Entitled Boyfriend Wakes Me EVERY Morning With His Schedule, I Changed Room And He's Mad r/AITA

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA wait wait WAIT she moved in in March... but it's HIS house? Nope! ALSO OP's disrespectful for wanting sleep but he's not for constantly waking her up and disregarding her needs and dismissing her feelings? Haha, nope. OP needs to end this relationship yesterday. This dude has zero respect for her. He also sounds VERY controlling.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

I couldn't have said it better myself!

[@rhylla_864]

He woke her up because he was bored. I'd have left at that alone

[@jgw5491]

So entitled and a crap boyfriend.

[@itsjustme7487]

I think I was once married to him.

[@christina1764]

​@@itsjustme7487I'm glad you left him ❤️✨‼️©️

[@boooo13]

Story 6: I would have taken the dog to the vet too especially if I have no idea how much the dog ate.

[@robertreider3119]

A dog would have to consume the equivalent of its body weight in milk chocolate to be dangerous...

[@boooo13]

@@robertreider3119 Copied and pasted from Pet Poison Helpline For milk chocolate, any ingestion of more than 0.5 ounces per pound of body weight may put dogs at risk for chocolate poisoning. Very young, geriatric and animals with underlying disease must be treated more conservatively as they are more at risk for poisoning than healthy adult animals. Due to the large amount of fat in chocolate, some pets may develop pancreatitis (inflammation of the pancreas) after eating chocolate or baked goods containing chocolate (see fatty foods). part of the problem is that the dog is young but I don't know if the dog is young enough where it would be at a higher risk

[@mintcoral]

minimum the dog is 2years old cause that's how long she has had the dog. Two years old is old enough to have trained the dog not to eat food she didn't give it. Two years old is old enough to not chew on furniture, underwear, or non chew toys. This is why dog owners get a bad rep because people don't train their dogs properly. It grinds my gears.

[@-Suie-]

chocolate can be lethal for a dog, get a door closer on the door dude if your brain is that dull you cant remember to close it, geez

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 4: OP is TA because she made a bunch of choices that made it harder for her to get home on time. She didn't give her SIL a heads up on the fact that she won't be able to help cleanup just setup because hubby needs the car in the evening. She also didn't put an alarm on her phone to warn her like 30 mins before she absolutely had to leave to make sure she was on the road and home before the deadline. She AGAIN sabotaged her chances of making it home by taking a route she normally DOESN'T TAKE and lo and behold it was a construction site. I'm thinking her husband has had plenty of experiences where OP has messed up plans by not being mindful of the time or circumstances. It's actually a personality trait - self sabotage. Some peeps out there just can't handle having things go right and they constantly put up obstacles so they can't succeed.

[@charondusk5608]

Agreed. When OP mentioned she took a route she normally doesn't use, my first thought was "Then why take it?" and the only answers I could come up with were either OP thought it was a shorter route....or she did it on purpose, consciously or not. I'd honestly like to hear the hubby's side with this one.

[@spacedinvader9773]

Story 1, separate SLEEPING beds is actually a good thing!

[@gaxalee7392]

Yeah, couples sleeping in separate rooms/beds isn’t always indicative of the quality of their relationship; sometimes, it just means they’re aware of how conflicting their sleep schedules or styles are to each other and the negative effect the conflict could have on their quality of sleep. This awareness is very easy to explain to outsiders as long as you are being a spazz about it.

[@spacedinvader9773]

@@gaxalee7392 Or the other one snores and sounds like a hippo choking on an elephant :D

[@gaxalee7392]

@@spacedinvader9773 I nearly choked on my pop reading that!! Thanks a lot!!🤣🤣

[@spacedinvader9773]

@@gaxalee7392 :)

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Yes agreed

[@sagesaria]

Story 1 feels like a red flag leading towards a really controlling relationship, too. Like, not only is he waking up ridiculously early, he's waking her up on purpose because he's 'bored.' Sleep deprivation is a tactic commonly used by cults to make it harder for new recruits to think rationally, and if anyone's ever read Taming of the Shrew, it was one of the ways in which Petruchio wore down Katherine (fun fact: That story is NOT an example of a healthy relationship.) And then he gaslights her by calling her 'overdramatic' about losing sleep. DTMFA before he starts trying to control other aspects of your life.

[@chadnorris8257]

The first story is a good example of why people should live with their SO for a while before marriage. If he's that disrespectful, just dump him.

[@joimumu]

Agree people need to know who they are getting married to and watch out for red flags

[@MarkNarrations]

Oooooooo it's feeling bloody spicy in here ;)

[@rayneingdown]

“Bloody spicy” is the most British thing and I- 😂 Brilliant

[@novabrilliant4510]

Spicy waffle goodness!

[@derekswindoll449]

Good afternoon Mark you spicey waffle! Hahahaaa

[@FlamesofJagger]

Bring on the spice Mark. It's waffle 🧇 time!!!

[@Evie_Jeebies]

GHOST PEPPER WAFFLES!!!

[@FluffieXStarshine]

The dog chewing up the underwear made me remember a story from a friend who is a vet. They had a dig come in who was throwing up and sick, they did tests, xrays and found a "foreign object" in the stomach. So they operate, place the item in a baggy. Go to tell the owners and smack, the wife decks the husband and storms out, saying something about divorce. Poor puppy had eaten hubby's side piece's thong... wife got custody of the puppers in the settlement.

[@analyticmoviereviews101]

LMAO! Now that's funny.

[@francit4856]

😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😂

[@tinaclarke704]

story one...why are you still there? he is controlling. Leave when he doesn't know your going to..otherwise he might do something you won't like. Just ignore him..he won't like that.

[@fcold9402]

2. NTA. Why would you disagree with your husband? He said what he felt needed to be said. It is not your job to "reprimand" your husband, a grown free adult.

[@moonbear5929]

Second story: She should dump her crappy family and she, her husband and her kids should go on their own little Family Vacation when she is well enough after the operation. The hell with the others.

[@Cassandra765]

Story 4: YTA. OP knew how important this was for him and deliberately made choices (like staying at the baby shower later than agreed) that ruined everything for him. Husband has every right to be angry and hurt at OP.

[@brendaseminoff615]

Story 1) Dump Him. 🚩 Story 2 NTA your Husband is a Hero in my eyes. Go no contact with your family and enjoy your hubby and children.

[@Cassandra765]

Story 1: NTA. Everyone needs decent sleep and he's going out of the way to disrupt it. I don't like to throw the words like "red flag" around, but the bf's entire attitude about not thinking he has to be considerate of his gf's basic physical needs (not wants. NEEDS) and thinking she needs to stay and just take it is indicative of what their entire relationship is going to be like in other areas as well. I'd be out of this relationship so fast.

[@smallcat718]

For story six it’s not about the amount of chocolate a dog eats it’s the amount of theobromine in the chocolate as that is toxic for dogs. They gave the dog charcoal to make them throw up the chocolate by itself and the water pouches to help keep them hydrated as they are going to be sick and will be losing lots of fluids. Vets are expensive because you don’t just pay for the medication and care but also time, whoever left the chocolate in the room and left the door open needs to pay some amount of the bill.

[@lilmsmetal]

Story 2, NTA. It’s easy to say, but cut contact. They treat you like crap, when they allowed you to be traumatised as a child, then blame you? Nah. Your husband has your back, he’s all the family you need.

[@ceeshnia]

Story 3: ESH; he called her eating fast "disgusting" in front of everyone to humiliate her. She should be taking showers at her own apartment and not critiquing theirs (and I concur she shouldn't be there if it disgusts her; also *maybe* her boyfriend would say something then to try to get her to come over again, I don't know). I mean, yeah, it *is* disgusting for him to do and *somebody* should have talked about it with him, but not her. Any hair left in showers is nasty; clean up after yourselves, people! Yeash.

