EP 13: Facing Fears of Perception

Join me, Megan Ashley, as we navigate through spiritual exploration in our latest conversation about finding our true identity and standing firm in our faith. I open up about my own battles and the importance of seeking approval from God rather than from people.
In this solo episode, we tackle the difficult emotions that come with the fear of negative perception and the struggle to prioritize God's opinion over that of others. Hear about the enlightening shift from caring about what others think for the sake of acceptance to living as a true representative of Christ's love and teachings. I share insights into the journey of maturing in faith, learning to accept that not being liked by everyone is a normal part of life, and the liberation that comes with this understanding.
Other topics you will hear:
-Insecurities
-Perception
-Maturity
-Validation
-Gratitude
-Encouragement
-Intimacy
-Authentic Living
-Spiritual Growth
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[@lemogangmonnahela9091]

This is the type of content that take people off ledges in a world where many chase after dopamine to numb their pain and silence the noise in their heads. I've battled so much too with caring much what people thought about me which made me feel shameful but as I've begun to really trust and believe God and what he says about me, all that shame just disappeared as long as I kept my focus on him and his word.

[@nichellejohnson6040]

Sooooo true!!!

[@zenqueen3473]

My autistic kiddo smiles every time he sees you on the screen or hears the intro song. Thank you for being a light❤

[@youmatter2god552]

Absolutely beautiful 🥹❤️🙏🏽

[@ChayYP]

beautiful!

[@FindingNeli]

It’s the fact that we can do nothing without him, not even truly love. The fact that even the measure of faith, trust and love in us is a grace from God.

[@shaquillekiragu]

This 100%, we are entirely dependent upon God. Humbling but also liberating, since we have the power of an infinite God working in and through us.

[@ashleyjones3092]

This podcast is for the real students!! So glad the teacher has arrived 🙏🏾

[@shemiah.m]

I felt every bit of this!... In tightening up my relationship with Christ, I'm realizing that God allows those "people" experiences to show us ourselves... the areas that we still need to work on and those things we've surpassed! It's the best feeling knowing you've grown past who you once were because you now understand more of who you are and your purpose! Those things/people that don't align always shows themselves and then also remove themselves because they don't or no longer have a place... I'm understanding that it's all necessary to weed out what isn't nourishing to the journey to make room for all that is, to build on solid foundation. Megan, your gift is making room for you!! And it's beautiful to witness!🛖❤

[@cierrapollard1743]

God sees you, girl💕 Stay the course! Praying for you🙏🏾❤️

[@LuNeleh]

This is so beautiful and I’m only in the first 20 minutes. The first 20 minutes I had a revelation about my timing to responses, knowing WHO God is my reactions to things took way too long to turn to him. Why did I dwell on a situation when I know WHO God is, my flesh is feeling hurt, mad, etc. I noticed how quicker I am NOW to go straight to GOD, not talk to others about something but immediately to him. ❤ Thank you Megan for being a vessel!

[@_DearDiary__]

I literally almost scream hearing the first few minutes of this on the podcast app !!! Literally the last two days this has been my prayer and my silent conversations with God. God was showing me in order to stop being a people pleaser, you have to figure out why it’s not important to you to please me first instead of people. I woke up today and said I was going to continue doing my podcast and talk about my personal experience with “people pleasing”.

[@EvolvingMama_]

4:45 precisely everything I’ve been trying to overcome for 90% of my life 😮‍💨 when I realized that every decision I’ve made has been connected to my insecurity! I’ve been working hard to solidify my identity in Christ but it’s so foreign to me 🙏🏾 my baseline is fear and doubt 🥺

[@LeeAnnHawkins7]

Holy Spirit thank you for the conviction and the confirmation. Thank you for using Megan to do it. I told my sister the other day I want to be unbothered and peaceful. I’m naturally unbothered and petty, which really isn’t unbothered. 🙄 Lord I seek you, I want to please you, I want you to receive the glory and I only want to receive your love! I want to be your acceptable image bearer! Amen!

