EASTERN VS WESTERN LOVE / Asian Concept Of Love

Eastern Love vs Western Love - the Asian concept of love, relationships in the far east, and Asian dating are a little different. Why Filipina women marry western men is much debated, but the reasons why Filipinas marry you can be understood, and far east relationships are becoming popular with western men fleeing rampant hypergamy. The eastern versus western concept of love is well worth understanding, in order to find a Filipina wife! ‪@TheFilipinaPea‬
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[@TheFilipinaPea]

👉My videos and the effort I put into them are 100% free for everyone to enjoy, and all I ask is that you leave a thumbs-up on any videos that you like and subscribe to my channel - I have never, and will never, ask you for anything else. For those of you that still wish to support my channel further, however, I’ve posted my links below. Thanks! 👉 Support through PayPal: www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=GC9T7PMLZ3BDW&source=url 👉 Patreon: www.patreon.com/thefilipinapea 👍🎬SUBCRIBE TO: kzbin.info

[@guyandre4946]

Highly philosophical input concerning a concept as old as Adam & Eve. Dr Pea, you just managed to give, once again, a courageous and scrupulous analysis that will help so many couples to understand each other’s and help them also to reinforce their relationship. A long awaited and necessary video. I have learned a lot today thanks to you, once again. 👍😊😘

[@Africanpinoy]

You're always on point i love your intelligence you've really helped me personally because am dating a fillipina woman but i dint know as much. Thank you so much.

[@mdbrumbach1]

Let's go Pea!😄

[@ChristianClark]

Ms PEA is so Smart ! LOL - ..but I am so disappointed and bummed out that there is no comedy skit .....ha ha ha ha ha ha

[@slinkyrobb]

Hey Pea, I found out an interesting statistic the other day that goes along with your channel. Columbia University did a study of American men who got mail order brides. What they found out was that provided the couple talked for 4 months or more prior to marriage, 57% of them are still married. That may sound low but the men who married American women only had a 53% chance of success if it was both of their first marriages. If it is the second marriage for the American woman that percentage drops dramatically. Statistically you have a better chance of having a successful marriage bringing a Filipina here than if you marry an American woman.

[@DrDlane]

Because of the way feminism has distorted and destroyed the way western women think about the concept of love and marriage, I choose not to love a western woman again. I will love an eastern woman who understands, appreciates, and enjoys the more traditional concept of love that is prevalent in most of the planet outside the west. I want a feminine woman. I want a woman who isn't interested in arguing with me about every little thing or nagging me constantly. A woman like this I can choose to love. I have no issue with helping her parents. But I don't think it's my responsibility to support her adult siblings or every cousin and uncle looking for a handout. I am a kind, loving, and generous man. Basically a teddy bear. But I'm also a warrior and will not allow myself to be taken advantage of. I can change and adapt to a new culture. I can fit in and be a productive part of my community. I can be a good husband, father, and friend.

[@ukspankedyank]

Well spoken Sir! My sweetheart in the Philippines is close to my age. Poor and "ZERO" maintenance. Pure hearted like a child and spiritual. Such a rare find.

[@fluffyjoker69]

Exactly, so very well put

[@bertstreetsr5483]

I totally agree, finding a good woman in America is about as likely as finding a winning lotto ticket while walking through a forest fire

[@stoneyislandranch9783]

Thanks for writing it all so I didn't have to.. Filipina women need to be warned about fem inizm , and western mindsets.. it's toxic and women even in the west are losing in the love Department.

[@thedynamicsolo4232]

I feel you brother. Fickle, unstable, saying they love you and then being totally selfish, hiding intentions and motives, the "I don't need a man" and also "I'm a strong, independent woman" attitudes have stolen the glory and purpose of a woman. Not to be a door mat, but a compliment to a man as he is to be to her. All this fighting and bickering and selfishness have destroyed romance here in the US. That is why we seek the super feminine because we know we will love and lavish our girl when she is God's reality of what a woman should be.

[@WonderingB]

In answering the question of "what is love" I've always had a one word definition - "UNSELFISHNESS" and that if practiced by two people will overcome all difficulties I think. And unselfishness tempered with some common sense for the family members.

[@DrDlane]

I agree with you. I think selfishness is the single greatest destructive force I have seen. It can destroy relationships, businesses, economies, and even entire nations.

[@dontatum5943]

Pea, I am Married to a Pinay for almost 8 years now ...we met in the Philippines and we used the K-1 process to marry ...we live in the US. Your videos are right on the mark ! You are doing an excellent job and this video is one of them ! I am proud to help support my Philippine family as they are a blessing from God.... I feel very good when i can help with what ever is needed, there truly is more happiness in giving than receiving. The advice you give is straight forward and wise, Thanks for all you do we really enjoy your videos !!

[@Alan-pv2bi]

"Telling it like it is" is why alot of us watch. I've been described as blunt, brutally honest and similar, much better than a liar, imo. Excellent topic and reality of culture difference many would never consider or factor in.

[@oittisallen4057]

Speak the truth if she may.