[@nemanjajovanov]

If that bunch of idiots is not ready to call their roommate out for being a filthy pig, then it's absolutely fair game for EVERYONE who has the displeasure of coming to their house and having to deal with that shit.

[@ceeshnia]

@@nemanjajovanov Sure, but why would anyone willingly put themselves into such a trash heap to begin with? Put a "Do Not Enter: Biohazard" sign on the door and call it a day.

[@nemanjajovanov]

@@ceeshnia I totally agree.

[@lilolmecj]

Her boyfriend wasn’t that in to her, his friends picked up on it and treat her with disrespect. She needs to move on.

[@owl7072]

Story 6: SHE shouldn't have left the chocolate out? Wasn't it HIS room the dog went into? Whoever had chocolate in the room and left the damn door open is the one who should be paying the vet bill.

[@mirandanils5114]

I have a cat who sheds like a maniac and my mom hates his hair on her dresses so i know if she forgets to close her door then i close it - i think everyone sucks in that situation

[@roxysmith7562]

@@mirandanils5114 I doubt the sister walked past the door and thought: “Yeah, the asshole forgot to close the door again. I’m going to leave it open” it would be ludicrous to expect someone to check that everyone closes the door 24/7. That could have happened in the span of 2 minutes, and if it’s a large house that task is impossible.

[@mothertrucker936]

Yeah but I also believe there’s a lot of resentment that brother feels. His 22 year old sister, unemployed, not a student , living off mom and dad who give her an allowance when she should be paying rent at this point. He doesn’t say that she’s disabled or diagnosed with a condition but simply socially awkward. I think he doesn’t want to take responsibility because she’s leeching and he’s had enough of her whining. It is her dog and her responsibility to keep it safe and she was well aware that there was another guest in the house who may not have known to keep the door closed. It’s conflicting. Would she have expected any other guest to pay , for ex a child, or is it just brother?

[@Zeracheil]

@@mothertrucker936 Also the fact that she obviously got played, as others have commented below with having similar procedures done, they walk out with $200-$300 vet bills tops.. $900.... sister got played big time by a scammy vet. More then likely she went to some random emergency vet and didn't do any actual research into them.

[@technicaldifficulties368]

@@mothertrucker936 She sounds like shes got some type of depression/anxiety going on honestly. It absolutely is his fault as well. He should pay half of it.

[@captainclown2718]

Story 2: OP and her husband are NTA and the family does sound really toxic but I would consider the situation as an absolute win. There are very few fates I fear more than the dreaded family vacation.

[@celestialangel666]

I think I saw the information about the abuse for this one - that the family left them with an abusive caretaker and it wasn't until one of them THREW UP BLOOD that they even took their kids saying they didn't want to stay with the other person seriously. all the kids are messed up but apparently are just worse to OP because of the anger-issues.

[@Jamlf]

@@celestialangel666 What makes it even worse is that the parents are still in contact with the abusive caretaker.

[@jgw5491]

@@Jamlf :-O Unbelievable! NC those parents yesterday!

[@rossvegas1346]

I hate the AITA rule about absolutely no mention of any kind of violence so people have to be vague. If OP’s trauma is what I *think* it is based on the way she worded it, she honestly should have cut her parents out a LONG time ago.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

I think everyone sucks here with the gross shower. True the GF doesn't pay rent, but being early twenty something's is not an excuse for not cleaning up after yourself. If nothing else, it's a courtesy to whomever uses the shower next. Plus that same house mate felt the need to be derisive about the way OP was eating because she was hungry? That's a prick move right there, so technically he started it.

[@Passions5555]

True, I feel that detail is getting glossed over

[@Resilient_Sage88]

@@Passions5555 Now that I really think about it, it almost feels like he resents her presence so he's trying to make her not want to come around because after their confrontation he basically says much. This sounds like one of those jackholes who wants to maintain his little "boys club" I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if the other roommates found SO's and he behaved similarly.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

It's an ESH situation, but what BF and the other roommates don't realise is that if she weren't getting into the shower following pube boy, one of them would be. Likely the next morning when it's all dried to the tub. They don't think it's gross because they're not the ones immediately dealing with it. Also, if this is the hygiene standards of four MEDICAL students, I would not want to get sick around them anytime soon.

[@shaymorcormick8743]

​@@Resilient_Sage88probably sick of her living there rent free for 80 percent of the month

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 4: YTA. You knew how important this was for him, but you decided to make choices that made him late.

[@Ospyro3em]

I know, right? She CHOSE to stay and tidy up, then she takes a different route home and gets stuck in roadworks. Had she taken the usual route home that may not have happened. It sounds to me like she just blatantly didn't care. I really felt sorry for him.

[@locusxe1411]

Exactly. She knew her husband had something going on and could have just left

[@zerobolt9506]

@@locusxe1411 but her's was first

[@MalachioftheForest]

@@zerobolt9506 so she gets to claim the entire day? She's been out of the house since 9 am, he just wanted to go to a damn baseball game.

[@locusxe1411]

@@zerobolt9506 ok and? She didn’t have to help clean. She knew what she was doing

[@heididietrich9800]

That girlfriend needs to leave. The boyfriend is NOT considerate at ALL. This relationship needs to end. About the store book sale. It costs a lot to run a store. I would have been MORTIFIED to pay only a quarter for a stack of books.

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

S3: Okay so depending on lock down rules where they are if she's going over there all the time that means that the two households are each others bubble, meaning that one dudes girlfriend coming round prevents the other four from seeing anyone. I would hate for a roommates partner to be round all the time even if it wasn't a pandemic, like yeah it's gross to do that to a shower but she even admits that she gets her boyfriend to clean it up for her. Just go shower at home

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

That's a HELLA long baby shower. 6 hours?!

[@deedeeschway9566]

Exactly. Methinks she just hung out with friends once the shower was done and didn’t set an alert for time to leave.

[@arrowhart2008]

Story #4: no one mentioned how OP took a different route home which right there made me think she intentionally did this.

[@PseudONym-sc3xw]

There is a perfect song quote for story 6: I CHIME IN WITH A HAVEN'T YOU PEOPLE EVER HEARD OF, CLOSING THE GODDAM DOOR?

[@thedestroyasystem]

NO. ITS MUCH BETTER TO FACE THESE KINDS OF THINGS

[@thedestroyasystem]

WITH A SENSE OF POISE AND RATIONALITY

[@aliquot8404]

When I went to university, people would walk in and out of the common lounge and fail to shut the doors. Everyone would shout out: WERE YOU BORN IN A BARN? (Note: There were a LOT of different doors.)

[@FizzledDreams11]

@@thedestroyasystem RAAAATTTTIIIONNNALITTTTTTTTYYYT!!! 🎵

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: I was about to say YTA but he called HER out in front of everyone first. So now it's ESH. It isn't her place and she has no say in the cleanliness issue. He however shouldn't have said shit about her eating.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

I wholeheartedly agree.

[@eboniedreamz1371]

Exactly

[@SheenaFujibayashisan]

I agree. When I heard them get mad at her for clapping back at him with a similarly shitty remark, I just thought 'dont dish it if you can't take it'.

[@minisnakali]

@@SheenaFujibayashisan I have been thinking the exact same thing

[@terraguttierez2996]

Can you say mysoginy? Like wtf is the double standards going on. She should take him aside and tell him privately but he gets to criticize her out in public.poor guy getting called out for his disgusting habits, boys will be boys bullshit. Imo scarfing something down looking “disgusting” is really less disgusting than leaving hair in the shower. Shut up if you cant take any criticism. Im definitely on the nta side here. Somehow no one has a problem with her staying until she stands up for herself 🙄

[@boundtogoboogie]

Husband in story 2 deserves a bloody parade with a brass band. He's a hero, in my book.

[@beatrixthegreat1138]

He insulted her first. Few things are more annoying than having your eating attacked by a gross person. But yeah I would stay away from them.

[@deedeeschway9566]

My bet is that they’re sick of her being there all the time. Few things are more irritating than a roommate’s partner always coming over, using the bathroom (when there are multiple people who already have to share it), and then complaining about things.

