EPISODE 4: How to Survive and Thrive as a Lone Wolf

[@benjamincock5357]

This is me. I am an almost equal balance of introvert and extrovert. My addiction was food. I have spent the last 4 years working on balance. Ran across your videos in my feed and they are wonderful. Thank you.

[@frayamortensen]

Most welcome, thank you for being here!

[@Smokey_Cornbread]

I thrive in solitude...it allows me to more efficiently process the world's information and I can find my path alot more clearly

[@frayamortensen]

Absolutely! Some of us really do thrive in it, and when we're shamed into thinking that's wrong, then that's where the toxic shame builds. Time to undo this programming.

[@333_Tarot]

It is in dark moments that a correct attitude is most important. If we fight against the darkness, we are swallowed by it and suffer misfortune. If we react to the lack of visible progress with despair and negativity, we extinguish our own inner light and block the aid of the Higher Power. If we try to persuade others that they must return to the light, we exhaust ourselves in vain now. In a time such as this is it wise to adopt a stance of outer disengagement and inner perseverance. Do not focus on or interact with the negative influences around you; this only strengthens their grip on you. Step aside, yield, let go, allow people and events to pass without attachment. Direct your attentions inside to your inner light, your devotion to what is right, your conversation with the Higher Power. To have patience with oneself is to have self-love. Progress may be slow, but there will indeed be progress after inner realignment. Growth takes time, in order to make things as stable and flexible as possible at the same time. Remember that much of the work of the Higher Power is hidden from us, and that we enable and assist it by remaining detached, accepting, and reserved in the face of negative influences.

[@allanwalli2935]

I like this. Awareness and acceptance without resentment, blame, etc. are so freeing. Cultivating deatachnent and patience with oneself really does pay off!

[@ycdbralai]

🙏 I love how you present this tricky topics in a consistent high vibe 🙌 Thank you for being on the planet❣️

[@Waldemar_la_Tendresse]

I have consumed a lot of psychology literature and videos over the past few years, but this video confirms my original opinion of how well you describe and present the important points. I only know one channel at a similarly high level and it has 8 million subscribers, but my feeling is that you are on a very good path in this direction if that is your intention. Thanks.

[@frayamortensen]

Thank you for your feedback. I do have my own way of presenting info, so regardless of how many hear it - even if it helps one person, I'm headed in the right direction.

[@allanwalli2935]

@@frayamortensen I am on the same page as Waldemar. I have learned who I can trust…and you hit a home run practically every time. That’s why I keep coming back.❤❤. Excellent on every level.

[@RoryBrooksWulf-sz2rv]

Hello again, on the opposite end when paranoia has had enough i go into destructive rage, to overcome the bullcrap this world put me through, 25 or so yrs of unjustified rage,

[@Reaver1202]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for deeply describing and finding the words of how I feel often times. Sunken thoughts and inner conflicts and so often this sixth sense as well as the feeling of not been understood together with the frustration of wanting to share these beautiful feelings of being alone and feeling the beauty of the wind, the flowers and trees in a forest for example. Being quiet and listen. All about this connection to the inner self and nature. Connecting thoughts with feelings together and bring change to the foreground in our todays times. Doing what feels right and not just what feels good. Look bravely into the darkness and find the light in it to overcome the conflicts in our lives. Be creative around that and learn new things. I would love to share this gut feelings and this inner truth but it seems that I have to accept, that others don’t feel that way. Instead I have to tell about my own need for time for myself and maybe they listen why, when I try to talk about the lone wolf metaphor. A request for another video: As I am facing now the truths in letting go of a beloved partner and started therapy about my difficult childhood with narcissistic elements, I would like to know your thoughts about love relationships and how to manage it as a lone wolf. The inner conflicts. Getting children. Fears about the need for time alone. Is there hope in finding the inner peace together with all these troubles? Do you have advice to form a good relationship. What kind of partner or personality is needed or what explicitly not. For me it is crazy to make my first comment ever on KZbin and it is on your channel. You touched me and I am glad I found you in this time of my path. Hope you are doing well. Have good start into 2024. Greetings from Germany 👋🏻😊

[@irenekuhn1292]

This post is worth to take the information in more than one time. With every of this 10 ways a post can be created and a path of inquiry can be initiated. I love your mindset.

