Ego "Amputated" Narcissists & Emotional "Prostheses" Codependents

[@Wizler71]

Even just the title was very AHAH! As a compassionate/empathetic person I like to help people. But it's not my job to save somebody who's chronically lost or keep propping them up (be their prosthetic). Tough love can be sad. But this knowledge can help me adjust my boundaries and not get used again (and have better self love).

[@pattiewoodall2488]

Wow, this was the most brilliant analysis! It helped me to understand many facets of my past relationships and my role in them as a codependent. Thank you for this video. Much love and respect for all you are doing here. ❤

[@irinamladenoska7539]

Thank you, Ross. My right to be my SELF was stollen from me. I was my mother's and my ex's ptostheses. I regained the sense of self, when my therapist gave me a permission to be my self. I went through all thr processes of codependency recovery. I like you very much. It is good to know that you are not a narc (a human magnet syndrom), and that I am not attracted to narcs anymore. Hahaha ❤

[@RICKYDICKYDOOOOO]

Brilliant! 💡 HEALTHFULLY is your BEST word.

[@narishaloflin9314]

This video made me cry with hope & recognition! I have watched soooo many videos, but no one has broken it all done like you have--simply, thoroughly, but with heart as well as eyes-wide-open honesty. I guess despite all I know & have been thru, I not only didn't fully understand my covert narc, I actually still held onto the fantasy that somehow I could help her! How naive I have been! But your ego amputation/codependent prosthesis analogy cut right thru all my fog--right between my eyes like a lightning bolt! Shazam! Holy shit, what a fool I've been! Thank you so very much for this wake-up call. I think "I'm beginning to see the light." And now I'm subscribed! 💜🩵💚

[@JosVBM]

...Still healing from all of his behaviors and what I allowed. Thank you for so much insight Dr.Ross.

[@susanhand1966]

This explains so much about why my husband does not remember anything but good things about his childhood. I’m aware of the terrible abuse & abandonment he endured as a child but he doesn’t remember anything. Wow so informative

[@adimeter]

Thanks Ross for all the insights and definitions, i.e., the ego, amygdala and repression, attachment trauma and disassociation and me the codependent as the prosthesis. It all falls in line now.

[@AAXS-op1vo]

I really like the style of your explanations. Very clear and precise. Been studying this for a very long time now to get a clear understanding on what happened to my marriage. It has taken a very long time and I have listened to MANY professionals (and other self professed ones) and this is good and sound content. Thank you for the in-depth explanations.

[@LiveFree123]

Great analogy 💙

[@KatrinaDancer]

I'm a covert narcissist. Once I became self-aware I just kind of started keeping to myself. I really don't want to cause damage. I rescue animals so I am doing good in this world. I try to warn people off about being friends with me or dating me but it's amazing how many people don't listen. I might be one of the only narcissists who tells people upfront what I am but they never want to believe it. If they stick around they find out eventually 🤷‍♀️

[@biancabarbeito1483]

Dear Doc please keep providing this material for free, I k ow its not the 6 hour full seminars or the books of which I wish I could afford, bit the little I have seen so far has helped me with my SLDD as you name it and I am so greatful to God to see bow that I deserve better, I am married to a covert narc who also is addicted to marujuana and he devalues me etc for years, despite me leaving him a couple of times I could never understand why I ever kept going back to him, now I am unemployed and have two little ones who need to escape I am just waiting to get on my feet financially again with the Lord's help but I recognize I need to heal and grow stronger too

[@davart311]

I would also stress how important is to recognize how much the codependent parent has affected you. it might be the case to unlearn what you learned from him/her...

[@carbine090909]

i love a good metaphor. well done.

[@PillCozbee]

Awesome video! Trying to see how phantom limb phenomenon would fit in this motif. Can the covert narcissist find their old self, or is the hard drive completely wiped over by the false self?

[@Spock_Rogers]

Thank you, Mr. Ross. 🌸

[@Anne.....]

Thank you very much. This was very interesting to watch.

[@lindal9885]

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@MissionForward3]

Hey, Dr. Ross..... Thanks for doing this.

[@sandycarlyonroubal4898]

Brutal. I feel gutted.

[@Christynmaine]

My ex’s parents were nice people but they left the child care to maids who weren’t even high school graduates so no training in child care. I often wondered if there was a connection. I’m just thankful that my son isn’t showing signs of narcissism. Worry that it’s an inherited trait.