[@SunBeeSmoked]

@@deedeeschway9566 don’t have roommates if you don’t want your roommates to have guests and if you don’t want to clean after yourself. These little boys are completely disgusting.

[@deedeeschway9566]

@@SunBeeSmoked you can have roommates and you can all have guests but guests don’t pay rent and don’t get a say in the house. That’s where you and roommates work out where’s the line for guests and where they should start being considered roommates and paying.

[@adamantm8869]

@@deedeeschway9566 something that the roommate enables. Honestly the fact that he never confronted the other roommate says volumes on him and the gf living situation.

[@minisnakali]

I was thinking something similar, he tried to humiliate OP but when OP fired back they're TA? I can't agree with that OP might be overstaying but basic hygiene says you don't leave your house as a disgusting place when you have roommate's even more so when you know you get guests :/ This is a simple case of "Don't dish it if you can't take it"

[@MrAlwaysOnTen]

“You thought all that was worth a quarter??” Proceeds to pay for his own stack with a dollar 🤣🤣

[@roowyrm9576]

Story 1. It's HIS house, and you are HIS girlfriend... possessive and disrespectful. He said "move out"? Do it! Story 2. Toxic family, from OP's childhood onwards. Oh by the way OP's parents, respect is earned, you seem to have done nothing in their life to earn it. Story 3. Boys is correct, at 21/22 years old they are not adults. OP needs to look at her relationship with her BF, he is "one of the boys" and agrees with them. Is this what she wants? Story 4. OP did make a choice that caused her to be late. She should put herself in his shoes and think how she would react in a similar situation.

[@gaxalee7392]

For story 3, I thought it was pretty rich to talk about “humiliating” that guy by calling him out “publicly” when he opened that gate. He called her disgusting first(about her eating), and when she responded in kind, got his poor little feelings hurt. I might have agreed that it wasn’t her house, so not her place to say, if he hadn’t started it. He insulted her unprovoked.

[@Fastdragonstar]

@@gaxalee7392 i can see where you are coming from but it is not exactly the same imo. Op WAS trying to publicly humiliate him for a thing he does (or rather does not do) in his own living space that does not really affect anyone else that actually lives there, whereas he is commenting on something she is currently doing in public (i.e being a rude guest in front of everyone else that does live there). like... OP decides to buy food on the way, goes to their place and then goes ham on it as soon as she arrives at their place rather than just getting something to eat in the car or by going home first. So while it is a bit rude to comment on it, i do not think the comment is out of place since he is commenting on something that he finds disgusting that she is currently doing at their place while she is a guest (its not that hard to eat in a proper manner if you know people are watching, and it is even worse if you just "randomly" show up at someones place with your food and then starts eating it in such a way at their place). And instead of just saying sorry and slowing down she basically whips back with "oh yeah? but your even worse since you do not clean up your nasty pubes". Also we do not know if this is a regular occurence or not, for all we know she might have done the exact same thing multiple times before and the roommate have simply held their tongue until now aswell. And it seems like they are kinda feed up with her coming over almost every other day since having guests over that often can get quite draining.

[@gaxalee7392]

@@Fastdragonstar Oh, I think you might think I’m excusing her, I’m not. However, It is very humiliating, especially for a woman, to be called disgusting regardless of the context. If she can be expected to calmly and politely pull him aside to kindly ask him to clean up after himself in the shower, it’s not unreasonable or unrealistic to expect him to do the same for talking to her about the way she’s eating. Instead, he called her disgusting and expected her to just take it. The host/guest relationship has to be EQUALLY respectful, not one person being a complete ass and the other one taking it out of “courtesy”. Again, I don’t agree with her entitlement about the bathroom but NEVER throw out judgement, especially if it’s harsh or technically unprovoked, if you can’t handle it thrown back. If I had to rate their assholery, I’d say gf is, at least, a 5/10 while the roommate is, at most, a 2/10.

[@dandotvid]

21/22 years old ARE adults. Just sayin'.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 3: ESH, The whole “you shouldn’t expect cleanliness from 20 something year old boys“ last time I checked being in your 20s is no longer a boy, you’re a grown ass man and you should be adults and be able to clean up after yourself. Especially when you have guests that are sharing your bathroom. I know some people are going to disagree with me because OP does not live there, it doesn’t matter. If there’s a guest over you should not leave the place such a mess. Op is the AS for bringing up the issue in such a rude manner. I still stand by what I said about the whole “if you have a guest thats staying a few nights with you, you should go out of your way to be an adult and clean up after yourself“ they probably did it first but considering she was staying over so often....they got comfortable with her lingering and said to hell with it.

[@minisnakali]

I don't believe OP is entirely the TA for replying with it though, he tried to humiliate her for how she eats OP fired back. This is more a case of don't dish it if you can't take it from what I see, but OP should probably stay over less she is TA for that from the sounds of it but that's mostly a separate matter :/

[@eboniedreamz1371]

Story 3 get an ESH for me. I totally understand their side as op doesn’t pay rent so she doesn’t really have a say. However the roommate is showing poor hygiene habits in a shared space. And then he had the nerve to antagonize op on her eating when he does that.

[@minisnakali]

OP is an A for overstaying but that's not really what she's asking about, OP isn't really TA here he is. OP only denfended themselves because he tried to humiliate her in front of everyone, she fired back and she's not TA for it. Its simple hygiene especially when you have roommates they're all disgusting for just leaving it like that he can clean up after himself before he starts calling people disgusting for how they eat.

[@sunlight_mana]

story 3 i feel at the very least ESH cus like... regardless of if someone lives there or not, if you know someone is going to shower after you then its common courtesy to not leave pubes all over the place?? i have 4c hair, so when i wash my hair it sheds EVERYWHERE and yeah its gross but i still clean it, no matter who is showering after me. imo if youre gonna use the shower than you get to have an opinion about the state its been left in. and the remark about not having such high cleanliness expectations for 20-22 yr old men.... thats literally disgusting. if i can expect my 7 and 14 yr old brothers to clean up after they shower, then grown men should be nothing less.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

Exactly! It may not be OP's house, but GOD THEY ARE DISGUSTING. It sounds like they were taught "boys will be boys" is the answer for being an a$$

[@Passions5555]

I feel the guys are annoyed she spends so much time at their place (I don't blame them honestly, that shit can be annoying), so they are either being intentionally or unconsciously passive aggressive toward her to discourage her staying over too much. If this is just how they are then they are genuinely disgusting and I do not think just because you are in your early twenties and a dude that kind of behavior is acceptable.

[@SilverMaychan]

@@Passions5555 that is what I thought.

[@brenkrasmer]

It is an ESH. She is encroaching on the space and area of the boyfriend's roommates and it seems like a healthy discussion of times, places, behavior, and all related subjects would be beneficial. I cook for my household and if one roommate started bringing home someone 3-4 nights a week? Not only would I feel slighted having to feed a +1 I have little association with, I'd feel pretty limited in my ability to take advantage of my own space without offending the new person, who wasn't part of any original agreement of living space. Flip side? The house occupants suck, because they don't show a decency of cleanliness for themselves, nor potential guests, as if that is normal. If you are mature enough to keep your own place, you should be able to maintain it, lest the rats and roaches attempt to do it for you. The boys will be boys attitude about not keeping a space clean is not only gross, but will only do more and more disservice to them going forward.

[@alexiron6876]

@@SilverMaychan doesn't make it any better.

[@mollyoconnor9365]

Story 6: gotta be honest, sister comes home with her dog sometimes, it'll only take a couple seconds of an open door and empty room for him to snatch a forbidden snack. He's indestructible. I think he might not be a dog...

[@mgaus]

Story 5: wtf? NTA. Pay what you like is that. If the shop owner wanted a $1 minimum per book, then do that. Libraries and used book stores need to make room for inventory. If they don't want to have to pay to have the trash taken, they can accept whatever pittance they're offered. Yeah, I'm a butt. But I'm right. Edit: there's a reason used book stores are failing............

