Emotional Parfait Method - Know Exactly What to Say to a Man | Adrienne Everheart

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[@ayeshhas5641]

Adrienne, i am grateful from the depth of my heart for these lessons. As a woman grows up,if she was not natured upon femaninty it dims down and sometimes it disappeares. Its something that needs to be taught as part of a national curriculum for young girls and truly, society would benefit and thrive.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you for the kind words! Help your sisters learn! xoxo!

[@avgonyma1]

I. FIND YOUR FEELING: 1. Knowing your reflex, your immediate trigger (the 1st feeling, usually anger or dissapointment) 2. Second feeling 3. Third feeling 4. Forth feeling....tears. (This is the REAL feeling.) II. SPIN IT TO WARMTH: III. KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES: - you can date men that you usually wouldn't BUT - stop dating when your boundaries are violated (e.g. rudeness) EXAMPLE 1: 0. Client was asked to go to the date's house, on the 1st date. 1. Know your FEELINGS: do you feel good, bad, happy, sad. She fellt "weird" and "uncomfortable" . 2. Spin it to the OPPOSITE: comfortable. 3. Know your boundaries: do you want to go to the man's house, yes or not? Perhaps both yes and no. Her answer: "I am flattered and it feels good to be invited. Yet i'd feel comfortable with that once we know eachother better. (BOUNDARY) " EXAMPLE 2: The man texts to ask "what do you want from the grocery store" . She doesn't know what. Answer: "it feels good/sweet that you want to pick sth from the grocery store (your feeling), but I don't need anything (boundary)." EXAMPLE 3: "What do you want to do tonight?" (Puts you into the masculine) Answer: "I want to cuddle up and feel cozy" . (He should decide where to do this, e.g. cinema, home. No Vegas, no bowling (boundaries)). EXAMPLE 4: "Asks about her exes." (There are off limits). - feeling: awkward, judged. Don't want to hear about this (when he's talking a lot about his ex). I feel icky, maybe curious, but still icky. Her answer: "one part of me feels a little curious, but the other just feels icky. It would feel so much better if we could just talk about us tonight. What do you think?" EXAMPLE 5: Difficult, when texts get sexual, a bit uncomfortable. Or when he tries to guilt you. (He tests you for your qualities). E.g. he says he just wants to come over and give you a massage tonight. Answer: " I do like massage, it would feel nice, but I don't know you and that part feels a little weird/uncomfortable today. I'd feel lovely to meet for coffee first. What do you think?" EXAMPLE 6: When she is spending time alone/relaxing and he asks her to run some errands for him and get together for lunch, that she would bring. - feeling: exhausted, tired, angry that he asked - what would you like: later tonight cuddle, getting a bite to eat "I am so exhausted, would love to grab something later on, .but i'm just gonna stay home and finish reading my book now. "

[@rachelgillard1286]

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[@fdsqueen5375]

My issue with some of the above is that some of those men have red flags!!! Man asking for first night at his place or the other getting sexual so fast. Don’t talk to those men. They are low value.

[@Sunshine-eq2zs]

Thank you!

[@mallom6226]

I love these notes, so succinct

[@heilapaulino7602]

I find that this advice pairs so nicely with David Hawkins's "letting go" practice. Surrendering to each layer of feeling allows the deeper layers to surface.

[@Miswhitness0520]

The most powerful thing I’ve realized is the power of IGNORING. If he cancels on me, if he says something rude or inappropriate, etc I literally drop him right then and there and disappear. I don’t explain. I don’t complain. 10 times out of 10 he comes back having reflected on where he might’ve went wrong and offers an apology. Instead of being like “yeah you suck” I simply say “thanks for the apology” with a smile! They get the hint after that what I will not tolerate

[@heilapaulino7602]

Also, THANK YOU Adrienne! These practices are changing my life (even though I only started watching 2 days ago, and even though I haven't started dating yet). I feel more compassion for men and for wounded masculine energy in men, which I used to be resentful of. I'm also learning to balance my strong masculine energy (which I still love and embrace) with my own wounded femininity. You are brilliant!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

You're so welcome! Keep up the good work and stay in touch! bit.ly/femmtools FEMM tools for dating!

[@karen.island3697]

Wow! I’m buying your book and courses! I now see from a few of your videos how I have always been in my boy energy and no wonder I end up in bad relationships and never ever get what I need. Yikes! I feel bad for the guys I’ve left behind hurting their feelings or ego and shutting them down. Thanks for your work!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Karen L oh honey! Don’t beat yourself up. You were doing the best you could and those men have led the way. 🌸 Hugs to you!

