Dr. Gabor Maté On Why So Many People Are Feeling Lost Right Now & What We Can Do About It

[@Patricia-ok1cd]

Dr Gabor is so knowledgeable and they manner in which he explains everything so we understand ourselves. Society needs to change the format of how we parent , love, behave, .people need each other to survive this world. I'm in depression with anxiety and it's very challenging and the loneliness hurts so much. Keep up your great work Dr Gabor You too Doug. PEACE AND LOVE TO THE WORLD.

[@Patricia-ok1cd]

Im learning and love Dr Gabor

[@carinapalmer21]

¨The Possibility of healing is present all the time.¨ such a good quote!

[@sewingseeds]

My dad was never ever embraced by either his mother or father. His large family (he was one of eleven)was headed by an Irish grandma and his sisters delivered the comfort and affection. When I was little if I was upset I could sit on dad's knee and sob it out. He always kissed us goodnight, tucked us in .... He tried hard to break the chain

[@EdithCasines]

@@sewingseeds I did the same with my kids very hard! Sometimes they made me angry. They did not listen.! and I would smack them in the arm! they were very fresh cursing at me and that hurt me so much because I try so much to be a good mom!

[@peijuechen]

I follow Dr. Mate ‘s talks a lot, but it’s First time listening to Doug’s interviewing him, , Doug , you are asking very good questions.

[@davidsharman5151]

Thanks Dr Gabor for sharing your knowledge. you're way of explaining why we feel the way we do makes so much sense to me and has made me understand more about myself and my relationships with others. Thank you. I will ring my local bookshop tomorrow and try to order your book.

[@yallisitme7292]

Powerful!

[@junerose-sommer5494]

He is a truly remarkable man!!! I'm totally addicted!!!! He's always spot on. Truly so insightful!!!

[@soledadmcnally]

What a fantastic man, Dr Gabor

[@janetklumper6048]

With a wonderful woman at his side, thank you Mrs. Mattee❤❤

[@deborazandbergen6358]

Sholom means wholeness

[@mariabuckley1749]

Thank you both for this wonderful conversation. ❤

[@annbrozovic3495]

"Time-In"! YES, TY!!!

[@donnaleecriss8692]

I have 3 adult children all actively engaged in addictions from my family trauma. I'm 73 yr old & have glimpses of awareness now after tears of healing. I'm tired of my journey & have belief my children can heal. Tough tough life path

[@liz-iy6zm]

I feel for you. its painful to watch this epigenetic trauma ongoing.

[@soledadmcnally]

You have been chosen my your family tree to heal - you have the strength- best of Luck

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤😇 😇 😇 😇 ❤

[@sandracaezza7234]

Speaking about addiction & never facing the trauma. In my ex I saw this many times. Recovery/relapse, rinse repeat. I believe Dr M is do powerfully right I sat in many therapy sessions & now hearing this outlook gives me so much clarity. I had to surrender to our life that did not improve. I’m grateful everyday for finding these insightful videos. My surrender has allowed me to heal & move in a healthy direction.🙏🏻👍🏻

[@DerpStick-gv1fp]

Absolutely. That's a very difficult realization for most of us. Happiness comes not from hounding our desires, but in accepting and in valuing what we have.

[@suesjoy]

Good for you. I’m a recovering alcoholic. My husband still drinks. We are much happier when we are in different countries…hmmm.

[@missbeaude]

Great analogy on triggers. It’s a Boom moment for me.

[@yvettehammer3129]

This was very good to hear and makes me feel hope to keep learning about myself and others.

[@cjn2714]

Towards the end at 1:30:40 Gabor is talking about if children get angry, the parents may withhold their child’s only source of healthy attachment by sending them to their room or somehow create distance. I could see that it would be very confusing for a child when they see their parents arguing and getting angry with one another and don’t get sent to their room, that would be very confusing for the child on top of everything else.

[@johnmuench6459]

Great Information & Insight’s!!! 👍👍😁🙏✨✨✨🙌

[@user-turbomamba24]

Dr. Gabor Mate, thank you. Yiou helped me realize I was abused emotionally as a child by my mother.

[@Patricia-ok1cd]

I'm in so much pain. Do you think antidepressants work?

[@suesjoy]

I wish Gabor could revise AA/12 Step programs. I am sober thanks to AA and MA, but I always struggle when I get to step 4. I’ve realized why- thanks to Gabor. I am perfect, and God has already forgiven me. I used alcohol and pot to self soothe. I harmed myself and hurt my loved ones. I know this. There is no NEED for me to go back to my earliest memories and talk about all the awful things I’ve done, enumerating them to heal. It makes NO sense to me. I am at peace now, and I KNOW God has forgiven me. I don’t need to revisit the past and re-traumatize myself!

