EP 19 | Musa Mphahlele on living in fear for her kids because of baby daddy’s current wife

[@ntaolengmoloi1416]

Going through the Comments, I realize how judgemental we are as women..to be honest there's really no formula to "getting it right " we all learn as we grow

[@neosjournal_]

They always have alot to say until its them or their loved ones in that situation

[@Zamandla18]

Power to that girl. We learn as we Go. Nobody want a dirty minded partner and stinking life yaz. No Formula when comes to this Life🙏🙏🙏

[@ThlologeloPromiseRampa]

We learn as we grow sesi! Ka nnete. Women are very judgmental that’s time they too live in glass houses

[@madams___speaker]

We learn as we grow 👏🏿❤

[@neilwereneilwe306]

They are being negative because is what they are doing

[@LiraM-pz5xw]

I always say as a woman you cannot laugh at another woman suffering, you don’t know what the future holds.😢

[@thandipowane2833]

Never lose yourself because of a man, that's what I took from this episode and I have also learnt that there are people with bigger issues than me, this was very insightful.

[@yolandangcuzana8010]

My wish is for us women to love ourselves,get education and work for ourselves and children...eyamadoda siyiyeke

[@teeslife2408]

I believe they’re men who are good out there guys

[@HeartDlomo-yz4ls]

ngoba ayikho qobo 🙄

[@MasterKDproductions]

She loves herself! She’s educated but MAN need to take responsibility for their kids !!! Stop this nonsense

[@fredamadiba9753]

I love the fact that you have learnt your lesson sisi.. You did a good thing by choosing yourself .. My advice to all ladies is to NEVER loose yourself in the hands of a man or in pursuit of love.. Big up Sis❤

[@mamakariba]

I feel like the guy met his match in the lady he is with now. You are young smart and beautiful you can heal and move on from this

[@graciouslybusisiwe248]

By reading comments, women are judgemental, extremely judgemental. Having a situation doesn't mean that you are not educated, you can be educated but still be unemployed. You can be educated and still encounter these challenges, education means nothing in mjolo, mjolo can trouble u while educated, so don't judge her by saying education nton nton

[@nette2144]

ONE OF THE MOST SENSIBLE COMMENTS ON HERE!! 💯💯💯

[@NondoKadzi]

You are so right

[@NondoKadzi]

You are such a wise advisor. People are too judgemental

[@sihlemabunda1]

I wish I could speak to Musa. I went through similar movie. Sending her love and peace.

[@cathymokolopa1129]

it is so sad how we as women fight each other and the predator is cruising through life..

[@madams___speaker]

I’m telling you 😢😢. It’s heartbreaking that we refuse to decenter men in 2024

[@mamigirlmotaung]

I'm proud of you Musa for standing up for yourself and moving on. May God protect you and your kids

[@sihlemabunda1]

The day she choose herself and kids and all these up and down courts and cases,she will find peace. yoooo I wish I could speak to her 😢

[@mgosinomagatsheni6696]

As woman we need to learn to choose our self, love us and take education serious

[@lucyteffomooi.]

Most importantly we should standup en go work for ourselves,depend on ourselves for survival and happiness solely. The next person’s help should be a bonus to us nje

[@MusaMphahlele]

Madam speaker i thank you and i love you.

[@mashadimokgata871]

Nana be well 🎉

[@lebom3328]

God Bless you, my sister. May you continue to work on yourself ❤. I'm glad that you acknowledge and you are self aware! Thank you for your story. I'm also a mother of 2 children, with God's grace we continue to soldier on 🤗

[@zandilekhutso8496]

In life Musa remember to be kind to other people, your actions will always follow, I can safely say you have met your match, I once told you when you called me being disrespectful ngathi I wish you meet a guy you love and uthole umuntu ozoyenza what you were doing to me and then you will know how it feels, and I can see now you know how we felt mawuhlupha thina...but ke ube right, lesson learnt I hope

[@keotshepileplaatjies8424]

Madame Speaker!!! Bathong I just love your interviewing skills.

