When Clowns and Bullies Attack: 13 Winning Ways to Protect Your Feminine Confidence!

[@VintageAfro91]

I finally understand what Chloe means about making our anger “expensive.” My grandmother tried to bait me into an argument the other day and I didn’t get angry, I remained calm, I listened to my intuition and left the room. She didn’t even know how to react.

[@deej5608]

AMEN CONGRATS QUEEN

[@VintageAfro91]

@@deej5608 thank you! When I can sense the situation transitioning into an argument, I say to myself “abort mission” and I leave the room immediately.

[@GrowEvolve78]

I'm proud of you and I don't even know you.

[@GrowEvolve78]

@@VintageAfro91 I did that few months ago when I saw an argument starting to pop up. I said to myself " Uh uh. Nope" and turned my head away.

[@ajohonly3721]

Super girl 🙏🏿🙌🏿

[@alunaling2745]

“Whoever tries to bring you down, is already below you.”

[@imandalton4227]

Well said

[@imdifferent7294]

Yes!

[@zainabmejja9936]

I NEED TO FRAME THIS!

[@andreak3294]

@@zainabmejja9936 right, i gotta put that on my quote board!

[@________1516]

Wow, that’s powerful

[@Hispaniola.]

Dusty men hate it when women are thriving in confidence.

[@Itsmarylynn]

Facts

[@katharinecrockett]

Yes!!

[@sheritownsend7525]

Beautifully stated.

[@patiencempirirwe5449]

Guys like @oshay duke Jackson and his dusty followers detest confident women.

[@zaria_treasuress]

I tell you! I’m getting me a man that’s income is over 400k, has a credit score of 850, and is a great man and has father like qualities. I’m not lowering my standards for anybody 🤷🏾‍♀️ I deserve to live a big house with an expensive car and shopping sprees with a GOOD HUSBAND ✨

[@IVMusicc]

When a Woman takes care of herself, you are setting the tone on how a Man should take care of you 👸🏾

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

I learned that this year 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sunnydaze80]

Yes ma'am!

[@cherylmia]

Amen! God literally brought Chloe to save my life and future...

[@youngcoby7029]

Lol yea sure

[@kheleecebrown1799]

Exactly 💯.

[@hunybee5558]

Blocking and deleting without apology is a priceless skill. It is just as valuable as getting up from the table when you don’t like what is being served.

[@CinemaDoll137]

Crazy how I see this now 💀. I'm so prim and proper always trying to calmly explain myself and apologize if they think I was wrong. I need to start blocking people just because.

[@igobyana]

My mom thinks i am mean bc I do this even after an apology there is no need to be friends or even talk you if you are not treating me the way I deserve to be treated

[@newjerseylove1373]

LOVVVVVEEE IT!!! Part of my brand for Peace beyond understanding is the POWER of THE BLOCKED COMMUNICATION! Thou Shalt Block those that perpetuate Confusion AND distraction in my life and rescind the invitation to have access to me. In JESUS NAME

[@veeedgee]

I swear Chloe's message becomes more potent & valuable as I continue to mature!

[@aleayahart7985]

Girl I call it the positive part of my ego that protect me from drama and toxicity

[@sodivinemagazine5593]

“You’ll never regret loving yourself.”

[@paulinaguzmova44]

You’ll never regret protecting your peace and your confidence.

[@mariejilberia5908]

It's our job, as women, to train men of how to treat us! We cannot keep pointing fingers and keep blaming them for treating us a certain way. If we don't like how we're being serve at the table, we should have the free will to leave!!

[@Penelope416]

@Alessandra Gabbana That's the thing is not everyone is the prize. It's good to see yourself as worthy but the "I am the prize" has been overly used at this point that it sounds cliche, narcissistic or egotistical. I'm not trying to contradict myself however there is a difference from seeing yourself as worthy but being humble versus being arrogant. When men and women use that phrase, I often question their sense of humility and self awareness. Many people who say "I am the prize" are usually people who can never old themselves accountable, blame everyone else for everything, and think they have no faults or flaws of their own. In reality, it couldn't be further more from the truth.