[@karen.island3697]

Feminine Energy Love & Dating Oh my goodness...thank you for your reply! Such a lovely thing to say. You’re so beautiful and a fantastic teacher. Super happy I found your channel! 🌹

[@mighty5189]

Oh Dear Adrienne, such a great clip!!! Single lady out there must watch this. No matter where you are when you are, spend 20 mins to listen to Andrienne.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Hugs to you! 💕 Thank you so much! I am happy to help!

[@hjane2309]

This clip is so helpful and practical. I really love it. It gives us steps to process how we feel about things instead of just responding out of whatever pops up in our heads. Retraining. Take a moment, how does that make you feel? Its about us. Not the man. 💖💕 Thank you xo

[@trishkerr6489]

I just found you today!! I have a 24 year old daughter and I am going to introduce you to her. SHE NEEDS TO HEAR YOUR MESSAGES!! I LOVE how you present your message in a positive way that will get women to cherish our Goddess selves. THANK YOU!! You have given me hope where I feel like my daughter is not listening to me, but she just may listen to you. You are spot on!! What a refreshing way to be in a positive relationship that honors ourselves!! You give precise tools and examples how to speak to men in an effective way. Changing ourselves and our attitudes can change the way we see ourselves and changes the expectations we may require in a relationship. You are AMAZING!!!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I'm honored to be part of your life! xoxo!

[@kaitemarie5404]

As a daughter myself who really had zero instruction on how to deal with men or relationships, I appreciate you. Finding messages or information on this really important aspect of life to send to your child is so meaningful. All I was told was to avoid sex. That was it. I have spent a lot of time and headache at war with my lack of knowledge on how to be a woman and be in relationships and how to handle trauma from my parents horrible relationship. I avoided relationships for awhile because I literally couldn’t deal with the stress of trying to navigate them and maintain my boundaries. I know parents can’t teach everything, but to look for assistance, to look for good information or outside teachers….that’s so great.

[@MadameLiya]

Omg! Wow! ...Adrienne... i am an introvert and always had problems communicating to basically anyone.. but these 3 methods are so excellent for me at home at work ... with friends and family... i am so grateful to you for this lesson ... i feel like i can achieve so much now communicating like this Thankyou so much 💖

[@AdrienneEverheart]

You are so welcome. I also recommend: The Introvert Advantage in addition to "500 Ways" plus the 2 Day video class: EverheartCoaching.com/talk

[@martaorzechowska2860]

Wow! Great feminine wisdome! We women know how to apply it towards people who we barely know. It is easy: be always kind and know how to refuse kindly.

[@poojabatti3712]

You and Helena Hart are genius and God sent to us women

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you so much, that is very kind of you to share. Hugs to you!

[@Amanagillxo]

Love this video! I'm trying to find my feelings to tell a guy who's showing low effort to step up & make plans for us to spend quality time rather then just leaving it for "sometime later"

[@mallom6226]

I tried the emotional parfait method today! and by the fourth emotion that came up 😂I sensed a really "I'm not worthy of happiness" energy from not setting a boundary with a male coworker earlier on. I didn't even realize how much it affected me! and so I took myself on a grocery date at a healthy European market nearby and received MILLIONS of arrows! It felt nourishing to the part of me that didn’t set that boundary ❤ I feel strongly that if I keep getting familiar with these feminine energy shifts, my man and I will be closer than ever. little shifts from fear to love make a *big* difference. thank you adrienne.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Excellent work!

[@elisabethbell630]

Perfect. I love your 3 step response method, Adrienne. I'm excited to use this more often in my own conversations with my husband. Thank you for being AWESOME. 💗

[@StrawberryAppleCream]

Ohh thank youuu! Im so happy you mention the mixed feelings! That it is okay to use both. Because in most cases I feel numerous ways about something and it made me feel that I am indecisive and I need to make up my mind about something if I feel good about something or not

[@jeanettevictoriasweet819]

I really liked this. Very simple. Thank you!! I am now working on this feminine energy! You are lovely yourself!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you so much! I am honored to be helping you. It takes practice but SOON you will be living and speaking from your FE and men will be coming out of the woodwork's to be with you. If you want to learn everything + the VIP Library I encourage you dive into New Man Manifesto: bit.ly/newmanmanifesto

[@ElahehDaisy]

Ladies, This video is so practical, each time I tried it I was happier and people around me appreciated it too :)

[@shellyortiz1977]

Bless you dating man been so lost in that department and now pretty late in the dating life im getting the grip is never late ..

