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[@AlwaysAloneNeverLonely]

Thank you for your videos, internet friend! I spent my week hiding from IT computer issues, hiking in the woods, and visiting with my horse…how was I only diagnosed at 37 🤷‍♀️ lol

[@isabellammusic]

I'm 37 too and I recently found out I'm Autistic.

[@madberry]

@@isabellammusiccongratulations on the diagnosis.

[@Jenna.g.85]

I turned 38 in December of last year and got diagnosed April of last year at 37

[@WoodshedTheory]

that is so cool that you have a horse!

[@terrigoulding559]

Please never doubt that what you do matters. You are so brave, strong and an inspiration to many. Thank you for all that you do. You are making a difference to the lives of so many people.💞💕

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for your support

[@gothboschincarnate3931]

equal total disaster? yes...... now i'll watch the video....

[@WoodshedTheory]

haha you got me to laugh

[@kuibeiguahua]

The difference between a disaster and an adventure is your attitude! :D

[@WoodshedTheory]

sometimes!

[@peteracton2246]

I identify with the difficult commute. Often feels like a rollercoaster ride. I have never driven. Well I did drive a tractor on private land years ago. I wouldn't be able to drive at night as lights are too much for me. I get strange effects including visual trailing. In these situations my autism could be called a disability. I can't watch those programmes, way too painful. Thanks Claire, you are brave.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for sharing peter - being a passenger can be stressful

[@NeurodiverJENNt]

What you're doing totally matters. We ❤ you. Thank you for being a friend.

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

Hear, Hear!!💝💫💖✨

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks friend

[@inspectre27]

I have a Traffic Trigger, too, as part of my agoraphobia. And the best part is that there's no one available to drive me but me.

[@WoodshedTheory]

sorry to hear it i know how tough it could be

[@whitneymason406]

I'm a bit burnt out I think. I've been sick, but can't stop because I'm a mom. Then last week, I finally heard from the 4th special education school for my son, and they are at capacity, too. I'm frustrated because we moved from MT to PA in the summer of 2021 for better services and education for our son and I'm still fighting and waiting. We need more places for kids like mine. I'm all for inclusion, but when he's harming himself and others while in a public school, it's not the right fit. They also aren't trained on AAC, which is how he's learning to communicate. I'm going to try to take it easy today. I need to rest but I feel like there is so much I should be working on. Hope you have a peaceful week, Claire and friends! 💞

[@madberry]

Hey friend, it’s one of the things I always answer first when asked “what do we need to improve when it comes to education” more places that do individual plans for kids like us. I’ve noticed that when in burnout I tend to get sick faster. I haven’t read the research but I would guess there is a link between burnout and overall health. Hopefully your week will become better.

[@whitneymason406]

@madberry thank you, friend 💞

[@WoodshedTheory]

oh whitney i wish there was something more we could do to help you!

[@whitneymason406]

@@WoodshedTheory I appreciate you all just hearing me out 💞

[@lisabmpls]

@whitneymason406 that sounds so stressful! Wish we could fix it for you!!!

[@Jenna.g.85]

I’m struggling with inertia and productivity even more than normal. Can’t seem to get myself to do much of anything lately even just going down to get the mail. Have a good week Claire

[@WoodshedTheory]

sorry to hear you are struggling, i get it - hope things improve soon - make sure to get some rest

[@izzyhendrix2651]

Ah, I always so relate to you... I have a very hard time as a passenger in the car especially driving into busy areas. I inherited my grandparents car and I have vivid memories of my papa driving and my nana in the passenger seat freaking out the whole time... now when my partner drives (he is a much more courageous driver than me) now, I am the one in the passenger seat freaking out and it makes me chuckle a bit... my nana was def undiagnosed autistic. Love you for being you, thanks for these videos

[@WoodshedTheory]

ahh i can see what you mean - i noticed that some of the newer cars dont have a handle to hold onto anymore on the passenger side and i HATE it

[@montikarla]

My week was so unproductive and procrastination is kicking my butt. I now have a huge amount of work to get done this week and I really don't want to face it. Get your videos out when you can. We are here for them whenever they show up!

[@WoodshedTheory]

be kind to yourself my friend

[@nathanh6439]

Been a rough week for me and my kiddos. I have been picking up extra hours at work and the nasty weather interrupting school schedules has us totally dysregulated. We will get through, one day at a time. Also, I am sure I don't have to tell you this, but I feel compelled to anyway. Research the organization that want's to use you in their materials. Even if it qualifies as a "not for profit organization", they may not be reputable and it might not be in your best interest to tie yourself to them.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I totally agree with you on researching any group that wants to use my words

[@T.T.M.60]

I just love your hoodie! It looks like “ a warm hug”😄. Congrats on the Autistic Organization wanting to use your quotes and resources, that’s great!🎉🎉🎉. I actually had 3 days in a row of social activities. I was concerned that I overbooked myself BUT it all went really well. I really enjoyed myself. It doesn’t always turn out that way so I was very pleased. I am suffering this morning from tendinitis in my left foot so I won’t be doing much this week. Hope everyone has a great week and please be gracious to yourselves.

