Dr. Fox Helps You Understand BPD: The Key to Emotional Healing and Stronger Connections

[@fallon7616]

Thanks, Dr. Fox. BPD is the most stigmatized mental health disorder. It's also very very painful.

[@Raev222]

I see it as a relationship disorder, because I think I have it to maybe a moderate degree, but I'm stable as long as I do not engage in too close or romantic relationships. But also I don't think I have a lot of the "no sense of self" issue, that might be the reason that I am content alone. My parents might trigger me though, and then I have to go through all of the re-regulating for days... Which sucks big time. I'll be ready to off myself or just move to a different country without telling a soul, never speaking to anyone again.

[@johnhenrymcmahon6878]

Thank you 🙏 doc!! For being here and all your healing work, man. JV Johnny ⚾️⚾️👟

[@JackieG123]

Really good, straightforward look at BPD. Breaking things down in a long video like this is very useful. It’s so easy to miss salient points or misunderstand concepts with this complex disorder. It certainly helped me get a clearer picture at any rate.

[@41sja]

Mind blown on that theory & makes sense. My BPD heavily impacts not only my relationship with my wife, but everyone I interact with

[@DrDanielFox]

I’m glad to hear that the theory resonated with you! Understanding BPD can be a game-changer for relationships.

[@komatsu8169]

I am bpd 1:18 these self governing statements are spot on.

[@BigLala-zc3xj]

I only play the push pull game with the man I’ve been with for four years, I only test him, I only feel abandonment from him, my mind does not care who else comes and goes, I treat everyone else fairly, I’m nice to everyone I meet, my BPD only targets him. 100% in my mind a relationship based disorder.

[@kevintewey1157]

Wow that sounded honest. 🎉

[@joeselkey4404]

Great presentation! Much gratitude.

[@captain8362]

I beleive Bdp is a definetely relation disorder as well..Thanks for this useful video.👏👏

[@NafaelRadalBeats]

Really great video. Thank you so much for sharing this!

[@DrDanielFox]

You’re very welcome ☺️

[@41sja]

It is very insightful. I’m going to watch again. Every time I listen to Dr Fox, I learn something new about the disorder & myself

[@jordsupp]

I dont know if it's a relationship issue, but I've rarely stayed in a job for more than 2.5 years, if that. I've always found a reason to leave a job. For 5+ years now, I've work from home - not 9-5 - with variety of engagements thrrough a central agenc across the country. I get positive feedback from different people for my to output (report writing), and I don't have to deal with routine and the same people. Years ago, I did similar work in a 9-5 job and I got out of there within two years. My sense is that impulsiveness plays a huge part in my decision-making, rather than it being a relationship issue for me. I'm watching my BPD adult offspring, and have started observing a similar pattern: tertiary studies that changed direction a couple of times, the first professional job for 2 years, the first post-grad role is a 2.5 year contract. It's all good (and 100% relatable).

[@LJ-kn7oe]

Excellent presentation. I think it’s a relationship disorder because so much temporary relief comes from isolating from people. This disorder is hell on earth. I’m genuinely surprised so many of us survive it honestly. Sometimes it feels like this level of pain should break even the strongest person eventually. It is really, really hard on those bad days. Luckily I am now good 95% of the time but that 5% still beats my ass.

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You're right; BPD can be incredibly challenging, but it's inspiring to hear that you're doing well 95% of the time. Keep focusing on those positive moments!

[@VeronicaNicole4778]

Yes I would say it’s a relationship disorder. Thank you for the video. I’m currently going through a very difficult time and your videos are really helpful. Thanks

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm glad to hear that the video has been helpful to you during this tough time. Remember, you're not alone in this journey!

[@judusmasamune9523]

Needed this today thankyou

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@judusmasamune9523]

@ thankyou sir, wishing you well also

[@catherine9283]

Your videos are very helpful! Thank you !

