Ep. 4 How To Stop Playing Small and Let Your Light Shine!

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Welcome to my Channel. I'm Tami, a Jamaican woman born and raised on my beautiful Island home, Jamaica.
A former singer/songwriter (PKA: Tami Chynn) turned entrepreneur, I'm a MULTI-POTENTIALITE who's done everything from own and operate a full service salon to having my own radio show.
I've been married to my Husband (Wayne : PKA Wayne Marshall) for almost 14 years and I'm a mom of 3 beautiful sons (Jax 9yrs, Atlas 6yrs and Oz 3yrs) and my 1 and only daughter, Ivy (7mths). I also have a beautiful, blended family, from time to time you will meet Wayn'e eldest son (my bonus boy) Gio (17yrs)
Almost 3years ago, we started a family VLOG "Meet The Mitchells" and it's been an incredible journey so far.
AND now...
Here I am, ready to share about anything and everything... Motherhood, Marriage, Recipes, Beauty, Lifestyle and whatever lies between. I also want to foster great conversations and make this a safe space for women...especially my Caribbean Women all over the world!!!
Hope you enjoy and cant wait to go on this journey with you.
BIG LOVE ♥️
Tami

[@iamwinningrightnow]

You 2 are a riot. I just love it. Keep it up! With so many negatives to contend with, this is a breath of fresh air. "The greatness within me is always there." True.

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Thanks so much!!!!

[@girlyespodcastandcommunity7825]

“Children are born knowing who they are and we teach them how to forget… our life’s duty is to go back find the essence of who you are” - TAC … that hit me like a ton of bricks!

[@mattie3552]

Zaia’s expression is priceless. Practicing her hairdressing skills like auntie Terry. No judgment here normal part of childhood.

[@crystallue8167]

Tammy I am one of those subscribers and “first cousins” who was truly impacted by your decision to create meet the Mitchell’s during the pandemic, it really kept me sane in ways I can’t fully explain but the sharing of your experiences and pieces of life and family is so refreshing and so relatable, I am so grateful for your courage to do it.

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Wow, thank you!!! You honestly don’t know what it means to me!! 🤗🤗🤗

[@pinkyd1984]

Me tooooooooooooooooooooooo🎉❤

[@susanjbrown3436]

The problem with me is, I always settle for less than what I want, need, or deserve. I make everybody happy, while I myself am absolutely miserable. But, I'm sick and tired of people peeing down my leg and trying to telling me that it is showers of blessing.🇯🇲

[@charmaineanthony3913]

Mama Oprah says “NO” is a full sentence. I have struggled with this because I’m a people pleaser but the older I have gotten its gotten easier saying “No” !!!

[@gillian5950]

Not telling someone when you are unhappy with your hair or nails - guilty of that!! Not telling people how you really feel and wanting perfection!! Always a pick off things offa people and dem run mi. We have to enjoy the moment and turn your mess into a message. Wi Haffi stop small up wi self!!

[@nothingpower2549]

Tami you are so right. Not having a perfect life IS the magic! Thank you for keepin it real! We love Meet the Mitchells

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Absolutely!! Thanks for that 🤗🤗🤗

[@nadinehaughton-bi8to]

All I saw was a home. A home that was lived in, normal, warm. It screamed people live here and we are a family. I loved that about a home because that makes it a home. I hate museum like homes. Don’t walk there, don’t sit there, that is for this, this is for that. Just live in your home and love.

[@anavick9414]

​@@nadinehaughton-bi8to Amen!

[@afimiown4294]

Tess “still here” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Tessanne]

By di grace a God

[@afimiown4294]

Zaia has the BIGGEST smile on her face so it’s really hard not to laugh about this haircut. Her hair will grow back soon enough

[@Tessanne]

Listen… well pleased wid herself

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

It surely will

[@soniahanley8665]

@@Tessanne 😊😊

[@anavick9414]

​@@Tessanne 😂😂😂😂

[@maureenmiles3951]

Ever children do that I love the vibes I have a😅 every time tessi have a infectious😅 one ❤❤

[@swashinafranceco5544]

I love this space you create to encourage us ladies that its possible to be our authentic self an we can achieve anything we want once we commit thank you ladies ❤❤

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

That’s it’s Swashina!!!