[@oliviabean8264]

YTA on story 6 just for saying "there should have been zero affect on a dog that size so my sister overeacted" when the OP themselves SAW the harm it did to the dog EVEN AFTER INVASIVE potentially lifesaving treatment!

[@gacktdear]

Boy wake me up I'm changing boyfriends, not rooms.

[@mirandanils5114]

especially if ur waking me up for no good reason lmao

[@catandrobbyflores]

Agreed!

[@mothertrucker936]

Story 1: NTA. I’ve a feeling that you keep visiting these people because they are family and you feel guilty for having been nasty during your youth. Get that out of your mind right now. You had a traumatic experience that your parents blew off!! Think about it, could you do this to your children? Now not only did they minimize your pain but doubled down by making your siblings believe that you were overreacting. Then they decided that you simply didn’t exist by planning family trips/gatherings without you . Now they’ve deliberately planned a vacation that you cannot attend. Put it on paper, everything. Empty your head, your heart and your soul into that paper and only stop when you’ve drained it out. You can then tear, burn or even send them this but the actual therapy is to get it out and see for yourself how disturbing your entire family is. Finally, block them and give your full life and energy to the beautiful family you have. Kudos to your amazing husband.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

OMG! When my husband and I first started dating, he rented a room in a house with 4 other men. It was gross! When I used the microwave the first (and last) time, I could hear the roaches inside popping. Their kitchen was fairly small, and I once took me 4 hours to clean it! Thank goodness my husband's room and private bathroom were immaculate. 3 month after dating, I got a great job offer in another state, and so he went with me, and we got our own place together. I was so glad to never step foot in that place again. When we would go back to visit, his buddies would invite us over. But, I would tell him to go on wothout me, because I could only imagine how the place looked. However, it was never my place to tell the roommates to clean up after themselves, or how to live, as I did not live there or pay rent. They were very appreciative of the big cleaning I did in the kitchen and common room, so they did try and keep it up, but husband said they failed miserably.

[@BlackRose-bb7wt]

Story 1. Geez OP is not a toy for thier boyfriend to keep him entertained. I feel sorry for anyone who ends up with that guy. I hope OP moves out and dumps his ass.

[@ItsYaBoiV]

Story 6: So, a rough calculation for too much chocolate for dogs is about 1 ounce per pound. So a single chocolate bar could kill a small dog, but might not even make a large breed sick. But, I'm actually concerned about why the vet would use water pouches?? Milk chocolate has the least cacao in it, and if this is a large dog, at most they would have induced vomiting, used the charcoal, and that's it. What's more, if the dog had been in serious condition, the vet would have kept him overnight. While I do feel like OP is at fault for not offering to pay the bill, and should have told his GF to keep the door closed, something about how the dog was treated seems really fishy to me. I think the vet took advantage, especially if the sister was an emotional mess, they could just say whatever and charge her a high price. Mind you, I had a dog eat rat poison once, left out by my neighbor who was a horrible human that hated animals. Even her vet bill was only around $300, and she had to be kept over many days. She was also huge, a dane mix. Just doesn't seem right to me...

[@irisleli5151]

For story 3 i'm going to say esh, they are right that op doesn't have to dictate how they live so they are the ah for this but the roomate shouldn't call them gross and not expect any retort, it's normal to defend ourselves when we are insulted. Also the bf is an ah because don't say you're going to say something if you planned to stay silent as long as possible. But op is still the biggest ah because it's not their place.

[@gaxalee7392]

I was looking for something like this!! You’re right that it’s not Op’s house so she doesn’t really get a say, but that doesn’t mean everyone else in the story can be excused. The specific roommate should have kept his opinions about her to himself instead of calling her disgusting if he didn’t want insults lobbed back at him. The bf should have either confronted his gf about her attitude or stuck to what he said he’d do and confront the roommate. The other roommates shouldn’t immediately start in on Op for being critical about someone insulting her(hive mind friendships are almost always toxic af) and trying excuse a, quite frankly, revolting behavior by saying they’re only 21-22 and boys(way to call your whole gender disgusting). Obviously, Op was the worst of them all but god ESH.

[@mirandanils5114]

story 6 i think ESH bc i have a cat who wanders from room to room and my mom doesn’t like him in her room so i always be sure to close the door if she forgets. it’s really not that hard. but the gf shouldn’t have left dangerous food where the dog could’ve reached it and due to that fact i think it’s reasonable for the sister to ask them to pay part of the bill since they were also at fault

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

I can see your point of view, but I'd ultimately have to go with NTA for refusing to pay. His response was a bit aholish, so I'm tempted to go with everyone sucks for that, but ultimately, it's the sister's fault. She's had a dog for 2 years that she hasn't trained. She's not being a responsible pet owner. My friend trained his dog not to eat food he isn't given for the very reason outlined in the story. My friend's dog will want the chicken nugget, he'll drool at the sight of a nugget, he'll make little whining noises while you eat a nugget in front of him, but he won't take the nugget unless it's given to him. You can leave a plate of them out while you go to the bathroom and he won't take any. He'll just sit by the plate drooling and start begging/whining when you get back.

[@mirandanils5114]

@@lasagnalovingcat5335 i feel you- my cat knows not to eat human food at all - it just sucks they had to argue instead of coming to a compromise - if it were me i wouldn’t even ask for any money

[@simonO712]

I'm currently stuck in the hospital with multiple fractures in my right foot aftdr tripping on the sidewalk like an idiot. These videos are _really_ nice to listen to while drifting in and out of sleep from being drugged up on morphine :)

[@simonO712]

@@KonekoPurrrfection I don't know uf they have jello specifically here, but thanks ^^

[@wildfyah]

Hope you make a full recovery

[@charondusk5608]

Story 6 - According to my vets, a small amount of milk chocolate can be safe for dogs, so long as it's a rare treat and ONLY a small amount. The problem here is how much is "a small amount", because to me, a "small" amount is a couple of chocolate buttons, but to OP, a "small" amount could be an entire bag of hershey's kisses. It also depends on the size of the dog, a small dog would need only a tiny amount of chocolate to become seriously ill whereas a larger dog might be fine off the same amount. If Bogo is something along the lines of chihuahua sized, even as little as two single hershey's kisses would be enough to cause serious problems. The sister was very much right to do what she did because she had no way of knowing just how much the dog ate. It might have been fine, but it also might have died, and in this case it is very much a "better safe than sorry" situation. OP is the asshole because not only did he know the dog would go in his room and left chocolate where it could be grabbed, he didn't have the smarts to inform his GF of the door rule. This was his fault. That said, $900 is....it seems a bit far-fetched to have been THAT much, so I think she might've got scammed. I'd be looking into this vet a bit more, as well as the average price of the procedures at other vets.

[@justheretowatch1733]

$900 vet bill? Yeesh! I just had an urgent vet visit for puncture wounds on my cats face and a UTI for my 15 year old labrador. With the medicine (dog) and eye test (cat), boosters (4) and standard exam the bill was just $340. Location: Eastern US - no taxes for pet bills.

[@TsukiKageTora]

The most the emergency vet charged when my dog actually ate 4 huge dark chocolate brownies was $300. And that was for the stuff they gave her to make her throw everything up and the medications and the water pouch thing. $900 for less than that... yikes, I’d look into that vet practice and see if they are scamming people out of money like people who have something wrong with the car but don’t know it and a $20 fix is now $2,000

[@talonsage954]

Either the dog ate something other than a few Hershey kisses, or the stupid sister(if you cannot control your dog, yes she IS STUPID; I room trained my dog to keep him from eating cat food. He never broke training and I NEVER used a barrier.) got completely played by a vet trying to pay for his house by gouging idiot pet owners. You know what doesn't even cost $900? A super fast growing cyst (softball size) with necrotic tissue on the throat of a senior cat. From start to finish, it was $800, including surgery, labs, aftercare meds and check-ups. $900 for chocolate??? NOT ANYWHERE REPUTABLE.

