Transform Your Relationship I Matthew Hussey

[@Mary-io7yi]

So good! "The right one is someone who is willing to build with you." You can have chemistry with a person but if they aren't committed and willing to build a life with you they aren't right.

[@unregrettablelife9424]

People have to think life as a company and when two get together, starting a partnership and wanting to start a company then you both would need to know what you are creating in this company (life company), whether services or products, otherwise the company wouldn't survive if two people want to create different company. Because of this most marriage ended in divorce, especially around 70% for first marriage (or first company ) - I mentioned this principle in my book.

[@raesunshine2643]

So true 🤗

[@GourmandLaura]

I need to accept what you just wrote, despite trying to ignore the truth.

[@fabianafonseca3270]

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[@Anna-bl8ey]

But remember, life gets hard. We don’t show up for ourselves this consistently let alone for the people in our lives. We’re all human. This is an unrealistic expectation to have of others. Try starting with yourself first

[@Shareablevideos]

1. Admiration 2. Connection (mutual admiration) 3. Commitment 4. Compatibility . All needed to make someone “The One”.

[@Sarachouska]

And sometimes you can see compatibility but no commitment, so this isn't the right time... So, go look for someone ready !

[@daniellajung9421]

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[@CandaceHarmony]

Thank you for posting this note. I came back to this video just for this! 🙏🏼

[@flirtypairs5769]

@Hazel sounds really good. Sounds like an end result or goal in a relationship. When you have these expectations, an ambitious man sees you and he'll work toward it all but then after a month of marriage you'll fill for divorce because he met you're requirements/expectations but he wasn't the one for you. If it's work it's not working. All the things you've mentioned usually end up being the final result or accomplishment in a relationship. Building up to that is very essential, but they aren't subsets of the goal or items on a checklist at the unset.

[@AmanBansil]

“No one cares that you’re really great once they get to know you“ this is not a relationship video, this is in MasterClass of life that needs to be replayed paused and digested in a serious manner. Amazing insight.

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you very much! That truly means a lot. Just like you, these interviews sometimes just move me! What's 1 thing you learned about him, you previously didn't know?

[@AmanBansil]

@@EdMylettShow about Matthew? Actually, I had never heard of him until this video. So, THANK YOU for the introduction. As for the subject matter, I've dug deep into this topic in my own life and have found the 'creation of space' to be a wonderful tool. Efforts like these (your video) are greatly appreciated because they help get my most important asset in line with my goals: my mindset.

[@daradalmau9300]

Absolutely in agreement!

[@limitededition3712]

True, I listened to this over a couple of hours because I kept pausing and replaying some parts. Definitely a game changer 👌

[@lenkakupkova625]

@@limitededition3712 same here

[@GingerVertican]

I met Matthew Hussey on my birthday, Nov 7th, 4 years ago in LA! He was so humble & kind and took the time to take a photo with me and ask me a question or two about myself. I had joined his website & my birthday wish was to go to his conference. I was from San Diego and it had been hard meeting someone who wanted a long term relationship. It’s like a vacation state of mind there, however!!!!!!!Update: I had just met the man who would become my husband a year later- I applied ALL Matthew’s advice and we just celebrated 3 years marriage! I have to revisit this advice frequently - so that our relationship can develop over the years and grow together. Thanks Matt! (& Ed for having hm!)

[@BetterLoveMovement]

What an amazing story and so full of HOPE! Thank you for sharing it!

[@amirthar3460]

Ginger Vertican what is the advice tell me plz

[@GingerVertican]

shiny girl You should follow his page or join his community there’s a tons of good stuff but I think the ones that especially made a difference in my life were about realizing your own value and doing things that you love instead of looking for someone else to give that to you it’s very attractive to be a person who likes yourself and then you can already be a whole person when you meet someone for a long-term relationship ♥️

[@amirthar3460]

@@GingerVertican thank you so much for your replay 💗

[@Elaine-ee1eh]

Congrats on your marriage. I too am in San Diego 🙄 and understand completely.

[@takeoveracademy4079]

There is a man the entire world needs to know.

[@scuttletheship656]

I am 56 minutes into this amazing conversation between two insightful, KIND men...and I don't want it to end! God bless you both!😊

[@EdMylettShow]

Glad you found such enjoyment from the interview! What's 1 thing you would have asked him if you could?

[@lubnan08]

Agreed!!!!

[@katarzynag4541]

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[@klw8771]

Can men & women ever just have a non sexual long term friendship only ? Does it ever really work? I’ve always found 1 person is more invested than the other & usually more than just friends..

