Ep. 137 | Direction (with T.K. Coleman)

Joshua & Ryan chat with T.K. Coleman about goals, direction, standards, and expectations. Watch “Maximal” episodes of The Minimalists Private Podcast exclusively at / theminimalists
Questions answered in this episode:
How do I determine what’s most important to me so I can shape my professional and personal goals around it? (15:48)
How do I pursue my interests and simultaneously purge my guilt for not attending college? (39:05)
What can I use to motivate me to take action on challenging pursuits that interest me? (1:16:02)
How do I find the right direction when I realize I’m going the wrong way? (1:27:47)
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[@MrKingJavo]

T.K. is great! Love having him on the show. Would love to see him do more of these in the future. Great show guys!

[@ThirdEyeFitness]

Thank you for bringing TK Coleman on the podcast. Love what he shares on pretty much everything!

[@SosReelThoughts]

T.K. is so wonderful! Love him! Also this was one of your best episodes.

[@purplekarma7592]

Hi Josh & Ryan, this is a fantastic podcast. T. K. Coleman is so inspiring , I could listen to him all day long. He really knows how to get a message across. Big Hugs from Australia🇦🇺🐨🙋🏼‍♀️

[@sagessedantan]

"No one has a clue" - Amen to that! We're all just doing our best. Thanks for another amazing episode :)

[@davidthomasla]

17:04 "We mistake productivity... with something that is actually worthwhile." - JFM.... This one hit me pretty hard (in a good way).

[@serralizabeth]

Love this! Extremely grateful to listen to yall and take in your knowledge and wisdom!

[@jennifercoco2747]

This was so amazing and fabulous!!! This was everything I’ve thought my entire life in a podcast!!! Love love love!!! Thank you All three of you guys are so amazing!!!

[@hannahmariajones7531]

i’m enjoying this lighting - i don’t need to see every pimple on their faces but it’s great to see them react/talk to each other 👌🏼

[@tierneycreates]

I wish you could make T.K. Coleman the third Minimalist, the three of you have wonderful chemistry and energy. Thanks for having T.K. on for a second time!

[@hannahmariajones7531]

this podcast was SO relevant to my life right now. many excellent points raised by all - loved this one 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@natashyas4149]

The cost of traditional education has a very high cost of being wrong. That's why the question and pressure of "getting it right" for "the rest of our life" is such a big thing. Discover through experimentation as nature intended, what we like /don't like. I love the depth of TK's thinking. Prioritize discovery over dogma.

[@petitecassette8603]

I'd like to share a bit of my story and my experience through seeking out what I want to do with my life. I just turned 30 yo, and as Cliché as it may sound, it made me think and sum up my 20s and realize I am still not in the professional place I wish I was, and it made me even more sad to realize that most of my friends, sometimes younger, were persuing their dreams and becoming what they felt what was meant to be for them. First of all, I now realise that it might not be the case for all of them, and some might be struggling more than they "look"… but if they are in fact happy, then I'm happy for them and it's awesome. Like really. Secondly… I realised something even more important (to me). When I was 17, my mom got even more sick than she ever was before and it got really bad. My parents kept it a secret for a long time and we're not good communicators in our family. Lots of taboos. So this had litterally dropped into my life as a young insecure teenager girl who had to fill in university papers, check "future career choice" cases, and answer lots of existential questions (if that doesn't make sense, I'm french, I'm trying my best to be fluent English). I have struggled so bad through this crises and I was all alone in the big city of Paris I had just moved into as a student. Whatever I was doing, I was continually worried for my parents, concerned about them and suffering a lot. I had tried lots and lots for my mother to get better and realised there was nothing I could do. I could not rely on my parents for any of my own existencial questions they were busy taking care of my mother. It took me 10 years to draw the line between what I could do for them, and take the selfish decision to try and be happy without them. My priorities in life are building a stronger, more honnest and tabooless relationship with a family of my own. And I may not be the photographer, illustrator, barista or whatever other passion I have and that I'd like to be more, but I can safely say that I have true friends that matter so much to me, and a boyfriend I am building such a strong relationship with. I finally realised that making myself sad for not being the professional I want to be is not seeing what I was really busy doing all these years: searching for my own family. You know how most of the time, the answer is right there, underneath your eyes or your feet… you're already two steps into what you want. Sometimes it's just a matter of looking away from what is causing you hurt. And finally facing what you've done best, and do more of it. Do I make sense ? Today I live in tiny studio apartment, it costs me close to nothing per month, which makes any minimum wage worth so much more I can finally save money for treats, projects, tatoos I want and other quirks I'm into. Minimalism has been a true benefit for my everyday life. Living tiny has helped cut off so much stuff, uplifting me like a balloon who got rid of all these bags dragging it below cloud levels. I'm now above those clouds. Still looking for a better job, but not feeling bad about it any more. Thank you for reading me. I hope my story can help and or inspire someone. I'm also interested in feedback. Thank you guys from The Minimalists I love your channel.

