Drugs Runner Meets Boxing Coach Who Saved Her Life | You Saved My Life

[@scottlaird7137]

The thing that saved this girl was having a loving family that didn’t give up on her

[@katrabbit]

Yes. And that is the minimum duty as parents. To help and keep their children safe. The boxing coach helped out of the kindness of his heart rather than obligation or personal responsibility.

[@kyndred-ry5mm]

@@katrabbit well said

[@matepoon]

@@katrabbit Yes, however it's still extremely stressful and upsetting etc for the immediate family.

[@hertzollner]

luxury

[@VWT6_edition30]

Her parents saved her life…boxing gave her direction and something to focus on and live for…

[@katrabbit]

Perhaps she feels like that's their duty as her parents. Her boxing coach, however, had no obligation to help her but did so out of the kindness of his heart.

[@Stoney1of1]

Boxing coaches do so much for young kids. They need more credit than they get. If you're a boxing coach, well done 👏🏼

[@MR-ty5wn]

I feel like all sportcoaches deserve more credit than they get

[@Stoney1of1]

@MR-ty5wn 100% agree. All sport coaches.

[@minisam1988]

Not just boxing but all Martial Arts, Jiu Jitsu helped me come back to the straight and narrow. And Danny my old coach is my childs middle name as ill never forget what that man did for me.

[@Scot-land]

She's just one tiny part of so many broken souls in this country and we need more mental health facilities

[@Electricdreams21]

We just need to look after children. Most bad decisions as an adult are a direct result of parenting

[@lilme7052]

​@@Electricdreams21100%

[@katrabbit]

​@@Electricdreams21 Parenting. Or lack thereof.

[@shanejupp2175]

@@Electricdreams21I don’t believe that

[@johnjames7332]

The dad taking matters in his own hands and coming for his daughter is what saved her

[@kaptainkaos1202]

My family has been blessed. Addiction runs deep in my family. Mom, sister, brother aunts and uncles all drunks and druggies. My son was 16 and came to us and said he had a drinking problem. He would drink a fifth of vodka at a time when spending the nite at his best friends house or while camping. We are very involved with our children so he wouldn’t drink if he had to come home cause he knew we’d find out. 2 months ago he celebrated 10 years sober. I’m so proud of my son. A wonderful young man, hard working, is polite but best of all sober.

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

It's a huge testament to you that he felt able to come to you with that burden. Many children reach adulthood with those secrets and become crippled by them. So glad for you and your son ❤

[@aaronmachin7325]

As they say "it takes a village to raise a kid" I'm glad this kid found her village before it was too late 😀

[@andybricks576]

100% Correct, I fundamentally believe if we lived such a way, (in a village), we wouldn't have so many sad, desperate, lonely, suicidal people.

[@Shepherd1234]

It’s nice to see at least that she now have 2 father figures in her life. In a time where it is so much lacking.

[@PityOnlyFools]

This title is misleading. Her parents did A LOT to keep their daughter safe. The bulk of the life-saving.

[@saraschneider6781]

But of everything they tried, the only thing that worked was taking her out of the country, so as soon as she came back, it would have been real easy for her to slip back into that lifestyle... this guy was the one that kept her from going back.

[@magnet215]

Its not a competition, they all did what they could to save her

[@pedropierre9594]

The coach could be part of the solution yet you choose to focus on something that bothers YOU

[@Celestia_asmr]

You can keep somebody alive physically. That is what her parents thankfully did. However you can never really begin emotionally healing until you WANT to. If you don't want to no one can help and it's a matter of time. Sending her to Spain was emotionally transformative and that was the beginning of her WANTING to continue to emotionally recover where her boxing instructor supported her. What you decide to go and do when you decide you WANT to recover is not easy, because recovering isn't easy, and she could have completely relapsed if it wasn't for a source of discipline, gratitude, movement and purpose she derived from boxing. She also seemed very grateful and understanding towards her parents and their efforts to. Also at the end of the day although her parents are so important and valid, this is Jess telling HER story. from nobody's perspective and efforts but her own.

[@julivee9505]

I agree, but sometimes you need to ask for help from outside.I think her boxing coach taught her a lot of life lessons, she's just not very good at talking about it.