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much 🙏🏿❤️

[@abigailvilane]

Bona she is asking all the questions I was so curious about

[@TheCornerHub]

Musa should just leave this guy and focus on herself and her kids. Sending loads of hugs 🫂

[@nompiloangelmakamo5414]

It seems you didn't listen to the whole interview hence your comment,she left the guy.

[@TheCornerHub]

@@nompiloangelmakamo5414 lol I know that.

[@Narefoundations]

I wish to be invited here so that I can tell my story 😭😔 6 years now am stil in the process of healing.

[@Mologadi-z4m]

Pray hard give God your problems and start to fgive yourself from the start of those problems and before you councilling admit talk to you agree look at the mirror and talk to yourself first before you decide to go channels I'm a councilor I help lot of people take my advice because if you go to councilling not having conversations with your heart ,your mind and admit is useless then I wish I can talk to you more

[@phomolosefala4341]

Toxic😢..i would stay away from the guy and his lady and find a Job and look after my children atleast she has a home.

[@Queendollar83]

Listening to this 26 year old young lady is the saddest thing. All that time going to court, opening cases and exchanging words with another woman over a man could have been spent on self improvement, achieving personal goals. It's not too late but dedicating more time to this will lead to a latter life of regret and bitterness.

[@lekopalekopa5177]

I am working as a domestic worker to send my son to school to feed him to clothes him I am abused at work but I am still working for that lady because I don't want to ask him for a money it's hard but my God see me through every day I feel for you my sister i pray for you 🙇‍♀️🙏♥️ and know that you are not alone

[@JuliaTau-kc5sb]

Go tla loka❤

[@beniesmatsetse2202]

Women will judge and judge until it comes to them

[@bonniem5963]

I'm proud of this young lady, she recognized that she needed help and sought help. She chose to be there for her children. Such a strong young lady, I wish they had gone deeper into explaining what grooming means so she can fully understand how much she was manipulated and just how terrible her ex is.

[@noxolojacobs1917]

I love you Musa, you are so brilliant and strong baby girl. Don’t worry about this woman the fact that she’s swearing and threatening you and your children, is a clear indication that all is not well in paradise.

[@mammutlemathebula7627]

You took a great step to get out of toxic relationship. Always choose your self and your kids. May God protect your kids from the evil ❤❤

[@NomvelisoNtsinde-hi6zf]

What a messed up man! My sister please run away. Stay in therapy and try to develop your own life. Go to school and better yourself. You are still very young. ❤️🥺

[@anastheciasebela6460]

Suncity works shame, the highschool i went to in Alex ,they would organise a trip like once a year for learners who don't do homeworks, who were just problematic nje, they would come back as changed humans , just for a day that's when i was like no suncity is rough. when we asked them what happened they were telling us they took them into the cells to be with inmates and ate what the inmates ate, others told us they didnt eat anything cos the bosses in there took their food. the aim was to show them if they continued with the attitude thats where they would end up.

[@noxolomelani6707]

Lol what the hell?? Parents signed off on minors being sent to prison with actual inmates??

[@Official_glamour]

But this could have been unsafe for people’s children

[@Thulile-i3s]

😂😂😂😂I drama engaka ne trauma Jehova for I home work nje ,that was too much tjyo 😮

[@Tshepiso18]

​@Official_glamour It is safe and very effective. An ex of mine also had a similar experience. He said he went to prison due to being a peer educator at varsity. They go under very strict supervision and ensure that they are safe at all times. Them being in close proximity with the actual inmates might have been those who were specifically trained and chosen for exposure to the kids, I am sure.

[@smallgirlBigGod-b8u]

"She was not pregnant" gives Thabo Bester. If it was me I would not go to maintanance court and also stop taking money from him. Just for the sake of peace. I would build myself for my kids and live in peace. You are right when you say that your problem is minor. Your problem is wanting maintenance when you see that it's putting your life and those of your kids in danger. My sister phila, just live and stop wanting money from that dad beat father. Yes, times are tough but for the safety of your kids just do the right thing.

