This is why men are frustrated with dating modern women; Top 10 reasons WHY

[@xxxzzz9327]

number 1 reason: men are never loved for who we are, only what we can provide.

[@cali-pranks]

The irony is who we tend to be are providers. Provide support, protection, money, time, effort…

[@BigTyronie]

@@cali-pranksyea so stop doing that.. pay your bills and close your wallet.

[@ripley7t429]

The saying is Women, Children and Dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are needed for what they provide. Sorry, but even in the bible it commands husbands to love their wives, it doesn't say that about the wives, only to submit and obey their husbands. It is more than think different, they are fundamentally incapable of understanding and being anything close to a man's logic and love. Not that they are bad, just totally different and until men realize what is going on, it will continue to get worse and women in society will continue with unrealistic expectations.

[@mister-zen8491]

​@@cali-pranksAs Tyrion said, embrace it and use it as armor. Makes you more powerful.

[@waltermh111]

To be clear men have to be the provider can protectors and therefore love for what we can provide to the relationship. We are not like women. You're really missing the problem. I'm not trying to insult you here. I just want people to understand the actual problem. The actual problem is that why wouldn't you still expecting from us, we don't even get love or respect for those things we provide. They act like they tolerate us or act like they love us if we meet their expectations but I don't see the respect. For example you better make good money and provide the lifestyle they want and offer protection and so on. But they won't count any of that stuff as adding value. Halo still say that no matter what of these things you provide you still have to do half of what they would be expected to provide or want to provide. So you have to meet all of your obligations and half of theirs. Another example is you bar like we doing the job that is much harder physically and mentally than hers, if she works. But because both of them are cold work she treats them as equal and doesn't respect your sacrifices for the family well being. Another example of how in most relationships to this day women still want men to lead as far as being the main provider. But she won't actually give you the power that goes along with it or the respect that goes along with it

[@tess7798]

I’m a woman. I was with a group of 7 women and 2 men. The women were trash talking men. I spoke up in defense of men… I have 4 brothers and I think they’re fantastic! I flat out said that I completely disagreed. When we arrived and started to go our separate ways, the 2 men stayed behind to thank me for sticking up for them. I learned a big lesson that day.

[@kingzach74]

If you stick up for a woman they pretend like they care(for like 10 minutes), if you stick up for a man, he will be forever grateful.

[@EE12CSVT]

I used to socialise in groups in a nearby large town and all the women, except two, just trash talked men the entire time, with us men sitting around them. It was one reason why I left.

[@nerifterafrnam4682]

Prepare to be ostracized by that defecation called women. Also expect those two beta simp men to be reeled right back to that toxic pile, it´s in their nature. EDIT: Unless your story is totally made up & those don´t exist , then you´re just another "modern woman" hiding in new clothes.

[@aimaction7393]

I HOPE YOU DATED ONE.

[@aimaction7393]

SHOULD HAVE REFERRED TO GIRL WITH THE 2 MALES THANKING HER COMMENT.

[@RoninXDarknight]

As the oldest unmarried male in my family I constantly get asked when that's going to change. At this point my thought is that it never will because I've yet to meet, let alone date, a woman who actually adds to my life in any positive way other than sex. Beyond that most of the men I'm around on a daily basis are married and it is no secret at all that their wives make them absolutely miserable and I have zero desire to have any part of that type of nonsense.

[@MarkGriswold000]

You must go to another old fashioned country.

[@DanielRumbacher]

how old are you? and i dont think old fashioned country will solve anything. because women there are the same. they only act different but they are the same as western women. they are only out for what you can give them.

[@bctowing178]

Exactly I'll never marry a women from America 90 percent of them are brain washed with this trash of delusion

[@arorajivlogs1641]

they have weaponised sex, so it's not like married men getting easy sex, they might have better luck going to club. - another oldest unmarried male in my family

[@bctowing178]

@@arorajivlogs1641 I'll never get married and sex never stops if you've got game, I never do bars or clubs because it kills my ears I just hit up online dating sites, no need to ever get married that's just a mistake for any men to make these days, why buy the cow when u get the milk for free my guy

[@PeterScott-uc2nr]

Hello, Ms. Emily - I am a 71 year old male who has not dated in years. No, make that decades! After a disastrous 14 year marriage with one of the most selfish, self-serving women on the planet,and a wretched 4 year relationship after that with a woman who turned to be exactly the same I decided I'd finally had enough. No more trying to live up to impossible demands and constantly getting a faceful of BS when (in their mind) I failed to live up to their standards and expectations. Have become extremely self-sufficient and come and go as I please without having to negotiate with someone who is "always right". I very much enjoy watching your videos because you are one woman who "gets it". And you make me realize that my self- imposed exile from dating is not only okay but it's healthy, too! Many thanks!

[@bmwmd110]

This is my goal. To be free of my leach succubus of a wife.

[@thelethalhunter177]

If you don’t mind me asking my friend, what’s the next step for you?

[@ednorton47]

@@thelethalhunter177 To die in peace.

[@Vic_RE_Investor]

Good for you. 👏👏

[@ferndog1461]

Dang, I got friends with similar experiences. It's the exact reason I got a vasectomy & retired from dating with long term plans.

[@AndrewTheFrank]

10. They make it undesirable for men to approach 9. Level of acceptance of speaking poorly about men 8. Modern women "tend to be" (are) delusional 7. Lack of understanding between how men and women think differently 6. Modern women do not desire love and connection (as much anymore) 5. She compares herself to the lives her friends present on social media 4. Compares her husband to husbands on social media 3. High level of selfishness 2. Double standards 1. Don't take accountability

[@rapsack7058]

11. The very low self esteem that they have to boost by getting constantly attention and validation from out side. Barley one is truely happy with her self. (If the partner gives not enough attention, then they flirt at minimum with other man, if not more happens.)

[@AndrewTheFrank]

@@rapsack7058 I was gonna add an extra as a joke because I feel she missed that many woman are 304s these days.

[@impudentdomain]

@@AndrewTheFrank Not a joke, a very real problem

[@d.e.b.b5788]

There have ALWAYS been some terrible women out there; the trick, is to learning how to socialize with enough women so that you can find the good ones. There is no shortcut; you have to get used to talking to women without assuming that you have to get into her pants NOW NOW NOW NOW. There are NO magic pick up lines. You have to learn how to notice the women who already notice you. The biggest mistake men make, is pursuing women who aren't interested in you, essentially, 'barking up the wrong tree', just because YOU think she's hot. If you are unable to figure these things out, then you need to subscribe to one of the many courses out there about confidence, charisma, etc., start with Leil Lowndes' 'Undercover Sex Signals', which will show you how to recognize women's confusing 'non verbal' behavior that indicates she's already attracted to YOU. Good luck. All the information is out there, all you have to do is find it, and READ. Memorize the steps if necessary, do what you have to do. Just sitting back and complaining isn't going to help.

[@latt.qcd9221]

@@d.e.b.b5788 All you do by doing that is learn to spot the ones that make it *_obvious_* that they're terrible. You have no way of knowing if a woman you marry will drastically change 30 years from now and go through a mid-life crisis where she decides she wants a divorce and is owed half of what you have. Not to mention, there's no point in the jumping through all of the hoops in the first place since relationships with women aren't even worth it in the first place.

[@matthewcordes6645]

I am a 53 year old male who never married, but I have had several relationships with women throughout my life, a few longer ones and several that were relatively brief. Looking back, I can honestly say that I don't believe that I've ever been loved, and I definitely have never been respected.

[@JB-kx9bx]

❤

[@joergmaass]

Amen, brother!

[@georgesontag2192]

Women don't love men. Women love resources the men gives them. In old age, the women drops the sick husband off at the nursing home and never returns. Ask a nurse working at one, she will confirm this.

[@mjaybee]

Agreed. But my relationship where I felt the least loved? My 9 year marriage which ended 25 years ago.

[@anamericanman]

I too am 53, and every woman I have ever dated has sought to tear me down, is always attacking my self-esteem in one way or another, and this is irrespective of what I give to the relationship. You can give everything or give nothing and still get the same result.

[@MonicaPerez-yv2iw]

I am a woman and I follow your channel because in my opinion, that’s what a smart woman who wants to build a healthy relationship with the man she loves would do. 😌💪 Your efforts are appreciated. Thank you!

[@ShadowSword88ee]

We need more women who are willing to listen like you. Thank you!

[@johnblackhead2384]

It’s not difficult. Stay fit, be feminine, be nice. A little respect and appreciation go a long way. It’s interesting to me that most decent guys don’t really ask for much, yet modern women consider giving to their man insulting. It’s no wonder that MGTOW is growing.

[@BellaVita100]

Respect to you Monica...

[@Michael-gd8op]

It's kind of the opposite content to the video, but this is the number one quality I look for in a woman. In today's society, being compassionate and understanding to women, children, and pets is expected. This is not so much the case for men. A woman who is compassionate and understanding towards men stands out. Compassion and understanding are two of the key qualities I want in a long-term future partner because I want them to show that to my future children regardless of their gender. And because I want that for myself also

[@mitchd949]

So tell us men, do you agree with her points in this vid?

[@3007Doug]

Lady you hit the points squarely and accurately. I was dating a woman last year who was 44, never married, no children and didn't like to be around children and worshipped her cat. A few months went by and she seemed really well grounded, happy and reasonable. I spent slightly over $10k on a wedding ring set and asked her to marry me. We'd known each other in a professional and personal way for over a year. She refused the ring and instead told me that with the money I make I would be able to afford a much more expensive stone but she'd already picked it out and it would cost me $26,400.00. I just let that stew in my head for a while. I bought us 1st Class tickets to fly to the Island of St. Maarten for an 8 day stay. The room I got us was top shelf with a balcony looking out over the ocean and we'd also be able to watch the planes take off and land. I walked out of the room for a bit and when I walked back in, she was on the phone with the resort explaining we simply must have the penthouse at an extra $1,000.00 per night. When she was put on hold I asked her what she was doing. She stated that if I expected her to have a good time we simply MUST rent the penthouse. I took my phone from her and told the reservationist that the room I'd already booked would be just fine for us. She screamed and threw a tantrum as if she were a two-year-old demanding a chocolate bar at the grocery check-out line. I stood my ground and told her she was being unreasonable and damned unappreciative.. She stormed out and drove away in her $60,000.00 Mercedes convertible. She came over the next day though still pissed with me we seemed to be working things out. The straw that broke the camel's back is when she told me that I'd have to buy her a brand new Mercedes if I expected her to marry me. I told her she needed to leave because I had some things to think about. She left. I immediately called a locksmith and had every door lock in my home re-keyed. Entitled indeed!