[@WoodshedTheory]

three days in a row!?! make sure to take some quiet time to yourself - i am so glad it went well for you

[@T.T.M.60]

@@WoodshedTheory yes!, I did get some restful time yesterday and today and thanks, I’m pleased it went well too.

[@anxiousbulbasaur8275]

Feeling grateful for porch coffee today. Things have been rough emotionally and I finally decided last week that I should try therapy. I contacted a place on Thursday, and I’m still waiting to hear back from them, but fingers crossed that I do soon. It feels like a scary process right now, but I’m hoping that it will be a step in the right direction. Hope you have a good week ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

I am so proud of you - reaching out to schedule appointments, esp. therapy, is really hard!

[@anxiousbulbasaur8275]

@@WoodshedTheory thank you so much ❤

[@keyc.1109]

Good Morning! My Mondays are always better since I was introduced to you guys.

[@WoodshedTheory]

nice to have you

[@richwatson28]

While on the subject of driving and being around people with noise and smells, this weekend I did something I’ve been looking forward to doing for years, I went to a classic car auction! Then I realised that I’ve since been diagnosed and found being on my feet all day seriously affected my low pain threshold, the crowd of fellow petrolheads (gearheads in the US) that arrived filled the halls with noise and coupled with the cold here in the uk 🇬🇧 … then when I realised I was too shy to put my bidding card up and buy something I knew it was time to go home. I did well to last a few hours but it was just not a great environment for an autistic person. I’m making an effort to get out of the house more but when I do it’s just never comfortable. Maybe I should just bid online next time 🚗 😂

[@WoodshedTheory]

i am proud of you for looking inward and seeing how you were feeling and responding to what you needed - that is really awesome

[@AmandaSeacrist]

This past week was a pain in a butt. I got behind on my schooling, had a last moment "surprise!" on mandatory inspections where I live so I had to clean. On a positive note, I am looking forward to my upcoming birthday in a couple of weeks. You are doing great, Claire! Much 💝

[@WoodshedTheory]

that does sound stressful - happy pre birthday!

[@ArtByStranger]

This week I did some visiting and traveling that was really tough for me usually. The visiting went well but I feel I should just emphasise how REAL that passenger/driving situation is. I've gotten stuck in traffic on the interstate and had a meltdown mid-jam. My partner had to take an uber to where I was and drive us both home, it was an expensive disaster and even though now I know how to keep my mind from going that deep into fear nowadays, I've been kind to myself and let other people drive me back and forth to where I need to go if it's outside of the city where I live... but then I do that same thing where I close my eyes if it's too much, especially when parallel parking for whatever reason!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm so sorry you've had such issues with driving - it is really hard

[@KayleenGnwmythr]

I'm the only person in my family who lives in a city (the rest are on farms, or in small towns or just outside of big cities - and I used to live on a small boat), but I'm in the suburbs - and retired, so I no longer have to cope with inner city driving. I hated driving for the first ten years when I first learned, but I can now tolerate driving and driving in the city, but still don't like it (and I shop early in the morning to avoid crowds). I wound up here because my partner was here, and it is just as well I can drive as one of her close family members is in hospital, and I'm doing a bit of driving there and back - which has been most of our week. I'm looking forward to the next podcast 🙂

[@WoodshedTheory]

yes i would say i can tolerate it but it's hard

[@madberry]

I dislike driving in cities as well. Even the highway stuff people just cut you off to get off of the highway over here. Of course if you go to a city you have tons of bicycles to deal with, those guys truly haven’t heard of traffic rules. They don’t pay road tax but they act like they own the road. Amsterdam is the worst in my opinion over here. I’ll be the first to admit I had trouble following my own list. That’s the struggle with hyper fixation. My hands just want to create my head knows we need to get stuff online to sell to keep creating. My hands won’t this week. Some stuff I was able to do of my list like sending off a package. But the rest of the list is just a wash. And I’ll have to live with it. This week I might decide to do two trips. I need to visit a leather discounter to look at there by the foot leather. And I might go to Germany, to a town just over the border to visit an old fashioned tobacco shop. I’m thinking of keeping my promise to everyone, they’ve all heard me say when I’m old I’ll start smoking cigars, I think it might become a pipe. We’ll see maybe I won’t like it and quit it again right away. That’s my three have a good week Claire and friends. PS not a total disaster most of the time but definitely some of the time.

[@peteracton2246]

A term some people use is "organised chaos". I have that, without the organised!

