ENTP, debate yourself for a change...

[@smartjackasswisdom1467]

The trust issue on ENTPs is real, my best friend is one and he doesn't have a problem attracting people but getting them to stay is where he fails.

[@f.p1758]

I feel like Rather than trying to make others trust yourself more, it should be more about what makes them untrustworthy. Bcos Entps are very harsh in any relationship when it comes to wanting to end it, cos they are adament, which would end up fulfilling the fear of those trust issues I haven't rly experienced any of those so idrk? But basically, tackle the root of the problem instead of molding actions into smth ppl will trust?

[@shawws29]

Your right it is easy to make friends. But its allways a Entp who have to visite those friends but they would not visit us. Why would we keep them as friend? Its just a waste of our time

[@alito238]

I’m an ENTP and I have ended all the relationships I’ve been in. Not sure I agree

[@user-kt1no7yx1u]

​@@alito238Same, the person in question sounds more ESTP???

[@williamsteveling8321]

@@alito238yeah, I've had very nearly the opposite experience, and I'm pretty solidly ENTP. I kind of suspect that it ties to a few things people often overlook: 1. What type of partner are you attracted to? How likely are you to overlook other personality traits which might be important to keeping a relationship healthy? - I figured out I was screwing up on that second part 2. Investment. Some people fully invest, some don't. There are subvariants that complicate this 3. Turning it off. I can't. Not even in my own head. It's... unpleasant. MB is a good framework, but people have to remember there are more than 16 personalities out there, even if you can have 16 decent-size boxes. There are boxes within the boxes.

[@elypelowski5670]

You fricken nailed this. You really really understand ENTPs

[@f.p1758]

No not rly Some parts were rly off... It's weird hearing her say we don't use Ti, and tt we need to develop it to balance introvertion and extrovertion. The thing is, Entps are one of the most ambivert types, and many are most prob have been mistaken as introverted Also I just rather watch/listen to "Melissa talks", bcos there's less things I wanna skip. It is a bit late, but it's nice to know there's a channel tt can explain cognitive functions to newbies!

[@elypelowski5670]

@@f.p1758 Hi again 😉 That Melissa is good stuff.

[@tammigreene6288]

@@f.p1758 Spoken like a true ENTP. Who is this Melissa person and what does she talk about ?

[@tammigreene6288]

@@elypelowski5670 Who is Melissa ?

[@majorbob7211]

@@tammigreene6288 You find her as soon as you research her in KZbin

[@spannycat2]

People think Im an introvert. What they don't realize is that I can fulfill my extroverted intuition from research and I can fulfill my extroverted feelings from human experiences. And I process those thoughts and emotions outloud on social media or with my family before I draw conclusions. And also I can be charismatic and charming. But people suck lol.

[@sydneyperson1336]

this!

[@EarlofBusterbrook]

yes, people do..

[@Solid_Gravy]

I don't know if you're an ENTP then, 'cause me personally, no one even questions I'm extroverted. Also wouldn't say you're ENTP based on your misanthropy, from what I've heard a lot of about ENTP's and agree with strongly, is how we love harmony despite our tendency to stir the pot.

[@RIP_ZYZZ1738]

So what you're saying is that you're not awkward, that person just doesn't interest you. Same!

[@stefanleithner6922]

@@Solid_Gravyjap. I‘m always the guy to bring up politics, but npt because I want to promote or defeat an opinion. But because it literally just makes me wo der, what people‘s opinions are. I literally can not smalltalk, unless I know it has to be. But when I‘m with close friends and someone talks about something superficial. I‘m literally lost. My Brain ist dead. But once a Topic with some flesh pops up (or well, often times it‘s me to initiate lol.) I‘m on fire. I love to dig and argue. When I was younger, my friends told me to become a politician, and that I could neber be wrong. But nowadays, I‘m more quiet, I reflect more befor I speak, and I often agree when people make a valid point.

[@queenofgoldenhearts]

I’m a ENTP woman and the struggle with ti vs fe is so real… through all my childhood and teenage years I had to change and please people, when I spoke up I was usually seen as wrong and felt like the black sheep in the family (especially because I’m the only NT living with three SF types) and I literally lost my sense of self on that journey ang got into depression, later on I got my diagnosis of borderline personality disorder and that changed everything! I finally started to strength my Ti, feel more comfortable with myself, being more assertive and learning to digest, analyze and observe data to figure out what I actually wanted and believed in, learning to balance empathy and logical facts! It’s actually hard to find some other ENTP woman to identify with, but we are amazing

[@Blondiee777]

ENTP borderline personality woman here! Hey girl, hope you're doing ok!!!! 👍💪

[@Cheena2007]

Hey! I am young ENTP trying to strength my TI... Can you please give some advise?! I am struggling with my NE-FE loop and want to develop my Ti... It would be helpful if you can advise me on how to efficiently develop my Ti...