[@LoganStyles21]

Please don't think all woman are like that

[@Redbert79]

The vast majority are.

[@TheRumblewagon]

The straw that broke the camel's back should have been when she rejected the $10k ring and demanded a more expensive one.

[@jairofrancisco3926]

A tip: look for places where people do charity work. Go there modestly and talk about your profession as modestly as possible too. When you find an interesting conservative woman, start going regularly and make friends to try to date. Take it slow and only show your financial capability after you're confident that the woman likes you more than your wallet. I think your previous profile has only attracted gold diggers. < About me: I am a Christian man with a woman who has loved, respected, and cared for me since 1997. Once, I had abdominal pain in the middle of the night and thought about going to the doctor in the morning. But at that moment, my wife insisted that I get in the car, and she drove me to the hospital. I was placed in an isolated observation area. She bypassed the security guards and reached where I was because she wasn’t satisfied with just the nurse’s information. It wasn’t anything serious, and I was fine the next day. I brought a Bible but ended up giving it as a gift to someone who was in the emergency room next to me. > Congrats from Brazil.

[@jackdurden466]

Dude that’s the most ridiculous level of entitlement I’ve ever heard! What in the heck was she thinking? Who did she think she was?!? What kind of crap was fed to this woman throughout her life to make her think that she was worth all of that excess? It’s good that you got out when you did, but all in all you did give her a more than fair chance to at least try to see her ridiculous behaviors and once you saw that none were going to change, you called the right person immediately. Just thank God you didn’t marry her! She’d have bled you dry bro! Damn this one will stick with me for a while..😮

[@keving8404]

Got married in ‘78 and was married until ‘11. During that time I think she said “I’m sorry” about 5 times. She could cry and be butt-hurt over most anything, of any size or consequence, at most any time of the day, week month. Zero accountability and never seemed happy about anything … ever. Finally, I just quit. It’s true what they say; “a man will not play a game without a chance of winning”.

[@johnwilson1094]

In other words, don’t make “sucker bets.”

[@samusaran7317]

@@johnwilson1094 Doesn't really matter when the house always wins...

[@konstantinrebrov675]

I'm sorry, but you married a lizard person.

[@davidbiros6231]

" I'm sorry" could mean "I'm wrong" They are never wrong. NEVER. All of these points are spot on.

[@davidshannon2450]

Can we extend this 1 courtesy to 3 courtesies: Please Thank you and Sorry Humility is not a bad thing, nor does it show weakness - quite the opposite, it shows strength

[@ef7558]

I fully agree with this breakdown. I gave up hope about 10 years ago. I just grew sick and tired of all of the aggravation, drama, lies, and so forth. My own family thinks I'm homosexual, but I tried to explain to them it's a totally different ball game these days. I may as well be talking to a brick wall

[@marleyhill34]

Well at least you weren't told that you were the equivalent of a teen mother who never graduated high school if you decide to become a single parent by choice. I'm nearly 42 with a post-graduate diploma and a job that pays maternity leave and I live somewhere with free healthcare and they actually pay people to have 2 kids! But no...I'm trash. This is why I don't bother anymore....with people in general.

[@NuclearFridge1]

​@@marleyhill34I hear you.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

@@marleyhill34 Immaculate Conception?

[@marleyhill34]

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Sperm donor, IVF, fostering or adoption. But hey if it worked for Mary, Mother of Jesus who am I to knock it?

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

@@marleyhill34 Children need fathers, particularly boys

[@DHigable]

Men are not frustrated. We’ve simply become indifferent.

[@tlrlml]

A difference that it would be valuable to note.

[@gordongekko2781]

It has been said that "the opposite of love isn't hate, it is indifference."

[@twiston43]

Yes, we have moved on from the frustrated to the indifferent stage quite a while ago.

[@pandaman1677]

I’m not even frustrated. I just go about my life enjoying my time, energy, and money

[@gordongekko2781]

@@pandaman1677 That's what I'm talking 'bout! Today being a bachelor is an advantage. I'm my most productive when I don't have a girlfriend consuming all my time and attention. And, one of my favorite life hacks: I live in the smallest home (just 730 sqft) in an upper-middle class neighborhood. What wife would have let me do that? And, if I had kids then I would have needed a home TWICE this size. Right now I'm working 50-60 hours per week, working out at the gym 3-4x per week, and taking golf lessons. Would I have time to do all that if I were in a relationship? Hell no!

[@krisptaco]

I've been divorced for 17 years. Dated a lot for the first few years. Got serious with a few. It all became too much headache for the above ☝️ reasons. I could tell it would just end in disaster so I finally stopped trying. Haven't dated in 8 years. I'm a decent looking guy, kind, intelligent, wise and spiritual with a good income. I don't need the headache and extra stress. It would take a very special (on the inside) woman to get me interested. I'm glad you are doing what you do. Modern women are, for the most part, relationship-toxic in my opinion.

[@crazyhumans-]

It's almost like you are talking about me. It's a big freaking headache.

[@Dwbulldog04]

The juice isn’t worth the squeeze. I was watching some videos where women are complaining that men aren’t going out anymore. Certain social events will have 85-90% women and it’s leaving women frustrated. I thought they got all dressed up for themselves 🤣. Men are waking up.

[@gc4644]

I would love to see Hollywood come out with a movie about 90% of men boycotting dating/ marrying women. It might help open modern women's eyes in their delusion.

[@jimmydavo249]

@gc4644 that will never happen, men "simping" for women is the Hollywood agenda

[@barryc9115]

A fan of SSM? I find his content very valuable, and found that story hilarious. They’ll die with their cats and a box of wine.

[@annatar6453]

When I was in first year of medical school, there was a social event and almost all the women in my class showed up while only 5 guys came. Our class gender ratio is 70% women with a total 120 students. I thought this was strange until I got red pilled and realized thee men don’t want to get Metoo

[@Dwbulldog04]

@@barryc9115 yes exactly

[@ronaldwagener5736]

I love the phrase “Comparison is the thief of enjoyment “. This statement captures so much!

[@jimtart4271]

If she spoke poorly of me in front of anybody..she's history. No respect, no jim.

[@dewardroy6531]

Agreed! Disrespect is the immediate deal breaker.

[@MrHCify]

Been married 25 years, provided-make over 250K a year, gave my wife all the children she ever wanted (A LOT), work local and am there always for the family, help with cooking/housework/babies, diapers you name it, listen to her, shop with her, don't travel or have any hobbies to speak of, don't drink or do drugs/porn, take them to church, give her space to work out (which is her hard core addition), try and listen and understand her. Let me tell you, it's never been enough and she's always dissatisfied with me, Very nit picking, never says thanks or praises me for my business success, constantly interrupts my work day, can't seem to manage the home (she's a SAHM). Overall, it's very frustrating and I'm about to throw in the towel.

[@biggav7434]

Jesus fkn Christ 🙄

[@JasonKritikos]

If she's constantly unsatisfied, give her a big dose of uncertainty her life. Also hire a PI to keep tabs on her, spy on phone/computer, and TRUST YOUR GUT.

[@jno995]

Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t appreciate you as a person, even more so than what you provide. Resentment doesn’t get better, you’ll find more peace on your own.

[@chrisandsneaky2453]

Get out before its too late. My mother treats my father like that, and they have been married for 54 years. It got far worse after my dad retired. He's 74 and never has any peace from his shrieking harpy of a wife. When my son's mother started acting like that, I told her to stop being a bitch or I was gone, because I was NOT going to end up like my dad...and this was when I was in my 20s! She didn't, so I left, got custody of my son. She decided she didn't want our son after that, so I raised him by myself. I'm 49 years old and have never regretted ending that relationship, especially seeing how my mom treats my dad now that both of them are elderly. No way could I deal with 54 years of that! My son is 27 and got to grow up in a peaceful loving home, which I never had growing up. I'm glad I was able to give him that.

[@glenbateman5960]

"Comparison is the thief of joy." Right there. That's why I enjoy your content. Reality-based.👍✌️

[@MarkGriswold000]

Comparisons = the end of a relationship eventually

[@fromgermany271]

If she thinks her gf‘s guy is „better“, maybe the gf is too.

[@ligafftheindifferent3495]

Indeed. A hypergamous woman can NEVER be happy because she is always looking to upgrade and never taking a single moment to appreciate the man she is with.

​@@ligafftheindifferent3495, ah, you make the classic mistake of thinking that just because we as men want to be happy, that's what women want too. No, women don't want to be happy, women want to _complain_ about how *they're not happy.*

[@hansscheltema3348]

So true... So I continue to be different!

[@klyons217]

I'm not dating and never participated in "hook-up" culture (Tinder or whatever). But I was married for 17 years and I got the impression from my spouse and from other men I spoke to that many women want all the benefits of 1950's classic "housewife" culture, (i.e. husband supports you 100%, not working, buy fancy items, etc.) but they also want modern "liberated woman" benefits (dominance in relationship, bad attitudes, independence, selfishness). Seems to me you can't have it both ways. If you want to be a passive woman, and can trust your spouse to take care of you (him being a servant leader) then go for that. But if you want to be a modern woman, then take all of it with the pros and cons. If a modern man is dominant, then he is an aggressive @sshole who should be canceled. If a modern man is passive, then he is "not a real man" and milk-toast, and should be ignored.

[@stevemiller1517]

Liberalism says they can have their cake and eat it too. That's why they vote democrat.

[@Stoigniew666]

Fuck "Servant leader". You're either a leader or a doormat. There is nothing in between.

[@delopez1966]

Thank you Emily for saying what needs to be said. We as men can't even echo out loud what you have stated, without being attacked as being part of the misogynistic patriarchy. Thank you.

[@Hun_Uinaq]

Hell, I’ll still say it. They can say whatever they want about me. Turnabout is fair play, in my opinion. They talk shit about us, we get to talk shit about them. Even Steven.

[@thomasmurray3920]

Fir all the demands from women regarding what a man should bring to the table, those women can never articulate what they bring to a relationship.

