12 WAYS TO BE A BETTER PARENT | HOW TO BE A BETTER PARENT | Emily Norris

[@chelseascarborough729]

I knew from a very young age that I never wanted to be the parent that my parents were. I was finally going to break the cycle of toxicity and abuse. My past definitely effects my parenting, but I am so proud to say that with a two year old and another on the way, I am the type of parent I wish I had growing up.

[@InHisService772]

OMG, me too! I always say that I am actually the kind of Mother that I wish I had. But also wondering at the same time if I am mucking up things because I need to be the kind of Mom that she needs! I actively try toe a great Mom and being a great Mom is so very hard.

[@stephaniegagnon3403]

One of my favorite parenting quotes is 'the way you speak to your children becomes the way they speak to themselves' ... as in the way you talk to them becomes their own internal monologue.

[@mrsemilynorris]

Love this Stephanie. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@rawnnatural4227]

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[@hannahshekinah4960]

1. Don't label your children 2. Trust your gut. You know your kid best. 3. Model good behavior. They are watching you. They are listening to you. (This one hit me hard) 4. Let them make mistakes. Avoid intervention. Simply support. 5. Give them time and attention for a few minutes daily. 6. Let them be bored and do nothing. It boosts their creativity. 7. Don't neglect your self-care. Yes and Amen! 8. Make memories. Create traditions that are memorable. 9. Listen. Ask questions. Don't skip complements. 10. Let them sleep and sleep well. 11. Don't compare. Milestones are not deadlines. 12. Reflect on your childhood. Emily, your tips are amazing and I have a new perspective on how I am going to parent from today. Love from India ❤

[@mrsemilynorris]

I love this Hannah! Amazing. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@mariehinton8428]

Literally couldn’t find a pen you saved me with this screenshot lol, thank you 😊

[@imanromeili2028]

What is gut?

[@family-peace-love]

@@imanromeili2028 stomach

[@yuliarechevskiy5112]

@@imanromeili2028 instincts and intuition

[@Jayvanegas]

As a mom if a 6 year old boy I wanted to second the labeling tip. This is sooooo true. I called him shy so many times that now when we get into crowds he hesitates so much, stands behind me, and says “I’m really shy.” Would’ve been good to hear this before I started that!

[@xHeartHeartbreakx]

Thank you for sharing, my daughter is younger but I catch alot of my family labeling her too! Thanks for the game changer.

[@karenelliottxx]

The positive affirmation/compliment thing rings SO true with me atm. I felt recently like all I did was telling off my boys, so instead I went the complete other way, and started being happy with what they had done rather than upset about what they hadn’t, and it’s made such a difference! They still don’t listen sometimes, but they seem happier to comply, and as I’m not getting cross or angry, I am happier too. 😊 xxx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe Karen xx

[@purnimalakshmanan7063]

When I am a mom I want to be like you. This is so goals. You r so homely.

[@mrsemilynorris]

Ah you're so sweet Purnima. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@nataliejones4807]

Have watched you for years (with no babies!), now I have my first baby and your videos mean so much more as I can ACTUALLY apply your content instead of just hyperthetically ❤ Thanks Emily xxx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Ah amazing Natalie, enjoy being a Mum/Mom, it's the best!! Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@oakelm8915]

Own it and apologize 100%!!! This is something that I live and breath

[@mrsemilynorris]

Amazing. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@mumof2zoe835]

i do the compliments with my son, so if he’s having a bad time with something i’ll always remind him off what he’s good at or if he’s doing well with eating his tea i’ll give lots of praise and he loves it, or i’ll often just tell him how nice he’s been that day and i will notice such a change in his mood and he will be more kinder xx

[@judesheppard8977]

Emily, this is just what we needed in our house, we have all struggled in lockdown but today is a brand new day and I'm going to start these now 🙏👍

[@alexandrasara9676]

Thank you for this Emily! I try not to say ‘good girl’ to my daughter when praising her so that she doesn’t equate achievement with being morally ‘good’ (and therefore when she doesn’t achieve something equate it with the shame of being ‘bad’). Instead, I get specific, ‘Fantastic job putting away your toys, you really helped mummy.’ Another quick tip which you mentioned too is to do things ‘with’ and not ‘to’ your children - collaboration is key and this subtle shift in thinking makes the tough moments feel like you’re less put upon as a parent!

