Emotional Trauma | You Have To See This!!

[@DrJulie]

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[@ronnieavendanio9859]

Dr. Julie can you pls answer my question. The thing is I haven't cried in 2 months I mean I have but only once. I don't know why I don't care about the supposebly traumatic present moments in my life, instead I get confused. The only thing I worry about is the things that will happen in the future. And when one negative moment happened I just carry on with my day so normally, like nothing ever happened. But if something big happens, I do still carry on normally but it is stuck in my mind, I cannot get it unstuck. Why is it like this?

[@YourLocalCadetNamedMarz]

Hi Dr. Julie :D im a chikd with autism, anxiety and dysexia and im strugling with the noise at scool since in my primary scool people used to yell when they hit me and it got slightly truamatic. Can you make a vid to help?

[@sonialune]

@@ronnieavendanio9859 it's exactly what this video is about. Processing the emotions and the event that is happening instead of keeping it inside. When we keep it under the surface and continue like its nothing, we contribute to the overwhelming explosion of theses feelings that has been repressed. This accumulation has also an other side, like being scared of the future, because of what is already happening inside, we can't imagine how we could add more to our bag... Bit by bit, we need to take it of our shoulders. It's a difficult progress but it's worth trying it out and you will start to feel better. Healing takes time. Take care Xx

[@ronnieavendanio9859]

@@sonialune Actually I meant that I don't get overwhelmed by the events or emotions but instead I get confused by what I should feel. Like I don't understand what I should do, do I need to be suprised?happy?etc.

[@santosobobon1151]

Hi I have a trauma. I always want to go to theraphist but my parents wont let me do it. They said no one else need to know the problem. But it is always really painful for me, almost everyday the memories triggered and cant be forgoten :( I really need person like you to help me, at least to talk to me ..

[@afriezalkamil2892]

Oh my God i was startled with the ballon popping huhu

[@alyxleaf]

I swear my soul left my body when that happened 😂

[@han-er4sx]

Me too 😂

[@stanleyyypdf]

@@alyxleaf same 😭😭

[@uniqueelveenola9624]

Same my whole body just moved up

[@Cale_henituse_pop]

Yaa 😓

[@SehriHS]

This analogy was perfect for describing what unhealed trauma feels like

[@mmka5434]

If every therapist processed the traumas the way you explained, the world would be a paradise.

[@Neutaaaa49]

mhm, and I have a big social anxiety problem so I can’t even start therapy

[@NathalyPolanco-ko9or]

You can, make the decision. Starting is the hardest part because you think you don't know how to. You do know, just start.

[@anitabarry5732]

I absolutely agree because most psychologists are not as incredible as she explains things. If we had more psychologist like her, then more people would be willing to go to therapy otherwise, in my own experience, majority of them are useless.

[@Muhmineen]

Yes, better if u have got family around u that u can talk to and process through step by step as she said slowly and heal through time. But problem is, ppl that need it the most and been theiugh the worst usually don't have such ppl around them in life. So they seek strangers like therapists as there's no other choices around them in their day to day life. And very costly as well whilst having aolod family and friends is free.

[@onyxlumis8825]

​@@NathalyPolanco-ko9or it's amazing how these words used to feel harsh, but saying things like this brings so much love because it is the truth and the kindest truth. It doesn't mean you won't be fighting yourself everyday it means don't settle for the life you have ever because there is always more to discover.

[@ellsisfineig]

That balloon pop was a bigger jump scare then my grades 💀

[@Ruby-qi1qx]

Same

[@NotSuns]

Frr

[@alexandriarcollins]

Stoppp😭😂

[@StarFlowerLana]

*True lol*

[@TheEggFella]

Frrr

[@Occamy06]

If every therapist was like this...

[@thirtythreeflavors]

We are. This is a standard taught in most beginning classes.

[@leftthatbehind6090]

@@thirtythreeflavorsyou might be but most aren’t. A lot of people end up worse off and deeply traumatised from bad therapist/psychologists. I would go as far as saying that it gave me ptsd.