[@ejtaylor73]

I'm sure she gets attacked by women for saying it too. Modern women are ONLY going to listen to whoever is saying what they WANT to hear, NOT what they NEED to hear and will attack anyone that disagrees with them.

[@Drake844221]

As a soon-to-be once-more unmarried man, a LOT of these hit very close to home, but the one that hits the hardest really is #1. My wife is a very motivated and driven woman, who has a very clear sense of how things not only _should_ be done, but _need_ to be done, and she doesn't do well with flexibility about the fact that I have different (and yet still sufficiently effective) ways of doing things. No, she'll still happily just barge in, shove me off to the side from something I'm working on in a way that she's not satisfied with, and just take over the task. And how dare I be bothered by it? Hell, just about the day before we agreed to "just be roommates," I'd tried to have a word with her about the way that I was in trouble with her and her daughter for "not helping put up Christmas decorations." I'd tried saying, "I really was working on a project for work that day," and that she "could have asked me if that was a good day for me to work on decorations," but she refused to recognize any mishandling on her part. I should have been the one to be proactive in communicating that I had actual work to do, and it wasn't "her job to hold my hand in being a good partner and father." She's _very much_ allergic to taking responsibility for what she does. And yeah, she even has a group of online female friends, who she has readily admitted have guy-bashing sessions. That... really didn't sit well with me, especially when she added, one time, that "I was included." Yeah. Great motivational work.

[@DavidYoung81]

Don't worry brother, divorce is excellent. I've been divorced for 4 years and it's the happiest I've been for a very long time. All my best and hang on in there!

[@ArthurDent-q9o]

Get divorced and try not to be ruined! Stay strong!

[@ArthurDent-q9o]

​@@DavidYoung81unless she doesn't ruin you. Our legal system is taking care of that.

[@davidshannon2450]

You must be my long lost twin who married my wife's identical twin sister 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Couldn't have put it better myself

[@JohnnyB-r9m]

Woah. Your number one reason sent chills through me. I did not expect you to validate my worst dating experiences so pointedly with that one. I'm so used to being gaslit when I ask my partners to take accountability that I thought I was just picking bad partners (which is also probably true). But as men, we also don't have our experiences validated. We are ignored. Just left to navigate life and people in the solitude of our own minds while media channels raise up everyone else at our expense.

[@guywoznicki7847]

Validated? I’ve ignored most of the advice I’ve gotten ( “Tell them what they want to hear,” etc.) and navigated dating by myself with logic and trial and error. Since women never tell you why you’ve been rejected you’re left to figure it out yourself. So somewhere around 40 you start to get it and then the rules completely change. How can anyone be confident when your life is constant rejection? I know every one of my flaws and see them every time I look in the mirror! So I guess we get used to being alone. Then in between jacking off over porno we treat ourselves to the Asian washy house or online escorts ($$$). It’s a wonderful life!

[@gordongekko2781]

Women cannot handle accountability because they've never been held accountable. Meanwhile, men are constantly held accountable for both reasonable and unreasonable expectations. We can't even comprehend what it would be like to go through life on 'Easy Mode' as women do.

[@ogsponge8678]

Where's the Asian washy houses at?? I'm in the US

[@guywoznicki7847]

@@ogsponge8678 they’re in the big cities and they normally don’t advertise. I learned about them from word of mouth. Many times they are NOT in a good neighborhood. They operate under the title Asian Sauna and I would just Google for one near you. You’ll learn to recognize them by the lighted “Sauna” sign in the window. They operate like a massage place and you must pay for a massage first (around $100). After that you negotiate with your girl for sucky (around $50) or fucky (around $100) and YOU must initiate this conversation. At least that’s how it was 10 years ago. Strangely I have a customer my age at work who’s been asking me about this very thing. And speaking of sponges (og), the massage comes with a sponge bath.

[@johnwest8383]

Delusional is the best description I've ever heard.

[@ButchersNailsEnjoyer]

Bruh the mixed signals/ “no try harder” gotta be the most annoying. I was at my brothers wedding last weekend and asked one of bridesmaids to dance she was like im not interested so i talked to another and we hit it off real well, gave her my jacket cuz it was cold, danced, etc and at the end of the night the first bridesmaid was like “why did you do all that with her?” Like bruh just say yes or no if you mean it!

[@ArthurDent-q9o]

Women...always.

[@brownzerg]

I dated one girl in my early teens for a few months but that's about all the romantic interest I've managed to inspire. It has bothered me for decades and I used to agonize over it, wonder what was wrong with me. I've enjoyed the company of a lot of wonderful Women, all either Married or otherwise unavailable. Those that Weren't married but were dating someone usually would come to me as a sounding board for their guy problems and I got tired of being a relationship councilor for their terrible choices. It just always seems like I'm not seen as a potential love interest but as a nice guy that is pleasant company and would help you out if he could, like everyone's brother. Time does amazing things, and with enough of it I've managed to reach a level of acceptance. I'm still lonely and I still have my moments but for the most part I get by with help from my friends and my hobbies keep me busy. At this point it just is what it is, and I don't make the grade when it comes to the laundry list of requirements in the modern dating scene.

[@stevemiller1517]

Same here,68 yrs old ,hopeless to even try.

[@ahall1459]

When has it ever been easy? Or respectful...that's my question. Besides, Some of the men that I've seen, that have good partners, dont seem to understand what they've got (but they do get jealous quickly)...if they were on there own, they wouldn't be ¹/¹⁰ as successful as they are...goes both ways.

[@OneMountainNine]

Allergic to accountability. That’s contagious amongst their friends

[@BoldandBrash12]

Yep. 100%. My best friend’s now wife, which is an issue in itself, flirted with an ex at a bar we all went to one time while she was drunk, my friend saw, and she denied everything and any wrongdoing. It’s messed up they’re married now, since I truly think they’ll divorce at some point. But she never, ever took any accountability for her wrongdoing. Funnily enough it was the day I proposed to my fiancé, and she ruined the entire night.

[@darrellcovello7917]

I love how Emily always looks like she is fighting back a smile. She is such a happy person and it is contagious.

[@mizofan]

If only more women had such sense!

[@johnt7590]

I really appreciate your style and graceful advocacy Emily 😌 Soon to be 66, I’ve arrived at life alone after four failed marriages. Looking back, I should have heeded warning signs that I thought could be worked out with teamwork. Sadly, the only person on the team was me. I never lost hope, never became a woman hater even after the trials. While on a couples date some years ago, a waitress brought some bottled beer and glasses to our table. Before I could reach for my beer, the gal in the other couple reached over, picked up my beer, and calmly filled my glass. She had my full attention at that point and as I looked at her intently, she explained she had spent some time in Japan, and women there do that as a sign of respect. She was already married, so I could not honorably leave there with her. Men can and will love a committed woman partner, sometimes fearfully so. Men however, would rather be respected than loved. To us, respect IS love. Thank you for your respect Emily.

[@armanddefrank7984]

The list I'm going to use it like power rankings of sports teams on a weekly or monthly basis😅

[@rob9999]

Back in the day I found a friend (who would become my best friend) I would visit his place often. One time I brought my girl along and she would fire shots constantly at me while we were there. Granted, I think she would do it out of dis-comfort. Maybe she thought she was breaking the ice because she hadn't hung out with him that much. But it kinda sucked. Her feeling like she could just rip up on me the whole visit at my friend's place. Felt pretty dumb. She left and I hung out with my friend for a bit after and he sat down with me and said "Hey man you okay? She kinda said some messed up stuff. I could sense she was joking around but I wasn't liking what she was saying about you." One of the reasons that dude became my best friend. And was a huge support for me when I left her couple years later. Honestly he has taught me what it means to be a real man these days. Not all of us have the best father figures to help us, so im grateful for him. Now days I would never tolerate that kind of disrespect from a partner. I had a lot to learn back then. And she was so aggressive, controlling, and volatile that preserving the peace with her was easier if I just let her walk all over me. If I told her how I felt, it never really ended well. ALWAYS became about her. Girl messed me up honestly lol. Its taken a lot of work to pick up all the pieces. Sorry for the trauma dump.

[@repeatrerun2047]

Thanks for sharing. I understand completely. A strong male friend did the same for me.

[@michaelcavalier8750]

They were sh*t tests. Men should call the out the behavior at the time and walk away if necessary. Being "nice" in these cases is not the answer.

[@nilsfrederking62]

Some women do such to signal the other male that they are available if they try. That is a clear signal to leave.

[@LeeEverett1]

The approach point is my biggest one. Anytime I even make eye contact with a woman these days I wonder if she thinks I'm being "creepy".

[@Tele_gram_Garsi_giveaway]

❤❤👆👆

[@konstantinrebrov675]

It is because they are not human souls. They are animal souls, or demonic souls, or reptilian souls. I've read that reptiles, lizards, crocodiles consider look into the eyes as a sign of aggression, not connection. So they are not human souls inside, but reptilian souls. It is hard to find a genuine human soul these days. There are, I don't doubt it. But you have to be on your spiritual journey to recognize such things.

[@jcc9925]

The have perfected the resting bitch face

[@nemescarmencrina2819]

You will not be considered creepy if you follow a rule of reciprocity. She should respond in kind, if not, move on, because that.s when you eventually become....creepy.

[@rhetta9826]

Thank you for this spot on laundry list! 🙂

[@guywoznicki7847]

I’d have to say #10 is really a big one. When I’m out in public the cute 25-35 year olds seem to all be wearing these “leave me alone” sneers. I’ve even tried to talk to some of them and been met with nasty replies and unpleasantness. Most seem to have really bad attitudes! Also their delusional evaluation of their own self-worth is extremely frustrating. I know a hottie when I see one (I used to subscribe to Playboy) and I avoid what I believe to be “high maintenance.” However the girls who are simply cute seem to think they deserve a rich studmuffin! So they choose to ignore the 5’8”, charming, funny guy with the nice smile who has his life together but isn’t rich so they can hold out hope for the gorgeous tycoon who will NEVER be interested in them! This phenomenon is very real and NOBODY wins this game. I was told many times I have a great smile but these women piss me off so much it’s really hard to ever smile!