[@lydias.w.7524]

Ladies🎉 Moms of children 🎉 I have 3 children (boy, girl, boy) the bigger boy cuts out a huge part of his sister's hair and the smaller boy shaved both his eyebrows (not at the same time) during school time. Children will ALWAYS BE CURIOUS not matter how much they are watched/monitored. Parents..... I think won't judge ❤. Beautiful space, T & T.

[@Tessanne]

Lawd Jesus 😂

[@sophiaferguson7704]

New Space... Great View... Awsome Ladies, Tami and Tessi amazing things are happening here, We Luv you ❤

[@abernard347]

TAMI YOU ARE SO REAL YOU STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR HOME AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY. YOU DIDNOT SUGAR COAT NOTHING YOU JUST SHARE IT TO US AS IT IS THANK YOU AGAIN.

[@lornamoore9222]

Love when you guys sing together! So heavenly!! Thank you so very very much!! I just love Tessi laughing! Feel better little sister!!

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Thanks so much🤗🤗🤗

[@annmariemiller8384]

My 4 years old son did that. Cut his eye brows off🤣🤣🙏❤❤

[@earthstrong_nat]

I could just listen you both talk about anything. Thank you Tessi for showing up for us and I hope you are feeling better. ❤

[@djandejdoitall7742]

Another great topic, Ladies! Playing small is how I manifest my insecurities. I think the earlier part of the Marianne Williamson quote you guys used is the part that is better known: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate…That quote has not ever resonated with me because my deepest fear is that I AM INADEQUATE. I first became aware of this years ago when Sarah Palin was tapped to be the Vice President. It was a brutal time for her and her inexperience and ignorance was laid bare for all the world to see. I struggled to have any empathy for her because in my mind how foolish of her to accept this position she was not prepared for. How dare she, I wanted to know. My best friend, who has alway been so brave about seeking out and accepting offers to be front and center said to me but why not. She said she would have accepted the offer too and then made the best of it. My mind was blown by this idea. Looking foolish was not her first concern. Saying yes to this great opportunity was. I think about Palin a lot when I am feeling my most insecure about doing something that makes me feel like I’m not good enough. While I wholly disagree much of Palin’d politics, the courage she showed during that time, I will never forget. I still play small way too often, but I am working to overcome this fear of failing and looking foolish.

[@humbleflower5088]

Thanks for this ❤

[@djandejdoitall7742]

@@humbleflower5088 Thank you for taking the time to read this. I was afraid it was too long.

[@dorethastewart3376]

Well said. I too think small because I feel inadequate sometimes especially if someone else has already own the space. Persons are always astonished because I am an extrovert. Oh the dichotomy

[@yvonneh5334]

Thank you for sharing. Set me thinking about the fear that we are "powerful beyond measure" (M.Williamson quote).

[@Lette876]

❤

[@afimiown4294]

Tess cut her eyelash 😳😳😳 Lol I can’t

[@nkomonique]

Thank you Tesse for showing up even when u are not well. I am inspired by todays topic. Its like you were speaking to me directly.

[@dawndawnbaby3986]

Such a blessing to see you both working together. Her hair will grow back Tess

[@kimwelsh1657]

I seldomly look forward to any Vlogs/Podcast on KZbin. But, this one i do. Tess is so tweet. Mi really hope shi duh "Anything is possible" dub poetry style. If anyone is reading this please listen to Anything is possible & it matters not what mood you're in, listening to it will make you feel so much better & inspired 😊

[@crystalxyz3286]

What a lovely message for this Easter and thereafter. Letting this little light of mine shine, Amen💕🙏 Love you girls craziness, God Bless.🌻

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Glad you enjoyed it!!!