[@simonbedwell9898]

Well done Paul & family. Together you have brought your girl through some horrific times. This should be shown in schools for any child that needs help can come forward and speak to people like Paul. ❤️

[@JEBossTon92]

I expected Paul to have a gruff, mean sounding voice… you know - a boxing coach. And he comes around the corner and is just the biggest teddy bear and kindest sounding man I’ve ever heard. If we all had a Coach Paul in our corner, the world would be a much, much happier place.

[@tomsparks6099]

So good to see people paying it forward; healing with human kindness and love.

[@ChubbyUnicorn]

Good to see people openly express emotions and gratitude.The Martial/fighting arts helped my life immensely too. Sometimes you have to get the anger out before the love can come in and sport is a healthy way to release the anger.

[@justinpenney499]

I’m thankful to have Don & Paul as friends. As a young amateur boxer I met Paul who boxed for another local club, years later I would follow Paul’s success in amateur boxing and watching him win the heavyweight ABA title at the royal Albert hall. Paul’s a great man and one of the best coaches in our town. I met Don (Jess’s father) in a gym decades ago, we instantly hit it off, he’s a proper old school no nonsense, what you see is what you get character……with a heart of gold. Fortunately for Jess her parent's are fighters, and this has been instilled in her. Now together they are helping the local community and ‘Best be a better you’ was born. I’ve always had the utmost respect for Paul & Don and the amazing community hub they’ve created. I wish them all every success in the future and with the team they have I feel Swindon and the surrounding areas to be truly blessed having them in their community. May god bless you all ❤️🙏🏼

[@thespectre717]

Ayee Paul is a legend, I’m very lucky to know Paul and his wife, they are some of the loveliest people I’ve ever met !!

[@katrabbit]

This is beautiful to read ❤

[@AdamGee8]

I’ve been clean for years now but I know that exact feeling when she says “felt like a kid again” what she’s really describing is feeling real natural emotions again and the happiness enjoying regular activities naturally again, rather than simply doing activities while feeling an artificial high. When I first got sober about 8 days in my sister said something and I died belly laughing hysterically and in that moment it hit me. I actually hadn’t laughed like that in 8 years.. it hit me hard. You almost feel high just being sober cause the misery of needing a drug to feel any emotions is gone, you can just wake up on a beautiful morning and feel breeze and it’s enough. . I even love tearing up over things again.. Wish anyone struggling with these things or family members well! Nobody’s too far gone to make it back.

[@pia5543]

When did you made it back? At what age? I would love to know that please :)💛💛💛

[@hylianchriss]

God bless her parents who never gave up on saving her

[@gillowens24]

She is very brave to tell her story.

[@azeemabdul0]

We need more people like him.👊🏼

[@mbPhase23]

If you’re struggling. If you’re depressed or lost. Get moving. Get into a dojo or training gym. Get boxing or whatever you have access to. It can become a family. An anchor in the turmoil. A lighthouse in the storm. Plus training hard physically and mentally works things out emotionally too. It’s a mind, body and spirit path that can help you get back to the real you because this thing you’re feeling isn’t it. The dark emotions or heavy feelings are not you. They don’t belong to you. But without positive focus point we can all be convinced the opposite. You’re not alone. Be a survivor. Be a fighter. Live. Love and be blessed ❤

[@luke-ti3fu]

All kids should be in martial arts. The things it does to their self worth and discipline it absolutely unparalleled.

[@LordGoofyHead123]

Parents really have a big influence on your life, even if you dont like the choices they make for you at the time. I've been where she's been as well and my mum saved my life. Im almost 25 years old today and 5 years clean.

[@gdaygday1209]

Honestly, THANK YOU for sharing your story and all power to the support system that saved you. ❤

[@rokhnroll]

I have lost count of the amount of times the local boxing gym has been a huge part in people getting their lives back on track in a positive direction. Boxing coaches are the unsung hero's to a lot of people and in my opinion Boxing and Judo should be government funded for under 21 year olds.

[@milliehallaways7468]

Forever proud of you my beautiful girl; you are truely an inspiration ✨💞

[@missfoxcrochet]

I had to go through the same exact thing to get clean. But I’ve been clear for almost 5 years now. Congratulations on your sobriety. It won’t always be easy but you can get through it.