[@PHlophe]

Alessanra, you are looking out for yourself FIRST. that's how its done. Puriodt !

[@cleopatramyers6134]

🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@jazminerenee4077]

Amen

[@adampower9757]

you get treated the ay you behave. You can't control others

[@kathyalex778]

Cutting out people that caused me tons of trauma and pain was the BEST thing I've ever done. Yes, they hate your confidence and they hate it when you finally realize your worth.

[@Stainless009]

Confidence repels bullies

[@LateshaRenee]

The quickest way to be masculine is arguing with "pick me" women and dusty men.

[@ak-47intelligence75]

True.

[@CinemaDoll137]

Yuppp

[@elizabethowens8548]

Yes

[@veeedgee]

Facts!!!🎯🎯

[@ajohonly3721]

A group of women in my circle are hating on me for having a protector and provider of a husband. I run my house so I make time for sports and shopping during the day,they can’t do all that because they’re in office the whole day. One is even having problems with her little girl not calling her mama but with her name . And they try to put me down every other day saying like how do you enjoy your husbands money or asking me what do I do the whole day Like seriously I have 99 jobs at home .

[@ajohonly3721]

@Just 2merky I’m seeing that I cut down the time I spent with them. Doing it slowly.

[@mariamjackson2994]

Same here. We need to be friends

[@TheJournalingSoul]

Sounds like you need some new friends.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Well done for achieving the lifestyle you want. I am happy for you and I don’t know you..Those women, associates are jealous be careful they don’t try and poison you mind against your husband and what he’s doing for you. I would slowly but surely distance myself from them. Who doesn’t want a protector provider man!? They’re demons.

[@cupcakesparkle4335]

Girl they jealous of you period!!!!!!

[@jessepera2457]

"I exist to be cherished" "I do not commune with ppl who speak ill of me" "I clean and wash the words I use to describe myself every day"

[@adampower9757]

look into yourself perfect human specimen

[@MultiChiedza]

Self love will save you everytime ladies 💕

[@HeleneGLmarie]

Always. ✨

[@sodivinemagazine5593]

“You’ll never regret loving yourself.”

[@lovenosa1105]

Don't ever outsource your self-esteem. If other people are entitled to opinions of you the you too are absolutely entitled to an opinion of yourself and have every right to pick the best opinion. Of course, the way to maintain self esteem is doing esteemable things (self-care, self-improvement, living generously etc)

[@doelala6679]

People have problems. Don't let them get to you ladies. Take every criticism with a grain of salt and keep it moving!!

[@mobutter2879]

Take compliments, with the same grain..❤️

[@kessy7671]

Right

[@mary.33]

amen

[@fortunatemahlatse2710]

Treat yourself as sacred and precious!

[@joniajohn4716]

❤️❤️

[@sheila4035]

If somebody has the ability to take your confidence away, you didn't have any from the beginning. I understand heart feelings, but "Nobody" should have that kind of control. It's not easy, but know who you are. Great Post!

[@sheila4035]

I am glad you do. We all deal with the same thing at one time or another. Happy Holidays!

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

When my husband and I started dating, all his female cousins hated me. I told a colleague at that time and she said, “it’s bc you’re feminine. You AND your husband are career people but your husband still takes care of you despite the fact that you can take care of yourself.” One factor all these female cousins had? They all had masculine energy and were the ones with careers and breadwinners. Their husbands either had random jobs or no job at all. I really didn’t know this was something other women think about , it’s wild.