[@nilsfrederking62]

Some of these women you describe get the "gorgeous tycoon", but only for a few nights. A female "friend" of mine, she is 53, okay, quite well "preserved", she had a boyfriend roughly 8 years younger than her, attractive, tall, successful, making good money. It lasted not for long. I spoke with her and said to her, my impression is that he can have a lot of women and she confirmed immediately that he could have a lot of women. She told me about her female friends that all of them are waiting for their prince to come. Funny she is doing the same.

[@guywoznicki7847]

@@nilsfrederking62 keep waiting you dumbasses! I remember going to a holiday singles mixer back in the late 90’s and hearing the chatter of the tall, well dressed men. “I remember many of these girls from high school. 25 years later and still holding out for a doctor. Honey a doctor wasn’t interested when you were young so why would he be now?” Yes most of them were unattractive AND holding out for a hero! When will this lunacy end?

[@konstantinrebrov675]

It is because they are not human souls. They are animal souls, or demonic souls, or reptilian souls. I've read that reptiles, lizards, crocodiles consider look into the eyes as a sign of aggression, not connection. So they are not human souls inside, but reptilian souls. It is hard to find a genuine human soul these days. There are, I don't doubt it. But you have to be on your spiritual journey to recognize such things.

[@instructorgizzard3623]

The ‘leave me alone sneer’ is real as the sky is blue.

[@loki1033]

Holy crap, you absolutely nailed every last reason. Some of them actually made my chest sting inside, like 9, as my ex loved humiliating me. It was word for word, exactly what I experienced. And you 100% nailed 3,2,1!!

[@velkonemriam1935]

That “keeping score” one. While I don’t think it’s the most harmful in the list, I DEFINITELY think it’s the most annoying. We are to love our partners. It’s not a contest or track record. I gave to her because I love her. She gave to me simply because she loves me. Reminds me of a quote I adore, “Don’t love each other 50%-50%. You love each other 100%!” Edit: spelling

[@jamesmcintire3800]

Thank you for posting this video. Some of these things are exactly why I waited so long to get married in the first place; and what my wife and I are dealing with now as issues in our marriage.

[@robertcampopiano6001]

Absolutely true. These days, it seems that if I had a choice between going on a date or being sucked into a jet engine, I’ll take the jet engine, mainly because it’ll only be painful for a couple of milliseconds, as opposed to a date, which will probably hurt for at least a couple of hours.

[@MrDalebenberger]

Emily, you are awesome at this. You know what you are talking about. It’s so refreshing to hear a voice of reason. You are a friend of men definitely. Thanks.

[@briant40]

I agree with them all. No Accountability has been the most destructive thing in changing what could’ve been a good relationship to a bad one.

[@indyvinylz]

Same for me an my EX... and communication about the relationships and needs. I also blame myself a bit for that, but honestly i tried to lead her in that way of thinking but it wasnt appealing to her, to work on herself. And i cant be responsible for 2 lives, while the girl isnt taking care of herself and her needs to become more free and happy inside. We shoulnt fix that or be responsible for their happiness. Itz a shame, as i really thought it was a decent relationship..but empathy was lacking on her side, plus all the childhood issues that made her behave the way she did, never reaaaaally got taken care of by herself.

[@briant40]

@@indyvinylz empathy in modern women have faded. There are more narcissistic women out there than we think. Narcissist lack empathy. Majority of modern women meaning… the millennial women are mentally damaged. We are considered atm and tools for them. Vet women very carefully. I don’t see women like angels like I used too.

[@jthomascruz4890]

As a man that has been married and soon to be divorced twice and has had plenty of experience in dating I can speak on this. That vast majority of American women tend to be very selfish and feel that the man is the one that has to initiate everything and has to bring everything to the table while maintaining their standard of expectations. What you said about accountability is totally true and wish that someone other than myself would inform my soon to be ex wife what accountability actually means because she has absolutely no clue.

[@johngalt6838]

You went back to the plantation......geesh

[@ArthurDent-q9o]

It's not only American women. I'd say "western women". They are all just the same. Don't touch them and enjoy your life!

[@MrPoe22]

This about sums it up! Number one for me, would be the normalization of women with high body counts, and open relationships. It has become socially acceptable for women to boast that they have high body counts. This proves that most modern women don’t care about what men actually want/value. Men don’t want a woman who has been run through more times than the Holland tunnel; we just don’t! Men are being shamed for this preference, among other preferences; we are also being socially conditioned into accepting open relationships/polyamory. Anything that deviates from whatever WOMEN want, is classified as toxic and misogynistic. …In all honesty, most modern women are just downright deplorable and exhausting. Relationships just are no longer worth it. 🤦🏻

[@ak5659]

Good point! I agree that misogyny and toxic masculinity are very real and pervasive problems. But so many women seem to apply those labels to EVERYTHING they don't like. The end result is that it's often impossible to separate the wheat from the chaff.

[@tyronevonchadley]

And just as bad, women don't care that their relationship value drops every time they are promiscuous. It is like self sabotage.

[@chiefc77]

What you say is so true, thanks.

[@Vic_RE_Investor]

@@ak5659I disagree. These are “made up” labels and are not pervasive problems at all. For example, just being masculine is considered to be toxic nowadays. Stop buying into the male-bashing propaganda.

[@ArthurDent-q9o]

True! Go no contact and enjoy your life!

[@darrencox3984]

Love your content! Bad behavior has been around a long long time. Just in recent times these people have been given the means to tell on themselves, AND THEY WONT STOP! I hope they will listen to you and open their eyes.

[@TheMrDChan]

Omg. The number one reason is my ex in a nutshell. She refused accountability, she refused to criticize herself and therefore missed growing and knowing her own flaws and weaknesses. Instead she barraged me with her insecurities in an absolute toxic waste of ways. Entitled to the teeth, always blaming "I'm a woman" or "this is what I'm like" and always put every blame for whatever she cooked up in her mind on me. And in the end yes; she felt entitled to an equivalent of 3k dollars that were mine. We dated for a year. I've received 1/3 of the money back, going on six months after break up.

[@BigTyronie]

3k is a pittance compared to most scenarios with a man who has career and resources. You escaped. Dont ask for return of blood money. Itd behoove you to get a second job versus accepting blood money.

Of course there's no accountability. Women are being told left and right about how they are perfect. Perfection _has_ no flaws, perfection _has_ no weaknesses. There is no need to grow or better oneself because there _is_ no better than perfect. The only way women can ever be held accountable is if they're no longer being told that they are all perfect... and as long as women are responsible for 80% of consumer decisions, that'll cost society money.

[@chrispetri4904]

I'm just tired of the bullsh1t. I'm doing the best I can . Your list is pretty much correct . Your list is why I have no female friends . Now that does not mean that I'm not friendly towards them or won't be nice to them but I'm not going to stick my neck out from them only to be treated as some creepy man .. I'm an introvert so I tend to stay by my self so how can I be creepy if I'm not near many people .

[@onyekaabasiri5100]

Reason 4/5 is so true. I dated a girl like this not too long ago. I’m going to medical school next month and when I was dating her she knew that my goal was to become a doctor and that if she wanted a life with me that’d she have to be ok with delaying things like marriage, kids, getting a house etc. I’ve never seen such a bad case of FOMO in my entire life. I can only really blame the fact that she knew people who were getting married and when she’d bring it up, it would make me feel bad because although I want to be married one day, it wasn’t something I could give her like other people were. It is unfortunate

[@skip123davis]

you're better off. glad you dodged that one my friend.

[@jessem317]

Congratulations in going to medical school!

[@private-private]

Your going to be a doctor? So your intelligent? But you have not looked up the stats for marriage, 50% divorce rates, 80% divorces are filed by women..... do you think the 50% of marriages that dont fail are living in total happiness? Or do these stats simply not register with you or you need to be married so much you will chance it?

[@aaronwylie6928]

@@private-private People aren't statistics. For example, less than 1% of people are jacked but that doesn't mean you can't be jacked if you work hard at it.

[@private-private]

@@aaronwylie6928 2 things. I dont know what " jacked" means and 2. Statistics are statistics. You saying people are not statistics means absolutely nothing. Its gobbledygook speak. Its something a woman would say in an argument but it means nothing. Your really going to med school next month??

[@dahweez2902]

You made one of the best statements I have heard I have heard in a long time when you said “comparison is the thief of joy”. What wisdom…. Thank you!

[@gc4644]

Exactly, all dead on! Which are coincidently the top 10 reasons I've determined modern women aren't worth my time, effort, money or love. Ive never been happier since going MGTOW! No drama, stress, lies, gaslighting or manipulation. Life is good now!!

[@marleyhill34]

I feel the same about men. WGTOW. My life is so much more peaceful! I actually recommend it to a lot of single women and men to just opt out of the finding the perfect partner nonsense. They are setting themselves up for frustration and disappointment. If I chose to have a family it will be as a single parent by choice. There are surrogates and men and women who are able to be donors and also fostering an adoption.

[@mickbenson9161]

Great video. You talked about many of the reasons why men are getting fed up with modern women. Social media and feminism ruined women.

[@StormyHallahan]

All of your comments are about how women are the problem and none of them list anything the men have done to contribute to the issue.

[@mickbenson9161]

​ @StormyHallahan We men absolutely contribute to the issues in today's dating market. Simping, placating delusions, playing along with contrived concepts that go against every evolved human instinct, pretending to accept disrespect or promiscuity in the hopes that it will give us sexual access, beating off to p%rn, letting ourselves go physically, not being the best men we can be, not taking responsibility, not being the protectors and providers we're supposed to be, etc. The f%cked up state of the mating market is complex with many contributing factors, and both men and women have to take responsibility for it. I've been in a (declining) relationship for years now, so I've been out of the market since before dating apps were a thing, but now it seems like everything is coming to a head. My relationship has been going down the drain in recent years, but when I look at the state of affairs out there, it's not tempting to get back out there. I've never had a dating app profile, but from what I can gather, it's not worth it for men because of how skewed everything has gotten. Average women are bombarded by simps and develop inflated ideas of their own mating value. Because they're able to sleep with the top 10% of guys on the apps, they think they can get commitment from one of those guys. Many of them are delusional about the fact that they're sharing this tiny pool of guys with all the other women. 80% of guys are practically invisible. Everything seemingly got f%cked up when our evolved human nature, developed over hundreds of thousands of years, met modern artificial concepts like the pill, dating app algorithms, social media, AI filters, or societal constructs like 3rd wave feminism. In the context of millennia of human evolution, these things have only been around for a minute. It's not the reality we were made for. For all of human history, if a woman slept with 11 guys (a whole soccer team), she'd have multiple children. Now, many women have had tons of male sexual partners from sleeping around in their teens and 20s, and then they expect men to accept this when they're 30 and want kids. No thanks. We need to go back to the way nature designed us. We need to bring back concepts like dignity, respect, class, honor, love, devotion, adoration, and other concepts that got killed off by hook-up culture and individualism. We're victims of our own evolved nature.