[@princessogidi5715]

"Your level of humility allows you to take a step back and evaluate others around you" I absolutely agree, I'm appalled at the amazingness of this discussion!

[@jms6882]

"The real voyage of Discovery consists, not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." - Proust

[@SarahPaints132]

Yes staying in a relationship just because you've invested money, time, your entire heart. It doesn't mean it was a waste it just means it's time to move on. Sometimes that's the hardest thing to accept, because people look at it as a failure. Well I choose to look at it as the closing of a chapter an opening of a new one

[@Braveheart0803]

Same here! I don’t see my marriage as a failure because I have three beautiful and compassionate children. I see it as a learning experience as part of my journey for who I am now.

[@charlyandrus7598]

I am 59 years old and i am going to Disneyworld for the first time ever in a few months. Thanks for sharing about it and the trash cans.

[@slobodankaarambasic4961]

You’re amazing, Charlie 😃😊

[@rochelle9243]

38:00 Ed nailed this point! The secret to sustaining a long-term relationship is maintaining intimacy, but you need excellent chemistry from the beginning. During the life of the relationship this can ebb and flow but you can only build it if the spark is in the relationship in the first place.

[@sharidavenport3594]

I'm recently widowed after 35 years in a great marriage where we loved ourselves and each other. I'm also a Relationship Coach and always learning. It is So Good to hear healthy men having this conversation. Thank you!!

[@emdesignwave2721]

I am so blown away! This went from dating, intimacy, and business to kindness, narcissism, break ups and wake up calls, to our personal matrix, heart healing and recovery thru self love. To name a few! Watch to the end - the take aways are so insightful and thought provoking! Thank you both!

[@EdMylettShow]

WOW ! .. you seriously just summed it all up perfectly! What was your favorite takeaway from the video?

[@emdesignwave2721]

EdMylett. I would time stamp @35 min to 37.30. Matt says “Meet them where they are”. Floored! To me, those 5 words set the tone for respect, acceptance and help with avoiding the 3 Ps - (taking things) personal, projecting and potential. Then Matt talks about the dynamic of “closing down and recreating space”. And how that dance can inform and build relationship or signal red flags early on. Brilliant takeaways for the beginning stages (in business, too) so it gets my fave award!

[@AustinMBecker]

Key to Great Relationships (not just romantic ones) - Keep your phone away, actually listen to the other person, don't expect gifts, love them for who they are, strive to help them with their success, be open and honest, be grateful for them and show them you care.

[@ianmaguire5451]

I've just watched this and I know where I went went wrong in my last relationship and I'm going to concentrate on loving me and not allowing my insecurities to push the next female away... thanks for sharing this

[@Ossterhase]

I love Matthew. He has the right point, good analysis and is the only male couch on internet who is not a misogynist and ready seems to see woman equal

[@PracticalInspiration]

This was fantastic. I love the point that we hit issues when we assume we know someone based on past experiences, as the one certainty is that with time people grow and change.

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you so much for the massive love and support! What's one thing that he said that got you inspired?

[@misskayteee9862]

EdMylett it all resonated with me, I was completely hooked and it’s amazing how so much of the advice can be utilised in both business and personal relationships. I would love to see more of Matthew speaking specifically about business advice, he is super inspiring!

[@suzz6912]

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[@MeditatewithAbhi]

I love the perspective of having fresh eyes instead of new landscapes

[@kimparke6653]

Time well spent watching this interview. Growth and communication. Miracles happen when people go inwards and ask brave questions.

[@EdMylettShow]

This was probably one of my favorite interviews yet !! What's 1 thing you wished he went more in dept on?

[@garywilson2383]

Edmylett is a genius.what do you think?

[@nicolekellidis7584]

Bingo!❤

[@JustanamebroDK]

Wow - the part about physical intimacy in relationships was spot on. Summed up a past relationship for me. When you constantly feel rejected, and you're desperately trying to warp someone into playing the part, you're just not compatible! Being in a relationship like that can make you lonelier than actually being alone ever would do.

[@suikatime]

I am 50 min into this interview and it suddenly hits me. This is the first time in my entire life that I have seen two men talking about relationships. I'm letting it sink in and it's hydrating my soul.

[@deborahberylhulse1622]

Matthew Hussey is one of a kind. I savor every word--he's so very wise and communicates with true compassion.

[@nozimakudrow2517]

I’d to think that I have a very good relationship with my husband. After listening to these guys I learned so much more🥰 There’s always room for improvement. Open mindedness is the key🙌🏼

[@eg2783]

I swear I didn’t want this conversation to end!!! I feel like I am wiser already 😂 Thank you so much gentlemen 💕💕💕

[@EdMylettShow]

Neither did I! You are so welcome! What's 1 thing you wished he went more in dept on?

