Downsize your life to downsize your stress | Esther Stoel | TEDxBreda

The answer to downsizing your stress is downsizing your life. Learn to be vulnarable and enjoy what you have
Esther Stoel is a creative and innovative entrepreneur. Starting at a very young age she pursued her passion and wanted her own design agency. In 2013 she founded PerQua, currently a design agency for catering and food businesses.
After experiencing several hardships in life she wants to use her experiences to inspire others and give strength to those in need. She has given several inspirational speeches to people who struggle with autism, anxiety, depression and burnout.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@priyokabi]

It is not for everyone but a simple life is always good

[@phyliciajoykloes]

This is what I want: a tiny home and a world full of adventures waiting for me.

[@VytalityEU]

andthenifellinlove After I gave this TedX talk I had a year full of travelling; because I saved so much money from rent and expensive junk and my mind was free to focus on the work I love and my business started growing. I have been to Japan, Caribean, Spain and I moved to Athens now. I still do what I love and travelling had made me so rich in experiences and friends!

[@phyliciajoykloes]

@@VytalityEU Thank you for your reply. That is awesome! I bet you grew from your travels. I hope I can say that in five years too. You proof that it can be done.

[@globalmuffin2]

@@VytalityEU could you please tell us how do you succeed to befriend strangers? because i've been in a resort every year and now on new year's eve i haven't received at least one text message.

[@VytalityEU]

@@globalmuffin2 I'm sorry to hear that.. We are all different people and myself I'm an introvert that is only extravert when surrounded by the right people. So I can't really tell you what to do since I'm not the most social person, but two things: in order for people to care about you, you also have to care about them. So do you reach out yourself to other people the way you want them to reach out to you? It's a two way direction. Second is to surround yourself with people that understand you and care about you, it's not a bad thing to leave people that don't belong in your life, we all take different roads sometimes and we always have to choose what is right for us and who we want in our circles. I have left so many friends and family in the past because we were moving different directions, holding on to people that don't belong in your life is exhausting. So try and figure out what you are searching for in others and find like minded people and invest in your social life. When I feel lonely i tend to hide myself from the world and break contact, while in the back of my head I know I should reach out to people and ask for help and tell them how I feel. You can't sit in a corner and expect people to magically know what's wrong, you have to do something yourself too. I hope you will find what you are looking for, the best wishes for the new year to you.

[@Pinayfarmgirl]

It is interesting and amaze me that the life that the most people are sought for nowadays was the life I had growing up in the Philippines. We can just walk in the river banks and find beans, papaya, guava, avocado and other fruits that nobody planted. But, the thing is, when you grew up that way, you always wondered what the outside world looks like. How it feels to evade scarcity, how it feels to have electricity, television, to be in an elevator, to have a nice clothes, shoes and such. It is a fact that we people are always wanted to try a different life and environment to find happiness.

[@shreyaqian4873]

Hear! hear!👍

[@vgardner1688]

Preach! I'm in the process. It feels so good to purge useless stuff. Clutter sucks.

[@VytalityEU]

Thank you so much for adding my TEDx Talk to your list, I feel honored! I hope I inspired a lot of people :-)

[@hariduttkataria4783]

Really very good speech , inspirational, motivational

[@VytalityEU]

@@hariduttkataria4783 thank you very much for your comment, glad you found it inspiring, have a nice day :-)

[@bigmikesto]

I think I am in love!

[@seymurhamidov2310]

Hi Esther. Nice Please check your facebook messenger dm.

[@BluntlyBlondie]

One of the best things I took away from this is that if people are feeling suicidal they should do a bucket list. Something like OK I’ll kill myself right after I do these things. I bet you that 90% of them won’t Kill themselves.

[@VytalityEU]

Heather Walker Thank you so much for your comment! Actually what you are saying I took out of my Tedtalk because when I made that bucketlist I was suicidal and literally thinking “I will kill myself next year after I finish the list” and then so much changed...

[@ValerieMartin923]

That was so bright of you to say that ,it just could work for the need of help in someone

[@hazelflynn2344]

Esther Stoel oo

[@celloafterdark4173]

Hopefully they put years of therapy on the list too...

[@dollys9936]

You are a brave woman! Have a great life and enjoy to the fullest. God bless!

[@DemecosChambers]

So needed this! Thank you. Stress is physically harmful as well as pshycological. Great advice on how to override it and anxiety.

[@FelisBoudria]

Love your talk.

[@Laurenelizo]

Really enjoyed this TED Talk

[@JessicaR_KY]

❤ thank you for this talk

[@Swanky95472]

I wish they would show more of the pictures that she was showing

[@artivedi3887]

Swankster mini houses...type!!

[@judyepstein1]

Very good video!! Thank you!

[@lorikorstanje2964]

Great encouragement I didn't see the pictures she was showing

[@JaiTuljabhavaniMata]

She's so braveeeee !!!👌

[@darlal2698]

You have a great humor. I throughly enjoyed your talk.

[@MyaSareeGray]

I love this!

[@mangoyacho]

Bravo bravo kudos to you!