[@justheretowatch1733]

@@talonsage954 That was another thing! No responsible dog owner should permit grazing by a dog. They eat what they are allowed. Before my dog went blind she was plate trained (plate/human food is a no-no). I could leave a room for hours and she still wouldn't even be looking at the food on the plate on the floor. Now that she's blind? She listens for her treat command for food outside her bowl. An undisciplined dog is a neglectful owner.

[@talonsage954]

@@justheretowatch1733 Yup!!! 100%!!! I did have to continue training on ex's food; he's not a dog person and Raven had ZERO respect for him. This got worse when I was pregnant, so I had to bring down the hammer. He knew Mommy was pack alpha, but if I wasn't around, he would occasionally test ex's waters. Bc ex never listens, he couldn't properly handle my 125lbs of gangly Belgian Shepherd mix. But his attempts were few and far between bc Mom's word was law. He really was a Very Good Boy.

[@wmdkitty]

1: NTA. Boyfriend is being abusive by deliberately disrupting or preventing OP's sleep, OP should move out and run. If he wants to talk about "disrespectful", he needs to start by _being_ respectful, starting with OP's sleep. 2: NTA. Husband is 100% justified in what he said. This whole family sucks. They're putting it all on OP so they don't have to think about their own ongoing crappy behavior. 3: ESH. OP is a guest, and a guest shouldn't _have_ to ask the host to not leave pubes in the shared shower. The roomies need to stop being so immature and gross. 4: YTA. OP knew Husband had plans, and deliberately sabotaged his day with that baby shower bullshirt. OP could have left early, taken the usual route, and been home _on time,_ but chose to stay late, took a different route, and got home hours late. (What a forking entitled bench.) 5: NAH. "Pay what you want" means exactly what it says, and nobody sucks here. 6: NTA. Sister should have been keeping a better eye on the dog, instead of allowing it to enter OP's room. This is not OP's fault at all.

[@b-red9489]

Story 6: I'm gonna get flack for this. From what I heard the sister doesn't work what was she doing not to check on her dog? Also why doesn't she train the dog not to go in a room. Dogs learn fast when it come to boundaries or not eating food they aren't supposed to. $900? Did the vet have to remove a leg... lol.

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

No flack here. She's had the dog for 2 years and hasn't done any training apparently. It's on her to be a responsible dog owner. Admittedly, the brother's response could have been better, which is why I'm at NTA but leaning to an e-s-h

[@demonangeltheo]

Story 5: NTA its "pay what you want" with no minimum it even looked like the owner joked and didn't care as he just wanted to get rid of the stuff so it was either go to people who wants it, donate it where it might just gather dust or worst through them away at least with this the owner could get some money I bet there were people who paid less than a quarter

[@jackiewepps4694]

Op in the last story got me so pissed with that attitude. "Oh, it doesn't matter. There's no way it was dangerous." That's assholeish and ignorant. For OP's attitude alone, I say he and GF should pay the full vet bill.

[@dustyrose192]

Nah, the sister should had trained the dog, i have a 7 month puppy and despite me not liking it (sister's dog, not mine) im still trying to train him to not chew up everything and not eat food thats not his. We never let him into the bedrooms or even off lead if im the only one looking after him (its so i always know where he is) Also if you see an open door that leads to where you dont want your dog to go, FUCKING CLOSE IT YOURSELF

[@mriddley]

Story 4: and the coward deleted the account I'm sick of that why ask questions you already know the answer to and then run away when you get what you want I have family just like this if I ask for help i am immediately put on the back burner and forgotten then they want to act like the victim when I call them out I'm just at the point now where I dont ask anyone for help whether that hurts me or not I'm ok with it because I'm sick of being let down

[@reinwolf534]

Story 3 everyone sucks. Op for staying so often without pitching in and the roommates for being disgusting. How op called him out is completely fine. It's just as rude to say your eating is disgusting

[@AstridCrash]

The story about "pay what you want". OP asked the shopkeep for a minimum, this was because he thought it should be paid fairly but shopkeep said no, pay what you want. NTA IMO.

[@buckfisherGBY]

If OP's boyfriend is getting up at 3AM, he must be going to sleep pretty early. Maybe she should do a lot of noisy things, for hours, when he goes to bed. With several trips in and out of the bedroom.

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

👀 ooh good one 😆 I would do this.

[@nareegreel]

Story 1: when he said he doesn't have to cater to me... I would have moved back home.

[@AngelaMerici12]

5th story. NTA. JUST PUT A PRICE!! They make the price to be whatever the customer wants. Who does that?? Think with your head a put a price.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 1: Hold up. Huge red flags there already. "It's my house, I can be as loud as I want." Ownership does not entitle you to be inconsiderate to other people! I guarantee you, if she started setting her alarm at midnight and was tromping around the house, turning on lights, waking him up to entertain her because she's bored, he'd have a problem with it too. But his "my-way-or-the-highway" attitude ("You're MY girlfriend, not a housemate; so sleep with me or move back in with your parents") is a huge red flag for a controlling relationship. Run, OP. NTA. Story 3: (Disclaimer: not finished with the story yet, but) YTA. First off, to play devil's advocate, are you sure those are pubic hairs? It could be body hair shedding in the shower, depending on how hairy of a guy roommate is (and I'm guessing you're not looking *that* closely), especially if it's that much EVERY time he showers. Secondly, it's not your house, it's your bf's and his flatmates. They pay rent there, and it sounds like you don't; that means you have no say how they decide to leave the shower. If you have a problem with it, have your bf stay at your place, or go to your own home to shower. ETA lol they pretty much said what I did. Story 4: At first I was leaning towards NTA because the baby shower had been planned for a month, but you told him it was fine when he asked you to be home by seven. While it sucks to cut and run, leaving a mess for SIL to clean...you did help plan and set up. Of all the guests, did no one else volunteer to help? (If so, those are some shitty friends, to come, party, and then leave a pregnant woman with all that work.) Regardless, you should have told your SIL ahead of time that your husband had a prior engagement and that you would need to be home by seven, and then left at a reasonable time, even if the party was still going. (Also, wth kind of baby shower lasts as long as a full workday?! Yikes.) YTA. Story 6: I'm leaning towards ESH. OP obviously holds some resentment towards his sister still living at home rent-free and getting an allowance, and he should have made a more concerted effort to keep his door closed after constant reminders. However...technically it was his gf that left the door open, which he can't be held responsible for. Sometimes, good intentions or not, accidents happen (certainly no one intentionally hurt the pup). That said, this keeps happening! It sounds like every time the sister turns her back for "two minutes," the puppy immediately runs straight for the thing he's NOT supposed to be doing. As a dog owner, it's her responsibility to keep an eye on him, keep him safe...and train him. She's failing at all three, as well-meaning as she is; puppies need more than just love. Finally, the vet sucks. Yes, I'd absolutely have taken the dog to the vet to be on the safe side, but I've never heard of stuffing water packs in the sides (???), and $900.00?! She got scammed.

