

I was over here thinking "it's not all about you Janet!"

[@ethand.5506]

@@teresabrowning4126 She looks like a cross between AOC and Dylan Mulvaney lmao

[@mzytryck]

@@teresabrowning4126 I was just thinking that she sounded like a movie villain. The first just sounded thoughtless and unsophisticated like lots of young people do, the second one (like Amala said) sounds like she's been "educated" into a state of "awareness" that makes her look at everything in the worst possible way, but if you were to edit that third one's soft-spoken venom into a monologue where the mad scientist Dr F is explaining why she's just unleashed a genetic plague to destroy the Y-chromosome forever, it would fit pretty well.

[@themysticallyminded4852]

Pretty sure these women giving such ridiculous advice have never managed to have a successful relationship. Therefore, they should only give advice on how to fail in that area. Wish they would realize that.

[@xo-maria]

I can actually relate to these women. When I was dating, I was constantly misled and betrayed by men. I started to notice that the signs of them not actually liking me, even though they would say or do things that would indicate that they did. There was a huge incongruence occurring, and it was unfortunate that many of them could not be honest. However, there are many good men out there. I was lucky to land one. I have no advice, only a suggestion that they remain optimistic and unburden themselves from their obsession with the "patriarchy".

[@RosieReins]

This is very accurate to my experience as well

[@DCfan6767]

Exactly, sometimes I feel like these channels don't want to recognize that a lot of men do lie and lie well. And it's very hard to even give advice on the red flags to look out for. I don't think it's helpful to men or women when we tell women that if men don't like them then they are just terrible. There are plenty of terrible men as well and we can't put all men on a pedestal. Honestly, I think it's hard for women to judge men who pursue them very well and they need a man who has no ulterior motive to give them an accurate assessment, like a dad or a brother. Men judge each other very well and very quickly. The problem is the modern feminist model is that women have to look for a partner alone and that any influence of their father or brothers is a controlling narrative rather than a protective one. And unironically, I think it was predatory men who pushed this narrative and still are to get more access to women who were being protected.

[@ZukMyZik]

@@DCfan6767and in end of your paragraph, you basically blamed men for the type of choices you made in men. No accountability once again in women.

[@houseofhas9355]

They are filled with cult like thinking. They think all men hate them. 😂

[@Twistwim]

It’s crazy because I’m aware that some of the men think the exact same. like that a lot of women lie, and are deceitful and do that sort of thing very well. And it’s hard not to see their perspective, at least in my POV because my sister has actively lied or done something very misleading, maybe not necessarily indirect coronation with a relationship she’s in, but something very conniving and believable that you just completely agreed to it. For example, I know she’s a big liar, but I didn’t know she was a crazy big one until recently. We went on a trip for Christmas and the day after Christmas. I woke up to find her talking to my mom and when both of them thought I was asleep, or when she thought I was asleep, she started shit talking me. I woke up in the middle of the night to go to the restroom and such and I went back to bed. Maybe thirtyish minutes later. And the only thing I had said to her was you need to shut the bathroom door because she just went to the bathroom and I didn’t wanna have to smell whatever she did in there, but she was up before me and up after me. But she had told my mom was that I had told her I needed to stay up and play on my iPad to “ make up for lost time”. Ridiculous and pathetic lie. That came out of nowhere. There was no reason for her to lie like that because I know I’m usually on my iPad or whatever device for long periods of time, but I would never force myself to ruin my sleep schedule in order to make up for lost time that I didn’t get to use my iPad on Christmas. it was the first time that I heard and caught her lie so genuinely and blatantly. She was really trying to convince my mom to believe it so that I would look bad. And then just today I found out that she had took the box that has my charger with it. If you don’t know, the iPad chargers come very specific now where they have a box that can only hook up to the port because the cord has the same ports on both sides. And she stole that right after I told her I didn’t want her using that charger because she breaks things all the time. I’m just going to have to scavenge her room when she’s not here and look for it myself, but it’s gonna be hard considering that she quit her job and doesn’t do anything now. Luckily she’s not in school or anything so my mom is a lot tougher on her, mostly because she went to cosmetology school and made my mom and herself go $10,000 each into debt and she didn’t even finish school.. very fucking pathetic

[@TheGhostThatCanRoast]

I mean….to be fair….theres a reason why “Good guy never wins” in love stories trope exists. As a woman I HAVE to acknowledge that we have a habit into feeding into trash guys just because we find them attractive. And a lot of these terrible guys come from moms who raise their sons to be like mini spouses and infantilize them. Either they come out to be trash or the mom ruins every chance of happiness he can have with a girl one day.

[@RikuofManyPaths]

The best way I can figure this is that, when asked for a list of what they are looking for in a partner, men are blunt and give the whole list. This is less so now because of things like body positivity and the like shaming men for having any sort of physical preference, but the point still stands. Women will often give a list, but leave out a key piece that really needs to be said out loud (if for no other reason than to help us men out): everything on the list has a "that I'm attracted to" clause. "He has to be a kind, sweet, attentive man (that I'm attracted to)". He does, in fact, have to be a kind, sweet, attentive man, but she's not attracted to just any sweet, kind, attentive man. And this is perfectly fair and valid. So when women say that they want a man with certain qualities, and a man has those qualities, he gets confused how she does not want him. "I need a good man," she will say, and a good man will identify himself, and she is not attracted to him, so she turns him down. It's not wrong, but the more covert communication style women have does confuse men who think and speak overtly. Men have long devoted time to decoding this, and it's ultimately led them to more heartache than it has help. For example, while she means good things when she says "I can't believe you're not taken" to a man, what she means to say is that he has many, many good qualities, and they are visible enough to her, so they should be visible to another woman, and a woman that values those things AND finds him attractive MUST have crossed his path at some point, right? But, men see it as "Yes, you have many great qualities. Women should like you. The fact that I and every other woman you've come across can see those good things in you and still want nothing to do with you says there is something wrong with you." Likewise, it has been demonstrated time and time again that the MORE attracted anyone is to someone else, the lower the standards are for that person. A man that a woman is deeply attracted to can get away with some really shady stuff that a man she holds no attraction to could never dream of getting away with. Before you guys jump on here with your "Chad and Tyrone thing" it isn't just looks and money that inform attraction. Yes, looks indicates a certain amount of taking care of themselves (meaning she doesn't have to, and knows he'll have the self discipline to keep himself that way), and money tends to signal ambition and capability (both things you need as a father and husband), but it's not everything. Women's tastes are very unique to the woman in question. But you MUST meet that taste for any of your good traits to count to her. Knowing this can make it easier to tank rejection: she's not into my particular wavelength, so it would never have worked out anyway. That sucks, time to move along. The problem with a lot of 'good guys' and women in general is that they pick the wrong way. If you draw a Venn diagram, with one circle being the people attracted to you, and the other circle being the people you are attracted to, the only place a relationship can be tenable is the overlap in those circles, and this makes sense. Where 'good guys' and many women go wrong is picking someone in the circle of people they are attracted to and trying to force them into the overlap. "I like them, so if I keep putting in effort, lowering my standards, and debasing myself, they will come to be as attracted to me as I am to them, and we'll live happily ever after." This really is as dumb as it sounds. Nice guys finish last because they try to force a woman they like to like them, and she does when the guys she likes but can't force to like her back stop giving her the time of day. She then settles for the good guy that has doggedly been her footstool, and she never really liked him, so she begins to resent that he got what he wanted and she didn't. There is some truth to the "my beloved smother" thing, too! But it's weirder than that: Single mothers instruct their sons to be what SHE wants them to be, like a mini-spouse, but never tells the boy about the unspoken 'that I'm attracted to', and the boy grows up being what mommy taught him to be and yet unable to understand how his one role model's advice is not working to seek out a spouse that isn't exactly like his mother in terms of taste. When single moms raise daughters, they often teach the daughters from a place of bitterness to raise their expectations ever higher about men, and that if a man does anything wrong, the right answer is to just dump him and find another. I'm sure it's possible in reverse, with dad teaching his daughters to be good little wives and his sons to distrust all women, but the number of men who get full custody are so small a sample size that we can't observe it clearly.

