Taking Off the Mask

[@gillywild]

I really wish society didn’t insist that everyone be happy and positive all the time. I used to constantly hear NT friends complaining about other friends that they weren’t “fun” enough or were Debbie Downer. Why can’t people be happy that you’re sharing your reality with them. Support for your difficult week honey :)

[@Noemi-u2m]

I agree. But it's not an nt thing, that's an American phenomenon (European here).

[@lauraweiss7875]

I think American culture developed a “normal” equals “happy” default because it was deemed impolite to burden others with one’s “problems.” I agree that this is a huge problem as it encourages folks to be fake and makes dealing with our problems even harder. Americans also feel compelled to “fix” things we think are “broken.” What we really need to do is listen and sit (sometimes uncomfortably) with people who confide that they are not happy. No need to offer advice or actively them cheer up. Best to everyone who is having a less than fabulous day.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i remember having a "friend" once who was like - why aren't you happy? you're supposed to make me laugh. ummm i was so taken aback

[@TheDarkjudge1]

I'd echo the societal expectation of toxic positivity is not just a NT thing but more of a societal phenonemon. (Ok... maybe a little harsh, but... when we start societally expecting people to exhibit a certain emotion even if it's not there... that seems to me to be the definition of toxic and perhaps start the PDA kicking in.) Particularly at work in America. The reality is, we can't fix anything if we're gonna sit here and lie about it. I think we have to start by acknowledging what we're feeling. Only once you've done that can you start to evaluate what to do next, if something can be done. (Sometimes that means getting out a piece of paper and writing it out... at least, that's helpful for me.)

[@AutomaticDuck300]

@@WoodshedTheory that’s weird because funny people are often the unhappiest.

[@allynleick7133]

I love you so much. Being disregulated feels pretty bad especially when the cookies are gone. 😑

[@WoodshedTheory]

love you too :)

[@shion_lwn]

I feel the same. I'm stuck. I was learning a lot from counselling for the first 2.5 months, then I'm not taking in anything. I don't go out. When I have to go to grocery store or drug store, I'm so unregulated, anxious. At home, noise bothers me especially as soon as my partner comes home from work. It'snot her fault. She's doing her normal things. I feel like my autistic traits came out gradually on the surface after I started taking ADHD meds. I got late-life dual diagnosis. A Psychologist n doctors had told me that I had depression n anxiety only when I was younger. I'm having hard time to unstuck myself. Thank you for sharing your feelings ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

thank you for sharing - i get stuck a lot as well

[@zinzimashibini2949]

I always look forward to porch coffee. Life isn't always positive, and it's ok to share that too. I've also had a hard week. A couple of hard weeks, actually. Recovering from knee surgery, then my son got sick and was in the hospital. I just want things to get back to normal.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i hope things get back to normal for you soon - hope the knee is feeling good

[@sueannevangalen5186]

I'm so glad you said that thing about having dream meltdowns! Yes, this has happened to me, too, only I didn't really think about that way before. I can remember it happening pretty often at a time when I had a bunch of big life changes all happening within a couple of months: moving, new job, getting engaged, getting hospitalized for appendicitis... But I don't think that's a hard and fast rule about when it happens for me or anything like that. I'd spend a chunk of the night dreaming about losing it completely and then I'd wake up exhausted. I totally get it. Get some good rest today, Claire!!!

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for sharing - you arent alone

[@wendyfollett8099]

I always thought that friends were supposed to be there for each other through thick and thin. If we are your friends then we are here for you! I don't care that you needed to vent and tell us the bad stuff, it makes the friendship more real. I've had the dream meltdowns too. For me it's not the dream so much as when I wake up halfway and I'm sobbing as I wake. That really socks. I'm dealing with acute staffing shortages at work at due to a Covid outbreak and I know there's going to be a price to pay so eating healthy is vital to help me through. I hope your week gets better and that your Internet friends help you feel better. Sending big hugs ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

i usually wake up angry and annoyed

[@kellyschroeder7437]

Mornin Claire !!! ☕️. Love the beanie Orion opened up and put on the other night 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@WoodshedTheory]

That was awesome, he is so supportive!

[@KitrinaKanaris]

Happy Monday! I’m actually feeling pretty okay today, so I’m happy to send some of my positive vibes out to you until you get through the blahs. We all have to be blah sometimes - it makes the good times feel that much better! Right? Maybe… let’s go with that! ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm not sure if the bad times make the good times feel better - but that is what i have heard

[@KittyInTheGarden]

From a foreigner's perspective, I feel like it's a peculiarly American thing to have to be upbeat and positive all the time. Come for a holiday in Britain, you could be grumpy and people wouldn't mind so much! I've been right there with you this week: 4 days of overdoing it followed by 2 days lying on the couch after I crashed and burned. On the upside I managed to do a virtually invisible clothing repair for a family member who doesn't sew, and they were grateful, so I'm really pleased with that.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i lived in the UK for a while maybe i should go back

[@benediktornhjaltason7948]

Hi Clair. Greetings from Norway 🇧🇻👋 I'm 39 years old. Discovered I'm autistic last april. Started an assessment in september. Aaaaaaand got my formal diagnosis a week ago 😊 Thanks for being part of my journey with your channel ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

Congrats on your formal diagnosis - it's a wild ride

[@stephenie44]

Thanks for doing porch coffee. I’ve desperately needed routine, and this is one of a few things that actually help me orient to what day of the week it is. My therapist and I had our last session on Friday. She got a job offer for something and she had to quit seeing clients, and I get it, but it sucks for me. She was really good. Last time I went looking for a therapist, it took me a year of searching to find someone that was the right fit, and I only got to work with her for 6 months. The search begins again. 😒 But on the other hand, I started a new crochet project. I’m making a large Spyro the dragon amigurumi, with super bulky fluffy chinelle yarn, and it’s super smooth, so crocheting as been extra stimmy.