[@richardfreeman2268]

Spot on. Thank you for the confirmation concerning my emotional world. It is peculiar to me how I have come back to this video once again 5 days later and my perspectives have changed considerably. Feeling lost and lonely kind of sucks. I haven't quite learned acceptance at this point, but still have HOPE and Faith that things will change and I will see a release from this depressed state. In the meantime I will continue to enjoy it as much as possible. Depression equals greater expansion, Right? I look forward to hearing from you if that is still a thing. PM was sent on Messenger. Don't know Telegram. Thank You!

[@frayamortensen]

Hello Richard, there is definitely something to gain from those dark times. Perspective as you already can tell is something you can access and choose at any time - and so what if one day you feel like it sucks and the next day you don't - just noticing where you are is a way to be mindful about your present state. Sometimes coming to a place of neutrality is best during those times.

[@richardfreeman2268]

@@frayamortensen Thank You! What if you live in a place of neutrality and have done so for an extended period of time? I have been broken physically and mentally. Now rebuilding from the ground up. Good thing - When I find the strength to do so. LOL. I am tired. Tired of 3D. Everything around me is non-sensical?. Having to interact with this reality and its constructs is sooo uncomfortable. And finding someone to talk with about it - non-existent to date. Connection where I am? A lot of closed doors. I keep knocking. A bottle of wine, a fire and in-depth conversation exploring the unexplored - that would be nice. I write. Comprehensive and prescriptive information for foundational awareness of being human. Theory is our thoughts become emotions. Emotions create a vibration that the body uses to communicate with the rest of the body. It seems to me emotions are an extremely important component. So why isn't anyone teaching emotional evolution? If we are unable to comprehend and master our emotions how can we continue to evolve in a manner befitting the Human Race? I'll get off my platform. Thank You for your content. For the most part it continues to speak to me.

[@taylorjanegreen1]

Brilliant! So helpful!

[@Jono-B]

A treasure trove of gems here and well presented. I'm going to take discipline and consistency into 2024. Thanks.

[@frayamortensen]

"treasure trove" - love that! Thank you, and I agree - consistency and consistent discipline will get us very far!

[@andrewedwards7246]

Fraya..great video again..Thanks. Iam looking forward to hearing from you soon. Happy New Year. ☺😊🙏👍🐺🌻🌷

[@andrewedwards7246]

I’m here to talk.. Looking forward to it Fraya. ❤

[@DavidCastillo-eq1hl]

The {{{ Divine masculine }}} knows That the seeds they plant today Will bring about the abundance They experience tomorrow. This is why they are driven to action.

[@frayamortensen]

intentional action is key and is of the healed masculine energy. Unintentional action is the wounded side. We've experienced both and know where each will land us.

[@leonarddaneman810]

'WOLF,' with an 'L' . . . I always said 'Woof, Lone Woof.' No wonder no one took me seriously!

[@exercicesinmetal666]

Communicating your feelings in a secure manner.? now that is 100% so damn true! empaths are sabotaged by tons of toxic people around who follow the 'evil game' so we must always be careful on what we say and talk about. especially our feelings which are almost always denied.

[@kimp7977]

Not secure with anyone! Woman lone wolf!

[@rodg.5521]

Thank you , Fraya.

[@frayamortensen]

You're welcome 😊

[@firefighterps2]

I've learned a great deal from your videos. Thank you.

[@frayamortensen]

most welcome! What stood out for you the most in this one?

[@firefighterps2]

@frayamortensen I actually responded to a recent video, offering up my story of leaving my place of birth and starting over. This video? Definitely the mention of finding balance, trusting in myself. Being in nature (just purchased a small homestead farm. What a difference that has made!) I typically need to hear things several times or perhaps hear them approached from multiple angles? Either way, your insights and light-hearted way have helped so much. 🙏❤️

[@frayamortensen]

that farm sounds like a dream! Congrats. And I'm with you on needing to hear things explained in different ways. Thank you for your feedback. @@firefighterps2

[@michaelmarusic8499]

👍🏻came across your videos recently and I should say they are very interesting. Love your content and style

[@rickmitchell8979]

Beautiful information with a lovely smile❤

[@aokomaverick]

This is absolutely amazing! Thank you for the insights.