[@Cindyu_u]

OMG!! Same!! this is like my life story 😂

[@arkc.9552]

Entp gal here! 😢I can relate to that. Often put on a mask to act sweet and soft but fail constantly😅

[@queenofgoldenhearts]

@@Cheena2007 Omg sorry for republishing so late!!! 😩 But of course I can, well what I started doing was trying to control my urges and being less impulsive when making decisions or even reacting to things and instead making more questions internally, like “But why am I supposed to do that? Does that make sense to me? Do I agree? What about this other thing?” and validating my own opinions by checking the logic I used behind it, going for the facts that support my opinions and working more on the inside so I would be more confident and wouldn’t fall on the Ne-Fe loop as well! Hope that helps ☺️

[@truthandunity623]

The following things helped me: 1. Contemplating proverbs, Ecclesiastes and Job (bible) 2. Treating reasoning as chess. Understand arguments as possible moves and be your own most challenging opponent and formulate good responses. And yes, ask other people to scrutinize ideas to gain other perspectives. 4. Understand that the deeper you learn to understand something, the easier it will be to understand other things deeper. 5. Truth is one, everything is connected, find the solid Foundation; and epistemology, ontology, ethics will fall into place. 6. Truth isn't about what you want it to be. Discover and observe to understand before you evaluate/judge it. Humility is crucial in the search for truth.

[@micahwright5901]

7: Always skip step 3

[@Solid_Gravy]

I feel like most ENTP's we already do that shit inherently. And also you said find a solid foundation and after said ethics and ontology, oh yeah that makes sense, a lot of solid ground there to build upon.

[@luluhu7574]

We do argue with ourselves. We have to make it interesting.

[@DivineFeminineEnergy]

"I don't know a single entp who moved away right after highschool". - me moving to the other side of the world when I turned 18. This video was super cool, I am still learning more about being an ENTP thank you ✨

[@FutureRR17]

The moving part was spot on, cuz I moved half way across the world too.💕✨

[@beingsomeone201]

I am moving out after my med school Cz ne ti sees all the false info the old people is saying

[@BartSakwerda]

same here, 19 packed backpack and never returned ... at the age of 23 was more comfortable in Tokyo than in native hometown of Katowice

[@selimbalti4527]

Exactly I’m in another country and already considering moving again to another one. Finally I don’t feel weird anymore.

[@srose1088]

You comment on ENTPs getting into something their partner is into and dropping it after the relationship is over is very relatable and I don't think we realize we are doing it. I think it's stuff like this that makes us appear like we have this vast knowledge on many topics but arnt like an expert on any one. I just gravitate towards a nerd on a thing that can teach me something new. I've had people tell me "wow, you must really like ___" and then I'm like... wait, do I? When did that happen?

[@SantiagoOchoa]

ENTPs who change their philosophical, religious or political views depending on the people they are with, could be because they're pragmatic and objective, so they see what's right and what's wrong in any situation or thought. They're not dogmatic but logical.

[@oluchukwuokafor7729]

If enpts are anything like intps, then they probably debate with themselves. That is why they can debate both sides of an issue and still "Win". The difference is that entps usually debate both sides to prove that there isn't an answer, while intps debate both sides to find the answer.

[@ClubENTP]

As An ENTP I Don’t Talk To Myself So I Don’t Debate Alone. When We Debate With Someone, We’re Displaying Our Opinions In A Confident Manner But We Want YOU To Prove Us Wrong Or See Our Logic And Recognize Our Insight. With The 2nd Part Of Your Statement I Disagree Slightly Because We Aren’t Trying To Prove That There Are No Absolutes In Truth. We Will Debate One Side But If We See You Just Going Along With Us, Nodding Your Head We Think You’re Intellectually Lazy So We’ll Actually Show You HOW To Debate Us By Showing You Other Perspectives In Contrast With Our Original Argument. I Don’t Know Many INTPs So I Have No Opinion For Comparison Purposes. Are YOU An INTP?

[@oluchukwuokafor7729]

@@ClubENTP Interesting, I assume entps would have an introverted side where in they debate themselves the same way intps have an extroverted side where they debate others. Fair point on the 2nd part, I know entps believe in Absolute truths (They are Ti users afterall), they just seem a lot less enthusiastic about it than intps in my experience, so they feel less responsible to find it. They are happy to leave things open ended for a lot longer than intps. Yes, I am an intp.

[@ClubENTP]

@@oluchukwuokafor7729 Yes And IDK!

[@spannycat2]

Yes. Because I'm a female and I still want to retain my current relationships, I kind of just have my opinion and set evidence. The other person disagrees. Then I say, I can see how that makes sense and then I argue their side.

[@spannycat2]

@@oluchukwuokafor7729 My Ti doesn't debate myself. It's just sorting through my Ne and then creating logical truths or frameworks to tap into later so that I can make decisions in the first place.

[@StefanieSpencer]

As an INTJ, I'm an ENTP fan girl 🤣 Married to my ENTP hubby for 22 years! And yes, he's an entrepreneur, inventor, and great at sales, super successful. My husband is never had those untrustworthy vibes, but I believe It's because his Ti is so strong. He knows exactly what he believes, why, and his thought process that got him there. He is very principally driven, and will follow his principles even when it goes against groupthink and peer pressure.

[@alito238]

You’re married to an ENTJ not an ENTP

[@rumpertthejester3491]

I’ve always been a “high-Ti” ENTP even as a kid, so I mostly type as an INTP and my experience from early on was people love to use me up and throw me away a lot. One thing that doesn’t get covered in these types of videos ever, which I harp on constantly, is how important the demographics of your life are. If you’re an ENTP living in a place like NYC or even a small college town like Ithaca, NY you’re experiences with people are going to be VERY VERY different than if you grow up somewhere like a small town just one county away in Upstate NY! And that’s going to change EVERYTHING about what functions one develops when. But, then again I’ve been told I tend to ramble on about things everyone else sees as self-evident so mostly I just make fun of everything around me and say, who cares?