[@LLK-LEAD-LOCOMOTIVE-KING]

It's a relationship disorder to me, because the woman I'm separated from seems to do well and excel at her job but when it comes to making our relationship a priority, which I try to get her to consider, where I find myself over functioning for both of us, I tell her that she knows better to not disregulate on her boss , and that's a choice that she chooses to show self-control when is fear involved of someone that does not really care about her like I do, we got to the bottom of that and told me that well she's afraid of losing money, and I said well I guess you're not afraid of losing me, when and if the day was to come that I can't no longer hang on for any traces of changes for my well being.😢💔

[@DrDanielFox]

It sounds like you're navigating a really complex situation. Relationships can be challenging, especially when one person is struggling with emotional regulation. It's great that you're being open about your feelings and trying to communicate your needs.

[@scuttarockz]

From a Bpd , nobody want to go the streets when they fear they will be abandoned. I do have issues with people at work (rejection sensitivity ) , but I do know I need money incase I am abandoned in my relationship and also i can get another job in a matter of days . Getting another partner may take years !

[@homajenabzadeh6131]

I'm so sorry you went through and are going through that. I hope you find someone who will be there for u. In my experience living with BPD, I disregulate EVERYWHERE. There is no controling it someplaces and turning it back on in others. What you're describing sounds more like someone with narcissistic traits, or maybe co-morbidity with BPD and narcissism. Again, hope you can recover and thrive soon❤

[@tamerahelexus3965]

I disagree, it’s not just romantic relationships it’s relationships with people period.

[@mahinshahrier7022]

@@tamerahelexus3965Yes, exactly. Including relationship with the self. It’s a inter/tra relationship issue that affects all domains of life.

[@Itismethanks]

It is a wonderful episode, thank you! Very validating❤

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@RaphaelaAlmeida-g6q]

Thank you! Please, do one more live !!!

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm glad you found it helpful! I'll definitely consider doing another live session soon. Stay tuned!

[@alphadog3384]

Dr. Fox would you do a video about receiving your clinical mental health records. Could you interview a Psychiatric Medical Records Technician. How to make your Psychiatric record work in your best interest?

[@zappm]

Very High Quality in Form and Information! Maybe bring this microphone into your other Videos? ;) - Anyways your content and book helped me so much over the years. Thank you!

[@valerieforeman6326]

The emptiness is major depression...empty...lonely...depressed...they are all just words to describe the same feeling

[@DrDanielFox]

You're absolutely right; those feelings can often feel overwhelming and interconnected. It's important to acknowledge them and seek support when needed.

[@brebeufgarcia1090]

What if they are willing not take any medication?

[@jordsupp]

Plenty of us don't take medication for BPD. If there's a depressive condition, that might be a different proposition when it comes to meds.

[@beb8896]

As to self-diagnosing and confirmation bias, I have been looking for many years for what is it that is wrong with me, because there has always been something wrong, given my emotional instability and failures to be normal again and again. I was very recently given a tentative diagnosis of BPD. My partner of almost 20 years just worked up the courage to tell me how terrible I have treated them and manipulated them since the beginning of our relationship. I feel shattered, both at ego level ( I thought I was the victim for many years) and for unknowingly committing mental atrocities on a person I have supposedly loved and cared for. I am now seeing NPD as a more accurate diagnosis for myself. Given the many overlapping traits of BPD & NPD, is it the pain put on others that levels BPD up to NPD? Or am I devaluing / splitting on myself by self diagnosing with the "worst" personality disorder?

[@100theDork]

Not sure a person with NPD would feel so empathetic about their actions towards their partner…more likely they would gaslight them into believing they are the problem and you are perfectly fine…is it possible your partner has NPD? I know that people with BPD and NPD are more likely to be in a relationship. Best of luck to you both and hope you find more concrete answers soon!