[@TheGhostThatCanRoast]

@ I think you just elaborated and clarified my thoughts more than I could post. Thank you. I really like how you did that.

[@michaelmontroy6592]

Single man and not pursuing here. For me, it is because I would rather have a traditional type of relationship, and most women these days don't find that appealing. I gave up pursuing and would rather keep my peace. I would like to have a relationship, but I will not jeopardize my peace for just anyone.

[@PhanRegSop]

Do you have the funds to have a trad wife? Women were told were gold diggers for wanting a man who could support us financially so we could be stay at home moms.

[@lozsn]

Don’t say most women. That’s not true. You won’t find us on social media or out in the club that’s why it seems like traditional women don’t exist but we do. We just stay in the house.

[@michaelmontroy6592]

@lozsn well I really meant the women I've tried to take on dates or have talked to in attempts to get to know them before a date etc. And I didn't go looking for women at clubs or bars or anything like that. I am the same way really. Stay to myself and at home most of the time these days.

[@odindarkll3706]

​@@lozsnit's definitely most women, in my experience. Being the next top TikTok influencer and/or OFs model are on top of the food chain. I also met more traditional women, but fewer of them remain.

[@odindarkll3706]

​@@lozsnit's definitely most of them, in my experience. It appears being the next big time OF model and/or influencer is all the rage, these days.

[@Calypso694]

the women making these videos are the problem.

[@smorgasbroad1132]

Very high maintenance. Not natural. Have never gotten their hands dirty types. IMO P.S. Unapproachable. The claw nails is their signage that says "keep your distance". Is that the man's fault? No.

[@kristycrabb6560]

They are in love with themselves

[@Serenastar79]

Then ignore them and let them be single..why do men care if women don't want to date?

[@evroypowell]

Most of these women that talk like this want a perfect guy 🤣😂 are these women from California 🤣🤣😂😂

[@christal4117]

Curious, why does it bother you that certain women don't want to date? What exactly is the problem?

[@tommccloskey3595]

Hating someone and not wanting to put up with their BS, are two different things.

[@Ilovechocolate-y3d]

What BS do men have to put up with with women? And even if so, how about the actual fear/danger women have to put up with men? the 'bs' pales in comparison to the estimated 47 thousand women killed by their partners every year.

[@ithamarlowe6158]

Agreed, women are too full of themselves, and they have a superiority complex. I’m all for the feminism stuff until it came to the degradation of men and making us look bad. These women want to complain that men are dating outside of their race. Well obviously outside of their race the women know how to treat men with dignity and respect. It seems they forgot we are humans with feelings and we aren’t mind readers, we’re straight forward.

[@stellabella6839]

Part of true love is putting up with their BS. Don’t they put up with our BS? As a woman, I can acknowledge that I put out my share of BS, can you? I think our ability to recognize that we are not going to attract a perfect person, because we, ourselves, are not perfect. I’m not saying that sometimes we can’t put up with their BS or they can’t put up with ours. I think if we all can step off our pedestals for a moment and realize everyone involved is an imperfect person, we will go a long way in holding a relationship together. We all have our non negotiable things we cannot deal with. Those are different for everyone, male and female. It’s all a journey and hopefully by the end of it we aren’t all lonely and cynical. Cheers!

[@ithamarlowe6158]

@stellabella6839 I think all their complaints are from sheer laziness. Relationships are built on a foundation and takes work and effort put in together from both sides to make things work. People these days just want everything to be perfect from the start and it’s ruining them.

[@stellabella6839]

@@ithamarlowe6158 exactly. It’s the microwave, HGTV world we live in.

[@TonyK-w8t]

I remember a quote from Paul Léautaud, a french writer, that summarize the men hating women topic : You have to have loved women devilishly to hate them.

[@michellegilley6550]

My man might not be able to tell me why he loves me if i asked right of the top of his head, but he has been to town in the rain and freezing cold 10 times in the past few days for cold medicines and hot chocolate mix, things like that make me not need to ask the question. If you want to be in a relationship with a women be with a woman, if not don't blame all men for your crappy standards. Appreciate the yin to your yang, dent expect them to think just like you do.

[@Notmyname979]

right? Like this is such a stupid question. A deep question like that is gonna require some real thought processing. I asked myself the same question many times over a man I love and I still can't come up with an answer. Love is a feeling not a thought process. There isn't really a specific reason. You love someone because you just do. It comes from the heart and gut, not the brain. Most people describe this feeling as happiness, but even that is not accurate. The feeling alone is complex to describe much less the reason behind it. Just goes to show the types of people who think like this really don't understand the things they talk about at all. 100% confidence (arrogance really) but 0 intelligence smh. I really would love to have these women try out their own tests and see how they set up to fail everytime. You've already decided this person is a bad person so any response they give you will be twisted to fit your narrative. And the thing that pisses me off the most is that they claim to be doing it for our empowerment and saying things like "we" referring to all women. Like we are not in agreement here just because we have vaginas. You do not speak for me. Take your misandry and abstract stupidity elsewhere. I do not claim association with women like these.

[@JesusACunrad44]

That is right and well said! You are a wise woman! That woman was toxic and vile. She tried to harm many other women and their relationships by trying to persuade women to "test" their men: "Women! Do not be satisfied that your men just love you - the love of your man is not enough, because your man must also precisely know and be aware at any moment of the reasons WHY he loves you. And loving you for your young age and beauty is a wrong answer and degrading..." The love of a man should be only acceptable if it's for the right, Feminist reasons.

[@drifter233]

Massively appreciated, we really don't often think that deeply about our relationships like that, especially when we're already happy in it lol

[@elizabethsantana338]

My BF can’t sit here and write a novel about why I’m the one or why he loves me. But I can tell by his actions!!! People who love you show up for you. Not everyone can express themselves through words like “we” most women expect them to.

[@shadowbanned3000]

When she asked that question, the first thing that came to my mind was that one fragment from _The Little Prince_ that goes something like this: "When I first met you, you were not different from any of the other one hundred thousand [girls] out there, and, certainly, if a stranger saw you now, he would think you are just like any other one of them and that there's nothing special about you. It was because I took the time to get to know you that you became unique in the entire universe to me. It was because I spent time with you and took care of you, protected you and went through all of this with you that you became special to me. It is the time I wasted for you that made you so important _to me."_ Of course, I'm paraphrasing, saying it as it came to my mind, and I doubt she would appreciate the corniness. But, ultimately, her question is doomed to fail, both because she is asking for rational reasons about something that comes from a place of emotions, and because she *wants it* to fail.

[@liljasigurros]

As a woman I have encountered all kinds of people including all types of men. I have encountered men that were described in this video and I have encountered men who are genuinely really good mean. I have also encountered women who are just terrible and women who are the kindest ever.

[@argusmckenally4805]

I think that you mean good men.

[@mafiawaffle]

The worst bullies i've ever had were women. some of my best friends are also women. the only way the world will get better, is to stop pretending the "other side" is causing all the problems.

[@CanadianMonarchist]

As a man I absolutely agree with you.

[@I_snort_when_I_laugh]

Same here. I know a lot of really crappy women and a lot of really good men, and vice versa. Shitty people exist on both sides.