[@madberry]

@@peteracton2246It really depends on the energy level for me as well. I just can’t be bothered following a list when I don’t have the energy. Sometimes lists work most of the time they fail.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i find that going to do things that are related to my special interest take less energy for me

[@ashleyien1222]

This week... other than my usually work days... I mostly worked on tracing out patterns for doll clothes for my niece's baby doll (hopefully they will fit without too much trouble since no patterns exist for that specific doll). My back has been sore from standing and leaning over tracing. I also decided yesterday that I would do a storage bin/bed for the doll, so I had to go back out to the dollar store, Walmart, and Michael's to get supplies & fabric for that. I got a dragons & castle fat quarter last Monday from Walmart and wanted more of it and something to coordinate with it. The print is too big for doll clothes, but it'd work for a bed (and her bedroom is dragon/unicorn/castle themed so it'd go with her room). I needed some quilting batting too...which I got at Michael's with a 30% off coupon since Walmart only had King Size for like $40 and I don't need that much! It's probably a better deal for the amount, but I'd rather get a smaller bag for $10 and spend less money since I spent so much already for this. 😅 On Sunday, I got woken up at 8 am by a text from a friend asking me how many double chocolate banana breads I wanted. Their freezer broke and they had to use all the frozen banana that had been in it (which apparently was a lot), so I had banana bread delivered Sunday afternoon and saw my friend for 2 minutes outside. One thing I'm worrying about is on Saturday my sister decided she was lonely and invited me and some of our friends to meet her for brunch next Saturday in the west end of Montreal. (She lives north of Montreal, so does one friend, but two friends without cars live within walking distance or can take 1 bus to get there)... I live in a different province, over an hour away. I said I'll have to see how the weather is and I'll confirm later in the week. I had been planning to sew, so that cuts into my sewing plans... but I haven't seen these friends since last summer. But it's driving down the highway over an hour into the city... and I hate driving... noisy restaurant for brunch... then more driving home. My sister and mom said I should go to my parents' place Friday afternoon and travel from there, since they're about halfway in between (about 30 minutes from me... 40 from the restaurant)... BUT that means I'm not home for 2 days, see my parents but have to deal with their loud TV and hard as a rock spare bed. AND I have D&D Friday night until about midnight, which is online, but I'm used to doing at home... and would feel rude hiding all night in the spare room at my parents' place, while sitting uncomfortably on the hard bed. I'm think that it might be better just to drive the 1 hour+ and go home after... It's more driving at once, but less disruption to my life. Then I'll probably crash and need a nap when I get home Saturday afternoon/evening. 😅 I feel like I SHOULD go, but having a lot of anxiety about it.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thank you for sharing what is going on - sorry to hear you are having social anxiety - i get it! one tip for fabric for the doll clothes would be either using old clothing from the thrift store or buying from the remnant section of the fabric store

[@ashleyien1222]

Thanks. For this project I was kind of stuck on one fabric for the main fabric. My local fabric store doesn't really have remnants. 😅 They just have something that's like $1/lbs, but it's all cut off stuff from the quilting club or sewing classes, so mostly tiny scraps. I don't think I was in the mood to go to the thrift store...that place can be more insane than Walmart at times. I didn't have much luck when I went there a few weeks ago. They don't have actual fabric, the closest was sheets and none were good. I only kind of glanced at the clothes... just so crowded in there that I feel almost claustrophobic and can't stay long. I'll have to try there another time.... the way I feel today, I just couldn't deal (and I think PMS is at play too..)😅

[@9crutnacker985]

That driving thing is sounding very like a trauma thing to me - not that ASD won't be in there too. Keep doing what you're doing as it 's good for you & those you interact with. I've had a 'cold' for the last 10 days. It's on it's way out now. Still working on Dalek Dave. Nothing to report on the health front atm. Don't why. I'll be asking for another scan soon as I want to know if the worming powders is doing it's stuff.

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

I have a tough time as a passenger too. For me, it’s definitely my autistic sensory issues. There’s already so much to process in the movement, vibrations, sound changes. But I also hear and feel when vehicles pass closer or faster, and it’s like a sensory alarm going off that I have to keep from triggering me into anxiety 😬 I hope your cold gets better soon!

[@WoodshedTheory]

hmm i'm not sure about trauma - i have always struggled even as a young child to be a passenger - i hope your next scan goes well my friend!

[@marisa5359]

Oh, man, relate to the anxiety of driving in the city. Have it in any situation in a car, hence no driving for me, but it ramps up majorly when we leave our quiet rural area and enter busy traffic. Ick. That reminds me...this week is all about getting ready for a trip to the big city Friday. Dyslexia testing finally happening for my youngest son. Lots of mental prep. Enjoying your review videos, but glad you are looking to balance and keep expectations less stressful. So good to do that! Best wishes on your week! Oh, and congrats on being added as a resource! That is so great! ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

Wow give yourself grace this week it seems like a busy week

[@marisa5359]

@@WoodshedTheory Thanks. Will do. 🙂

[@robbiegibson4112]

Goodmorning..I am drinkng my coffee to. I do need a new cup. True. I have no friends. I have ADHD and I suspect autism. I am going to listen now. I have never subscribed to any page but, I will try to get around to it and subscribe.

[@peteracton2246]

informative and helpful material herein. Claire is cool

[@madberry]

If there is a channel to subscribe to this one is it. You’ll gain a bunch of online friends, that is if you want them of course.

[@WoodshedTheory]

no pressure robbie - happy to have you here!