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

With the Second Story you're not in the wrong I get the feeling that your parents are the type of people that are not sorry for letting you get traumatized and abused as a child I also get the feeling that the abuse was physical mental and emotional from your Aunt but also psychological and sexual from another relative and they just pretty much rug swept it instead of just doing what's best for you guys. In addition the only reason why your siblings are going off on you is because you're the first one the first one where your spouse is standing up for you and basically calling out your parents on their BS for not protecting you and your siblings. Your siblings want out of the family toxicity and you basically going no contact with your parents in the near future is basically the first sign that they will follow suit. You're not in the wrong and neither is your husband but your siblings are basically saying you're out of line because you're breaking their whole dynamic which in honestly they're basically same to you privately without saying it thank you now I can break free from them. My advice to the original poster continue to keep doing what's best for you and your husband and your new family and also most importantly be there for your sisters when they leave your parents toxicity. And finally do not under any circumstances apologize for your behavior when you were a child you were trying to find a way to cope from the pain and Trauma that you went through and your parents basically didn't do nothing to help you. The only reason why they're holding onto the anger or punishment as they call it for you acting the way you did when you were a teenager is because they don't want to own up to their own failures of failing you as your parents. You have nothing to apologize for you with loss and you'll trying to find your way and in their minds they basically failed you so instead of basically owning up to what they allowed to happen to you on their watch they basically are giving you hell because they don't want to own up and say they messed up and they're willing to do whatever it takes but they don't. Go no contact with them but be there for your sisters when they're ready to leave there

[@nonbinarybannana]

Thoose parents are TRASH

[@oliviabean8264]

@@nonbinarybannana Yeah, honestly I wish there was a law on the books SPECIFICALLY designed for locking up parents like that... I mean isn't enabling child abuse like that a federal crime?

[@jgw5491]

She already apologized for her own actions. They haven't accepted the apology since they still bring it up, and since there is no sign that they have apologized for their offenses I think she should be done with them. When she is totally recovered from her surgery in her own time, her nuclear family should take the most happy and relaxing vacation that they can afford. Leave her toxic birth family in their rear view mirror.

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

@@jgw5491 but she shouldn't have to apologize to begin with. In addition she was reacting to the trauma that she went through and the parents are holding on to that anger as a way to punish her for basically their failures to do their job as parents to protect her from any type of physical harm or mental and emotional harm done to her

[@AuntLoopy123]

Story 6 - If the VET says that the dog needs treatment, the VET knows what he's talking about better than you and your internet search, and the VET treated the dog appropriately, and your sister did NOT overreact. You know what happens, when a pet owner brings in their dog when it's not necessary because the dog is not in any danger? The vet says, "It's OK. The dog is not in any danger." And before you say, "Maybe they did that treatment, so that they could make money by charging a lot of money for some fool who overreacts, and doesn't know what is OK for a dog," remember that they FORCED THE DOG TO EAT CHALK. They didn't say, "Here, doggie. Have some tasty chalk." They FORCED it down his throat. Not to mention those bags in his sides, which I highly doubt where comfortable. VETS DO NOT MISTREAT ANIMALS JUST TO JACK UP THE BILL! Your sister did NOT overreact. You just decided that you knew better than a professional, because it made you feel better, and made you think you did not have to pay up or take responsibility. APOLOGIZE AND PAY! AH, all the way. Also, that poor, poor suffering dog, with the chalk and the bloated sides, deserves a special treat (vet approved) and playtime or loving from you, because you (and your girlfriend, whom you should have reminded to close the door - just put a sign on it, for goodness' sake!) caused that poor pup harm and pain.

[@christinas.4565]

I use to have to wake up at 2:50am for work at 3:45 and my husband would wake up too and help me get ready before I left. It was sooo sweet 😊

[@Oberionne]

Story 6. Nta. That dog needs training. That is the owner's responsibly

[@HaaraAki]

Story 6: Yes, of course, they're the A**hole. Dad's cat licked a little bit of chocolate once and he has still rushed the vet. Our vet said it wasn't a problem and explained what was, as he had a different issue that lined up with the event. Plus I would rush my pet to the vet in a panic myself.

[@RyuTama42]

Story 5: Oh come on! It may be a “pay what you want” sale but OP could have at least considered the quality of what they were getting. A quarter for a stack of books is just slimy. Even if they were books/comics I had never heard of or was just casually interested in, I’d at least pay a dollar apiece. If it was something that genuinely caught my eye, say an origin story comic or a book I’d been meaning to check out for a while, I’d be perfectly willing to pay $5-10 per book, since that would ALREADY be a bargain and it’s likely something other people would either pay a lot more money for elsewhere, or would try and take advantage of the owner by paying next to nothing, like OP. Man, I love a good sale and all, but I’d never take THAT much advantage of one, especially if I found genuine value in the stuff and wanted to show my appreciation for the opportunity to find such a great deal.

[@deborahyoung1873]

I agree with you Mark. As soon as was an adult I wouldn't have been around those people.

[@GrandCorsair]

"I looked it up..." I hope OP doesn't gets a dog. His nonchalant attitude about this is troubling. A search could maybe give you general information but you still need to talk to a vet! I understand vets are pricy but the dog could die. I wouldn't want to take that chance. The vet felt it needed treatment I don't think OP should disregard that. Like would he have just done nothing and hope it didn't get sick?

[@dustyrose192]

thats a very pricy vet bill though, they are almost never that much

[@GrandCorsair]

@@dustyrose192 there's always a chance the vet over charged but it is a bit hard to know. We're getting account from someone who was present for most of what happened. It's hard to know if he might be leaving things out so I don't know. She could have overreacted but it is hard to tell. Honestly if I was a dog owner I might've agree to anything if I was panicking. It's just this whole thing could have been avoided if they had not left chocolate out knowing that a dog is roaming the house or just closed the door.

[@HackiePuffs]

The last story makes me seethe with rage. This dog could’ve DIED thanks to OP and his girlfriend and he has the AUDACITY to not pay the medical bills??

[@hybridwere]

He wasn't even there though. He couldn't control the situation. Hershey kisses are low in chocolate content. It'd take about a hundred to hurt a Chihuahua. I know this from my vet after my late dog who died of old age. Got into chocolate. Vets will take advantage of you let them.

[@wmdkitty]

Yes the dog could have died, but it's due to Sister's inattention and lack of training. A good dog owner trains their dog to NOT eat random things.

[@Lisapizzza]

I agree with the YTA on story 3 but I do think that it was not right for the bf to say he was going to bring it up with the roommate while never doing so.

[@Passions5555]

I get the impression that his housemates are annoyed with how often his girlfriend is over at their place.

[@Lisapizzza]

@@Passions5555 And if that's the case he should communicate that to her instead of just letting stuff fester and it ending up with an argument like what happened.

[@minisnakali]

I can't agree, he tried to humiliate OP in front of everyone because of how she eats and when OP fired back he cried wolf. OP is an A for overstaying but that's a separate matter, they aren't TA for defending themselves when he attacked them so blatantly when he lacks basic hygiene and decency.

[@ColorsOfOrion]

S6: ESH. TRAIN YOUR DOG Is she going to expect every guest that comes to the house to close the door, or else the pup might eat something harmful and die? I have a dog, and if she eats something that she shouldn't, it's my fault for not teaching her properly. Not others If it was a kid instead of a dog, this story would've gone straight to Entitled People

[@livsweetdreams]

THANK You!! I was looking Wayy too long for this comment

[@georgedonald9826]

Story 1: me- oh he isnt that assholish he just trying to get some gains Op- he wakes me up sometimes just because he is bored Lmaooo

[@joimumu]

He has 2 choices let her sleep in the same room or let her sleep in another room

[@wildfyah]

That annoys me. People getting jealous of their partners/roommates who sleep in longer than them too. Like wtf? My ex used to annoy me with that crap and his blaring alarms that he ignored, snoozed and had multiples of...😑 and him sleeping in a different room didn't even help with the sound since I could hear them through the damn closed door.

[@nonbinarybannana]

You are my favorite youtuber. You inspire me. You have made my day brighter anytime i see your videos

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh that's lovely to hear, made my evening. Thank you so much for being here, keep being awesome

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

SAME!!!!!! how is he not more popular?!

[@theconfusedvampire]

@@Indi_Waffle_Girl omg you're right. Mark is under 100k. That makes no sense. Mark is the best.

