Dr. Becky Kennedy On Stoic Parenting Advice, Emotional Regulation, And Raising Great Kids

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@BattlePuppyJIM 9 ай бұрын

I started watching this episode today after I upset my girlfriend because I over reacted to something I should’ve seen coming. Within the first minute the podcast there was already something I needed to hear. Thanks Ryan

@mattlang1184 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for having Dr. Becky on

@miniharez 9 ай бұрын

oh to be a kid in this day and age with the easy access to all of this internet information 🤣 So me as a kid without this stuff, dealing with wildly emotional/rage parents, always walking on eggshells, to me in my mid 20’s to mid 30’s, 10 years of heavy alcohol abuse, and now 4 years of sobriety, about to turn 40, I am now learning how to start regulating my emotions😆

@garlicgalore 9 ай бұрын

Good to hear you are finding good info, and it truly is never too late! At 60 I'd rather know these things than not. Best is that my grown children and I talk and share about what we're finding out. It is indeed a great time for accessing info and understanding.

@Retro_Sean 8 ай бұрын

❤

@churchill19708 8 ай бұрын

Welcome to the club! Learning any time is better than never! ❤❤❤❤❤

@miniharez 7 ай бұрын

its true better late than never!🫡

@vadimilin1019 6 ай бұрын

With all of this information, to find a gem like this one has to look for a needle in a pile of needle shaped rubbish.

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

Positive reinforcement, understanding, respect as individual equal no matter age and size, self discipline, kindness, unconditional love..

@thesmallcheval 8 ай бұрын

Stoicism is my anchor. Thank you for all your teachings and podcasts, Ryan. You arrived right on time ❤

@garlicgalore 9 ай бұрын

It is truly Great to see the information about Emotional Intelligence and Regulation getting out to a wider audience. I particularly appreciate the understanding that it's not a single individual's fault, but a damaging legacy that can be changed. Growing up I always knew there was something not good about how my parents behaved but it was inconsistent and didn't fall into the definition of violent physical or emotional abuse. When I had children and found myself struggling and failing to do much better I felt so stuck - I could see the emotional mayhem and didn't have skills at all to deal with it well. I sought help in so many places and was told time and time again that it was normal to lose your temper at times, and parenting is hard. It seemed that no one was equipped to understand what I was describing and the damage was perpetuated into the next generation. Right now my adult children and I talk about our respective childhoods and share the things we're learning thanks to videos like this one.

@kevinadsoda 8 ай бұрын

FINALLY - my two favorite authors / influencers together at last - my life is complete!!!!! I have both books on my nite table and read each alternatively daily - amazing content !!! - Thanks Ryan, Thanks Becky

@MarshaHines-e9e 6 ай бұрын

Dr Kennedy is so amazing in her simple articulation of how children's (adult's) minds work. I have learned so much from her interviews. I find it fascinating that it is the interviewers who begin to go back into their childhoods to analyze their still prevalent issues 😂

@FreedomTruthBoldness 8 ай бұрын

I know so many young adults who would benefit from this. The "New" is seemingly teaching the total opposite of this "mine full of gold tools for a successful mental and emotional life", and that is so terribly sad, in fact I think of the "New" of today as robbery and a course for failure on roads paved with Pyrite Thank you both for being voices of sound encouragement

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

I always treated my kids as equals and they were always well behaved, happy, and healthy..

@billrichmond1110 7 ай бұрын

This was an amazing conversation between two very wise and admittedly human, parents. I’ve been reading Ryan Holiday’s daily dad messages for years. Re-reading stillness is key as I understand how much I need to work on that concept. Also going to buy this book. Thank you both so much for sharing such valuable information.

@scammersnightmare 7 ай бұрын

This is my take. My parents didn't have good parents. They did their best. However, it was still not perfected. I was harmed. To expect them to make any repentant statement is a fantasy. I just hope they won't hurt me emotionally. I distance myself from them. I am happy. I forgive them and am grateful for everything they had done to raise me. In real time, many malicious people will do me harm, my imperfect childhood experience will help me deal with these people. To me, this is what Stoicsim is all about. Be strong and control what I can control.

@hazexavier3987 9 ай бұрын

It's very impressive that they even manage to have this type of Knowledge 👍🏾

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

Trust grace, trust the process, go with the flow, the universe is conspiring in your favor..

@aaronwimberleymbamsf5776 9 ай бұрын

Great meditation to start the day=]

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

Make the best of things better not worse..

@tylerprowe 9 ай бұрын

Love your content Ryan!