[@mariec.9102]

So many of them really are like this: kind, patient, knowledgeable and respectful.👍🏾🌹

[@Tammy-nf9hs]

Exactly. Not all are the same for sure. Therapists are just people and their own issues and attitudes show up in how they show up. Had to work through that trauma also and try not to take it personally; but it also keeps me from looking to others and being vulnerable with anyone. Husband was abusive and went to therapy and counseling, was told to take medication and not complain about my husband-my parents heard him one day how he spoke to me and saw his actions finally, and were horrified at what they witnessed. That was my validation. I didn’t need medication, I needed a divorce. I didn’t seek anymore therapy because clearly I wasn’t being heard anyway and throwing good money at people that didn’t have my best interest. It’s great when it works. I pray everyone finds what they need to keep being their best and that they are seen, heard and loved.

[@opheavenff8388]

right

[@Heather-fx7sr]

The visuals you provide to help explain a concept are terrific

[@magicmya]

Agree! I’ve seen her other videos too and it takes her teaching to the next level ❤❤

[@whatofit9841]

Out of all the therapists I've had, I don't think I can think of one who has thoroughly gone into depth of actually taking the time to help process my trauma, or even work out strategies to get me through it. Most of my healing seems to have only come through from good friends or psychology videos on the internet. Has anyone else felt this way??

[@SharonKBM]

Yes, I feel the same way.

[@Wesenskern]

It's been a year since you've posted that comment, but YES

[@MeAndAnima]

Yee

[@Gem-wi4lm]

Sadly not all therapists take things slow and safe. Sometimes they criticize you on your trauma. Other times when you think it's a safe space they will tell it to everyone. They will promise not to tell your parents about what you said then they will. No I'm not talking about harming yourself or others, even when you say "once my parents locked me in my room and I felt so unloved" they will tell the parents and you'll just get in trouble. I wish all therapists were good, but no, not all of them.

[@iadoreapplehead]

If therapists do that, you can sue or report them and they will very likely lose their job and license to be a therapist. At least that's how it works here, clients are protected by professional secrecy. The only time a therapist is allowed to break that is when they think you could be an actual danger to yourself or others. Of course, even if you report such a therapist and they lose their job, the damage has already been done.. But it keeps most therapists from telling others about things you discussed in sessions without your consent. Even so, I waited until I was legally an adult and living on my own before starting therapy. The paranoia is real. If my abusive parents ever heard the things I discuss with my therapist I'd be a dead woman.

[@aaryamankar4896]

A therapist ruined my friendship some are just greedy

[@Frau.P]

True. And some therapists retraumatize you

[@sheilaboland6285]

@@iadoreapplehead Maybe that person was underaged.

[@mrtee2630]

FAX, I don't trust therapist because of this

[@tupik-yc3ze]

If only more therapists were like that ... my first ever therapist literally was just like "tell me about the car accident" and I _cried_ right there on the spot and she just kept pushing me with questions even when I could barely breathe through tears. That was sure fun, never again. More psychologists and therapists should be like you

[@BringingPrettyBack]

Me too!!! Just had a horrible accident . Got hit my a garbage truck I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Hugs

[@143purple]

💜

[@stephanielu7694]

After 6 years of praying for a Baby I got pregnant with twins. I ended up going into labor too soon and lost both Babies during delivery and was rushed off into emergency surgery because I was hemorrhaging and they were losing me. I ended up surviving, obviously. But I have survivors guilt and PTSD from everything that happened and trying to process all of the trauma. My husband doesn't understand why I now explode and start shaking and crying over the smallest thing now. This analogy does a good job at explaining why. I have been trying to explain it to him and I just can't figure out how to in a way that he understands. I'm going to show him this video and hope that it helps. I'm still looking for a therapist

[@ducquessa4618]

Hi Stephanie, that would have been very traumatic & your heart very sore with the loss ,for both you & your husband ,l hope you find the right help to process and recover. Yahweh bless you both ,sending 💙🙏 (EMDR is a treatment l personally found helpful for PSTD) take care.

[@etherealpearl96]

I had a missed late term miscarriage last year in March. I had to be induced and the same thing happened to me. I understand your pain. Even after that, everything escalated to my husband battling addiction because that unlocked some of his childhood trauma and the fact he nearly lost me messed him up. It got scary for a while and he had to go to rehab. He's good now but that whole year has changed me. I can't continue to work at my same job because of panic attacks every day. I jump if someone even moves suddenly. It feels like no amount of rest is enough. I go through periods of time where I nightly have the reoccurring dream that I'm having miscarriages. It's overwhelming and I've been told to "just get over it" quite a bit. I'm so sorry. We'll get through this. ❤️

[@lisaw6219]

😢

[@kendrarhodes6425]

Sending virtual hugs your way.