[@APMerry]

Feels like a story about how her mum and dad saved her life.

[@geoffkeil3135]

That strong young woman would be a FANTASTIC speaker for youth or young people who have fallen into the drug scene. She's lived an experience and a turn around that a lot of adults would have spent an entire lifetime to get through. Incredible story. CONGRATULATIONS TO HER for what she has achieved. Massive respect to her, her coach Paul and her family for what they have done. Amazing.

[@MightyMarshall]

Paul Rogers, what a great man, great ex amateur and superb boxing coach x

[@ThePeterBurke]

Well done Jess!!! Many congratulations!!! You and your story will be an inspiration to many. So pleased for you and your family!!! Keep up the great work.

[@Javid_74]

This video is lovely, and is such an important story to tell given the epidemic of addiction amongst young people today. But her family saved her life, they truly went above and beyond. Her boxing coach gave her a new path forward.

[@dansactive756]

Paul I recognise you really bad I don’t know how or why but you are a credit to this planet. You really are

[@martindavies6758]

Well done all!! They all saved that girls life and they should all be proud! Amazing well done Jess

[@AbigailBrown-wk7xl]

Jess is incredible. Jess is an inspiration to us all. Jess is a survivor. Jess is a fighter. Jess is living proof that no matter what you go through in life there is always light and joy in life . Paul jess's trainer deserves the recognition and credit for what he has done for Jess and her family ❤❤❤

[@joshcox4564]

Good on you Jess. Credit to everyone that's been there and most importantly your a credit to yourself!! Emotional watch but it's a problem all across the UK and needs to be highlighted. Keep up the fight and keep achieving 🤙👏

[@maggialbiez]

Very very good parents, a fantastic coach and a strong joung lady ready to help alot of joung strugeling people, wonderful story ❤

[@jeangentry6656]

These are the stories we need more of.

[@StephenLMW]

I loved her reaction it was pretty special, I’m looking forward to seeing more of these

[@DJCoachCookie68]

Oh wow. What a story. Thank u for sharing Jess. I'm so pleased U were able to recover. I too have had my problems and have felt suicidal, but fortunately I'm still here We need to look at the reasons why people take drugs in the first place and to hopefully improve situations for people before this happens xx

[@michaelbrennan2664]

Impressive story wish them all the best, inspirations to all

[@Justin-td4bb]

Sounds like her parents saved her life. Not to detract from what Paul has done.

[@chitstirrer1]

Nice story. It’s all about H.O.W. Being Honest, Openminded and Willingness.

[@Christian988.]

It's nice to see turned out well in the end. And that it does indeed take a village to raise a child. no one person can do it on their own it's a collaboration of efforts, but Her Father's a real one he went to the ends of the Earth to pull her back from addiction. If I ever have kids I'd strive to be that committed to my child.

[@dallassukerkin6878]

One thing that brought home just what a maelstrom this was is just what a little girl she was when it was all going on. That shot of her when she was starting in boxing showed that she was still just a child!

[@VictorKrese16]

While I agree her parents had a big roll in her getting on the straight and narrow, boxing gave her direction. For her as it seems, boxing and this coach gave her focus and strength. Most people that are addicted to drugs have an addictive personality. Without her becoming “addicted” to boxing she most likely would have relapsed. This coach most likely has as much skill in interpersonal relationships as he does boxing. What a touching and inspiring story.

[@Darren-xd1yo]

I have watched this so many times. It reminds me of wot I beat. But reminds me of where I am going again.was hard the first time. Thank you for reminding me there is a second chance.

[@majkolsson7192]

It is interesting to me that if you look at top level female fighters, boxing or MMA, sooo many of them are sooo pretty!

[@BigglesBurgers]

This was totally awesome to watch. Heart felt,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,HONEST.

[@preciousonejewel]

her dad saved her life... boxing helped her keep going.

[@edmondkent4493]

What a fantastic story - thank you!

[@loudloveen]

If you have the courage to take part in a boxing fight you can overcome anything.

[@AVeryStableGenuis]

Wow, very emotional. Thank you for sharing. ❤

[@ashleygormley6523]

Jess it's fantastic to have family and in this case your boxing trainer to help you through some awful times but you should always know YOU have done the hard work to be where you are today..be proud of yourself and no you can face anything going forward head on..respect 👏👏❤

[@DanKissinger]

Very good message thank you!!