[@mustangmikep51]

evil and goodness is evenly distributed among the 2 genders...pick a good one (if you can find one!)

[@CanadianBalll]

Thank goodness there’s still millions of other women out there who aren’t like them.

[@miag.l1087]

True

[@whiteshadow1771]

where are they? I can't find 'em

[@Jeremy-wp4yh]

@@whiteshadow1771 log off. Theyre all offline

[@Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer]

Millions? Try like tens. At best

[@CARTOONIVERSE1]

Yeah but very few of then live in western cultures.

[@jamesrolfe1601]

Something that's really funny - I'm a gay man right - so 99% of girls I meet expect me to be like 'the girls and the gays' - and it's even funnier when I've only just met them - because very quickly they choose to start talking sh*t about men - saying how bad men are and how much they hate them - THINKING THAT I'M GUNNA AGREE - hilarious - i'm just like babe i might be gay but that don't mean im gunna side with you on your hatred of men - I'm sorry that you seem to attract men that don't align with what you want out of life, but that's a you problem hun - i ain't gunna blindly agree just cuz i'm gay

[@summerfield738]

My happy place is watching interviews with elderly couples who have been married for 50+ years. Very wholesome and heartwarming. These women need to disconnect from the internet and negative people, surround themselves with uplifting people instead.

[@sagev.5818]

Oh that sounds delightful and wholesome!! I’ll need to find videos like that!!

[@ethand.5506]

There's this older woman I always get on my fyp who's always talking positively about men. I think she even studies them and stuff, I can't remember her name though. Weird how it seems that women who actually lived through more sexism are less resentful than modern women who were born into an equal society

[@AmeliaHouck-o9j]

THANK YOU POLLYANNA

[@IcyRockWitchu]

@ethand.5506 I think what's happened is that we are all confused about what healthy gender roles look like. You'll have people say a man is a punk if he cries and men who say they want a woman who has her own so she doesn't sponge off them. And it doesn't help if our own parents and grandparents had dysfunctional relationships. One challenge with a multicultural society is that there are not shared national values. I'm not advocating for some sort of nationalism though either.

[@patrickrada2923]

@summerfield738 Just because a couple has been married for 50+ years doesn't mean that they still have a loving, appreciative, satisfying, more or less passionate relationship with various moments of happiness. This couple could also only be officially married for reasons such as convenience, social status, money, etc. and have a platonic relationship like brother and sister, i.e. a kind of sham or convenience marriage. My foster parents belonged more to the first category when you consider their mutual behavior, which they *also* showed when they thought they were not being watched, but as a child you don't look too closely and you don't want to know some details. Due to the severe neglect by my biological mother in my first 3 years of life and my experiences with my foster parents, I have developed a certain sensitivity to pay attention to such subtleties as genuinely loving togetherness or behavior like that of platonic roommates.

[@Nicky-54]

For a lot of women no matter what a man does it’s never good enough. We don’t show our emotions that’s a bad thing. But if we do get emotional and cry, then we’re seen as whiny babies that they need to take care of. Not to mention women have been telling men that they hate us that they don’t want anything to do with us that we’re just pigs that only want them for one thing. They told us not to approach. They told us not to look at them for too long. They’ve been telling us for over a decade that they do not like us in any way shape or form. Now they’re upset because men aren’t pursuing them. Oh the irony.

[@C.Church]

W learned that from centuries of how M regarded W. That's just the truth. What W are doing isn't novel. They're just doing t-for-tat.

[@Robert_Westwood]

​@@C.Church, am I to infer that two wrongs make a right?...

[@Nicky-54]

@@HarryBolsak from first hand experience it’s not. Yeah it’s more prevalent online but it still happens in the real world on a daily basis.

[@Nicky-54]

@@HarryBolsak it’s hard not to be black pilled by this but stay hopeful it’s not every women. There’s still amazing people out there just maybe hard to find. Just stay focused on the things that truly matter and hope for the best. That’s what I’m doing. Easier said than done I know but try to stay hopeful and put positive energy into the world and hopefully positive energy will come back to you.

[@Nicky-54]

@@HarryBolsak that’s exactly what I meant be it family, friends, career, hobbies, whatever it may be for you. I wish you best of luck man. Stay blessed king.

[@TherealHK-47]

It’s hard to take any accusations of “hatred” seriously from the same people who call any sort of criticism or call for accountability “misogyny”

[@tassiodrigues]

True...

[@Siranoxz]

The word misogyny is being used so many times that woman probably have no idea what it actually means.

[@Vergonxjxi]

They hate accountability its like a kryptonite for women

[@AnchorManPizzaVan]

It's like the boy who cried wolf. If they keep saying everything is misogyny. Then, eventually, when real misogyny happens. We aren't going to believe them.

[@donjagoe]

I am really impressed you could make those highly cogent responses in one long take. Remarkable! Well done, as always.

[@KarloBlaze]

In conclusion: "Hey, I had a bad experience with men so girls, you should all stop dating men so I can feel better about myself for being alone."

[@nexuslite]

And there it is, The sisterhood.

[@bodhisattva2348]

literally none of them said girls should stop dating men

[@YmustTh3w0rldg0r0und2]

​ Yeah they say: this is why I'm not doing it, so proceed with caution.

[@jamesg3808]

"Misery loves company."

[@Anon06428]

Meanwhile there’s femicides and incest because of men statistically doing it the majority of the time. Women are SCARED OF MEN I don’t blame us. Been through enough.

[@quinndeskimo4132]

Men don’t hate all women. Just the ones who go onto social media and say “Like” in the middle of every sentence. 🙄.

[@Oneidy-g3i]

😂😂😂😂

[@ericfearon4787]

But like she's so much more educated than most men. 😂

[@SamBourgeois]

It's the vocal fry and condescension that does it for me. "Oh, honeeey" 💅🤮 Who died and made you queen of The Castro?

[@Hrudaya_CK]

Personal attack but totally understandable

[@scotthearts9634]

😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ohh this one had me!

[@Kbandz313]

It’s natural selection at this point

[@truthseekingfreethinker5214]

There is nothing natural about anything that is happening today. Social engineering is, and has been at work for a long time now.

[@martinh8784]

Absolutely! 4B is the best that has happened to men in a long time. In a generation, everything will have taken care of itself.

[@Her844]

​​@@martinh8784 cry harder.enjoy your loneliness pandemic 😂😂

[@Siranoxz]

@@martinh8784 This is the product of the 4B movement?. Well i guess if that attitude starts manifesting into their demise and negativity then that's the byproduct of cope mechanism of the 4B movement.

[@agm97ga]

The id10t at 10:13 is saying that if a man cannot answer the question immediately, he is a terrible person, but if he can answer it immediately, he is even worse. So damned if you do, damned if you don't. These people are perpetual victims who do not want to be happy!

[@uselessizuku]

As a Man who deeply loves women and children, I just hate how they constantly hurt and disrespect themselves.

[@C.Church]

Can you give examples? And can you say with certainty that what you're noticing is represented by most of them?

[@Reezy12333]

@@C.Churchyes most lol especially wives

[@therealfatou]

confused on the children part 😭

[@ruudvanderzanden8013]

​@@C.Churchcan you go away you spamming runt?

[@havardwindingstad4112]

@@therealfatou Seen his avatar?

[@Sidewayz455]

No, we're just tired of double standards and being shat on constantly. (edit) and tired of having comments deleted, while keeping the manbashing ones present.

[@black-aliss]

You'd think a demographic that's famous for its empathy would realise that.

[@jrbionic404]

@@black-alissThat’s a bar! Well said!