[@Jenna.g.85]

Finding people you click with is challenging. I’m once again having to find a new primary doctor. I had one a few years ago I felt really comfortable with but she started working with just hospice patients. I haven’t found one as good as her since. It’s hard to sift through all the options and it’s frustrating when you need to see a doctor in the meantime. Good luck, hope you find another good fit for you

[@WoodshedTheory]

that dragon stuffy sounds amazing - send pictures!

[@stephenie44]

@@Jenna.g.85 thank you, good luck to you, too! They’re worth looking for, but the looking certainly is a challenge.

[@stephenie44]

@@WoodshedTheory I’d love to! :D It’s in a lot of small pieces right now, but I will once it starts becoming a dragon. Can I send pictures on KZbin?…

[@lauraweiss7875]

You’re allowed to feel however you feel. Just go with it.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks laura

[@Autisticheather]

The rain sounds so nice

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks! i love listening to the rain

[@buttdumpling1978]

I make sure to eat as much fruit and veggies as possible, over the course of the day. I allow myself to have a small amount of dessert, after dinner, every day. That usually consists of a a couple of small cookies or some chocolate (I love dark chocolate). Something that’s about 200 calories or a little more than that. Nothing huge. Just something to keep the sweet tooth happy. I made cupcakes last week, and so we had a cupcake after dinner, every night, for the past week. I gave some away, as well. There were 24. Once in a while we’ll get some ice cream. It’s never enough to make my pants feel too tight. Depriving myself, completely, would lead to over doing it at some point. It’s better to have a little bit, once a day. It keeps obsessing at bay. I hope your mood evens out, soon, so you will feel more at peace.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i usually keep healthy dessert options around but recently that is not working for me

[@buttdumpling1978]

There is nothing healthy about my desserts. Just small portions. Real dessert is more satisfying. I keep all the healthier stuff for my meals and snacks. I usually eat 5 times a day. Breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. Dessert is included with dinner.

[@Civileyez]

Good morning Ms. Claire. The sound of rain always relaxes me.☺I often experience negative feelings when I'm out in public

[@WoodshedTheory]

i love listening to the rain

[@lindaT82]

Thanks for another porch coffee!! Hope you are feeling better soon!!!! I'm a vanilla icecream addict, so I can relate to the icecream. I just TRY to keep the healthy days more in credit, to balance out the desperate days; never give up on the pursuit of good health; and keep less healthy food out of the house, so it's not easy to access. Well...I try. It's summer here. We had a relatively mild January - not too many hot days. But my tolerance seems to be stretched. There are four very hot days forecast this coming Thur - Sun, and I am finding myself planning and preparing to deal with it. My productivity goes right down. Have to make sure I exercise in the early mornings or evenings, when it is less suffocatingly hot. Stick my feet on an esky ice brick 🙂. Meditate. Listen to music. Watch my favourite youtube channels, like this one. ✨Sending you positive well wishes from half a world away!!! ✨

[@WoodshedTheory]

i have never heard of an ice brick that sounds.... interesting!

[@isabellammusic]

I totally understand how you're feeling, this morning I got a meltdown but not like I was angry. I was so stressed out probably from my own brain because I try to learn how to run an Etsy shop and my brain is so full of information. I've been feeling like a total failure recently because everything is so extremely hard, it's like my energy just goes away and I don't have the time to recover. I couldn't sleep and everything was a mess because I felt like I was having a sensory overload or something. I talked uncontrollably and then I started to cry, it's horrible! But it feels better now and I have been on a walk in the sun. I'm gonna keep believing in myself and work hard. Take care of yourself!

[@madberry]

I’ve been on the Etsy learning train as well. So I get how you feel. Stuff on Etsy isn’t as logical as it should be. Plus I’ve just been hammered with spam. I posted four items and got 58 spam messages as a result.

[@isabellammusic]

@@madberry that sounds really annoying!

[@WoodshedTheory]

learning etsy is so much - people who are selling get rich quick stuff suck telling people it is really easy and that anyone can do it ---- ummmmm nope

[@isabellammusic]

Exactly! You need to have experience and to know how to market and stand out.@@WoodshedTheory

[@anjachan]

I feel very stressed currently. Im glad when the year is over already 😅I understand you. 💛

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm afraid we have some time before the year is over - hopefully it improves for you soon

[@Autisticheather]

Your content is always good. When it's not good it's still good. You're more relatable. I am so frustrated with how i can't stand being around crowds. Anywhere on the weekends. Ugh sucks. Me too. Me too.

[@WoodshedTheory]

yes is there a way to get people blinders

[@vickimaroney800]

I'm grateful that you can be honest with your feelings and hope that you feel better soon. Good luck with the panel as I know you'll be able to put across all you want to well. You do that brilliantly here! 💖

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks i hope so - i'm a bit nervous

[@kellyschroeder7437]

Rainy Sunday. Here ya Claire. Feel all over the map and unable to focus long 💞🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💞👊

[@WoodshedTheory]

i get it

[@georgebates172]

I'm with you, Claire. Some times are just tough, and there's no way to smile through it. I do get frustrated with myself "not keeping up with things," too. But rather than tensing up, I try to take a deep breath and choose to be patient with myself, and try again. Can't do it now? Try again in twenty minutes. Yesterday I couldn't get myself out the door to go to church, because it was really loud (so incredibly LOUD!) with small children last week. Even understanding that didn't help me to get there. I wanted to be there, but couldn't do it. Though, I will try again next Sunday. As a single person, learning to take care of my sensory needs, and still get things done is a new challenge. Have to be patient with myself, but keep moving forward.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i like that philosophy i will give it a try

[@BlueRoseHelen252]