[@BrooklyFire]

I am so tired of creating projects I can't finish. I would create a cure for hepatitis while treating my butt acne, then 3 days later ill lose interest and dump it all in the trash so I can study for the sex ed. finals

[@TheRyanHeffner]

It’s almost like we play devils advocate with our energy body communication between strangers. Someone’s energy body reads us and asks “are you trustworthy?” And our energy body says back “maybe I’m not” just for the sake of subverting expectations at the deepest level. That “maybe I’m not” thing is what I put out in front of my energy signature. Which one a person picks up on says a lot about their level of awareness. Gibberish? Hopefully not, but probably.

[@tnic3255]

This is such a good discussion, so thoughtful and thorough. I listened to this one and the one on ENFP because I do think I am an ENTP but have some ENFPish traits as well, but I am more clearly an ENTP. I agree with you, as well, that it can be really difficult to be a TP woman in our culture and it sure would be nice to experience being a feeling type woman and working on things it would be socially acceptable for that type to work on. I am over 40 and agree that Si starts to come naturally in your late 30s and 40s but we always struggle with it as ENPs and you have to take what you get naturally and capitalize on it. Developing Ti (or Fi in ENFP) really is the main way to "hack" Si for this type. If we go too directly at Si, we are easily bored and stifled by dry routine. But if we do it through developing depth in our introverted function, it feels well, deeper :), and gives you the effect of Si. I do think I was clunky and a bit colder in my youth and by my 30s consciously as well as naturally wanted to develop my relationships. As well, I am a 6 on the enneagram, and never had the experience of overthrowing family (my mother is an ESTJ and probably I always just naturally valued tradition and had some Si development early on -- I am super organized and tidy for an ENTP!), but I have engaged in the door slam, which is typically attributed to INFJ. From my perspective, I felt that it was with people who I felt got the better end of lopsided friendships and relationships (none romantic relationships). I would do cartwheels trying to make these friendships work and always felt like they got the better of the deal, but then when I was done, I was just done. It makes me feel bad listening to what you say here b/c I could see from another perspective that at least in one case, I seemed opportunistically to throw away the friendship and should have tried to work things out, however, I was very young at that time and didn't have the social skills for that. Because I need a lot of time alone, and don't like small talk, I am extroverted and able to be gregarious at bigger gathreings, but I don't really like them and won't be assertive about getting together in this settting or can be standoffish, so then I feel like I don't get invited or thought of with friends, yet I have fomo. (I can debate and love philosophical conversations, but I don't relate to the "great debator" part. That seems more entp who is enneagram 7 or 8, are the entps you mention these types on enneagram? If you know that system.

[@AlexisKingsley]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!! The idea of "getting to Si" through Fi or Ti is sooo interesting! I definitely see merit to that idea. As to your question at the end, I believe the ones I know are all 7's or 8's, but enneagram is so hard to tell as an observer!

[@tnic3255]

@@AlexisKingsley That’s probably a bit of an imprecise way to say it, but I really like Lenore Thompson’s book on mbti and she says that when stressed, EN-Ps will try to tap into Si in an unhealthy way because they don’t have wisdom with this function, but when they go to their auxiliary it can help them tap into loyalty towards a cause or project rather than Ne Fe or NeTe spreading themselves too thin. Using NeTi or NeFi together will look like Si bc it causes these types to stabilize, if that makes sense. I think the same would be true for all types. Ni with healthy Te puts INTJ into action in Ni plans and will have an Se impact whereas stressing to Se leads to unhealthy actions for lead Ni types. I think it would engage Se in a more healthy to aim for your auxiliary bc Te needs Se facts to figure out how to make progress and helps them act. But if you try to get out of an NiFi loop by going directly at Se, Se might convince you to “live for the moment” and forget your deep Ni Te plans, so it’s escape rather than helping you make progress in goals. Is that too much Ti? Lol. Just processing my brief comment for myself I guess😊

[@AlexisKingsley]

@@tnic3255 I agree with everything you said!! I should read that book - thanks for the recommendation!

[@nafissaetouilcharradi]

@@tnic3255 OMAIGAD

[@spannycat2]

I use Si to stay in memory land. But because I also use Ne-Ti, it becomes theoretical memory land. But I fill it with happy experiences. But I compartmentalize it. So if it's with a crush, I know it's theoretical memory crush, and I like him more than my real crush. Also theoretical memory land feels so real, that I don't get that sense of: I'll never get this again or my real life will never be like this.

[@joshphillips2383]

I'm ENTP and keep coming back to this video, it really does validate my experience a lot so thank you

[@kolewilson3347]

The thing that stood out the most is entps often change there views and opinions depending on the room, because they have been drilled to not argue to not go against the flow

[@quincyfreeman2901]

Dude. I just came across your page the other day and want to say that you are one of the best communicators I’ve seen on KZbin regarding MBTI and all that jazz. Pretty sure I subbed after like half a video. I currently type myself as an xntp (many different tests and results over the years, but intp has been the most common, but I resonate a lot with entp). Personal perspective I’ll throw out there (in case valuable) is that because of my faith (Christian) and Internal frameworking, I can surprise people with how strict, consistent, or form-footed I am capable of being. I also find myself really valuing what seems to be good Si in terms of relationships, because if I don’t feel like you are committed or I’m not sure I have a significant social role, my Fe sometimes panics and I either want to “fix” it and do something to be liked or provide social value or a good vibe. Or just move on to another relationship.. 😬 My wife is ISTJ, and having her as a rock is the coolest thing - like always having a good home. and thankfully she’s also confident in my commit to her and other things that are significant 😋Cheers

[@AlexisKingsley]

Thank you, I appreciate it!! And great insights! Do you find yourself using Fe or Si more? (especially in your 20s)

[@quincyfreeman2901]

@@AlexisKingsley probably Fe? Or at least more comfortably than Si. With all the life changes that came in the late teens/early 20s, attempting to establish relationships was a significant and continual thing. Si-ish stuff (maintaining relationships, following through in things I didn’t want to do or didn’t value, actually evaluating past/childhood, etc) felt like something that caught up with me and forced attention. Basically Fe feels like something that just requires monitoring and Si feels like something that requires work.