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

@summer glow I don’t know if this might be the case of hating on feminine energy too but his MIL is weird about this. I asked my husband for a peloton for my bday - it came down in price last year and I was able to do some overtime where it could help with the payment. It’s also good to keep the quarantine weight away (no gyms were open yet) and it was motivating for my husband- he’s soo good at spin! For some reason, my MIL ONLY refers to our bike as “HIS bike”, even though it’s MY birthday gift. I work out all the time but I’m super low key, whereas he loves talking about it. She knows it’s OURS but only refers to it as his bike and his classes... I’m out of the equation. Not to be petty but it makes me feel annoyed, especially bc it’s my birthday gift. I don’t need praise from his mom and he’s told her it was “ours” but 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lizastufflococucs6200]

I think part of the problem is for some of them, they don't think about it, it comes on a subconscious level. Their pschy is protecting them form the realization that they lied to themselves about what they wanted, and now their whole lives are based on that lie, or were brainwashed into a masculine role,

[@lizastufflococucs6200]

@@BeautifulDreamerK Either let it go, or if you are curious do a test, find a way to let her know everytime you use it and see how she reacts, it will be very telling. Personally I would let it go knowing that I use it for me not her, and who cares what she thinks, it seems your husband has a spine and spoke up on your behalf -as a true protector would. If there are other things she does that bother you then you'll have to look deeper into it. You don't want a MIL that is actively looking to sabotage your relationship. I once stumbled on to a support group for people who had MILs like that, and there is a clear pattern of theses types of toxic MILs

[@everyonedeservestogohome2949]

Yes. This is so important. Please please please sisters, stop going to these types of men or women for advice. Get therapy , work on yourself. Having degrees, money or career does not give you true self worth. Become a feminine woman not just female.

[@MsKaren-tb1lx]

Amen👏🏽

[@nieceylanair65]

I agree. Just learned this message last year. I had to go to therapy to figure out who I was outside of my accomplishments. Therapy has help me gain self-awareness, but I have more work to do.

[@everyonedeservestogohome2949]

@@nieceylanair65 all the love sis ❤ for what you are and becoming

[@nieceylanair65]

@@everyonedeservestogohome2949 Thank you ♥️

[@cnmuchina00]

One key thing that I learnt through my feminine journey is PEOPLE WILL TREAT YOU HOW YOU TREAT YOURSELF. If you hold yourself in high regard, trust me, people will feel it. You don't need to tell them, they will know it and treat you accordingly. Some will try and push your boundaries and it is your job to maintain those boundaries. If at the start of a relationship you have set certain standards, don't bend them in the relationship because once you do, you've opened the door for more to be broken. Simple example; is if its not in the laundry basket, its not getting washed. I dont care if its was touching the laundry basket, half way in...I'm not washing it. My husband took a few weeks to get it but after lots of unwashed laundry he realised I wasn't playing. Women tend to mellow and become accomodating as we get comfortable in the relationship, don't. If you talked that date night should be dress up and high end restaurants, don't compromise. Go to the local restaurants on other days but not date night. It might sound exhausting but its better than the treatment you get being low maintenance 🙄

[@DynamicallyDC]

Agreed, knowing the difference between constructive criticism and damaging criticism is crucial! 🙌🏾🌹

[@patiencempirirwe5449]

That man was out to damage her ego,he beat her down,and she's an attractive lady,only that she lacks confidence in herself.

[@cleopatramyers6134]

It is scary, many do not know the difference. Smh

[@paulinaguzmova44]

Exactly and then distinguish hidden intentions of damaging critics.

[@CG-no7js]

Disrespectful men will still mistreat a woman. Even when you tell & show them not to do so. My abusive spouse never changed.

[@mrs.bernard5415]

These DUSTIES will bait you into arguing your precious femininity away!

[@dmoon6137]

Add #14 log off social media, or at the very least take a break from it. Much off these attacks are via online.

[@veeedgee]

by people with no REAL lives. I wish social media would shut down for 6 months. How many Dusty’s and dust bunnies would be thriving then?