[@iomtilt]

Walt Disney, has a lot to answer for. Fabulous video Pea 🌴👍

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha Yes he does! 👍😂

[@WildMidwest1]

It wasn’t Walt’s own failing so much as the stooges who followed, envisioning ever more virulent princesses.

[@acbikeatgmaildotcom]

@@TheFilipinaPea Not to mention for films like 'Finding Nemo' making kids think that they're breaking up a family when they eat fish.

[@bishdizzle67]

Extremely well articulated. Great work.

[@martypoll]

Wow! What a brilliant and concise exposition of how I have experienced and accepted love in SE Asia. My current wife and I lived together for almost two years before I asked her to marry me. During that time she learned about me in and adapting to Asia and I am sure she had many interesting conversations with her family about how suitable I would be. So far. So good.

[@stub4958]

The way I grew up is similar to what you talk about it being there, you help your family. There is a caveat though. You don't become an enabler for someone to be lazy. I have often helped my family, and had to stop before, because I had become an enabler for someone (but that is rare). With that being said, if you marry someone, they and their family become your family as well. The other caveat to that, is your immediate family comes first. Your wife and kids can't go hungry so your brother/brother-in-law can party.

[@txbob5978]

Stu B you are so right! Some or many Asian women are just for themselves and their Filipino families. They would ignore their immediate families, or maybe in those cases it's lack of education.

[@micronotsoft6891]

@@txbob5978 That's why i don't want to Asian women bcoz of that

[@Joepoe20041]

Stay far from your gf or wife’s relatives and you will be fine. If their family is in Mindanao stay in the Visayas or Luzon area. If they are in The Visayas region stay in CDO, or Siargao. Distance will solve these problems but not far enough that can be reached by plane in an hour or Ferry overnight.

[@martinlucas3656]

Love is a complex algorithm...I love that statement ,,🙃

[@martinlucas3656]

Romantic love is a story the Western world has exploited for ages to sell. The reality is evolutionary biology nothing else. Biology is complex

[@jozsefmerczel187]

Pea, thank you as always for “telling it like it is”. I was married to a Philippine woman for 19 years. The was wonderful until she came to the U.S. then she learned from the locals and hypergamy kicked in. I think if I had learned from you before I made the many mistakes I made, life would have been much easier. Thank you for educating the masses that I am one.

[@ManOfAdventure2011]

Yeah, never bring your filipina to the west to live permanently. Just a couple of months vacation and that's it!

[@simonsahari]

What do you mean by hypergamy kicked in?

[@michaeldbhawker3556]

Its other pinay that fill their head full of shit in the west. Within minutes of arrival they are building their squad. NEVER TAKE YOUR PINAY TO THE WEST. Especially if there is a large beauty and or age gap. Pinay are opportunist and WILL trade you in after extracting what they can. If kept in Phil’s it keeps them more balanced.

[@michaeldbhawker3556]

@@ManOfAdventure2011 2 months is 6 weeks too long

[@mosuraap1676]

I guess I would have to ask, if she left after so many years. What did you not have to offer her in the west. A man with little knowledge and resources in the west would be a prize in the east because your comparison in the east put you at or near the top but in the west you may be at the bottom. I would be curious to know all the details of the demise of the relationship

[@richardsteinbergmakingknives]

Very well said, thanks!

[@kelvinmcneill9923]

Another Pearl of wisdom, you do a great job at delivering complex subjects in a simplified matter. Great Job..

[@SixteenVoice]

Good timing. Yesterday I just fell down one more level of the downward spiral of Western heterosexual relationships. Needed this sanity check!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh no! Don’t hit bottom (it’s ugly down there) 😂

[@jasonbourne1596]

@@TheFilipinaPea It's okay to hit the bottom, it keeps you grounded lol Once you hit the bottom, you can only go up.

[@johntimo]

Looking forward to this video, love when I have time to catch these at the start of my day, thanks for the content, Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m happy to help you start the morning, John! Let me make you some coffee while you watch ….

[@secretagent86]

@@TheFilipinaPea gosh, at least throw in a neck rub Pea

[@boracay12]

All women want what they think is a " hot" guy . But will settle for a guy who provides security . The difference is in the states she can divorce Mr nice guy when she gets " bored" and be rewarded with at least half of his belongings. Not so In the Philippines . Just saying that woman are always trying to pull off " we don't care so much about looks " statement ...that's bull. yes they do .they just care MORE about a secure $$$$ future .

[@maluchrisatbp921]

Well thought out video, Ms Pea. We appreciate the time you spent sharing this info.

[@clayramsey8051]

Very good Pea. You always seam to come up with the right video at the right time. Keep up the good work

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Clay! I do have lots of good content coming, too 👍

[@spencerificus]

Pea, You are the most thoughtful and straightforward vlogger I have ever come across, either male or female. I love how you point out that you have to step into the other person's shoes before you can pass judgment on them. If you are going to have a serious relationship, at the very least you have to know the other person's motivations for life and what they consider important. Most people don't even put in the effort to get to know what the other wants and needs in life let alone their motivations for those wants and needs. I am going to come to the Philippines and marry a Filipina. I love the culture and the people and the eastern idea of love.