[@Mommysodes]

Regarding labelling; ensure family members(aunt and uncles) don't label them either. I always shunned any 'labeling' statements. The moment school called about closure, I knew my only chance at success during this lockdown is ensuring my mental health 😄. Happy mama, happy life. I'll think of a tradition esp for this lockdown time. Thats a great idea. Thanks Em.

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@sophiesadds1153]

Love this. Parenting a 3 year old and a 9 month whilst hubby serves away in the Navy is hard work. I have defos fallen into the "no" "stop" etc pattern these last few week. Another good tip i have had to start doing is leave the phone upstairs till nap/bedtime once you start down that social media hole it is hard to get out off and you miss so much of the day .

[@pinkroxtar7]

I love these tips. When I was growing up I wasn’t allowed to say “I’m bored” it was a banned word in our house. If you said it, you got some chores to do to keep you busy. I want to be an amazing parent one day and you inspire me ❤️

[@philipphilippidis5903]

Hi! Emily I think you are a fighter. I am an orthodox Greek mother and despite the fact that you dont mention your religion and you have a different culture you behave and act as I do.I am mentioning this because I realize that insane things are considered logical and the opposite, nowadays.I respect your good intentions. You set a good example to me. Thank you and I wish all of you to have piece in your hearts.

[@nataliesmith2458]

Great timing..... I feel I’m failing more than ever atm 😢 Any help is most gratefully received x

[@mrsemilynorris]

Ah I hope it helps Natalie. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@nataliesmith2458]

Emily Norris it did, thankyou x You too 💐

[@mariehinton8428]

Aww I think at some point we all are with this crappy lockdown situation so your not on your own chick xx

[@amandal1457]

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[@gavwheat]

I’m not even a parent, but I love watching these videos and giving my parent tips, and my siblings!! 💖

[@isthatachicken7217]

i’m not even a mom, but today my little sister (according to my grandmother) patted my hand and told her “I take care of sissy”. She then kissed my hand and said “I love sissy” 🥺. My heart has melted into two and I miss her like crazy now, I’d do anything for that little princess and I’d love to have a child of my own one day and give them the best life possible.

[@larbakatariina1912]

This is really helpful! My baby just turned 1 but she already understands so much of what me and her father talk about - I need to especially work on not talking badly about myself or my weight when she's around. I try to compliment her as much as possible so she doesn't grow up with self esteem issues like me. "How many times have you said something and it's literally something your mum used to say?" this really hit home, though most of the time it's me thinking like what I heard growing up. It's so weird being nearly 30 and finding out through my own daughter how much exactly of my output or feelings are directly from what I was told (or not told enough) while growing up myself. It's like, am I my own person at all or just a copy of something someone once said to me..

[@joannanapsalotberry]

They are always watching! Our baby is almost 1 and and already she shakes her head when she doesn't like or want something. Didn't even think shaking my head when saying no would be a thing 🙈

[@eleanorpotts1165]

My mum compared a bit with me even when I was at primary school then got diagnosed with mild learning difficulties and mosaic Down syndrome, love watching al your videos x

[@clairethebumbaseed]

Very useful tips and information, especially at the moment when we’re all trying to do our best for our children, with all the stress we have. The number one thing that relaxes my child, improves his mood and makes me feel good (even if it is a challenge) is giving him undivided attention/ play for 10-15 minutes a few times a day! Thanks Emily xxx

[@monikap2067]

OMG what a coincidence. I received today Dr. Shefali book "Out of control - why disciplining your child doesn't work and what will". Great topic in "good" time. Thanks

[@mario_p09]

one thing i read as recommendation and i feel a connection with my little girl - almost 3 years: when i talk to her, i also tell her what i did during the day. random things, events and people but sometimes it helps to move the attention from her but still talk together.