[@kendrarhodes6425]

@@etherealpearl96I’m sorry you’re going through this. Sending hugs. I hope you can get some therapy.

[@shanoihall6868]

This video just feels how much Dr Julie cares about explaining your videos to us because she risked her own self getting wet we love you and thank you for helping us

[@theexplosionofnature143]

"risked her own life getting wet" it's not like she jumped in a volcano to say RISKED HER OWN LIFE

[@teamgogreen5504]

@@theexplosionofnature143 🤣

[@0.0k29]

@@theexplosionofnature143 that’s bc she didn’t but that’s kinda like it She said she risked herself getting wet, but it’s still not a big deal😂

[@salmamohsen11]

@@theexplosionofnature143 ikr lol

[@BlackwolfllArt-zc9vq]

@@theexplosionofnature143 Not once did OP mention the word "life".

[@indigosun9891]

Not every therapist is or has as much common sense as you. It's difficult to find a proper therapist and most people give up. You're the exception! ❤

[@orange_cat_energy]

most therapists just suck

[@grapeshorts8315]

I get bullied a lot at school and I have become extremely depressed and started getting anxiety about going to school. An analogy that my year coordinator said to me is that I am carrying a bag full of bricks and pebbles, the bricks and pebbles are the mean things people have said or done to me and whenever someone says something mean to me another brick gets added to the pile. Then one day when my bag gets too full and someone says something mean to me all those rocks and emotions come flying out and I just take all my built up anger on that person.

[@hello-jz5vb]

you are an amazing person, i hope all your problems get solved and all your dreams come true, god bless you. ❤️

[@amye0715]

I can relate to how you feel. Hope you ok. 😊

[@starsstars4458]

I understand. Know that others actions or words don't define you. Their actions/words will make you stronger! 💪

[@gillianm9367]

Hope you have someone trustworthy to confide in and life gets better for you soon. No one deserves to be bullied x

[@erik4401]

F them hope ur better

[@Cecilia-yy9ew]

You’re explanations give so much clarity to emotions we don’t even understand ourselves. What a gift.

[@htx_anaa.3]

When I was 8 I chocked on my food and I didn’t wanted to eat ever again because I was afraid that I was going to choke again, so my mom was worried about me so she brought a physiologist talk about it. The physiologist will come three days a week and it took time for me to start eating again and not being afraid that I would choke again, but it was really worth it ❤

[@splithollow]

When my parents separated, I told everyone and my therapist that I was fine with it. But as time went on and my therapist and myself processed it, I realized I wasn’t ok with it. I was in a session, we talked and slowly I got louder, more angry, until I eventually I started crying. She again asked how I felt about my parents separating and I told her “I’m not ok with it and I’m mad they didn’t tell me sooner.” (I found out six months after it happened) It hurt to admit and I felt so weak, but I also felt great that I could finally confront how I truly felt. It does take time to process and it can be scary, but it you will feel so much better once you confront your anxious thoughts and trauma. You got this❤

[@jomansson5742]

Isn't it amazing, scary, how good we can be at denying, suppressing our true feelings

[@beartheburn3863]

Did you heal after you let it surface

[@Movedaccountsss4847]

She talking avout trauma

[@Selkie_17]

​@@Movedaccountsss4847this could be a traumatic thing for someone especially a kid my guy

[@Icantchangemyhandlehelp]

​@@Movedaccountsss4847that IS trauma.

[@creatorsoulchan]

i actually started crying this is my first time seeing you and i already love you 😭

[@susanobrien9917]

Me too ❤️

[@no_one9127]

Same

[@REAbrownia732]

Same here

[@heatherspiritriderWizard101]

As someone who grew up in a military family that also experienced trauma I was taught to ( keep pushing forward and don’t look back pain is only temporary and if you need to cry then you are weak and weakness is bad ) I been quietly suffering with PTSD, anxiety depression, and a lot of other things #PTSDsucks but someone loves you so don’t give up and if you don’t hear it, survivor to survivor I’m proud of you for coming this far and not giving up. I’m proud of you for surviving each and every day you mean a lot and I’m sending my hugs and prayers to you. Remember you are not alone and you don’t have to walk alone.

