I’m glad that I am a stronger person, because I can see how people who are softer, in this respect, have a heck of a time climbing out of this. Especially as, we’re immersed in and swallowed up, by a world that, feels you have to take it on the chin, when you’re not a narcissist. I know right now, there are people who feel I should forgive, with forgiving being defined as re-entering the situation and just tolerating whatever abuse there is. Fortunately for me, their opinions matter as little to me, as the narcissist’s.

My MIL listed herself as the primary caretaker of my son when we asked if he could go to school in her district. Showed up to pick him up not allowed. Threatened to take the birth certificate down and all of a sudden it’s what can I do for you I’m so sorry it was best for kid etc. she knew we were gonna out.

Forgiving unforgivable behaviors.

I think the reason we made those choices is equally important, because we wouldn't make those decisions in hundsight.

My mother, my ex, and my daughter ... I called them all out. Why? Because danger is my middle name, baby!

Codependent carries the narcissist inside.Full stop!!

They also continuously avoid your questions by all sorts of means !. Non-cominicationm in full about certain issues is the biggest in my opinion !

They're demonic...manipulators, plotters, planners, schemers, deceivers...

I wonder if easy going people like phlegmatic disposition types are are attracted to high motivation people like cholerics. Cholerics just happen to also be hateful rude angry controlling and rigid. So phlegmatic people naively believe everyone that says I love you marry me really means it or else why would they say it.

After a lifetime of manipulation and physical and emotional abuse, and 2 months ago a horrifying letter from my mother filled with verbal abuse and slander towards me, my parents want to “meet to resolve our issues”. This video is helping me realize how useless this would’ve been.

Powerful and healing truth, ty❤

My man is proud about his disorder. He doesn't feel bad about that. He says I'm a narc yes what do you want? Respect my disorder and do everything i want because im in a disorder 😂😂😢

Awesome 👌...TYSM❤

Those glasses look good on him.

That was eye opening 👀

Weep haul misery that come among pre pro grammed staring at thing making it IT SOMETHING THAT ITS NOT.

Just running is not always possible. What if, for example, you cannot run because there is a child who needs to be protected?

Dude your eyes scare me

I admit that I've often just felt like I should just continue to put up with it because I want her to love me so bad. It's hard to accept that she probably never did.

Thank you for your advice ❤😊God's bless ❤

They Hoover, make their moves to draw you back into their emptiness.

Interesting that age 30 is deemed when they can realize. Is that a common thread?

Surrounded by these types.

Sometime we really concerned and wanna talk about whats been going on especially if u have kids together but its cool ill stop bcz i know im the narcissist and my bm is the victim and everyone is gonna have her back.....they waiting

I mean we everything u want us to be

My ex

It’s easy to spot them we know narcissistic personality is the same as addictive personality sex drugs alcoholism gambling shopping technology workaholic etc. I assure you 80 percent of rich people are psychopaths

Born in the shadows and during a dark day, He will be sovereign in realm and goodness: He will cause his blood to rise again in the ancient urn, Renewing the age of gold for that of brass. -Nostradamus Thin tall and dry, playing the good valet in the end will have nothing but his dismissal; sharp poison and letters in his collar, he will be seized escaping into danger. -Nostradamus In order not to fall into the hands of his uncle who slaughtered his children in order to reign. Pleasing with the people, putting his foot on Peloncle, dead and dragged between armored horses. -Nostradamus You just described my psychopathic family that stole my inheritance and tried to kill me. A captain of Great Germany Will come to deliver through false help To the King of Kings the support of Pannonia, So that his revolt will cause a great flow of blood. -Nostradamus Regards, Yeshua The moon is obscured in deep gloom, his brother becomes bright red in color. The great one hidden for a long time in the shadows will hold the blade in the bloody wound. -Nostradamus

It's great to know that this is being discussed and is not undocumented or an unheard of phenomenon. Covert narcissism is just disgusting. Yuck.

I cannot emphasize the importance of this. Thank you for this video. ANY response you give them will be weaponized against you. It's truly a trap. It's hard to believe that people can be this twisted, but they are. It's real! Do not engage, no matter what.

