Enneagram: Type 2 & Wanting To Feel Important

[@amandamariemedia]

I think for me as a 2w3 it's not so much wanting to be validated that I'm "valued;" in healthier times its moreso needing cues/verbal affirmation that I'm loving them well., as self-doubt and I are well acquainted 😅 I think what warms my soul most though is bringing joy to others/helping them feel seen, even if they don't know I contributed in any way. The joy of others, whether I'm involved or just a bystander, fills my heart more than just about anything.

[@Jessicaunarex]

I literally just did a video about this and was uploading it when your notification popped up. I had a 2w3 supervisor and I didn’t get along with her, and she didn’t care for me much because I think I made her feel unimportant. I didn’t look to her for guidance, or help, other than very perfunctory stuff. She was very status and image driven which for me, as a 4, I found her basic and inauthentic. The integration to 4 is so important for 2s because it lets them look inward, rather than be self-deceiving and blaming externals for the problems. Glad I don’t work for her anymore.

[@margaretjudice8944]

Great thoughts! You can have more than one best friend. I've had multiple for many years. One of the 2s best qualities is their connections with others. Being your authentic self comes with maturity and life experience. Your giving has to come from Agape love, like Jesus showed us. Thank you for sharing!

[@LilithLi13]

Absolutely my top favorite of the videos of yours I have heard. I felt you went deeper with this one than many I’ve heard before and it was very rich and insightful. Much of it is hard to hear for me as a 2, but necessary. Thank you for your compassionate insights, Dr. LaHue! 💜

[@El_Tremendo__Pinkin]

The amount of times I made this face 😬 throughout the video lol! Dang. Good stuff.

[@planherwayto_fit]

Omg I felt ALL of this on the birthday example

[@lisalawn1111]

"The problem isn't that there's not enough problems" ...amen 😆

[@LilithLi13]

I don’t believe I relate to all those statements, what would they do without me, they couldn’t make it or do it without me,. That feels like a bit of grandiosity that I don’t directly feel. However, I did have a friend who was in such a difficult place in her life, emotionally, healthwise internally, physically, financially, and I ended up feeling a lot of guilt over not enjoying the relationship. Mostly her need/habit to repeat a story that felt like a well-worn rut. Eventually we stopped communicating after I told her something that she didn’t want to hear - that she was so much a victim that she couldn’t even see it, didn’t want to identify that in herself. Even after we were no longer communicating on a daily basis, I felt guilt, and I actually do to this day over a year later, feel guilt and pain over leaving her, stopping being a support in her life when things were so tough for her. That is a form of grandiosity, I guess, one that leads me to believe that my presence was of great importance in her life and that without me, she would be less well off. Perhaps the most wisest way to hold this is that I can be both grandiose and correct in my thinking. I Was uniquely of support in her life and I know she didn’t have much else as far as a support system. I am sure that my leaving hurt her, but I reached a point where I was finally able to recognize how little the relationship was serving me and my own needs and how much it felt enabling and codependent. In truth, if I had been able to give to her on the variety of levels that I tried to, it would’ve been a lot harder to leave because she would have been accepting what I was offering. And I would have felt depleted in other ways. I would have had to face my codependence and my challenged boundaries one way or the other.

[@eugenefloyd101]

I enjoy your videos. And. Your videos have always lifted and will always lift us up.

[@aletawalter9342]

I enjoy your videos so much and as a 2w1 can relate to everything you said here. Thank you.

[@LilithLi13]

I like that you caught yourself with the “maternal “example of wanting to impress, LOL. It does seem like women tend to be 2s more than men, certainly. I think the Uncle example was great-Mow the grass, stock the briquettes/lighter fluid, buy the steaks/veggie burgers, get the heaters/misters ready… I love thinking of all that as a sign of a perhaps “masculine” energy person working to please/impress. Thank you! 💙

[@kandirain_1172]

Does medication change ur enneagram type? Would I still be a type 9 if I didn't take an SSRI?

[@amandamariemedia]

I've tried so many antidepressants and I'm still a mushy 2w3 so not sure 😅

[@leedunkin3338]

Sometimes I wonder if Type 2's have anything truly redemptive in their personalities since it seems their basest motivatator is the desire to feel useful rather than the empathy that would be a truer drive to help others. But I'm biased and cynical because I knew well a very corrupt Two.

[@Jeenie2212]

This is a very interesting comment to me. My mom and I are both 2’s. She is a very unhealthy 2 who emotionally manipulated me for years, so I was stunned to find that I am also a 2. However, I am a much healthier version, and continue to work on myself every day. I have been told I am a delight(seriously, though I love to tease my friends about it now) and I have known a couple other 2’s that are delightful and helpful for all the right reasons. I promise you we’re out there, hopefully you will get to experience a healthy 2 sometime and understand the blessing we can be. I know this sounds prideful, but I honestly don’t mean it that way. I think more of other two’s who have been such a blessing in my life.

[@veronicalagor4771]

As a type 2, I assure you there is some empathy in there too. It's just not always the sole motivator in there. That's a pretty harsh thing to say about any type; each one has its own pros and cons.

[@Nyalloyd]

😂 “what if I was a normal person?” What if…