[@Diamondisparis]

I’m glad he pointed this out. I am done with dating. I’m just decided to just focus on myself and you know what I haven’t had any headaches any heart attacks any chance of getting ripped off from my money or being used as a meal ticket so this is a great decision ever

[@MustangsTrainsMowers]

Yesterday it dawned on me that in the last relationship I pursued in 2016 that each of us offered the other person something of great value and that was honesty. She shared a lot about her past, and many relationships, traumas and problems and I likewise shared a lot with her. I saw for sure one red flag with her and she likely saw at least a few red flags in me. I kept getting the feeling that my life would get harder being married to her. Even though I will always love her, she didn’t go through the effort of moving 1000 miles from central Montana to east central Minnesota, and I didn’t go through the huge amount of work selling a majority of my stuff to move to where she lives. She found another guy and married him in late 2020 and I’m happy for her.

[@sethbrown7275]

Thank ya for this Ms. Emily! All of it was absolutely spot on with what I’ve dealt with as a man in todays dating extravaganza and from stuff I’m sure I’ll deal with eventually. A lot of us fellas are just keepin to ourselves and bettering ourselves daily.

[@joestewart3655]

Thanks

[@michaelwestacott7698]

I think one of the most frustrating things is when some Women ask "Where are all the good Men?" while at the same time ignoring such good Men as dating prospects and continually going after Men that don't necessarily treat them well. Meanwhile the good Men have their hands up "hello Ladies, I'm here!" yet some Women just aren't interested. I was originally going to write that good Men are invisible to many Women - however that would just be excusing the behavior of asking where are all the good Men but then ignoring them - Ladies, if good Men are invisible to you then something deeply deeply wrong is going on - surely if you are a heterosexual Woman than you should find these good Men at least somewhat attractive - they are Men and you are a heterosexual Woman - how on ever loving Earth can they be invisible to you?! I'm not saying that you are necessarily going to have insane levels of attraction for every single good Man you meet, but surely you must have some level of attraction for a typical Mr. Nice guy! In any case, if you keep ignoring the good guys then you can't seriously ask "Where are all the good Men?" - that is like being in a giant buffet - 1000 times larger than any buffet you have ever seen - and whining and asking "There is no food to eat! - where is all the good food?" - Ladies, with all due respect and all the love in my heart - Open your eyes!!!!!!!! Of course, to be fair, some seemingly nice guys can turn out to not really be that nice (I suppose just like some food) - you still need to be careful and be wise and proceed with some level of caution - but for the ladies that ask "Where are all the good Men?" but then turn around and actively go after Men that don't particularly treat them well - then I'm sorry, but with all due respect and all the love in my heart, you only have yourself to blame.

[@impudentdomain]

I always answer, in your freindzone

[@ak5659]

I knew that but it never occurred to me to say that as an answer. I think I'll use that from now on. Thank you!

[@Ziggyhere57]

Thank that the big frustration

[@ligafftheindifferent3495]

This touches on accountability. When women swipe left on roughly 95% of men, nobody states the obvious conclusion that they are way too picky. Nobody calls them out for ignoring men simply for being short or not making a massive salary and so on. Nobody dares to explain to women how toxic their hypergamy is and how it transforms abundance into scarcity and isolation. Nor do women ever learn that Chad is not going to settle down. He will wine and dine. He will pump and dump, but he is not looking for more and yet you manage to con yourselves into thinking you can change him and you wind up getting hurt and jaded. Yet you never learn and you simply repeat the same asd melody over and over, growing more bitter with each refrain. Women feel entitled to top tier men, the ones who make the wet just from looking at them. Nobody ever tells them that they need expand their range of what they can desire. It really is not hard. Men do it all the time. We focus on the things we like about a woman's physical manifestation and let the rest slide. Sure, we would all love to be with Raquel Welch in her prime, but we don't simply ignore the rest. If Raquel is not available, we will go for Susan Sarandon. If she is not available, Meg Ryan. If she is not available, Roseanne Barr. Not one of us would have picked Roseanne first, but we will still be happy if that is who we get. Women don't do this. Their entitlement makes them too egotistical to "settle". The convince themselves that being alone is better. Pretty gross, huh?

[@tyronevonchadley]

They only ask that after they have hit the wall and are looking to settle with a provider. This usually comes after a decade or more of getting ran thru by all the chad and tyrones. Damaged goods sadly means poor relationship material.

[@JohnNewton-oo9um]

Thank you once again Emily, you are bang on! For a woman to say she understands men and then speak out for men is a huge risk. What if she is wrong in her understanding? What if what she says is wrong? You Emily really do understand men. When commenting you always ask for men's verification, and if wrong that men tell you. Further more you don't just stand up for men, you also talk about how it affects the health of a relationship and what a healthy relationship should look like. We men and our relationships with women are most fortunate to have you Emily! Don't ever stop! ❤❤❤

[@First_to_Fire]

Emily, you are so delightful. As a man in my late 50s, I can tell you that your list is not limited to young women, but permeates all the way through our society to the older ones as well. I have run into way too many princesses who are my age who feel that they are entitled to special treatment without corresponding return to their partner. The selfishness is amazing. It is coupled with their need to always be right, even when they are wrong. They will offer thanks, but that is the extent of their reciprocity. I don't know what the answer is, but I do know that modern women lack the understanding of the power inherent in intelligent femininity.

[@neilreynolds3858]

If you can get a thank you without asking for it, you're doing very well. It's like you're dealing to a child that hasn't learned their manners yet. I actually got an apology from my ex after she broke up with me but that did not make me want to get back together with her when she realized she had screwed her life up.

[@davidshannon2450]

Hmm, apology........ I had to work very hard for one when she dismantled and then threw half of a spec built computer because I walked out and she didn't think I was coming back and also I didn't use the computer. I pointed out to her that I still did use the computer to which she responded I didn't know. I only got an apology when I suggested that as nothing of hers was in the shed that I had built specifically as an office when I had my own business, there was no need to go in the room. She still argued the toss saying that it was a fire hazard with extension leads coming off extension leads and that a spark from the road could set the plastic cladding on fire. I reminded her that: I was a part qualified electrician Whenever I was not in my office I killed all electricity to the sockets The cladding that was on my office had been extruded in a company that I had worked for and had to be both flameproof and fireproof for the company to be able to sell it. I then advised her that as she had thrown away half the computer and I had come back to the house to file a tacx return, which I could now no longer do as the screen wouldn't work owing to the boot procedure so I couldn't reconfigure the computer. The apology finally came at the end of this part of the conversation when I then said, as you never used the shed or the equipment in the shed, don't you think you should have ASKED before you touched my stuff, let alone throw it away. It was at THIS point, she finally apologised for throwing the stiff away. UNBELIEVABLE AND UP TO THAT POINT SHE STILL THOUGHT SHE WAS JUSTIFIED IN HER ACTIONS AND HAD DONE NOTHING WRONG!! Just wondering how much of my other stuff she has thrown away (especially stuff of sentimental value) that I had had for over 50 years. Sorry for the shaggy dog story and congratulations to those of you who managed to get to the end without falling asleep 😂

[@paulforester6996]

I realize I am better off alone. I bring home the bread and can cook it. I know how to clean and don't complain to myself doing it. Women don't bring enough to the table.

[@Jennthegreen]

You think women are just here to bring you bread and clean your house?

[@kotori87gaming89]

@@Jennthegreen Did you see a "just" in his statement? I didn't. Please be careful about mis-quoting, mis-interpreting, and then over-reacting to said mis-interpretation. Such unjustified attacks are exactly why he's done with dating.

[@Jennthegreen]

@@kotori87gaming89 I asked 1 question. You should read what I typed. You should also reread your comment to me aloud. You might see the irony in it. You said a lot of big words that mean nothing... when I asked 1 question. Nothing more. You seem troubled.

[@kotori87gaming89]

@@Jennthegreen Did YOU read what you typed? You added a word to the sentence which dramatically changes its meaning, and then got offended about this new, made-up statement. In doing so, you completely missed the original meaning of the message and simultaneously 100% validated it. Get off your high horse. You're not the victim here, you're the oppressor.

[@biocaster777]

​​@@Jennthegreen'm on his side in this. But there are additional reasons. I want to open my feelings and vulnerability in relationship. But from my experience and that of most people I know. This sh*t is not allowed and women will either left you or use it against you right after it happen. Which defeat the purpose of having the relationship to begin with. A lot of women said we don't show emotions often...Well guess wtf happen when we do. It's not worth it.

[@jonfeuerborn5859]

Very interesting and provacative issues you bring up, Emily. I appreciate and resonate with what you've said as a disenchanted fella who's interested in a lifetime relationship but wonders how rare that same desire must be in women of our culture. I'm not too proud to admit that the thought of dating is pretty overwhelming at present. Thanks for your perspective.

[@MrPoe22]

Its gotten to the point where I no longer desire even associating with, or interacting with women at all. I only do so when absolutely necessary, and even then, I do so begrudgingly.

[@DanielRumbacher]

me too. i get headaches from talking to women. they are either acting like hitler, they dont even see you as human or they will bring chaos. they are always right and men are always wrong in their eyes. the last girl i tried to date always talked about herself. as soon as i said how i feel about a certain subject i was criticized for my opinion. most girls can only see their opinion and everybody else is wrong in their eyes. they will even talk badly about you if you dont even speak to them and ignore them. i am done with women. i am too old now anyway.

[@seanodwyer4322]

ahh like ladys who are vegan. and non smokers and no ugly tatoos.