[@lefooo]

@@quincyfreeman2901 I'm ENTP Christian myself......others think of me as a crazy fanatic, including my family and parents. But as an ENTP I can live with such a burden, and yes, it is a burden.

[@saradoka4539]

Entp Christian here too, I would say faith has to do some more with the Ti. Our Ti is the most rock like function. Ti determines our inner self, our logic and our behavior. So i guess faith is more related to that.

[@bernard4459]

ENTP guy, you're such a good analyst. I want to binge watch all of your videos now.

[@delaneynicoleg2271]

Love your channel, more ENTP vids, please!!! The Ti portion hit hard. Love your delivery, concise information, and I didn't even need to speed up your video. -ENTP

[@yuliya9126]

You got it! Took me awhile, but my Ti has finally erupted and Fe is taking a well deserved break..too much absurdity happening in the world :)Thank you for your video!

[@ScienceInspiresAll]

ENTP here! I'm sure all of us felt maybe you were selling yourself short, because you're clearly very good at flattery and I'm sure you're a welcomed face and voice in conversation.

[@enderbarsakn4650]

I just realized I am very healthy. Thanks dad and mom. And my aunt. They helped me a lot. This video boosts my inner peace.

[@joseg3102]

I've also molded myself to the presence of different people. But what I have learned is to not mold yourself but rather not bring up subjects that may offend or bore them. It's not technically lying but it is speaking about things each person may want to speak about and being conscious of their likes and dislikes. Honestly at first I thought I was some sort of sociopath LOL but all it is is being able to sense other people's energy and replicated so they feel comfortable

[@joseg3102]

Also I think this is what makes us great business owners because we our conscious of what other people need and want and are able to creatively supply it. This also makes us great business owners because we're able to please individuals at all fronts without damaging our brand or business. I guess it's just being able to adapt to any circumstance

[@Jpro-ko3ve]

Near the end where you talk about using novelty as a way to escape things. Yes this is very true, I think about a song lyric I really love, "I didn't know how fast I was till I had to run from something, 1000 miles later I turned around and saw how far I came". We are very good at the first part, but we fail to turn around and appreciate all that we have done. This really hit home for me since I always feel like I need to be more or do more, yet so many people constantly say I'm doing extremely well for a 19 year old. Which I agree with. But I don't think its enough. Biggest problem with being an ENTP for me, is we always feel a need to rush our success, so much so we forget to appreciate the success we have.

[@dizalgumacoisa]

Damn, you were so accurate, I wasn't sure about which NTP I was till I saw this video, now I can say 100% ENTP, the struggles about family and friends... Connected to every description in a deep level

[@ValtariBand]

Top shelf analysis right here. Although I’d add re the trustworthiness aspect: if we lock on to something or someone that’s right for us, we’re rock solid. Woe be to anyone who tries shenanigans with that sense of right! Haha

[@CallmeOzymandias]

Woo! New video! I really like your approach to the type theory. Great work 👍

[@LauraCoubert]

Thank you, you really get ENTPs. Your advice was very affirming. In my early adulthood I started to notice my own flakiness in beliefs and who I wanted to be, and as much as I enjoyed the exploration, it was frustrating when I realized I needed solid ground as well to build relationships and a fulfilling life path. I also frustrated myself over skipping Ti and talking too carelessly or prematurely, sometimes causing disharmony. I observed people with a strong sense of self and found it admirable, probably because it was difficult for me. So I made it a point to work towards that, and take that 'consistent integrity' as my north whenever I started to flake. That has been like a safety net, not so much for myself but for my relationships and everything worth keeping: I allow myself to flip between things just enough to explore the different possibilities, but always knowing there's that north to return to, and that my core beliefs stay consistent. Thanks to that Si I have never been disloyal in my adulthood, though I still need to develop it much further to get more things accomplished. If I could offer any advice to other ENTPs who struggle with that, I would tell them to find ways to 'convince/redirect themselves' using that same flakiness and adaptability to their own advantage: our inner talk and what we tell ourselves that would bring us happiness plays a big part when the impulse to explore a new possibility strikes. Get in touch with your north (core beliefs and long term goals) when that happens, get into a debate with it, let it convince you of all the ways in which staying aligned will also open new possibilities and bring fulfillment. Find novelty within it, because I promise you it's always there, and you are very good at bringing it out. "Debate yourself for a change", the video couldn't have a better title.

[@maysea11]

20 year old ENTP here! your early adulthood experience and concluding advice really, really resonates with me. i think "get in touch with your north, debate it, and LET IT CONVINCE YOU" was the piece of advice i've been needing for a very long time. THANK YOU for sharing your wisdom🫶

[@LauraCoubert]

@@maysea11 Glad it helped! I'm sure you'll also develop your own methods, but it's great that you already have this self-awareness at such a young age :)

[@pugninja7037]

Age for sure.. I am more aligned with my ti with fi but If I don't know, I want to be correct if I believe something .I dont want to lie but be real.. I could be seen as selfish , but with three fi sons it's helped along the way to better understand my own fi and becoming healthier over time . Si is a must , have three amazing close friends from 8-18 years.. yet I do want what I want to do, but I respect they need my support too, even when it's helping use yr washing machine as theirs has broken.

