Episode 3 | Nthabi Montsho on surviving two abusive marriages, being an activist & author

[@wendymtandagai5240]

Madam Speaker you have international viewers, can you put subtitles for us non SA. We end up guessing what she is saying in line with story. You are doing well, your stories relate to so many. Top notch❤❤❤

[@millicentagani4384]

I like the podcast, but I wish she could do subtitles as well...

[@millicentkanini4957]

Sure

[@ewenthiaolien6327]

Lovely work.....can you please put subtitles for us who doesnt understand African languages....thank you

[@preccamadzimela]

Watching this while i am going through my own divorce, leaving a narcissist gave me hope and strength.

[@bumblebee7082]

Me too , I filed for a divorce 4 months ago, after 11yrs of marriage filled with GBV. This gave me hope cos I realise Im normal. Right now I have NOTHING, but happy back home and starting over again. All the best to you@preccamadzimela I am hoping my divorce will be finalized in early 2024

[@ladyb5843]

I pray for you ladies ,I know it's not easy.

[@bumblebee7082]

Thank you@@ladyb5843

[@user-mz1bq2et6b]

Also left him. I don't have words to describe him! I hate myself for sticking with a pig!

[@hlengiweyourstruly]

Wishing you healing and love in the future

[@DevineCyrus5]

This woman is telling my story...😢😢exactly..n i mean exactly 😢😢😢this is scary...

[@PrincessItu2476]

Everytime you listen to people talking about their abusive partners, it's like they're talking about one person, the manipulation, the cheating, insecurities all those things, they're all the same, the only difference I think is the homicide or the type of killing...and I didn't notice that I until I went through the abuse, now I notice the signs of abusive very early whether from other people's relationships or even on soapies.

[@kagomokgweetsi3048]

😢😢😢😢😢

[@maselloanethokoa3715]

She is telling mine too in the very exact manner for her first marriage😭😭😭

[@judithmashau1473]

HAaaaaaa,like everything?😮😮

[@SharonNesane]

Woman are going through a lot in marriage xem,, those people are very brave on that point he will change, by that time he become Wes Ishhhh

[@dikolizaskk5847]

Unfortunately for women we forget easily and normally we always try not to compare the next person with the previous one Forgeting that abuse comes in different forms

[@VathiswaSkeyi]

True

[@ntombikoloti2034]

Madame Speaker Nthabi is telling the truth Women who stand strong in public when we get home we are treated like door mats,I met this guy two yrs ago in the 1st three months into the relationship he started verbally ill treating me, it became so normal every month it was a new story verbal abuse became strong he regarded himself a Saint and me a bitch I dressed him from head to toe including his kids but he will make sure he calls me all this names,one day I looked at myself in the mirror and can't belive that I'm what he says I'm he will go around and bad mouth me amongst my friend while I don't know his friends and family Narcists makes u think you are bad person and they are clean thanks Nthabi❤

[@beniesmatsetse2202]

I don't tolerate verbal abuse. I would leave the next minute

[@leratoseloma599]

Pls tell ur story one can learn a thing or two from it

[@hlengiweyourstruly]

Yoh!! That's such a horrible experience

[@N.kaDikane24]

I'm going thru the same right now worse I'm disabled, I have tried to let him know that he is emotionally abusive. Not even a single day goes by when I don't cry. It a hard dealing with an abuse and the disability😭😭😭😭😭

[@hlengiweyourstruly]

@@N.kaDikane24 I'm begging you to leave him

[@nenesibanda4171]

All that Ntabi went through didn't mean she's weak, she went through that process cause God wanted to use her to be a voice for the voiceless and this was based on experience and not something she read somewhere. Woman should love themselves and through this they will then realise when they not love correctly. I loved this episode,big ups Madam Speaker.

[@Chidzy.M]

One thing I always come back for is your interviewing skills! You're phenomenal Mam. Love you!❤

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much 😀❤️

[@kwakha6103]

Yhooo the way I've been waiting for this episode.....two powerful Women in one screen, Amazing 🎉

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you ❤

[@bhekisilentobedzi690]

I think Nthabi, when she loves she give her all and forget the real person in her, that's why ths Men take advantage of,nowadays Men ba batla bo-stubbon-nyana

[@lettienkitseng3923]

I think le nna ke ausi Nthabi😥😥😥

[@Maria-yp6le]

It is sad that sometimes our mothers expose us to abuse from their lovers. But I am glad that the kids are okay and excelling.