[@ceemac304]

protect your energy

[@k.e.5886]

I always wonder why I'm not well liked and people will put their insecurities on me. I'm confident and happily single and they say I will die alone and I must have personality issues because my so-called friends was always disconnecting from me bc I was not loose and gossipy like them. I love myself and I rather be alone than have fake and negative people around me. Thank Heaven for this message and finding this today!

[@k.e.5886]

@@sunni9044 Thank you 😊❤

[@kilimanjaro5537]

I told a male associate of mine that I’ve never dated anyone and that I was fine with that and he was dumbfounded. Like I used to care but that was when I thought my worth depended on someone else validating me and not myself. I currently don’t have any friends nor relationship but I like it this way 😊.

[@k.e.5886]

@@kilimanjaro5537 I always needed my relationships to work...but not at the expense of my peace. I give too much, and not many can handle my value. Good for you for loving yourself, I feel like I'm not missing anything either if it's not worthwhile.

[@mlovely9829]

I get attacked all day from both men and women. I never respond 🙂.

[@luckylu9780]

I see you are a bueatiful classy lady people hate that keep makin them sick remember put your self first and walk away from negative sneaky underhanded people chile they everywhere.

[@luckylu9780]

🤣😅🤣😂

[@DailyPositiveAffirmatives]

@faith umuk This is such an underrated truth. The seething envy some black folks express simply because someone takes good care of themselves is sickening. Taking pride in one’s appearance isn’t about “stunting” on anyone else, it’s about loving who you are to put enough time to properly care for yourself. Looking good also helps one feel good-not sure how this is threatening to other adults.

[@ChandlerWorthen]

Smart girl 🖤

[@Glad2BGolden]

Are you able to remove yourself from that environment?

[@fortunatemahlatse2710]

Recognize trauma dumpers! 🔥

[@aminataaminata]

Yes, it's such an important skill to have.

[@angelicaa.3062]

Any tips ? Thanks

[@amandaspaintinglessons9908]

@@angelicaa.3062 They use you to vent to, always complain about their family or ex issues, hardly ask you anything about yourself or your life, You feel drained or negative vibes long after you've left their company.

[@joanneclaire1045]

Why is it always the dark skinned men like Kevin Samuels so cruel to black women. Why would women phone him for advice. Wonder what type of parents he had or has

[@LoLilGurl]

This video reminds me of Gabby Sidibe & Bernice Burgos vs. Twista situation on IG. There are nasty amount grown ass men on the internet who would rather attack you than flourish in life. Sad

[@katalynbabe]

Yes

[@theselfcarechannel9895]

Twista cant talk cus he look like a gremlin.

[@watchyamouth22]

@@theselfcarechannel9895 right !!

[@paulajones5929]

Do not put your self esteem into the hands of strangers. They will not have your best interest at heart. Facts. Thank you chloe. ..really needed this.

[@murphymomof9]

Once again, Chloe, thank you for such an excellent presentation! This 52 year-old white woman going through a very difficult divorce after 30+ years of marriage (and raising 9 children) is challenged and inspired by your words. I'm writing your points down to refer to--because I think they're worthy in and of themselves, for women to apply to their lives, period. I used to get frustrated thinking the husbands should *know* better. But my pastor would say, "YOU need to teach him. YOU need to say no." And I'd think: Huh? What? They're grown men and can control themselves. Why is everything on the woman? But no one is benefited from a woman giving in, and going against her inner voice. Every time we give in to what doesn't feel right or prudent to "keep the peace", we lose our confidence--which, trust me, negatively affects us and our self-worth (and our children's) in the end.

[@watulooknat770]

You are a very smart, intelligent, and beautiful woman, I hope everything goes well in your life 🤗.

[@true4585]

Interesting. Thank you.

[@murphymomof9]

@@watulooknat770 How incredibly kind of you. Thank you from my heart. I wish this for you, as well!