[@alexislilly]

I prefer the solo episodes I just loveeeeee hearing from you Megan

[@Lydia_m]

A wooooord. I have been feeling this conviction for a long time. I have finally surrendered to pleasing God in all my ways and let me tell you, I've never had so much peace in my life.

[@shaylasherrill5061]

Megan I struggle with a lot of the things you struggle with & your podcasts are truly eye openers . I love how we’re learning and growing together❤ it makes me feel like SOMEBODY gets it!

[@ricofamily3237]

That's why I enjoy your podcast because you talk on topics that are so relatable to what we all go through then you bring it back to God on how we can overcome everything when we always seek to God 🙏🏼 Its a blessing that every EPISODE I've watched IM ALWAYS GUIDED BACK TO SEEKING GOD FIRST🙏🏼 Thank you & thank you for pouring into us🌹🙏🏼✨️

[@livenowliveright8509]

Oh sweet Megan, my heart melted. I’ve struggled with females relationships myself and it hurts😢. I recently walked away from a friendship of twenty years. It is painful, but I trust God. Staying somewhere and you cannot be seen authentically as God sees you is a disservice for you and that person. I believe God is with you both. Pray for her/them, and pray to God to bless you with the correct people for you. Put your time into fulfilling God purpose for you. You’ll look back and realized that this was the best decision God made tor you. I’m praying for you😘🙏🏾😘

[@darneeshaleonard634]

This was so timely. I’m in the same place it’s took me 33 years being so worried about what others think of me instead of what God says about me. I’m tired whew! I just want to follow God and just want to please him. I needed this! Thank you Megan for your obedience and transparency you are truly a gem ❤

[@malia3322]

I needed this message. God is always on time, Megan thank you for being such an amazing Jesus Advocate Kingdom Ambassador 💕God bless you!

[@theonly.erionna]

I thank God for a podcast like this bc Megan you can never stir me wrong! It’s so inspirational and I that pray God keeps shining his light through you and your family!🫶🏽💕🙏🏽

[@Gelly333]

You are GLOWING!

[@thebakdrop]

I'm with you Megan, im a quote kind of girl. But when I let God do his work and i say let not because i had any authority to order him to but because it required my willingness and openness and surrender... girrllllll i dont know where Miss Petty is. I sometimes miss her. But it has also become a reminder that whenever Miss Petty comes around i realize im letting the enemy in and not drawing closer to God. Because Miss Petty and God can not coexist AT ALL. praise Jesus.

[@barrash9]

Megan, Megan, Megan I NEEDED this.. whew, I didnt know that I was personally dealing with this until God revealed that I had this but with my family. I was so determined to get their approval, to get their acceptance and validation for when God told me something, I would go to them for "Validation" and God had to get me together like "How are you going to seek validation from the creation about the creator?" And when I tell you, had me ON HUSH MODE. I was like OMG.

[@Beautifullyflawed824]

Every podcast doesn’t need an interviewee. This was necessary!😊❤🙏🏾👊🏾

[@La_Leocadia]

Im so grateful for this woman. ✨

[@iamalonna]

Thank you so much for your obedience! I definitely agree wholeheartedly. We have to do what’s pleasing to God by any means necessary, everything in love and compassion but we have to answer to God at the end of it all. We must stay grounded and rooted in the principles of the word of God. I love you Meg! KEEP GOING!!

[@natashawalker3054]

Thank you. God used you to confirm what I "SHOULD" be doing in this season but sometimes my flesh undermines me. Surrendering to God my heart and "ALL THE AREAS THAT CONCERN ME"..a much better way to address these areas. I literally cannot do anything on my own but with CHRIST ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. Thank you God for this vessel. May you continue to use her to reach others like me. Protect, provide and prepare her Lord. In Jesus name I say again - THANK YOU🙏🏿

[@itsmyhairiwear]

This episode hit on so many levels. It just about brought tears to my eyes seeing God actively work through you and it’s helping me in my walk. Thank you Jesus 🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️

[@jhaslett03]

Every episode so far has been amazing. You are so special ❤ thank you for your continued obedience in God ❤❤❤❤❤