[@carolinemaja2199]

Thank you soo much ❤

[@xefirah8753]

💥 that’s it!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 My role was to be the Caretaker for my father in the family. It became a relationship/ marital role. I became an expert in managing the Covert-Vulnerable NPD. Since Covid I got the perspective to get free from this pattern OF MINE!!

[@jennifer78756]

It is hard to accept that toxic people don't think like people with empathy. We can project our good qualities, just like manipulators project their own toxicity.

[@shereeherring874]

Thank you

[@lealea6020]

Now after this video I feel so terribly sorry and sad for the narcissists I met in my life although they caused much damage...

[@AAXS-op1vo]

Fascinating.

[@Ohearty]

Very interesting thank you so much. Can you sometime in the future talk about when the narcissist/ borderline mother gets dementia and the codependent daughter has to (as in choosing/ wanting to with empathy as knowing the mothers wounds and anxiety and sadness) take care of the mother. And how to survive it without breaking completely down with sleep disorders and stress as all the childhood wounds from the angry mother awakens.

[@arianebennion]

My narcissist has no arms, legs or head. I had no idea untill I discovered he's been cheating on me from day one. Literally he slept with another woman the first day we had a date. He brags how he's not cheated in 3 months. At least not that I can prove.

[@paigepaisley99]

Great title and so true

[@MissionForward3]

Reading HMS now. Learning a lot.

[@sandycarlyonroubal4898]

I feel so sad for the narc. I have been studying your work for years, and I still deal with limerence. SLDD sucks. SLA is awesome. Thanks for all the tools.

[@mac-ju5ot]

Wow bella lugosi. My alchic uncle always told me he was told he looked like him......but i was t that afraid. I knew he had been theough a war lostvtwo brothers ( yes im so dumped a d replaced ❤😢😢😢 ty ross)

[@NancyAnderberg]

Whoa… this makes sense. 😢❤

[@rinskeraphael8755]

My ex came from a warm nest, good parents. Lovingly gave him everything for a good childhood. But yet it was never good for him. He didnt had respect for his parents. Who were warm emphatic people . Stil he and his sister are narcs. I really felt always pitty for there parents all my live. My sister is born that way to, when she was two she manipulated everything as she wanted it. And here two adult childeren were the same sinds birth . I saw them ad age 1 alreaddy full narsisitic personaletys, with raging anger,🙄. And it went worse aging. So no I dont believe that they are made this way. They are born this way. Even the grand childeren of my sister between 1 and 6 are all the same narc childeren. Horible to see how a twin of 8 months old can attack eachother pulling on the hair and pinching eachother, scratching eachother….for me they all are bad demons and they need a exorcist instead of therapy. Even there school dont want these grand childeren,just as the childeren of my sister went from school to school…and so my narc sister went with here bad behavior from school to school, blaming me even now 40 years later🤯. I do believe narcs are born that way. My family proves it.🤨

[@lisaburridge1111]

Questioning the possibility of the pendulum swinging too far from the recovered codependent to the covert narcissist? recognizing the difference? Asking for a friend 😉 Seems like anything else in life...the goal being balance, homeostasis, a healthy yin-yang.

[@itb7439]

Jesus . I had a horrible childhood. With horrible abuse! Im not SLD, Im notbNPD. In fact, the npd's ive met have all been spoiled ,smothered, AND tempramental angry kids! This victimrole of the npd has to go. Its ALL genetics, NOT due to abuse. Im not a codependant. BUT im autistic! And npd's love vulnebare people! Not everyone who falls prey is SLD or codependenet! Some of us ha e other reasons for "being blind" !

[@timothythegreat6294]

there you are 🎉🎉🎉

[@hicransen9981]

I read one of your books.Wish the videos have Turkish subtitles😢. Google translate is so bad 😢

[@LolaJay_]

You are a silver fox! 😍

[@evaferrante243]

Can a "dead mother" raise a narcissistic son, yet produce a loving daughter? Or maybe the daughter is codependent? (Daughter happily married for many years, now a grandma. Although daughter and her hysband and family believe anything the TV says).

[@tanyam8462]

Isn't it dissociated, not "disassociated"?

[@lindsay5305]

Its dissociated, not disassociated