[@MeAndAnima]

❤Omg im subbing you made my day rn ehen you said all those things even though it wssent to me like when someone say ong tysm i feel so happy for them just to talk to me and say thank you that mesn the whole world to me but tysm for sharing this you made my whole day not even joking I deal what happends in this video similarly like what you do just hold it in and im so scared to go to therapy this mean so much you don't even know❤

[@heatherspiritriderWizard101]

@ aww ☺️ no thank you I’m so happy I can help cause i know what it means to have no one in my time of need and I never want anyone to feel the same so I always lived by the saying “ if I can make help at least one person then that’s one beautiful soul this cruel world won’t take away. “ so I’m always willing to talk if someone needs it. ❤️ thank you for making my day and for the sub.

[@MeAndAnima]

@heatherspiritriderWizard101 Omg im tearing up so bad rn also thank your famliy for there's service and if you also were there too ty so much to you are so kind and just made me happy omg im tearing up so much ❤️THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING

[@heatherspiritriderWizard101]

@ you’re very welcome love I will share a thanks to my family and I should thank you because I’ve been depressed a lot lately your reply made me feel so happy for the first time in the past week. So thank you truly it means a lot to me.

[@princejain8]

You are a psychologist with Beautiful heart.

[@armlinksa9966]

Lol I flinched when the balloon burst...

[@M3L-o7h]

This is great way of showing that because that is exactly how it’s feels , I lost my farther to cancer when I was nine and it has stuck with me since.

[@edielloyd5442]

The lengths she goes to to explain to us these things just shows she cares. You’ve helped a lot of people Dr. Julie xx

[@patriciacleveland2588]

If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.

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[@moisesodette7286]

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[@dr.karidouglas1312]

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[@patriciacleveland2588]

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[@patriciacleveland2588]

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[@shishirshirole]

Feel so touched for people who carry so much burden deep in them.

[@teresaleporati7574]

So true Dr. Julie! I held in childhood sexual abuse for 55 years. Now at 63 and so many other repercussions because of this, I am finally getting help. By the Grace of God and a good therapist I am finally healing! Thank you Dr. Julie for what you do! God bless you!

[@frostycow]

Amen thank the lord! I’m so sorry 😢 sending prayers and hugs your way! God bless you!

[@xxMegha33xx]

You've helped me so much to get out of a bad low of 2 years. I can never thank you enough. And whoever is reading this. Trust me it gets better.

[@TalkingTomx3]

cried listening to this, really needed to see this, thank you

[@billfranz1724]

Nice analogy. Found this true in therapy. It takes a lot of subconscious energy to repress the past. There’s no such thing as just forgetting about it.

[@abbyscorp3704]

Wish you were my doctor 🙏 Thank you for being the light we need in our darkest paths 💚🕯️

[@marykaylor7337]

This explanation is beautiful. She presents this with such empathy and clarity which makes it simply beautiful.

[@shahadjaber8882]

i’m signing for therapy because of that balloon pop scare

[@rushikamehta]

This felt so relatable

[@MargaSzabo-bd4zi]

she is the person who really made me want to study Psychology and major in it. Thank you

[@BettyGeorge-d6x]

THIS LADY IS A GREAT HELP ONLINE,SHE DOES IT IN A WAY THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE , SHE'S A FAMILY MEMBER ❤

[@MadameSarah]

17 years ago I saw a psychologist after losing my Dad. It took a couple of sessions to be able to say out loud I’d lost my dad, then he wrote my loss on a whiteboard along with a couple of other things he asked me about. He crossed out the line about my dad and said there’s nothing we can do about that so let’s focus on these other areas; so I left. Still horrifies me knowing the pain I was in as a 22 year old. I had to pay for that session and I had no job. You never forget moments like that.

[@sadia2395]

Sheesh! 😕 What an ass****.When we are at our lowest,its double hard to survive such random,snarky comments,let alone that coming from a psychologist who you made yourself vulnerable to.Unbelieveable

[@sofiaoltremare6232]

Totally understandble... 👌🏻

[@sofiaoltremare6232]

I am not a professional but people feel my real, authentic partecipation. I don't just understand their pain: I FEEL their grief and often I really cry with them. Surprisingly they understand and feel better. Obviuosly they still need a (competent) therapist and I never couldn't do this job. I am just saying that truth matters: people need authenticity. Once I cried and said: "I can't do anything! I was supposed to be here to support You, instead I am so useless... Sorry. I just feel your suffering and I am afraid". I was trembling and crying. That Lady, a dear colleague (She was the widow), gave me a hug with a mild smile and said: "Your presence is so important... Be strong, be careful to yourself and to your couple. You know: I'd like to share just One hour with my husband. Sometimes I teased him and scolded him for stupid things, like the dirty boots in the hall, or doing dishes... And now... I can't say "I love You; be here: You are allowed to do everything"...". We shared that moment in the church twenty years ago. I still remember that evening. As I repeat, I think people need at least authenticity.❤️

