5 Things That MUST Be Present For A Man To Commit: Do You Have These Things? (Harsh Truth)

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[@chilloften]

Dear ladies, You are the prize and keep legs closed.

[@Chimalmita1]

Girls! If you're looking for a husband, find a guy who wants you more than you want him. Then you'll feel relaxed and confident about his committment and love

[@lkasjddasjlk4350]

Terrible advice

[@christinafrancis6163]

The difference now from back in the day is we have online dating and that gives everyone a bigger dating pool and it tends to make people believe they have more options than they really do and some people will always want to see if they can do better (especially if they think they have options that are out of their league). It's about narrowing the pool down to people that are looking for what you're looking for, that have similar values, and are on a similar life path as far as goals go. Only consider your serious options and let go of anyone that isn't on the same level as you so you don't waste your time.

[@melc8388]

Yup grass is greener syndrome...

[@j-tenn226]

@Abc Def meaning what exactly?

[@skyfall1481]

These dudes have been ran through more times than the Holland tunnel. Vet them heavily, never ignore red flags and block them ASAP. They rely on weak women to let them lie and cheat.

[@rachelcronin916]

@@skyfall1481 Yep that dating pool is only larger due to all those with horrendous mental illnesses lurking and waiting to attach. Devastating if you are not careful. Be very aware! Painful!

[@brendabanuelos194]

Ive dated a diverse group of guys. Ive dated the older guy, younger guy, religious guy, non religious guy, sugar daddy, guy my age, guy with completely different interests, the smart guy, the dumb guy, the business guy, the car guy, the wanting marriage guy, the fuck boy, the control freak, the narcissist, the covert abusive guy, the wannabe rapper, the neighbor guy....You name it, I got it under my belt. And if I could share some tips they would be: 1) red flags show up as early as a month in to getting to know the guy. Maybe even earlier tbh. 2)As soon as you see a red flag, RUN BITCH RUUUUNN. 3) Dont let anyone violate any of your boundries. What I mean by this is dont be afraid to be a bitch if you have too, you will respect yourself more if you dont let others take advantage of you, and youll rest easier too. 4)Having a relationship, or a guy around ,isnt everything esepcially if he takes you off your personal path towards growth and peace. 5) Hide all your assets from the guy in the begining and dont share as much of your assets as possible with the guy until you see with time that he respects you genuinely and shows signs of being a good person cuz some men like to target women just to take advantage of their assets. 6) Stay away as much as you possibly can from guys who have been cheated on, have divorced parents, drink a lot/smoke a lot, have legal issues, value their looks and/or money too much, guys who have a father figure that shows red flags in his own dating life (ie if the dad is a cheater/abuser more than likely the son will be too), guys that dont have a good relationship with their dad and mom, guys that try to lock you down toooooo fast (im talkin days to weeks here), guys who show lil interest in your likes and only care about themselves, guys who show controlling behavior, guys with anger issues. 7) Your intuition tells you upon meeting a man the first time of whether or not he is good, learn how to pay attention to your intuition and actually follow through with it. Your intuition will ALWAYS be right, ALWAYS as soon as you meet the guy. It's that accurate. 8) Learn to be fearless in saying no. 9)Always be willing to leave as soon as you know the guy is bringing more problems into your life or could potentially bring more problems. 10) No guy is cute enough or worth it enough to stay with if he is hurting you emotionally/physically/mentally/spiritually. I dont care if he is this or that. You run bitch runnnnn. There are plenty of other people out there. And not only that, this journey is about your growth and your relationship with YOU, so you better be doing the work to make sure you are taken care FIRST before anyone else. 11) keep a guy at arms length from you and your personal life. Your personal goals should be a priority. The guy should be second fiddle until you see he doesnt encroach or throw off your personal life and goals. Some guys will try to force and weasle their way into taking part in your everyday activities too fast. Keep them at arms length till you learn who they truly are. Maintaining your independence will make it easier to not get too emotionally involved with the guy too fast. 12) If you encounter hard lessons while dating, reflect on what new skill or wisdom youve gained, say thank you out loud for it because you are now stronger, and keep it movin.

[@---nd9en]

Thank you for writing this 🙏🏻🤍

[@sansadrake4133]

Have you found a legit guy yet? 😂.

[@_voyageuse]

Girls, treat yourself as the full package you are, if someone doesnt want to commit, it means that you are not their perfect 10, but somebody else's, who will cherish all your qualities you have to offer.

[@amandawingz658]

This may sound harsh to many women this does makes sense. I may crush hard but if I were to commit I would look at all these as well.

[@eva-nr2bs]

"In my opinion" ............"Which is right" :-)))))))

[@HaileysHealth]

Good info & I liked this style of video with the writing and talking.