[@chavelyahyel3513]

The way I needed this episode!!! Everybody reading this… say it with me… I DO NOT PLAY SMALL!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💕🔆

[@kimberlyan5874]

I DO NOT PLAY SMALL!

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Amen!!!

[@donna2484]

Watched Tess sing for the first time, had no idea she was so good. never watched the voice

[@nicolesinclair5184]

"commit to the experience, do not be married to the outcome"...a word.

[@serikaclarke1116]

Wow the new space is looking so beautiful ❤❤ I want to wish Tami and Tessi a God bless Easter ❤❤

[@judyroberts1165]

Sister sisters

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Thank you!!! And same to you

[@charmcumm9194]

Well spoken Tami, Zaria kids will be kids. Tess your laughter brighten any day. Love you ladies❤

[@TheNikkimone]

Ladies! You must have cameras following me...I was on the fence but you gave me the push i needed...God is using you...continue to be blessed❤❤❤

[@julineplunkett3114]

Enough space in the sky for every bird to fly

[@lyndaclarke9279]

That's y I love the MTM because they're down to earth and she didn't take things for granted I realized she and Wayne happy where they were and where they are now.i pray God will continue to them and their children.

[@ReceeF]

Yes Tess I agree with you on we are born already knowing who we are!!!🥰🥰🇯🇲🇯🇲

[@MsDrobertson522]

Congratulations on reaching 40k subscribers 🎉🎉🎉

[@talentedjasi2823]

Your podcasts are so inspirational, uplifting and motivating. And it's not boring to listen....😄 luv you ladies so much.

[@Dmudahy]

Kuliegirl. I have to say I work from home and while working I sit and listen to you both and if anyone walked into my home office they would totally swear I am nuts 🥜 😂, because you both shine your light 💡 so bright in addition to your wit and candor, you both have me cracking up. 😂😂. I absolutely love ❤️ the dynamics between both of you , it is so refreshing along with the beautiful and meaningful messages. I am pretty confident about who I am as an individual however, listening to you both reminds me why I will always be me no matter what anyone thinks. Some rather tear you down as oppose to understanding your truth, your love ❤️, your passion and your juourney. Keep Shibu your lights ladies and never allow the kid inside you fade away. Much love 💗 and blessings always 🙏🏽🇯🇲💛💛🇯🇲🙏🏽

[@afimiown4294]

New space looking GREAT 😍😍

[@andreamiller135]

Tess - I agree. Everyone is born with a purpose. And your life’s mission is really to get to know God so that the Creator can tell the creation what their purpose is. But you are correct - the world, school, etc. makes you not trust your voice. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@lloydiciaarcher]

Tes's face gave "mi feel a way" with Tammy's gym comment 😂

[@waterwheeling1761]

“I would rather fail , drap, budduf pan mi face” same! I also hate what if

[@kereangraham]

No judgement Tess... it's real funny trust me ... all the best.

[@He-is-Able]

Ladies Happy Easter!! As usual you both are wonderful. The knowledge and the wisdom are so on point because you both know your strength and weakness and not afraid to show us. Tessie by far your time on the voice was the best one ever, thank you for showing up for that moment. Tammie your episode on the Mitchells when you shared your raw experience to quit smoking by far is one of your best moments of showing up, you truly blessed many people. You both continue to let God use you and shine your light so He gets the Glory! Don't allow any one to steal your Joy in this moment, because you both are accurately showing your individual talents as well. Love you guys so much!

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Thanks for this beautiful message 🤗

[@pathall9757]

When Tessi ready to laugh 😂😂😂 a whole mood❤❤❤❤

[@simmipooh23]

You both always made me laugh!😊 I really love listen to your podcast.. Tess you will feel better😊

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Thanks Simone!!!

[@althearaikes1150]

Peeps am I lonely here yesterday thought it was a Saturday???? Couldn’t wait on these beauties to grace my phone space 👯‍♀️👯‍♀️👯‍♀️😍🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🎬🎬

[@kurriedone741]

Ladies I have just settled in to listen but before you even start I have to say your new office/studio is STUNNING!! Proper professional well done!