[@sadia2395]

@@sofiaoltremare6232 rare to find empathetic people like yourself.blessed are your friends for they have you 😊

[@rara-vz1nx]

@@sofiaoltremare6232I have a somewhat rare illness, people often confuse it with a generic illness and downplay my struggles or lecture me on the other generic illness out of ignorance. The first time my boyfriend saw how I need to adjust my day-to-day life because of the illness he cried, even tho it wasn’t the biggest deal about my illness. He said it just hit him seeing me living differently. He felt so sad for me… it was the first time that I felt like someone without the illness understands me. Before meeting him I thought that in these situations it would shift the “spotlight” on the other person if they started crying, therefore invalidating the first person’s problems. But after experiencing that someone would feel my pain so much that they cried it’s truly the most comforting response I’ve ever gotten. It just helped me cry too (I don’t usually cry) and made me feel the most validated I’ve ever been.

[@redhead911126]

I went to therapy for three years and at some point we hit a wall. I dont think she was trained in how the nervous system works. She helped me with logic but the logic only helps so much. I think she tried, she seemed like a decent person, but at some point it felt like she just didn't understand how long term trauma works, and ultimately I was just going to tell her how I felt and thats was it.

[@Im_actually_a.shark_]

The ballon pop is how it feels to remember that traumatic experience

[@Maeve5617]

This made me tear up because that is exactly how it feels. From the pop to the slow release of healing through therapy.

[@basheerahmuhaimin6321]

Wow so true a lot of us are carrying our pain because it’s very deep inside and when it comes up, it shows itself in different forms and ways that we cannot control nor handle it’s time to heal it be free and work it out thank you so much for sharing this amazing video

[@zoebedford7230]

I wish I had found a psychologist like Dr Julie many years ago when I was 20. I feel like I could reveal everything to her without guilt, fear or even anger. Its comforting to know that someone out there inspires a level of trust in me

[@jacquelinekabugo-raderson1878]

Such a wonderful explanation of trauma. I need to have therapy 😕....

[@fyukifae7899]

Dpn’t be afraid to reach out for help, if you need it!

[@jacquelinekabugo-raderson1878]

@@fyukifae7899 I will, thanks 🙏🏾🤗

[@cynthiacole6140]

As do I.

[@littlepsycopopmaryith8618]

It will be a challenge, but dont worry you'll have a "Coach" to help you threw it. 😁 that's what I always thought the right therapist is besides a really close best friend who's there to have a shoulder to cry on, and dont think its dumb because other people try to turn you away from help. You know you need the help, and if they arent going to be supportive. 👎 sorry but not sorry! Time to dump that negative energy and get a positive mood in to your life, meaning to disconnect from family/friends that are negative. No Drama Llamas!🦙🦙🦙🦙

[@brother_of_bruh]

I was abused in therapy, got me traumatized more and hospitalized for the first time in my life, cheers to all you therapists, I gotta pick up the remnants of my life now after having looked for help. I have dissociation now, didn’t have that before therapy. Again, cheers. Look it up, abuse in therapy happens more often than you think and no one‘s talking about it, least of all therapists/psychologists themselves.

[@Leaf219]

Report them. They meant to help you not hurt you.

[@danimoore4849]

This is so relateable. Once my dog died and I found these old socks with his face on them and I had a mental break down and then only a couple weeks later my grandfather died. Thanks Dr. Julie.

[@barbaradelpino4020]

One of your very best Dr Julie - so many of us are in that situation, years and years of it

[@heba1580]

Your way of describing the trauma and the necessity of therapy is amazing Thanks ❤

[@reignwithbrains8242]

I’m speechless- wow u REALLY get it💯🔥🔥🔥🔥💪🏾💜

[@roshanwking166]

As a person who is still fighting daily on these dont ignore it nor phase it put those memories aside so u can learn from those memories it helps lot in maturing and taking decisions Its my way of view and its not easy also but .. find ur own way thats the best

[@jayantichatterjee6247]

Great explanations....so simple & precise. Thank you ❤❤❤❤

[@tahmasp6624]

I got trauma from that baloon popping lmao 😅. Btw great video as always.