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Hi Shelly, thank you so much for writing. It is never too late! I have clients in their 70s manifesting their twin flames and true loves. bit.ly/newmanmanifesto YOU CAN TOO!

[@roslyndrayton6716]

Just 3 simple steps...how incredible is that! Thank you Adrienne, I am learning so much about dating that it's got me so excited about doing it.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Awesome! Please let us know how it goes! xoxo!

[@chloecollins9097]

Your hair looks beautiful :)

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you

[@hildadursun]

That was so informative. Thank you and God bless you. I havent been in touch with my feelings and found it difficult to Express them thinking I didnt have any. But I do have feelings about everything and I just need to stop find out what it is. Find a better feeling. I need to practice.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I'm so glad this helps you honey. Keep up the good work and sending you so much love!

[@mariacaballero3765]

This is hard for me to put it in practice. I'm working on it.❤️

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Much love to you! 💕 Practicing will make it start to feel natural. Learn to accept arrows from men, and use every opportunity you can to practice your feminine energy! FEMM Tools will help you! bit.ly/femmtools

[@Looloowa74]

You are goooood. I love your teaching skills.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you so much! I appreciate your kind words. Keep on learning!!!

[@lauradurbin4653]

Yes, yes, yes!! I am halfway through this video and I am absolutely loving what you are saying. I am a therapist and you are so spot on with recognizing the feelings that often come up after anger and disappointment. I love how you go on to talk about then turning those feelings that were identified into warmth. OK, back to watching! Lol.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you! Go deeper with “500 Ways,” ebook and 2 day video classes. bit.ly/500waysbook

[@meganmarks9388]

I have your Get Him Back 1 & 2, and it really works!!! I want to keep learning.

[@yazzy1979]

Oh feelings is the only way I’m gonna survive 😒 I threw those away along time ago now you’re telling me to go on like a Zelda quest to get them back 🤦🏾‍♀️ great thanks awesome

[@phoenixrising8007]

Haha 😆 too funny Thank you for your comment It reminded me what I really want in relationship is laughter and that’s what was majorly missing with the X

[@yazzy1979]

Phoenix Rising 🤎 totally

[@sarathephoenix7051]

Thank you, it has definitely taken time to be in touch with feelings... When I am frustrated or hurt, I don't know how to address it... This is soooo helpful.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Hugs to you! 💕 I am so happy to help!

[@teodorasavova512]

Thank you so much for your videos, bless you ❤

[@AdrienneEverheart]

You are so 🤗 welcome. 🎁 Https://www.everheartcoaching.com/freegift/

[@gabrielarodriguez4325]

Love it!!! A great way to learn how to handle the relationship!

[@taisekwadziruni7108]

This was very educational

[@realworld2737]

Wow this is very useful video.....this is the one I was missing...Thank you :)

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you so much! Please feel free to share! xoxoxox!

[@urvijani1862]

I feel scared a lot. I have 2 of your programs and it has helped me a lot. Thank you so much. But I feel I need personal coaching.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Hugs to you! 💕 I’m so happy to help. I’m not offering 1:1 coaching at this time, but you an join my free FB group for support. bit.ly/iheartloveacademy

[@urvijani1862]

Thanks a lot. I am so grateful to find you. I got FEMM TOOLS for dating AND NMM.

[@jilll8526]

As usual, just brilliant. Simple and effective! I wish you could teach *everyone* how to communicate. Thank you!

[@nicolerivera9820]

At first I like to talk about previous relationships because I learn what really disappoints this man and can he take responsibility for his part in what went wrong.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Sounds like a bummer but if it feels good to you...?

[@aklanongid8938]

I love your video, like everything! I feel like you're really talking to me in person.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I am so happy to be of assistance! Love to you!

[@concken1]

My H sees feeling statements as manipulative (I think he knows these videos are out there and is super vigilant that he won't be manipulated. :-(

[@juneelle370]

If he doesn’t care about your feelings, he doesn’t care about you. 💜

[@ayeeda7891]

Love you . You know exactly what u r talking about

[@bettycarmella1127]

So so good! Thank you for sharing🙏🏽💜💜

[@discussionswithdamara3224]

I have been seeing a man who is in the military and lives in another state we vibe extremely well and he is a great masculine man. I am going to visit him next weekend and he has my hotel all planned out among what to do. Should I ask him what I owe him or just say thank you? And how should I talk about it?