[@hellothere8347]

GOD IS GOOD! God is working! God is ON TIME! God is love! thank you for being obedient. ❤

[@The_Poetic_Locksmith]

I needed this…I have struggled to release the betrayal and misperception from my best friend of 10 years. I was blindsided and never saw her heart posture towards me coming my way. Love and real friendship is all I had to give. It’s almost like I was a burden in her life and was sacrificed in order for her light to shine. The opinions of others affected me right after to where I developed trust issues and even afraid to allow anyone else in my friend space. Thank you for the clarity and transparency 💚

[@MyeshaMarie]

This episode definitely sums up how I’m feeling in this season. 33 just now figuring out my identity, who God says I am. I am an only child so I understand internalizing things. Wow!! You just gave words to all the feelings I’m having. This was so good I needed to hear this.

[@nikola2812]

Megan, you're just so beautiful inside and out. I can tell that you're the most amazing Mum, Daughter, Friend and anyone would be so lucky to have you in their lives! Thanks for being obedient and always sharing your wisdom. 💗

[@cryptobagz]

Noah didnt believe God when he told him to build an arc because he never saw a flood. Despite his discouragements and being ridiculed by his neighbours, he still obeyed God and was able to save his family when the great flood arrived. When you obey Gods calling and follow his leadership principles, you'll be blessed beyond measure. Stay blessed and thank you for being vulnerable telling your story

[@benzbodyambassadors7206]

I love that you’re really being transparent through this walk

[@tlais4883]

I’ve recently learned that you can’t care so much about what ppl think bc people minds ALWAYS change!

[@TrynaWurkitout]

JAKA- JESUS ADVOCATE, KINGDOM AMBASSADOR!!! IM HERE FOR IT!!!🎉❤

[@daniella6920]

I'm so happy that I watched this instead of something else because I'm really struggling with being a people pleaser and I'm asking God to help me to stop because I don't know how. Also it's OK if you feel like you don't have much to say when you're doing the video by yourself because you said what needed to be said so it's enough .

[@laquebra24]

Why did you speak directly to me!!! Girl It feels so good to know that I am not the only one only person who struggles with the same insecurities. Thank you for sharing

[@teralewis1604]

Meagan, you’re helping me in so many ways that you don’t know. I thank God for you teaching. It’s like he’s using YOU to speak through me. Thank God for you seriously. Thank you.

[@creshondiarucker6025]

🛖 Acknowledged him in all your ways and he shall direct your path. My Favorite scripture

[@RemelTerry]

I started this video a month ago and finally came back today. God’s timing is perfect. I needed to hear this today. No one is perfect, so we can not cower to the hypocritical projections, expectations, and judgment of another imperfect person. We all can be better image bearers.

[@Wavyfeels]

4:46 I love your solo episodes they’re honestly my favorite. Don’t get me wrong guest are cool but I love to just listen to YOU speak.

[@greenegirllifestyles]

Facts, she's so genuine and Holy Spirit filled, I just love sis❤

[@journeywithqueen]

I absolutely love the transparency ❤

[@only1dwill]

The Christmas tree part is cracking me upppp!! 😂❤🙌🏾

[@kyeashapeterson398]

Megan said “My number one priority is to please God first before pleasing everybody else” 👏👏 This is a word!!!! 🙌Sometimes in life we try to please other people and that’s gets us no where. God is a jealous God! We put no man before him. I am learning this. I grew up also in the church as a child but sometimes we grow up. We do things that is not pleasing to God, like worshiping people as if they are God. I am focusing on pleasing him first then everything else will fall in place 🙏🏾👏 #ThankyouMeganforyourplatform❤😊

[@Mika_T_0317]

Because you have fully owned your story and are willing to share, you have helped me to own mine. I have/am experiencing the same things. So I take heart this verse as an encouragement. "Being afraid of people can get you into trouble. But if you trust the Lord, you will be safe" - Proverbs 29:25

[@zuleikaramos122]

The wayyyy this resonated with me. I struggled with this my wholeeee life and ever since i gave my life to Christ this has been hugeeee. He reveals to me everything seekkk for me first.