[@zuzuh5755]

True. I think our problem we want to fight back. Yes we have to fight for our rights. People also like to force people to fight back by ,going to courts for theie rights. But I think sometimes, there are times where we have to be stupid and let things go. If a baby daddy or ex husband is threatening your life,and if you know how heartless he can be,babey! You are the only one who know a person you've been sleeping with. People can b monsters whn they don't love you anymore. I know a story of the ex husband,who shot his ex wife,jst bcs he didnt want to pay her spousal support etc after divorce.. The woman cld still try to survive without that man's money but she was determined to fight for her rights,but when yr ex is a monster, never listen to friends. Now she's no more and the guy is continuing with his life. I jst read yr comment and remembered this story of that lady. It's good to fight for our rights,but we must know where to let it go. Cos whn the monster take yr life. All those who were encouraging you fight can't help.

[@isobelndoro]

Well said 😢

[@chechemokgosi324]

It's a good thing it's not you she must fight if she wants to

[@ntombenhlenonny7334]

Well said 💪

[@khanyisileqali861]

Ishhh let's not beat someone down for sharing their lives for non is perfect and we all have our pitfalls in life... Let's handle this life with care because anyone can be subject to seeing flames

[@thulimoyo4751]

What an intelligent young lady,may the Lord elevate you nana you deserve all the good things emhlabeni❤

[@FaithFusionTelevision]

This is probably going to be one of the comments/advice you won’t like… again this is my 2c advice not only for our beautiful sister but to all women out there. Personally for me I say leave the man alone and don’t continue with the maintenance case. LET IT GO. If you didn’t know men klll their children out there because the mothers continues to force them to pay every month. It’s not WORTH IT. It’s not WORTH your child/children’s life, so LET IT GO my sister. To women who don’t have kids and planning to have one in the future. I always say this , please stop making kids for men. We make kids because we want them not because “my man” want kids. It’s important for every woman breathing to be independent. Mosadi Ke her own money. You depend on a man you are giving him a ticket to disrespect you. I like that you are taking accountability for just relaxing at home thinking your man is there. I respect you for that and I pray you fight for your independence. It’s definitely not gonna be easy but you will get there. Sending you love 🫶🏽

[@nbee6217]

This is a beautiful comment❤

[@mphokekana3893]

Danki. Well said

[@andiswamichael76]

Don't continue with maintenance case let it go👏👏

[@shabichuene7127]

I don’t think there is anything wrong with pursuing child maintenance as it is the child’s right but anyway if it is then threatening the children’s life then that’s when you can stand down.

[@thobekiledlamini]

It you women who let men get away with being irresponsible...black women stop letting men get away with such, how are you gonna raise your kids? Teach them to just have babies and no one take responsibility? Wrong mentality, that why white people will always rule us, we are too apologetic

[@nonkululekogcabashe9488]

This young lady has a great testimony and I wish younger ladies and girls balalele her experience

[@isobelndoro]

It is easy to give wise advice when you are not going through battles or surprising traumatic emotions. Sometimes it catches you offgaurd while you are going through your own struggles. The worst part is Sometimes some ladies are not allowed to work, by these abusive men, and when things like these happen you are so furious at yourself and everyone. Narcs know what to remove to make you dependent on them and desperate 😢. They plan in advance when to start abusing you. What l have learnt is that you have to pray because sometimes the devil uses partners whom we sleep with whom we are spiritually tied to to rob our bright futures. Let's empower more girls to be financially independent

[@teeslife2408]

True yooo it’s like you talking to me 😢

[@fozzyllicciouss897]

It’s very true, the devil can easily use your so called better-half to kill your destiny after trying other ways and failing. Let’s not give up on prayers

[@dikeledihlabangane3854]

Musa you are intelligent n calm. God bless

[@nozukojoseph2214]

I wish Musa can be out of reach from his "partners", get a stable job & register for long distance or online courses. She must just focus on her family, her life and self improvement. ❤❤

[@lebom3328]

We thank God that you are still alive today to grace us with your testimony 🙌🏽

[@madams___speaker]

❤️❤️

[@prettymkhonza9565]

Cc self improvement is the key to diminish all of this.