[@swa630]

Thank you so much for this. I am an introvert. I am constantly playing small. Fear is a serious thing. I am trying to start a KZbin channel my self and I have serious anxiety about what people will say. Your words are inspiring. I know there is so much I do have to share but I worry about my background, how my house may look. So many things. Your words make so much sense. Thank you for sharing your experiences. “Feel the fear but do it anyway”. “Brave doesn’t mean you do not have fear “ ❤🙏🏾

[@fastingwithcarla]

Just start it. I've committed to 2 videos a month and each time I upload I feel scared but I'm doing it because I feel in my heart that what I'm doing can change someone life as it changed mine. I'm scared, but I'm doing it anyway

[@reneeedwards9803]

I will listen to Tess sniffles or not. Both Tami and Tess is a gem. Me love unuh badddddd.❤

[@rhoanmyles5699]

Happy birthday to the boss Wayne Marshall

[@kburgg4599]

Tess reaction when Tami said gym had me cackling! I love the chemistry and the message 💕. Simply beautiful!

[@sophiaroberts7486]

Tessy please let Tami go lookabout the glasses love you both❤

[@karlenesteele3436]

“Sometimes you have to feel the fear and so it anyway.” I love this quote.

[@Lette876]

I love you two sis sid so much❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏❤🙏🙏

[@LanaBerns]

Love it🎉 Tami and Tessi Tackling.

[@chercher1096]

Ladies keep doing what you do. You are an inspiration. Thank you for reminding us to shine and realize our full potential as how Christ created us to be.

[@keneishahenry7446]

I love this ❤ Tessi's laugh is so infectious - Iiterally have to laugh too😅

[@leewlk6515]

So appreciative of this space.... As I've said it is so therapeutic.... Loving this space.... Tami and Tesse keeping it real... Keep on pressing.... It only gets better with time.... Oh yes I'm here for the long haul.... Love and blessings to you both and families.... ❤

[@Tessanne]

Thank you for joining us ❤

[@TheChipster999]

I ❤ your laugh, Tesanne.😂

[@beverleyjones2855]

This get better and better each week. Tami love love the space. Guys continue to do what you’re doing it’s a blessing. So inspiring. I can attests to playing small because I am afraid of people saying she is showing off. Such a profound topic.

[@lolitarogers9324]

Tami and Tessi, you're precious gems, continue to let your lights shine bright like diamonds...love your talks🇬🇾🇯🇲

[@sophiaw376]

Ultimately, I had to change my mindset and believe in myself, regardless of validation by others. I also had to empower myself to believe I’m my own self-worth. Some of this mindset came with age, learning my true value. I put theses in place to stop playing small 1. Own your power 2. Own your truth 3. Own your healing 4. Own your worth 5. Own your destiny.

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Amen Sophia!!! Good for you!!!

[@djandejdoitall7742]

This is so motivational. What was your path to believing in yourself. I feel like I have to be an expert at something before I can truly believe I should do something.

[@dezreenpink8783]

Aaa

[@joyh3451]

Tami went full throttle ahead as is, and look at her now. Manna won’t drop from heaven, God help those who help themselves.🙏🏽

[@julineplunkett3114]

Tessy is a woman of wisdom

[@Tessanne]

A true ?!?!!!👀 thank you 🙏 ☺️❤️

[@dionnenelson8770]

Nana Fowl and Papa Joe created two of the most beautiful, humble, genuine, funny women in this world. God bless you and your individual families❤❤

[@Ladyinwaiting447]

True true

[@catpalmer6745]

I need this pod cast so much this week. I'm struggling right now.this has helped me more then you know

[@bevblanchardholt6518]

Before I forget about the roller coaster tip, because I am writing a long comment on my experience with today’s topic. Bless you ladies for discussing this topic of playing small. But pro tip for riding a roller coaster for the first time when you have a fear of it, choose the one where the restraint bar comes over your shoulders and your feet are dangling. 1) You literally have something to hold on to for dear life while you scream and 2) Because it is over your shoulders, you don’t feel like you will be catapulted out to your death so you can semi enjoy the ride through your fear. I hate rollercoasters but rode them twice for my kids sake. I did one with the bar at your waist and that is a “hell no” to ever again, my life flashed before me. The other was over my shoulder, it was fun but also a “been there, done that, don’t need to do it again” type of experience.