[@contributor2024]

nice! just don't fall in love with the first one, or a divorce' ! And if she talks about money, walk! My best advice is not to go too much younger than yourself for a serious relationship. 15 years younger is a good cut-off.

[@KinteDynasty]

Thanks for the video. Thought provoking as usual.

[@kenkimbell6909]

Clear, consice , and no fluff ...and then also sharply witted and funny to boot. Loved it 👍👍

[@rogandbingofbingalahtravel3680]

Love in ancient times had three dimensions among those in the middle east...Eros or erotic love, Phileo or a tender, affectionate love and Agape, a sacrificial love. In the end, I think those three elements are what we are all looking for deep within ourselves, with emphasis placed more on one than the other depending on circumstances. (Essentially what you said, Pea! Another great video!)

[@johnclark7973]

This was the best Philippines video I have ever seen! I have never been there, and I have been trying to find out about the places and people there. This video helps me out a ton to understand Filipina woman. I can't thank you enough!! I now totally understand and respect how Filipina women think when it comes to picking a life partner. Your presentation was outstanding‼️ Please take a bow.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks so much, John 👍😊

[@stephenbruce8320]

Thanks for sharing Pea!! It's important to understand cultural differences and expectations if you find yourself in a relationship with someone where there are cultural differences. I am a culture junkie so I am always curious about different cultures and beliefs to better help me understand people I encounter.

[@gheechiedan9299]

This is your MOST important video EVER! The information you have provided here was EXTREMELY helpful! Respect! 😎

[@chucknewcomb4885]

Pea, As always great video. I will admit that the idea of finding that would be constantly asking for large support for their family does make me nervous.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Discuss it way in advance, and decide what you’re willing to do - and NOT do 👍

[@bobm1353]

EXCELLENT explanation .. hope all western men understand what you are saying .. having lived in the east it took me a while to adapt and understand but now I see that it is a lot more sensible that the propaganda about "love" that we are fed by hollywood movies .. thanks Pea

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Awwww glad you liked it so much - thanks 👍😊

[@jmd1327]

So true… you sum up our commonality and differences in a neatly wrapped package, with a bow on top. Your videos are always smart, cerebral, honest, caring and enlightening. Let’s not forget, with a hint of appropriate sensuality to spice things up! Bravo and thank you for inspiring our minds and hearts 🥰.

[@kenkneram4819]

Wonderful well thought out and insightful as always Pea. This video is another slam dunk home run for you. Please keep them coming.

[@sunmoonstars8471]

Great job! As a older American man in your Country for 2 years it has been a real growing experience as I watch the family culture here. I only wish more American families could see the love and respect you have in your family but also extends into your community. Great tolerance is exercised with a live and let live attitude. People are willing to help out someone when they have a crisis. I know there may be exceptions but I been hanging out with the country people just love them all. Learned much here and only have the greatest respect for a country that does not abort millions of babies and takes loving care of your elder parents. God loves your Nation!

[@bobmoore5242]

It's so simple, Pea. Everytime I see you, I know I'm in love.

[@dr.g6105]

This was a particularly good one Pea. Thanks.

[@ronniesouthern7829]

Thank you again Pea for another enlightening video. Everyone involved would need to make the necessary adjustments for everything to work out and if the love is strong that can be done. Looking forward to your next video soon until then I will do what I can to help Princess Leia Pea deliver the message 💌

[@aphilippinesadventure9184]

Pea, you nailed it. Filipinos use the term "you got to be practical", and you used it here. Newcomers would do well to listen to you.

[@antoniocaneroramos5880]

Exactly , filipino men are very practical... they get them pregnant and get their honey without money , and filipino women take our money(as foreigners or walking atms) without the honey.. lol simple formula .

[@louslack8176]

Real love is when you are extremely angry at each other, but still love and want to work out the problem ! Good job kid

[@tman5634]

I agree, but this can also be very damaging & hurtful...& continuing to go down the same road with the same partner, considered very foolish. Been there, done that & it's not a relationship of happiness for either side.

[@louishall5521]

Hah…. Not American women.

[@wallysworld1635]

Playing catch up on videos… Great video Pea 👍🏼

[@alkubbo1291]

Logical and truthful. Thank you for the honest input!

[@soadiciple]

Great video, thank you!

[@utube012341]

I am fascinated by this topic because I don’t understand “Love “ any more than religion . For me physical attraction is important but intelligence is really important for long term attraction. Intellectual ability is so important because I don’t feel comfortable with someone I can think circles around, and eventually I lose respect and then become frustrated, not good at all . I certainly understand all aspects you outline and certainly approve . Women are the nest keepers so they are of course looking for financial stability. Idk if I married into a family it would be my family too so I would try to help , but it couldn’t get crazy with constant emergencies. I sure do appreciate you !!!

