Does The Dumper Ever Come Back?

Does the Dumper Ever Come Back? Explore the emotional aftermath of breakups. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, we discuss regret, longing, and second chances. 🌟”
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[@Loquillo-ck7bw]

They do come back but in try to make contact in very, VERY strange and creepy/dumb ways

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Some do and so don’t. There is no exact science with this, sadly.

[@Caroline_Thedeathofa_sho-br2ut]

What so creepy did happen to you?

[@zeldsfan]

After her monkey branching onto that 1 to 1 copy of her abusive ex, I started to doubt that. Your videos also help me understand and cope with the situation, thanks bro

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Sorry you’re going through that buddy. Her saying no to you means you can say yes to everything else. You’re doing fine.

[@vaultboy911]

Can you make a video on if someone breaks up with you after the death of a family member? It’s been pretty tricky to cope. And she wants space, but it also makes me feel awful not letting them know I’m still here for them

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I genuinely believe the reason for the breakup can become irrelevant, when we look at the end result which is a breakup. Regardless of the reason, she chose to leave the relationship. It’s savagely pain and I get it, but the end result is always the same. 🫂

[@vaultboy911]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick That’s true. I respect the honesty. She gave other reasons like goals in life and a rut she apologised for not communicating. But ultimately stopped loving me after her father passed. It just put me in the headspace of blaming the circumstances, but yeah you’re right. I’m working on myself. I’ll leave her alone

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that man. A breakup is an opportunity to improve, my friend. It’s not all your fault, and it’s not all hers. However, your burden is your circumstances, not hers.

[@vaultboy911]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I will do my best. I spent about 3 weeks in minor contact around once a week me initiating, trying not to give up hope. Then two days ago I decided to block her socials so I can heal properly. Leaving her number unblocked if she wants to talk. How bad do you think I handled this breakup? Just wondering If that’s all she’s think of me after the dust and grieve has settled

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

It’s not the worst I’ve heard about buddy. Put all that energy back in to you now. Silence is deafening so give her all the silence she can handle.

[@anngarci2310]

Nick, my ex dumped me 7 months ago. Right after the break up I called him and begged him, which I regretted. He rejected me and told me he needed to work on himself. I unfriend him on social media and blocked him. I totally disappeared from his life. Sometimes I wonder if he even remembers me or misses me. I love your channel

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that. No one forgets someone they spent a lot of time with, but sadly, missing someone isn’t enough to reconcile. We must always submit to the truth of the situation which is always difficult. I hope you feel better.

[@pdubs1408]

Ill try to share mine. Knew them for 10 years, dayed for 7 LDR. Broke up with me after a weekend of thinking it over. Great relationship, but she had avoidant tendencies. So when talks of the next steps.became.real she left instead of communicating her concerns. The usual " i love you, i care just dont want the relationship" feels lost, scared focus on her self etc.. but then asked to stay in her life and didnt block any communications.. i want to think it was an emotional reaction, but maybe the space is needed. I didnt beg or plea or held her ankles, just accepted it and went NC. Do hope she comes back around for that honest conversation. Keeping my head high that the way i treated her, who ever is next has high expectations to live up to.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that, but no amount of honest conversations will change your situation, so why hope for it? Give that energy to yourself. You’ll feel far better far quicker. 🫂

[@pdubs1408]

@TheLoveFix-Nick appreciate the honesty. This was in January, so still grieving, but turning hope into action. Forcing myself forward and not backwards. Keep up the great content.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you. It’s savagely painful and it’s going to hurt for a while. Try not to force it’s. Feel your feelings and let them out. Try and exercise, be with family and friends and be kind to yourself.

[@shyampukar-kq5pz]

She reached out after 2 months to me get a thing back which she had left in my room, i felt indifferent when i did see her and had to interact with her to give her stuff back, she too was cold which i paid no attention to. After the reach out i have been feeling low and went back a month of the NC journey. I feel her reaching out to get something so insignificant has just hampered my NC and i have to start again. I know it means nothing and all but i wish she didn't reach out. All the pain and heartache feels to be resurfacing.