It's grey and a bit damp over in the UK too. I'm feeling ok today, being busy for a change with getting the house stuff done. The kids are on their last week of school before a week off and Hubby is fixing the kitchen tap today because it's been dripping non stop lately and there hasn't bee enough time to fix it until now. So I have no water for most of the day so I have an excuse to focus on other stuff today. I enjoy your content and always look forward to Porch Coffee. Hope you get enough time to recharge enough for this week to be a good one. Good luck with the panel thing too. I'm going to be achieving well if I get my many basket of washing folded and put away and I want to try and get my recipes into one folder because I have way too many recipe books for someone who really doesn't enjoy cooking that much 😄. I did make some completely sugar free bounty bar ish nibbles last night on a whim, which actually turned out great and I will be making more of those. Being Diabetic now I haven't been eating any sugar since July '23 and was pleasantly surprised when I made these and they taste just like the dark version of the real thing. I am already in remission form the diabetes but it won't be official until a year has gone by, so that's a big win for me and I will be continuing to eat no sugar, I really do not miss it. Anyway enough rambling from me I've not much else to say this week. Have a good week, you don't need to be mega happy all the time, I'm not and I don't know anyone who is. ☺

[@WoodshedTheory]

thank you for sharing - not having water for a day is stressful

[@erynmorgan1717]

Thank you for today's porch coffee and I am sorry you are having a hard time and struggling. It sounds like maybe a bit of after holiday season burnout. I know I am feeling it. I love that you don't feel the need to mask on your videos as much as we would never judge you and wish only good things for you my sweet friend.

[@WoodshedTheory]

could be some burnout i suppose

[@terrigoulding559]

We all have days like this. It sounds like you have a lot of positive things going on. Hang in there. Things will get better.💕

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks friend

[@alexsweetman7550]

Thank you so much for sharing all that you share. After hearing more about your autism story I started questioning it for myself and have been researching. I was diagnosed as bipolar 2 but it never felt like it fit autism honestly makes more sense given my life experiences. So all that to say THANK YOU for sharing your story because it made me realize that maybe my struggles aren’t just me.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thank you for sharing - I hope understanding yourself better is helpful

[@deniseaday]

❤🙏hugs. Take care of you.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thank you! You too!

[@Jenna.g.85]

I can empathize with your struggles with mood, depression sucks and rain doesn’t help. I definitely struggle with eating healthy,it’s so boring and hard to maintain. People keep telling me to eat what I want because you only live once. That doesn’t help the maintaining weight struggle. I can relate to feeling frustrated with noisy people and wanting quiet. My fiancé has adhd too so he sometimes has trouble regulating his noise level with his voice or closing cupboards and things. So for me that’s hard when I need quiet. In that way it’s nice that I stay home by myself all day so I get quiet but doesn’t always seem like enough.good luck on the panel, thanks for representing our community. I’ve definitely been struggling with inertia and stuck at rest.excited for my hat to arrive.Hope next week goes better for you. Sending hugs💜

[@WoodshedTheory]

yeah i can't eat whatever i want - i put on weight to an unhealthy point and it's not worth it to me.

[@Jenna.g.85]

@@WoodshedTheory try not to beat yourself up when you slip up either,it happens 😉

[@solgirl9]

Hugs Claire 🥰 Sensory overwhelm can be so brutal. Maybe take a few things off your to do list and take time for you.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks i will do

[@whitneymason406]

My son's sleep has been off lately so I'm feeling drained. I have an IEP meeting on Wednesday I called for to discuss my son's SIBs at school and to suggest we look at specialist schools a little further outside our radius. I don't care about the drive. I just want him safe and happy. I made cookies with my kids yesterday and ate way too many. I just have such a hard time with portions control. Also, exercise wasn't a part of my family's culture growing up so I need to work on that. Take it easy, Claire. We love you and want you to be happy! If you need a break, take it. We'll be here for you! Have a good week, Claire and friends! 💞

[@madberry]

I wish it was better understood why special education can be so important for us. Over here the same thing happens the special education schools are full and have a waiting list. A lot of parents end up having to drive an hour and a half to get their kid(s) to school. But they’ll gladly do it. Which I get now. At the time I hated going to special education. But looking back at it it was the best thing to have happen for my autism. I got to work in my own pace and learn in my own way and spend way more time doing creative things. My dad played soccer for the most part growing up my sister loved going to track and field. I also had to battle with myself to even go to the track and field practices. So I’m not sure if growing up in an exercise culture mattered much. I just would rather spend the time in my room doing stuff I really loved. Have a good week friend.

[@whitneymason406]

@madberry thanks for sharing your experiences, friend 💞

[@WoodshedTheory]

i hope the meeting is fruitful - you're a good mom

[@whitneymason406]

@WoodshedTheory thank you, I appreciate that ❤️

[@geraldinegranger9186]

I can totally relate to all of this. Thanks for sharing your reality!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thanks for watching! have. a great week

[@Autisticheather]

Im struggling work anger issues towards my bosses and for people who don't answer my texts in general. And for not hamming energy for ANYTHING, because of my covid aftermath.

[@WoodshedTheory]

sorry to hear you are having long term side effects

[@Stvbcn]

​@@WoodshedTheory Those are the effects of Covid not side effects. Everyone is damaged by catching the virus, even if it seems like you escaped with just the sniffles.

[@ambientesoterica]

You continue to be an inspiration for us late diagers. 😊 thank you. *also experiencing the biblical deluge of Noah'dic proportions. "Bad week to join" 😂

[@WoodshedTheory]

lol to be fair, most weeks are a bad week to join lol

[@kellyschroeder7437]

I’ve always said it’s okay to have “pit” moments just don’t stay there 💞🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💞👊

[@WoodshedTheory]

nothing wrong with living in the pit sometimes lol

[@miahdpapa9304]

Bad mood equals dehydration. Feel your feels. Cry. How long have our ancestors openly cried and gotten over much more perilous experiences we cannot imagine. Crying is a wash cycle of old patterns. When shaping a snowflake the shards must be swept away.

[@WoodshedTheory]

good idea!