[@srrfounder1]

I totally took the meaning in a different direction. I worked in a male dominant career and "played dumb" often to get jobs. No fear attached. I simply needed to work. Once I made a name for myself, they sure changed their tune. No pun intended. I retired as an orchestrator. 😊🎶💚

[@srrfounder1]

Congrats on 40K, Tami! 😊🎊💚

[@pinkyd1984]

Mih bawl out mih eyes for the majority of the podcast❤ thank you all for standing tall in your gifts ...it gives us the courage to step out too!

[@JustShannaBE]

This whole podcast is speaking to my crochet business and youtube channel. For crochet I certainly small up myself. Crochet items cost! Especially just buying the yarn here in Jamaica, I end up paying myself so little for the labour because I want to keep cost affordable for customer etc. So I just make small items, and not stepping out to really see what I can do. Or I don't make items because I am thinking no one will want/buy this. I am going to challenge myself to make the items as that will push me to learn the marketing skills I need in this business to sell the items. In two weeks I am coming back to this comment and edit what I accomplished. ❤ thank you for this podcast

[@elainehamilton1231]

Insecurities and fear will hold you hostage if you allow it. Believe in a higher power and go forth in confidence. Enjoyed this session. Thanks ladies ❤

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Yes! Thank you!

[@onelove835]

Beautiful.............................with hands clasped............."The Greatness within you is there!"

[@annmariemiller8384]

Love you guys. Beautiful SUPERSTARS. ❤❤❤❤👍👍👏👏

[@ignitemotivationtv1788]

Listen .....listen...you all in ma business. I have been playing small and the result is self sabotage. You are dropping wisdom...love y'all

[@laretdenton9768]

Can’t get away from the children even in the new space . Awesome conversation

[@pathenryOVERCOMER]

Never mind Tessi, it will grow back soon. You’re a great mommy

[@tylerc97150]

This has been hands down to the best podcast I have listened too. Perhaps because these gems came to me at the right time.

[@RichelleTHenry]

What a beautiful episode.... So many relatable points, laughs, ah-ah & ouu moments... Thanks (as always) for showing up.... Get well soon Tess!

[@Tessanne]

Thank you so much ❤

[@SeenAndHeardTamiAndTessanne]

Our pleasure!!! Thanks for tuning in!!!

[@audreygraham6615]

You ladies make me feel like I am in classroom ..I've learnt so much how to stop hiding my talent... How much beauty in this episode

[@natheliarichards1299]

That's why I rate the mitchell, they are real as ever, no fakness with them.

[@ivylinstubbs4144]

Hi guys happy Sabbath, oh yes Tami that is what I like about you, you just yourself, real person big up yourself my MTM Mom & aunt, nuff blessings on whatever you're doing.

[@user-kt7mr8qq9z]

I've always admired your relationship as sisters. I'm grateful to you for sharing that with me. Now I feel like I have wise big sisters. Thank you. ❤

[@richardtucker2309]

Greetings everyone!