[@glueball214]

This was just amazing! I love the nuances of the cognitive functions you provide. 👍👍👍💙

[@Touchofperspective]

Wow this part of puzzling up memories and everything slowly make sense👏🏻 a good advice to the younger version of entp, you must go through the experiences yourself to extract the wisdom out of your decision making process. no matter how much information is in this video, I wouldnt have understood what they meant in the first place.

[@joseg3102]

Dude this is totally me 😂😅 I own a couple businesses, like to have logical arguments on different things, invent and create different businesses/inventions. Literally want to make everyone in any circumstances feel comfortable and good. Literally everything you talked about 😅

[@haleydoe644]

Thank you for clearing this up. I've been typed as INTP for far too long, but when I'm not alone it makes no sense. I usually have to lead with "I can be pretty blunt" before having conversations. I'm for sure an ENTP.

[@ginag.1239]

You are so spot on! Especially the black sheep in the family. I love s debate and stand by my truth. We are not allowed to talk about politics in our family. I’m the Republican in a family of Democrats! Even when the evidence is presented in a logical way my family will never go against their political affiliation. Travel and new experiences are my way to joy. My family is very traditional and do the same boring routines at every holiday since I was born. I finally convinced them to incorporate games at events so we don’t get into arguments. It took years to convince them to do more then eat and talk only at family events which bored the hell out of me. Since I was never allowed to express my different viewpoints. I also am open to listen and consider other’s point of view. I like that you speak quickly like me. What type are you? I’m so glad I found you on here. Finally someone who gets me. My boyfriend was laughing because you described me to a tee! Keep up the great work.

[@kedellguevara2745]

I appreciate this! Being ENTP can be hard with people not knowing how to respond to Ne + Ti. Can be hard to be heard sometimes. Ends up with me staying quiet a lot.

[@BenVaserlan]

A spot-on title, Alexis. :)

[@danpierce8862]

You know whats funny? As an ENTP when i read this, i laughed. Most people know not to be argumentative with me, what they dont know is that ive argued with myself about just about any topic. I litterally have like 20 other people in my head with differing perspectives and lines of logic. I pit them against each other and decide for myself what approach makes the most sense. We ENTPs are awesome! We are like the nerds of the world who can out bully bullies with our verbal acuity and wide range of interests. For instance i was a 2 sport NCAA athlete, play 5 instruments, was a lead singer in a band. I also work part time as a bowling alley mechanic. The sad part is that because we tend to be less agreeable to idealisms, we get shoved out politically from positions of power and people who seem to be more predictable get the better roles.

[@MCE851]

Lol I feel called out. Im an ENTP girl, I moved to New Zealand when I was 19. Cut off my abusive narc family. Self employed and enjoy having random gigs to keep things fresh. I do need security and some novelty, but im very loyal and married a wonderful ENFJ lad who followed me to NZ 😂❤

[@apoplied]

Great video, you clearly understand entps really well. one irony though with my relation to your video was that you were describing that introverted thinking gets cut down a lot in family and that kind of causes a mega-extrovert-ish-thing but my whole problem is socially ne came off as weird so often that although it's still my primary function and i still innovate and stuff more than i use logic i've ended up becoming introverted which is fine but the problem comes when the huge majority of my class are either extroverts who think of ne negatively or introverts that think of ne negatively also there was going to be some kind of point on that but i noticed while typing that it is just both the extroverts and introverts that do that and it seems to make it really hard for me to be extroverted so thats a thing ive kind of lost the point of this comment now but im just going to send it and

[@brentcarter8329]

Omg the moving away dude this resonates so hard

[@nourmoualla4970]

This was so interesting and relatable that I finished a 35min video wow good work ❤❤

[@restlessmosaic]

As an INTP with some ENTP characteristics (Si is higher than 4, but I seem super-blind to Fi so...hmm): Exploring new things as an offensive move rather than a defensive move was a gut punch. I gotta think about that some more. "I keep moving to be stable" - Peter Gabriel, "Sky Blue"

[@BillyBob-lt5nr]

I'm a rather ambiverted ENTP, and that point hit me hard too! I was like $#!+!... guess that's what Fi is good for... I never really thought I was missing out on anything without it.

[@nimishshrivastava6709]

4 minutes into this and i know i will love watching this as an entp❤❤❤

[@solutionfocused7147]

Hi! Your observation about "splitting hairs" and "nuances" is SO spot on! I'm working on a word bank, for my marketing and communications, and repeatedly go to WikiDiff to make sure I understand the word nuances to make sure I'm precise in my language! Also, thanks so much for speaking in plain English throughout your video. I don't know all the cognitive definitions by heart so when I hear Si DOM, or Fi USER to describe personality aspects the light switch turns off. So glad I found you today!! I now understand the value of sharpening Si. It must be maturity as it kinda happened naturally over the last few years. 😀 ENTP (But get ENFP a bit on tests). Thanks again!

[@JonBrase]

21:33 I think it comes down to an exploratory instinct and a preference for bonding via quality time, plus anything associated with the relationship becoming emotionally tainted when the breakup happens.