[@ChannelleSwartz]

These stories cuts very deep. Glad you came out stronger, bruised and alived.Your story is one to help so many of us. Narcissist are Satan's best agents I am living proof of having survived dating one.

[@88LEBXION1GP]

I know her from our early days in Palm Springs, she's a remarkable woman indeed. An inspiration to many. Her mother was a mother of the nation as well. All the best Nthabi!

[@oyamamakanda8791]

"I'm going to love like I've never been hurt" .. Yho I felt that

[@Ladyle4ever]

"I'm all for women" love that my queens 👸 big love to you my ladies ⚘🥂❤💯

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much ❤❤

[@thapelodhlamini4439]

Oh I ❤ Nthabi she's so well spoken and kind God protect her

[@matildahm7230]

So beautiful ❤ and inspirational. Let’s not give up on ourselves ladies 🎉

[@madams___speaker]

Absolutely 💯 giving up is not an option ❤

[@ndamulelopreciousthengatsh9021]

Hayi guys people are toxic out here, but my lady is truly a blessed woman 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@mamsykgaphola6677]

It's depressing to listen to this. People who stay in such conditions a long time with kids involved. It's a waste of so much time and creating a prison for little ones. Ba ba mapantiti kaga bo bona,while they are still wet behind their ears😢😢

[@_molebogeng6281]

So happy that Nthabi got her happy ending. Loved her final message coz through her life story I learnt she had no control over how her partners treated her but she owed it to herself to choose herself so she can create a better life for herself and kids. Congratulations mama🎉❤

[@madams___speaker]

Amen to that !! Thank you so much sis ❤️❤️

[@nomvulakumalo4900]

You know what I've realized is for us to tell our story we are signed up to go through those situations. And God make sure we survive to tell our story to other women

[@judithngubane3610]

Yooo our mothers when it comes to church guys, 😢

[@Viewer101]

These stories are so sad & the level of anxiety it gives me… even though they are an eye opener 😭

[@faithxalabile9597]

So sorry for misfortune Nthabi. Narcissistic are like demons, multiple characters within one . Really scary and funny

[@nonkululekoshozi1404]

Yo sis Ntabi I command you for the courage you took to choose you and the kids, I have journeyed this same experience I left a fiancé of 23yrs with 2 kids the elder is 22, I learnt to value my life than marriage which was never gonna come, all the narcistic traits were done over my life but I'm glad I left

[@user-in2km8ll6j]

Wow best interview ever. Lady Percy you are growing mos. Highly favored woman indeed

[@highandmightyqueen79]

sis Nthabi you sound so loving nkosiyam its always the good women who are hurt the most

[@Spiritwave22]

true sis

[@Leboko80]

Narcissists feed on Empaths.

[@user-dp3md6tc4e]

The second marriage - is like my marriage- thank God for the strength and grace he gave me to walk away from the marriage. 😢😢😢

[@daisydeltangobeni4744]

She must come back for part 2❤

[@Itumelengmatlou]

What an episode, some men will make you look like your the crazy person. Nthabi has seen it all but never gave up on love. That's because not all men are the same😊

[@madams___speaker]

I totally agree!❤️

[@PrincessItu2476]

Abusive men are like that, you'll feel like you're the crazy one, and the feeling becomes persistent until the day you choose to leave. The healing journey/process is also challenging, believe you me, I know

[@rinahleyana7466]

My baby daddy was like that sometimes it was like am crazy plus he's was drinking 😢 he'll deny everything he said or did and he was very dangerous to me but outside he'll be so kind show people that we're dating while he knows he's very abusive when he's drunk 😢

[@buyisileradebe8108]

Choose yourself always ❤

[@kholofeloletswalo]

Narcissist don’t care about anyone’s pain, Narcissist are selfish and they are very manipulative. What an episode 😢. Some men are cruel 🚮. Happy endings are so fulfilling, glad you are at peace and feeling the love you’ve been pouring all along. ❤️

[@madams___speaker]

❤❤

[@user-uj9py2tb8p]

Ausi Nthabiseng,I wish you'd stay with your kids and forget about men.The abuse your children have been through!!