[@briannickerson542]

Just subscribed to your channel.. You have good things in your presentation on these subjects and I just enjoy hearing you speak of all you do.. Thank you!!

[@dans3294]

I need to make time to play, work and family often require most of my time.

[@tomasr64]

In nature you know what happens to the lone wolf? They don't survive that long. They have to do all the work, like trying to hunt and survive. They don't have protection. A pack is much more successful. BTW, I've been a "lone wolf" human for 6 years now. Its okay but I don't like it that much. One one hand its very good to DIY, YEah there are incredible moments, but us humans are social creatures and watching that incredible sunset alone for the 1000th time, gets old, ah lets go inside and go to sleep...

[@kristymoore7052]

I stumbled on this in my feed. I am 60 and I am an authentic Lone Wolf, but with flaws, of course. Strangely or perhaps not so strange, the flaws are emerging because of my age and dealing with 60? Subscribing and thank you.

[@guywihn1658]

Another great video! thank you. It hasn't been so long since I became aware that the human lone wolf was a real thing. I just assumed it was a delusion in minds of random internet males or the occasional old war vet hippie who I'd see wearing a jacket with lone wolf written on the back. Fun fact, I raised a real wolf pup I took from some little Indian kids on a reserve who kept throwing it off a dock in attempts to drown it. It was at a fly-in tourist fishing camp in Northern Minnesota where my girlfriend and I worked one summer . I was taking a girl who worked in the kitchen back to her home by boat when I saw what was happening. The little wolf pup grew up to be my best friend. I would have thought for sure that I had significant feminine energy before seeing this video, mostly because I was raised by the strongest female I have ever known. Only her husband was as strong. Also because all the male relationships I've had were only on the most superficial level. I honestly can't relate to males or any of their common problems. All of my deep and meaningful relationships have been with females. I've always been the master of my own universe, never a victim in my mind or for real. I'm only competitive with myself and I'm never mistrustful of anyone (in a fearful way) because regardless of what may happen I'm always coming out on top. If someone wants to betray my friendship it's their loss, I just move on, never looking back. I only wish I would have been more considerate at times in the past, but I can't change it now, so not many regrets I guess. I mostly avoid situations were I know I will hurt someone now.

[@claudenobles779]

Blaming is totally, automatic disempowerment ... feels reasonable but personal response-ability not react-ability. Great advice. p.s. there are about 4 other words that are very nuanced and appear like blame but are actually making sure the unscrupulous actors are identified an held response-able/account-able.

[@RoryBrooksWulf-sz2rv]

wolves are a balance of nature, and possibly a lone Wolf may be a great teacher or perhaps a lone white wolf may be a saving moment,

[@jamesgrosrenaudjr812]

I love these lone wolf post

[@frayamortensen]

Awesome! Thank you so much. 🙏

[@richardfreeman2268]

Love your content. It has helped me in so many ways. You do a wonderful job of presenting it. You crack me up. Thank You!

[@SeniorFeliz]

❤

[@jhbluewolf6034]

I'm not following this beautiful Ai no more 🤣❤❤❤❤❤

[@geoGELLER]

you write "enjoying the nothingness " is a huge subject i would like to see you deep dive into what that means to you too - most people are afraid of "nothingness" it means they have to live and confront themselves and distract themselves - there is a lot to nothingness then meets the eye - you are just scratching the surface of nothingness when you say "enjoy the nothingness"

[@Richard_Hood]

Very helpful thank you. Learning to lose in good spirits has been difficult for me, so my 9 year old grandson has helped me with this. I can't get near him on super mario cart, and many other games, he's very good and it's a lot of fun trying though 😉

[@frayamortensen]

Yes! embracing the loss and being a role model for it! Then being a humble winner. My daughter is also my biggest teacher. We only have a small window to model behaviour for them, then it's up to us to realize the lessons they have for us.

[@ThunderSen]

I have done some things and working on others. Very hard work and takes long time, but worth it. I like the analogy of wolf, but always felt more like bear.

[@frayamortensen]

I feel you on the bear too! I do love to hibernate and these Canadian winters will allow for many months of that.

[@jasoncampbell4723]

I feel more like a hammerhead on my lone wolf journey.

[@SpockMonroe]

Thanks for the offer to reach out., but I don't have Telegram.