[@patrickorourke41]

Never seen Matthew speak before, and I am blown away at how much knowledge this guy could drop in less than 90 minutes. He completely changed my take on break ups and toxic people!

[@lizogilvie8337]

This resonated so deeply with me. After a recent divorce, I’m reflecting on what exactly happened and how to move forward. After feeling pretty much like a failure, I’ve thought about the question of how relationships ‘survive’ or keep going. I’m someone who thrives on change and personal development and my ex just couldn’t cope with that, he would criticise me saying that I was always looking for the ‘next goal’ and I totally get that to be present in the moment is important, but this has made me realise that maybe his comments came from a place of insecurity. Thank you x

[@danielvillanueva6639]

Most is lost in indecision, than in wrong decisions.

[@EdMylettShow]

Yes! What's 1 question you would have asked him if you could have?

[@bencook618]

@@EdMylettShow I would have maybe followed up with him in regard to starting a business being selfish. It would have been something in regard to, "what do you do if your spouse/significant other isn't thrilled about you being an entrepreneur? Should that stop us from plunging into the work, barring there isn't a ethical reason (obviously)? Thanks for such great contact Ed and Matthew.

[@Amy-cs9qr]

Ed Mylett Yes! How to deal with a partners toxic friend that you dislike?!

[@brandonboy09]

1:02:10 The matrix/mutation visual is one of the most profound things I’ve ever heard... speaks to the soul.

[@parispurnhagen3604]

Matt’s mindset on toxicity is spot on. I agree on the kindness trait in a partner that is my top priority for me too. My kindness always seems to be taken advantage of in a relationship but I feel I also need to take responsibility of doing too much in the beginning because of who I am.

[@TheRealAgaBrady]

Oh my God! I used to listen to Matthew Hussey every day for few minutes after my couple of years long break from relationships. He is incredibly good and played a huuuge part in me getting with my boyfriend. At this point 2,5 years together. Thanks Matthew! :-)

[@EdMylettShow]

You are VERY welcome. So happy I was able to share this interview with you. What other topics you think I should have asked him?

[@danetteshepard897]

@@EdMylettShow I want to know about how to navigate long distance.

[@JustLIkerapunzel]

@@danetteshepard897 Just don't 🤣 Tried it 3 times. Wouldn't recommend lololol But since that won't stop you - same as with any relationship. Priorotizing your partner. Investing and giving space for them to close the gap again. If it isn't like this and one stops closing the distance - walk away!

[@danetteshepard897]

@@JustLIkerapunzel I didn't ask you a question. Blessed be.

[@elenadarling4697]

Ed just listened and held his space and Mathew completely channeled everything that’s amazing and transformative. Can’t tell you how much this helped me post break up.

[@georgianaavram139]

This is an amazing interview! I love the talk about kindness and how it's not valued enough in a relationship.

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you so much for the massive love and support! What other topics you think I should go over next time?

[@najatrihane2569]

EdMylett hi Ed I think it’s gonna be great to dug deeper in the subject of relationship. I would love to see a trio of you. Mathiew and esthel perel. It would be a dream if it happens.🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 amazing show, good luck. 🍀

[@titithetoad]

Kindness ... absutely spot on. After 30 years of a relationship that i did not recognise was deeply toxic, i was able to finally see there was no kindness. I brought thar into raising my children .. ots the same for any relationship ... if its not kind to you its not for you, its toxic for you. X

[@hollykay4947]

This is soo good so far!! “More is lost in indecision than wrong decision .” I’m sitting in indecision currently because I’m afraid of making the wrong decision.....

[@slobodankaarambasic4961]

Holly k Try to make one. That will give you courage. 🙂 One small step. ❤️

[@lenkakupkova625]

Done yet? Same situation here

[@lorahudgins5213]

Matthew is amazing. I really needed to hear this message. His description of a person "losing their identify and death of a soul" really hit the mark for me today.

[@barbarakelly2421]

I am living in Røros, a mountain village in Norway, sitting in my armchair in the kitchen listening to this amazing conversation. I dont think I ever have heard someone who is able to express himself so exquisite as Matthew Hussey. The programleader is also excellent. Thank you guys for challenging our consciousness 🙏🕊️

[@charlesrobert1883]

If you want help to get your love back, I can introduce you to someone who can help you, message him on WhatsApp[phone]... And he will help you bring back your ex

[@leyanigarabito4381]

Wow just listened to this. Just recently started following both Ed and Matthew and I must say you guys are geniuses when it comes to life coaching and relationship coaching. Matthew mentioned so many critical points in a relationship that we often oversee or just break it off because we don’t know how to deal with certain situations. I was mesmerized the whole time listening to you both, such an amazing interview. I didn’t want it to end. Thank you Ed for brining Matthew to your channel. Both are AMAZING. God bless you.