[@consultingwithciera]

Matthew 6:33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

[@akilahdormoy8020]

I'm just 19 minutes in and feel so filled. I needed this message in this season of my life. Thank you for allowing God to use you! 💖

[@valeriemusic1]

Thank you soo much !!! I needed to hear this, because I am in the same way! I cared so much about what people thinks of me rather what God Thinks of me. I reach a broken point, and I fall upon your podcast 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@chandiamond8546]

This was a great episode and spoke to me directly. A lot more people relate to you than you probably realize. Keep showing us what a true GODLY walk looks like Meg!

[@destinyblack2161]

I related to everything you said i was an only child for 11 years. I just recently realized i had convinced myself that didn’t care what ppl think but actually still did care a lot. I love you Meg the Don💪🏾

[@Tori_Lynee]

Your experience as an only child and feeling like that drove you to seek the approval of others really resonated with me. I am not the only child, but I am the oldest of three and the only girl. I always wanted a sister who could be my lifetime best friend.

[@DALILAINNERVIEW]

Thank you Meg 💕

[@ericahires3818]

I love solo episodes! So crazy how I needed this episode!

[@Uni_111]

Girl, I can resonate with this soooo much. Relationships that are no longer present. Whew! 🙏🏾

[@makaya_nichols]

i really needing to hear this, i’ve been struggling with this for years and it was hard for me to make decisions for myself because i was seeking approval from others. it would be so many opinions that i would be stuck and God would’ve been the last one to seek for answers. thank you for having the heart to be used by God i pray for more blessings in your life ❤

[@beautyforashes1514]

Thank you sister for your transparency. This is the work of the Lord🫶🏾💕

[@barbarasaunders6989]

Thank you Megan for sharing. ❤

[@jordanries6607]

Just in response to the intro.. Megan always treat this as a journey!! Life is a journey, you will never be perfect. God made us this way! Just keep being you & expect God will make it great because you are glorifying Him! Keep it real ❤❤ Prayers to you ❤️

[@lashantasalter3371]

Thank you for being vulnerable

[@Kenesha_]

Love love love this episode! Very timely as I start my fast. 🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thanks Megan!

[@lakeyiaharvey9942]

You are an example of how smoothly God can move someone into the person he called them to be. You just spoke what I been dealing with. Wonderful content

[@Neshiadays]

If taking your thoughts (false imaginations) captive and bringing them to the obedience of Christ was a person. 2 COR 10;3-5. Thank you so much for your journey, and your encouragement. ❤

[@myrnammadeit]

Not that I balled out in tears of how on time this is. I felt called to delete social media platforms and this was on time!

[@PatriciaTheChosen1]

This was much needed on my behalf. I know exactly what you're talking about I've experienced this same thing being an only child and caring about what people think! I am allowing God to change that insecurity within me! Keep letting God shine on and in you! God bless you 💜!!

[@Rehema287]

24:24 was for me. Thank you Megan! ❤

[@ManiyaGrice]

Girrrl this was for ME! Thank you for allowing God to speak through you. Literally experienced the same thing. God bless you 🩷

[@__yingg__]

🤍You are a true blessing from God Thankyou Megan, keep blessing the world!

[@nuessencephotography4295]

We Love you too MeganAsh!!!!!

[@MissShaneice]

I enjoy watching this Megan! You're doing such a great job.

[@melodymartinez7855]

ONE OF MY FAVORITE EPISODES EVER!!!!! Learned SO MUCH wrote down SO MUCH thank you Megan Ashley 👏🏾👏🏾

[@daniella6920]

I'm so happy for you and I can definitely see the growth and change that has happend in your life because of God.

[@azbeautifullwoman5712]

Megan Bless you for your truth...Enjoyed every minute, what a blessing 🙌🏾 ❤

[@Natanya6885]

This helped me! Praise God!