[@GcinileMaseko-i2q]

Big up to you my dear to choose yourself and your kids kwangathi jehovah angakusiza uthole umsebenzi u support abantwana bakho

[@nonhlanhlajoymotaung4948]

You look sooo stunning Madam Speaker 🔥

[@DianaMokgawa]

Great Interview Madam Speaker My sister leave that man alone and hustle to raise your kids Sepedi sere "agona lebitla la tlala" start from scratch rebuild... You're still young you'll make it

[@dot510]

But she has left him. He is the father of her children she can't change that.

[@rozettameyer4145]

My sister tell God your story. Your story is my story, I used to beg every month for support, find a Job, start a business and don't forget to PRAY.

[@italiatsotetsi8347]

I am in tears how can a woman be so mean and even wish death on kids to get a man 😭😭😭

[@chechemokgosi324]

Don't be judgy, it's wierd

[@dipuoviola7491]

You know it’s important to go to school and never leave school to go stay with the boys

[@bongythwala9840]

Yes true cc bakhona abahlala ngokuthandi kuma boyfriend kodwa ngenxa yesimo not ngokuthanda kwabo yes abanye bayeka ngoba bazkhethela .

[@celiweshezi1021]

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[@NtoetsiTlali-le5yd]

Yooh 😢

[@victoriamandla8788]

But the abuser don't care how educated you are.

[@sekgabimasobe9690]

​@@victoriamandla8788csay that again😢😢😢

[@RoseHlabane]

I love you Girley so matured, stand up go back to school and find your dream. God bless you

[@thathazulu3718]

Thank you KD for bringing her to the studio. I listened throughout without feeling drowsy. She is a powerhouse 🫶

[@nompiloangelmakamo5414]

Im glad Musa chose herself and kids🤗

[@bashingimokgethi1203]

Musa I love the fact that you fought for your life. Getting your self psych help was one big step. I wish you could find a stable source of income for you and your kids then right off that guy and his maintenance money

[@ramaselaviolet2993]

My return soldier, madam speaker,i love you. Could you have not returned from "soldiering "this many souls you are changing, couldn't have made it. Big up✊✊✊👏👏

[@Ubukhosi-t5c]

It was a good and brave thing for You to go back home, may You heal.

[@dikeledihlabangane3854]

M glad that Musa called the ambulance for help

[@khensim8959]

I feel sorry for this yound lady, i feel that she has not moved on and still loves baby daddy, and I'm saying this because of how he speaks of the guy, the lesson i got from watching this, is we must learn self love

[@amandamurenha1295]

Me too selflove and independence 😢

[@chasiweskulu3613]

Sihle same here I wish I can speak to her as a mother and coach her. I'm so heart broken

[@MelissaLuis-nn9fc]

Uyimbokodo babe ❤ phuma kubo karma will deal with them

[@sibusisiwesithole5852]

Umntwana lona. She needs help. Lots of emotional and psychological help. Nkosiyami my heart goes out to her

[@SRDLbw]

Musa you went through a lot my sister I hope you will heal. I pray that find peace and do a lot to for your children.

[@angelpopzn]