[@bbmpiano]

3:38 instead of bringing passion to the thing we are doing, we look for the thing we are doing to bring us passion 4:26 people become the one based on what we build with them 5:17 you can connect with thousands of people, but the one who will build with you 5:33 4stages of relationship: admiration, connection (mutual admiration), commitment, compatibility (function well together) 8:33 more is lost in indecision than wrong decision. 8:59 parked car. We get rewards for doing shit. Then you ask the passenger. Get the car moving, get answers by doing. See what works. Experiment. 12:25 the journey of discovery lies not in seeking new landscapes but seeing with fresh eyes. Some people have innate ability to see their partner with new eyes. 14:45 the times we disconnect with people is when we assume we know them today like we did yesterday. 16:33 we have this desire for our partners to stay comfortable so they don’t change beyond our grasp but now there’s no sense of enigma about you. Our fears and insecurities have a need to keep them known instead of allowing them to grow, even if it makes uncomfortable, it lets our desires grow. 22:10 we value the things we invest in and give time to. 23:16 narrative building of putting in effort and courage 23:53 it’s so vital in a world of noise you’re more able to quickly build a connection 25:18 no one cares you’re great once they get to know you 25:49 being real, authentic, someone who can laugh at themselves, telling stories to at show you as a person, what your values are, being curious about someone and you are uniquely interested in them 27:32 rare and valuable. How you tell the story but you also have to do the things. Do you have the kind of life that feeds your passion and fulfills you 27:45 do you have a community so you don’t become over reliant on this one person who becomes your community. I’ve got my community over here, I don’t need you but I’m having fun hanging out with you. If they’re the sole person, that’s what scares people. 29:40 good reason to jump into bed, I have fun, I feel respected and this would be an enjoyable experience 30:01 I avoid any kind of role when someone should do something. First know yourself, self awareness is key in intimacy, there’s nothing sexy about someone who jumps straight to frustration anger and shame after intimacy 31:10 own what you do. 31:17 not only should you not violate your own moral and ethics beliefs, in order to accomodate for someone else, one of the most unattractive things you can do, it’s not acting in congruence with who you are. 33:40 I don’t need this with someone I barely know but it’s more fun if we know each other (sex) 35:05 persistent and not going over the board? Meet them where they are. 36:03 how attraction works better: he comes over, or finds a way for two of them to be close, and says whatever he wants to say, he then turns away and carries on his business here. Now he’s on her radar and she can turn to him and say something. In recreating space, he’s giving her an opportunity to close down space. Closing down space is good because that’s what it says I like you. We now have a dynamic where both of us are doing the walking. If we are the one that’s constantly closing the space, that’s where we have to pull back.

[@AshleySalvatori]

Ed, I know I tell you this all the time but I truly appreciate you and all that you do! Thank you for bringing such an incredible person onto the show! I gained a lot from this episode. 🙌🏻

[@Victoria-pz3ci]

Klkkkkkkkokokpkkko..d’l no mmmppmmo op pp

[@karenjones178]

Totally relate

[@SUNDARKALAKENDRA]

Yes - have dated several men who are just run by their families and it’s broken us and I’ve now developed a foresight on it. If a man can’t stand up for us and protect us, we can’t grow into something greater, we’ll only cower and succumb to the families control.

[@josephinefaulk1280]

One of the best interviews I’ve ever seen on relationship dynamics. You two are golden together, between Ed asking core life-changing questions and Matthew dishing out the relationship wisdom like some aged shaman, I was incredibly inspired and believe I might just be able to actually have a mutually loving, respectful, passionate and fun long-term relationship. 💕

[@msndotnet01]

Once Matthew says this at the 54 minute mark, I remember why I broke up with my ex. Even after I wanted to go back to the relationship, and then she dumped me after. That was at 54:00. It is a reminder for me why I left, and what she did right after I dumped her is the most manipulate tactic I have ever seen just to make me jealous and spiteful, so disrespectful because she puts her insecurities, her feelings, her own needs above all else over what's best for the relationship. Thank you Matthew.

[@Ivyfigueroa44]

OMG I have been waiting for this. I have always said that if Mathew Hussey And Ed mylett are in the same room, they would be off the charts xoxo! they would have such a dynamic discussion.