[@4lyfpalestinian]

Just say thank you :) they are happy to serve you

[@ontherox007]

This is very helpful, thank you so much :)

[@lizastufflococucs6200]

@ 13:43 she didn't say he wanted to talk about his exes, she said he asked her about her exes? That's two different things you went on to say what you should say if he talks about his exes. This is an important distinction.

[@rakshastargoddess478]

Super explaination..best coach ever love you from India 😘😘☺☺☺

[@lynnerickson758]

Really got a lot out of this thank you

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

I love this so much!

[@lucyh8344]

wow! This is so good! Thank you!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you, feel free to share!

[@a.j9300]

I'd love to get the book, does it come in audiobooks. With my job its impossible to read and work over 70 hrs . I start reading and fall asleep from exhaustion

[@AdrienneEverheart]

You will want to read the first part but truly it's best to search through for the topics you need with the magnifier glass tool and use it for reference. Much love to you and I hope work eases up soon. xoxo!

[@lisagutierrez8651]

Please please can you do some videos on long distance relationship

[@mortiscia]

This was great!

[@jtsays429]

OMGsh, need to rethink re learn) my responses and feeling lost now when hubby ask mr anything...thanks for the examples

[@AdrienneEverheart]

You got this! Go deeper with FEMM TOOLS for Dating diamondgirl.me/femm

[@dhyanmukta]

What about the clever wolves that trick you into going back to their place to watch a series and then your too tired and turned on to set boundaries . How do you rewind from that the next time he’s clear on asking to spend another night with you?

[@juneelle370]

You might enjoy the episode of Hidden Brain (NPR) that is about how we’re literally different people in different emotional states. If you understand where your vulnerabilities lie, then you can protect yourself. Only you can enforce your boundaries... by holding ground or walking away. You can’t “make” someone respect you boundaries... if it’s a healthy boundary for you, the unhealthy won’t want to respect it. 💜

[@__kikiadore]

Excellent video!

[@rubyanaya126]

Very thankful for you.! 👍❤️

[@caralan]

Hi Adrienne! Could you touch on how to _not_ say “thank you” with all the compliments guys give when first meeting you, in a way where it doesn’t make you out to be a diva or ungrateful? Thank you!! (See I can’t not do it)!

[@paulbrooks7685]

Hi Cara, I'm just a ✝️Christian 👨man here, but I'll just say Compliments from Him/Her can be overwhelming and sometimes a bit repetitive when everyone likes you, I'd have a little fun and say 😘Thanks in 🇪🇸Spanish, Muchos Gracias, or French Merci bocuop. Plus anything that's innocently on my mind. Stay strong dear one, Heavens bless, Amen. Or That's Wonderful, that makes my day!

[@healingypsy]

Adrienne, you've really changed the way I communicate with a special man. On a first date arranged by mutual friends, do I let the guy pick me up from my home or do I meet him at the venue ?

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you for the kind words! You're so sweet. It's always best, if you feel comfortable, to allow the man to pick you up. Let him decide. Speak what feels best and then ask him, "What do you think?"

[@healingypsy]

Thank you Adrienne, thats exactly what I did ! xx

[@pennyclose2509]

i always get caught up when i boyfriend references other females in any way even in general conversations and i come in a negative or emotional way?

[@Maku571]

All dis days all feeling statement worked. Suddenly i thought of sharing my feeling he said not to grip him. And he would block me.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Hugs to you! 💕Just lean back and try not to initiate contact with him. Let him come to you! My ABC program will help you get your man back! bit.ly/ABCGetHimBack

[@ladyllf48]

How on earth do you find the words to use. I'm so stressed out because of taking to a man. What is happening now in this day N age. 😤😤🤔🤔😢

[@AdrienneEverheart]

All the words are not in a thesaurus but naturally found in your body. This takes practice. Read "500 Ways" to learn more: bit.ly/500waysbook

[@littlemama3957]

Thank you..you are..awesome

[@Fitlover24]

Love your coaching ...it has helped me tremendously in my relationship... Can I use the same sentence with my LDR bf who is meeting me soon in my country first time, I'm looking only for marriage,he knowsthat, but he has given suttle hints about having sex and I don't want to sleep before marriage, but worried what to say to get him understand this and commit?