[@magicalgibus3006]

Amazing parents

[@moyjuju6022]

Well done girl, thats a champ for me..

[@loveuniceoh]

Her parents went through hell and back.

[@b.mcw.]

So did she.

[@paulbowman1762]

GOODLUVM TO BOTH OF THEM 🙏♥️👊🥊🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@rhidzla]

Fiar play you do some incredible interviews. Most of them have me chopping onions by the end

[@Jacob_Morgan00]

been waiting for this vid

[@jeannettemacdonald6881]

Lovely story keep up the good work ❤x

[@johno5605]

It is no wonder that combat sports is a gift as it gives us a purpose and sets us on the right path.

[@MotionEvolutionLouise]

Her father is just wonderful. What difficult choices but clearly that’s what saved her. Note not a single mention of help from those services making any difference.

[@pia5543]

Yes i guess it is really about the determination of the people you meet that saves you, l guess at least.

[@damiantosd8720]

Great team effort to help this girl.

[@raindeer2580]

we need mental health classes in schools from 1st year when kids go from primary school to secondary school. when they are 12/13 and are vulnerable and go from oldest to youngest in the school from having friends in same class to nearly none.

[@-stephanie420]

Omg, I’m crying

[@andybricks576]

I fundamentally believe if we lived in a village we wouldn't have so many sad, desperate, lonely, suicidal people.

[@theoisaclown]

!!! trigger warning: drug use, self harm and suicide mentions !!!! Im 19 and ive been smoking and self harming since i was 11. gone through some tough times with being addicted to alcohol, ket, coke, md, the whole lot really. ive been in and out of hospital for ods and suicide attempts since i was 13. this past week, ive been trying to make a come round. i haven't had a spliff in 8 days. ive been vaping, in hopes that ill eventually quit all together. my mental health is so fucked. most days i feel like just giving up. i found myself relating to a lot in this video. im just hoping i can turn my life around.

[@Nouzbouz]

Just remember: a lot of people have done it before and so can you! You have your life in your hands. You choose. It is your responsibility to create the life you deserve and i know you will. Take any help you can get! I‘m sure you will make a complete 180!

[@jflovett1]

Stay strong mate. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you, you can do amazing amazing things. At 19 you can still be anything you want to be. I don’t know you, but I believe in you. Believe in your self. Much love ❤💪🏻

[@theoisaclown]

@@jflovett1 thankyou :)

[@NiVRo90]

What an amazing beautiful woman. In and out.

[@curiouscath7629]

Awesome 💯 Best Wishes to All🖤

[@chrisleather2010]

There is still humanity some where

[@paulhennessy5282]

i can relate to this girls story so much holy shit

[@Ladybird.21]

It happens all day, every day to young folks, and it starts out so slowly and then SO quickly they end up in over their heads. People really don’t understand how easily, and how common it is, for young people to get influenced & groomed by people that are intentionally trying to get them hooked, and they’re too naive to see what is happening.

[@ScottGiulletti]

I've felt everything she said Im going though the same stuff really hope everything goes OK with you ❤🎉

[@Meg_of_all_threads]

Yes parents can be great model and support, but it take a village for a reason. Advises and leasons taught but an adult you trust will always reach a kid more than the parents. ❤

[@danc5870]

Bless her cotton socks - and his ❤

[@hawaiianrayz]

Paul saved her life. Her parents never gave up on her but they couldn't find a way to make it click in her head how to get over her hurdles in life.

[@creforce]

men have a natural protectiveness surrounding them, they don't say plain out that someone is lying or make stuff up, speaking whit girls espacially for me have just brought me down even further and ive been in dark places, and still to this day have places I can go to like a "backup" plan if everything gets to hard. struggling through the life is hard, especially if the only thing you ever have that you can fully trust is a 13 year old border collie beside you. I could really use a fighting coach aswell but I hate fighting and I allways try to walk away instead of towards the fight. the biggest curse of my life has been my kindness and generosity, and it's something I really see in a dark light.