[@Matt-ee3qg]

My partner dumbed my ass about 8 days ago packed up her cloths while I was at work and moved out. The reason behind this she flew back to her country new Zealand to catch up with her parents and also I found out that she also stayed a night at her ex husband house , told her I wasn’t happy so she packed her bags and left me . Now I think she is feeling regret she is reaching out to me !!!!!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Ah man that’s rough! But here’s the thing. If she doesn’t respect your boundaries, she doesn’t respect your, herself and therefore is a bad partner. I hope you feel better.

[@Matt-ee3qg]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you very much I needed to hear that god bless 🙏

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

You’re doing fine man 😊💪

[@brianm5637]

We broke up after I found out she was building a relationship with someone else. We were together for 4 years and had a wonderful almost perfect relationship right up until the last week of it. It hurts badly, I miss her, but I don’t want her back.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that man, but if the relationship was almost perfect, she wouldn’t have cheated. Therefore, I encourage you to reexamine your relationship and work on yourself to level up.

[@brianm5637]

@@TheLoveFix-Nickyou are 100% correct. I lost who I am due to the comfort of the relationship and fell into a depression I could not snap out of, and I refused to get help for.I think this became too much for her to deal with. Breaking up hurt really badly for a week, but I took the initiative to take care of my physical and mental health. Looking back, I did idealize her as a person because she treated me so well, but I overlooked some of her negatives that really made us a mismatch.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’ve totally been there man. Love and be kind to yourself. Her cheating was totally the wrong response, so she can get f*cked! Focus on you now and become the man for the better woman you want to attract.

[@rogueranger7989]

Game Over means just that . Move On to the next task.

[@millwallfan06]

The intro was the exacts words it went down for me. Ah man. When will this hurt end. I have a stubborn ex.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you. The pain is savage. It does take time, but I promise it better with working on yourself and time. Take care of yourself. 🫂

[@depressing_reap969]

It will end once you work on yourself. Energy\pain cannot be destroyed or created. Energy can only be transferred so start on something beneficial no matter how small. Use your hurt as power to make yourself someone new. You weren’t enough, so, do you want to be enough?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

They are enough, it’s just we’re never right for the wrong person.

[@millwallfan06]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick it’s just super tough when you have kids with the women. And because I’m an amazing dad. And don’t want to shock them, with there mothers choice. I pick Them up and drop them home from school everyday. And try to act amicable.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you man. It’s horribly tough. But if the situation were reversed and it was your choice, you’re allowed to feel that way, no? Your ex is also allowed to feel how they feel, regardless if you agree or disagree. It’s far easier to have the mindset of, she is who is, she said what she said, she did what she did! That’s out of my control. I can only control what I do now. I hope you feel better. 🫂

[@T-dawg87]

My ex left me the week before Christmas, sadly we lost a baby in September and looking back now I could see she was pulling away. And even the night she told me we needed to split I could tell she didn’t want to but she was struggling with her own demons. We never went into no contact till recently as she was still saying she loved me and was telling people she was struggling with the break up. Then out of no where I was blocked on everything and heard she was with someone else. To say that hurt is an under statement. 3 NC now and I miss her more than ever, and I always wonder if she misses me and is doing all this to distract herself or is she really moving on

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

So sorry for your loss buddy 🫂🫂🫂 I hope you can find peace and relief soon. Yeah, her being with someone would hurt. She’s employing someone new to take her pain away.

[@guitarsphysics]

My ex I was with for 21 years just contacted me today saying she can't afford to eat or pay her bills...she's still with her affair partner that she left me for.. I do feel bad for her but I can't keep helping her, she should have stayed at home and did what she did to me.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

She made her bed, let her lie in it. She doesn’t get relationship privileges from you anymore. Let the new guy feed her. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

[@VanlifeNoonan77]

At age 50 , I had a 10 year relationship with a nice lady .. I had my issues , like drinking and making lots of bad choices . We ended it . mostly me .. well, at age 65 I cleaned up my act , no drinking and a clean life . I did reached out and apologized . She said please do not contact me again .. Just saying . people change and can reach out at some point .