[@suemiller8426]

I read your statement, I said you do whatever works for you. I can only say that the Doctor is saying helped me to see that what happened in the past is done, there's nothing anyone can do to change it. What I learned for myself is that I didn't deserve to be treated the way I was, when I looked at the trauma that they had suffered I knew I had always been right. They had done to me what had been done to them, just the knowing that it had nothing to do with anything I had done. What happened is all on themselves.

[@YouTubeShepherd]

I think the only time we need to go back to the past is if we get triggered to behave or think in a certain negative way & then we may need more inner child healing. Apart from that I agree with you 🙏

[@AnnOdeon]

I'm addicted to this guy, he makes so much sense!!!❤

[@sandrameza1644]

Mind our language, be interested and enjoy but not addicted.

[@ConsciousConversations]

🥰🥰

[@ConsciousConversations]

@@sandrameza1644I think it was in fun.. I’m sure Dr Mate has said it is important to have fun and be playful:):)

[@helenelevesque2974]

@@sandrameza1644Mind your own business. If he enjoys being "addicted", that's HIS CHOICE.

[@sandrameza1644]

@@helenelevesque2974 Addiction IS my business.

[@sandracaezza7234]

TY Dr M for talking about being present. It is so hard for some to go deep into the pain. This was the best I’ve heard on how to regain our true selves. I am 10 mo out of a 24 yr marriage to someone with a reoccurring relapse situation. Being away from his life has made me so aware of what was missing in his recovery. I truly hope he finds & wants to learn the deeper problem. I have also taken this time to heal my inner child. I feel better than I have in years & really appreciate The Myth of Normal. Surrender for me was the only way to prey that he finds comfort, in self.

[@EdithCasines]

Hello Dr. Gabor! I wrote to you a few times! Because I'm having so much anxiety! That I'm losing my mind! I told you my parents left my country! And they went to Venezuela! We are very poor! Because they did not speak the language! And because of that! Not knowing a language, it took a long time to learn! I never felt loved! I was always bullied! Even my brother and sister! In the school, they call me retarded and idiot! I know I have ADHD! Because I feel my heart! So the abuse made it even worse! I was very sensitive to noise! Even as a child, I could never sleep with Noise! I think you insane! When you cannot sleep! You can lose your mind! I know I made poor choices in my life! But I was never a bad person! I was always generous with people specially my kids! My mother told me that when she left my country, 🇭🇺 when they were on the boat to go to Venezuela! She said there was a horrible storm! And I was in a crib , she said that was about 10 months old or a year old! And she said that I was crying and screaming because the waves were banging the crib against the wall with very big force! , And see photos of me as a baby! I'm always frowning smiling! All I do is cry😢 I can't even cry anymore. I think my tears are dried out.! please tell me if this is something to my brain, the shaking in the boat! Tell me this! I am desperate!❤❤ szeretlek sokat❤️❤️❤️🙏

[@janetklumper6048]

❤❤❤😢😢

[@lynnnestor7985]

Absolutely loved every piece of content. Although not unfamiliar we do need to hear many many many times to deeply FEEL how to access our power to return to our wholeness - which is always just waiting🙏🌈 thank you for a wonderful interview.

[@christineplaton3048]

I have healthy anger. I have the right to express what was not good. I need to consider my options. It's a chance to make necessary changes. Never be taken for granted. We each have rights of personal needs. They cannot be met by others deciding how to live. The addict is weak but when they take back their power the person becomes strong. Self protection is a power. Within the range of normalcy the ego lesrns to self protect. Life goes on instead of stagnating.

[@janetklumper6048]

I totally agree to that❤

[@bellelacroix5938]

Parenting practices that we talked about did I miss that this to me is the best of what Gabor has to offer. Thanks for setting up this scenario and write this dialogue. (ttrigger warning: unbearable jarring ads!)

[@k8sl]

While listening to this, after I stopped weeping, I bought your book. ❤

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@alazra]

Thank you. Most helpful video fron this Healer.

[@dougbopst1]

Glad you enjoyed my convo with Gabor! What was your biggest takeaway?

[@percubit10]

I need ti be doing something to keep myself busy

[@ayushimathur27]

Thank you. This is the best interview of dr. Gabor mate. Great questions really helpful

[@dougbopst1]

Really glad that you enjoyed this! What was your biggest takeaway?