[@keneilwetsieane]

So inspiring ✨ 🙌 We share so much in common Nthabi. 4 daughters, very disciplined kids. I also am a founder of "Broken Vessels " Ministry for women who feel vulnerable and hurt. Based on the scripture "Psalm 34 vs 4" it's all about healing ♥.. may God continue with us , there's still a lot to be done. I hope we meet personally one day.

[@patienceikombele9161]

Love this interview, Nthaby is such a classy lady, the way she talks. 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@iwasneverthereatallatallin8000]

I wish not to invalidate the experience the speaker went through. And not that re-marrying is a bad thing. But it seems there is a deeper level of healing still needed - that surpass validation by marriage. I can imagine that the children are triggered once more. But we pray for a good experience.

[@highandmightyqueen79]

Im inspired by Nthabi not giving up on Love

[@madams___speaker]

🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️

[@wendymokoena2504]

Her second ex husband was exactly like my ex, escaping a narcissist relationship 😢leaves you with scars for life but healing is assured

[@user-qw1he2wd3w]

I do agree abuse comes in different ways, youll never be prepared for it because as a woman you always want to be loved and be submissive to your partner

[@onahndlovu4469]

This is quite shocking. I know Nthabi's 2nd husband whom she recently divorced & I was really wondering what actually happened. I am glad she shared her side of the story. The guy used of how much he loves Nthabi; how good she has been to their family; he used to flaunt her around & praise her so much. I was actually surprised when he said they're now divorced. I guess pple choose to show only the good about their lives on social media. This is a sad story. I thought they'd go far together as they both seemed to be from previously troubled marriages. 😢 I guess we also tend to attract the same kinda toxic pple if we don't sever ties spiritually. These tend to be more spiritual if they are now becoming a pattern. I hope they both pull down; destroy & pluck out before they can build something new relationship-wise. Those who are deeply & spiritually inclined will understand what I mean by a curse repeating itself.

[@kedibonethatelo9809]

As women we put our children through a lot 😭😭

[@peem9642]

😂😂😂I have met this kind of man they have nothing to show but they have a multi billion business proposal for to provide capital and they are the smart ones with zero money too eish I understand I they annoy wen they speak non stop they always scheming everyday just to get money out of u

[@Ladydee510]

Shuuu! We marry our enemies...I'm speechless

[@user-cj5ss1hb3n]

This is eye opening to women not to put man in your heart you will end up attracting trash

[@ndapewateofelus9863]

I just bought a brand new car, and I just recently got my driver's licence, so I asked my husband to go driving with me so that I can get used to driving this new car, the whole trip I was being shouted at, being told how useless I am, how stubborn I am while I don't know anything, the mental abuse, which is the norm, I have to walk on eggshells around him, as much as I now know that the man does not love me, as much as I dont depend on him financially, I jist dont know why I am subjecting myself to this....everytime I get flashbacks of the mental abuse, I get shivers

[@cynthialenjo6591]

Yooh these men are usually intimidated by women success and they show it by lashing out and not helping you ...Run

[@mariashigwedha8353]

Leave my sis, that guy is jealous off u, he doesn't want to see u progressing. He might poison u to get all u have . Be careful my love, always choose u first no matter what. 🤗

[@villamaggy5603]

Leave is the new language everybody knows these days😂😂😂😂

[@naledindlovu976]

Start by getting counselling to be mentally and emotionally equipped to leave because you have to ❤ strength to you

[@tshegofatsoaphane175]

My heart sank, coz I remember how you praised your ex husband at the Diepkloof workshop. My partner was inspired by y'all as a couple. I'm so sorry for your experience.

[@villamaggy5603]

It is always these women who praise their husbands that go through alot in the hands of the darling idiots😢.