[@warbirdflyerF4U]

Perfectly stated ! It is frustrating to put forth 80% or more in Hopes of getting 20% back

[@Cleffa168]

Your points are very accurate imo. A lot of the attention goes to women and what they want and what they are frustrated about but there's hardly any for the average guys out there, no body cares about about the average man. Even in those dating podcasts the male hosts and guests there are usually red pill men that do not represent the average man in our society. Your voice brings out what the average guys have been thinking and saying and I respect and appreciate that. I would just like to add one more from me personally, one of the biggest reason is because women told men to not approach them. Women said that they don't need no men. And as someone that respects women and just want women and people in general to be happy, ok I respect that and I'll do that.

[@BlackPriest001]

Love your video, not because of any women hate but for standing up for men. Blessed be

[@ericneilson2130]

I dated a girl when I was in high school. We were together a short time but she was so sweet and caring and good to me that I still remember how she treated me to this day. And I just turned 60 years old.

[@DanielRumbacher]

what are you trying to say? so you are single or what? you only dated one time?

[@513eis]

Holly crap ...YOU ROCK! I just came across you and am so happy there is someone with a sane realistic perspective. I'm going to send so many single women your way.

[@gordonlawrence1448]

Facts and accountability are kryptonite for most women. That's why I have not had any interaction with one for 5 years. It's just not worth the bother.

[@Jennthegreen]

What does that even mean? I'm a woman and I've been accountable my entire life.

[@Jazzmaster1992]

I have noticed this is true for many men too. It's not necessarily a gendered issue.

[@cliffterrell4876]

@@Jennthegreen your one of 10,000 females in the United States, if it's true.

[@Jennthegreen]

@@cliffterrell4876 but can you explain what that means? No accountability?

[@cliffterrell4876]

@@Jennthegreen if what you say is true about being accountable, your 1 in 10,000 that do. The majority blames the man, not themselves.

[@GRIEFDRUMS]

It's scary how accurate your videos always are.

[@carldavis749]

You pretty much hit it out of the park. Thanks.

[@ferndog1461]

I think the reason I subscribed is I enjoy warm , thoughtful conversation about male well-being. It's a cute woman being persuasive about the reasons for my struggles are not just about me. Yes, enthusiastic & helpful women are my dopamine generator.

[@michaelhicks8237]

This woman is a angel. But 10 reasons to stay single

[@christophergoodlad9924]

word

[@DJ_Underwood]

Thank you for your videos, I am going through a really tough break up and getting back into dating (later down the road) and I really appreciate your views and its helping me get prepared for what I am scared to go through

[@chzzyg2698]

Excellent list. I approve this message.

[@BOOMTOWN_KENNELS]

Hope you see this! I love that you are the voice for men that isn't heard. Thank you for standing up for us. We need it! Thank you.

[@aidancampbell5644]

A common joke/reality statement among men about relationships these days is that it is cheaper and easier when you discuss the money up front. Yes, this is a comparison between dating and prostitution - and for a lot of guys who have been through a couple of relationships, there isn’t that much of a difference in what we get out of it, it’s just we have to put so much more into a dating relationship than if we were hiring an escort. Also, I must agree that I find it really amusing when I see women on social media calling themselves a “ten”, whose personality and attitude in the clip are horrible, who are honestly physically a 5 out of 10 and who really don’t bring anything else to the relationship - they don’t have any kind of skill set that enhances the relationship (most don’t even seem to have a sense of humour let alone be funny or interesting to talk to) Bluntly, most of the girls I have met are a lot of work for little more than an expensive sex toy. I am still looking for someone who has more to offer than that, but sex is only about 10% of what makes a functioning relationship work.

[@ptonpc]

An escort is honest and, more than likely, a better person than most women.

[@Vic_RE_Investor]

Perfectly explained. 👏👍

[@kingzach74]

@@ptonpc Right? I've met far more interesting and understanding strippers than I have met women outside of strip club. They actually sit there and proactively listen to you. That alone is incredibly rare outside of the strip club.

[@ptonpc]

@@kingzach74 Agreed.

[@davidshannon2450]

As high as 10% ehhhh......... 😂

[@robertmaybeth3434]

OP Emily, you are one of the few women that even see the problem with dating modern women, and they run deep in our culture. Men have never had an easy time approaching women and nowadays it sounds even harder than it's ever been. I wouldn't know, since I haven't tried to approach a woman in years, but I know it's even harder than it used to be, and I can't imagine what most of these young guys have to go through now. And making it even worse, there are women out there, not the majority thank God, but way too many, that actually get a cruel gratification by batting their eyelashes, touching her hair and otherwise sending out every positive signal flirting with some poor guy, only to blow him off like lint when he actually falls for it. I actually watched this happen once... and I knew what was going on even if he didn't. To make it even worse for him, she was with a group of girls when he got up the gumption to approach her. I felt bad for him when he stumbled off, red faced and humiliated by her rejection. Only to hear a gale of laughter from this coven of witches, as soon as they thought the poor guy was out of ear-shot!

[@robertsteinbach7325]

The increase in the level of entitlement I am seeing is incredible. Most men are always being held accountable somewhere in their lives and it is a wise person that doesn't dismiss the need to be held accountable.

[@turtleislandlac1490]

One woman I used to work with would talk about the men that approach her like they were creeps. And from listening to her it sounded like some were just being friendly with no ill intent. And she wasn't the only one who talked that way. That definitely makes me think twice. It may just have been her way not coping with her mixed feelings but how are we supposed to know

[@Jazzmaster1992]

Part of me thinks this narrative that men have to be masculine and lead because of their biology/sex is breeding some form of expectation and entitlement among certain women. I don't necessarily mind asking a woman out if I find her attractive and want to get to know her more. The problem is when she believes that is just something that I'm "supposed" to do because I'm a man, and may not really appreciate the effort required to make this happen, i.e. spending the time socializing and building my confidence. This extends to other aspects of relationships and mens' expected roles in them as well. Supposedly, men are supposed to lead, take charge, and generally bring some level of strength, security and comfort to the relationship. So if as a man, I put in the effort to cultivate these qualities within myself, the last thing I want is for them to be taken advantage of by the wrong person. We men are constantly told that women/society owe us nothing, which is fine. But then, I don't think it's unreasonable to say the reverse is true; outside of basic human decency and respect, women are not "owed" traditional masculine qualities like strength, security and comfort to be provided to them by a man in a relationship, regardless of whether they believe in traditional gender roles and the idea that men "should" be a certain way or not.

[@BigTyronie]

If you are that guy you approach because its how you get what you want. Its this reasoning and questioning of systems that functioned perfectly fine for thousands if years thats leaving all this wiggle room for women to domineer as they are trying to. Owning the space is where men fail and let women start acting like men.

[@Jazzmaster1992]

@@BigTyronie it wasn't even that long ago that before you took a woman's hand in marriage, you asked her parents first, instead of directly asking her. And before that, we simply had arranged marriages. Not to mention, this concept of modern romance is just that, modern; specifically, ideals about the "one" and not simply two people pooling together to share resources and strength in order to rear children, not because they are pre-ordained soulmates. So a lot of what we see as commonplace understanding and "traditional" in relationships like courtship practices are not actually thousands of years old.

[@thetreelander7378]

@@Jazzmaster1992 isn't courting like late medieval or mid medieval? idk if you know this but i swear the idea was a mid/late french idea for entertainment of the court that involved a lot of cheating wifes/husbands. i might be getting a few things mixed up but some trad shit is messed up.

[@guynxtdork]

"outside of basic human decency and respect" you certainly *do not* owe the person telling you "no one owes you anything" even this. They don't respect you - why should you respect them? "No one owes you anything" might as well mean "go to hell". It's in the same spirit. You don't owe them decency or respect.

[@kanekane1728]

Brilliant video. You and Alexander Grace are providing great content on the reality of modern social interaction. The world needs to know how social media has contaminated current modern dating and marriage. Kudos.

[@LadislausMarguspa]

not only are men expected to do all the work in relationships, the prize we get at the end of it is someone who hates you but you also have to spend a bunch of money on them

[@Tele_gram_Garsi_giveaway]

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[@ligafftheindifferent3495]

Don't spend money on them. Not a dime. This is an excellent first pass filter.

[@LadislausMarguspa]

@@ligafftheindifferent3495 agreed

[@mikebrewersr3379]

Miss/Mrs Emily am exactly right and correct!!! Thank you very much!!!

[@thehappyhogger4484]

"Men won't approach me. I think Ill go to social media and find out why."

[@gerardoe.9861]

😂

[@jamesisaak8651]

Excellent summary Emily! You are on a mission from God! One most frustrating thing you missed is manifestation of lessons learned from "Women's Studies". Many take these lessons to heart and are most disagreeable to men. I had one woman publicly try to dress me down for opening the door for her.

[@deanjackson625]

Gold digger need to spend a bag on a date. Sexual assault or harassment and false actions toward anyone.

[@octavianr526]

You and other women online are one of the best advocates for men, and some men online are the best advocates for women. This is true too into justice courts. Despite you are a few, it is so nice to see such solidarity at least in a few educated and introspective individuals.

[@brooksroth345]

I've completely given up on marriage and relationships. I've figured out I'm the problem. I'm the typical nice guy and keep getting used and hurt. I'm actually happy alone. I don't have relationship stress. I get to keep my money. I've built a good career. The only way to win is not to play.

[@DanielRumbacher]

me too. i am in my 40s and never had a gf. i tried literally everything and only got laughed at and abused. women dont even see me as a human being. it was very hard for me until 40. now i have accepted it. my whole life is now made just to support me and i wouldnt change it for anyone. no offense to older women, but i dont think i will date a 40+ year women who had over 200 relationships. and women in their 20s or 30s are not interested in me at all. so i think i am good alone. there is always something to do so i dont go crazy.

[@andersnielsen6044]

I agree to all of it.. Except the point about high body count/open relationships/hook ups or what you call it.

[@crimiusXIII]

ACCOUNTABILITY HELL YES. It's fine to be upset at the circumstances that caused one to make a mistake, it's fine to be angry at someone else's actions that motivated one to make the wrong decision, BUT only if you own your actions. Everyone should have learned this sort of thing when they were 10. Just because someone hit you on the playground doesn't make it "ok" to hit them back. Own it, as early as possible, maybe try to correct it or have an idea of how to not do it again, and it will go SO FAR to minimizing the damage done. Work with each other when someone fucks up. You shouldn't want to work against your partner. I know it's uncomfortable and tough to do this, but it gets easier with practice and I promise, it will not be NEARLY as bad as if it comes out some other way.