[@LordOneHoop]

Speech less

[@VytalityEU]

LordOneHoop Thank you, what inspired you the most? :-)

[@sarahwhitehead1052]

Some people don't have the option to just not work..i moved out at 18 and there is no way I could have gone back home I wouldn't want to burden my parents..you get past the stress you work it out you keep pushing.

[@VytalityEU]

sarah whitehead Thank you for your comment, I understand everyone’s situation is different and I myself have been living in a trailer for a while because I couldn’t go anywhere else. If you keep going, you will get there! I know even in the darkest hours it’s hard to see the light, but if you feel like there is nothing left to lose, remember there is only to gain! Thanks for watching my talk ❤️

[@wisepersonsay3142]

If you enjoy earning money regardless of circumstances, there is no stress. When I had a hateful job, I focused to make my managers and customers happy. Then, I enjoyed the job - no more stress.

[@4242gg]

Thank you

[@acer4237]

Government doesn’t like tiny homes and minimalist…it’s less tax revenue and no fuel for the economy

[@shirleywong4333]

Please do more

[@wisepersonsay3142]

''Speed and Aggression''. ''Greed and Egoism'' These are some causes of stress. People work better with decent amount of stress, though. In order to reduce the feeling of ''stressed'', prioritizing and organizing are needed. Caring and sharing with others also reduces stress and incurs joy and satisfaction. You can do so much with little. Get rid of all the junk. Declutter. Be a minimalist. I'm suitcase-ful, so that I can enjoy moving places and travelling to places I want to see. Stuff-less makes me extremely free. Many average people try to look good and capable - that alone is stresser. Be natural and assertive to say ''no''. When you learn how to live with manageable stress, you'll miss it. Ha, ha, ha.

[@VytalityEU]

Wisepersonsay True! A healthy amount of stress is needed to stay focussed. But there’s a difference between healthy stress and painful stress, spending your days doing things you hate doing is so destructive and people only realize when it’s too late and so hard to repair. People too often think they don’t have other options but truth is that they don’t want to let go of things in order to reach those other things. Security and trying to fit in society is much more comfortable to most, until you let it go and realize that none of it matters 😉

[@ValerieMartin923]

I'm glad to have come across this page thanks for the input,I'm Valerie

[@valeta84]

A bucket list doesnt matter if you are homeless.

[@VytalityEU]

Depends on what you put on your bucketlist, in general the things you focus on most will grow. If you focus on what you don't have that's what becomes a bigger and bigger problem, until you start focusing on what you do have and you will realize that the positives will grow. I have been homeless for a little while and so have some of my friends, by taking baby steps into reaching their goals I and them managed to grow and get out of that situation.

[@lahaza6515]

I'm just happy to see that Dracula is in the audience at 9:50.

[@misssicily100]

holland is so cool

[@renehenriksen1735]

What if nothing makes one happy? SERIOUSLY nothing,,,

[@marleneflourentzou680]

Then you get a cat

[@user-ec8zt9if9i]

0:08

[@dingoniner5528]

:30 in and NOT.

[@jimboslice9472]

Good thing she put those feed sacks up

[@artivedi3887]

Increase in weight has. Caused problems..ndno real push every day..no help to rearrange that's how 80%is lying in cupboards

[@monaelias2154]

I don't have $30,000 for a tiny house. Wish I did.

[@withyoctopus]

mona elias I'd rather buy a cheap old house and remodel three rooms. It's a cheaper alternative.

[@kauigirl808]

Do u pay rent

[@VytalityEU]

I didn’t buy mine either Mona, I rent it for €150 a month exc electricity and gas, total €250 a month, very affordable for anyone 😊 I am not going to buy property unless I get too old or tired from travelling. After I gave this Tedx talk I had a year full of traveling and I moved to another country even! The changes I made to my life gave me so much freedom.

[@rawveganfruitarian7290]

Move to central america. Live in a grass hut. Its great

[@sherry450]

Sorry, I’m done hearing “burn out”, I had to leave as soon as I heard that.

[@mohammadhassanzarei1173]

Drink some water

[@Michael-4]

Public speaking. First, get attention.

[@globalmuffin2]

traveling is physically stressful and it has a pretty great potential of eroding one's self, as everything to see there are drunkards and stoned people in search of a quickie.

[@Swanky95472]

Imagine if she grew up in a 3rd world country, where here LIFE would depend on working.

[@VytalityEU]

I have no idea how that would be, even though I grew up in a family that went from one hospital to the other and lived on foodstamps, in a 3rd world country different issues would occur. Nobody knows how I would have been in that situation. It doesn't really matter, we don't get to choose in what situations we a born and brought up, we have to just deal with the tools that we have to make it work.

[@charlotterandall8738]

Couldn't listen to this. Tired at 17? Are you kidding? Do you have any idea what a tough life is?

[@ThePoodling]

I personally think she has something like ME which is a medical condition. It has nothing to do with a tough life. It can affect anyone at any age

[@thomask837]

Stopped watching after a minute. If a speaker needs to resort to cheap props from the beginning it doesn't say much for the content

[@anniemedrano1317]

Thomas K not true! It was fascinating.

[@creativecorner4715]

It's good