[@melmagallon6233]

You actually bring up another topic of modern day Western relationships in that we expect our partner to fulfill ALL of our needs. An intellectual equal, an emotional confidante, and someone that can fulfill our sexual desires. Renowned relationship expert Esther Perel often speaks of this. It's literally LOVE in the MOST impractical of states as it's impossible for one person to fulfill all of these needs. I'm not saying this is good or bad, but this something found in almost ALL Western relationships and most people don't realize the mountain of expectations they end of putting on their significant others.

[@contributor2024]

I would say you can't get all your needs met in one woman. I get my intellectual convo's done at work during the day then come home to peaceful, relaxing conversations, and better yet loving arms. You could however find a scholar as well. Not sure about younger generations, but I expect that for older generations, women did not discuss macro-economics or such topics, making them perhaps shallow to you. I would suggest love with your heart not your mind, then her intelligence is more obvious, such as when I stay something stupid and my gf laughs it off, which I figure out WTF I just said. What overrides all for me is compassion not an intellectual conversation. However I agree a university education is mandatory. But don't expect (asian) women to have a well reasoned argument for world events. Good luck sir.

[@advancedanr]

Tom, I can tell you that I really never understood love either until I married my Filipina. I have married three Western women and I can honestly tell you I would never go back to Western woman, ever! If you come across a good Filipina who shows you true love then waste no time putting a ring on it because they want to know that they have security. My wife was as poor as a Filipina you could get. When I asked her to marry me she asked me why I wanted to marry a poor Filipina and I told her what she lacks financially she more than compensates with the love she displays. And if your plans are to bring your Filipina to the states then you better find one who would rather stay in the Philippines, especially if you're many years older than her. When she gets to the states, it will be much different for her. In the Philippines she probably didn't have too many men hitting on her, especially if they don't have money. In the states she will have a bunch of younger men chasing after her, and you possibly could lose her to one of them.

[@captainmango1355]

Good morning Pea! A delicate topic indeed! Traditionally here in the west a woman was expected to leave her mother to join her man in wedlock, that has changed dramatically since the 1960's. There are so many variables and ever-changing "standards" that it's hard to keep up with it. One thing about what you describe is it is pretty much the standard position to marry not only the woman, but her family as well. There are many of us westerners who can appreciate this stability!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It can be hard to accept, and I understand 😊👍

[@klausmathes3997]

Wonderfully put, as always 👏

[@olyman63]

Awesome show Pea thank you 🙏 Great info

[@brian_atc]

I was your first thumbs up this time! 🥳 Your truth bombs always hit the mark Pea. Thanks from a guy who loves to provide and is looking for a "nerdy but naughty" asian woman. 😱🤣 All the best and I can't wait to see your next video!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Nerdy but naughty? Did you read my resume or something? 😂

[@janvandenhurk3251]

@@TheFilipinaPea I think Brian would love to meet Angel .... cute and nerdy with a capital N

[@brian_atc]

@@TheFilipinaPea I would read your resume anytime 😉

[@nanners829]

This opened up memories from way back. I had a co-worker who was married to a Filipina & her mom lived with them. He was a pampered pooch who always came to work in fresh pressed suits. You could slice butter with the creases in his pants. His shoes were always freshly polished daily by his MIL. His wife also worked as an administrator for a very large non-profit. She would work 10+ hours a day. Between she & her mom, he always had a healthy lunch & hot dinner waiting for him when he got home from work. That sounded like paradise to me. Do ya think he appreciated it? Nope, he was also a cheater. I called him a blank hole. He laughed and said I was just jealous. He told me I was under my wife! While I love my wife dearly and don't do those kind of things, I would have treated her as a Queen & her mom as the Queen Mum. I've not talked to him in over 12 years, but she finally dumped his sorry tail. He would even IM flirt with my wife online back in the AOL chat days! Guys like him give westerners a bad name. The sad part is he is such a narcissist, he never see's his own reflection in a mirror!

[@WildMidwest1]

Women flock to bad boys like him, not to nice guys. Learn from it and become better adapted.

[@donwoolley1811]

He may well have simply been a bad boy or maybe there were other circumstances. The story sounded a bit like mine, almost too good to be true. But the back story was it was like being married to a maid. As long as she kept up with that, my other needs did not matter. I could have sex pretty much whenever as long as it was missionary. Life is short, I moved on after 9 years and I'm glad I did

[@terrencethomas4672]

Very interesting and informative video, I really appreciate your advice, continue the good job that you are doing

[@johnbrown6287]

Very interesting. Thought provoking.

[@sparkywildcat8174]

In the East a person is welcomed into an existing family, while in the West we're expected to start our own family. Lucky is the East/West couple that can navigate those waters. BTW, 2 weeks ago 100K. Now, already 102K! At that rate you'll have 150K this time next year. I know, that might be setting the bar a little high, but who knows. In business here we say that the 'reach must exceed grasp". And make no mistake, managing a KZbin channel is a business.

[@tracyp9224]

Finding love is great, but..... Add a little lust into the equation and then you really have something! Good video pea! Thanks for keeping it real!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Gotta have those tingles, yes 👍😂

[@secretagent86]

@@TheFilipinaPea gosh that is a perfect way to describe interpersonal chemistry. Just thinking about you gives me goosebumps.. How about you Pea? What? do i like your family? What is my income? Am i generous? All very sensible questions. I sure do enjoy your videos. Wishing you every success.