[@0pearll__]

I have a fear of popping balloon

[@tahmasp6624]

@@0pearll__ same here

[@smilegabe]

Yeah me too I anticipate really heavily once a balloon is about to pop.

[@francesca16100]

I literally jumped so hard 😭 🤣

[@JM-fl3ic]

THANK YOU DR. JULIE. MENTAL HEALTH IS SO IMPORTANT.🌸😘

[@johnwalker1058]

I swear she has the best visualizations for psychological concepts. Thank you again Dr. Julie for your explanations.

[@prismonthethehorizon5793]

There's alot of people around me who live exactly like this, my mum for one who turned to drink, but other people who are close, the problem is they seep it out in damaging ways. I've been looked at as if I'm the one with the issues when in fact over a long period of time I've realised that I'm perhaps one of the most sane and responsible ones within my circle as I'm prepared to look at my mess, process and work through it as to not negatively impact others. I've put up with too much of other peoples crap... I really hope people can take care of their traumas in a way that they can start to heal themselves little by little, step by step. I'm by no means perfectly healed but I am prepared to do the work to heal my own traumas. I am also working through not carrying other peoples stuff as mine, I can't carry their baggage. At some point if you're in the role of a rescuer or any other role that carrys the burdens of another, you have to give it back to them a little at a time so that they can actually take some responsibility for themselves otherwise you're actually getting in the way of their own healing. And if you're the one who is carrying the trauma and have not tried to process it in a safe way, do it for yourself, your kids, parents, siblings, friends and colleagues.

[@gauravkhatri9581]

I'm so happy to know that there are people like you exist in this world. 🤗

[@visionbishop9517]

This woman gives me hope. Unfortunately all therapist aren't created equal. Ive only had 2 were decent my whole life.

[@helenarichard]

I've cried a lot in therapy from the memory but my therapist started doing EMDR therapy on me to help to process the memories and make them less painful. It is a technique that makes you think back of something without feeling anything. I did give my emotions a score and it got lower every time.

[@sadia2395]

Hope u are doin better now.2012 till 2022 was a series of setbacks for me ...job loss,miscarriage, divorce,movin across countries to find some stability, loneliness and finally panic attacks and depression. For what its worth, I can relate to recallin trauma and crying,it seemed like an endless loop to me.

[@Propercornishmaid]

This made me break down crying. I've needed help since I was a child. I'm 37 and suffered 36yrs of abuse in everyway. My daughter just had her 1st son, I wanna be there 200% for him but services are very hard to find.

[@AbsoluteAmok]

Didn't have to stop my heart like that jesus-

[@The_LoRaX_loves_TREES]

Jesus ain’t got nothing to do with this.

[@ginahoward3677]

HEHOHEHOHEHOHEHOHEHOHE *dies*

[@Dov3y.]

@@The_LoRaX_loves_TREES Nah we blaming him /j

[@nurulazmi939]

I think you forget to put comma after 'that'

[@TheberryY]

Its not that scary tho?

[@swyoutubeaccount]

Have you done a video on what exactly you mean when you talk about “processing” a memory? Are there healthy ways to “process” troubling memories and emotions as part of regular self-care that don’t require a specialist?

[@ThatJxde]

Speaking with someone, the one u most trust. Let it all out to that person (or people) and spend time with them, it will make u feel alot better afterwards. I guess temporarely tho.

[@EnchantingWings1]

Self care strategies will only help so far, in my experience. I needed therapy to full heal and feel whole again. If I didn't go to therapy, I'd continue to let it run my life, continue having nightmares, and avoid places that remind me of it.

[@My_Nightingale]

Sadly not all therapists are like that... the one I went to instead of doing that and helping resolve my problem which was not willing to go out instead I REALLY had to (and more) decided to just tell me "Hey, just find a job, here I saw a place where they're looking for people" and repeatedly asked me if I already did that... which I felt so preassured... idk if that should be the work with person like me 😅

[@PurvaD]

I would really like to go into therapy but I can't open up to complete strangers. It's so difficult to speak about anything with someone you don't know at all...

[@Merilee-kv6dy]

Start small. Build a rapport with your medical Dr first. If he or she is kind and understanding. Take small steps like opening up to people who have a proven track record of being kind and sensitive and empathy is very important. Even if you just started with talking with a friend,then work your way up. You can do it,and I believe in you and that you will reap rewards .Persevere when you run into disappointments and roadblocks. You may be down,but you're not out!