[@WhovianUnderlander]

Story 6: I get that the brother should have kept the room closed, but its your responsibility to train your dog to not eat random shit. If she wasn't responsible enough to train her dog, then that's on her.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA OP was a traumatized kid with parents that let her be traumatized for a good amount of time and then didn't get her therapy to cope with it. Her way of coping was to lash out. She grew up, got counseling, and apologized for her behavior, behavior which is their fault IMO. She was a fucking kid that they allowed to get traumatized and didn't get help. Her behavior is almost entirely their fault for not stepping in and being good parents and now they are punishing her for their mistakes despite her unnecessary apology. Good on OP's husband for standing up to them for her.

[@rebeccawray4602]

Almost cried at story 1 My ex was the same Run fast, run far It only gets worse

[@pupperpalace9889]

Story 3 Opinion: OP didn't bring up her opinion in front of the other guys until the one guy WHO IS LEAVING THE PUBIC HAIR opened his mouth and insulted her for no reason. Then and only then did OP say anything and that was purely done as a means to defend herself! Is everyone right that OP doesn't live or rent from their and shouldn't complain? Yes! But that dosen't mean the guys get to act like pigs or threat her poorly because they refuse to communicate any issue with her! First off, OP is their guest which means that as hosts it's their duty to at least try to be civil and make OP feel welcome. END. OF. STORY. Secondly, the defense that their 20-21 year old boys doesn't work because once you turn 18 (regardless of gender) you are an adult so you should know that you need to clean up after yourself even if you don't have a guest at your place. Thirdly, if the guys dont like OP being there then they need to stop acting like catty high school girls and say something! OP isn't a mind reader so she can't be expected to know when the guys are upset and want some space from her. Honestly, if I were OP I would break up with that sorry excuse for a boyfriend, if he can't defend his girlfriend when she is suddenly and wrongfully insulted or thinks that his age is an excuse to be a slob then I would seriously be done with him. So in short OP is NTA or at the very least ESH.

[@minisnakali]

I completely agree this is so well said.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: NTA, boyfriend is selfish disrespectful AF. If someone is living with you you need to have compromises and that includes catering towards their needs. Not waking them up because you’re bored. If you love someone you’re supposed to show them respect as your partner. Op leave needs to leave him.

[@voxkine9385]

For the dog eating one... ehhh.... ESH? As a dog owner, it makes sense that I’d take my dog to the vet if I even suspected a life threatening issue. So, your sis is absolutely correct here imo. You did leave the door open, knowing she asked you to take care of it. So, in that, you are at least partially responsible for this, and should pay something. However, as a dog owner myself, I also know it is MY responsibility to keep MY dog safe. I’ve actually worried about this very thing happening and so I trained my dog NOT to eat clothing/toys or accept food outside of her designated areas. My dog has a throw carpet on the floor, I can throw a steak on it and she’ll know it is 100% her eating time. However, if I set the steak down on the floor even an inch away from that carpet, it’ll stay there until it rots. *I* recognized a potential issue and fixed it before my dog ate something bad. The moment my dog started eating my family’s clothing, I think it is up to me, as a responsible dog owner, to train risky behavior out of them. Closing a door is a short term bandaid.

[@sunsignhealer]

Well woopdee fucking doo!

[@noraallies598]

I'm on the fence about the comic book store one. One time I went to a comic book store and they had a pay what you want for a stack area. The stacks were premade and so it was just a mystery pile for the most part. I got one and paid $5. It was a decent pile of 20 "books" variety stuff from super hero to disney shorts. The only thing was that every comic either was a"free comic", came with a kids meal, 2-5 pages folded together, or was 5 pages of comics with 15 pages 30 year old ads. All were looking worst for wear and some were already falling apart. I didn't mind because I wasn't a collector and I like the look of old comics, it just sucks because I actually wanted to be able to read the books without having to hold them together with tape. I also went to a different book store that would have a "free to good homes" table outside the store. I found wonderful copies of books with just library stamps on a few pages but still perfectly readable and could have been sold for $5 a piece if people were interested (it seems lack of interest in the books is what landed them on the shelf). My point is that generally books that are in the "pay what you want" piles are on their last legs and would have either be seen in other stores "free to take" pile or just tossed.

[@minisnakali]

Story 3: NTA He called her disgusting first, the rent thing is one thing but HE humiliated her first! She fired back with a completely accurate comment don't dish it if you can't take it. OP is an TA for staying over so much and complaining about the hair stuff but that's not the question here, he insulted her and tried to humiliate her over how she fucking eats, he's TA.

[@greenownes]

Story 3: How is OP an asshole? Roommate can disrespect her but when she does disrespects him it is not okay?

[@FizzledDreams11]

That’s what I’m saying!!! I mean it’s not her home and I think it’s annoying when someone’s bf/gf is constantly at our place and they don’t live there... so it prolly wasn’t her place to really say anything BUT he made a nasty comment to her and I woulda reared back and said exactly what she said eff that! But of course his boys r gonna back him up! How much you wanna bet he doesn’t leave nasty pubes everywhere anymore tho 👀 he’ll think his friends think that way too so it might be a win situation 😂

[@Commenter839]

C wasn't right to say that, but OPs comments about how she doesn't like how C leaves the shower were uncalled for since it's not her apartment. OP is TA for spending at least half of every week at their apartment in the first place (which I can almost guarantee was annoying all the other roommates before now) and then trying to call them out on how they keep their home when she shouldn't even be there. If OP just ignored him or kept her retort centered around her food... she'd still be TA for staying over so excessively, but not for what she tells him.

[@FizzledDreams11]

@@Commenter839 I agree that’s basically what I was saying too. Not for what she said but for being in their space all the time! I can’t stand that stuff! When I had room mates we a had a 2 nights a week rule and if you didn’t like it you could move out. It wasn’t a big enough place and the partner isn’t paying rent NOPE

[@mgaus]

Because she doesn't pay rent. Because she overstepped bringing up random stuff in an unrelated argument. Because she's so entitled that she thinks she can tell others how to love in their own shave but never ducks off to get own space.

[@minisnakali]

@@mgaus That's not what she did here though, he tried to humiliate her in front of everyone by calling her eating disgusting. He blatantly insulted her so she fired back with something he does that's disgusting. OP defended herself by attacking back after he attacked her, simple solution. Don't dish it if you can't take it, OP overstaying is a separate issue here which they are TA for but not for defending themselves when he insulted her.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

story 1: He clearly thinks he is the only person that matters. OP needs to reevaluate this relationship, and end it. Things will NOT magically get better. NTA story 2: The OP is the "family punching bag". There is absolutely no respect being giving to OP or her own family. They only care about their own wants and needs. NTA story 3: The roommates are right to say she doesn't live there., and that she has no say how they live. Clearly they have their mummies come over to do their cleaning. They don't however have the right to belittle and insult her for her eating habits(which was also done in front of everyone). OP listen to this message from the "boy"friend carefully. Is this the kind of person OP wants to stay with. He is to uncomfortable to ask someone HE lives with to clean up after himself. He doesn't really care about OP (or himself) ESH story 6: The OP needs to remember to close the door. The girlfriend also needs to respect the rules in someone else's house. OP needs to stop playing this situation down, chocolate is poison to dogs, the vet did what NEEDED to be done. The sister does need to train the dog NOT to eat everything in sight. OP(and girlfriend) need to pay a third each, the sister the other third. Also; don't leave things laying around where the dog can get at it. ESH(mostly OP and the girlfriend)

[@Sunari]

Last story that brother should get a pet gate as they can be used in part for training rather than purely keeping a dog out. Last doggo was good about respecting the gate even if I left the door of it open - he'd groan to get my attention unless he was tired, in which case he'd curl up near my computer chair (so I had a habit of looking down for both him and my cat). Current puppers is still getting the hang of things as he gets excited when I notice him and goes into happy "I want loves/attention" mode, but he's good about returning to outside the gate with a command. Training may still be helpful and could be spun in a more positive way than "your dog's out of control" into a more "Something for you two to do together while able to help him stay safe in the future" and who knows, that could lead to more fun things like agility courses or something. Dogs are smart and many love to learn, just avoid making it sound like a punishment for them both. First story - YEESH I hope OP ran before the lack of sleep lead to bad decisions like staying with that creep. Something tells me anything the guy did was fine in his book, but if OP had tried the same it would've become a "problem."