I'm in the same position but I have made peace and accepted that supporting my child financially alone is peace of mind for me and safety for my child. My biggest wish is that woman start respecting other woman and don't involve kids especially the woman who don't have kids that attack the baby mama's who are in need of financial support. I also wish we could all learn somehow how to build an empire for ourselves and our children so we don't have to stay connected to such toxic situations. And worse his family condoning it, even when I would call just asking for help and advice. They just don't do anything. Their own flesh and blood thrown away over a stranger. This girl that is with my baby daddy HATES the fact of him having a relationship with his daughter and when he trys I get harassed and stalked etc. So I have just let go and won't ask a cent from him or even beg him to be a father. One day it will hit him hard. I'm white he is Zulu, I don't belive in witchcraft but what I have seen, this girl has in what I say a blanket over his eyes because even with physical proof he does not see her wrongs. She faked a pregnancy and a week before I gave birth she called and said she is pregnant and it too away that happiness of giving birth to my first child. But he doesn't see it or the wrong in it. He is so blinded and he has 2 children before ours but went back to this same girl that's why I say I'm sure she has something on him. Some woman are heartless and it's sad but atleast my baby is happy and healthy and I will show her that a woman can be a queen without a man. Keep going baby girl. Karma will come back when the time is right.

[@kagisomolepo664]

That girlfriend is wicked 😭 may God heal you Musa, it shall be be well with you sis❤️

[@MasterKDproductions]

She is so calm 😢😢shame I feel for her

[@MasterKDproductions]

We thank God for the nice paramedics and the ladies @ psyche ward , for helping her

[@rainymakgati4097]

😔 SAD, for another woman to threaten another with killing a child. That's too deep. Let's cover these children in prayer.. The Shepherd never sleeps, mother call on Jesus Christ Name 🙏🏿

[@Mologadi-z4m]

Already God had our prayers indeed in the name of Jesus nothing will happen 🙏

[@rebotilemogadime4169]

Imagine going through aaalllll of those things for someone who was not even pregnant. Mara yoooooo.

[@anastheciasebela6460]

ay sis Musa mtase, please find something to make your life improve. be it business or going back to school uhlukane nale drama is too much. you deserve much more better things. true sis Persevierence he groomed her

[@Prisca_BossLady]

Maintenance court is hectic been going up and down since last year, the last order was given end of Feb but dude still not paying I'm now ready to go for a garnishee..... My sister try if it works it works .... light and love for you.....❤

[@anastheciasebela6460]

when she said the lady was not preganant haaa my heart 💔, so she wen to jail for nothing haibo... nkos yam

[@nozukojoseph2214]

She just wanted Musa to know that she is also in the picture

[@mosibudirebeca5785]

I just want to buy a perfume to support as a lady I understand what she is going through

[@mandlasihlali6639]

Madam speaker,,,you are so eloquent, objective, authentic, cool ,calm as you navigate and manage conversations.😂😊

[@nomgcobocordeliabushula4345]

thank you Madam speaker for bringing women like this young lady & alert us with topics like these. Us Women we must wake up about these MEN bcs in most times they are the 1nce who always put us in danger, they are traps

[@mapulankomo1494]

May u allow your visitors to speak their language so that they can speak their pain

[@maryzunguza4946]

The lady should put herself and her kids first, stop asking for money from this guy even if he's the father,and let that man go, this decision might come with a lot of challenges but it's worth it, in it you will gain a peace of mind and have your children all to yourself.

[@BridgeMA29]

My advice is start getting assistance through therapy its free at public hospitals, take this man to maintance if he changes his account number tell the court there are people who served time in jail due to Maintenance issues, move on sesi you are beautiful. Change your number. When you are ready, you will meet a man who will love you and your kids. You will be happy, it's possible.

[@mamikiramafoko4095]

It is the right thing to get maintenance money for the children,but with so many threats,please do not ask for money anymore. Safety of your children is paramount!!!

[@gugulethutshabangu1468]

Musa cc go to maintenance court hle because we cannot be making excuses for these dead beat daddy's.....guy went out to cheat opened that door for muthi to enter now we have to feel sorry for him haibo guys......being a single mother in this economy is hard hle

[@nthabisengmaluleka6630]

the intro sounds great im glad to actually see that you do read comment and try by all means to adhere to some of them

[@kholofelofaithmakuwa747]

Limpopo ladies aowa aowa aowa .We cannot be doing this to another person.We cant be this heartless ..Lets think about the kids hle ...Kids needs to eat .Yhooo

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

Batho ba rata dilo tsa batho. That woman thinks she has won but she does not understand that one day it will be her turn to be hurt.