[@fayekalan]

And there is no guarantee they'll keep anything you say a secret in fact sometime they insist on having you talk in front of nurses but actually the doctors betray people as well

[@Yar1r1]

bro this hit deep- i wanna be a psychiatrist too even tho i'm living with my own problems

[@BlackSeranna]

It must be said that there are good therapists and bad therapists. I had one that kept goading me to talk about the most painful time in my life, and I did. It was so horrific that she held up her hands as if to make me stop telling the story. But she had opened Pandora’s box. The thing is, I wanted her to give me tools to help me cope with these memories, and she heard the request and repeated it back to me. But she never gave me one coping mechanism. I don’t know if she thought I was joking about having gone through trauma, but she heard it that day. Fortunately, I got really sick not long after that and I never saw her again because I had to go to the hospital. I still feel bad I told her my traumas. I wish she hadn’t pushed about it.

[@Ari_2011]

I was watching them the balloon popped and I jumped i couldn’t feel my body for a few seconds😂

[@sleepingsleeps633]

Every one talking about the balloon popping Me: Followed for more-

[@analitoyarzabal3707]

I have always been scared to go to therapy or therapy in general to talk about stuff ,but this angel that was sent down from heaven came to show thousands of us how it really works.Thanks to this wonderful lady that helped most of us get rid of that fear or most of this fear.Once again thank you so much and continue this amazing channel

[@hannaspiridonidis8651]

This is so accurate and true! And the amount of energy to keep that “balloon” under the surface is tremendous.

[@marakrikechi1787]

Maam I wish I could meet you in person and resolve everything

[@LucyGrace770]

Yeah me to

[@Flowerfairyy27]

Therapy is so expensive in our country. Here it's for wealthy people only who aren't struggling to get by. But I'm thankful channels like this exist. Thank you for your advice, Dr. Julie. It's tough but I want to regain freedom for myself.

[@aquaticproducts4274]

Her:*talking about trama* me:”no,no,DO NOT MAKE THE WATER OVE-nope,you’ve done.your done,YOUR DONE,naw my OCD can NOT deal with that”

[@ciaociaiaia]

bro this comment is really messy, MY OCD I CANT. 💀

[@sunbaliqbal1083]

How did she not scream in pain whne the balloon popped- *btw thx for therapy i need it so much*

[@MadaTangdilallo]

Thank you Dr julie🙌💛

[@deborahlindsay3670]

This is exactly my story - my mom died when I was 13 - I finally got into therapy 20 years later. So grateful for that therapist and the gynecologist who got me on antidepressants…and now grateful for your feed!

[@wiwi3438]

my anxiety when the water over flows: 📈📈📈

[@chiefinb1unt560]

I remember I went to therapy once for self-harm and suicidal thoughts and my therapist instead of easing it went straight into it asking "why do you want to k*** yourself" which made me just close up and extremely uncomfortable since it was a touchy subject (I was also about 8 at the time). Safe to say my mom never took me back (because I said I was fine) and learned to just deal with it and get through it on my own doing MUCH better now 19 in the Army and about to do my first ever rotation/deployment to Korea in a couple months

[@pyang264]

I m so sorry you went through that. Hold space for yourself if no one holds it for you. You are deserving and worthy ❤. Praying for you.

[@arcanesidus_]

I don’t want to go to therapy because I just can’t imagine burdening someone with my “problems”. I also find myself getting slightly annoyed whenever someone gives me advice to my problems, even though they’re just trying to help

[@SindianStar]

This is WHY I go to therapy! I have this deep sadness that I can't understand where is coming from (Trauma, not depression) And my therapist and I both agree that I can without problem figure out what it is, but that would be like me popping the balloon. She is there to make sure that we do it slowly in a way that will not just make everything burst.

[@Intellectualdepthpodcast]

Your trauma isn't your fault- but it is your responsibility to heal. Learn to make peace with your past in order to enjoy your future. I pray for everyone going through pain to heal.