[@douglasscharbrough3603]

@@TheFilipinaPea with you pea, it not hard to see where a person would have "feelings" when you are concerned

[@leighmoralde]

I am addicted to your videos and content, Pea. I am mimicking you while I watch, such a beautifully well-written piece!

[@warrenbarnes9653]

Pea, you have written another excellent essay that examines an important topic. Thank you.

[@johnpage6950]

As a man from the west I 100% love the way eastern culture is toward love and since my family is so dysfunctional I look forward to placing myself into my philippine women's life

[@OrthodoxDAO]

as long as you have $$$, it will be lovely :)

[@ericschreiner8619]

It's all about the money here

[@leeboy244]

Exactly

[@Will.Flavell]

Yeah I love eastern women better too I’m gonna find myself a beautiful feminine woman one day too.

[@AmericaManFilipinoWife]

@@ericschreiner8619 your talking about western women right.

[@leroywright9168]

Love equation. Honest communication equals understanding. Communication plus understanding equals trust. Honesty, communication, understanding, and trust, the foundation of a meaningful loving relationship.

[@JOHN-ny7xe]

Thanks Pea this is one of your very best videos to date. I hope your new viewers looking for a relationship in the East truly listen and absorb all your points in this video for you are 100% spot on. Great job my friend!

[@Manny-xo1em]

Good content and well delivered... Smooth...my life experience taught me that in life there are phases, as we go through life our need will inevitably change, a partner isn't excluded..!

[@arnoldseay9118]

Very good information miss Pea. The biggest problem I have seen in east west relationships is the ability to accept each other’s culture. Yes in a way when you marry a filipina you also marry her family. If you bring a filipina to the west she will change. Remember filipinas the older the western man you meet the less likely he will change to meet your cultural needs. For the most part my observation is American filipina marriages work out but that is among the among the people I know and not scientific

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, that’s my impression, too - they ‘mostly’ do work out 👍😊

[@jeffeverts]

Just like in Hawaii, you marry the family as well. Hawaii was extremely laid back and I’m so glad to have been stationed there from 08-11

[@brandonvirgin2799]

We can learn a lot from the eastern world, that we have long lost over time here in the west. Also once again thank you Pea for your info. Hope to make a trip to Philippines real soon.

[@gregnz1]

i blame the Bachelor Show, in Hypergamy unrealistic expectation, i'm that single childless uncle, so i get ignored,

[@danjackson8145]

You've prepared and provided yet another valuable discussion, Pea. Your rationality in highlighting and then addressing motivating factors is so useful to any audience that is willing to improve their understanding and own decision making. Very high marks from me.

[@CarsonBoyd]

Lots of good points here. Thanks Pea.

[@glenproctor1999]

and the reason I love you Pea is because you're open and honest and you cover any topic without holding back from the truth. I'd love to hear you discuss this topic with your group more fully too! Take care and be safe lovely Pea 🥰❤️

[@rayrunn9441]

Excellent topic to discuss. You did an outstanding job on this video. I don’t understand the dislikes 👎 on the video. Your videos are always well done. Very professional.

[@CoreyBrass]

Thumbs down because she is completely backtracking on everything she said earlier.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Ridiculous, Corey - I haven’t changed a single thing I’ve ever said. I think it’s your lack of comprehension skills, but maybe you can be specific instead of running around making the same comment

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It’s my usual troll army that attacks almost all my videos the moment I post them 😂

[@CoreyBrass]

I like how you cast insults at me for explaining why this video got a thumbs down...and I'm the troll. 🤣🤣🤣

[@CoreyBrass]

Of all my comments on your videos (and I've made a lot) I've only ever left one other "negative" comment. I challenge you to find 2 besides the "negative" comment I've left here.

[@swayp5715]

Thanks Pea. Balanced af as usual! 😎 And for an extremely slippery topic. You da 💣 and I keep recommending your channel. For your extremely useful to society tellin it like it is !

[@duanehastrich1460]

You make a great Princess Leah. Wow! Also great information 👍. Thank you 🙂.

[@jimrock10]

Yesterday I started writing a filipina/expat love story with the working title "The Girl That Time Forgot". As an American male it's easy for me to understand how the expat in the story would think or act in certain situations. Your videos are giving me a great insight into how the filipina characters in my story will think, feel, and act. Thank you for that. 🙂

[@GabrielGriffin82]

post a link when its done brother!

[@phdpirate4917]

You definitely owe Pea a share of the profits from the book, hehehehe

[@o.fortuna657]

The Girl Time Forgot. “That” is almost never necessary. Your first writing lesson. You’re welcome.