[@CyberPunkBadGuy]

@@black-aliss they have none, people who boast about empathy dont have any and dont know what it is, empathy is snake oil, what they need is integrity and virtue, something none of them have, something that takes effort unlike empathy aka just feeling X kind of way that does nothing but pat yourself on the back to say you are a good person cause FEELINGS.

[@C.Church]

Opposite. It's M experiencing consequences of generations of sh'ing on W constantly. You'd think the demographic famous for being "logical" (legends in their own minds) would realize that.

[@Sidewayz455]

Comments like the one C.C made below is the exact thing I'm talking about. In addition, I can't post a reply, because it's being constantly deleted.

[@RaisinBran-ir4iq]

These women all seem to act, dress and try to look like they want a lifestyle of the rich and famous. If they continue to chase that immature 'princess' dream, they're not in it to win it.

[@logangodofcandy]

Every girl wants to be a princess, but she doesn't want to be given as property to a king in order to benefit both of their households.

[@victorcates9330]

There's no reason to think they're doing anything but trying to be a inverse form of Andrew Tate.

[@beebs_magoo]

@@logangodofcandy That's exactly what a princess is, historically. They can't have it both ways. Even a princess has obligations.

[@leonardrobichaud5919]

This is just one example of how we are being manipulated into turning against each other: be it on racial, political, sexual or other lines. Of all these divisions, the one between male and female cuts through just about every relationship we have: in the family, among friends, in the workplace. Divide and conquer! While we are squabbling amongst ourselves our oppressors are laughing all the while.

[@research29-gq1rl]

That test is so weird. I'm a woman and I couldn't easily sum up why I love someone. Words kinda fail

[@leonnunhofer3453]

English is my 3rd language but I try. For me it's because I can trust. She really knows and deeply understands me and accepts and supports me emotionally. I was abused since baby age, 10 months, and need a lot of love. She sees me as strong for surviving, not as weak for needing love. She feels safe and protected with me. Also I know her, she trusts me, she shows that, and it's touching and heart warming. She is full of life, can animate me, has fire, despite having to go through a lot aswell. We make feel each other at home. Not alone. As one. There also are other things, like shared interests and hobbies, but imo the most important thing is deep trust and understanding of the other person 🤷‍♂️

[@alexfriedman2152]

Yeah cuz it's all FELINGS. Whichever Chad gives you tingles in the right spot you make up all these things like "Oh he's so amazing" and this and that but he's just some moron. Then the guy who actually will love you is deemed too boring or nice.

[@zxcvb3772]

I have a problem with that test too, it's weird that she finds problem with men saying they like women that do things for them. Men's living experience is different from women, and men don't get unconditional love like women do. When a woman comes around and show love and appreciation for a man, he's going to appreciate it more. When a woman does something for a man, it shows that she cares. It's not about "me, me, me, me, me" like she said. Men don't get showered with love everyday like women do. I've heard of this saying, men would pick women that like them over women they like, and women would pick men they like over men that like them, and based on my experience, that is true.

[@M.Swigglez]

@@alexfriedman2152is this what u day dream about at night?😭😭 this comment made me laugh

[@M.Swigglez]

@@zxcvb3772picking women that like them over women they like can end up in mistreatment overtime.

[@BonzaiBomber]

As an older man, I feel bad for the younger generations. Most men love women, and would give their everything for the right one. But they want a woman. Someone who is feminine, nurturing, supportive. They aren't looking for competition. It's our differences that attract, not our similarities. Modern feminism wants to make women the same as men. That really brings nothing to the table for a man. They already work and support themselves. Another problem with the modern feminist ideology, unless he is a total simp, a man is not going to put up with being told about the patriarchy and how oppressive they and their entire sex is. And sure, over time that can make a man angry and bitter. Hostility breeds hostility. So the women who think men hate them, how hard core feminist are they? They may just be getting back what they are putting off.

[@ABajanDream]

exactly this!

[@cobylock1566]

Exactly we already competing against other men to even get the women we want. Then your competing for the job you want being a young man in today world is probably the hardest it’s been in a while. They gotta sacrifice themselves for a job they probably don’t want but do it for the money just so try and attract women and some women still wouldn’t even try him out

[@cobylock1566]

Not all women but mostly younger women but men also have their problems too

[@Jogelle22]

Except you're talking with the assumption that we are intrinsically different, rather than opening your mind to the possibility that we've been very similar all along but the patriarchy forced us into a "soft" role y'all decided was feminine. I read a comment recently which stuck with me (loosely quoted): "If women were naturally submissive, why are there so many podcast bros teaching women how to be submissive and telling them they need to be submissive in order to get a man?"

[@OrthoLou]

​@@cobylock1566 "bUt mEn ToOoOo!!" Every. Single. Time.

[@Cinematic_Jesse]

Man here 🙋 it's not that I hate women, I'm just on a path that requires focus, dedication and self support. I honestly just have no energy to give to a woman who could care less about my well-being. It's a hard pass for me

[@haywoodjablowmi1427]

*couldn't

[@haywoodjablowmi1427]

and most of the women staying away from men would literally say the same thing as you, you have the same thought process as them. How do you not see that you're saying the same thing ?? I hope you all understand that amala is purposly showing exteme cases for content. Women who focus on themselves and stay away from men who dislike them (but will stay with them regardless) are for the most part normal, they're like you. The women shown the the video are chronically online and not at all an accurate representation.

[@Joshua-eo5hr]

​@@haywoodjablowmi1427Because men actually care about women's well being women are just looking for a check just because women say the same thing doesn't mean it's as equally valid.

[@PickleGobbler9000]

@@haywoodjablowmi1427 because he’s saying respectfully, he’s not blaming anyone else and actually taking accountability, he’s not being gender into it and out of nowhere talking about the patriarchy, most females literally bring up how men aren’t worth their time when they talk about their future but men never bring females into it. THATS THE DIFFERENCE

[@tiasmith3499]

​@@haywoodjablowmi1427exactly it works both ways

[@nicoleg2544]

The ‘test’ is wild because ALL human beings create relationships based on how the person they are in a relationship with makes THEM feel. Do you feel heard? Respected? Appreciated? Cherished? Loved? Validated? Supported? Secure? Uplifted? Confident? Safe? Peaceful? People don’t love you just nebulously. They love you in the context of your coexistence. If asked why I love my husband, the MAJORITY of my reasons are in the context of how he makes ME feel around him. There are factors in there independent of my feelings, but even those factors still affect me directly. Is he a loyal friend? A trustworthy confidant? A hard worker? Those are traits and qualities that directly reflect on my - and our family’s - wellbeing. Likewise, what do *I do for HIM? As much as people hate to admit it these days, relationships ARE transactional. You get and you give. And your value in a relationship, romantic or otherwise, IS determined by what you give - the ONLY exception being your children.

[@RikuofManyPaths]

Right? Actions performed by one partner engender feelings, and those feelings are what convince us we are loved, and encourage us to reciprocate in love. The test literally exists to tell all women that unless he views you and all you've done and are for yourself as the reason to love you (akin to worship?), then he is to be discarded. I'd argue that, while SOME relationships are transactional, a good relationship feels more like mutual reciprocation. "They did this wonderful thing for me, and I want them to know that I liked it, so I will do this thing that I know they like in return." It's giving in thanks in both directions over "I agree to do this much of what they like for as long as they continue to do this much of what I like." Probably just semantics, but to me it feels like a big difference, you know?

[@nicoleg2544]

I can see how ‘transactional’ might be too harsh of a word. Reciprocative is definitely better. Those acts of service are what makes you feel heard / appreciated / loved / respected / etc. The love arises from that relationship between action and reaction. You do A and it makes me feel B, and that fuels the love we are nurturing.