[@deusdamnit]

Story 6: The argument "If she got charged $900 at the vet, it was serious." is a fallacy. Vets in the US charge for just about everything. If you saw the vet, you faced a fee for the vet, the staff, and the building itself (because they have to pay for equipment, supplies, utilities, etc.) Unlike hospitals and clinics, a lot of vets don't take insurance. Even where they do, most pets just aren't covered (as in, the owners don't buy insurance coverage). From what it sounds like, the bill consisted of fees for the pet (things that get factored here are like, the breed of the pet, weight, temperament/behavior, etc.), plus the fees for the vet and the visit itself. It simply isn't true that the cost of the visit validated the visit, itself. Maybe, if insurance for pets was legislated and mandated; maybe, if pets' healthcare was well-regulated and well-established in our society, that argument could be made. In this case, she overreacted (most people do with dogs and chocolate, so it wasn't unreasonable) and it cost her a lot of money. He wasn't TA because he didn't want to pay; he was TA, because he chose to dismiss her feelings and degrade her for someone else's mistake. She did what someone who was panicked would do, and she politely asked for help, because it turned out to be a large bill for a small overreaction. She couldn't expect him to pay, but she could definitely ask, and he should have handled the situation better. Now, he has to decide if he's really willing to damage their relationship over not only not paying her back for his GF's mistake, but also for being an asshole about it.

[@Stari27]

Thank you, I was hoping some beat me to this. Also, the problem for dogs in chocolate is in the actual cocoa, and so little of that is in milk chocolate most dogs couldn't fit enough in their stomach to be a real danger. The foil the kisses were wrapped in would be potentially dangerous, but even that will pass through most dogs...just watch for sparkly poo for a day or so.

[@dandotvid]

Story 3: I'd say NTA only because the housemate fired the first shot. Also, who leaves several pubic hairs in the shower *every* morning? Does he have a medical condition and that's why everyone is coddling him about it? She didn't demand anything of the housemate, she merely made a comment about how amusing it was that *he'd* call someone else disgusting when he was doing something disgusting every time he showered. But yeah, I agree the other housemates probably don't like her there all the time, and she's TA if she doesn't contribute to any household expenses if she's there so often. Why doesn't her BF stay with her more often instead?

[@minisnakali]

Exactly, a lot of people are hyper focused on "OP is overstaying they're TA" but its not about that he tried to humiliate her and she defended herself which she was entirely right to do

[@bluejaywoman3421]

I sometimes sleep in the living room, because my dear husband is a light sleeper and deserves a good good night sleep. So if I know I'm going to be tossing and turning, I spare him.

[@DillyTheWestie]

Story 6 I relate 5 Westies One dark choc easter egg! (have no idea how they got it but Westies are jammy gits) One big Vet Bill!

[@faeriefire78]

The chocolate dog story had something else that bothered me. He comes home and his distressed sister quietly tells him what the poor dog went through with the vet. He SEES the evidence of it by looking at the dog and know what it's doing to his sister, and his response is to say nothing, just takes his gf and leave. He couldn't send the message that he doesn't care at all about his sister any clearer in that moment.

[@immortalsofar5314]

#3 A bit manipulative is an understatement. It's a hell of a coincidence that all those things came together at one time with bad choices all along the line. Like #1 where the guy is obviously getting cold feet about her moving in, hubby needs to get a clue about what's really going on.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S1: NTA. “He says he doesn’t have to cater to me because it’s his house.” “He keeps saying that im his girlfriend, not a housemate.” He clearly doesn’t see his girlfriend as an equal. She’s apparently just there to look pretty. S2: NTA. OP’s family seems emotionally abusive. Apparently it’s disrespectful to stand up for your spouse?

[@DJCherryTempo]

Story 5- NTA. The rule was 'Pay what you wanted' and the owner said there was no minimum. So who cares if some other local jokes about it. OP's in the clear as far as I'm concerned.

[@SunBeeSmoked]

He even gets mad at her for sleeping in the guest room because she’s not a house guest but he also thinks it’s HIS house and treats her like a house guest. Fuck. That.

[@FrogsForBreakfast]

When my dog got into chocolate, the vet induced vomiting. We watched for a few hours to make sure symptoms didn't develop and none did. Didn't cost much at all and the pup recovered fine. So I looked up chocolate poisoning treatment. First they try to remove the chocolate if possible, then they treat the symptoms until the dog recovers. Chalk/charcoal means it was too late to induce vomiting, so they fed the dog charcoal to try to keep any more poison from being absorbed. Water pouches means the dog needed fluid therapy. Chocolate poisoning can cause severe dehydration and symptoms of shock, both of which are treated with fluids. $900 still sounds like a lot to me, so I'm wondering if they also needed to give the dog beta-blockers or some other medication to counter the effect of chocolate poisoning on the heart. It was probably fairly serious.

[@zombiexi1292]

So in relation to the last story, I have a hard time remembering if I closed the garage when leaving, did I lock my front door, etc. About a month back I saw in a fb thread someone mention how they beep back at their car when they lock it so they have an audio cue that helps them remind they locked it. So I started doing that, 'garage door go brrrrr' for my garage, 'jingle jingle' when I lock my front door, and little stuff like that. It feels silly, but I actually remember closing doors or locking up because I remember my audio cue even if I don't remember doing the action itself. So if you find yourself struggling to remember if you did something or not, try adding an audio cue to help you remember! It will cut down on stress and trips to double check if you did the thing. 😊

[@nilianstroy]

Last story... As someone that had many dogs throughout my life can't understand how someone is unable to train their pets to at least not going around eating everything they come across, and yes it's possible.

[@courtneywoodbury5198]

My 60 pound dog ate half a chocolate orange and was totally fine. Chocolate is bad but there is a minimum. "Shoved water packs in his sides for some reason." Seems fishy to me. I would want to know what I'm being charged for. Not saying she was lying, not at all, something just seems off. If I were the OP, I'd ask to see the bill and maybe speak to the vet. Did she just come in shrieking 'my dog ate chocolate' so they jumped right to the most drastic treatment? Did any of them even ask her 'how much?' Even if the package was shredded she could find the amount somewhere. Still, he should have at least helped pay.

[@champslim]

Story 4: Yea you did that shit on purpose.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

Here is a surprise: the whole chocolate thing is much over stated. It is an allergy, ALLERGY, that the dog either has, it or it doesn't. I've had dogs get into chocolate (cake, cookies, candy, etc) and the dogs never reacted. NEVER. And yes, vets price gauge like mad, especially emergency and late night clinics. I had a dog get ahold of a prescription strength Vit D bottle, chew the top off and eat 2 or3. The vet charged me for care, but also for his having to call the Animal Poison Control Center to the tune of $75.00. I asked why he, a trained veterinarian, didn't know how to treat an ingestion like that. That phone center, BTW, is run by the SPCA and apparently many vets "help out" the SPCA by charging that fee for a totally unneeded call and then donating part of the fee back to them. To this day I will never donate to the SPCA as they are part of the scam. As for the care part, when I took the bill, which was almost $900.00 too, my vet said all they needed to have done was give her charcoal. The rest was padding. He said if it had happened during his normal business hours it would have cost me under $100.00. Same dog, a week later, chewed a remote--well the battery case and ate a battery...or so I thought (Found it later) and the series of X-RAYS and charcoal while they search for the batter they couldn't find because it wasn't in there, cost $200.00.

[@charlottehancock76]

Story 1: I have moderate insomnia thanks to my ex doing this to me in top of night terrors and nightmares and it also contributed to my clinical depression. OP dump him like he did with those red flags before it gets to the point of no return. And I hope you have a great life without him

[@threeducks157]

It was serious, dog react differently to toxic agents even if he was big it could had affected him alot more than others.