[@earthloveskin375]

Me too! This! 🙌🏻

[@kate19931029]

Can’t tell how much I love this talk. Matt you are amazing of giving out your knowledge about relationships and life. I’m so thankful I found you!

[@mcsandrad]

💙 Matthew, you are a beautiful person, both on the outside and inside. I loved to hear that kindness is THE thing for you. Also, I was deeply moved by the description of how you and your family are affectionate - I related to it and to the kind of relationship my kids and I have. I also love your positive energy. Thank you.

[@injujuan8993]

I've found myself nodding in agreement when Matthew answered the very first question. So true! Things like your "calling" or "the one" do not exist. Plain and simple. It's YOU who makes someone the one

[@houseworth123]

See your partner with new eyes! Wow

[@EdMylettShow]

This was probably one of my favorite lines too! What's 1 thing you wished he went more in dept on?

[@farmerfox99]

This is really challenging when ur 60 and ur wife is an invalid from ms and totally dependent on you. Experiencing loss on many levels .....

[@sarahemily1]

I like the kindness question and think we also need to ask it of ourselves - because most of us believe we are kind - but are we kind when we are tired, annoyed, frustrated, put out etc etc.... and if not we need to make progress in that and remember that people and relationships and connections are an important (if not the most important) part of life.

[@ildikoszabo3616]

One of the most powerful conversations I have ever listed to. Gratitute to both from my heart!!

[@EdMylettShow]

WOW!! Thank you. Seriously, comments like these really make me go harder! Curious, was there a particular part of the interview that stood out to you the most?

[@garywilson2383]

Edmylett is a genius. What do you think?

[@Rskillswitch]

While i was watching this on my tv i opened up the comment section to see if other people were in absolute admiration of Matts perspectives Everytime Ed gasped, i was like THANK YOU, HALLELUJAH 🤣🙌 for saying that, because as brilliant and successful ED is, you'd very rarely see professionals and advisors in their own channel admire someone else like that, what an absolutely incredible video this is.

[@mcox951]

This was an incredible interview. As always Matthew Hussey can share and communicate life lessons in a way that enriches and opens your eyes to new perspectives. I read his book, went to a couple of his events and always left completely enlightened. It was not until I discovered myself, and got myself out of the way, that I was able to see what was in front of me the whole time. My relationship, now marriage, has been enriched by listening to incredible individuals like Hussey. Thank you Sir!

[@zakhah77]

I used to say that I never take relationship advice from single people, but after following this guy (and another single relationship coach)'s interviews online, I'm re-evaluating that thought. Matthew is on FIRE!

[@gabrielle4305]

Ed, I just LOVE when powerful men (and women) empower each other. Can’t say how much it warms my heart to see you complimenting Matthew through the interview.

[@jurisgirl4479]

I'm at the office, working and taking notes on this discussion!

[@joshua852009]

"answers are a reward for doing stuff"

[@darlachesnet8176]

This was my top take away - except for all the links at the end - LOL!

[@EdMylettShow]

This was probably one of my favorite lines too! What's 1 thing you learned about him, you previously didn't know?

[@darlachesnet8176]

@@EdMylettShow This was my first introduction to Matthew Hussey so everything was new to me. I was able to confirm that my ex-husband not "having my back" was an issue for me. I also resonated with kindness being a top quality I know I want in everyone I spend time with. And dating (again - at my age???) in this fast-paced social media laden time?! I'll definitely be following Matthew for tips. I almost didn't watch this, but you create excellent content and select superb guests to interview. Thank you, Ed Mylett! 🙏

[@jorgecarlos4120]

Ed, I watch interviews and listen to podcasts all over the place. But even when watching the same guests in different podcasts, I keep coming back to interviews on your channel. Something about your excitement, your humbleness and eagerness to learn brings out the best of the people you interview. Keep it up my man!

[@francesca_ragucci]

Matthew Hussey is a wise human. Matthew, you are articulate and open in your conversation with Ed. You go into depths of relationships and human dynamics yet give advice in a practical, actionable way. I am now an advocate for you since 2014 when I searched 'Dating Advice' on KZbin. Thank you, Matthew and Ed!!

[@kellennjagi4692]

Mathew, I'm wowed by your intelligence on relationship matters. You saved my ass with your advice and now I'm a better me.

[@Gigi-mf5td]

I’ve been married 20yrs this coming March & we’re in a good place but this did so much for me ☝🏾 gave me so much ideas n goals for our deepening our relationship

[@Joshualuv13]

Thank goodness a dating coach who has said there's no such thing as The One ! I totally agree .It's about two ppl who want each other and the same things. It's called a partnership

[@juliemurray8476]

This is freaking GOLDEN!!! So many applications throughout every area of life! THANK YOU!!