[@petelee2477]

It absolutely is right to hit back. Honestly it's more important for children to know how to fight than adults because when you get into a bad situation running is always an option and chances are you'll never see that guy or girl again. As a child that bully will hit you again tomorrow and the next day and will stay with you all the way until you graduate and usually the adults won't let you leave the situation. Unlike a toxic work environment where nobody is forcing you to stay a child being relentlessly bullied must stay in that environment matter what.

[@crimiusXIII]

@@petelee2477Bullies don't pick fights with people they might lose against. Don't engage with that behavior unless it's to get away. Fight only to get away is literally the first lesson you learn in any kind of martial training. Two wrongs don't make a right. Every other action is a better response.

[@petelee2477]

@@crimiusXIII again bullies stay with you until graduation. You can't feasibly run away for 12 years.

[@crimiusXIII]

@@petelee2477 They won't chase you for 12 years. If they do, hitting back certainly won't stop that kind of determination and diligence, and neither will graduation. You can't have it both ways, are bullies determined enough to fuck you up for 12 years straight, or is a bop on the nose enough to break them?

[@BlueFish-kq9fh]

*@@crimiusXIII*: "Just because someone hit you on the playground doesn't make it "ok" to hit them back." Wrong! It absolutely *does* make it okay to hit them back (assuming we're talking about children here, which is what I conclude from your post). What is NOT okay is for you to behave like a jerk when you're thirty, because someone was a jerk to you when you were ten.

[@michaeldinubila7404]

Reasons 1,2, and 3 describe problems I had in my marriage. Especially 1 and 3. Thanks for voicing that out loud. My ex-wife had me convinced everything wrong in our relationship was because of me. With the benefit of hindsight, I realize that was not true.

[@Indigocat-x9b]

I had a female friend who was going thru a rough patch in her marriage, and I heard everything wrong her husband did, ad nauseam. Well, during a road trip, hubby shoved her out of car and left her in the middle of no where. I got a call and dropped what I was doing to pick her up and offer to let her stay at my house. She claimed her husband was violent and needed a restraining order. But she refused to stay at a women’s shelter, since sleeping in a bunk bed was beneath her. After 2 weeks, I got a very clear picture she was also responsible for why the marriage was failing; her neighbors concurred with me. After a road trip with her for a weekend, my car’s transmission started failing, and I knew I needed to be cautious to avoid being stranded on a highway. I drove down, out of the mountains, to try and avoid being stranded in the middle of nowhere. She got mad that I would not keep driving in the mountains so we could continue hiking, oblivious to my situation (and stupid, did not know what a transmission did). Next day, I ended up renting a U-haul and trailer to drive my car back to town (we were out of state). She complained about most restaurants and wanted to only eat gourmet sit down meals. I was uncomfortable driving the U-Haul and told her I was only going to stop at a truck stop where there was room for me to park. She refused to eat at Subway and then complained later that she was hungry. By the time we arrived home, I had to take a walk and call a friend so I wouldn’t blow up. I am usually patient, and don’t blow up easily. I think she was one of the most obstinate people I’ve ever met, and I began to understand why her husband had a melt down, and realized how much he actually DID restrain himself. The most he did was shove her on 2 occasions. While staying at my house, I asked if she could cover her food expenses. In spite of her working and having an ample money stash (probably took some of her husband’s money and hid it), she got mad about having to buy her own food. She literally had the expectation other people should pay for her food. And of course, she had quite a shopping habit. The shopping habit was another story in itself. I ended the friendship after becoming concerned she might steal from me, and how disrespectful and critical she was with something important to me. I had asked her to stop. She refused and doubled down being critical, convinced she was right, while totally ignoring how I felt or why I had asked her to stop. So….is this type of behavior common with other younger women? She was in her mid 30s. I am older. I was taken aback how difficult she was. When I first met her, she seemed a nice person who liked to have fun. I did not see the underlying selfishness and obstinacy.

[@apushman]

#11 Most dates feel like an interview they you can fail at any moment

[@aaronwylie6928]

This is the worst ever, to feel like walking on eggshells on a date. When a lady actually likes you it doesn't matter because you can feel it.

[@nunyabiznez6381]

My great grandmother was a feminist. But she did things differently. When other women were involved in the suffragettes movement she got herself elected to five consecutive terms on the town council. The least amount she won by was with 81% of the vote, ALL MEN. The first one was in 1905 15 years before women got the vote. She wasn't even eligible to vote for herself due to being female. My great grandmother owned multiple businesses, she was a midwife who delivered more babies than all the doctors in her county combined. She was the first licensed female driver in her county, third licensed driver in her county and 7th licensed driver in the state. When the began licensing drivers it was unthinkable that a woman would apply for a license but there was no law against it so she got her license after her dad bought her Maxwell. After that the state stopped issuing driver's licenses to females, not as required by law but as policy. That would be reversed in a couple of years but she was grandfathered, or rather grandmothered in so she was for a while the only woman in several county's who drove. At the age of 72 she was in a rough part of the capitol city when two young thugs attempted to rob her. In seconds she disarmed both of them then marched them 20+ blocks to the police station. When the police asked why she didn't take them to the closer police station only three blocks from where she encountered the boys she said they needed to have some time to think about what they have come to. Both immediately confessed to the police and were crying their eyes out by the time they reached the police station. I already mentioned she was a midwife and a very popular one at that. But she gave birth to all six of her children including my grandmother by her self with no assistance, no drugs nothing! To be fair, her mother, grandmother, great grandmother going back centuries had all been healers and midwives so she had a lot of knowledge on the issue. That said, with all that to brag about. With all of her accomplishments of which I have named only a few, she still treated my great grandfather as the king of the castle. She still made time for him. I have THOUSANDS of photographs she took of him and other people took of her and him and the family and one thing you can see from those photos is her love and devotion to her husband, family and her marriage vows. She was loyal to the end. When he died she commissioned a monument maker to make him the biggest head stone in the cemetery. The epitaph read "The only man worthy of his wife." There is one photo that my grandmother took of the two of them. It was taken the day before he died. He is laying in his bed obviously ill and my great grandmother is kneeling at his bedside her head on his chest and her hair draped all over his torso. She is holding his hand clutching it to her heart and the expression on her face I've never seen on anyone else's face. I would call it a combination of love, grief and pride. This is the only photo that exists showing her hair not in a bun. It was obviously at least waist length. I point this out only because it is a profoundly unusual pose for the period. I don't believe it was posed though. My grandmother even in her early twenties, when her Dad died, was an expert at candid photography. The photo was taken in 1924. not one of the thousands of other photos of dozens of adult women in our family in that time period ever let themselves be photographed with their hair down. I have not one of my grandmother that way but by all accounts she had incredibly long hair as did her three sisters. Even the youngest sister at the age of 80 in 1994 never let herself be photographed with her hair down. She explained to me once that doing so was considered immodest in her day. I don't know any other way to explain the significance of that photo or the gesture or how deep their love was.

[@mpa8336]