[@morongoasenoamadi5345]

Thank you for this ..we are going through a lot. I needed this 🙏

[@madams___speaker]

You are so welcome❤️

[@_LoveItHere]

"If it is not good and if it is abusive leave immediately". 2023/Dec/16

[@mazwideamahle4091]

With narcissists when it's good it's extremely good, and when it's hectic it's hell....when they massage your soul it's forgiven....but the red flags are always there .

[@mrs_tmi4876]

@@mazwideamahle4091 true and God I'm suffering 😭mine says this nasty things to me in front of his family. one day I pray for God to have the guts to get up and leave.

[@Nompi102]

2024 may 23th I'm finally letting go of being abused and finally having courage to love myself enough to leave an abusive guy my life is a living testimony one day I'll tell my story

[@bridgetmothomoholo4514]

I personally love Madam Speaker❤

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much ❤❤

[@user-dp3md6tc4e]

My mouth is constantly open I tell you. Yoh. A whole minister. 😢😢😢

[@yaneliswakhoza5901]

Yoh

[@patiencetinyikophaweni5379]

In memory of Sindiswa Makgotso Khoza 🕯️🙏🏾

[@okuhlenkosi2567]

Thank you for this Madam speaker..❤

[@madams___speaker]

Thanks for listening❤️

[@tinyikoshivambu7838]

Oh my sis, I once attended one of your events. My spirit picked that up about him. You are such a strong woman. I've walked that journey of being in a narcissistic relationship. It's the gift that is upon your life. It attracts the broken

[@kgadiaphane177]

Police? Help you where? In South Africa? Forget!

[@Winterflowers1]

What a great interview❤

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you ❤

[@terresanenzhelele2239]

Dzi a vhuya, I so wish to get a platform to share my journey as well 😂😂

[@madams___speaker]

You can get in touch with us via call/ text on [phone] to share your story ❤❤

[@zamakhoza7873]

Oh how i love Nthabi, i can't wait for this episode

[@madams___speaker]

The wait is almost over ❤❤

[@nominzaflorinder9359]

The wait is over🛎️❤

[@tshegofatsothegreat]

Never ever fall for a man that can bad mouth their exwives or exgirlfriends for their failed relationhsips. A true man or women will never blame the next person for their failures. That is why an abused women would be hopeful that their relationship will be better if she stays in the relationship, and those kind good women should be valued instead of being abused.

[@maryaannthabiseng4105]

I love how Nthabi narrates her story❤but Yoh you see why we so scared of marriage now?😢

[@gugushabalala1691]

I’m so scared as much as I want to believe in love

[@mampoiapathiamopeli5500]

Its scary

[@keletsomotala598]

I've been waiting for this, thanks for the 🔔

[@madams___speaker]

Hope you enjoyed it!❤️

[@buhlenkomo9764]

Wellsdone in getting out of that situation my friend Nthabi❤

[@user-py4vh7li4b]

I love this but can you please put subtitles when they are talking in the local language for us non S.A🙏❤️

[@yaneliswakhoza5901]

Okay so what im picking up here is pay attention to what he says jokingly 🤔🤔🤔

[@Leboko80]

Yes the small minute things.

[@user-ut9qg1ji2j]

What a happy ending ❤

[@athulegcamgcam]

Beautiful episode ❤❤.

[@kedibonencongwane6361]

I’ve Been waiting for this episode And I’m happy❤❤❤❤

[@madams___speaker]

❤❤❤thank you

[@PalesaSawukazi-fc9mk]

Yooh such a powerful and motivational episode thank you ladies

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you ❤❤

[@amymapena290]

I just love your interview style madam. How you allowed her to speak without interrupting her and asking relevant questions in the most respectful way. I'm a new subscriber and iv been hooked

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much 🙏🏿

[@malolongobese304]

What a beautiful interview i love you my Queens

[@madams___speaker]

We love you more ❤❤❤

[@PhindileMahlangu-rq3pb]

I have been waiting for this one❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@thapelodhlamini4439]

Honestly women go through hell in marriage 😢😢

[@pulengphatedi8153]

I think we should get to a point where we admit that the marriage era is over😢

[@takalaninetshisaulu2653]

You know, and because we've never being there we still wish to walk down the aisle 😂😂😂

[@user-yq6zt3sx9h]

l agree with you dear marriage era is over😢

[@mrs9265]

Fully agree

[@mampoiapathiamopeli5500]

Sad but definitely true.