[@petitecassette8603]

Thank you modern philosophers. You add very much to my daily thinking/meditating/sometimesStruggles.

[@natashyas4149]

TK is one of my favorite guests. Thank you for continuing to bring him on!

[@katrinacharlotte4401]

I'm Katrina with the wedding question. Took Ryan's advice from the private podcast. On our invite we said, "Your presence is the only gift desired no gifts please." Worked out great because we did a surprise move before the wedding and didn't really have room for gifts in our new place. Thank you!

[@mai_m92]

Loved this episode! Would love to see T.K. as a guest again sometime in the future, if possible. This one and the school episode are definitely some of my favorite, wish I had found out about you guys a couple of years ago when I was about to start college. Thank you all and keep up the good work! :)

[@AkS143joyful]

This.is.amazing. It is so neat to see it live!!!!! Whohooo

[@maxscheinin1203]

I like T.K.'s analogy for passion obstacles, or your passion as chasing your dog and coming up to a fence. I have never thought of passion this way, but it makes so much sense. Before I have just given up on my interests if I felt bored or if I wasn't moving forward easily, but this discussion motivates me to move forward with some of my ideas and pursuits despite some big obstacles that have come up for me; such as leaving college senior year, family and health problems. In the meantime in trying to relieve myself of stress and guilt for not finishing projects and goals, I will keep following y'all and watching your podcasts. Thanks guys!

[@garrardmcclendon1]

You have to give the brother better lighting. Don't be a minimalist when lighting African Americans.

[@freshlookbykatrina4524]

I appreciated your contents so much. It would be nice to show your face and the face of your guests. I wished you could brighten up your room and background 🙏💕

[@freshlookbykatrina4524]

I appreciated your contents so much. It would be nice to show your face and the face of your guests. I wished you could brighten up your room and background 🙏💕

[@EmeliaSings]

"Santa Claus is coming to town" could be a great horror movie song! Honestly, just imagine this guy dressed up as santa with a creepy santa mask (purge style) going around on a killing spree in a lovely neighbourhood in the winter. Right? Sorry T.K.

[@metavatar]

2018: nothing beats face to face, in person 2020: rip Yolo 🤷‍♂️

[@duckducks1234]

Needed this

[@thebackup44th]

Playing this from KZbin but onto another tab as I'm working on something while listening. I just noticed, The Minimalists don't have chairs for podcasts? :)

[@arithmetikmilitantpoetry9548]

This podcast came at exactly the right time and the reason I wanted to thank both of you from the bottom of my heart. I'm currently in the process of switching careers after a serious workplace accident and a torn rotator-cuff.

[@shantel7107]

This is exactly what I have been feeling this year, getting close to 50. "What am I going to do for the rest of my life". I don't feel I'm where I should be at this age or have anything to fall back on.

[@purplekarma7592]

Forgot to say, my Pakt one bags are due for delivery tomorrow, I am so excited and so is my daughter as I got one for her too🤗🤗🤗Big Hugs from Australia 🇦🇺🐨🙋

[@anata.g.4966]

I just love your ideas I am learning so much from you. For me this episode is sooo relevant . I tend to feel like i failed in life because i dont have a great career and it allowed me to re- think about it .. i defenetly need to hear it more. Thank you guys so much .

[@purplekarma7592]

Hi Josh and Ryan from Australia. 1st message for this podcast. Big Hugs from Australia 🇦🇺🐨🙋

[@phyliciajoykloes]

Another great talk. Heck yes. 🤗🤗🤗 58:00

[@Chukijay]

No adverts but it’s advertising the first 15 minutes. I get it, it has to be done but that’s a large chunk of the overall time.

[@nevinwebster]

J W it's quality content all the same

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[@as-coachingworldwide2051]

The Minimalists so guys you keep your rule of no ads but you may promote people and companies, just like in this video in future?

[@fpl_bailey]

Wow this is something special. Great episode!

[@emmatessier600]

Thoroughly enjoying this! Great insights!

[@danrymertrenholme7977]

This is just absolutely great stuff!

[@chelseanicole9287]

Love Love Love!!

[@mmkattb]

This was awesome. Have a bunch of people I will be forwarding this to 👍🏻