[@murphymomof9]

@@true4585 Awww...you're so welcome. Thank YOU. :)

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

My block and delete game is 10 out of 10. Happy in this area. No regrets. 😀

[@Lynn.B.]

Chloe_, you touched on something really important: the fact that one of the primary goals of destroying a woman's self-esteem is to make her easier to exploit. When you're unable to recognize your own value or worth, it's far easier for an undeserving person to tap into your inner and outer wealth without giving you anything of value in return. IMHO, being able to recognize this strategy is not only important to avoid being exploited in relationships, but also to avoid being exploited in the world at large. Every where we turn, we are likely to encounter sociopathic types who want to dupe us into believing that who we are or what we have has far less value than it truly does so that they can obtain the benefit of it more cheaply. Whether it's other races or genders who want you to believe you are for some reason inferior, or buyers who want to lowball the value of what you're trying to sell, its important to have your own well-defined sense of value so no one else can succeed in projecting theirs on to you.

[@nataliejo336]

That sacral chakra, womb space, yes!

[@iheartURhair]

Preach, Chloe! You’re saving lives! Your information has transformed my mind since I discovered you this summer when I was in a low place. I’m on the mend in isolation now, but when I show back up in the world, it’ll be completely for the better. I’ve already done a lot of evaluating and enacting boundaries these days. Your advice is holistic and funny advocacy. Thank you!

[@TheNewFeminine]

@@katherinesavarese6009 ❤️❤️❤️

[@purposedpatience6597]

thank you!!!! omg im being bullied really bad on fb by 5 women that hate me because of a dusty man i got rid of! he is a narc and they are his flying monkeys.. i work out 5 days a week and studying to be a personal trainer. They hate it because im 47 and look younger than them all. Thank u Chole im doing everything youve stated

[@GalacticIndulgence]

"Consider the source " is some of the most sound device that I've used over the years. It brings so much clarity. Even when you say it directly to a person their reaction to it is telling.

[@karmathephoenix2474]

This lesson applies to family members who attack and try to drag you down. Good video!

[@truthtellerus6437]

Ok girl glad you covered this! A black man at work told me I was ghetto and called me a ‘shanqiana’ because I look well and put together at work glad I found your channel 😌💁🏽‍♀️

[@riagreen9294]

The dustacity!

[@katalynbabe]

Haahhaa

[@radiantly_fatime]

🥰🥰😂

[@Lovelyone1]

You are the definition of femininity and class!! I love how you did this without uttering “his” name. I aim to move even more like that as much as possible. Thank you for being such a great example!!

[@glittergirl1915]

Yes! It was hilarious.

[@yoshiscurlyhair4324]

Loved it! She quietly showed the biggest Dusty of them all. Lol! Protect your energy ladies. Especially when dealing with men like * the woman hating man in the picture* Lol! Thanks for this video.

[@msphae319]

Agree

[@TiggysTC]

If I could like this post a thousand times I would.It's funny I went through a situation online just last week where a couple of low vibrational, low self-esteem having bullies tried to project their insecurities on me🙄🙄😂😂My block and delete game is very strong.👊🏾

[@amyhenderson4447]

Not a lie was spoken!! Thank you for sharing. I've started working out again, and even though I don't see any physical changes yet, my confidence is on Kanye level!

[@kimberlygraves744]

Chloe passing out homework like that one teacher that new you had potential.

[@JamesIssacNeutron3]

Right!

[@missshannonsunshine]

This is right on time I was just talking to my friend about it. I have a lot of self loathing problems due to abuse and I’m trying to see the good in me but it’s hard. Staying single has helped though

[@MsKaren-tb1lx]

Sounds like you put years into habits of self-hatred, so now is the season to take valuable TIME towards a new mindset of self-worth, love, pride and dignity. Be BOLD enough to say and think kinder things to/about yourself because "you are what you eat" applies to physical AND spiritual food🙏🏾

[@missshannonsunshine]

Ms Karen thanks! I’ve been listening to “ how to unfuck yourself” on here and it’s really opening my eyes. He says similar things and it’s true. It’s time to stop living in the past and letting other’s perceptions of me become my reality.