[@rashikatasnim2335]

I have been watching your videos from this year and for the first time I came to know about an emotionally unavailable man and their charachtertiscts from you but I never thought I would have met someone like that and fall for him. Omg! they are in a trap, it's not that they are bad people, it's mostly because they didn't have strong family bonding and they are having an emotional detachment personality disorder or something. It even makes them sometimes attractive and we girls think we can change them, but you should not invest your emotions in them. Thanks for your videos though, I listen to it several times just to warn myself

[@panjenambao2070]

This was great and straight to the point. I loved the delivery too. It was easy to follow. Thanks for keeping it %100 all the time. I'm an insurance policy right now LMAOAOOOO dating is so much fun.

[@toneyfox6328]

In my opinion which is right 😂😂😂😂😂

[@alisa562]

God I love your videos. You are the best dating coach hands down. Thank you for giving us all the advice that most others won't give.

[@cheryllynn9301]

Well, this was interesting... and good to know!

[@sylviamashiloane7182]

Taking Notes

[@akelly3397]

I absolutely agree!

[@C_Radical]

So basically men want a perfect 10 no matter what

[@AbbersSmileFace]

@Abc Def bitter much?

[@C_Radical]

@@AbbersSmileFaceShe's not being bitter. It's just plain facts.

[@alexandra9985]

But is the guy also a 10??

[@suziesmith8288]

@Abc Def yep a guy I know of has been in many relationships his 36 now and still won't commit he has dumped many women after finding girls he finds better looking and still won't commit. He says he wants a 10 yet he looks like a 6 lol with no muscle and he doesn't go gym. He is insecure and needs to grow up. He rates girls on a scale of 1-10 as if his a goddess these types of men are time wasters they are not worth it.

[@AtlanticSiren]

@@AbbersSmileFace She’s right Abby. Pay close attention to the things he says on his videos. The kind of guy he’s describes are either narcissists and or guys with an insecure attachment style like the fearful/avoidant yet tries to push the narrative that the woman did something wrong.

[@AM-mi9jd]

I agree! I pick a man the same way.

[@AbbersSmileFace]

6 months in with my BF now and the key things he says that made him want to commit was 1. Beautiful 2. Kindness towards him and others 3. How I treated him (He specifically said bc I made him breakfast when I stayed over to help him be on time for work). 4. Inspired Him to Better Himself 5. Reciprocated His Efforts (Emotionally & Financially) 6. He could tell that I cared about him more than I let on verbally. 7.His Mom Liked me a Lot - Hope that helps.

[@dontletitin]

Most cases they will take you for granted because all of these points.. this is the exception, not the rule. Never do wife shit until you have a ring on your finger is what I see...

[@rachelcronin916]

But what does HE do for you?....

[@reginaalmaraz7561]

I qualified 😊👍

[@aliciaarroyo6]

What if you two are exclusive but he has yet to put an official title to it? We do all bf/gf things and have been seeing each other for about 4 months. He says he wants to take it slow.

[@dianawang9904]

Same here. But we are gonna study and work in different countries so it’s idk what to do now

[@chilloften]

Crash test dummies!

[@AbbersSmileFace]

I don't like that for you. That doesn't sound good to me.

[@suziesmith8288]

A guy I know of said this to my friend he dated and they ended up not getting into a relationship because he said they are taking it slow which means he is keeping his options open for something better. A man will not take it slow if he likes you because he would want to commit to you before another guy does.

[@skyfall1481]

You’re in the male version of friendzone. You will be very hurt when you wake up to what’s going on. Back in the day, when two people liked each other and spent a lot of time together...you’d be official. Not anymore!!!!!

[@kittame]

How healthy is it to never argue though??

[@beautysoul116]

do you think it is convenient to date more than 1 guy at a time?

[@Eadrene]

yes, just keep your legs closed.

[@sansadrake4133]

If this is all true then why do i see men commit to mentally unstable women, or those who are not exceptionally amazing in terms of looks but pretty average?that the best they can get?

[@jessicawojcik336]

Then why do married couples divorce and why does it take someone 9 years to marry you after the kids

[@DG-on9dz]

It took a guy 9 years because he likes his placeholder chick that does everything he says. While he was dating her for 9 years, he was experiencing diff women on the side, but the ones he really wanted he felt he couldn’t hold down. A lot of insecure people out there. A lot of guys settle with a certain girl because the guy is lazy. She might not be his top preference, but he holds on to her because she’s willing to do anything and stay with a man for 9 years with no marriage 🥴. Men like those ride or die girls that don’t think of themselves…ever, and those poor girls get used and abused.

[@jessicawojcik336]

@@DG-on9dz thanknyou so so true it’s not for love ❤️ it’s because she has his kids and allows him to do what he wants

[@DG-on9dz]

@@jessicawojcik336 💯 Most women don’t like breaking up the family unit. They stay because of the children and because they’ve invested so many years. When a woman has invested that much time, in her mind she’s thinking “might as well keep going because it’s too late for me”, but it isn’t. It’s never too late to focus on yourself and do what’s right for you.

[@jessicawojcik336]

@@DG-on9dz and she cheats 2 months after her wedding and thoroughout the 9 years and she stays

[@jessicawojcik336]

He

[@h.y1778]

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