[@invictus1973]

Good evening Miss Pea. 😘

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Goooooood evening, Invictus 👍❤️😊

[@michaelavrit]

Thank you for your usual honesty and clarity😀

[@francisdrake6320]

On the topic of helping out her family, my gf and I had this conversation not long into the beginning of our conversations. I explained quite simply that I wont be the family ATM machine, that my first priority will always be my own security and stability, second is the stability of our relationship, and whatever is left over is free to use as we see fit. When it comes to helping her family, I go by the saying "If you give a man a fish he eats for a day, teach him to fish and he can eat forever" In other words I wont just hand out money whenever they need some, as charity leads to dependence. Instead I will help them if possible to get educated, learn a skill, get a job, or start a small business, etc... Assist in the things that can lead them to being self sufficient as much as they can be.

[@GBU61]

If you are in a better financial position than other members you will probably be expected to pitch in. I would meet them half way and instead of giving money, help purchase groceries or possibly see to it that certain expenses are paid. If a huge emergency comes up, then I would offer to help with the cost, such as an unexpected hospital cost. I can see your point but as was pointed out in the video this goes very deep in their culture so consider her side as well.

[@jeffcalhoon3412]

This is a great subject Pea. You did a great job explaining how love works in the Philippines. Many western men just can’t understand this. In the beginning of me starting to look for a Filipina to be with I wish I had you to help explain things to me. I had to learn over a very long time that Filipina women (most) are not gold diggers jumping from man to man in search of money. I am so lucky to have found my wife there and no matter what she loves and cares for me as I do her. Thanks Pea for always being upfront and honest about the good and not so good things

[@patrickmanley4943]

But would you ever bring her to the States to live permanently?? What is the age gap if you don’t mind please?

[@kenserota6158]

I enjoyed your honesty in the way you explained the differences .Great entertaining video's !

[@mariodesmo]

Another outstanding video Pea! It's a wonderful thing you do on these videos, explaining the differences, expectations, and situations that apply in the real world in relationships between women and men.

[@adaml2932]

It's the worst kept secret that "What does he do for a living" is often one of the first questions when a young Western woman tells her friends/family she is dating someone. Now, it depends on her "desirability" to what she will be willing to accept. Desirability is more than just her beauty, its a complex equation just like Pea stated.

[@DrDlane]

Here's a new one you probably haven't heard before, Pea. Love is not an emotion as so many people believe. They confuse love with lust. Love is a choice. And here comes the part people will complain about. But that's ok because it's alright to agree to disagree. Love is a choice for this reason. We were created with the gift of choice, it free will as many refer to it. The creator commanded us to love one another. Therefore, having free will, we can choose to obey or not obey. We can choose to love and be obedient, it we can choose not to love and be disobedient. Very clearly, in this context, love is a choice we make. And yes, there are different types of love. But in all cases we choose whether to love or not. Lust is an emotion, as is infatuation, which is also commonly confused for love. We have been indoctrinated by our western culture to believe that love is an emotion because it fits the agenda. But love is a choice. When you have troubles in a relationship, you can choose to do what is necessary to resolve the problem. You can choose to love in spite of the circumstances. Or you can you don't love the other person any longer, in which case you are choosing not to continue loving. Surely some may understand this and agree with what I'm presenting. And some others may choose to disagree with me a little, a lot, it quite vehemently. Either way is fine. Great conversations can come from disagreements. And if you don't want this posted, Pea, feel free to delete it. I won't be offended.

[@fredhowsare5736]

Well thought out and delivered.

[@jackiepoole5422]

Please know that all the extensive research and observations are a value to me and I'm sure many more. Many times you share valuable information that I didn't know I needed. You, Pea, are a treasure of information I/we need. That you for everything you do.

[@rickb5689]

“what’s love got to do, got to do with it?” For western guys, everything! And yeah, I’ve had my heart broken by Filipinas in the past who were looking for a ATM, rather than love. But it’s perfectly understandable and acceptable for your love mate to have financial expectations. Just for basic living necessities. And karaoke, apparently. But they are not blatantly materialistic which is the biggest difference and why we western guys seek happiness with a Filipina!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Exactly, Rick 👍👍👍

[@oittisallen4057]

No its not acceptable my son.....honesty is acceptable. Yes I've had broken heart many times. It's simple.....are we in the relationship for business or for loyalty,love,desire. I will still bring you to the U.S., but just let me know the plan.

[@piccadelly9360]

" I'm in love with my car " by Queen " I`m in love with my ATM " by Filipinas

[@BarnabyBarry]

Rick, So they asked you for a specific amount monthly that you could not afford so they left you?

[@rickb5689]

@@BarnabyBarry No, not like that at all. It was two girls who secretly had Filipino boyfriends on the side and were using our relationship as a ATM. I dumped one girl and the other one just disappeared, although much later she emailed me to apologize.

[@SmallGroups2go]

My gurl is from Davao... I am glad to have met her in person.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You did meet her? That makes all the difference 👍

[@SmallGroups2go]

Yes, before the Covid-19 lockdown and I met her family and had homemade Lechon.

[@shane0traveller451]

Very insightful and great opinions 👍

[@todd7756]

Pea, good topic. well explained and to the point. I enjoyed the new ending. especially the outfit.