Yep then you get better at spotting the narcissist (i e. Addictive personality sex drugs alcohol shopping gambling workaholic technology, etc), and avoid that. Then you don’t want to talk anymore because a wife refuses to show up so I refuse to work or so anything until she does. People ask how you defeat the narcissist? Stop feeding it. Thanks for sharing God bless you. My parents abused my stole my money and even tried to kill me. What a lovely world I am such a bad person for demanding a kind wife.

Just be indifferent to them; they'll go mad. There you'll see what a weak, fragile creature a narcissist is.

My counselor back in Michigan said I did not "measure through". You mean measure through the pu*sy? How do I do that? Yes, Carolyn, let's go ahead and talk about it.

She hurts because she killed her children by abortions

They are management in companies.

Wow, i didnt know what sld was😮😢 thats me.

I need that pillow 😀

Well, if you just had 12 jurors, a judge, and a bailiff to back you up like Perry Mason, smacking down all the evidence would actually make sense. This is why people have interventions.

I saw this!...

Setting boundaries when they’re gone is the ultimate challenge!

My family And his worry he may hurt me. This divorce is going to be dangerous. He’s right ladies AND gents, they ARE Dangerous so Never agree to be alone with them, NEVER!

I found CODA to be extremely helpful for the few months I was in it. It had a long lasting effect, but I didn’t complete the steps (moved, got sick, yada) and in the midst of crises got back with my husband!! I am thinking of starting virtual meetings since I cant go in person. I would love to hear more on why you believe it doesn’t help and better alternatives. I feel like I finally understand why this one guy in the group who had been going for some years talked about his codependency as an addiction. I don’t believe that the void inside caused by developmental trauma…attachment trauma, can be “healed”. I think we can learn to know our patterns and urges and learn self-acceptance and learn how to make different choices. And I think that riding the ups and downs with the tools we have is more realistic than trying to make it go away. I don’t think it goes away. But we can learn to live with it and make different choices ❤

So true bought your book and WOW wush I hadnt wasted 30 yrs but codependency does that I thoiught I was doing the right thing but wasnt sadly Narcissistic Abuser

I could never- I can barely look at that vulture without gagging

Amen!!!

Projection isnt a bad thing though, it gives you insight into the people. Even if they're hiding 😸

Thats what ive been saying

My daughter would leave her phone sitting on record and would let others listen to what I said. Be very careful around a narc they are dangerous people.

SAFETY 1ST If your Narcissist is unsafe, plan silently & leave silently for your own, your kids', or certain others' safety. There are groups for that. If you look up a site, try not to do it on your own device, as that may be hacked. Go to the library, for instance, if you can. Either way, telling them off is telling them what they already know: what happened, how you feel, & that you still believe that telling them will change or help anything. It doesn't punish them (maybe someone without the disorder, not your Narcissist). If you can go, just go, silently & if you can, for good. If you have kids together, have all visits & communication go through your Narcissistic abuse recovery professional & a professional/public family service/court liason. ALWAYS SEEK OUT someone who specializes in Narcissistic trauma (there are more out there now, again not on your own device until your gone). The trickiest part about leaving is what's happening inside of you. The smallest part of leaving a Narcissist is physical. Arm yourself ahead of time, as much as possible, by getting/seeking to become well & yourself again. Personal ownership via comraderie with specoalized trauma help & other folks/groups who have recovery time & support among them. This is where to find someone to believe what you said happened happened. Others who know you & your Narcissist may not really understand or believe what you're saying. If they don't, you can still love them, but maybe stop trying to convince them. They may or may not EVER believe you. Their belief is not required fod you to recover. YOU being on board with recovery is the TOP requirement. Rather, get the RECOVERY SUPPORT where it exists & works & stay safe in your connections with others. Just make sure to "close the barn gate behind you." Whether you think they'll be cold or cozy after you're gone, if you stay or if you return, even to talk or revenge, you will be cold & not cozy & they have shown you they are ok with that - HAPPY & POWERFUL, really. Having survived your time with the Narcissist until now actually proves your absolute strength, forbearance, & fortitude. From THIS ALONE you have all the evidence in the world that you can do it. You CAN live your best life, whenever you choose to move forward in your life's journey. Again, WHEN you leave SAFETY SILENCE STAY GONE SPECIALIZED SUPPORT SOME OTHER DEVICES (no personal devices, if possible: library(?) they may not be violent but they have a way of thinking/acting ahead & of talking to you & loved ones, ESPECIALLY, the kids. Just a thought.

Why the music. Dumb