@Shnnnzlsmth 9 ай бұрын

I have no children but Dr Becky has helped me deal with “life” soooo much. Great guest! ❤

@kunalhalder6211 9 ай бұрын

Build a better relationship of course with Yourself at first then with others.

@loriallred4727 9 ай бұрын

My kids are teenagers and I struggle to not be reactive. How do you do it and still feel real and authentic when being that way has been such a part of your identity (wear emotions on sleeve, etc…).

@tonyantonioli5655 8 ай бұрын

Great question and it’s the same thing I work on. It starts with putting in the work reading. These stoic ideas are timeless, so if they are applicable to the human condition no matter what time you live in, then you can realize it’s normal to feel that way. But just because you feel that way does not mean you have to react that way. It helps you pause when you feel these normal feelings, and in that pause you can help yourself have a proactive reaction, not a reactive reaction. It’s everyday practice. It helps you avoid the voice in your head that says” I wish i hadn’t reacted that way.”

@PureSparkles22 7 ай бұрын

33:00 reading

@MrSfein1 3 ай бұрын

Is there any way to download as an MP3 file?

@filipmatjacic5751 9 ай бұрын

Can someone explain this quote? “To them that are sick of the jaundice, honey seems bitter; and to them that are bitten by a mad dog, the water terrible; and to children, a little ball seems a fine thing. And why then should I be angry? or do I think that error and false opinion is less powerful to make men transgress, than either choler, being immoderate and excessive, to cause the jaundice; or poison, to cause rage?” Meditations, the sixth book

@mattmotionpix 9 ай бұрын

It means you can choose peace, rather than any alternative. The keyword is *choose*. If instead you choose irritation, for example, you'll begin assigning blame to a point of absurdity.

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

Things happen for you not to you

@PureSparkles22 7 ай бұрын

20:00

@AdamWellborn 5 ай бұрын

Sucks that Dr. Kennedy's volume is so low and Ryan's is so high. Probably the worst way to hear this great interview.

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

Silver linings..

@patrickmartin6040 8 ай бұрын

@SocraticMethodGuy 9 ай бұрын

A woman telling a quality man how he can regulate his emotions... is like a terrorist telling a comedian to stay away from explosives. trust me, ive dated a ton of "clinical psychologists", and theyre ever bit as likely to be batshit crazy in the closet as anyone else who's income relies on them being "normal".

@tonyantonioli5655 8 ай бұрын

Sooo generalizing all women based on your dating history….maybe listen to the content of the info as opposed to judging the woman expressing it…. Could help with future dating as well….

@denismaftei691 9 ай бұрын

you are to arogant

@newpilgrim 8 ай бұрын

Glorious....I'm Buddhist, but appreciate the sentiment. You sort of always have this baseline understanding that life is inherently suffering....so now what? Thanks for this!

@churchill19708 8 ай бұрын

Yes, we suffer and then move forward. We Buddhists then have the simple -think good thoughts, do speak good words, do good actions- or more complicated to see how this isn't good or bad and find the dharma in all things.

@sscarrful 4 ай бұрын

@@churchill19708this is a great answer, thank you.

@noreenmccarthy4956 5 ай бұрын

I was hoping for a Dr. Becky interview where she shares her experience and knowledge... as the title says. This guy seems like a very smart person, yet instead of asking questions that Dr. Becky can dive into in order to share her knowledge and experience, he mostly makes statements, very long statements, that leaves her having to find how she can add to what he said. I dare say if we did an audit of how much each person spoke in this video, she would be at a deficit as he takes the lion's share of the speaking time. I'm tuning in for Dr. Becky's knowledge, so I'm left disappointed in the host/interviewer because this seems more about him and that's not what the title states. I guess that's what they call click bait.

@TheSleekTekneek 9 ай бұрын

Ryan bringin HEAT on a Wednesday LFG

@jenniferperez1944 8 ай бұрын

I f my children ever got upset I was always compassionate, patient, comforting, never impatient, mad, mean, aggressive, punishing, condescending, controlling, manipulating..

@JeffreyMcIntosh 8 ай бұрын

Great episode! I never have heard of Dr. Becky, just downloaded her audio book good inside and started reading with my wife, what a great find! Thank you for sharing this conversation! I just recently came across your work Ryan, I saw your book "Ego is the Enemy" on the bookshelf behind one of mentors and decided to read it. WOW! Its incredible, So many highlighting and great points that are so relevant to my current situation. One of my favorite books in a long time. Thanks for sharing all your content to learn from!