[@ayushimathur27]

My biggest take away is that 1.we get triggered not by the person, trigger is small part in a pistol, the fire is inside the pistol. We can ask ourselves wonder why am I reacting that way, compassionately. 2.compassionate inquiry - where is a 'NO' getting stuck inside us. And we can be curious about it wonder why this fear of saying no coming from, what is the story behind. 3. We need to be authentic, we may loose some connections but we will have better relationships in long run. Overall I like the podcast because you reacted to his answers just like me. So it was relatable :)

[@Bosslogq]

One of the best interview I ever saw! Thank you so much ❤️

[@3meandyou]

So I see here people relapse? Don’t forget the body want to refer back to what it’s use to those compensatory habits that are unconscious. Through understanding one’s journey Exercise and practice how far you e come and don’t forget the journey. Thank you Dr. Gabor 🙏🏽

[@MsHumble4]

That day I heard my Parents crying for they missed their family, friends, the food, that beautiful land, everything, they were speaking in a different language. My Father somehow must have noticed my pain even though I was not looking at them m, I was pretending to play with something else…Then, still in that different language, he spoke that I could understand them. And then, I straight away looked at my Father ! That meant he was right, and they never again said a word of their suffering in front of me. But it was much too late. There indeed is a God ! God helped me, and the funny thing is: in my prayer to God, I wasn’t asking anything for myself… Suddenly, everything began to happen! That same early hours of the morning! Since then, I am still living in awe. If not God, who is it then ! I believe the help came from God! I am happy with my own company and my budgie , the plants, reading too! And of course, God is a constant in my mind!

[@deedee9312]

It seems that the entire world has addiction ..good bad or indifferent.. the world is out of control! ❤god bless us all !

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@nelp8236]

Thanks for this insight on triggers and protective belief🙏

[@Ollie-s7x]

I think I find aspects of sobriety harder. No numbing, just constant pain

[@lightchloe]

Does anyone knows the name of that preasoner the one who meditates

[@Angela-ju2mk]

O my goodness. This is so true.

[@A_n_y_t_i_m_e]

37:04 Introjects

[@SuzieQGirl]

❤❤❤

[@Patricia-ok1cd]

How does talking supposed to heal people?. Im hurting mentally. Why do people disrespect me

[@DerpStick-gv1fp]

Gabor is a treasure. I see him almost on par with Jung.

[@thejoshelator]

I love this video but there are an unreal amount of INTRUSIVE ads that distract from the message! OMG!

[@zovalentine7305]

Gabor Mate MD PhD ❤

[@angelacadieux1972]

I gave up alcohol 19 years ago. The healing journey can take awhile and it's not all roses. Life will always have shitty cards for us. We just need to learn how to find peace with the past, find our purpose and fall in love with yourself. Mentors are essential. Sending much love folks 🤍💛❤️🖤

[@deedee9312]

Well said ! Giving up substances that are toxic is so crucial ! We get our joyful life back ❤ peace ☮️ 😂

[@arturasstatkus8613]

Thank You.🤝

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@jean6460]

Great job Doug! 🙏🏼😍❤️

[@misovuletic]

Gabor is top....I am aware of everything that got bad in my life....And I don't know how to manage it

[@janetklumper6048]

I could never talk about it with my parents or my brother, so sad😢

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

What is the name of the man on death Row that 🤔 Gabor speakes about? Anyone know?

[@drbev]

I’ve listened to dozens of Gabor Maté podcast interviews and this interview was one of the best I’ve heard. Well done!

[@boocs20143]

Amazing interview!

[@veronixawardwell8802]

What happened to your face? I hope you are ok.

[@vivianmoore3205]

I have learned so much about myself by listening to this message thank you.

[@dougbopst1]

Glad you liked it!

[@nickj.7876]

Same here my friend

[@userx578]

​@@dougbopst1I got my first smartphone in 2015. About two years later I started to feel unwell, psychologically. People who owned a smartphone earlier than me, started to feel unwell earlier than me. Almost all the people I know, have a kind of problem that appeared in the past decade. When I don't use my smartphone for a day, the next day I find myself feeling better. That's my theory, but of course not exclusive.

[@leadarren8145]

If we read Bhagavad Gita As It Is we see and understand that Krishna is the Supreme Personality of Godhead. There we understand karma, reincarnation and how to go back to the spiritual world where we originally came from.

[@proudchristian77]

They don't get done, they see your weakness & beat on it til you move. Y i did. ! my late Hubby smoked stuff , we had 38 yrs of marriage He died 8 yrs ago , alone time will beat you too ! Y i think we have to get beat to die , death is rest ! 💝

[@joycestern8557]

I enjoy most of all you say unfortunately I find it difficult to hear you, your voice is soothing but I miss some of your words.. I hear all your guests well.