[@SD-mi2vc]

Tests not tests

[@danh2716]

As a married man of 24 years, these women just confuse and disgust me. As the father of a teenage son and daughter, they scare the poo out of me.

[@svartvist]

Ditto for this grfather of 20. Most of them are not succeeding in this arena.

[@jennyj0007]

Married mum off two boys. Will be examining any future gf. They better not be nutters

[@martinh8784]

Think about it as natural selection. 4B will weed out these women within a generation.

[@yabedits-e9w]

poo?

[@Sara-x6t3s]

Idk what did men think they were creating when they normalized and removed the shame and disgust around sexual perversion and popularized porn? In my opinion the way our society has sexualized young girls and made it acceptable to do just disgusts me, and basically every girl I know. No girl wants to be with a sicko who sexualizes every other girl.

[@tiffparker-kq3ft]

The girl with the faux coat in a nice car doesn’t look oppressed to me 🤔

[@BloodSweatandFears]

She’s trying real hard to look wealthy it’s ridiculous for her to talk about being oppressed 😂

[@Notmyname979]

@@BloodSweatandFears she needs to fix that mindset before having a daughter. Yikes.

[@BloodSweatandFears]

@@Notmyname979 Yup, the cycle will continue.

[@TheSpiderInUrWalls]

It’s crazy how people living in countries where women have relatively equal opportunities (saying relatively bc I haven’t researched) complain about oppression. Under Shariah law the taliban have decided women may no longer speak to anyone outside their family. That’s oppression.

[@Scoots1994]

Some men are tired of women, tired of having to pay for them, do what they say, being manipulated by them. I love the women in my life. My mother, my sisters, my wife, and my daughters. I love them, comfort them, protect them, provide for them, and empower them.

[@solitivity]

And that's great, but where the women are falling short here is reciprocation (not always and not every woman, obviously, but it's a general issue we have in society with men getting shafted on *any* kind of emotional support or anything).

[@Scoots1994]

@solitivity "modern" women don't feel they should have to.

[@logangodofcandy]

Men usually are not manipulated by women. Men are completely aware of their poor attempts and doing so, but they want to do what the women want,.because we like making women happy. If women were honest decent people, they would find a man and be happy that he does what she wants, just because he knows that's what she wants.

[@lebowskisrug]

women are tired of men. do you know the sexu*l *ssault statistics? forgive us for not trusting you when 1 in 4 of us are r*ped or ass*ulted by adulthood.

[@Terriwith2arfs]

Your statements do not ring true. If you love the women in your life, how would you know about how "tired" men are because they might have to do what women say, much less provide for them? A lot of incongruity here.

[@TheShellyHollisShow]

I miss women pre social media

[@SpiritHowl]

As a woman who has suffered trauma from men in which my life was at risk, I will no longer entertain any romantic relationships. I've tried romantic relationships since and I just constantly get triggered and have panic attacks so, for now, I've given up. HOWEVER I know it's irrational and I know it's a trauma response I don't hate men as a result I'm just scared of them because of my experiences. I'm currently in therapy and hope to get over it but I would never say I hate men and/or use my experiences against them. It's a me issue, not a them issue and I think it's stupid to imply all men are dangerous and that all men hate women. More men have protected me than they have hurt me and a majority of men have kind souls. I just wish my brain would realise that and stop giving me stupid panic attacks

[@milton1448]

Good luck to you

[@kooolio007]

So sorry for the trauma that you suffered, a few bad apples really can ruin it for the rest

[@Christophert824]

I was gonna say something mean...then I finished the rest of your post. Shame on me. I wish I could meet a girl like you. And I wish I was in the right mental space to be worthy of a kind soul like yours. Inshallah I and you will find what we are looking for. Best of luck, sweetheart.❤❤❤

[@KyleReeseCel2029]

This may sound wrong but was it really that bad what happened to you? If it was then I can understand and maybe your permanently damaged. However it is possible that your making it worse than it was in your own head. Maybe re-evaluate what happened if you haven't already. You might possibly come to new terms about it.

[@kathrinebarbossa1522]

Saaaaame!!!! Except I had a really nice, calm, kind, and patient gentleman walk into my life and am in a happy relationship now. We both still occasionally trigger each other which we wish wouldn't happen but we work through it together. It does get better!

[@MysticaRealms]

The first girl saying she hasn’t dated a men two years . Is code word for I have hooked up with random men for two years

[@ivonicusmaximusnuno2520]

Thank God somebody said it.

[@Laceon1]

She was getting dressed up for the 100 man challenge 😅

[@karenclark266]

Thanks for the translation. I got hung up on her constant repetition of the word, "like" and got lost.

[@KDan-x1l]

That’s not what it mean. That’s just assumption😂

[@JohnSmith-tk7nt]

@@KDan-x1l You dont cake on a pound of makeup every day because you dont care if men notice. This woman is clearly desperate for attention from men, If shes not dating them shes doing something with them

[@trevorperkins4585]

One big aspect that got me on that second video was how she kept talking about her future daughter, and how excited she is to bring a little girl into the world. I hate to imagine what that kind of person would do to any son she might have.

[@leonnunhofer3453]

Exactly my thoughts. I bet she would abort a son

[@Mereologist]

Terrifying!

[@AL-eo6st]

She should never have children.

[@oblitusunum6979]

And how she and future generations will always be the victims

[@TheOneTheOnlyGhost]

It’s really embarrassing but I cry like a lot, thinking of how many kids are gonna have a very terrible childhood. I wanna be a dad so bad but no matter what I do is never gonna change the trauma other people are gonna make to keep the cycle going.

[@luciankristov6436]

Theres millions of traditional women out there. Never waste your time on a bitter angry victim player. Life goes on

[@philingrouille7198]

Be nice to know where these traditional women are :D

[@24framedavinci39]

Unfortunately, there are so many chameleons out there. They trap you with one dace and remove the camouflage once their hooks are in you.

[@PickleGobbler9000]

Where? I’m genuinely asking where?

[@richmann8230]

My friends and I all found awesome traditional women.... But not in north America.... Which we fled from. We're in se Asia but there's many places outside of the west.

[@moee_thyself]

💯

[@johnnyjoestar7143]

I'm 24 and have never dated or touched a guy. I'm saving myself entirely for the serious guy who marries me and wants a family.

[@m0r6oth]

Right on

[@ambrusin4889]

Where do you find good men, and how long are you prepared to wait for a good guy ?

[@lisal2556]

That seems a little extreme. A little kissing may be okay. How are you going to meet a serious guy if you are not dating and getting into relationships?

[@BadlydrawnBen]

I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you find an amazing husband and have a wonderful family 🙏

[@conniel186]

I saved myself for my husband and he saved himself for me! We met on eharmony when I was 27 and he was 25. We got married a year to the day of our first date and will celebrate our 14th anniversary in April! He's the love of my life and I can't imagine my life without him. There are good men out there you just have to be patient and look for them.

[@michelebinkley3356]

Holy Crap!! As a mother of 2 sons, these women can stay far away from my sons! The second one talking about her future daughter and all I could think of was how sorry I felt for any son she may have - she's gonna make their lives hell putting all of that on these poor boys!

[@jimreimers4213]

I've heard women like that speak online before but speaking about their sons. Their own sons whom are under the care, custody and rearing of a mom with that perverted mind set. I can't image the effects on their sons in that situation. Horrible thing to do to your own child.

[@jeanie7555]

That shocked me too, like what if you have a son...? You don't get to pick which one you get.

[@Merrowsteel]

I was literally typing out a similar comment when I saw yours. I have a son, and I just hate how some women are constantly talking down on men. I could talk for ages about it.