[@elaineboydbrown7951]

Aunty tess ur personality id so nice thanks to u and tammi for sharing❤

[@mariongordon]

It very heart warming to see both sisters sharing their taughts and veiws I like that the family who prays together stays together really good bond

[@theworldsbestmom8082]

Children also learn by observing our behaviors so even if we are not directly teaching them they are still learning from us

[@themorganslegacy]

Tami you should have shown Tessi reaction to the office

[@ShaneishaT]

* A match and dissolve transition would be a nice suggestion for the quote time insert. It's smooth and soft. It might match something you ladies have planned. Really... I couldn't understand why people would say I'm brave but I've been doing things scared. Change is a big thing, I'm learning if I don't want to make a step: take the smallest one and continue to the next. Im suprised by the difference🚶‍♀️

[@torilee2431]

Tammy come here….your body can move…you know when you get a new hairstyle and you become a robot. 😂I love it.

[@kayjay164]

An amazing episode! Please keep this space alive! A breath of needed fresh air.

[@JusTess876]

Late late late but no hold it against me. Happy Saturday Tami & Tessanne from me, Tessa 😀. Always lovely to be here.

[@reggaeog5604]

Ok... for me, this IS one of THE MOST inspiring, motivating, empowering pods EVER! I always find myself encouraged to do, to move, to dream and execute! Cannot wait to see the next!!! One Love Chin Sisters❤

[@kamillericketts7269]

This is my third time listening to this episode. It’s not a substitute for therapy(which I do once a week going on a year). This episode is a great therapeutic experience! ESPECIALLY for women who’s self confidence may waiver. On another note, congratulations on CVM, do you miss us???

[@trudy-annclarke3617]

I need to bottle Tessans laughs. I would make a fortune! Tami and Tessan, you were speaking directly to me. I start school tomorrow in something I've never considered in my life, and I'm a nervous wreck! Everyone else has more confidence and hope in me except myself. I've been through a lot, and I just have to hold the bull by its horns and fight through this. “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Phillipians 4:13 KJV. P.S. The sound went low on the last round of the podcast.

[@beverleycampbell4334]

I thank God for sisters, and the both of you show sisters love be blessed, one day at a time ❤

[@nicolafullington413]

I think tami and tessi tackle everything is a good name for the podcast. Also I enjoyed this week program tremendously. It spoke to me directly, I've always lived small, I hope it's a motivation for me to take risks, think outside the box, have faith in myself and God,, and just let my light shine.😊😊. Thankyou

[@rashanereid1878]

Interesting about children know who they are from the time of birth, this goes back to the conversation of nature vs nurture.

[@leisaamore7951]

Thanx so much to Tessie and Tami, for showing up for your KZbin Community today. I definitely appreciate it. I always get some kinda Inspiration out of your Authentic conversations. Big Ups to The Chin Sisters for having The Ovaries, to go after your dreams, even if yuh fraid. Fear can be so debilitating, so overcoming that fear, is no easy feat. Love Unnu.

[@fionayoung1765]

Your sisterly love is refreshing and a blessing. Love it.

[@ShakeraBeezer-in9gt]

What an inspiring episode, You ladies are awesome 🤩 ❤🤗 I absolutely LOVE Tessanne, her sense of humor is 🔥😍 beautiful topic … that poem is one of my favourite… “ Our Deepest Fear” by Marianne Williamson. Love and blessings ladies ❤🙏🏾

[@csharpe2788]

Preach sister(s), preach. All well said and is so true. Great reasoning ladies. Tessanne, who first thought of you entering the Voice competition. Was it you or sis Tami? I was on top of the world when you were a part of the Voice, once again putting Jamaica in front of the world and did us proud 1000%. I just love you all MTM, Tami & Tessanne Tackles Everything (TTE). I look forward to every episodie of MTM and TTE.🥰

[@kerhonablake7208]

Thank you Tess for showing up.🫶🏾 My daughter will be 4 in another week and she has never cut her hair and just this week she cut out the side of her hair all I did was laugh because what else is there to do. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Tessanne]

I love your response 😂 I feel my mum had I done this would’ve laughed too ❤

[@andreamartin2800]

Tami,I was thinking the same thing that you need blinds behind the door that you can lower and raise. You might also need to lock the door when you are working until the children are old enough and know when not to disturb you. It’s amazing that Tessie sounds so good singing even though she’s sick. Love you both❤❤