[@ElviraTay]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡

[@Aliya-gh2ec]

He should be a born-again religious preacher.

[@bratSebastian]

Natural selection allows only healthy specimen to procreate. Because we're in the hook-up (anti-)culture, you can hide your issues, disorders and traumas before eventual sexual partner, and use a help of chemical substances like alcohol to get to the act of procreation, although it wouldn't probably happen if this person got to know that dark side of you first. Being honest and letting the other side be conscious of what is participating in is the least you can do to lower the risk of making other innocent people involved and forced to deal with your problems. As a low status middle age male with low income that I am staying away from places of higher risk of getting drunk with other people, is more than eough in my case. I do remember when I was younger of men in my current age, humiliating themselves by coming to tables with strange young females and talk a bs to them so maybe they can get laid just to satisfy some animal instinct like they were unreasonable creatures unable to communicate with others on a level people of higher culture should be able to. And all in a very unnatural way of intentional stopping eventual conception of happening which makes sexual acts like they were just using drugs to feel better for a while. And this is actually the case of making those 'good news' hormones against specification. How they cannot see how embarassing it should be for a human being. Anyway, soon we shall all be doomed and humankind stopped from taking this any longer. 1 or 2 generations of chinese people living finally in socialism not forcing them to work for what they consume (which the western world does now on credit of people of Asia).

[@trudythiele3663]

Sooo many adds! Ruins the continuity of the message

[@christineplaton3048]

Spiritual limbo. Numbing and was spiritually abused. Exactly my question. I lost my sense of God. Prior to that I had a healthier , but perhaps connectedness. It's gone. I sang liturgical music but was abused by spouse and church. Why believe. It was a worthless action. Nothing helps. Im marginalized and alone.

[@annrenee3265]

Do something you love, swim, sing, shout. Focus your attention walk barefoot on the grass, take up yoga, qi gong or tai chi. Keep doing it every day - don't give up. Everything you need is all around you.

[@k8sl]

When this cloud comes down on me, as it has lately, I remind myself of what is working, so I can recognize it’s not 100% pain, also I read posts like yours and know I am not alone, therefore, neither are you. Third, I make myself get curious about what it is that is coming up, and remind myself that life always has another idea in store.

[@bridgethunt7836]

Believe in yourself, the outer things change, people can often disappoint. It’s totally learning to be your own bud! Help yourself, it’s a smorgasbord! Life is God! Look for God in everything 🤗🙏

[@robynhope219]

One thing I never felt is lost...everything else, but not lost. The poor man is showing his age twice over. I re member Gabor from 25/30 yrs ago when he gave free talks in Vancouver. I bought his latest book...and while I don’t agree with everything in it, it is nonetheless an interesting and thought provoking book which everyone should read.

[@bazil800]

what are the things you dont agree with?

[@robynhope219]

@@bazil800 I am very opposed to psychedelics, especially for mental health. People w sensitive nervous systems should never use them.

[@jenniferfulljames1685]

I heard him say that he does not agree that psychedelics are the end all be all. I know he would suggest the person be counseled accurately to see if they are a candidate. There are other ways to get the results as he often states.

[@robynhope219]

@@jenniferfulljames1685 idc what he says about it. I consider it contraindicated.

[@intheworldbutnotofit8002]

I left because too many too many “god” references 😒

[@christineplaton3048]

I never understood it thats true. Remember the weakness, the addiction, but you must have a healthy self respect. In addition to a healthy desire to avoid the occasions that could weaken again. So behavioral modification practices. Not embracing weakness, knowing self and remaining strong apart from weakness. Not the alcoholic mindset. AA is wrong to do this. Its the vestiges of Christianity. You know the bad point you spin the compass into a new direction. You dont go down that path again. You avoid the people places and events that took you down. If your friends are weak cut them off. If your town is corrupt change towns or combat the corruption. How can you renew restore repurpose revitalize without making necessary change. As Dr Mate says , there will be growing pains. By facing the truth you see feel touch reality. People who dont live realistically are not helpful wholesome people.

[@k8sl]

I believe there is a grey area in this perspective where on a good day, I see what is going on around me as I perceive it to be much more my reflection than their reality.

[@letsseewhathappens814]

this guy looks depressed AF

[@christineplaton3048]

The whiny early stages are the beginning. When you dont need a group anymore you can live on your own. Are you a child forever? It was like early efucation. Adapt a new lifestyle move on get your grip on reality and live.

[@DJSTOEK]

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