[@lindakitten2481]

At 62 I finally feel like I can navigate dating and relationships with the information that will help me make good choices and see the red flags. Thank you for the insight here and in all your other videos.

[@CoriMiller]

One of the best interviews I've listened to. I've been following Mathew for quite awhile and love his style but equally Loved the questions you asked. Such a great combo you two are. Thank you for all your content, always learning something!

[@sirennem.6890]

many of us are attached to our partners, not in love. The book Attached explains that

[@meganlodge4660]

Has to be one of the best (if not *the* best) video I have ever seen. I’ve been watching Matt religiously for a while now, and every piece of content is incredible, but the amount of wisdom in this interview was just outstanding. Ed, you’re so right in saying his humility makes him just the most awe-inspiring and amazing person, because the way he can use simple illustrations and analogies without needing to use big words or make himself look good is just perfection. Absolutely blew my mind watching this and I have a feeling it will be one of those videos where you learn more each time you re-watch it. Thank you so much for the time and effort you put into making this, you have no idea how grateful I am, and I’m sure everyone else watching is too. So much love ♥️♥️

[@mariasoeters]

Jesus guys. Amazing interview. Honestly one of the best I've ever seen. I'm blown away

[@sue4958]

I just came across this. Mathew I follow you and love what you are doing and how you do so in such a respectful way. Ed, I did not know who you were, but listening to your engagement with Mathew, your warmth, humility, strength and openness was a breath of fresh air. Loved the interview, thank you both

[@InnerVisionStudios]

Such a great conversation Ed! Two men getting deep into the topic of relationships is so needed out there. Thanks man.

[@margaretahogberg6869]

I have enjoyed every minute of your conversation, both serious and you made me smile a lot. Thank You guys

[@elizabethpettigrew7804]

Absolutely agree with you.

[@astridlove2327]

Yes!!! They know what they are saying!!! I see my partner of 14 years every day with new eyes. Every time we are intimate I look at him with the same appreciation as if it were the first time. Our relationship has been in a constant flow state where it’s always changing and evolving into something new and exciting. It’s like we can’t get enough of each other and after living together and knowing each other so well for so long we still find ways to discover something new about one another!! People say this is hard or ask what our secret is but for me this has been effortless compared the how hard it is to fall into a routine and become comfortable and complacent. What happens is people start to take their attention and focus off of what they loved about that person in the first place and start to put too much focus on what they don’t love about that person. They lose each others positive qualities by trying to hard to change the ones they don’t like and can never change. Stop look at each other like a project and just accept each other for who you are and love each other no matter what. Your significant other is not responsible for how you feel, perceive, act or respond to anything. It is up to you to keep yourself feeling good and looking for what’s right. It’s not their job to behave in a way to make sure you can do that!!

[@victoriaanaya8497]

I highly recommend going to Mathew’s retreat, he is so passionate and to the point and breaks down so much about life in six. What a great interview!

[@sylviarogers8473]

Its called synergy but most couples dont stay together long enough to grow n see each other evolve into a amazing.

[@JelisaSmith]

This conversation was truly amazing! I’ve just been introduced to Matthew and diving into his content is just what I need in this moment. Thank you both💛

[@bella-wt6xo]

The death of identity is the death of the soul , so powerful, .

[@ghaddict7]

Wow. I’ve listened to this twice, once on Spotify and now on KZbin. I’m blown away about how this applies to my personal and business relationships. But most of all, hoe to improve them or create more value than what I was already setting forth.

[@EdMylettShow]

That’s so awesome! Happy you were able to find some enjoyment in it! What's one thing said that really resonated with you?

[@belmontdwl]

Best one yet. For sure. Not everyone is built to be an entrepreneur but everyone is built for all types of relationships. Applicable to all.

[@EdMylettShow]

Right on! Was there anything he said that really caught your attention in a positive light?

[@belmontdwl]

@@EdMylettShow Yes, if you are interested, you close the space and then open the space for the other person. I don't know if I explained it correctly but I understood it. Seriously, very perceptive. Great job, brother!

[@BloodShedda]

Great interview and things to think about after. My greatest take away is to remind my self to stay kind to my wife even in hard times. To make it a habit.

[@texasgradeandmade5929]

BloodShedda I am very glad to hear that you have realized that this is needed to give from yourself. I applaud you👏🏾

[@celesteap174]

Yes be kind to her we are humans too she will love you forever nothing destroy us more than our man getting mad for simple mistakes. A man screams our heart shrinks

[@lkasjddasjlk4350]

Wow, that analogy of Disneyland was one of the most profound things I have EVER heard. For a 11-12 yo to notice that on his trip is foreshadowing of the amazing person Hussey is today.

