Enneagram Type 8: Best & Worst Traits of Type 8's

[@gerryfmc4108]

So true. All of it reflects my internal dialogue! I'm learning how to slow the reactivity and slow down. I have adopted the self talk of "not every invite to a fight needs to be accepted." This helps and resonates a lot. Thanks, Tom!

[@twlahue]

Wonderful!

[@lflipsss]

16:20 had me belting out, "I'm a fucking 8, baby!". Thank you - I needed that reminder. // edited to add: I'm not resisting what you're saying at all. My shadow side is absolutely what you described as an 8 at their worst. I've definitely been that version of an 8 during my teens and twenties.

[@twlahue]

I'm glad you resonated with that part! Embracing our traits, both good and bad, is such an important step in personal growth.

[@drekathigpen4869]

I love having a unique blend of 8 and 9 traits. It keeps me balanced as a mom and friend. However, on the negative side, having a unique blend of the 8 and 9 superegos and things to grow from, I’m sure makes for a super interesting person for anyone who’s not born into my circle 😂. I want what I want when and how I want and then 80% of the time I want to be left alone or to do my own thing without looking for permission or advice. It’s so hard to shake patterns and what we’ve done from youth to be and feel safe.

[@karenstewart3047]

nice to meet another 9 who knows what they want, which often includes space to be alone for hours

[@vontrude3310]

Im a 9w8. Im captain of a Sportsteam for years now. Coach one time said You’re a natural leader. Not because you’re bossy but because you care - and yes, that resonates deeply with me.

[@rhondadaisy4342]

Yayyy been waiting for this one

[@twlahue]

I'm so glad to hear that! I hope it lives up to your expectations!

[@vlverm7096]

9:30 - you are so right ... what's with all the apprehension and caution? This is what I'm doing. Follow my lead, dont follow it, take pieces of it and mold it into your own. Make it happen and let's stop wasting time!! 8w7

[@twlahue]

Absolutely! It’s all about taking action and finding what works for you. Let’s make the most of our time and create something amazing together!

[@baaf777]

Another good video in this series Tom. Agree with most of the positives and negatives. I've been leading many successful teams, in sports and at work. However, commanding others doesn't really apply to me. That's more for the ENTJ and ESTJ eights. My style is to lead, inspire and motivate others, not to boss them around. Yes, I'm a straight-shooter, tactical but not really strategic indeed. No politics. You are good in holding a mirror. The risk for eights of losing their job for saying what they think is valid. I also lost my job after I called a manager imcompetent because I was angry most of the good people left the company after he took over a star-team.

[@twlahue]

Thank you for sharing your insights! It’s great to hear how you approach leadership with a focus on inspiration rather than authority. Your experiences really highlight the balance between honesty and strategy in a team environment.

[@nurtureulifecoaching3226]

I remember once in a coaching session you reminded me, “ You’re an 8! You’ve got this!” So helpful to hear it said again.

[@twlahue]

Yes! Thank you!

[@daddyprometheus6539]

What kind of 8 are you exactly that needs a motivational speech and a reminder that "you got this". The delusions and ego mistypes are unreal

[@nurtureulifecoaching3226]

Actually as someone who has studied the Enneagram quite extensively, I know that in times of prolonged stress, Eights follow the line of disintegration to Five and also display some of the “average” behaviors of a Two in close relationships which is their line of integration. The Enneagram has many nuanced layers and offers us a path for growth and development. It’s not just a personality typing system that puts you in a box. As it’s been said, it helps you to see the box you’re in. I’m happy to recommend books for further study if you are interested in going beyond a surface level understanding of what it means to be a Type Eight.

[@daddyprometheus6539]

@@nurtureulifecoaching3226 okay whats your instinctual variant

[@AshleyChing-c3o]

Got assaulted by a 8w7 I’ve talked to weekly for over a decade, & I’m not sure what the truth of the situation was

[@MoonC64]

I've watched several of your Enneagram 8 videos and am wondering, are Enneagram 8's "made," not born that way? You discuss how 8's become 8's because of experiences when they are young - and that coming out of that experience/struggle/challenge is what creates much of the foundation of the 8 personality. Is that accurate? Does that differ significantly from other types? And if it is accurate, do you think that there are certain enneagram types that are more likely than others to be the original starting point from which the 8 eventually develops?

[@twlahue]

Ultimately, I think you are born your type... and it affects how you see the world from the time you are child on...

[@wackywoohoopizzaman7218]

The point about not being strategic is deffo one of the things I struggle with the most!Particularly in the workplace haha

[@twlahue]

It can be tough to navigate workplace dynamics without a clear strategy. Remember, practice makes perfect, and every experience helps you grow!

[@bencsikrupert3764]

Just a sip of moonshine 23:50.

[@JTL2884]

I think 8s are cynics, not skeptics. Maybe I’m wrong. Just a 4 here (I think).

[@kssgpv]

Yeah I think 6 are sceptics , 5 are exploring, 8 are cynical 😅

[@WhataMehs]

Is it true that the originator/s of the enneagram created it using automatic writing?

[@twlahue]

Great question... short answer "No," one of the teachers does talk about that... but I would refer you here for a more detailed answer: gospelforenneagram.com/christian-enneagram/

[@ChiefR]

Yeah I'm 100% an 8. This was interesting

[@twlahue]

It's great to hear you found it interesting! Confidence is key, and being an 8 is definitely something to celebrate!

[@kssgpv]

I think my boss is ENTJ 8 but he's very charming with clients and he confuses me😂 he cares about his reputation a lot but it's part of business. Can anyone relate to that, or he's a 3? I've seen him being very direct , very judgemental and even mean, he admits he has anger issues.. but then he's very charming, his behavior is a little playful or even pretentious nice. It's confusing to me, is he an 8 or 3😂

[@joedoe8558]

What is love? Do people love celebrities the same way as homeless people? Dr Phil is right, all relationships are based on transactions, even marriage just check out the red pill community... Having strength teaches you about other stuff such as envy and wanting to freeride... Biggest problem interacting with people is the lies they use to keep it together that will break things apart in the long run.

[@twlahue]

You've raised some thought-provoking points! It’s interesting to compare how we perceive love in different contexts. Relationships can definitely be complex, and understanding the underlying dynamics can really help navigate them better.

[@joedoe8558]

@twlahue The underlying dynamic is usually needing something from someone which they can't or don't want to do themselves i.e. transactions. When they no longer can get that need met is when you start seeing divorce and so on. It's not that complicated it's just not that palatable.

[@kssgpv]

Red pill is about misogyny and exploiting women, it's not a healthy relationship dynamic we can take into consideration.. Healthy relationships are not transactional. But that doesn't mean you should let someone drag you down with their weaknesses and addictions. You may feel for them but have to let go and take care of your life. Everyone should lead their own lives, power struggles in relationships should be avoided because it's not beneficial for your self improvement. We are here to help each other live their best lives, right? It doesn't mean you focus on the exchange, but there are benefits you gain from relationships, that's why we crave them. My thoughts as a 4 ❤

[@joedoe8558]

@kssgpv Healthy relationships are mutually beneficial transactions. Lets see if marriage rates goes up or keep going down in the future then.

[@AshleyChing-c3o]

I swear my Sp 8w7 ENTJ friend hasn’t cried since he got spanked at the hospital

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Yeah finally 😤🥳😆😅 Well- 8w7 here social and empath too! So yeah we do exist 😇🥹

[@daddyprometheus6539]

This comment section feels like im in sunshine and rainbows dystopia, you people are unreal

[@indiasong29]

@@daddyprometheus6539 Why? ^^