[@lauraluey]

Sometimes, we've gotta eat the ice cream and nachos. They might not be the most physically healthy things to eat, but occasionally they can emotionally nourish us :) I look forward to my weekly porch coffee time with you Claire! You are a beautiful part of my week, and I think the content you create is great - whether you are happy, sad, frustrated, burnt out. In fact, the variety is refreshing. You are a human who feels deeply, and it is a gift that you share that with us all ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

happy to have you for coffee

[@CatsandHatsCrochet]

Thank you for being open about how you’re feeling Claire, it sounded very familiar and relatable. When I feel this way I sometimes play the lyrics from Matchbox 20 over and over in my head: “I wish the real world would just stop hassling me.” lol I’ve also struggled with all or nothing thinking when it comes to eating healthy and exercise. I don’t eat terrible or anything but I’ve definitely been on the nothing side of being healthy lol. I think we need to do our best and just eat healthy when we can, and when we’re struggling it’s okay to just eat cookies ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

i agree - yesterday i did order that food id been craving and i am glad that i did

[@thecreativemastermin]

The pitter patter of the rain in your background - such bliss!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i love it!

[@joeminella5315]

Your honesty is great. I'm BPD and CPTSD and was just assessed with ASD at age 82. Now I know why I've lived alone for 40 years after 2 divorces. It's good to know, finally.

[@WoodshedTheory]

glad that you know now

[@Spooner50]

Sorry, you're having a low week, maybe you're running out of spoons. Your videos are really good and have helped me a lot. Thinking about it I was diagnosed with OCD at about age ten, but I think I don't have it now. This week am looking into to joining a sewing group, Arparnetly this will help with my autism/ADHD. Me and my nephew who also has autism/ADHD, like comic cons and cosplay. Thinking I could learn to make myself something. My favourite song this week is Liam Gallagher & John Squire - Just Another Rainbow, its BANGER?. Could I ask the community are there any UK star trek Fans.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i wouldn't say im a star trek super fan but i feel like i am seen a lot!

[@Bryan_on_fire]

This wasn't the worst porch coffee yet. Sorry to hear you're feeling that way lately. (always sympathy first or the normies get mad) I've had that underlying anxiety worse than usual lately, but we will be fine. Just don't let that black and white thinking take control. Also you should always "drop the mask" for porch coffee, just my opinion, you do you Claire! Your content is awesome! Ooh, and Etsy just said it's new hat day!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Haha i was laughing while editing cause I didn't call it the worst coffee ever - i am slipping

[@lizmari7042]

I think the pressure to appear happy and together all of the time comes from neurotypicals, who seem to be uncomfortable with anything less. You are awesome Claire, thanks for being your honest authentic self. It's reassuring for those of us who struggle to keep things together and struggle through days of not being "okay" to hear that we are not alone. By the way, cookies with coffee in the morning is my habit in stroopwafel season (which lasts as long as the stroopwafels I stocked up on from Costco in December). 😆 Good luck with the panel!

[@JustMyAutisticalities]

Just catching up with you and I want to send a big hug your way. You don't have to be in a good mood or smile all the time. Having bad minutes, hours or even days is part of life and sometimes even a bit more on the Autism Spectrum. That's ok and nothings broken. Just processing. This morning I woke up crying and continued crying. I figured out that I was having a meltdown. Took something to calm down and just sleep it off. My day was slow and unproductive and I'm just sooo tired. Tomorrow is another new day ;-) I'm just realizing that there has been too many major changes in my life the past two years and trauma and that's why I'm having more frequent meltdowns and have autistic burnout. So Yes, please, rest and recover dear Claire! We need you and enjoy your videos! Thank you for sharing!

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for the hug! i am sorry about your meltdown, they suck

[@sarahleony]

It’s ok to not be ok! We really enjoy your content, and I hope you come out of feeling slumpy very soon. Regarding health/body stuff - totally relate to it being a topic that can easily go siiiiiiiiideways. Lately I’ve been getting these hello fresh ads where one lady shames the other lady for ordering pizza and talks about “guilt-free” food and I’m so triggered! WTF is that, I thought as a society we’d moved past that kinda bs messaging. Ugh

[@WoodshedTheory]

WTF kind of commercial is that? Give grandma her pizza! yesterday afternoon i ordered that food i had been craving

[@Wonders19_]

Good morning. I so look forward to these chats 😊 and thanks for being authentic. Makes me feel seen because I sure am in a “mood” a lot of the time. Good to know it will pass, too

[@WoodshedTheory]

yes #mood

[@Franimus]

Thanks for sharing! I'm in burnout too so it was nice to commiserate with you and listen to someone else unmasked. And listening to the rain is soooo soothing. P.S. Came here recommended by Orion!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Happy to have the support of Orion! He always shouts me out and that is really kind!

[@jessmakingit]

Thank you for your content. It's great! It's refreshing to have real regular talk with all the stuff. I sometimes get irritated with content that is "all sunshine & unicorn farts". That's just not my life. It doesn't speak to me. I don't always have myself together. I don't always meet my goals. I really look forward to Porch Coffee on Monday mornings. Thank you for sharing with all of us. Public outings are just too peopley sometimes. I get it. I struggle with getting enough quiet sometimes too. I don't like to go out, but the noise also comes to me. Hubby listens to shorts blaringly loud. Living in town, there's sirens, trucks, and all kind of traffic and town noise. Claire, come to the northern part of the mid-west. It's so green in the summer. Admittedly, this year is a brown winter, not even a sparkly January (boo 😞 ). Maybe part of what you are experiencing is the February Ugh! Good thing it's the shortest month, LOL. At least here it's dreary, gray, and this is usually the time when the snow is gross and dirty, unless you escape to the woods. A couple of times a trip to a sunny location has helped with February Ugh. But mostly, it helps me to really work Finish It February. I try to either finish or frog projects. It feels good to just finish or even get rid of long running wips. My week has been ok. Although, I'm getting tired of my post surgery arm feeling like it has a headache, and not being able to do what I want, as much as I want. Frankly, it makes me a little grouchy sometimes, and I just want it to be 100%, good to go and not make me pay for overdoing it. I did get hubby's messy chair corner organized and cleaned under the couches. That helped my feeling of being out of my house being out of control. I also finished a crochet blanket, and my alterations to the Felix sweater I'm making worked. It fit beautifully. That gave me the boost that I need to get through the sleeves.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I get that way too - when content is always happy all the time.