[@MoonChild13]

soul connection You should talk about this subject before he goes to visit you. Setting a boundary will let him know your standards. Otherwise, he might feel confused or even cheated.

[@lotusmua6325]

Thanks

[@prittyugly86]

White board series??? I thought this was your asmr series!!!

[@fbmbassist]

Thank you for this. Do you have any advice for when the situation is long and drawn out? For example, when I am not getting what I want (sex), but it is because my partner is going through mental/emotional things related to it? I am having difficulty staying warm and patient. I find myself snapping at him lately because I am angry (feeling unloved).

[@AdrienneEverheart]

What you’re feeling is normal. As he is healing you need to care for yourself. Even touches and snuggles will help. If this goes on too long this relationship may not be right for you. 🥰

[@phoenixrising8007]

Right, Knowing when enough is enough and when it’s time to let go

[@juneelle370]

Beware of broke d*ck caused by porn...

[@thetwinflamealchemist]

My man tests me ALL the time. Last one was jealousy. I ignored

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Keep up the good work! You’ll want to explore FEMM for Marriage & Relationships. It’s kept so many couples together and going stronger than ever. bit.ly/femmtools

[@hunny585]

When guys keep telling me repeatedly, 'Ask me what you want to know me more'...how do i respond

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Do you have '500 Ways to Talk to a Man'? I have so many answers for you in there regarding dating and the (stupid) things guys say. To answer, first, how do you feel when he asks this? For me, I would feel like he's not investing in opening up. However, here are two of my favorite questions: Tell me how your childhood was? Tell me about how you learned to love. ALSO, If there was one thing I knew about you that I'd really not like you for, what would it be? This will get him talking and opening up and maybe shutting up a bit. LOL!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

My ebook is here too: www.everheartcoaching.com/ebook

[@hunny585]

Feminine Energy Love & Dating buhaha...epicc! This calls for investing in ur book soonest possible. Thankss

[@bilget9260]

Hi Adrienne, what would you recommend if a guy you are interested in would like to have a short holiday with you, but he also tells you that he has some non-serious relationships? I have strong feelings for him and told him that I I would only go on a trip like this with someone if I was the only one in his life. He says being with one person gets boring after a while. I didn't reply to this. I am not sure what I was supposed to say. I hope you can help. Thanks

[@AdrienneEverheart]

If you're looking for something solid, committed and long-term, there are a ton of red flags going up right here with this particular guy, and I would recommend moving on. At least do not go on a trip like this so early. If you still want to try to win him over, you have all the tools you need to try that, but again, lots of red flags here. XOXO

[@iamdancingfree]

I like your channel

[@mariacapra2271]

What happen if we are both widows

[@widget8181]

Do you have a link for the Fb group

[@AdrienneEverheart]

facebook.com/groups/iheartloveacademy/

[@renemitchell6080]

Why you don't write here what we can do to get back

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Good question! For one, it is complex and has many steps/processes. In the program I go deeper than KZbin can provide.

[@dawnburwell4876]

is this book a pdf that i can save to my library ? i dont want to have to use the web/app to read it.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

It's a downloadable eBook. XOXO!

[@AmysColorfulCreations]

So, this is difficult. I’m practicing. I’m in a LDR, going on 6 months now. Today is my birthday, but all I received was a text! I’m not sure how to handle it. Any advice is much appreciated.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Happy birthday! Sending you so many hugs! Being in an LDR has so many challenges, and I do not recommend them. In order for an LDR to work, one person must move near the other. You need the proximity to make things work and create a long-lasting relationship that leads to marriage. Lean back here. Don't rely on any man to give you what you need. In dating, no one owes the other anything. I know it can be tough. FEMM Tools will help you learn how to date like a confident goddess! bit.ly/femmtools

[@AmysColorfulCreations]

@@AdrienneEverheart I just purchased FEMM for Relationships and Marriage ❤️

[@johannakunze3300]

The audio quality of this video is not acceptable

[@ursulabudnik1979]

I dont have time to date man I am not interested in...

[@KenyaOSmith]

Grocery store...I would feel scared. I would be afraid he will hold that over my head (that he's done something for me).

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I hear you yet that is unknown. If he asks and you need something, answer. If he does hold it over your head, you find your feelings and speak it. What would you imagine a man saying? I'd be happy to help you here. Fear is a very big trigger! xoxox!