[@darceysaffron-marygetty9626]

My daughter is 7 months old we went into lockdown not long after she was born I feel like I haven’t had the experience and opportunities that other mums have. Love these tips thanks so much !

[@A107S]

Love this Emily. The “don’t label” tip really spoke to me. I definitely label my kids. My oldest is the wild child and my youngest is the cuddly sweetie. I really need to stop that. You are spot on.

[@shaniadekkers9049]

As someone who was bullied as a child I agree with the advice on bullying. When my mum intervened it only made things worse and because of that I was less likely to open up to her about issues I was having. Obviously if your child is experienced very serious bully with violence etc involved that is a completely different story and would need immediate intervention.

[@feliciagrande128]

Woah! « Baby milestones are not deadlines » I love it!!!! ❤️❤️

[@mariestaunton4635]

By the way thank you for still uploading I know it is hard with your kids and trying to edit and get it uploading but you always try .when you upload on the days you do it’s my favourite part of the day because you are just so smiley and happy and you always are so positive . Marie 👍😀

[@Fly2Faith]

It has been extra difficult. Great video Emily! My 11 mo stopped breastfeeding to watch your video with the biggest smile! He doesn't see many faces without masks these days and your every time you say hi guys he waves! Thank you xx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Oh bless. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@traceygrabham5464]

Thank you so much Emily. I really needed to see this video. I’ve been struggling with my 4 year old atm, not listening and tantrums constantly and won’t go to bed. Constantly on the go and never seems to get tired. Your an amazing mum! Xx

[@gillianpmc2646]

Clicked so quickly on this one! Newly a mom on 3 here in Canada 🇨🇦 Watched you ever since I needed tips on potty training for my first born 🤗 Thank you for this video!

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe Gillian 🇨🇦 xx

[@SamStanley-581]

Hey! I realise this is an old video, but I just wanted to say thank you for this. Spending my 2 hour daily commute home searching parenting videos and finally found one that is not patronising or in actionable and actually coming from tried and tested methods. Great points and hoping my journey to being the dad I want to be goes as well as this video landed 🙏

[@jasminegreen7974]

Thank you for this! I laughed out loud at “who got in trouble today?” I’ll save that for when my kids are school age. (1&2 now!)

[@jhonerickgarzoneky7560]

I am utterly grateful to be your suscriber. Could not have chosen a better way to learn and improve as a mother. You´re an amazing human and ever since I've started following you I've felt how much my motherhood approch has changed. Thank you Emily.

[@bournie21]

Really loved this, I’m going to try and watch it each week to remind myself if these tips, it’s so easy to focus on no no no x

[@julietannOsfan1972]

I totally agree with not labelling children. I don’t even like them being called good., I always praise the action, not the child/person.

[@zainabnuzhan376]

Hi, just wanted some perspective here. I've heard lots of people say this to me but isnt praising a child a bit like positive affirmation for them? Like you are good, you are kind, you are generous etc. How is that a negative thing? I've been struggling to understand this for a few months now since I heard it. Thanks a lot.

[@dice3704]

This is only mommy vlog that is so good , educational, friendly and honest . Thank you .

[@adamnaughty]

Ur still my favorite youtube mom thank for not so much sponsor that encourages us to spend n we feel crap

[@mallorymeir9011]

The audio is very good. Hope you dont have to shout at the microphone anymore.

[@mrsemilynorris]

Ah thanks Mallory! Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@mylifelizabeth]

Emily Norris I thought the same thing. Where is your microphone from? I couldn’t see it in the description & I’m searching for a good new one 😊

[@emmakinslow2041]

Hi Emily, I'm nearly 32 weeks pregnant and I love all of your videos and tips thanks for being so open! I hope to be a good mum like you. Side note I love your top in this video.