[@LaurasChronicLife.]

I think this was a perfect porch coffee cause this is stuff friends would vent about and its real. I have a hard time regulating when my space is overwhelming me, like when my office is a mess from crafts and stuff (it currently is so I am not filming or editing today, I am cranky cleaning lol ) and thats so cool about the guy from the show commenting! And good luck on the panel!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i think you are doing a great job spacing out your videos

[@LaurasChronicLife.]

@@WoodshedTheory thanks!

[@lorrijmv593]

I’m new to your channel. I saw Orion mention you. Glad he did! I also love coffee and knitting, Crocheting.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thanks for coming - Orion is great and happy to have you

[@jmaessen3531]

Quiet grimace porch coffee is still very good internet friend time. And I love the rain sounds. And it's so validating to hear "it looks like a bomb went off in my craft room." Glad I'm not the only one. Last week was *rough* for me. Many good moments. But the lows were going pretty low. Lots of travel, big challenging emotions, and overwhelm. 🙃 Anyway, it's my first week listening with my porch coffee mug! Thanks for doing what you do, Claire. 🫶🏻

[@WoodshedTheory]

QUIET GRIMACE PORCH COFFEE lol

[@Rizzaknits]

You are saying exactly how I've been feeling lately, too. At the very least, it's helpful to know I'm not alone in this. Wish we could figure out a way out of it. But it is what it is.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Glad to have a community that understands

[@marsham9800]

I am absolutely feeling the mood my way too. I even borrowed your phrase recently & told my boyfriend I do not wish to be perceived over some comments I shared only with him instead of a group. Overwhelm is so real & sometimes you just need a break from the things that cause overwhelm. Typically I need at least January if not longer to recover from the last quarter of the prior year from all the over stimulation of holiday times, obligations & work busy season. Just remember to be kind to yourself! I hope you can also replenish the cookies lol, cookies help. Enjoying the rain in the background this morning too!

[@WoodshedTheory]

It can be hard on partners when we get this way, I am glad he seemed to be understanding

[@hollieverafter]

I saw that Jake commented! How cool! I watched LOTS because of your reviews. My wonderful internet friend, you are enough exactly as you are. Good days and bad. Steamed veggies or ice cream. Actually, you're more than enough because you graciously share yourself with us out here. Have a cookie, Claire. Just not all the cookies at once, LOL.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I wish I could get a cookie but alas they are all gone for now lol

[@mattduncil]

I lost a relationship that I miss a lot by having a meltdown. I fought it off for a while but it eventually won, and I lost. So just do your best, let those around you know what’s happening, and be kind to yourself. You bring so much to us muggers so sending good vibes your way, remember it will get better. Eventually.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm so sorry to hear that.

[@lisabmpls]

I am feeling you big time! yesterday (Monday) i was exhausted and pissed about being exhausted. And I had NO IDEA of why I was so damn tired. It was a day. I stumbled on Taylor’s post about doing the best you can with the resources you have right now and that helped me not tip over into meltdown mode. But my brain was fuzzy all day and i hate that! I’m loving your LOTS reviews! How cool that one of the peeps got in touch with you! I know too much about how TV is made so I have a very hard time watching the show but your reviews are just the perfect morsel to enjoy TY!!!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Yeah when I see how there are like at least five crew members there filming i start getting nervous for the participants

[@RuiNa42]

I feel like it helps to know that the grass isn't dead, it is just dormant, which is part of it's natural cycle. Sleep well little grass.

[@WoodshedTheory]

good point! wake up little grass!

[@faithcooper8935]

Society has great expectation of always being happy all the time. We need to be able to say it is ok to not be ok.

[@WoodshedTheory]

amen to that

[@_xone]

Well, we're not built to be happy all the time, so sometimes it's good to just sit in the rain with a friend and just be grumpy organisms 😐😑 The sound of the rain was soothing, so it's not all bad, thanks for sharing! 🤗

[@WoodshedTheory]

yeah i wish i could just sit out forever and be a grump - is that considered a profession?

[@_xone]

@@WoodshedTheory My grandpappy and a bunch of cats I have met would agree with you! 😁

[@anniewho4655]

Appreciate you being real with us. Most of the time we hide these things, and end up feeling like we are the only one. Have a good week.

[@WoodshedTheory]

You too!

[@wolfdreams2000]

Ooh, you have that mug available? Awesome 😊

[@WoodshedTheory]

I do! at my website woodshed theory dot com

[@wiandewaal]

The constant challenge from society to always have fit into their ways. Not being allowed to let me be in my autistic ways. I tried to befriend a neighbor, and she literally said to me 2 months into relating, "why can't I be a "normie" like everybody else?" How rude, I thought. I told her to look up autistic behavior so she might understand better. Her response was I must then look up what living with a hormone imbalance is like... real tit for tat response. So another connection attempt bit the dust! I'm so on point with you that you just want silence and peace and lots of 'to-do's' staring at you! Stuck in, maybe some inertia again? Thanks for the chat. Love , from South Africa 💥🩷

[@WoodshedTheory]

wow she sounds like a gem - i am glad you are choosing kindness for her cause it sounds like she needs to be educated

[@krystalestrella9098]

Thank you for being real and honest with where you were . I have definitely been there . The other day I woke up feeling angry .When I told my boyfriend I felt angry he was curious as to why and at what . It was hard for me to pin pointe the cause , because so much was going on in my head . I just gotta say thank you for sharing .

[@johnbillings5260]

I've been feeling overwhelmed/overstimulated since the pandemic started. It has pushed my mind to feel like it needs to process more, faster to avoid danger.