[@TheRyanHeffner]

I’m in a family directly descended from Eric the Red. Extreme combativeness and confrontation was part of the fabric of my family growing up. In a good way. I was never told not to argue. My mother would happily engage in any argument and would either crush my stance with logic, or admit to being wrong if that were the case. I’m really grateful after watching this video that I was able to exercise those muscles freely at such an early age. I’m 35 and found out like a week ago that I’m an entp. And it explains my life like no other general personality description ever has. I grew up to be an abrasive, socially awkward people loving prolific (prolific in the sense of numbers, not importance) inventor. I had no idea this was an archetype.

[@tomwiggins2869]

Great video, you've really got some depth on this stuff! On Ti being your "super respect" function - Te is mine, you big mirror-type you! On Si - So many iterations of "this life really isn't working for me at all, better burn it to the ground and start again"! Memory is very present, but often presents as a catalogue of things not to do, or experiences not to repeat. There is often a tinge of sadness over good things lost, or shame over opportunities not taken. It can be tempting to just abandon the whole thing as a poor show, but that seems disrespectful to the fair few dead people I know by now (age 31), and an undeserved slap in the face to the number of people who have stayed with me this far. Consistency is treated inconsistently. I like to essentially automate some of the more basic, uninteresting necessities of life (eating, exercise, mornings, bills...), so that I can continue to function when my energy runs out. But gradually, bugs creep into the subroutines and the whole program ends up becoming a burden that ironically uses way too much energy to run until it has to be... burned down and rewritten! I think growth may be less about not burning stuff down, and more about becoming more accurate and selective about what gets burned, so the fire doesn't run out of control. On building Ti to shrink Fe - It can often seem like there is a choice, between honestly and firmly living according to a Ti framework which marks me out as an alien amongst the humans, and so becoming an eternal recluse, or else trying to blend in with the humans and living as a formless, weightless shapeshifter with Fe. That threat/fear of being entirely, utterly rejected by the humans for simply being honest leads to the people-pleasing and perhaps duplicity. The blind Fi self-value is just buried too deep to rely on in the moment. It is often something of a surprise to me when I let the Ti slip out in public and people actually appreciate it. Easy to forget that not everyone spends as much time as I do creating order in their minds, and might appreciate the input. Easy to forget that they might not all need as much coddling as it seems, too. The more I let my Ti out and it gets Fe appreciated, the more balanced the two become.

[@jarrahdahlenburg7785]

Girl stop stoking my ego haha😂 much love

[@ivytutoring]

Gotta be the most impactful video i've seen on ENTP's yet

[@shawnkingsley7755]

This is a great video!

[@AlexisKingsley]

Thank you!

[@QKvox]

Thanks mate, you understand us quite a bit, and I hope im one of the charismatic entps

[@devynrowe7492]

ENTP in the military makes sense because it promises new places all the time. But I would be surprised if they did more than 4 years cause they found out they are supposed to be subordinate and that people above them do not like to argue with them.

[@jimmygarcia7250]

Thanks for the "cool" compliment at the beginning.

[@humansarenature]

Wow, you're so knowledgable and on point! Definitely going to follow you now. From an ENTP, thank you so much.

[@genie857]

Damn, this resonated with me so much. Lately I realized I'm an ENTP that used to be black and white with my third function, or my Fe. I had so many troubles all because of me being too "abrasive" to others that people and even my family have called me insensitive because of it. Back then I was too confused to understand why I'm "insensitive" without noticing I'm actually detached with how other ppl feels towards me except how I feel about myself. Guess I could say I'm a selfish, insensitive prick that thinks too highly for herself. But then I knew I am actually internally sensitive growing up all because of a horrible childhood. I think I grew some layers because of it. Not until I became 18 my mind opened and I realized actually have an unhealthy Fe. My friends hated me for being so insensitive and blunt. I never realized the way I communicated was a debate to them and that it was actually aggressive, immoral and rude. :((( looking back at it, it's true. (I also apologized and make amends with them after a few years!) It was then I learned to mold my Fe because the Pandemic suddenly happened. I also became in-tuned with my introvert side "50/50". Now I'm 21 and after reflecting and learning a lot about myself during lockdown, I've turned in as an ENTP with a much healthier Fe. I am intuitive and sensitive with my surroundings and others while also being mindful with what myself wants and needs to "act" out. I was even mistyped by some tests as ENFP for having a healthy Fe 🤧😅 I still love a good debate and my bluntness is still there, but this time, I know my third function is healthier and will be more as time comes!

[@messily1456]

I'm an ENFP and I related to *so much* of this video. It just goes to show how easily we can be mistyped. This was a really good fit for me -- surprisingly good -- but not a great fit. The things you said here were triggering in the best way about Si in the 4th function. Thanks!

[@bob-ow2er]

Bless you for making this vid!!!

[@jarrahdahlenburg7785]

Holy shit you’ve retained my attention for over 20 mins hahah

[@iness6838]

thank you very much for the video! it really helped!))I think ENTP is absolutely me on every function!)) I would love to see other ENTP videos from you if possible!) (8 pages of notes lol)

[@FloNorris-ug1jz]

Thank you Sister! YOU are so cool!!

[@Sebastian.Eli.]

This video definitely confirmed my suspicions. Im a complete entp all the way.