[@neelymurphy6797]

I am bpd with narc overlap and I only realized the narc elements of my behaviors after knowing I had bpd for many years. I think it's the awareness factor. Borderlines aren't as aware that they're hurting others or acting in self centered ways. I am compassionate, always have been, but I was also naturally narcissistic in so many instances that I had no idea. I was often thinking about others and trying to love and help others, and I was genuine about it, but unwittingly self centered.

[@beb8896]

@@100theDork my partner has emotional dysregulation issues now due to the impossible standards I required him to exist in as I slowly & methodically isolated him from friends and almost from his family. Thanks to his strong family ties, he has retained relationships with them, albeit strained ones as they have to cautiously maneuver around me when they interact with him. The enmeshment is so deep, I think my partner identifies as though we are one person. He has always had low self esteem and there are people in his non-immediate family that are likely narcisstic, and he has some borderline traits. Unfortunately, he was primed for my narcissism to engulf him. I know that I am the villain, this is very hard to for me to realize and to write. I have apologized to him, and work on repressing my narcisstic feelings and actions now, but I know that anything I do will never make up for the damage. It is psychologically unbearable to exist like this - not trying to garner sympathy or crying for help by stating that, I just need to confess/express the cognitive dissonance schizoid state that I vassicalte through minute by minute. I don't know if empathy is what I am experiencing since a narcissist cannot experience such. I will call it sheer horrors of self-realization instead.

[@loreleynavia7671]

Dr. fox could a person has simptoms of bpd and simptoms of bipolar 2 at the same time? And how cope or live with this, please ?

[@DrDanielFox]

Yes, it is possible for someone to experience symptoms of both BPD and bipolar disorder simultaneously. It's important to consult with a mental health professional for an accurate diagnosis and tailored coping strategies. They can help you navigate the complexities of both conditions.

[@loreleynavia7671]

@@DrDanielFox Thank you very much

[@lindawest4580]

Why isn't health issues addressed first. Many women have hormonal issues yet Mental Health ignores this and so does doctors.

[@jessicalandry7179]

Yes it's 100% a disorder of relationships.😊

[@stoneyvowell1239]

I thought it'd be relationship related is the only way to distinguish from bipolar

[@DrDanielFox]

It's a common misconception! While there are similarities, BPD and bipolar disorder have distinct characteristics. Understanding these differences can really help in fostering stronger connections.

[@lindawest4580]

Why aren't there any therapists that can bring GOD into the therapy if the person is religious???

[@jamespython5147]

@lindawest4580 I'm sure there would be some around.

[@PRadzzzGY]

It’s an individual choice, if a person is in psychosis due to BPD, you don’t want to add to it by asking them to hold on to something.

[@jordsupp]

Interesting idea. I have a childhood friend who's managed to alienate all of their old friends because they choose to rely so heavily on "It's God's will." It's a bit hard, I imagine, to reach people with that mindset because, so long as it's God's problem, they don't need to take responsibility for themselves and (in this case) their alcolism.

[@claireh.7605]

There are Christian therapists

[@my_freelance_life]

"DUDE, I'm not sitting here listening for an hour!" Establish your premise and provide a solution, 10 minutes at most. NOBODY here has an hour to waste anymore.

[@Willdh1987]

When you say “NOBODY here has an hour to waste anymore” are you presuming that you get to speak for everyone else? You certainly don’t speak for me and you don’t get to dictate how I elect to utilize my time. I’ll back up your sentiment if you convince Dr. Fox to conduct a public poll on KZbin where a rough understanding can be established for those that prefer shorter videos versus long form.

[@DrDanielFox]

I think this depends and it is for those who want to spend the time to learn more about BPD. Doesn't sound like this video is for you but maybe others will be. Be well

[@sagedandy123]

I do. Lol. I'd listen to him all day.

[@petsmart1000]

Well if you can do it better AND in 10 minutes, go for it. 🤷‍♀️ For me, I found this video very insightful and informative. 😊

[@jordsupp]

When was an hour with Foxy Loxy ever time wasted? (I'm teasing just a tiny bit ) I have found that sometimes it needs exactly the right time to listen and absorb.