You are wonderful, emily. Such a pleasant voice. Answering: Men are forced to evaluate risk. The risk of Western women is very high; the rewards are low. Men don't want a "strong, independent woman". They want a partner. Or they go back to solitude, which is actually a very nice place to be- for men. I did a VisionQuest, myself, years ago, after my 2nd divorce, and it totally changed my life. Primitive cultures don't have the time or resources for BS. They have to live truth- or die. Native Americans would have a 15 year old girl walk down a line of corn- with instructions to pick ONLY THE BEST of the corn. And they couldn't turn back, they had to keep going forward. Invariably, the girl would get to the end of the line, with nothing. The older woman would observe that many things, including men, were like this- to get "good enough" when you have the opportunity. There are no soulmates, any more than there are fairies dancing in the fields at twilight. There are imperfect people. Women wanted everything men have... now they have it, and they are upset... 1 in 3 women have had an abortion, has an STD... 80% of women consort with 20% of men. 10% of men are 6'1". Women find 80% of men ugly. I visited Austria, years ago, as part of a honeymoon [she went nuts, I had to divorce her for my own safety] We did the Sound of Music tour, which is nice. We saw the palace in the movie Amadeus. The von Trapp house in the movie had a front from one house, and a back from another house. Nice tour. At one point, the tour guide bemoaned the loss of Jewish merchants- who always had low prices, were great businessmen. There was a concentration camp not far from that area. Over half of SS troops were Austrian. All I could think of, was, well, it's not like your people made Jews feel very welcome, did you... I am so very amused, listening to women ask where all the good men went. Uhh, yeah. The good men go dark, they drop into brush, and vanish from view, as any prey animal would, when a predator is around. Years ago, I went to a martial arts class, in a college town. There were women 30-60 there. All poisonously feminist. And... and... all of them knew that Prince Charming was right around the corner, waiting for the right conjunction of Venus and Mars, to marry them, put them on a $5K/month allowance, buy the big house for them, the vacations in Europe, and to lavish attention on them, despite their constant disrespect for him. They based these on the documentaries they watched- you know, soap operas, Hallmark movies, romance novels, and so on, which are always precisely accurate depictions of real human daily life. And the only reason they didn't have that fairytale life was male oppression. I put on my cloak of invisibility- aka being a beta male- and just listened. I learned much. Of course they later decided that the instructor, a black man, was somehow sexually harassing them during the course. I have spent enough time on VisionQuests and other spiritual stuff that I can lavish love on people, just be turning on the flow. Around those women? Cloak of invisibility. If you need to get rid of a woman fast- just start crying. Works like a charm. Or otherwise act beta- you know, talk about your feelings, just like the feminists tell you. They're gone. I remember a woman about 55 in college- like this- she was desperately dating professors, to find Mr. RIghtWallet. They'd date her, but cut her off after one date. She had a little problem- nuclear waste grade resentment, plus a drinking problem. Oddly enough, Dr. RightWallet was doing his risk assessment. I had no status- just a student assistant- she invited me to dinner, I brought my girlfriend at the time- and Madame Battleaxe got sarcastic, and abusive, to the point we had to leave. THis was like 1981. My grandmother worked. AT HOME. Monday was wash day. No washing machines; it was done by hand. You had to scrub out stains- by hand. Tuesday was ironing day- with flatirons. It took a while. No mixes back then; you bought your flour and sugar in bulk. In 1944, it cost 8c/lb. Only after WW II did prepackaged mixes come out. Wednesday was mending day- clothes were expensive, they had to be repaired. Thursday was baking day, you baked bread for the week. My grandmother taught, before marrying. Her husband told her he made enough money so she didn't have to work. Which delighted her- this was luxury, not having to work at an outside job. I met them, in the 1960's. Yep, still in love... My gramma was a widow about 1940. She had to work. My father was still young; he had to work, got a dime an hour, to clean off old bricks to be reused- and he said he was glad to get it. My mother made 25c/hour, in a grocery store- she would get flour "from the bottom of the barrel", put it in a bag. My father made 25c/hour as a night watchman. He got into college, at the height of WW II... he wanted all the college he could get, before being drafted. He wasn't drafted. He finished high school in 3 years, and a 4 year degree in 2.5 years. Socialists want everything to be free. Great idea. Native americans had that system. But their tribal villages were deeply mutually supportive, and spiritual... Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels originated socialism... based on studies of the Iroquois... and they COMPLETELY MISSED the spiritual side of Native Americans, which is the foundation.. In a Dakota village, a prime cut of buffalo meat was put outside the tipi of a widow. Kind of like what happened in the small towns my parents grew up in- a widow known to not have much, would find groceries outside her door, from time to time, because that's just what you did, then. Women wanted to be equal to men. Cool. It's not so much fun, is it? Where are the female bricklayers, plumbers, roofers, etc? Even today's feminists have a plan, though- marry a top 5 percenter, because they are all 10's, even if they are 50 kilograms/110 lbs overweight. The "wage gap" exists- women are paid more than men, for the same work. In the military, women can do half what the men do, and get promoted timely. In Paul Revere's day, life expectancy was 43. First menstruation qualified a woman for marriage- you had to get moving, to have your kids early. VIsit a colonial house museum- we have some in my area- or even civil war era- people worked 6 days a week, often, at least 12 hrs/day. In the 1820's, they had DVD players- aka Shakespeare's plays. Alexis de Tocqueville noted this. American women in the 1950's had a life better than that of 70% of women worldwide. But they decided that women needed men like a fish needed a bicycle. No problem, get down to it, bicycles don't need the fish, either. I do not know any single men over say 35, who has any interest, at all, in a committed relationship with a woman. Single men over 40 that I know avoid women, as the massive risk they are. All that resentment, and false claims, and so on... Men are forced to assess risk. Relationships with women? "Achtung, minen" [Warning, active mine field]. Too many women seem to have completed their BSC degree. B*t Sh*t Crazy. I have never slept around. My first & second wife did play around... I cut them off. Not time for that BS, or for the MS- degree- More of the Same- or the PhD- Piled Higher and Deeper... Modern women are not making men walk away from dating, no no. They are making men RUN away from dating, at top speed, evading fire, and taking cover. Every now and then I speak w/teenagers, or young men in their 20's. They seem to have the idea that oh yes, prenuptial agreements stand up in court, they aren't the 50 meter target on the firing range- for women- the target nobody misses. When I was young, I got older guys, and even women, talking- to learn. I knew I was totally ignorant, and needed to learn. The veterans often had great wisdom, and were willing to share it, with someone who listened. The wedding stores in my area have all gone out of business... if that's not an indicator of issues, I don't know what is. There ARE no soulmates, any more than there is a Santa Claus, or Easter Bunny. There may be compatible ladies, guys, whose minds and hearts aren't totally toxic, but all relationships are imperfect. It's just the way our world is. We live in a world where: Body count is something to boast about. Milage on a car doesn't matter. Rain does not wet the ground. Fish fly a mile high over the ocean. Fast food is nutritious. Poisoning one's soul with hatred and resentment makes a woman far more attractive to the alpha male she wants. Adorning one's body with toxic cosmetics doesn't poison the liver and kidneys. Pouring out hatred and resentment on men makes them want women. Hallmark movies, Soap operas, romance movies, Disney heroines- are all documentaries of how the world works. Yes, Virginia, there really is a Santa Claus, and 20 years of throwing away your value absolutely gets you Mr. Big, just like it happened in Sex and the City, which is also a documentary. But let's make a comparison. Let's imagine a rabid Wolverine, so violent that it has to be caged in a cage made of logs. Would you risk your life, to be around such a creature? Maybe not. I don't play with poisonous snakes. When I was young, I was allowed to play with tiger kittens, but even then, I had no idea to be in the same space as adult tigers. Yes, lady, there are creepy people out there, and you are among them. The Romans used to line the Appian way with the bodies of crucified men, as an object lesson. Divorce courts perform the same function, in our society.

[@ArthurDent-q9o]

Absolutely true!

[@draganionut5863]

Wow, I just discovered your youtube channel and I think if there would be more women like you the world would be a better place. And that's a man saying that. Really like you and appreciate your videos.

[@orionexplorer]

LOL!!! You just described my ex-wife!!! We lived together 16 years and married almost 16 years, about 4 months short. I went into it thinking we would work together, share our incomes to pay bills, and for entertainment. Less than a year later she had talked me into joining the US Army Reserves, I was a Cavalry Scout, and our first anniversary was spent with me getting ready for the Brigade Commanders Inspection at the end of Basic/Advanced Training. As the years went by, I went active duty, we had two boys, I went to Korea twice and deployed to Bosnia to put a stop to the Civil War. When I came home, I all but knew she had been cheating on me since she didn't want to go to any of the places she went when I was gone. I was put out on a Medical Discharge due to PTSD. She thought about herself only, did nothing to help me feel safe only belittled me, put me down, and finally after being home two years she spent the next two hours after I got home from a HIGH stress job in law enforcement, she told me what a lousy SOB of a husband I was, that she never really loved me, and that she wanted a divorce. I got dressed and left the house for the rest of the night. Now some, high on their horse, self-righteous people will not believe me, but this is the truth. I walked about half a mile in July afternoon temperatures in Arizona, i.e., 115-117 degrees F. I called a friend from work; she and I had never seen each other away from work until this day. I ended up at her house and talked for four hours and not ONCE did we ever mention fooling around, touch the other until about 10 PM. She went to turn off the CD player, I got up to tell her I had to leave since I was going to hear about me leaving this time instead of her. I touched her on the back, she spun around startled, threw her arms around me, we collapsed on the floor, and I knew where I needed to be. That was over 23 years ago. I got a divorce from my ex-wife and am now married to the best woman in the world. She has helped me with the symptoms from my PTSD, encouraged me in kart racing, and many more things. Since the age of 40 I have never been happier.

[@instructorgizzard3623]

We need more stories like this to provide hope for the young men.

[@axrxt]

I really needed to hear reason number 1. Thank you so much!

[@thomasdee1980]

I think you hinted at it with number 9 and number 1, but one fustration I have found with women is that they offer really poor advice as it is based on making the other person feel better than it is about actually solving their problem. I think a lot of issues with modern women is that if they are identify an issue (not meeting the right men, relationships not lasting, etc), their friend groups will almost always say it was not their fault and they should just keep doing what they are doing even though it is clearly not working. This leads to them repeating the same mistakes and getting more bitter and fustrated that their lives aren't improving.

[@Tele_gram_Garsi_giveaway]

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[@zolee6597]

Big thumbs up for this video. Smartly explained what the issues are there in nowadays men-women social interactions. Keep up! 👍

[@timvalentine7196]

My ex didn’t take accountability either I was the problem and was forced to do all the changing.. took me a couple of years to work it out and I did everything I could to scalped myself into what I thought she wanted and needed but ultimately it was all for nothing.. unresolved childhood trauma trumps everything unfortunately..

[@MaxIgnoramus]

Sounds like she was BPD/Narc/both

[@timvalentine7196]

@@MaxIgnoramus she knew she wasn’t right but never did anything about it.. I reckon she was bpd

[@gladiammgtow4092]

Millions of western women are never going to get married and find a man - thus millions of men will be saved from these toxic creatures.

[@jeffreysanger5499]

Thanks for speaking truth I listen to a lot of your talks I get a lot of comfort from hearing you I will not date on line after four years of trying. Most on line girls are there excepting money.

[@randyduncan795]

What an excellent summary on why the vast majority of that juice isn't worth the squeeze. Much empathy for average guys and the small number of superb women who actually bring something to the table other than just being present and female. Guys, there's no need to prejudge any woman. Take each as an individual and know that all the crap she just spoke of carries many red flags visible from a distance. Her social media is a great start.

[@troydunn8463]

You sound older. I am. For the younger: What he said is true with two qualifiers: 1) With experience, you will be better able to see the red flags early; however, they do know how to behave in the beginning and will slowly become themselves. So, always be watching for the red flags. You can slowly let your guard down. As they become more 'secure' in the relationship, the bad will come out. Put an end to the behavior or the relationship immediately. 2) Pre-judging is not productive; however, there is a Bell Curve. There is nothing wrong with assuming a base level of behavior, then watching for deviations (whether good or bad)

[@randyduncan795]

@troydunn8463 Agreed. Time brings experience and that brings wisdom and discernment. Prejudging anyone could bring a costly miss of a great person. Failure to observe will cost in other ways

[@LittleknownUnknown]

You are breathe of much needed fresh air. As a man I concur with all you convey!

[@skyblazermk1]

I just want to start with thank you for these videos. I came across them randomly about a year ago and helped me reflect on our relationship and how unbalanced it was with my wife. I made the choice to leave and im still in that early part of that but even though I know this will be hard it is better for me, and my children that their father feels healthier with his wellbeing then always feeling like he's living on egg shells for the rest of his life.

[@sargonofakad]

Very well stated, Emily, and sort of a review of past experiences for me.

[@larrydrozd2740]

What I get from all of this is people need to grow up. Its like the 6th grade mentality was never grown past. Is this because of social media?? But....I'm old, 61. Been around a long time and have been in many relationships. Haven't dated in the "modern world" since 2007. So....my view is from a "past" standpoint. I've done the "career" and I'm now slowing down. I earned it. Yet, I'm stuck because I do not look like I'm 61, I look 40. So, most of the women in my age bracket cannot keep up and have health problems. I don't. Everything works, I wear the same size pants I wore when I was 30. Seriously. So...I'm stuck because "younger" women will NOT be interested in some "old guy" even though I'm not that age in body, only in experience. Its a rough spot I never saw coming.