[@Bizsavvyartist]

This was amazing and much needed as I go through the process of healing after a break-up.

[@TSAONGAF]

OMG I wish there was a "love" button on YT. I dream of the day when these two great men have more followers than our superficial and mediocre-minded celebrities in the entertainment industry.

[@LisaGemini]

Awesome interview! I got more in just 30 minutes than I usually do in other videos. This new brave world of dating is kinda scary at times. But Matthew makes it so much easier to understand. Thank you for all the affirmation I get from your work, Matthew! You’re a gem and your mum must be so proud of you!

[@Exprealtyagent]

This talk was a box of jewels but the banker’s mind bit was my answer for today. In my sad mood today, I decided to learn something new like the athlete recovery 😉 , that example made me cry because I really understood my identity is not what I was sad about, I am above that. Nothing is a coincidence, so thank you kind gentleman for the light in my dark day.

[@SunshineSurfsup1]

MasterClass lessons...for life! This wisdom happens to be landing at a time of a clean break from a guy whose energy fell below my orbit. Thank you!!!

[@charlesrobert1883]

If you want help to get your love back, I can introduce you to someone who can help you, message him on WhatsApp[phone]... And he will help you bring back your ex

[@AikiraBeats]

That one about creating space so you can be at the same pace with that person is so very true. It's something that I'm still learning to understand.

[@valeoclub]

Fantastic! Ed, I find that such high quality, easiness, openness and fantastic flow of this conversation are definitely a sign of a wonderful interviewer that you are allowing guest to speak. It was like a beautiful tennis match! Matthew, absolutely love your logic and intention to stay away from absolutes, rules, “one fits all” ideas - lots of grey and foggy spaces in the world... My biggest take aways - meet them where they are, own your actions and ALWAYS be kind and empathetic. Thank you for a great and insightful conversation.

[@EdMylettShow]

That's what i'm talking about! Couldn't have said it better myself !! Thank you so much for the kind words! Was there something in particular you learned about him, that you didn't know before the interview?

[@valeoclub]

EdMylett I have followed Matthew’s work as well as Esther Perel’s advice, conversations and TED talks, so I generally agree with their take on the subject of relationships. One thing I learnt about Matthew that perhaps I didn’t know before is his ability to apply simple relationship principles to the business world. In other words, he isn’t just “hitch” or the “dating doctor” but there is actually a lot more depth to him. Enjoyed the interview. So thank YOU!

[@bazgashabir7410]

Totally agree! Matthew, great as usual and it was also was great to witness Ed' s exceptional interview skills !

[@sirennem.6890]

John Gottman , 8 dates. The best book. Learn how to date. And Imago therapy, the book Getting the love you want explains all

[@bundlewade]

Around minute 30:00, I liked the part where Ed Mylett acknolwedged that some of us will wait until marriage before becoming sexually intimate with someone. Thank you Ed for encouraging us to actually live according to our values. I liked the insight of "it is actually less attractive if it's easy for you to violate your own values."

[@kelleyanne4372]

Wow! You guys are awesome! The topic of a toxic relationship is spot on! I’ve been in one! I absolutely love this interview. I’m saving this one! The topic of kindness spoke to me as well. I’m 50, divorced and have 4 boys. I am sooooo over negative people! I just want to be around genuine, kind people. I don’t even react to them anymore, why bother! Matthew thank you so very much for this eye opening piece. I’m also in the online dating world and I couldn’t agree more, there’s always something else at someone’s fingertips. Its hard but there are genuine people out there. Thank you guy so very much for taking time out to do what you do best! Thank you for caring! ❤️ Happy Thanksgiving to you both!

[@garywilson2383]

Edmylett is a genius. What do you think?

[@sallykalan4026]

I agree ❤️

[@sallykalan4026]

Kelley C I agree so much ❤️

[@garywilson2383]

@@sallykalan4026 hmm How are you doing?

[@sallykalan4026]

Gary wilson i am doing good lol 👌😃

[@marimon6554]

I didn’t want this interview to end, the great questions, and the of the responses! I stand here a 59-year-old woman being schooled on relationships by this young man who speaks as if he’s on his 50th reincarnation and has been married and all of his past lives. Bravisimo!!!

[@marimon6554]

Typos due to no readers on LOL!