[@sixftturkey]

big same. thinking about how hostile society is to young men now stresses me out as a parent

[@Aaarandom]

Same. I have a son and I can’t stand this for him. Idk how or when women got like this. I keep hoping it’s just an internet thing because I don’t know any in real life…

[@killjoi3736]

Projection. They expect us to hate them because of how they talk about us.

[@killuaxkillua2384]

I gotta be honest as a woman who is so happily married and absolutely spoiled by my husband and I’m raising two wonderful sons and hopefully more, I cannot imagine trying to date now. I’ve been with my husband since I was 19 and any time I hear about people around my age or younger trying to date (men and women) I’m just amazed. It sounds terrible on all ends and I feel bad for people trying to date right now. So many women can’t find men who want to work and provide while also not treating them like crap, and my husband had a co worker whose wife called him screaming that she was sick of the kids and needed him to hurry his butt home and he told my husband it was an every day occurrence with her screaming at him. No body is winning right now.

[@lalahadams1061]

The dating field right now is hell. I'm an 18 year old and just got out of a relationship with a man (19) who has just recently given up on finding a job. I don't plan to have to support an ambitionless man when I'm still so young.

[@lilywhite]

It's actually sad how distrusting and angry these women are. I have been through a lot of damage and abuse, but I refuse to let it jade me into never trusting anyone.

[@FranzPaskov]

Good on you, trust is difficult, hard for many these days, but it really is just more to be cautious of who you give trust to. Being able to trust after such hardship, that really just makes you strong person, stronger than many really.

[@ohsweetmystery]

Some people love feeling angry and whining about it. It makes them feel good, so who cares.

[@Kevin-ts7hf]

Love this. The best of a man comes out when their woman trusts them fully. The worst of men abuse this trust, which understandably can harden hearts. There’s no reward without risk though. Pinpointing your red flags and staying disciplined is key.

[@lebowskisrug]

@@ohsweetmystery whining… going through horrific abuse and not being able to trust men is not whining or being angry for the sake of complaining. this is a disgusting comment.

[@lebowskisrug]

@@lilywhite also this is a disgusting comment as well. glad you were able to trust men, but to look down on victims who can’t overcome their trauma, is gross. it’s not “sad”. it’s reality. women need to protect themselves when 1 in 4 of us experience SA.

[@CrownedLily]

I'm an ally for men. Women suck with all this hate for them. I'm not for it.

[@mustangmikep51]

thanks for your kind words Lily...the HATE has to stop so the love in our hearts can grow...,TOGETHER

[@frankstallone3864]

That's not a thing, drop the dumb platitude.

[@salometipsandtricks2786]

OK then married said men but do live without any benefits of the femestist movement.

[@erikaa.3030]

I'm a woman and I LOVE MEN! God bless men in Jesus name, the world NEEDS YOU!

[@ghostcog]

Thanks, that is the energy and speech needed.

[@saturnguytwelvesg127]

Ditto, sister.

[@Jeremy-wp4yh]

I think this is just an online phenomenon. I've never actually met any of these people in real life.

[@sjsuismylife]

Sadly I have.

[@zaq1337]

You must live in the middle of nowhere 🤣😂 lucky you

[@KDan-x1l]

@@zaq1337I live in Maryland and Florida. I haven’t either. I actually see more women and men together

[@nexuslite]

I live in Oregon, all we have is blue haired, fat girls with basically the same message. I would be pleasantly surprised to see a maintained feminist such as some of the girls in this video.

[@lorblauh]

Depends on your city/ state/ region whatever. I knew dozens of people like this way back in '09-'12 when I lived in Boston before it was super mainstream. When I moved back to a more working/middle class area in California I only really met these people in school or in the "trendy" parts of the city. They tend to cluster but they definitely exist.

[@jaymoor8995]

19:25 It’s called Hypergamy. A large amount of Women have moved the goal posts and are evaluating men based on the exact qualities you mentioned, superficial ones. I’ve been through it myself.

[@oOblackeaglleOo]

That fringe twist really competes your hairstyle ✨🫶🏽

[@crymsonenigma]

Why aren't the women building the roads, fighting the wars, constructing cities, or the like? Show men that you know better and let us sit back and see how it's done.

[@DumbCreative]

I'll stay at home, watch the kids and clean the house. Sign me up.

[@BellaBlooms2244]

The more they say they “Men hate women,” the more it just sounds like “I’m too full of myself and don’t have good judgement.” Girls who haven’t even had a real boyfriend shouldn’t be saying anything about this 🙄

[@ReibahDarling]

I love masculine men. I love their silliness, risk taking, sense of humor, protectiveness, and um.. well, that…

[@KaiserXavier]

Biggot

[@KaiserXavier]

Lack of common sense you think like a child like a six year old child who still thinks women are better than men biggot

[@TheAmalaEkpunobi]

And um…well 💀😭

[@Provemewrongwithfacts]

As much as they may say they don't, all women do! They want a confident man who can protect them, not some dude who is in touch with his feelings.

[@jurassicthunder]

wtf is "that"

[@drualasdove]

As a woman who was asked why do you love me by a man: That woman annoys me. You fall in love with someone because of who they are. It’s literally that simple. You should not feel the need to pull apart that connection for validation. That is a lack of confidence on YOUR part not your partners.

[@nexuslite]

I'm also pretty sure that person isn't a woman. I could be wrong though.

[@coreyTBrown-xl1cd]

Right, just that simple.... but the other funny thing is. If you use the word love your a creap or you weird... 🤣 I'm telling you we can't win... 🤣. I was talking to one girl she's telling me about all the sad stuff in her life she shed a tear, and so did i... and a week later she starting throwing the fact that I cried in my face doing an argument about her not showing or being affectionate.... 🤣 I'm telling you can't win 🤣

[@drualasdove]

@ Because that’s relevant to anything Im talking about. If you’re being called weird or a creep for saying you love someone maybe look at the women YOU are choosing rather than complaining you can’t win. You attract the same energy you put out. I have no sympathy for any man or woman who whines on the internet about problems they have the ability to fix.

[@drualasdove]

@@nexuslite I recommend getting your eyes checked if you think that’s not a woman.

[@Muf315]

Yes, it could be lack of confidence. But also worse... This woman can be just sociopath, who wants to making others insecure and herself dominant, or is so narcissistic that she only wants to hear superlatives about herself.

[@aryapoll2177]

Amala totally unrelted comment but wanted to give you the compliment as woman to woman. You have such pretty hands and such a nice way tonincorporate their movement into your speech...just love watching while listening ❤

[@Resident_Legal]

Men don’t hate you, YOU REJECT US :)

[@jackdlantern9676]

the problem is they asked everything,but gave nothing back

[@gayloverboy9517]

I agree

[@gayloverboy9517]

​@@jackdlantern9676 i agree

[@sgtbigballs666]

It's called apathy 🤔

[@FranzPaskov]

@@jackdlantern9676 I mean to be honest, a women that likes you (really like you) will tolerate a man never paying for anything & providing the bare minimum. This isn't me saying it 'should be that way' or that 'men should want this or do this', but it is in reality that way. I know cause I was in a relationship like that & have heard others with similar experiences. Again, not saying it should be that way, I am just stating women are like that.

[@anthony4426able]

I’m a 43 year old man and the fact is most people just want peace and security. It’s unfortunate how we have failed this younger generation both young men and woman. If the tribalism doesn’t stop and general resentment in our culture doesn’t change we are going to fail as a society sooner than later.