[@pallavmishra6660]

Same here Alexis, if i wouldn't be ENTP, i would like to be INTJ

[@eiliyakhalaf9022]

I've had an Entp friend/colleague and it has been an exhausting relationship (for me) ..... while no one is perfect , I recognized many toxic patterns from him that I lost trust from the first tow weeks ... Hi's passionate about a variety of topics and we had intellectual conversations and I really thought we can be friends but then I started catching a lot of lies and superficiality ...like a a lot, I can tell that he likes to be around me and looks for little bit of validation but not really seems to😅 ... I thought I can change him for the better and help him gain sone confidence to be more authentic at least with me but the thought of it was so tiring and there's no way to do that without hurting his feelings or destroying the relationship although I lost hope in us and even with that I am pretty sure he's not going to improve due to the fact that he is always playing defensive mode but I still keeping that to myself and agreeing and playing dumb with him until he got bored ( one day he made a mean comment to one of our friend and I told him about it but he said it's fine because he asked the other friend they told him that nothing happened and and it looked like I was overthinking but I can tell that was hurtful and he manipulated the situation like always).... although I know that this relationship is not going to work and and being around him is so fake draining to me but I keep reminding myself that he is not perfect and just an unhealthy version of entps but using his creative side to play unfair what's made me kind of dislike entps although I know I shouldn't... what do you think of this? I am asking because there's a chance that it's a habit with them and they need more time to open up ..... also English is not my first language I'm sorry if that takes you a lot of time 😅😁 I am an infj and love your videos 😊

[@Mr1998Brandonify]

Coming in with the quick and fast compliments, I shall now subscribe to your channel

[@bluejaytay6030]

I’m an ENTP but my circumstances forced me into ambivert. I think growing up because no one actually paid attention to me I had to use Ti more than I wanted to. I have a handle on my Ti but I’d rather be in Ne but I have a hard time being in Ne because I was taught growing up Ne was bad so I always went into Ti. Many people from my childhood think I’m an introvert because I was always in my head but that’s because I grew up in a cult that didn’t want you to explore the possibilities. It’s crazy to think all my trauma came because I had to suppress my Ne

[@zcalex7660]

Im an ENTP, in my youth i wanted to know how everything worked i was a menace took things apart that i shouldt have etc i was really abrasive tried to win every argument etc this pushed away people, so i felt like i did not fit in to society. My curiosity found drugs and off we went i got tired of drugs after a very intense period trying everything. Because of this im wierd in my core beliefs and rules are made to bend until breakingpoint. I live a clean life now at 35 and have 5 kids healing from some mental abuse.

[@helenshianimation7567]

I am an ENTP, I never thought that an INTJ will not trust us, because INTJs are the only ones I would trust and stay loyal to, but when it comes to INTJs, we don't tell all these nice things to your face, lol.

[@anynamebutmyrealone]

About the values: I think other types really do not understand that we see day to day banter as a game. It is not serious discussion about our core values. I have them, absolutely, but I do not care to share them with random people. I know as I grow older this is what people tend to find offensive, and it kinda is. Because they are not playing a game and I pretty much dismiss their emotions as frivolous discussion points. So yes, I try to become very aware if people are like me in this regard or not.

[@BigPapa64469]

21:20 yes this is basicly what entps are.. we will be what you want us to be in a relationship

[@altrivotzck6565]

But that's not really a good thing. Being able to change for others just means you aren't true to yourself, and, by extension, not true to others, either.

[@BillyBob-lt5nr]

@@altrivotzck6565 In relationships, as long as you let us express and explain our opinions and beliefs, and don't throw too much nonsense at us ('cause we have to address it and it gets exhausting), we ENTPs will be generally accommodating otherwise, we'll do what you want, act how you want, etc. We identify with our mental selves, more than our physical selves Even the way we present our ideas, thoughts and opinions, are much less important to us than the ideas, thoughts and opinions themselves. If you're happy and we're not, we'll assume the relationship is good, and we've got some personal problem unrelated to the relationship. For ENTPs, "changing for others" is more like a social lubricant than a deception. Like reciprocating unfamiliar gestures in a foreign country, you might not know why you're bowing, for example, or what it means, and people seem to be pleased when you do like they do. ENTPs subconsciously engage in a sort of empathic mimicry in an attempt to communicate with people in a way they will be most receptive/comfortable, mostly with strangers or people we don't know well. It's pretty typical for us to adopt a new accent when we move for example (or even when talking to people with accents, it's too much obviously, and very embarrassing, 'cause we know it comes off as patronizing, or worse, a mockery; we're not usually conscious of it at all). We might use certain words we know a person is fond of in the way we've heard that person use them, 'cause we know exactly what that word means to them and there will be clarity for them. We'll even mimic a person's body language. We don't really see any of this as part of our identity anyway, we associate our identity with our ideas, and we'll change whatever we have to to get those ideas transmitted accurately so others can get to know the "us" that we identify with.

[@BigPapa64469]

@@altrivotzck6565 i mean its like that on surface level, but also communication is important to see will it work out in the long run, since we tend to be chameleons to fit in and hide behind a mask, ofcourse no1 can do it forever its a temporary thing to make people comfortable and open up, people get attached to us quickly but we rarely get stimulated enough by them for us to get attached, so we keep being promiscous regarding friends and relationships, getting people attached than not feeling the same way about them aaaaand onto the next person, so we are true to ourselves when we find the person we can remove the "mask" around, for me it was my infj gf and my istj best friend, they both are loyal and thats what i like, if they are loyal i tend to open up since i know they wont leave when i get vulnerable

[@dkperry21]

It’s really interesting to see the chart with the functions broken down. My MBTI came back as ENTP, but I was only 1-2 questions from it being ENTJ, which would give completely different dominant functions

[@tarot_with_Chiraaksha]

I enjoyed this video! Thanks for sharing! Subscribed!