[@GcinileMaseko-i2q]

Yes girl business woman on fleek😊😊

[@feziwemotshabi3096]

You are a lovely person and brave for walking away.

[@Moments83]

The problem about SA, women will use muthi just to get a man, its so sad.

[@bridgetmothomoholo4514]

My sister your life is a movie😢yoh

[@NokulungaMacu-uq8qu]

Im glad that you're well Musa, intliziyo ayiphakelwa 😢. Sorry you had to go through so much for a man😢

[@dimakatsondala9229]

Musa i think when Presevernce asked what kind of help you think you need 🤔 you should have a said to stand on you own two feets and maintain your kids finish Sisi..Let it go! love and light ❤

[@MusaMphahlele]

Already standing on my own. I just don't want to disclose my profession

[@pinkysegolabeng3576]

So sad You look gorgeous Madam speaker ❤

[@samanthazungu9222]

You looking Gorg madam speaker❤❤

[@xolisilendlovu6349]

"Hhaa my sister" 😂😭...I totally understand how other people can really make us act out of character with how they treat us, and when it gets to a point where you can't control your emotions ai it's chai 🥲💔.

[@lindamoroane4128]

Let's love each other more and more ladies and gentlemen...we should put God first then ourselves...❤❤❤

[@PhindileMtambo-id6pu]

Brave young lady... Big up to you darling!

[@sdumomoraka7688]

Wise and profound madam speaker.

[@matlhatsidire5624]

The more you listen the more u say iyooh mara bathong

[@ReshoketsweMthombeni]

These young women fighting over a man child who has 10 kids🥺 sad.

[@mgosinomagatsheni6696]

But keh i love sis Musa❤❤

[@anitatumeka1466]

The guy don't want to maintain cc. Don't make excuses for him

[@triciakekana]

School is super important

[@anastheciasebela6460]

this😍😍

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

Her story is unfortunately the reality of so many young women who are GROOMED by men. She is definitely a victim and I really pray she has healed from the trauma. That is why she stayed while the abuse was happening.

[@sindiswanyandana1423]

Cc don't worry, this is life with no formula. Kuzolunga don't give up ❤

[@nandiphasomana8501]

Musa be grateful for all you went through. God has a greater purpose for your life and I love that you fought your own peace. I'm really glad that you got help and you had the strength to share your story. Many woman shy away and die in their misery. Speaking up, is a sign of healing . I applaud you Sisi🎉❤

[@selinabatlhaodi612]

I pray she gets help n protection from God n angels.❤❤

[@dorcramps6779d]

I need to save this for my mental health cz god knows im going thru the same.. A fucken week guy dat i hav

[@nette2144]

Send you hugs and praying that God will give you the will power to move on with your life❤❤❤

[@amandamurenha1295]

🫂

[@nwamj2198]

I love you Musa and you are beautiful ❤❤

[@Angela-mu5by]

The justice system is a joke! That was barely a crime but she went through so much, real criminals walk our streets with no consequences, pathetic!

[@Nthabeleng507]

Let God take the wheel. 🛞

[@francinantombi6923]

Gal de best thing that you can do phuma kulo mfana hlukana nomfonela, abantwana bazokhula phuma phanda hambo thengisa khulise abantwana bakho for ukuthi ungaze uluze abantwana BALEKA CC

[@lindekamatshoba71]

My wish to us as women let us trust ourselves , believe in your selves ,love ourselves though you are married. . Gal take care of your kidz and believe in yourself and trust God in everything bcoz you can't change somebody. ******** And madam Speaker plz ask your guests not to chew ? gums it's disturbing but in a polite ,loving manner ❤

[@nette2144]

His mother's words saying "ngwana wa hae a ka se dule le mosadi"! Yoh! Why would the MIL say such words! She knows why ngwana wa hae is behaving like that!

[@kgomotsobetty2163]

This guy is like my baby daddy 😭😭😭😭😭😭 i only found out he had many kids when I was pregnant