[@LynaeBarnett]

This is so good! This spoke to me so much! God Bless you and I pray God continues to do this awesome work in you ❤

[@EmergencyBeatsByCiCi]

I feel this soooooooooo much!! You have know idea!!!❤

[@Bodybyhelen]

I NEEDED THIS! Thank you so much.

[@PassionsForHer]

An on time word! Thank you for sharing❤

[@Bri_Views]

Thank you Thank you 🙏🏾

[@beyondblessedministy]

Girl you Bless my soul

[@HoneyAmb]

I can definitely relate to looking for a quote or a song instead of looking to God. Thank you for talking to yourself bc I love listening! ❤

[@tiyat1]

This episode I have been WAITING FOR MEGAN!! Thank you so much for allowing God to speak through you and shine His wisdom through you!!! You hold and share such an amazing God given gift! I LOVE YOUR SOLO EPISODES!! There is so much light I learn even more in your solos! Thank you for being so open and being your authentic self thats why I even love you even more! I have been following your journey for so long and I am soooo SO grateful that you get me and I believe paths are aligned! I so happy for you and I continue to pay for you

[@queenbandy3669]

My Tree still UP TOO🥰 Keep shining! Love your Light!💫💫

[@milaharrpieternella1041]

I totally can relate to this as an only child myself. Is like a mirror to me. Thank you for your vulnerability!

[@Elexis715]

Megan, God bless you. I am so thankful that you are sharing this platform with us. You have so many people rooting for you. ❤️ this is one of my favorite podcasts 🥺💗 I look forward to this podcast weekly. Keep going Megan ❤️

[@Am_314]

I needed this thank you Megan we’re so hard on ourselves and don’t realize until someone brings it to your attention at constant or God reminds you to give yourself grace. ❤

[@keturahdavis784]

You are loved first and foremost by God but also we love you Meg. Period ❤

[@dmt7808]

Hey Meagan, I love how you have been obedient to God. If we can get, the whole world to do. What a joyous day it will be 🎉🎉🎉 I also have been trying to subscribe to you ever since you started this podcast. It keeps giving me an error message every time.

[@iamashiab8292]

Right on time Megan! I really needed to hear this!❤

[@lashantasalter3371]

I’m loving these episodes! This was a good one.

[@meganscott5434]

This message truly resonated with me! I’m an only child and I recently realized I’ve spent majority of my life wanting so many “friends” and people pleasing. If I ever wasnt invited to an outing with friends or associates I found myself hurt, thinking why wasn’t I invited? Recently I took a break from social media bc I was experiencing FOMO whenever I wasn’t invited to an outing and it has helped. I’ve also turned to Christ bc I’m done trying to seek the validation of others and not seek the validation of God. I’m a work in progress but I know I’m headed in the right direction.

[@theeonly_jojo8126]

I needed this may God continue to bless your words of wisdom ❤.

[@Taylor_Made_]

Loved this! ❤️ Keep pushing Megan! 💪🏽

[@trustlfspr0ces328]

You are always right on time for me when it comes to topics 👏🏾

[@Brandi5_9]

Thank you for being obedient and working to please Him. There has not been one episode where you haven’t touched on something I NEEDED to hear ❤

[@SMH.1992]

Love you Meg! 🛖🛖❤

[@justbeingoctavia]

Megan you are such a breath of fresh air! This was such a soul fuelled video and I’m so thankful that I followed your social media handles, after watching you on the Moms Actually YT channel! So many gems were dropped in this chat and many that I hadn’t thought about in reflection to my journey and how it has shaped the woman I am today. I am also an only child and very much can relate to your expierences of feeling introverted and that yearning to have a sibling around. Also the whole music thing regarding thoughts and feelings, I too used to do that a lot if I felt a particular way😅 however thank you for encouraging us to take our concerns/worries to God instead 👏🏾 I could write all day but I just wanted to say thank you for your service and may God continue to bless you and your loved ones. Love and blessings from the UK 🇬🇧

[@Ta_meisha]

Thank You for this ❤🙏🏾

[@terajaeali-betts9922]

Loved This !!!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@lilithasitemela]

Thank you so much for this.❤❤❤❤