[@exiewasfound]

you know what you are saying and how to explain so well! this video helped me understand my tipe allot, thx :)

[@chujwie4028]

fun fact about us is that we hate when people lie or start adding something to their stories beacuse we can see it, were very sceptical to what you say, but then we do the same thing but being sure you don’t know it’s a lie

[@BigPapa64469]

9:13 a friendly reminder that entps are not that extroverted we are more of introverts

[@f.p1758]

It really is 50/50 Cos b4 cognitive functions I had zero evidence in my mind that I was an extrovert But I am one (tt "prefers" extrovert), esp in the group of introverts :)

[@BigPapa64469]

@@f.p1758 yes but we need that recharge time that introverts have...if we dont have recharge time we are dead inside and outside..i agree its more of a 50 50 but everyone thinks we are full on extroverts..yes maybe when we are like 40 or 30 but when we are young we are more of introverts and little bit later we become more and more extraverted

[@samueldacricketer]

There was so much wisdom in this video. Thank you. What are you studying?

[@caglaoner771]

I’m so grateful for this video as an entp woman

[@jonglenister8140]

I'm an ENTP and I have my own channel but no one listens to it because ive made myself very unpopular with my "cOnTrOvErSiAl OpInIoNs". obviously I dont care but what I do care about is peoples inability to sense the humour in what im saying. as much as ENTP's are "the debater" we are also "the comedian" and I think this gets overlooked or misunderstood by a lot of people, especially in an age where being offended can be used as a tool of power. this is a shame as I would say that humour is actually the best way to get people to see things from a different perspective, which is the real intention of the ENTP. we dont just go around starting arguments with people just to cause drama. anyway, listen to this episode where I basically debate myself on the subject of suicide, let me know if you think im just "poking the bear" and "being a contrarian" or if im actually making good points with humour in order to provoke thought? kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZy7pKl_Z96KrrM

[@saradoka4539]

As an ENTP, well done 😜😎😎

[@GUIDE_Nico]

32:30 I needed to hear that 😭

[@Sleepybear6032]

When I tested it, it came INTP, but I am a 100% sure I am an ENTP. Yes, I am introverted with a certain group, but with the others, I am extraverted af! It all depends on how much I know them and for how long.

[@grathado28]

In your video you ask if we really liked it or not when we learn something new the answer is, just about everything is pretty interesting

[@sydneyperson1336]

this video is a godsend

[@Lucid.Insights]

LOL, never been happier to be an ENTP.

[@danielmagnus5239]

Informative!

[@Niveous23]

I actually used to debate myself all the time. I'd divide myself into sub categories and pit myself in a pretty grueling battle against myself. Spoilers: I lost, but I also won in the end. It was a very classic underdog sorta tale.

[@LeeLam-xj9bd]

I want Si so bad. im 35 now and im starting to see the value in it.

[@filipepavesi6366]

Amazing video!

[@pikoujimbok]

debating with someone who’s always correct gets boring sometimes

[@solairegwyn8761]

XXTJ types oof...

[@BBond88]

True, our proclivity to need to explore new things, and our ability to argue can make us a bit hard to be with if other factors don’t balance us out. I was quite the fucker for a long time, I still am but I’m more clever and endearing with it now, and more importantly loyal

[@amnezija2]

What is with entps and debating? Such a weird misconception. I am an entp and though I do enjoy debating someone from time to time people seem to think that the whole purpose of entps life is to debate everyone even their mom. I don't debate everyone for no reason because that would ruin our relationship. Being an asshole is a choice, not a personality type, stop with this "arrogant asshole" entp stigma

[@pikoujimbok]

@@amnezija2 debating is just fun. when stereotyping a general group of people, people tend to hyperfocus on a certain attribute(ie: infps are sad, isfjs are mom, estps are players). the only reason people act like entps are constantly debating all the time is because its a funny stereotype to focus on, which you canr really get mad at in a community basically centered around stereotyping

[@BBond88]

@@amnezija2 “I’m an exception to a generalization and I’m going to only react to the possible negative aspect of my personality type.. just stop it!” Wow bruv, simp much?

[@grathado28]

Lol journaling that's hilarious I would never journal 2 egotistical 😂

[@franckydanger7536]

Super nice video ! :)

[@ADeeSHUPA]

33:33 Futuristic

[@JonBrase]

19:25 There's a lot of autism+ADHD in the xNTP corner, and autistic individuals tend to have poor eye contact (either no impulse to seek eye contact or active distress at eye contact). Since everybody else uses eye contact as a truthfulness signal, this may give a dishonest vibe, which is unfortunate given that extreme honesty is significantly more common (but not universal) among autists than in the general population. Ti tends to internally ask a ton of "what if" questions and overqualify statements, which also might give a shifty, uncommitted vibe ("I might be hit by a bus tomorrow, so I'd better not make any 100% guarantees as to whether I can do smart he's asking).

[@Mediation_is_the_Solution]

You did a great job

[@Foxiesz]

im an entp and was in the military. You get sent places without your consent (and for free!) and get to see new things good and bad, whats not to love? (That is untill you realize the contract is serious lol)

[@MafiaGamer9231]

This is such a good video

[@Traditionally_Tanya]

ENTP’s tend to be polymaths.

[@zhoumei6]

Such bravery:) !!!!!!

[@vctuberista]

Yeah, we're coool --- ;-) Thanks!