[@neurodivergenthomestead]

I'm excited to see your podcast. Your cadence is a lot easier for me to keep up with compared to a lot of podcasters. I have a weird relationship with driving. I love driving, but hate driving in unfamiliar areas and construction zones. I tend to be a slower driver because I'm "autistically adherent" to traffic laws (I use my turn signals in parking lots. 😅) and usually don't think it's worth the mental energy to try to keep up with traffic. And when riding with other people, my comfort level is directly proportional to the drivers ability to be similarly adherent to traffic laws. So it's usually a train wreck. 🤷

[@WoodshedTheory]

ahahah my cadence = robot cadence? lol

[@neurodivergenthomestead]

@@WoodshedTheory yes, our ram fills up at about the same time then we have to pause to buffer. lol

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

Hi Claire! It’s my second time today joining you for today’s porch coffee. I had a phone glitch, but it’s so calming to be here, and reassuring scrolling this community. I’m anxious this week. One of my cats is sick, and they’re getting great care, but the worry is one of the hardest things for me to balance- I’ve been a caregiver and “fixer” most of my life. I had a verbal shutdown last night because of it. But you’ve created a space here where that feels safe. Safe to admit, to accept, to move on from. I’m grateful for this- it feels good to have a place to calmly say, I’m not where I’d like to be right now, but that’s okay, I’m doing my best. Btw, I find my sensory issues in a car are worse when I’m a passenger. There’s so much sound, pressure, and vibration changes, and I know when a car passes too close or too fast even with my eyes closed- my body feels it. I have to focus on staying calm so it doesn’t set off my internal alarms. Stay well! I hope you have a wonderful week!🌻 Thanks for making this space!💝✨

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

Btw, I LOVE 🎵✨Neverending Storrry!!🎵💫💖

[@WoodshedTheory]

i am glad i am not alone with the car stuff - i am sorry to hear about your cat i hope they are on the mend soon

[@natyork]

hey friends :) Claire, I think you're killin it this morning...and you're rocking a Bridgitte Bardot if she were in a cozy hoody vibe to boot. I hear you on the driving. I'm such an annoying backseat driver. I much prefer to feel in control by doing the driving. Although, either way I usually feel cooked afterward. But I mean, I feel cooked after basically everything so it's just something I'm slowly coming to terms with I suppose. Yes to the earplugs/headphones. I keep my loops on my keychain so I remember to bring them everywhere!

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks Nat! i also prefer to be in control with the driving but then also it takes up a lot of energy for me - and when i am a passenger i struggle not to be a backseat driver cause i feel like i'm about to be killed

[@lindaT82]

Define total disaster 🤔 ... might be my next week!! Thanks again for the awesome porch coffee. Know you make a huge difference. Thanks!! 😊

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm not sure how i would define it - for me it would be being in a constant state of meltdown

[@thattitus2life]

I’m new to all of this… I’m learning so much. I HAAATTEEE driving. But Haaaaatteeee being a passenger more. Unless my Dad is driving. But even then I’m like ughhh! In some cases the driver is sucky but is it AS bad as I feel it is????? So much anxiety! My week was 💩! My husband was 💩💩💩

[@WoodshedTheory]

i get it - i think i'm a good driver but also maybe.... i'm not really. i always feel that i park well but then i get out of the car and i'm like oh gosh

[@elizabethivy1337]

Ooof, yeah can totally relate about the driving anxiety. I had nightmares about it from the time I was a kid even though we didn't live in a busy area. I had to learn how to drive when I turned 16 because there was no other way to get around as we lived in a rural area. Talk about clammy hands, full body sweat, nervous physical ticks. My parents were not very understanding of my experience, so I was constantly trying to mask how much it stressed me out. I've been driving for about 12 years now and the driving anxiety has improved quite a bit. However, I still get really anxious when I am going through busy or unfamiliar areas. Trying to absorb all of that information while managing a dangerous activity is overwhelming. City driving is still a definite 'no' for me (thinking of NYC when I say that).

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

Oh my gosh, you just helped me remember that I used to have a recurring nightmare about driving! I learned to drive at 16, too. I had several small, not-dangerous (thankfully!) accidents those first 5 years or so, because there was so much to track and so many decisions to make. The dream started in my teens- it was about driving out of control down a steep hill in my hometown. I drive myself when I need to, but I’m glad that I can avoid heavy rush hours and big city traffic!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i got so nervous while my dad was teaching me to drive that he quit on me and handed me off to my mom :(

[@MsNeuroSpicEE]

Is it Paul Mcilieff? I can't spell his last name. I love him, he's my crush, but I watch all the Autistic creators I can find. If not, can you get him? I also have Orion's book. He's really nice. They are both not from US. Ooh, or is it Purple Ella!? She was my first ever Autistic creator I followed. I learned so much from her. I feel like there are more resources for people in Australia, NZ & UK than here in the US. In the US, if you aren't nonverbal or can take care of your ADL's, people are like "you aren't really autistic," so I almost never tell people. Being black and a mathematician and data scientist is enough of a unicorn for most people to handle. Can't wait to see who your guest is going to be!