[@bakugou.boom428]

he left me due to my mental healthy apparently straining us. it took us breaking up for me to realize he narcissistic he was and how manipulative he was. he wouldn’t let me set certain boundaries. blamed me and turned every argument into my fault, even if it was his. i told him sometimes i can’t control my thoughts, he called me psychotic and said i need to ‘fix myself’ and woke up the next morning like nothing happened. i thought i wasn’t normal and that i literally needed to be fixed. that i was a broken piece of sh!t. turns out he was fueling that and just turned the tables on me, saying i haven’t been helping myself as he’s been trying to ‘help me’. now it’s been 5 days and he’s already interested in someone else. it took me 9 months to realize this as he broke up with me 5 days ago. freakin’ crazy. if he truly loved me, would he have stayed and just stood with me along my healing journey? your healing journey should take as long as you need, i thought. guess not according to him.

[@rebeccabecca1308]

❤❤❤❤❤❤ Other people trying to help but hurts, they need to leave it to the therapist ❤ C-PTSD is a process in handling trauma under dr supervision thats knowledgeable in this!

[@kitkatgirl5673]

I am 24, when I was 15 I was r*ed by an ex boyfriend. I have been suffering from PTSD for years. I’m terrified of men. My own relationship with my fiancé is sometimes affected. Even having intimacy with my fiancé can be scary. He’s understanding, but I can tell deep down it hurts him to see me in pain. It’s gotten a lot better over the years. But the fear of being alone or even around other men never goes away. I have been medicated for a while now, it helps. But I hope someday I can live 100% comfortably but I know deep down I won’t.

[@ragalaga]

I’m only 13 and this morning my house nearly set on fire. I’m autistic and was calm at the moment but now it’s actually horrible to think about. It’s only been a few hours but I can’t bear to think about it. My baby cat was in the kitchen when it was full of smoke but I couldn’t go in there my mum wouldn’t let me. I had to run out with only my oversized hoodie and this nice lady gave me some shorts. The thought that it could have been the boiler haunts me and I struggle to go in the kitchen now. It was the microwave and my cat accidentally turned it on and left it cooking some leftover food that was in there. I can’t imagine how much smoke he breathed in but luckily we’re all okay.

[@HermioneGranger-pr6ig]

for anyone who needs this

[@jelly_isabell933]

She just explained most of what i feel.

[@mauricedorreboom5388]

Her way of explaining is so clear and simple, plus she seems like a real kind and lovely person to be around with.

[@user-yn9mx7xu1r]

It all depends on whether you find a good therapist. A bad therapist does harm.

[@hfortenberry]

That was fantastic! I’m sending this to my friend who’s really suffering from a lot of lifelong trauma who is afraid of therapy. Thank you! I hope this helps her.

[@bronco524]

YES...iree, been there-still there, work in progress

[@LuciaDickinson-q6c]

You are brilliant at demonstrating the healing process

[@lorriredmon8212]

I'm just loving these visuals. They really help!

[@robertpickering641]

This is the best description of this I've heard. Thank you for your videos. You might know but if you don't your videos do help.

[@lesleycarolyn6449]

She is absolutely right about this.

[@Mark-tu8wg]

You made me cry. And I appreciate it, thank you ♥️

[@surendrabishnoi9169]

I have read your book : Why had no one told me this before? And I want to thank you for all the things you have taught in that book *THANK YOU*

[@LunaTheHippie]

i’ve been through 6 therapists/counselors by now and none of them have been able to help me. i swear if someone says it’s my fault im gonna hate myself more.

[@v_v1881]

This video gets me crying like a baby. I guess I have deep trauma within me. Haven’t had therapy before all my life. Maybe it’s time to explore that option.

[@moonlampje79]

I love this analogy ❤, it just rings so true and it’s how my emotions work as well. Unfortunately I had a few duds when it came to therapists, but I found that writing keeps me sane. Sometimes I just put my pen to paper and I write and write and write, in this process I can “feel” my misery flow out of my arm, just like the ink flowing out of the pen. Is writing the end all be all? Maybe not, I know what therapy can be extremely valuable, with the right therapist. But for me it has been a lifesaver. Crochet as well ❤. The repeating motion of the crochet hook and yarn is so soothing, and you’ll end up feeling accomplished because you created something pretty 🤩

[@chaoschaoschaoss]

i love how she didnt fully deflate the balloon. Because those emotions will always be there! They will never completely dissappear, but they can get so managable :)

[@ningl820]

Been in healing process for many years. I found your video recently and I like your concept and explanations so much.

[@Mystic_Paths]

Emotional trauma involves the mental and emotional consequences of events that may have been deeply upsetting, frightening, or painful.