[@bisongatem-tambe5676]

There has always been what you described as 'tribalism' between men and women. It was only hidden. Today, it is out in the open. The vast majority of women find most men physically unattractive. Proof is that the human genetics pool shows that women consistently bred with a smaller number of men than were present. Until the enforcement of monogamy during the agricultural revolution, 'alpha' men were consistently getting all the chicks. The successes of monogamous/agricultural societies led to an adoption of this practice all over most of the world, but didn't change the fact that in a state of nature, women usually prefer to mate with the 'alpha.' The re-emergence of large numbers of females mating ONLY with the alpha is proof of the breakdown or regression of society.

[@artzmove571]

Yes! we need forgiveness on both sides!

[@KeysToTheCastleMusic]

It's already happening and it seems is too far gone already on a downward trend. The fertility rate in 1960 in the US was 3.5 per woman. In 2024, it's almost 1.8. It's dropping by like 2% every year since 2014. When you look at the graph it's been a downward trend since 1800 (7 per woman) and has an upwards spike around 1940-1960. It's steadily on the way down again and always has been. It's obviously a lot of factors like the economy, toxic chemicals and foods, etc., but I think the way people think about dating and relationships in the social media age is a big contributor to it today.

[@artzmove571]

@@KeysToTheCastleMusic Yes, one example of how we have failed the younger generation/s.

[@gemelwalters2942]

They've failed themselves to be honest. This generation enjoys the most freedom and wealth than any other. It's what they're choosing to do with it that's the problem

[@hiwagusu]

I find it quite fascinating to see these young women on TikTok acting like they figured out everything about life, sociology and so on... So much confidence ! I mean, there are pretty brillant, intelligent and particularly observant people out there in the world that can come to very great conclusions at an early age. But it's rare, and what I'm currently seeing is young women being in an echo chamber and not knowing much about actual facts ? Looking forward to see what their view will be in the next 10-15 years

[@simileee]

Tiktok and weed. They believe in star signs too.

[@ZukMyZik]

No wonder they will manifest reality lol 😂 and Prince Charming.

[@odindarkll3706]

It's 2035. Divorce rates are 90% likely to occur, Sa'quesha has ten kids from nine different fathers who are not present, and the blame lies at men's feet... Because why not?

[@simileee]

@@odindarkll3706 because society infantilises women.

[@HigumaHoney]

meh, it's just for clout

[@Jesse_Ziman]

I have 6 sisters and I love all of them, needless to say I love women, but it's getting harder and harder to find good women, I'm 6 ft, not ugly, hard working, but I'm a series believer and I feel as if that becoming more and more of a barrier (not that I'll ever stop being a believer) but I still have hope, because the are women like some of my sister's out there.

[@_un_conventional_dead_lifter]

We don’t hate women; we just treat them how they treat us

[@Nsp0824]

Every time I always go back to the “bear or man” scenario. Women in mass (the majority for sure) picked bear. So if you naturally see me as inherently evil why on earth would I want to pursue you??? My own relatives told me they’d rather be eaten by a bear than a man who could r*pe them. So I’m naturally seen as a r*pist. Simply because I’m male. The issue has not been on the men it has been on the women for awhile, the men just gave up or are going out of country to find companionship.

[@nfdslkfladhf]

This means you hate them. Otherwise you'd treat badly only those who hurt you, not all of them.

[@shaneofthehillpeople]

Who hates who? It's weird watching women complaining that men hate women, when they refuse to date men. Seems like a there's a bunch of MGTOW men out there, and maybe that's new. But in general, we mostly just want to find women to settle down with and raise families with.

[@Nsp0824]

@@shaneofthehillpeople I mean look at the numbers for young men, a large portion aren’t even trying to date.

[@Wilma529]

This has been my experience mostly. We lost the golden rule somewhere along the way!

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

I want a godly man, with similar interests. It’s rather hard in today’s world. But that’s to be expected. Doesn’t help many say they “believe” in God but won’t fallow his word bc it gets in the way of their life styles.

[@CARTOONIVERSE1]

Most people who claim to believe actually don't. Our daily actions PROVE what we really believe.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@ AMEN TO THAT. Thank God for his grace & fruits of the spirit.

[@ElsieMay22]

Amen to that!

[@HigumaHoney]

gurrrrl your videos are hilarious. subbed. XD

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@ Oh… 😅 Thanks. Glad you enjoy them!

[@OneOfThem]

Speaking as a man, the only three things I require from a partner are: 1) similar values(beliefs). 2) Reasonable intelligence. 3)Loyalty. Beyond that, she can be whatever she wants and do whatever she wants. and I will always be there to provide for, protect, and love her. To be honest, I don't really need a woman to provide a large house, fancy car, or stacked bank account for me. I don't need her to be extremely submissive or deferential to me. If she is loyal, she won't be likely to cheat, if she is intelligent, she won't be likely to fall for deceptions or lies, and if she shares my beliefs, we can weather any hardships and disagreements. I also expect that a woman who meets these three criteria will have her own criteria for me to measure up to, and I always strive to better myself to exceed expectations from my loved ones.

[@tomekathomas2487]

You sound amazing - share your profile😊

[@EtoCobra]

How do measure loyalty before facing the first hardship? Isn't that a gamble?

[@OneOfThem]

​@tomekathomas2487 Thanks for the compliment! I don't do dating apps or social media though. As a man who makes less than 6 figures and is under 5'9" I don't get matches or attention there.

[@OneOfThem]

​@@EtoCobraThat's a fair point. Life is a gamble to a certain extent, and there's no way to live completely risk-free. I find that most un-loyal people are easy to spot when things get tough, so I always make it a point to take relationships slow. No jumping into bed or moving in together early in the relationship. I want to be a good friend to my partner, and vice versa. Un-loyal people will be quiet or absent when things are uncomfortable or difficult, then loudly proclaim their love or loyalty when things get better. Hope that helps.

[@M.Swigglez]

@@OneOfThemu don’t need dating apps. dating apps are a failure.

[@obiflex]

Women treat men as an appliance and an atm machine. They show zero appreciation towards men. Men are only beginning to push back now and I love it

[@radiahmpa1087]

THAT'S MY EXACT SAME THOUGHT YOOOOO

[@azuropixie5703]

You are on 9gag too much

[@tiasmith3499]

Hey not all of us are like this, those are usually the OF models who will take and take without having anything to give back then complain that they aren't happy with men, I just want somebody to be myself around and settle down with 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@FishOuttaWater26]

@@tiasmith3499I agree. This was a very generalizing comment. I know Im not that way with my husband.

[@tiasmith3499]

@@FishOuttaWater26 I'm really happy for you that you found someone to settle down with and marry, I hope the same for me one day 😊

[@Carey86]

They all look 10 years older than they really are. Every sentence sounds like a question & they say ‘like’ every 3rd word. 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

[@zaq1337]

💉😷🎭

[@CUCABURRAAustralia]

Great point. I wonder what grades those girls had in school.All A?

[@Carey86]

@@CUCABURRAAustralia 👄🍆💦??

[@SrbendaNo1]

Brain rot

[@raaspider]

back in the 90s that's how the stereotyped Californian blondes spoke, with the like word!

[@harryscarry6064]

I’m a dude who likes women but they don’t like me.

[@CARTOONIVERSE1]

Let me guess, you're a strieght shooter & your honesty pisses them off.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

i relate. I liked men but they didn't like me. I don't try anymore which is more peaceful

[@zaq1337]

Wear a ring you’ll get chased 🤣😂

[@harryscarry6064]

@ ha. It is far more peaceful but I get lonely sometimes. Not so lonely that I want to get back in the ring. Much love from Australia

[@FranzPaskov]

@@zaq1337 You are right unfortunately, used to happen to me quite a bit, or be out with your woman & others would flirt towards you.