[@nifferscritters]

1. You can talk to us about anything and thank you for being open about the struggles of autistic life (and life in general), it doesn’t need to be all sunshine and rainbows! 2. I love your content, it’s unique to you and I find it to be refreshing and calming (even when you’re in a less than stellar frame of mind). 3. I’m sad I missed out on the pretty multi-shades-of-pink hat but I love my pink sparkly scarf! 💖 4. I’ve been having a rough time too, you’re definitely not alone🧡 5. Thank you for putting out the mug club sign even though you didn’t have any new mug purchases this past week, because those of us who have mugs definitely still matter! ☕️ 6. I hope you have a better week, but I give you permission to eat a cookie or two (or three) if you need to 🍪 7. I look forward to the podcast! 🥰 K I’m done now, sending calm peaceful vibes your way, take care of yourself and remember that you don’t have to manage your emotions to the point that you’re holding it in and letting it invade your sleep! 🧡🧡🧡INTERNET HUGS🧡🧡🧡

[@WoodshedTheory]

we filmed for the podcast today! yay!

[@wendyheaton1439]

I feel crappy too... thanks for your honesty! We have builders in pressure washing moss off our roof. Currently I am wearing noise cancelling earbuds and earphones simultaneously just to try and regulate grrrrr.😡

[@WoodshedTheory]

yikes that sounds loud - too bad we can't leave the moss

[@lizzieb7373]

Very relatable, Claire.. thanks for being you and sharing your coffee time with us ❤ Last week was all over the place for me. You’re not alone.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks friend - i hope things calm down for all of us

[@cassidy7068]

I just wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed just listening to your voice and the rain while I knit. Thank you and I hope your week gets better.

[@WoodshedTheory]

that sounds peaceful - i like to listen to old ladies talk about yarn while i crochet lol

[@calebandrewcox826]

(Caleb's wife Cyn) Hi Claire! This was so relatable. Oi, the sensory overwhelm is rough. Nothing wrong with planning to go to the stores when it's not busy, sometimes that's just what you gotta do. It would amazing if stores did something like a sensory hour and make the environment more sensory friendly. Mmmmm, nachos....

[@WoodshedTheory]

yeah it sucks to have to plan around busy times but it is worth it for me

[@Fer-De-Lance]

Thanks Claire. I did way too much over the weekend. I woke up early to do my stretching, meditation and yoga. Did a few things around the house which felt good. I ran out of stream after studying briefly. Then I had to go into work and then the worksite. I had a few close calls while driving but nothing that I could not handle. The client canceled so I went into the office to study and of course I was brought off task by my coworkers. I have been pretty explosive today also. Then I realized a few things were hurting so I went home to rest.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I am proud of you for recognizing your behavior and doing something about it - that is huge

[@TheCassierra908]

Thank you for your honesty. It is so true that people should be able to express when they are not feeling so positive. I felt off and on like that last month. This week here I made some positive changes. I limited some people on my social media who did not have my best interest in mind. I feel a weight lifted in that area.

[@WoodshedTheory]

proud you made some positive changes

[@RedJulesFire]

I appreciate the realness of this video. 😊 Also, if you’re like me, I can’t restrict what I eat or I only want it more! For me, I have to add things like a serving of veggies and a serving of fruit every day. If I tell myself I can’t eat ice cream it really backfires and I compulsively eat way too much ice cream. 😢

[@WoodshedTheory]

Ahh that makes sense - I just don't get why I can do the plan perfectly for months and months and then one day just stop. I think it must be this time of year.

[@RedJulesFire]

@@WoodshedTheory Same. I did WW perfectly for almost a year and then suddenly, nope! I did Atkins for 6 months and then suddenly, nope! 🙁

[@Catlily5]

The PDA profile of eating?

[@benshepherd7601]

I’m undiagnoised i’m hoping to get diagnoised this year, but you’re doing awesome, all your content really helps me get through the day knowing that other people feel how I do, because I feel so different from others. Don’t worry a health journey will go up and down, I feel like anxiety that i need to excercise because i havent because ive had a cold for a week yet my brain says “workout workout” so its stressing me out so i hope to get better soon. And, I ate cookies for breakfast too.😊 All that matters is do you enjoy what you’re eating at the moment or not. I have found if I don’t feel like having a taste of foods in my mouth I won’t eat it but if i feel like tasting that food then I will eat it. It’s good to get rest Claire! Take self-care!

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm jealous you got cookies for breakfast! lol

[@crystalokeefe197]

I too have meltdowns in my sleep.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm sorry it sucks

[@ryan8488]

Don’t worry, you’re in good company we understand not everyday is sunshine and rainbows. (Literally and metaphorically) you don’t always need to be in a good mood. Also I have a hunch we appreciate seeing this type of content, just keeping it real 😊. Also I think you’re allowed the odd biscuit and ice cream and still be healthy. Just about balance 😃

[@WoodshedTheory]

odd biscuits... even biscuits.... all the biscuits

[@ryan8488]

@@WoodshedTheory lol 😂 I didn’t think of it like that! How about Monday, Wednesday, Friday = odd biscuits. Tuesday Thursday Saturday = even biscuits and Sunday = all the biscuits!

[@hspparadise]

Thank you for sharing! We feel like we understand your current state of mind. We feel validated. We have recently went “no contact” with our bio mother again. (She is a a psychopath. We have D.I.D. From childhood trauma. ) We are having nightmares every single night. . . We have a yearning for room and space to make changes and grow. To experience freedom to express our emotions. We imagine ourselves alone in a wide, open field with clear blue sky. Singing, dancing, screaming wildly in a circle of insense sticks stuck into the ground, burning. Holding nothing back. The smoke burns away all the interference, the chaos and the confusion. 🪷

[@T.T.M.60]

I love where you imagined yourself…I immediately went there and it felt so good, made me cry. I suffered emotional abuse when I was younger and have struggled as an adult. I hope you find your peace.