[@jaybae7315]

The bottom line is this is war ladies. So stay suited and booted on your level up journey.

[@feliciawilson1763]

I look at my last situation as a example. I had no business dating him although he was a nice guy. He chipped away at my self esteem the whole time until I didn’t even think I was worth any more than what he was offering. I’m so glad I’ve always had “extra reserves” of confidence and ego stored away because I needed it to walk away. Once I walked I could tell by his expectations and the things he said that this is what we as black women have been allowing from low value men and it made me so sad. Smh. I look at him now with his boring conversation, unattractive average appearance and emotional unintelligence and I get mad at myself all over. Like I said very nice guy but had zero business over here. I’ve decided to do the work on myself so that I will never accept nor will a man like that feel confident enough to approach me.

[@NaomiMordi]

"Nice guys" are terrifying nightmares. (Queue crack of thunder on a dark rainy night.) Flee from them.

[@BChery]

That Kevin Samuels man hates himself

[@YonnaTheTruth]

He needs healing after 3 wives divorce him for being weird. What type of grown man makes a show off of bashing black women and single mothers he needs therapy.

[@french2572]

I never watched him except for last week. There was a lady who called in and she was a little nervous, we could tell. He was being so very rude to her and it made her even more nervous. I thought that was harsh. I still don't watch him but he just gives off energy that you don't want to be around.

[@YonnaTheTruth]

@Rainbow swirling Island girl Right it’s honestly disturbing more than anything he probably should baker acted to the nearest recovery center.

[@coleemerald4094]

😷

[@malimal4972]

You just mad that everything he said was the truth, could of had better delivery, but you know and I do that he was speaking facts. If not , where did he lie?

[@user-lq1ub6sm8m]

Period. I had a trauma dumper tell me my boyfriend and I were ganna break up by November whole time it was herrrr that got booted out my life by November. Couldn’t be happier to be surrounded by people who would never wish/ predict something like that for me regardless. Also it’s a women’s responsibility to set the standard and a man respect imo. Thank you soooo much Chloe you’ve moved and confirmed my journey a whole lot

[@lovebug6388]

I believe it's both. Men are not mind readers yet they pick up on clues on how to interact with women based on what does/not allow. They also need consistent feedback. I have come to realize that a lot of us weren't taught how to treat ourselves properly so treating someone else with care is a foreign concept. Also, we weren't taught boundaries so how can we know what they are and when they've been crossed? The very people in our own households under the guise of rearing us violated our boundaries consistently. Some more than others. These things are being learned & re-learned as we interact with other people daily. There's predators out there looking for the weak to devour and conquer them. This is why community is important. So you can have a safe place to learn, make mistakes, ask questions, and strengthen your resolve.

[@missxgx1]

Teach the man, how to treat you, always be willing to walk away. It is not worth it

[@Pinkpanda811]

Yes! So much power in walking away.

[@candicekirkland761]

Hey Chole, I believe a man should treat a woman with care. Not all men think like this. Also every woman should tell a man what she wants and doesn’t. I don’t really believe it is teaching a man but communicating with him. If he is reciprocal he will understand.

[@XtoCee]

Sorry, but men aren't your slaves.

[@lorriekelly964]

Ain that the truth ! Why is it that folk will try to Bring you down ? A Enemy can be your Man or Ex Men you had ?Also some of your so called friends ?

[@juliesantana251]

Still working on making my anger expensive

[@plutooliver686]

I was always in awe that my confidence triggered others so much, because i always promoted others to do the same for themselves? I suppose what hurt was i fought for that confidence coming from a narcissistic abusive upbringing and so many abusive relationships which i had complex ptsd that was the opposite of confidence,yet i never stopped trying to help myself and succeed with self care and love 😉 I now just bless them on their path snd keep moving onwards!

