Do NOT practise despair!

www.iainabernethy.co.uk/ In this video I discuss the importance of mindset, a bad habit that can easily sneak into training, and a phrase I have found to be effective in highlighting this bad habit.
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Iain
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[@georgeanagnos384]

Good point about losing and then moving on right away, maintaining the mindset of progress and improvement. Keeping in mind that even if I “lose” more than I “win” in the dojo, I’m still a better version of practitioner than my untrained self!

[@kbanghart]

So true. During a recent sparring session, our Sensei reminded us that he saw a lot of trying to win, rather than the more correct mindset of trying to improve on a move that you may be weak on.

[@cad3nce]

I am quite new to karate and have definitely noticed these "moments of despair" when training in the dojo. It's very true what you say about a mindset changing in an instant. Really good video to help correct this, thank you!

[@YoukaiSlayer12]

Agreed. How you engage with your mind can make or break your training. It really gets to the roots of “Mentality over technique” & “The heart must be set free” from the Niju-Kun.

[@juhaandersson6975]

Words of wisdom, applies in most situations in life and in general.

[@abdullahyusof4739]

"You must never give in to despair. Allow yourself to slip down that road and you surrender to your lowest instincts. In the darkest times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength." ~Uncle Iroh

[@Orcishihi]

I’m a 2nd kyu in Kyokushinkai karate. As a 46 year young practitioner I can’t get enough of it. I like pushing my body and mind to limits. However, I tend to dwell sometimes on the fact that I started quite late in my life and at the same time I’m aware of the negative feelings this mindset creates. Also I’m quite tough on myself when I’m having trouble recreating something our teacher explained just before. Your message here, as logical as it may seem, is indeed very true. It’s kind of strange we are always this hard on ourselves most of the times. Best regards

[@PhilipAJones]

Thanks... I needed this.

[@xerodefects]

Thank you for this lesson. I really needed to hear that right now. I've been practicing despair in life. I haven't lost my path I'm just not progressing. Fear, self doubt and my poor attitude aren't helping. This video however was exactly what I needed to hear right now. You're an amazing coach and I hope to train with you in person one day.

[@practicalkatabunkai]

I’m delighted it helped! Thanks for letting me now.

[@abdillahazhar1833]

Great video! I wish I were in your area and train in your dojo. Anyway, this reminds me of a quote by Will Durant (people misattributed it to Aristotle, but it's neither here nor there). “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” So, if you practice despair, you'll become excellent in being despaired.

[@janbyskou8129]

You shouldn't get despondent about something that's part of the game. Is it part of the game to fail in a training session - yes it is. Just get back on it - quick mental recovery.

[@kbanghart]

Yes and those who learn to lose and try again are much better off than those who attempt it, and then quit after they fail.

[@DanielMendesOrtolani]

Great analysis of Do and Jitsu!

[@dermotrooney9584]

Lovely stuff. 🌟 Psychology is only just getting its head around how traits and types ("I'm that kind of person") are underpinned by habit. Defence research on morale/will/effectiveness is belatedly coming round too. So you're ahead of the curve Iain. 🖖

[@MarshOakDojoTimPruitt]

thanks Iain !!!

[@vonclap]

Good Ian

[@teeemartinez]

Yes !

[@lunaarran6965]

Hey Ian, thank you very much for this important insight! I was wondering, how you manage this „keeping people a little outside their comfort zone“ might work with kids. I train a group of beginners and always look for new, encouraging ways of improving as a practitioner and trainer. Do you have any suggestions/further links where to get inspiration from? Thanks for your videos and all the work you put into educating people here and in your seminars.

[@stephenblack1144]

Hi Iain, This rings such a bell with me. For a while now I have been so disillusioned with the way we are taught (old school) in the association I belong to, that it has led me to ask the question "What am I doing this for, what's the point?" It's all the same old stuff being rolled out that we know doesn't work, with no principle based training that leads to Black belts stagnating in their (and I include myself in this) training! The trouble is there are no other groups in my area that teach the way you do. I have thought about trying to proceed myself with training other along this line but no one seems interested. Any suggestions would be very welcomed please?

[@practicalkatabunkai]

Hi Steven, Please drop me an email ([e-mail]) and let me know where you are based? I may know of people, clubs, study groups within a reasonable distance. I get LOADS of emails, so it may take me a week or so to get back toy you, but I will reply. All the best, Iain

[@stephenblack1144]

@@practicalkatabunkai Thanks Iain will do

[@stephenblack1144]

Done

[@grfrank7223]

That's a really good and sensible thought that I will definitely remind myself of more often in training. Another behavior that often occurs in our training is that we are happy when our training partner lands a good hit. Of course, this would not be helpful for self-defense. What is your opinion on this? The mindset remains positive...

[@restoringheroesproject]

Amen

[@samarthhegde8364]

Master make vedio on How to overcome Fear During real street fight🙏🙏

[@ascaniosobrero]

Great. This applies to anything you do. However, it is "jutsu", not "jitsu"

[@Orcishihi]

Great. However you should always end your sentences with a dot.

[@dermotrooney9584]

@@Orcishihi Its not a dot. (See what I did there?)

[@practicalkatabunkai]

I write it as “Jutsu”. I say it as “Jitsu”. That’s because I am Cumbrian not Japanese. I also say “Kara-tea” and not “Kara-tay” for the same reason. If I am ever born to Japanese parents and raised in Japan, then things may change. For now, I speak as a Cumbrian and am happy to do so :-)

[@Orcishihi]

@@dermotrooney9584 sorry, I dot not see. :)

[@ascaniosobrero]

@@practicalkatabunkai 🤣🤣🤣