[@T.T.M.60]

I’m right there with you, Claire. I’m struggling as well. I’m trying to be positive but it’s so hard. Going to the thrift store with no one in it, wouldn’t that be the best thing ever?…hoping that you and I and anyone else reading this who is struggling right now will be able to put it all behind us soon.

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm sure i've said it before but the green hair looks so good on you

[@gordoncooper2481]

I really appreciate your honesty and your videos in general. It helps me, and I’m sure it helps others, too.

[@apennyforyouraspiethoughts23]

Oh my gosh! Why do we have meltdowns in dreams? I have never completely lost it screaming and yelling at someone in real-life. But it is a common occurrence in my dreams. This would be a very interesting video!

[@apennyforyouraspiethoughts23]

P.S. your content is great! Self doubt plays such a strong role in my Autistic experience.

[@Catlily5]

I can scream and yell. I try to scream that I am not yelling at anyone, that I am just frustrated. Hopefully then no one takes it personally.

[@gardenfaerie9903]

I had a very similar type of emotional week. Binged on chips... on more than one day! Now I feel terrible that I did! Trying to make better choices today.

[@WoodshedTheory]

please don't feel terrible - it happens

[@sayusayme7729]

Hi there, nice space. Thank you

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thanks for visiting

[@oldmomma56]

Obsessed with numbers? Hard to avoid when one is diabetic! Everything revolves around numbers! Blood pressure! Blood sugars! You film great content! Honest Is great! Creative is great! If your creative isn’t my creative, that is fine!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thanks friend

[@karalynfoster2879]

I am so right there with you this week Claire. Thank you sooo much for your authenticity…I genuinely felt like I was right next to you this week hanging with a friend who truly gets it. It means so much to be understood and validated especially during the hardest times…usually that’s when I hide away cause very few people do understand.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks for understanding me i hope you are feeling better soon

[@karalynfoster2879]

Hoping the same for you ❤️

[@alanacarlson249]

oh dear, your weekend sounds like mine was and i had a meltdown today and my mood was very off too. I made the unfortunate choice to go shopping Saturday and every single place I went was packed with people. It was absolutely too much. From there everything was down hill. Thank you for sharing with us, it does mean the world to us.

[@WoodshedTheory]

WHAT WERE WE THINKING????

[@alanacarlson249]

Probably that we wanted to chase the dopamine and forgot about the overstimulated aspect of it because... dopamine!!!!

[@WoodshedTheory]

make sure to check out my video from today i was cashing that thrift high today lol @@alanacarlson249

[@crystalokeefe197]

I have such intense and at times realistic dreams that they give me sensory overwhelm and such .

[@WoodshedTheory]

i'm glad i am not alone

[@SincerelyLASMR]

"Why did I think going out on a Saturday was a good idea!?" ... my husband and I every time we leave the house on a Saturday. We always have regret. In my mind I always picture going to these restaurants and stores like no one else is going to be there. Then reality hits in the parking lots and we can't even go in ANYWHERE because we can't deal with the crowding and waiting and awkwardness of all that. So we just get Panera (drive thru) because NO ONE is at Panera after lunch lol! But yes, you are not alone there. I always wonder how can all of these other people deal with this stuff? Like how are there SO many people in these places? Why aren't there more people like us who are like... uh NOT happening lol? It's crazy to me!

[@WoodshedTheory]

it's funny cause like i'm okay sometimes at concerts where i anticipate a lot people but when i feel like the place should be empty that is all i can handle

[@Livinginthegrayarea]

Claire… you’re not alone at all. Do you track your monthly cycle? I have PME and it makes anything I have going on worse and gives me “good” weeks and bad. Each month has its own flavor. My autistic traits become much more hard to ignore. Sensory overwhelm especially.

[@WoodshedTheory]

that is a good idea

[@Livinginthegrayarea]

@@WoodshedTheory sending you love right now and always! Thank you for sharing your journey so openly. I wish I could get myself to.

[@elizabethaucoin6290]

I describe that mood as restless, nothing satisfies, which is why I end up trying to fill myself up with chocolate and ice cream, in spite of the fact that I don't tolerate caffeine or dairy well. It seems like two sides of the same coin; on the one hand, it can really feel bad in that moment when somebody we like notices our autistic traits and gets a look on their face of something like shock. Other times when I see the world marching along, I feel like it's a mystery I want no part of solving and I will never really belong, and that feels like failure. My daughter on the spectrum has said that on those days, she tells herself that feeling will not last forever, maybe not even for the whole day. I am trying to learn to do that without the chocolate and ice cream. It's very close to grief, and grief comes at us like a rogue wave, and you have to find your feet again and keep going. Your knitted hats look very excellently made!

[@WoodshedTheory]

That is a good point - it won't last forever - but then i remember it's gonna come up again, and i'm over it today :/ thank you for checking out my hats :)

[@okitssteph]

I grimaced with you. Things have been tough, but I’m taking it one day at a time. And eating cookies. Cookies are always a good idea.

[@WoodshedTheory]

welcome to the grimace hour :|

[@B13._]

Super excited and big prayers about this being on the panel thing.. Sry you feel yucky.. Truth tho your beautiful lite still shines .. proof.. your grimace is stinking cute..❤ thank you for sharing yourself with us .. luv 4 U ❤❤❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

I appreciate that - thanks friend

[@Holly-tw6bt]

Hi Claire! Sounds like resting up is a good idea today. Your mood today is a lot like mine was last Saturday night, after I'd spent too much time around the same person and was getting very on edge. This morning got off to an annoying start for me, but I'm feeling better and feeling like I've got a "fresh start" for February. (January was... something.) Best of luck repping us autistic adults! I totally get that feeling of "I'm happy to have this opportunity... but maybe I should quit." lol. Also, the health journey... same. I got some bad blood test results and have been trying to eat healthier/exercise more, but every now and then I cannot make myself do those to save my life. It's frustrating. Anywho, take care of yourself and thank you for being your honest self on here. 🩵

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks Holly have a good week

[@ghill8587]

Don’t apologize for how you’re feeling, Claire. It is what it is. I know when I feel similarly, it seems like it will never end, and I have to remind myself that the feelings will change! I think your content has been great recently, and thanks for the reminder about your LOTS review videos! I watched them, but I need to go back and comment. So cool that Jake commented! I thought he seemed like a really genuine guy. Anyway, you’re going to be on a panel AND you have the podcast coming up. Those are both huge things to look forward to, and will be good learning experiences.