[@icedcocoa221]

I can relate to this so much.

[@AngelDellah]

I just LOVE your energy Chloe! You are effortlessly hilarious and always on target!!! 🎯

[@Arizona_lilly]

100k by 2021 within 60 days you will hit it. WOMAN WE NEED HER FOR 2021... I 🛑🛑🛑🛑🌟🍬🍬🍬☃️

[@ms.o9989]

Thank you sister. Especially the picture referring to toxic men /individuals. unfortunately the women who call that show are still unfortunately trauma bonded. Please continue work.

[@JMeyer1112]

That guy was so evil for what he did to that lady😔

[@JMeyer1112]

@@truthhurts...6574 yep😊

[@kt11540]

This is law ...yes lord...

[@jlogic1491]

"Broken and distorted crystal ball."😂

[@marisarico7129]

Thank you Chloe, am a Latina and am learning a lot from your channel, I am already very feminine and soft and pretty but I need to improve my self care 💆‍♀️ and set better standards for myself

[@cleopatramyers6134]

Chloe. I just love you. Thank you for everything that you do.

[@TheNewFeminine]

❤️

[@jessicas3359]

oooooooh yes Chloe! You have literally elevated the conversation with clarity, conviction, truth and love! Thank you truly!

[@brittanynicole4370]

To answer the last question, I feel both parties have equal responsibility as far as treatment is concerned, but as women we have to get hip to the fact that our greatest power is in walking away if we KNOW we aren’t receiving proper treatment.

[@mahoganydebills3922]

"Stay Committed To Your Feminine Journey " That was for me. Thanks

[@anthearolle]

😂😂 I knew I would see King Dusty Kevin S's photo in this video somewhere.

[@kingkhiem]

This video hit different. I had to distance myself from family, friends, and negative men. I'm a beginner at this approach but it's working for me and my mental health which is important.Thank you Chloe

[@NinaBlow]

Wow right on time!

[@Onlyrideforeign]

Me too!

[@EarthEnergy2024]

This was one of your best videos. Seems like ever since black women started promoting self love, femininity, and marriage with men who are heterosexual/masculine confident, financially, & spiritually secured this somehow offends effeminate men like Kevin Samuels and women as you identified as masculinas/some black women who co-sign his false narrative. Your quote the other day was so inspiring and I plan on making a painting using your words: The wounds are not your fault, the healing is your responsibility. Thank you for these videos and words of wisdom☀️🧘🏽‍♀️❤️💃🏽

[@LateshaRenee]

I adore my fellow confident feminine women ❤

[@noahplays3698]

The Kevin Samuels shade 😂😂😂 Ladies stop following that man. I don’t see why women call into that show to be degraded.

[@mmashigo785]

Two kids later but so glad I found this channel!

[@kiramc4997]

We teach men how we are to be treated by how we treat ourselves AND its their job to cherish (protect and care) for us. I’m reading “Getting to ‘I Do’ by Sandra Harmon recommended a couple of videos back. I didn’t realize how masculine I was acting even though I’m naturally feminine. Chole and Sandra are heaven sent! It all makes sense and I have much work to do. So glad Chole spoke on Kevin.. I literally cried listening to him bash this lady live awhile back. It was so hard to watch.. at the time I was new and trying to learn. He’s a monster ..seriously. Don’t listen to him..

[@kiramc4997]

@ 😂😂 ...you ain’t lying

[@uniquelykc7755]

It’s our responsibility 100% to teach people not just men how to treat us. I really enjoyed your video and I appreciate the fact that you spoke to us women instead of going after the men. We need to hear this message❤️

[@nieceylanair65]

Great message. The information included here is very true. I love that this video highlights the importance of confidence, self- awareness, and self-care.

[@Azizajewelry]

Your channel is underrated. Period.