[@WoodshedTheory]

non of those people but some of those are on the list - i did have to reschedule the video though cause i wasnt up for it today

[@RedJulesFire]

I missed why you went into the city but I’m amazed that you did! I avoid it as much as possible. I love the Flare Calmer ear plugs. They’re really discreet and come in a little pouch to put in a bag or purse. They also have noise blocking ones but I don’t wear those much because I can hear my own breathing. It’s my birthday today so I’m having a pretty good day. 😊

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

Happy Birthday!!🎈 I hope you can give yourself some lovely restful time today!💝🌼

[@WoodshedTheory]

i havent tried flare but i want to!

[@benjaminhays6156]

My spouse and I drove into the city this weekend (Portland) and I had a really similar experience. Thanks for sharing. On top of being anxious I'll sometimes get embarrassed about my reaction, which isn't helpful, so It's really validating to hear other people talk about how those kinds of experiences feel for them.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thank YOU for sharing glad i am not a lone

[@lauraburystedmundsyoga8231]

I put off doing my tax return until the last minute again, so sorting that out is my priority for the week & the biggest headf£$! imaginable. How is a person supposed to get used to doing something so complicated once a year ffs?! One day, maybe I'll be able to afford an accountant to do it all for me...wishful thinking...

[@elizabethaucoin6290]

I found myself thinking about doing my taxes this week, and I don't need to start doing them for about six weeks, but I guess I am building my courage up for it (cue the jaws theme).... I am pretty sure none of the people who cheat on their taxes get nervous about it!

[@WoodshedTheory]

I also get nervous about doing the taxes - only cause i really want to make sure i do them correctly - i would also love to be able to afford an accountant one day - that is the goal

[@ghill8587]

I’m sorry you had a stressful road trip 😞. I hope you can get lots of good rest today. I caught up on love on the spectrum this weekend, but I’ll wait until you get your last video out to comment on that. Your hair looks great, btw!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i did get some extra rest today thanks

[@Dragita-art]

Hi from Czech Republic! I've had exhausting week, but I hope, this week will be better. I enjoy your videos :)

[@WoodshedTheory]

Hello so happy to have you!

[@lost_boy]

Ok I know I've been absent for a while because of my mental health but I guess I've a lot to catch up on - you have a podcast now??!! Cool hoodie, btw Claire! So I had lens replacement surgery last week... weird as hell I tell you. The operation itself was a sensory nightmare - you're awake whilst they mess around inside your eye! It was pretty disgusting. Now I can see without glasses which is awesome.. except I'm finding the bright winter sun we've got in the UK at the moment extremely painful... it's a feeling I remember from my childhood, always squinting in the sun to try and lessen the pain... crazy to think that my shortsightedness and astigmatism have saved me from that kind of sensory pain for most of my life....

[@madberry]

When I was reading up on sensitivity to light the first thing mentioned was people with light colored eyes have a higher sensitivity to light than people with dark eyes. I’d like to get that surgery but there would be a problem if I have to be awake while they are messing around in there.

[@lost_boy]

@@madberry thankfully the operation for both eyes only took about half an hour. And because they have your head in a clamp to hold you steady, you can kind of get away with some subtle stimming to ease things a little. Overall, I can honestly say that it was totally worth the discomfort!!

[@WoodshedTheory]

hi friend, i JUST started the pod cast - yet to see if it will take off but fingers crossed - i hear what you are saying about the eyes thing - i often will take off glasses if i want to dull my senses and take a break

[@lisabmpls]

Traffic…ugh!!!!! Only tolerable when I know the route. I’m trying out living in a different location/state for the winter. It’s both good and stressful. The weather is significantly better 😂 which lifts my mood. But I absolutely feel like I don’t belong and that is hard. Keep feeling like I’m going to do something wrong and get kicked off the island. Sigh…..

[@WoodshedTheory]

oh interesting - i know that people do this but i have never tried it - i could see it would be good but also potentially stressful

[@nataliegallus6713]

Thank you Claire. I'm struggling with my "personality" or quirks and I've been down the rabbit hole of, "Am I autustic?" At 39, I've returned to university; I'm working part-time, I'm a hot mess, and friendship doesn't come easy. Is it childhood trauma or autism, who knows. In Canada, a diagnosis ain't easy and it aint cheap. My cousin, who is my true friend, says its okay to be different or weird; it makes me unique; but the struggle is real. I know life is a journey, but dang. I'm kinda over it (by kind of I mean I need some kind of validation). Sorry for the unsolicited vent, but I'm just glad I found your channel. I'm either hiding everything or word vomiting my awkward feelings. Thanks Claire 😊. New porch friend here ;)

[@autisticMargo]

I am so excited about your curtains and your podcast. You have skills that are so diversified.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks my friend

[@stephenie44]

I really appreciated your reactions to LOTS. This week, I watched that show and your reviews, and I finished crocheting a Bluey stuffy I’ve been working on for a friend that has Bluey as a special interest. Yesterday and today I’ve been following bobbin lace tutorials, to learn how to make my own lace, because fiber arts are cool. I’ve really been struggling to focus on anything except my special interests. I know it’s because I’m recovering from burnout, but it’s frustrating that I can’t get my brain to focus on other things I care about. I also keep sleeping when the sun is up, so I haven’t felt much sunshine lately. Hopefully that sorts itself out soon. Thanks for making a space to self reflect.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i havent seen any bluely really

[@passaggioalivello]

Thank you for your mission. Have a nice week.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Same to you

[@Fairydust_O.T.S]

Hi Claire, my week was not very good but the hat I ordered from your etsy store arrived yesterday and its even more beautiful in real life. It makes me really happy and I love it ❤!!!! Driving in the city is awful. I don‘t like it either because it really stresses me out.