[@ali18398]

Love you Emily. Thanks for sharing. Many weights are lifted off my chest. 💖 God bless you and your family.

[@sophieb283]

The one negative to five positives was an eye opener. In particular my 4 year old needs more positives from me. But you have made me realise and think, that I have definitely told her off about things lately far more than I have told her something good 😫💔

[@MichelleOsgood]

Loved this 👍 its so hard at the moment with routine changing drastically for us all this year but the extra time I've have had with my boys has been so precious. Despite how tiring its been 💙

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe Michelle xx

[@SaharSami-o4x]

I admire you, my best family youtuber, i am about to be married and learned so much from you, hi 👋🏻 from Iraq😊

[@jennybrown616]

The sound in this video is definitely better so the new mic worked! Thanks for this video me and my husband are trying to be much more mindful of labelling our son. Everyone always says how ‘shy’ he is so I’m definitely trying to deflect from that and use more positive language. I was a ‘shy’ child too and remember feeling awful when people would point it out so I don’t want the same for him x

[@mrsemilynorris]

Aw thank you so much Jenny xx

[@caitlinsexton1238]

Hi Emily, I saw ur instagram story this morning about you getting the new microphone. The sound is brilliant xx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Ah thank you, I am so pleased with it. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe Caitlin xx

[@caitlinsexton1238]

@@mrsemilynorris thanks Emily x

[@caitlinsexton1238]

@TamaraGatwiriNdiga GRADE 2 2020 ????

[@mrneonet]

If I'm having a particularly bad day, I do apologise and explain that even parents get annoyed or upset. I've also got better at letting my children make their own mistakes! If I'm not sure about their decision, I'll ask them if they think their choice is a good one and talk it through afterwards.

[@pranikaworld6673]

Parenting junkie was my life changing parenting channel

[@lauracullen854]

Awh Emily this was brilliant! I loved watching this so much! 🥰😘 I always love your parenting videos Xxx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thanks Laura! Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@pjmackall]

Every generation thinks they have it the hardest. We have antibiotics, washing machines, dishwashers, air conditioning and heat, cars, restaurants, indoor plumbing, airplanes... Most of all, our children mostly live to be adults. ♥️ I grew up knowing almost all of my great-grandparents and listened to their stories, so I’m 100 percent sure our ancestors had life and parenting much harder than we have it. Take a walk through a cemetery and see all of the dead babies/children from smallpox and cholera and simple infections. We have it so easy. Imagine raising a child in the woods as a Hunter gatherer, or on a farm in the late 1800’s, or during the Middle Ages…Loved the rest of your video. Childhood goes by so quickly. Enjoy!

[@izzyl12748]

I'm not even a parent but I have watched you for so long and never miss a video xx The sound is amazing and you as always are beautiful. I love this video xx this tips will come in helpful for when I do have kids

[@mrsemilynorris]

Ah thanks Isabel. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@ew712]

Thank you for this video! I am a new mom of two and am really struggling right now with mom guilt. My big boy is 19 months old and his baby sister was born 2 months ago. I am really struggling to have one on one time with him since his sister wants to be held all the time and i feel like losing my special bond with him a little bit right now and that breaks my heart. Its even hard to do things with him while holding her since he not very gentle and i constantly have to shield her from him so she doesnt get hurt. I really hope that gets better soon..

[@theodorestephen1867]

Good luck ❤️❤️

[@sooh6299]

I really needed that "Don't compare" now. First time mom of a 7 month old, and he's not really interested in rolling over that much or can't be on his tummy for very long at a time without getting really irritated.

[@emmaronan6611]

You're such an incredible mommy,your boys are beyond lucky to have you.x

[@nermismieses7121]

Wow, this video is like a treasure chest😲. Thanks for the reminders, examples, evidence, encouragement and positivity!