[@likedying73]

I've already filled up almost two notebooks full of your teachings, and I'm still writing. Thankyou Chloe, your opening my eyes and changing my life.

[@PhilldellaYve]

Guys please always give her videos that thumbs up before even watching so you don't comment and forget to like, likes also help her channel. And lets please watch her adds religiously, pleeeease. meanwhile, I will now proceed to crown aunty Chole THE POWERFUL GODDESS WITH A HEAVY CROWN OF RESPECT. I am so grateful for her exsistence . i am learning and unlearning daily through your teachings and becoming better, Thank you for passing empowering narratives on me. Sending you so many blessings from Africa with all my love.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@annatl9141]

Thank you Chloe. God knows these dusties ( M & W) try so hard to tear me down with blame & shame. I never let them. I choose God, divine femininity and videos, like this one, who speak to my soul. Always rise above ladies. Regain and maintain your true authentic feminine self. Keep on shining bright 💖💖💖

[@patiencempirirwe5449]

That lady did a disservice to herself,she sat there and took a beating,she didn't bother to defend herself,it was sad watching it.she fell into the trap.ladies we need to wise up.

[@colleenfremont-smith3783]

GOLDDDDD!!!! Thank U Chloe

[@kessy7671]

Right on time,my house mate , sent a wassup message rainning insults at me, and didn’t retaliate her ,saw her the same day and simply ignored her,next step, am planning on leaving the house

[@sipwithkey2067]

Chloe I can tell you were called to do this because it always hits deep 🦋💜 thank you for sharing 💎

[@ayabaforever4970]

I'm getting better at dismissing the dustmites

[@ayabaforever4970]

When they can't gaslight they have nothing

[@thobekamantshongo4458]

Love what you are saying, very true.

[@18QueenHearts]

KS is a weakling lmaoooooooo!! He's extremely TOXIC and delusional and it behooves me as to how some women listen to him. Women, get in tune with your discernment..... that man makes my spirit so uneasy it isn't even funny!

[@chancieb8811]

That’s exactly how I felt on two episodes. My spirit didn’t feel right

[@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663]

The best video yet. Thank you Chloe 😊

[@ShaeDaily]

Upset I missed the live but let me get into it!

[@stephanies9071]

What live, when?

[@ShaeDaily]

@@stephanies9071 my notifications said this was a live video. I think maybe because it was set to “premier” it might be a KZbin setting 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@TheBecksHemmings]

The image of the ‘dusty man’ is so loaded. Point well made Chloe.

[@questionresearch8721]

Pen and notebook ready. I am thankful for the videos.

[@nlrrln6881]

Staying committed. Grateful for this wisdom that helps so much.❣️

[@sigmasiren7]

This video came on my timeline at the PERFECT time! Exactly what I'm going thru & needed to hear right now!

[@shanacooks2796]

Awesome video Chloe and congrats on almost 100K subscribers. It is definitely a woman's responsibility to train anyone on how she should be treated, not just a man. She does this by how she carries herself; how she moves. It doesn't have to be loud and obnoxious or with attitude. You're just cut off or what did you say... block and delete... that part.

[@soniawiththelocs]

I like how you low key handled this. Brilliant! ✨💫

[@kimberlynicole9888]

Shadow work is on my list. I never heard of this before, again thank you Chloe_!!

[@Missjustbe]

Its a woman's job to handle HERSELF with care!

[@Flo-zb8pw]

I just want to thank you for your work - you’ve saved my life - I am naturally nice and want to save the world - I was wrong on the wrong path ❤️ can’t wait for more videos

[@jetradaniels9528]

I'm probably echoing others, but I sure hope sis sees this video. 💜💌

[@makebacunningham6795]

Stay Committed! I had to end a conversation with a guy who I thought was a King but turns out that he was the worst communicator and tried to shame me for not agreeing to his supporting trump ideas. It got personal and I kindly exited the conversation because he deserved my absence