[@EdnaMwamburi]

Sooo done

[@nelzg5819]

I have just tuned in and already i am cringing and feeling my stomach churn😢

[@diphalepashe5361]

All the best and blessings upon you today and forever including your kids.

[@ReshoketsweMthombeni]

I love a happy ending🥰❤️

[@kms708]

Part 2 part 2 part 2

[@simplygugu]

I admire your Courage Sis Nthabi

[@alexismagolego6192]

eish the timer limits the chats honestly, can you guys do these podcasts untimed

[@Zine_Ngcobo]

Pls😭

[@naledindlovu976]

Dynamic woman BUT I'd really be betraying myself if I don't say this...does she have to keep on having to get married any exposing her children to these men though😢 can she not date away from her kids? Away from her house?...relationships always start out nicely and promising never thinking it could end in divorce and hate. I hope it doesn't happen again because childhood trauma stays...her children have received counselling yes but the memories stay and there's 4 lives to protect here. Atleast the oldest is almost out of the house but the others are still young. I'm divorced for years now, I don't want to expose my kids hle, I'm ok with just me and them in the house. I have a sweet teen girl and I cannot imagine someone brought by me harming her in any sort of way, whether physical, emotional or mental 😢 If i do re-marry they have to be fully out of the house, that's my stance ✌️ my eldest is 21 and almost there. Dear NthabiI hope your current husband treats your children well until the end of time❤

[@user-fk7vs1kj4q]

I love you nthabiseng ❤ and God continue to bless you more 🎉

[@Millibabe]

I'm talking to a pastor and he seems intentionally and he wants to marry me but i see the narcissism side of his...andizi I'm out

[@jaystan233]

Baleka mntase

[@Viewer101]

Please mam 🥺

[@Alegria-Alegria]

Run 🏃‍♀️ don't look back

[@Spiritwave22]

The mom was right to ask that question based on the men’s calibre. She could not believe that such a men can do this.

[@naledindlovu976]

But she gave evidence and pics and I'm sure she relayed so much more...I would believe my child without a shadow of a doubt over a stranger

[@daisyrenewed7081]

I'm Kenyan I love the show so much I'm learning a lot but it would really help of you would insert subtitles where the guest speaks in the south African language

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much for the love. I’m working on it I’ll improve future uploads ❤️

[@koketsothobakgale7747]

I think I grew up with a father like second husband, life was tough how easy they change 😅 oh wow can't believe I survived

[@noxolosakang6547]

Sorry for the abuse Nthabi. Please stay as you are as partners for peace sake. Don't get married and no lobola, please. If he was all that he wouldn't be divorced today. Just enjoy life both of you and don't compicate things by marriage or lobola

[@khanyisilegabela7339]

Thank you sisi for your word of wisdom and will take your advise and make sure I put myself 1st at all times.

[@madams___speaker]

You are so welcome

[@nthabelengsethole4575]

Hey madam speaker love you so much ❤

[@kgadiaphane177]

As I listen, I see there were signs before the vows

[@thabangmalepe1663]

This took 1 year to yield... Thank you ladies 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@madams___speaker]

❤❤❤

[@user-qv6si3ee4i]

Very motivational and educational

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you

[@kholiswakhokiswa9596]

She must come back for part 2 please

[@ntombisibanda7508]

Let me watch

[@cynthialenjo6591]

Am enjoying your shows Madam Speaker good job .. Kindly include subtitle ecspecially when the guest use their native language ..some of us dont understand.Kindly..

[@babusisibanyoni402]

Wow this is serious

[@jmuhlava1543]

Low self-esteem, man, they put us in 😢😢😢😢

[@jmuhlava1543]

Ukubheja on another level use uber 😢imota iphi jesu😢

[@ntebomoela8443]

I love you girls ❤❤❤

[@simplygugu]

and resilience

[@NomfundoButhelezi-fk2bz]

I didn't know Cc Nthabi but I love her she's a superwoman❤