[@WoodshedTheory]

OMG I saw the pictures it looks amazing! I am so glad you like it

[@kellyschroeder7437]

Morning Claire ☕️💞👊. Meh….. Keeping at it ….

[@WoodshedTheory]

You got this!

[@LaurasChronicLife.]

I hate that you have such a hard time with riding/driving but it is nice to know I’m not alone. I didn’t get my license til I was 18 and even then I didn’t drive often til about 22 yrs old. Especially in big cities or just unfamiliar areas. I also have a hard time being a passenger and am constantly apologizing to my husband when I have a reaction I can’t control in time. I’m doing better but it’s still rough. Car rides wear me out both emotionally and physically. On long car rides I do tend to put in earbuds and listen to a book or something. It does tend to help some. Can’t do that driving though lol. My week was okay. First part was good with getting videos filmed and planned. Second half the week was spent on couch though cause of some migraines. This weekend we hung with nieces and nephews. Today I’m hoping to get some editing done. Thanks for having coffee with us! I do look forward to it every week. But do know it’s okay to listen to yourself and not do a video right when you FEEL you need to. Internet is fickle but you matter more and there are enough of us who’d be patient for you!

[@WoodshedTheory]

proud of you for getting video work done!

[@TheCassierra908]

I can relate so much to difficulties of driving in cities. II try to stop my reactions but sometimes I just can't as a passenger. In really big cities with lots of lanes, I am always a passenger... just cannot handle driving it. Still nerve-racking though for sure. Crazy week here. That's all I can say. But I think I can finally breathe.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Yes please take some time to breathe and listen to your body!

[@ginadelfina5887]

I’m excited for the next podcast! I don’t have anything big coming this week, but I do tend to get a bit nervous & need to pray at the beginning of each week, just because of knowing that a whole work week is ahead of me. I agree that trips can be stressful - b/ c of noise, people, new & unfamiliar stuff, etc. (I completely melted down on a trip just a few months ago). I just recently started always keeping some emergency earplugs in my purse & they have come in handy several times. I was thinking that you definitely don’t have to feel obligated to do a giveaway, of course, but if you wanted to do some kind of mini giveaway, then what about just a Pom Pom that people can switch out? What if it was a pink or red one?! Though I guess that wouldn’t work for people who don’t already have a hat.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I did end up rescheduling the filming for the pod cast but it's coming soon! oh that is a good idea about the pom pom!

[@ginadelfina5887]

@@WoodshedTheory thanks glad you like it!

[@isabellammusic]

This was so wonderful to watch! I'm excited to see who your guests on the podcast are. 😃 I can relate to the sensory issues you have. I had a very productive week recording and editing videos for my channel. Now I'm having a shut down because of it but I felt like I needed to do it.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i had to reschedule the podcast shoot but it will happen soon!

[@Autisticheather]

Last week was insane. I've stuck it out this this crazy preschool that has had outbreaks of every kind. I think ive caught 4/5. But we still have time. Today i found out i have covid. Do autistics have a weaker immune system? Because no one else has caught EVERY SINGLE ONE. I am literally afraid to go back. Im happy to be quarantined. Im seriously thinking about going back to work for myself. You inspire me. Thanks

[@WoodshedTheory]

you know what i dont know if we do have weaker immune systems but it does seem like it, doesnt it? is it because we spend more time alone? being sick can be so soul crushing so i get it

[@Autisticheather]

@@WoodshedTheory we're physically more sensitive to everything else, so it makes sense.

[@wendyfollett8099]

Hi Claire. I had a busy week at work so I didn't really do anything exciting. I got given some new hair clips that are pearly and pretty so that was exciting and they will go with the mermaid coloured hair that I managed to achieve by blending 2 different colours! Happy Hair 😅

[@WoodshedTheory]

those clips sound so pretty

[@krystalestrella9098]

I totally can relate to the anxiety of being on the road.

[@TheDarkjudge1]

Not really looking forward to this week. Have so much cleanup and trying to deal with a lot of personal stuff and trying to get a bunch of other personal projects tidied up and done. *sigh* But.. wanted to at least drop in and say "Hi". Ok... back to work.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I get it - take care of yourself

[@kellyschroeder7437]

Awesome !!!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thank you! Cheers!