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you Nermis and thank you for watching ❤️

[@susanna1024]

Thank you very much for this video. As a parent I always judge myself I am not good enough. You helped me so much and it was so nice to hear these types of advices. I have to say I agree with everything in the video and this is not just for children this is for everyone. Everyone around just point what I am doing wrong and judge but nobody say what I am doing right. This advice was just eye opening. Thank you so much❤️.

[@nicole-threekidsandme22]

Audio was very clear! Was able to leave video playing over the top pf my tumble dryer while doing the washing. Love and really needed this video though. Would Love more mindful parenting content if it was something you would be interesting in looking into. Love learning hacks and activities, but the root of happy parenting definitely comes more from the inner side of things like this as a reminder. Thank you 💗

[@KieranneEunice]

Yay, can’t wait to watch this 💖 always in the look out for more tips as a new, young mum 🥰

[@mrsemilynorris]

I hope they help Kieranne. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@KieranneEunice]

Emily Norris thank you!

[@julieevans7212]

I have two daughters one is very reserved and the other very dramatic. Into acting, singing very theactrical. So she's a tik tocker and likes to make videos. She absolutely loves it when I spend time with her doing her videos, she's so talented. X

[@nataliesmith2458]

What does your other daughter like to do ?

[@gandalfthesamoyed6412]

Hi Emily,your video is great but I think that if you became parent it mean that you are going to be a excellent parent everyone is great lovely video thank you Emily

[@claired25]

Started playing Roblox with my two at the start of lockdown as a way of spending time with them.we love it! X

[@16december]

Perfect timing!!!❤️❤️

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@lynseymoffett9656]

Emily, awesome video! Loved it and your "non preachy" approach (as always) is very easy to listen to and take in. I'm going to dig deep and really think about the last one and hope this addresses some of my worries xx Ps: the label one is so true. Audio was so clear!

[@jordanopry3876]

Emily, I love you and your channel! This is so encouraging. My little girl is two and a half. You’re so inspiring and brilliant, thanks for sharing! From Shreveport Louisiana, US. ❤️❤️❤️

[@lucieb4741]

Thank you for this Emily. It's incredible how parenting has changed over the generations. I am 33 and I don't think parents from when I was a child used to put so much attention on their parenting. Kids' psychology was not a thing. Maybe this is why so many adults are depressed now :p)

[@preciousnwenyi9238]

Thanks Emily for sharing these tips.

[@lindsey830]

Hi Emily! I’m from Toronto and I just have to say how much I love your channel! Wish you, Matt and the boys all the best ❤️

[@mariahm16]

I’m a mom to a 5 year old girl and I’ve gotten to a point where I’m so broken and guilted over how I’ve raised my child. I swore I wouldn’t be like how my family was but here I am. I really want to change things and become a better parent ❤️‍🩹

[@LindseyDawnArt]

Thank you for this Emily. Its been so helpful. I did a parent nurturing course 2 years ago and a few points you've mentioned i learned in that class. Labeling kids shocked me and made me change my ways the most. I never realised it was a thing. !

[@amysmith5265]

I found this really useful like you said most you kind of already know but hearing it again is always needed! Now going to put the phone down and spend some time with my babies thank you Emily 💕

[@agatalexova8291]

wonderful video! I loved that advice about being a better role model for your kids 🙏

[@antoniyayotsova5473]

Thank you so much for this video! I struggle with my 3years old working from home and no childcare available at the moment. My partner struggles too as she is really active and curious. She is really picky too. Hope to become better and parent and will definitely try to follow these. Thanks again xx

[@elizamh5270]

I don’t even have kids yet but really enjoyed this video ☺️ you’re such an amazing mum x

[@anabento6180]

I just feel so much better and motivated every time I see your videos 😘😘

[@rebeccakhalifa5914]

Thank you, these are all lovely and helpful tips. Definitely need reminding of some of these during lockdown!