[@marcrichard7251]

I personally believe it’s good to help my girlfriend’s family as I am living a good life and it would be mean on my part not to help when they are struggling. Hell I believe in feeding the poor when I can. And Pea I know you have the same heart as I do because I’ve seen you do the right thing and feed the poor.

[@antoniocaneroramos5880]

dear friend you are the perfect ATM for the filipinos . good luck...lol

[@marcrichard7251]

@@antoniocaneroramos5880 I can afford it …

[@roguetiger3163]

Your analogy between the east and west is very realistic and helpful to fully understand what a Filipina is analyzing when she meets a western man. We need to drop our concept of love taught in the west if we are going to be able to have a successful relationship in the Philippines. Great eye opening video helping us understand the Filipina psyche.

[@rednab2001]

Unfortunately, the West is too far gone to drop our concept of love....at least where women are concerned. The West is slowly becoming a socialist gynocracy, and that boat is not turning around. Our current system gives 100% advantage to women, and they are not about to give that up. Any change to our current system would also require accountability from women.....you know that's never going to happen....because it's all men's fault!

[@Comehomejimmy]

Another great video P. I love how you articulate these subjects. When I move there and have to explain “the why”, I’m just going to have a playlist of KZbin videos. This being one of them.

[@mariocomparini3701]

Great video and good advice.

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

All a man needs to do is observe a woman, her surroundings, her family and her situation and he can pretty much already know what she needs. The problem for men is the fear of rejection or the fear of betrayal as there isn't much they can do about it (legally). The Internet/ Social Media have taken the trust out of "love" and have created a hypergamous environment where women are swiping left on men - focusing on the worst aspects of men that don't necessarily make them good long-term mates. I think we will have to adapt to focusing on "compatibility" rather than "love" because "love" is mostly emotional and when it comes down to it, most people won't get their "1st choice" and will have to settle. The need to focus on careers and money breaks up most 1st loves in High School and College. That in itself is a crime against humanity.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, I’m always saying that social media is more damaging than beneficial for personal relationships!

[@oittisallen4057]

True

[@broGabiza]

Great points👌

[@broGabiza]

@@TheFilipinaPea I think social media makes one very superficial and an attention wh... Why? Because you make fishing for compliments and likes from people you don't even know and yet ignore the love and attention that you receive from those that do care. One might have 6000 likes but of those 6000 in your friendliest, how many of them do you know personally and do you communicate on a deep and satisfying way? How many of those are only there for you physical beauty? How many of those are pedophiles, rapists, criminals, wife beaters , mental cases etc..... and yet many ignore those facts and want more and more attention from strangers with alterior motives. I don't know Pea, I might just have a weird way of looking at social media and its effects in our modern society.

[@piccadelly9360]

@@broGabiza Social media is good and bad at the same time. It is good that we get information that we would not otherwise have. It is bad that we only or mostly take the bad information. And we want the confirmation that we are right when we upload something to the internet , like me now, am I right?

[@idolhanz9842]

All the best to you FP! Youre smart! Nothing i love more telling American women "you're the fucking reason I have to go to eastern europe or asia to find a compatible wife!"

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha Oh I bet they just love that 😂😂😂

[@tullioserafin4511]

a very good video and also very necessary I think. Stay safe always and thanks for sharing!

[@grandmamarymarthatammy_blo6603]

♡♡♡ Your logic and delivery- outstanding!!♡♡♡

[@moovitalong]

ahhh, love. One of man's deepest and most mystifying emotions. I have found two truths concerning this sometimes devilish part of life; Anyone can select who they will marry; no one can choose who they will love.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well said, and sooooo true 👍😊

[@blokeabouttown2490]

I'm not a religious person at all but I agree with the description of love in 1st Corinthians chapter 13. Love is not so much an emotion but it is something that is demonstrated in action and sacrifice, so it is more of a commitment and duty. But after a time the emotional bonding becomes stronger.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Exactly, Bloke 👍👍👍

[@offthecuffadventureswithjamie]

Very insightful Miss Pea! Thanks for sharing the information. Be safe over there. 😊🙏🏻

[@guadguadalupe2614]

Lots of good honest points.. thank you for your post

[@pimofthenetherlands2621]

About this problem of Filipinas changing after going to Western countries: Western countries like mine appear to have a different pattern of expectation towards women once they have children. People would see a happy family instead of a dirty old guy with a beautiful young lady. What do you think of my theory that in case of an age gap, it would be wise to to ask her to come to the Netherlands once she is ready to start a family with children?