[@ghill8587]

I also get what you’re saying about trying to stick to a healthier lifestyle. It’s hard, and although it’s a personal journey, you’re not alone. I’ve made so many rules for myself in the past, and the one that has stuck (and has been the most balanced, I think), is to diet and exercise during the week, and allow yourself a cheat day on the weekend. That way you’re not completely depriving yourself. Easier said than done, though! (And, of course OCD tries to dominate the rule making which makes things trickier). You got this 👊🏼

[@WoodshedTheory]

i hope they do positively for me! nervous!

[@montikarla]

I hate feeling like that! Hope your week gets better from here. I had to go back to my retail job after two weeks off. I had very little sleep and felt like I had a tight band wrapped around my chest all day. I'm making it a goal to be able to quit by the end of March. I ended up coming home and sleeping for 10 hours because I was so mentally and physically exhausted.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I'm so glad you got some rest - i am similar in that after a tough day i need so much rest too

[@AmandaSeacrist]

Heya Claire! Thank you for being open and honest about what's going on. That makes me feel like I am not alone and it's one of the many reasons I love you and your content - your authenticity! I can also empathize with you, as I had a bad week myself. I had a few series of overwhelm because of certain circumstances. I am also trying to eat healthy, but things are getting in the way of that. I had McDonald's yesterday, and I normally avoid McDonalds, but not this time. I just wasn't having it with others and needed to be alone. I'm doing a little better though now. I thought it would be best to withdraw from two of my school courses so I can take care of myself so I have more time for self-care. It's still a work in progress though. I hope this week is way better for you! You are doing great, Claire! Much 💝

[@WoodshedTheory]

i totally understand what you are saying. i also ordered out yesterday because i decided if i was craving a food for two days straight maybe i needed it

[@AmandaSeacrist]

@@WoodshedTheory For sure! No shame in that. Sometimes we need to go out to alleviate those cravings and sometimes we need to because we don't feel like cooking anything due to executive dysfunction. I was both yesterday to be honest. 🤪

[@izzyhendrix2651]

Me too Claire! I have meltdowns in my sleep and my partner tells me that I make a lot of noise when that happens apparently. I have had a hard time with sensory stuff lately, especially smells... everything smells so intense and its been really hard for me, I haven't been able to breathe deep. I am also in eating disorder recovery, it's been almost 4 years of me eating without judgement but man, it's not an easy road... be kind to yourself in all your feelings. I wish I could shop when people aren't there only haha, hard relate. I really appreciate your content, definitely when you aren't feeling great, just because it's real and I feel exactly the same, and that helps to know that we have the ups and downs and sensory struggles and it's all just part of being an autistic human. I also try to treat my mental health hard days like sick days, I let myself do whatever I need to feel safe and cozy. Thanks for being you

[@WoodshedTheory]

Thank you for sharing sounds like we have a lot in common

[@clairemendelsohn7006]

I did love it. So relate to the health journey stuff and the way you describe feeling blech… 😊

[@WoodshedTheory]

thanks claire happy to have you for coffee

[@OldTimer1970]

Thought I was coming out of burnout then yesterday had a meltdown. Up and down, around and around, feel like an aircraft in a holding pattern. Need to land as flying on fumes.

[@cellardoor4182]

Exactly. And it works for me but I only make lists when it's disaster days (weeks). Keep em sacred.

[@WoodshedTheory]

Love that for you

[@jamesnicoll8415]

Don’t apologise for ANYTHING! I’ve been struggling too…the weight of the world on my shoulders…but I’m dealing with it in my own way. Take care ❤

[@WoodshedTheory]

you take care as well James - be kind to yourself

[@gregofthedump]

I'm mainly okay these days. Currently on the maximum dose of sertraline, which helps with anxiety and OCD. Weatherwise, snow has been forecast for Thursday or Friday here in northern England, on higher ground. Perhaps it will encourage me to leave the house, to take pictures on the hills.

[@WoodshedTheory]

I hope you get some snow!

[@k98killer]

I reluctantly went on a bachelor party cruise last month. By the end of it, I was walking around with ear plugs because I couldn't stand all the noise and was tired of having to go back to my cabin periodically to curl up in the fetal position in the dark. They didn't even let me play the piano they had onboard, and I allowed myself to be convinced to leave my violin at home under the pretext that I could practice piano. And to top it off, I got covid for the first time. Took weeks to recover physically and psychologically from that. Only good things were the food, the rum tour, and the MtG sealed tournament (which I won). I have made a few observations: 1. Ear plugs are a major improvement. I often wear ear buds while shopping as a less unusual/more socially acceptable and more convenient (due to ease of adjustment when social interactions are unavoidable) form of noise dampening. 2. Comfort foods are good in moderation. I recently bought some icecream to eat while shutting down for a week and do not regret eating it. Medicine is always a matter of using the right dose. 3. Dropping the mask and stimming freely when possible have been psychologically very refreshing. I had no idea about either concept until a few weeks ago. I hope your week becomes less stressful. Do whatever you have to to get through it.

[@WoodshedTheory]

thank you for sharing - that does sound super overwhelming - i'm glad you were able to take some time for breaks during the experience i need those during long social engagements as well

[@thattitus2life]

I loved raw woodshed! I’m sad that you’re not happy. Because I know it’s no fun. But love that you shared because we all can relate!

[@WoodshedTheory]

Ah I will be ok, thanks for being concerned :)

[@thattitus2life]

@@WoodshedTheory I’m so glad! It was truly a great episode and extremely relatable!