[@bronwynlennox1240]

Currently watching this as a passenger in a car travelling to a medical appointment. Using noise cancelling blue tooth headphones for the first time. Honestly, I almost cried when I put them on. The difference is life changing! Paired with my sunglasses, there reduction in stress inducing input is beyond wonderful. Try it if you can 🤗😁👍

[@WoodshedTheory]

Oh wow i really need to get a pair

[@FirstmaninRome]

Have you seen Abbys moms channel, she's such a sweet cutie. Yeah, atlanta driving is too much for me, I just stay in podunk Georgia. Thinking about my excess, unnecessary anxiety ugh.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i havent but i will look it up

[@tjzambonischwartz]

If you're not already carrying noise cancelling headphones you really need to. I finally got my first pair last month and I'm angry at myself for not getting them sooner. They make life so much easier.

[@WoodshedTheory]

do you have a brand you suggest?

[@tjzambonischwartz]

@@WoodshedTheory Sony WH-1000XM5. Expensive but worth every penny. Best noise cancelling you can buy and the only headphones I can comfortably wear all day.

[@faithcooper8935]

I was thinking I need to always have my loop with me. I was overstimulated Saturday because of the small space and had my worst migraine the next day.

[@madberry]

I don’t use loop I use alpine music pro. One of the reasons is that they include an aluminum tube for your keychain. This way I always have them with me.

[@faithcooper8935]

@@madberry My pseudo loops do have a way to put them on my keychain.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for sharing what works for you

[@LunarGlowMedia]

You're doing a lot more than you think! You've got a nice little community that love your videos. I know I've heard you say a lot of things that have made me feel seen, and I know that's true for a lot of others with the `tism. Just don't push yourself too hard chasing metrics. Creator burnout is rough, and I'm sure it's doubly so for us autistic folk. As far as my week, I'm finally getting time off delivering packages and I'm trying to resist the urge to work on all of the various entrepreneurial engines I'm trying to build at once. It's not autism content, but I've finally shot a video that I need to finish editing about the question of whether you need to buy a camera for KZbin or if your phone will do just fine. The procrastination is real lol. Also, as an aside, did you change the white balance on your camera? I noticed that the shot seems warmer than usual and of course I had to switch back and forth to compare. Or perhaps a different camera? Or maybe you set up a light. And then I think "How did nobody notice the `Tism before", because out of all the things to think about, I'm over here trying to solve the most obscure nerd mystery of all time. I was just about to hit "Comment" and then I thought: OR MAYBE SHE GRADED THE SHOT! Send help lol ._.

[@WoodshedTheory]

did i change the white balance? i don't think so i just use what ever the automatic settings are - i have been filming in better light with the nicer camera maybe

[@LunarGlowMedia]

@@WoodshedTheory That'll do it. If I remember correctly you were shooting on a ZV1, which is a pretty nice camera, especially for vlogging. I'm curious to find out what you upgraded to. Apologies if you said it in a video, try as I might I can't watch all your stuff, what with all the plates I'm attempting to juggle ATM. All I know is I noticed a TEEENY TIIIINY little difference and my brain went "I HAVE TO KNOW >:| ". And to be clear, I think it's an improvement. If it's the camera I'm almost willing to bet you switched from Sony to Canon. Sony is pretty well known to not have the best color science for skin tones.

[@cdawg9218]

I've ended up watching this on a Friday 😅 It's been a pretty busy week as I'm in the final stages of buying a new house!! What a crazy and surprisingly busy couple of weeks! Now its just packing and waiting with baited breath until settlement date 😬😁

[@WoodshedTheory]

Congratulations on buying a new house, what a special (and stressful) time.

[@danielleaskvig3217]

Hi Claire! I've been having some challenging weeks rhe last couple of months. The fog is lifting. Ivw been getting back into crafts, going to Al-anon and other things To help with mental health. I hope you are well.❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

I'm proud of you!

[@mdailyJHU]

Hate driving too especially in the city or new areas, or when trying to merge or change lanes. I get ocd over whether I’ve checked thoroughly enough .

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm sorry you struggle with this as well

[@roberttravers7587]

great video!😃

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks robert

[@danielleaskvig3217]

I too have trouble being in cars. It's better than it was,, buts it's still terrible

[@WoodshedTheory]

twins lol - sorry you deal with this too

[@autisticjenny]

Nice video Claire. :) This week I'm working all but 2 days and practicing my banjolele in the meantime. I was off yesterday and it was a struggle not to make a whole video. LOL or even just to get my butt out of the chair for that matter. On days I don't have to work, it's a struggle to keep routine and routine is what makes me happy. Have a good week!

[@autisticjenny]

PS. I just added my new February collab video on my channel. It is about "Love on the Spectrum for us!" What love means to us. Anyway if you want to join that collab, you can check out the details in that video.

[@WoodshedTheory]

What is a banjolele that sounds fun!

[@autisticjenny]

@@WoodshedTheory it's a cross between a banjo and a ukelele. :)

[@messyjessyjade]

Hey Claire, sounds like a hectic drive! I live in the city and am making moves to get out and be amongst the trees 🥰 I have a busy week ahead at work but am going camping on the weekend with 'new ppl' and am a bit nervous about it, but thinking about how I can not mask and just be honest if I need a time out to myself. Will see how it goes 😅 have a good week!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i dont think i mind being in the city - if it's some place quiet lol

[@WoodshedTheory]

oh camping with new people! make sure to have your own tent and flashlight!