[@contributor2024]

if she is too much younger than you she might leave you. I stick with 10-15 year gap max. And I dont care what American's think, most are inconsiderate, and disrespectful anyway because they never travelled the world and are brainwashed by the matriarchy (haha)

[@georgephillips3625]

Hi Pea. Hope you're doing well. Personally, I prefer a strong intelligent woman. Of course I'm a typical American guy and find looks important. Although a very young woman may be very beautiful, I prefer a woman that's a bit more mature. An 18 year old I wouldn't even consider as a mate. There's no way they're mature enough no matter their life experiences. Plus what they want when they're 18 is not what they'll want at 30. Maturity level is very important. As far as supporting the family, I have no problem helping out when it is needed. But I'm not sure about outright supporting them. Now if her parents were living in one of those old bamboo houses with no running water or plumbing or electric, I would feel compelled to make their lives better. I don't believe I could stand by and let her family live like that. Of course if that's the way they want to live there's nothing I can do about that. Oh yeah,I do like a woman I can talk about a wide variety of issues with. No so called dumb blondes for me, everything seems so superficial to them. Oh,definitely no party girls. If they're boozing it up or using drugs, I have no use for that garbage. I hope you have a great day and God bless you Pea 🙏

[@martinagnew7508]

Mate you can find strong intelligent women all over the world, the difference between the East and the West is what matters to those women and the family laws in the East and the West and how they affect your family. The main difference between East and West women at the moment is that Eastern women are more feminine and care about family. Your main problem will be to ensure that she regards you as part of her family rather than a resource.

[@williamfowler9196]

@@martinagnew7508 awesome way to put it. To many western guys Mary Filipina's as an (accessory) and could care less about the thing she cares the most about because to them the only thing of value is $$. A filipina is nothing without her family and your marriage will be nothing as a result...

[@o.fortuna657]

Jesus! Writing a book?

[@moonknight4053]

What is someone who knows what they wants tho? If there 25, and say they are hoping to have children by 30 and move to the country and continue working are those not goals itself? I have met a 21 year old who says that is what they want and 25 year olds who said that

[@b.baggins8893]

@@Wuestenwiesel Exactly! My reply is almost identical. Lebst du auch hier auf den Philippinen?

[@brianowens8257]

I have watched you from the beginning and I am a real fan. Your videos are informative, entertaining and original. I am a real fan. Keep up the good work.

[@andylondon9635]

Another great video sweet Pea, thank you x

[@javieritomac]

Most admin is pretty interesting the Asian point of view pea it's a bit similar to the Caribbean way culturally , but yes I agree with you Filipina Pea 🙏👍😎

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Caribbeans, too? Wow, thanks 😊👍

[@nyantakyibannor9328]

Writing from Ghana, West Africa and I have to say it's also similar to Ghanaian culture where marriage is not between two individuals but their families as well.

[@markmeenaghan934]

I wouldn't want to punish the filipina and wish my family on her

[@marcacosta7924]

Another informative and interesting video. I’m sure that the truth bombs are hitting many targets today. Must admit I needed to duck a few times 😆 Excellent job as always. 👏👏👏

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Fire in the hole! 😂❤️👍

[@rogercarmel6619]

Very well explained, Miss Pea.

[@kranzonguam]

Well said, Pea!👍🏼👍🏼 Take good care!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well thanks, Kranz! ❤️👍

[@hermitbob7304]

I've known several Indian couples who had marriages put together by their parents. As far as I know, they have a better track record than most Westerners who married for 'Romantic Love' or 'Looks'. Parental approval was a Norm in most parts of the world until relatively recently. I understood when I married my Filipina 26 years ago, that I married her family, not just the girl. Unfortunately, I think things have changed beyond my comprehension in the past few years.

[@WildMidwest1]

Do you care to elaborate on your last sentence? Are you discussing change in mixed marriage or something else?

[@plantworks100]

Hey pea my beautiful friend, there you go firing out those truth bombs again. I'm definitely happy with my Filipina fiancée, soon to be wife. I definitely went through a lot with having a western woman. I truly love helping my fiancée's family when they need it, which is very rare. If you truly love someone, then you shouldn't mind if you have to help a little every now and then. Thank you pea my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your family always.😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It sounds like you found a good crew to marry into, Darryl 👍😊

[@humancaos]

my Filipina never asked for anything for her family except her kids, well she did not ask I offered to help get them through college as there was no way she could afford it on her own, unlike here in my country college it cost a lot for the average single parent to get their kids through school, here it's free and students even get financial support from the government. But I've made it clear to her that is her and her kids is how far I'd go for supporting.

[@rdublu8374]

now thats a cheeky Lea! Seriously, Pea, Im in awe of your videos. You have mastered the art of seemingly reciting your messages "off the top of your head", when in fact (i think) a lot of time, research and..memorization is necessary in delivering your thesis. Respect!

[@_Common_Logic_]

Damn it, Pea! The truth is usually right in front of us... Some can't see it, some don't want to see it, and other times it's just a little blurred so we choose to only pick and choose what we want to see... It's not always easy to see it, and even harder at times, to EXPLAIN it... The number of times that I've tried to explain this exact thing to others to no avail is almost embarrassing, but you have an unnatural ability to take a topic, dissect it, organize it, and lay it out there in layman's terms for everyone to understand. Once again, you've slapped us with wisdom and insight that's far beyond your years. :))

[@leothelion4952]

Love should not have any labels or expectations but given unconditionally as long as you are together. Wow P. you look so good as princess( lay ah ) my testesterone just went up a notch lol

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha Well that’s almost always a good thing, so thanks 😂👍

[@fredcarr3550]

Dream on.