[@tesslouise-givetesslove9948]

Love MH, been following him for 5 years and have grown so much with his advice. Great interview. Just a thought. In the description could you put the times next to each question on the list? I plan on coming back to rewatch a few parts and that would help me and others find the advice we are seeking. Thx

[@thecatisoutofthebag83]

Matthew Hussey is truly one of the best coaches there is!

[@azierah2]

Ed bring out the best insight from Matthew.. this is Matthew BEST interview!

[@EdMylettShow]

Thank you so much for the massive love and support! What other topics you think I should have asked him?

[@MissLisaBowes]

In my experience, having been married over 20 years, is that you have to fall in love with the same person over and over again. My husband didn’t understand that it was the small things that made me able to do that. The times when he showed me tenderness during tough times. Or, simply showed me proper encouragement. When he thought enough to stop at the store and get me a few flowers-just because. We aren’t together anymore, as we couldn’t get back on board again. But, we raised our kids together. We keep a close friendship and still look out for each other. We still have each others back. You can end it and not completely abandon each other. For example, I chose to move to another state (where I have healed and grown as a person), I went home for Thanksgiving. As a family, we had an amazing time. I love him. But in a different way. My kids respect and love us. Because we show each other grace. That’s so hard for people. And as much as I miss those wonderful moments we had. And hurt from the bad ones. That love is still there. And it’s what makes me try to still be a good momma…a good woman…a good person. I just need to remember to show that grace to myself. I get down on myself because I couldn’t keep up that original thing that made us create the wonderful people and family we did. I am happy where I am. I have the career here I wanted and am around the kind of friends I always wanted. So, I stand by my choice…but still stand by my kids and those I left too. In the ways I can. Love is complex and no one can tell you how. You just do.

[@InspiritB]

I had to stop and take notes! Authentic, real and priceless truth. Thank you! Much love! I appreciate both of you!

[@anonymousbutthetruth.135]

My God, I'm so blessed n sn damn lucky to born in this miraculous Era of connectivity. This interview is one of the masterpiece n so do almost every comment on this video. Being surrounded n flooded by such wiseful words with all such wise people out there is kne of most precious blessings for me. A lot of love to both The heroes here and to every The wise viewer here. Learning a lot from comments as well. N that's the power of this video n the conversation of these two amazing guys, who attracted all the positive n wisest energies to just one place and created the most powerful n meaningful and ultimate place to be in for our right n best growth /evolvement. Love from India to all the people out there.

[@johnf.gamboa6217]

" What the heck has technology done to dating?". UUFFF, WHAT AN AMAZING QUESTION..

[@moncamonca1439]

Hello, thank you Ed and Mathieu. I'm impressed by your Theory - this concept about the matrix and the loss of identity in the big square of a long-term relationship. I've experienced this Loss of Identity over the last few years and I have to admit that I felt exactly as you've described. After the loss of my job, a very difficult separation, a separation from my teenage son, my mom past away, my death as well, receintly I had an accident, my whole world collapsed. I thought I was ready to meet someone new but my recovery was not completed. Now I've understood that all my values and beliefs have been tested. Today I'm still alive. Smiling and laughing again. The Athlete method is valid and worth the effort ))😊

[@MawiyahJ]

Masterful. I got so much value from this. I’ll be watching this several times. Thank you.

[@EdMylettShow]

Incredibly happy to hear you enjoyed the video ! Truly appreciate the love and support. What's 1 subject you wished he would have elaborated more on?

[@sdidora5]

@@EdMylettShow the ownership of it all...

[@pajourney8363]

Back to healing from a breakup, what someone can do is reinvent yourself. “Reinventing yourself is key to becoming whole again”. add new habits, new talents, and new intimacy.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Man he’s so lucky. His wife stayed with him even through breakups. I’d kill to have a second chance with my person. She was my best friend for 6 years. I miss her so much. Don’t really want to start over. I’m 33. She was it for me.

[@NicolasCharly]

Hey, how have you been more than 1 year later now?

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

@@NicolasCharly been over 3 years. Still sucks. But I don’t date women exclusively anymore. Always more than one. Safer.

[@Prisoner4011]

Thank you, Matthew! Your Matrix theory really shed some light on my recovery from severe chronic depression, something none of the doctors I saw or the medicine I took has managed to do in the past 6 years. If I actually climb out of this one day, I owe you big time. Thanks.

[@willi8420]

I was repainting the bathroom while listing to the podcast , wife walks in when Matthew was talking about breakups , and now she thinks I'm plotting to break up with her, sad but true.

[@Screenplaywriter]

Probably not. Probably just wanted you to say you aren't. Buy her flowers.

[@cayad2591]

Everytime I hear Matthew speak he will say something that makes me yell "Thank you!!!" at least once! 🥰