[@davetyrell6096]

good luck to her

[@brizzyreti3256]

I’d love to listen to a podcast of hers ❤️

[@DavidMonk-t6j]

Going through same situation at moment stepson been sectioned …. Drug induced psychosis sectioned 3rd time he’s only 19 coming up to 20 Gives his mum hight of abuse some disgusting things comes out with …. He’s threatened me shot stapped run over list long …. Made up this young girl pulled through you’ve got bright future keep pushing 👊🏻💪🏻👌🏻

[@DA-eq1yp]

Hats off to Jess 😘🔥💙👏🏻

[@JasonGilbert-yl8hf]

Never done any drugs, never smoked and I don't drink... but feel bad for ppl that get hooked on drugs...

[@Joe.speaks]

Gosh, I cried

[@majkolsson7192]

My very very first thought is "Is this that 2-year old who took "Jack in a headlock and took him down" because he wanted her to marry him?" She grew up fast! Search for it if you don't know what I mean. It is worth a watch!

[@dankification]

I feel like the only reason they got the chance to do this interview/video is cuz Jess was now legal and enough to talk in her own experience

[@lilme7052]

Good on you girl.

[@kometkamerat]

I cried....

[@ridgebackdk]

and people think dads dont matter !!! dont know how or why that shit started ... loving parents matter ...both of them ....

[@eydeekay]

How very lovely

[@James-dv1df]

Would be good to do an interview with the friends of leah Betts. Just read a story of Sarah Cargill who was leah Betts friend and how sad it was.

[@frogger747]

Just so glad she got out of it, seen it happen to so many people 32 dead,44 doing life. And horrible stories in between, I was a licenses , I should write a book. People would want to kill me. God bless her the lucky one. .

[@markphillips9975]

Well done

[@jamiecottrill7316]

Why can’t they just talk directly to the person without pretending they don’t know they are there… I wondered why I was talking to a wall 🤦

[@itaintinnit]

From what I hear here, the parents did extremely well in trying to save their daughter. But from my understanding of the human psyche, if your child has hit rock bottom and you can't reach them, you almost always practically *need* someone from the outside to be the final saving grace. The parents, by luck or otherwise, managed to direct their child to a place and an individual who turned out to be that outside force that would lift her up/help lift herself up. Well done to all. Oh, and btw, fuck bullying.

[@petemills5130]

A great man

[@tillymayandleland]

I knew I recognised her I use to hang around with her as well

[@drewferd2720]

The dealers would’ve tried to get her in to it regardless. She fits the wholesome girl next door image so nobody would expect her to be in it. Once she was “cool” with it they were gonna push it on her.

[@coachgeo]

Lot of the tools one MUST LEARN to be reasonably successfully in life when interacting with the world/ society around you.... is easier to learn thru physical actions/doing activities. Core computer programs in your brain that you use in moving your body in order to obtain positive outcomes while interacting with what's going on around you... are the same computer programs ( tools) you use to move / interact emotionally/behaviorally with what's going on in world around you. Learning movement/sportive things is less complex arena to learn in . That areana then makes it easier to learn how to reach one's aim. Helps also because their is bit of a built in narrow aim. (I kick ball, I roll and cartwheel* etc.) Keep in mind "focus" is not at thing you add to what you are already doing. it is a thing you do less off.. aka you REMOVE distractions to focus. Due to less distractions... you learn better.... you get positive results more often.... which again helps the learning. As mentioned earlier.... since the tools are essentially the same core computer programs used for interacting with the world, be it movement or emotional/behavioral..... then the lessons from struggling to learn movement/sportive things helps a person develop/hone tools needed for interacting with the world around them behaviourally as well. AKA lessons learned from movement/sport activity not only aids in developing/ honing tools of physical movement...... it bleeds into the behavioural/emotional lesson learning too. One of the keys is mentioned above.... and that is thru movement/sportive lessons one's tool of weeding out distractions (aka focus on important stuff) happens often seemingly by osmosis.hen your *Sport/Arts like Gymnastic or other Acrobatic fly thru the air body moving/interacting activities... is found to be the BEST ones for youth to learn the life tools written about above..

[@daniellesmith7013]

Wow 👍💜

[@TooChillery]

This works perfectly because how fine she is

[@kengrimsley4172]

Her boxing coach let her tell her story. He had no need to interrupt. The Truth need not be loud. His presence and hours upon hours of Faith allowed her to speak her Truth.