[@huntress2k1]

Love you channel its really part of my "ME TIME" routine xxxxx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@jillylloyd3527]

I am a Grandma - Mimi - and get so much from watching all your videos. You really help me Emily looking after my little grand bubbas. Thank you xxx

[@aslack6624]

Great video, Emily. I will rewatch it often as these are such helpful tips. Thank you 💖🌸

[@lindseydelight]

I read another thing to ask your child daily is *“what did you do to help someone today?”*

[@GautamPragya]

totally agree with every single word you mentioned & I have same thoughts too.

[@eloiseg6298]

Ahh,Great video Emily. I love your content. Can’t wait until you upload your next video

[@elysashatz5371]

I loved this! I would also love a video on your top favorite parenting podcasts, Ted talks, Instagram accounts, and books! I also love listening and watching parenting stuff and would love some recommendations. Thanks for such a great vid as always xx

[@mrsemilynorris]

Good idea Elysa. Thank you so much for watching and stay safe xx

[@solairaghamal7802]

Love this video great timing👌

[@monikaoleszczuk3987]

Thank you Emily, brilliant video put together. X

[@mehrinkhan5606]

I am grateful that you made parenting videos. please make more of them. especially parenting styles. the one you already made has more mixed ideas. and no screen tags so that confused me somehow.

[@karolinakimpton1674]

Very very useful. U r so motivating as u research urself, study and read and it's obvious how u want best for ur family and its very admirable. Been with u for some time now and still not bored. Thx

[@Gamg-uh]

Audio is great 👍🏻 and I needed this video so much 🙌🏻🙌🏻 Thank you xx

[@zarahills801]

These are great tips....I also think it's important to be true to myself as a parent though and not simply try too hard to be a 'perfect' parent and do all the right things at all the right times all the time. Being easy on myself is as important to me as trying to be the best parent I can be and always remembering that if I don't do as well as I would have liked I can literally the next second try better. I do think there is not enough emphasis on mums being themselves and sometimes if you aren't always the most patient etc that's ok too as we are all only human.

[@sandragoss62]

Hi Emily it’s 100% true that our stomachs behave like a second brain. It’s something I’ve learnt since being vegan. So for example our gut health is extremely important to the wellbeing of the whole of our body functioning well. If you like Deliciously Ella she has an amazing podcast on Spotify there are a few episodes on there that relates to the importance of gut health and brain function. Really worth a listen xxx

[@mrskfk6492]

Really enjoyed this, Emily. You seem like such a positive parent! I’d love more content like this. SJ Strum does fantastic parenting tips based on advice/tips she’s read and I thoroughly enjoy this kind of thing. I work with young kids and also have two of of my own, so welcome all the insight! 👍🏻💡 x PS I highly recommend Julia Lansbury’s ‘Unruffled’ podcast series, if you haven’t listened before!

[@gogobabydoll1697]

Really needed to hear these at this point in time. Thanks!

[@jamillah812]

Thanks Emily, these tips are really good and helpful. Love all your videos. You have a beautiful family. 🤗

[@jessicajones611]

This video was what I needed, thank you xxx

[@melaniej1203]

You should write a book. I love all of your tips.

[@heidiwhite6068]

Absolutely wonderful suggestions 🖤🖤🖤 thank you for such great reminders!!

[@hannajewellhamilton3660]

Thank you so much for these helpful tips I have only been a mom a year now but this video was really helpful !!! 💙❤️❤️

[@hbsabrine3579]

Such amazing tips, thank you Emily😚

[@grace-mi3cr]

i saw your insta story and the sound quality definately sounds different but so much better!!

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much Grace xx

[@LucyMahala]

Thank-you for sharing this Emily. This was really eye opening for me. 💜 You are an amazing mum. Truly xx

[@butterflytazzz]

Liked before watching!! Always love your parenting tips !! ❤❤❤

[@mrsemilynorris]

Thank you so much for watching and stay safe Tazeen xx

[@butterflytazzz]

@@mrsemilynorris aaaww you replied! U too stay safe hun ❤❤