[@jule2014]

These people just need to be told "GET OVER IT"!

[@rufusvardag8190]

Think they have far to much spare time just to think off themselves and no real interests, no hobbys, just do their hair and makeup and whine.

[@Gulogulo7387]

Pretty much I cheated on once that doesn't necessarily mean all women are cheating hoaz. I am getting over it working on myself and learned from the failure of dealing with her so now I know what red flags look for.

[@Frau.Kanzlerin]

Poor argument

[@EtoCobra]

​@@Frau.Kanzlerin Women dismiss men's opinions all the time.

[@IndianaBones]

That's a Good thing. Now the men can see who is shallow and who is not. Keep recording yourself so we can know who to stay away from This i hate men thing help men more then hurts TBH.

[@Adrian-be8tp]

End of the day, men we just want to be loved like we love. Nothing complicated

[@beebs_magoo]

Men and women do not love the same! Men and women are DIFFERENT! When men and women complement each other (masculine and feminine), it's beautiful. When feminists destroy this balance, only sadness ensues.

[@QuanPookie]

You must be over a certain height and attractiveness to be worthy of love.

[@mustangmikep51]

100% v correct...good luck finding that love dynamic

[@bodhisattva2348]

by whom?

[@chrisorlando8241]

A couple things here: 1 - Some men are just intolerable (same with women, especially the 2nd one) but you can't generalize all men (and women) based on that subset 2 - Women these days seem to rate themselves way to high. If you use the 1-10 scale, most women are going to rate themselves a 9 or 10 which would make them the most beautiful person in the world. What ends up happening is that when they look for a prospective man, they are only going to look for someone who is at the level they see themselves at which cuts out probably 70% - 80% of available people. Those top 20%/30% of people who they deem is at a level they seem themselves at are the ones with a lot of the traits that they don't like. End of the day, there are plenty of good men out there, you just need to stop having ridiculously high standards which only 20%/30% of the dating pool can match up to.

[@DumbCreative]

2 way street. Men are just as guilty of this. I know because I am one of the men with unrealistic standards that I now regret. I passed on some ladies that looking back weren't so bad at all. I'm going to cope and say it was the body positivity movement. 😂

[@xxennexx]

as a woman, i don’t see men hating women. they’ve just been broken down by the women who don’t actually respect them. same with men, women don’t hate men, they’ve just been broken down by the men who don’t respect them. men and women have become more attracted to people who don’t actually respect them based on the “i can fix them” “ill be the one” mentality. then women find “the ick” when they find someone who actually loves and respects them, furthering the issue. so buck up, find someone who actually loves, respects and cares about you without picking them apart and progressing the problem. otherwise, good luck being alone.

[@ZukMyZik]

Bingo, on you on the money right there. Very true.

[@KeysToTheCastleMusic]

It's a reinforcing cycle. Very hard to break. Probably never will. The nice guys will also try to OR DO turn into the toxic guys that women seem to like too or else they never will get women. It's all a cycle. The nice guys who don't change get the worst of it. There are also women in the same spot, but I think it's much less than men though because more men are desperate and even women on the fringe have more options lol

[@artechracy]

it's a symptom of narcissism

[@User37717]

Bingo 1 word

[@digitalartist371]

@@artechracy women claim men are the majority narcissists, with studies to back it up! We all know woman are the narcissists, and woman who manipulates the numbers. Only a narcissist would use studies to gaslight their victim. It's all coming out now

[@robertlast3052]

Men dont like airheaded gold diggers. Just because you think youre good looking doesn't mean you're not ugly.

[@odindarkll3706]

Damn straight. These girlies think throwing on makeup is magically going to make me go after them. This isn't a fairytale!

[@odindarkll3706]

Beautiful on the outside, disturbing on the inside.

[@mustangmikep51]

@@odindarkll3706 I prefer the opposite if I had to choose....

[@idfkidc]

Two words: superficiality and reciprocation. They look for men for superficial reasons but want to be liked back for intrinsic value. The superficial guy is going to be as superficial as you were picking him. Lack of reciprocation of caring and giving. Saying what you bring to the table is your job and and education is not what men want. Why? Because one its superficial. Two their money is their money. They will just have higher standards for you. Even if split 50/50 now you have to match a higher level buying superficial stuff we dont want. 85 percent of consumer spending is decided by women. Ir if you make less they shame you. Why would a guy want that?

[@Itsjrob_]

They need to Ask the bear

[@PixieDustAndFire]

Are we still on this

[@Itsjrob_]

@ yes

[@CURTIS-W5CER]

100% ask that bear.

[@zaq1337]

Grizzle grizzle 🐻

[@MarcelSimpson-t1n]

💦💦💦💦🥹

[@leeroy8936]

Most of the women who have never had a boyfriend put out on the first date and never got a second

[@gayloverboy9517]

I agree

[@danh2716]

Truth here. Guys don't "hate" girls in general. But we do know how to rank them very quickly, and will treat them differently according to their rank.

[@Luna-qs9cd]

i‘ve seen a meme recently that said something along the lines of 'i have reverse daddy issues because my dad is so great, i thaught all men were like that' and i felt that in my core.

[@Christophert824]

I wish I could say that about my Dad. But, I'm glad you had a positive male role model, please don't demonize all of us like so many do. ❤

[@Luna-qs9cd]

@ i’m very sorry to hear that. i‘ve met a couple of rotten apples and had some rude awakenings but most men i know or who are in my life like family, friends, collegues etc. are good people as far as i can tell and i wouldn‘t want to miss them to be honest.

[@booktales1687]

I’ve never related so much 😭

[@No-sv6mu]

Many of the things I love most about my husband directly benefit me and our family. He is our provider financially. He protects us. With every stage of life it changes. When we were teens I loved how smart and good looking he was. When we were in our mid 20's and new parents I loved watching him embrace fatherhood, besides my earlier loves of him. We are now in our early 40's and I love how predictable he is. I love that he is a damn good father and makes raising teen girls look easy. I love that he is making changes in his life to take his health seriouslt because he wants to be around for his family. I love that we are still physically attracted to eachother after 23 years together/ almost 16 years married. To me love is ever evolving. I want to be my best self because I want my husband to have the best life. And he does that for me.

[@Red-zh7vq]

Each woman was more insufferable than the last

[@drawanna3135]

Hahaha

[@matt4799]

This man genuinely hates women who end every sentence with a question mark.

[@PickleGobbler9000]

Yup???????

[@Cutie-buddy]

Oh darlings let me say this in a language you all understand it's not that men hate you men just don't care anymore (except simps)

[@MrRushepoo]

well said! very well said!

[@Gothmatix]

I have the most lovely wife and I would not have ever dared to be this happy. She found me lost and alone and cared enough to reach out. I don't know if there is a one size fits all solution but "hating the opposite sex" be it male or female is not going to fix the problem. I dote on my wife because she has a beautiful heart and I love to make her smile. Some call that patriarchy and I spit in their face. It is how to make a society whole and not selfish.

[@jurassicthunder]

​@@Gothmatixbro you got a good one and you're in your bubble because of it. we don't have enough of her nor are they making new ones. so please stop telling us what we already know.

[@Cutie-buddy]

@@Gothmatix good for you buddy you are one lucky man we are not, I'm pro life myself if you are in a relationship you both have to put your all into it but yet again men are not the ones with main character syndrome (all I'm saying is you can only get rejected so many times at some point it's not worth it to play their games)

[@Cutie-buddy]

@@jurassicthunder you could have worded that out a little nicer every voice matters and he was just trying to help 😘 i get it we are all tired but don't take it out on other ppl (and yes i agree with your statement)