[@messyjessyjade]

@@WoodshedTheory for sure!

[@TheBookHerm]

oooo a Leap Year drop sounds awesome!

[@WoodshedTheory]

fingers crossed we can make it happen

[@hollieverafter]

My week was…interesting. Ended up in the ER thinking I had a bad appendix but, nope, I had sepsis and spent the week getting IV antibiotics and having all the tests and imaging under the sun run on me. Yeah, I don't really recommend the experience 😬💉💊

[@WoodshedTheory]

Oh gosh I’m so sorry that is terrible I hope you’re feeling better soon

[@knrdvmmlbkkn]

00:01 No, I don't want coffee under *any* circumstance.

[@WoodshedTheory]

okay!

[@Spooner50]

Morning

[@Spooner50]

Am enjoying this music video at the moment. Louis Dunford - Stay Another Day (Official Video)

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for sharing what music you are into

[@anjachan]

I didn´t manage driving because I just can´t do it in a city ... a way to much input.

[@WoodshedTheory]

it is really overwhelming

[@Catlily5]

I never learned to drive. I intended to but things never worked out. I guess that it wasn't meant to be.

[@sueannevangalen5186]

This isn't related to anything Claire said... But has anyone seen the Barbie movie? I know you were planning on it last summer, Claire. Does anyone recommend it? Or not? I heard mixed reviews where some people were saying, "It's total garbage" and others were saying, "It's hyperbolic -- it's tongue-in-cheek and I liked it." But then, this past week, I saw a review of it, highlighting the scene on the park bench with Barbie and the old woman, and goodness, I wept. That scene made me actually weep. And they're saying Greta Gerwig said that scene is "the heart of the movie" and "without it, I don't know what the movie is about." And I gotta admit, I kinda want to see this thing now. I have so little time for movies these days (which makes me kind of sad), and watching them often comes at the expense of getting enough sleep (three kids, you know). So I don't want to watch one unless it's good or at least thought-provoking.

[@madberry]

Reviews are like opinions and a**holes everyone has one. I always have arch a movie no matter the reviews. I find reviews by industry “experts” extra unhelpful. From what you’ve said about the one scene you’ve seen I would go see the movie if I were you.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i did see it - i thought it was good - there were a few moments i didn't agree with but in general it was good

[@sueannevangalen5186]

@@WoodshedTheory 👍

[@Catlily5]

The movie was so/so in my opinion and I hate Barbie dolls. I think that it is worth watching. It is definitely unique.

[@sueannevangalen5186]

@@Catlily5 I haven't gotten around to watching it yet! There's been so much controversy about it now that I'm curious about what my opinion is going to be.

[@AuditingWithAutism]

I ❤️ this channel.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thanks for your support

[@shanti1445]

I look ok on the outside.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thank you for sharing

[@eveningprimrose3088]

I never heard the answer.

[@WoodshedTheory]

hi friend - i agree i didn't answer it directly, more talked about aspects of my life. i guess my straight up answer would be... sometimes yes but mostly no

[@eveningprimrose3088]

@@WoodshedTheory thanks.

[@jakemichael8586]

Love the intro! The red hair+ the green eyes look good. The man in your life should blessed to have you. As for autistic life = total Disaster? The real question should be is human life= total disaster? What is life to look like that is not a total disaster? As for driving i dont like it too much. Now get this i was a mechanic cars are special interest. Had to drive a monster truck that was a manual and had little experience driving a manual. Had never drove a monster truck! Did fine! Was nervous about hitting some thing around the shop. All so ride motor cycles! I avoide citys like the plague when it has driveing. Have experience with it but don't like it! This is from a gear head. Rather be on a open road.! O you have done so much. You have a podcast, the fiber craft biz. A nice castle of a home. A enchanted garden. Magic rabbits. A relationship. You are the qeen of your destiny and kingdom! Ruel it in a just manner. Go and do wonderus things! I see it that you are mastering your universe better than thy lot of man & woman in thy land of the USA.! \/ to you endvers look forward to seeing what's you cook up!

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for coming to porch coffee

[@jakemichael8586]

@@WoodshedTheory thanks for hosting!

[@brigitte9999]

You can wash your hair everyday it’s fine. But you must wash your face before you go to bed!

[@WoodshedTheory]

good point

[@brigitte9999]

You are still producing an image. You just switched to recording.

[@WoodshedTheory]

okay!

[@joeminella5315]

👍👍👍👍👍

[@WoodshedTheory]

hello!

[@T8staDiM3rda]

I used to jam my foot on the imaginary brake when in other folks cars. Also i developed quite a grip in my left hand from holding the door handle so tight. (I think i could crush coal into a diamond). I haven't been in another person's car in a looong time. But looking out the side window rather than forward helped. Ignorance is bliss. 😂 plus i don't go into the city any more. Crazy place.

[@madberry]

Not only the imaginary brake pedal, with some people I also have an imaginary gas pedal.

[@WoodshedTheory]

oh yes the imaginary break! i also clutch that handle on top of the door