[@DavidCastillo-eq1hl]

For the {{{ Divine Masculine }}} to be complete He needs to develop the nurturing qualities Of the {{{ Divine Feminine }}} in this way he can Extend his boundaries in a loving and supporting way …

[@frayamortensen]

You got it!! Assertiveness over Aggressiveness. Firm but Fair I always say.

[@RandyMoe]

I am kind to the wounded. I can freeze out a bad actor. Father was bully. As runt I will fight to death. My huge baby brother almost choked me out at breakfast. He 16. I was about to remove his eye. But he ran out the door. I am glad e stopped. I ghosted both brothers 8 years ago. I am at peace I prefer home alone

[@andrewlove1987]

Alpha, sigma, beta all of these are labels and that’s it. Even lone wolf, these are constructs employed by people who need persons to each be placed in an organized set of little boxes so that they can make a tiny bit of sense out of a chaotic world. We don’t fit into a clean set of categorical compartments no matter how much you need for us to. It’s limiting and ignorant we are not millennials gen x zoomers or boomers. These are constructs and like this alpha sigma bs upon close examination they are revealed as nothing more than constructs. It’s become taboo for us to categorize based on race, so now we’ve reached for other ways of creating a taxonomy that limits people. Life is fluid choices are fluid people change. Black and white thinking is the very essence of this outlook. There is zero science behind feminine energy or masculine energy sigma or alpha. The concept of alpha is based on wolves. We are not wolves and do not organize ourselves in a way that resembles a wolf pack, not in the slightest.

[@DavidCastillo-eq1hl]

One thing I would like to point out is The alpha wolf is constantly Seeking out support and validation From other wolves to satisfy their ego They are leaders of the pack not Lone Wolves.

[@juarezm.6737]

hello, my big eyes beauty ! watching many of ur videos, u are so intelligent ❣ happy new year for you !

[@leonidas480bc]

❤

[@jhbluewolf6034]

Are you even human because you look so refined and beautiful to be real...(I'm outspoken and can't lie)

[@asdf9890]

I definitely know a woman can be lone wolf, my ex was. Both of us were, and it was a great relationship until I f'd it up! Best thing I ever did was realize I'm weird, and became ok with it, and most people don't see things like I do. I'm struggling with being mid 40's and being submissive/complacent most of my life, now I'm getting frustrated and trying to take control and set boundaries, and people suddenly think I'm an asshole! Can't say I've ever been lonely though, I do have strong family connections so that may be part of it.

[@SpockMonroe]

Good for you. Be an asshole. This lady is kind of right and kind of a bubblehead but I think she has it right here.

[@jpex9]

Nice KRKs

[@frayamortensen]

thanks, im obsessed with music and good sound.

[@MarufoVega]

sigma here. #4 and #5 me in spades.

[@swanlight7028]

👍❤️👍❤️

[@senseofwonder4734]

❤🐺❤

[@h2omgkombucha936]

🐺 howoooooooooooooo....

[@h2omgkombucha936]

Hi Fraya, I received a message asking me to connect with you on telegram, however I'm not on it, or have your telephone 📞 number to add 😊

[@h2omgkombucha936]

I've tried sending a message, though I don't have you as a contact. Gives me an error

[@martycurtis2046]

Fraya Would you consider dating me? A healed lone wolf national best selling Author. Writer and Golf Coach from Caledon? 🤩⛳️🖊️

[@badhabit714]

I'm a Lone 🐺 but I wouldn't mind Lone Wolfing with you. ❤

[@exercicesinmetal666]

More time with nature? i disagree. Nature is everywhere, even in big cities. Oxygen is everywhere so therefore, we are in nature. there is less trees or waterfalls, but that's about it. For me this 'nature'' thing is 'depassé!''..obsolete information, uninformed people often say that. there is harsh nature also, don't forget this!

[@DavidCastillo-eq1hl]

The lone wolf is a Sigma male or a Sigma female They prefer to live outside of social hierarchies And be introspective rather then extroverted.

[@exercicesinmetal666]

Building self trust, so you can trust others? again a false information. or incomplete. Trust is based on ''earning it''...Its not just about self trust versus therefore we can't trust others. Its like saying we don't have a radar....complete contradiction.