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m glad you’re doing better, buddy. 💪💪🤟🤟

[@User-wollswoycegawage]

When she said please dint contact me again you should have said ok so is That a maybe

[@VanlifeNoonan77]

@@User-wollswoycegawage haha ha

[@EyeBelieveSo]

It’s been over a year of continuous growth and I still miss her every day. I really feel like the universe is telling me our story isn’t over. Do exes ever come back after that long or am I crazy?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Buddy, the universe, or your limbic brain deploying evolutionary survival mechanisms? This is called projection of your preferred outcome. It’s okay to miss her, but you can’t convince yourself that the story isn’t over. If she did come back, that’s the start of a new story. Either way, the previous story ended. I’ve had cases with one to one clients where exes have come back after 5 years, but until then you must surrender to the truth of the situation and act accordingly. Stay strong.

[@EyeBelieveSo]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I understand completely and get that if/when she comes back, it will be a new story. I’m not going to let my instincts of the love I feel for her get in the way of my growth. I haven’t over the past year and I don’t intend on stopping. Call it intuition call it hope but after all the women I’ve dated during this time and the lack of any real connection happening tells me my instincts have to be right. Anyways, thank you for the response, your videos are awesome 👍

[@BreakTheRules2011]

​@ALXB93 dude, I don't mean to be harsh but after a whole year you're living in your own fantasy here. You can't put life on hold for a 'maybe', and I use the term 'maybe' lightly. I would assume the end. Why would you want to hold on so long for someone who has shown they don't want to be with you? It's not fair to yourself. You are denying someone right for you the possibility of being with you and denying you the possibility of being with them. You were okay before you met them and you will be okay now/after. You have oneitis for a woman. Watch their actions not their words. Words come cheap. Her actions are telling you all you need to know.

[@EyeBelieveSo]

@@BreakTheRules2011 yes I understand exactly what your saying and your probably right and I’m just being crazy. I’ve just really put myself out there for a few girls and even when we’re intimate I can’t get my ex out of my head it feels like I’m cheating or something. I feel like the universe or God is sending me signals that we just need to be apart in order to both grow individually before we can be together. Idk what to say man it’s this strong spirit feeling I’ve never felt with anyone in the past who’ve I’ve easily moved on from. It’s like our story isn’t over yet.

[@tomasbrcek8528]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Mine came back after 6 years of no contact, just out of nowhere after me and my now second ex broke up.

[@128e93b]

I'm in a gay relationship. My boyfriend wanted a breakup months ago. It was a shock to me during that time. This is my first relationship. It's serious and long-term; we live together, and I am an adult now, so I am fully committed to it. You can't imagine how devastated I was when he said those words. I haven't moved out yet because the city we live in is expensive. I lost all emotional control for the last two months. I begged. I pleaded. I got obsessive. I have a secure attachment style, but after that, I became anxious. I didn't recognize myself during that time. I became literally crazy. Now I'm fine. We still live together. We've become friendly towards each other. I'm moving out next month. Though I'm still hoping for us to get back together, I really want to take some time away from him and just focus on myself. I'll be doing three months of no contact, and hopefully, I'll be fine after that.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that buddy. It sounds truly heartbreaking and I hope you’re okay. I’m glad you’ve stabilised yourself. That takes strength of character. You will be okay.

[@nativejabroni1555]

My ex got in contact with me around 3 months later and said she missed me and was messaging me daily. Few months later I realised that she was just trying to get some closure and wanted to see how I felt about her and my regret was entertaining this and telling her how I really felt. If this happens again then I won’t react like this because once the dumper ends things with you, that’s the end you should never get back with them.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thanks for sharing. I hope you’re well. 🫂

[@nativejabroni1555]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick All good, I started to move on from the 6 month mark thanks to your channel A lot of channels I’ve watched before which I won’t mention “ahem ahem” are all about getting your ex back etc and not getting ourselves back which is most important

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you man. Self focus and work never fails. You’re doing fine.