Episode 5 - The Golden Child: How Narcissistic Mothers Favor Their Sons Over Daughters

[@SoulSeeker2025]

Thank you for this no one has covered it.

[@megsley]

my brothers are younger, and while they've had their issues with our mom, shes always helped them out, kept in contact, etc. as an adult, ive never asked my mom for anything and yet nothing i do is good enough and she's now cut me out of her life completely.

[@ThatsaTechnicalFoul]

My brother, who’s 4 years my senior, used to torture me as a child by suffocating me, locking me in closets & hampers & beating me like I was a grown man. A 4 year age difference when I’m just 7 years old means I had no chance of defending myself. I used to run to my mother for help but she’d just tell me I should show loyalty to my brother. Now that we’re both in our 40s, she flat out tells me I invented my entire childhood experience. These things never happened. My brother is now dying a slow death from a lifetime of drug use & untreated mental illness. He destroyed his heart & has a pacemaker. She still says, “He’s my hero.” My whole life, he’s been threatening to murder us both in very colorful ways. She ignores this. I’m disabled & can’t work and she’s turned my entire family against me by telling them I’m pretending to be sick for attention. Everyone believes her. She still calls to share anything good that happens to her because I’m really all she has. My disability was caused by a lifetime of trauma I wasn’t able to escape. I now live a life of isolation to stay safe.

[@Saranewberry0599]

Sounds familiar. My mom claims they were dreams… like okay sure…

[@preetymodi1543]

You are not alone ❤

[@elizabethmadron1336]

Similar except my brother was younger. He used to beat me too. I was 3 years older but tiny. I was born 3 months premature. My parents never punished him. I am also disabled. I think partly due to being born so early. I have 3 kinds of arthritis. None of this runs in the family. Then I fell in my house and torn a disk in my back. She downplays my illnesses and injury.

[@suusje004]

My mother called me after 8 years of no contact. She told me my father was very ill and he wanted to see me one more time. I made 2 appointments, both were cancelled. He wasn’t that ill! Then my brother her golden child ended all contact between me and my father. A month later I got a card they had a funeral for him days before I got the card. I am again at zero with healing.

[@suusje004]

I am broken over it. So much I relive my whole yought.

[@ThatsaTechnicalFoul]

Wow! I’m so sorry you’re going through this! The games they play with us absolutely bring us back to the drawing board over & again. I don’t have one solid year of my life where there was no new trauma. It’s like their goal is to constantly outdo themselves & as exhausted as we are, they NEVER tire of this game. 😠

[@suusje004]

@@ThatsaTechnicalFoul thank you, I find not many who know how this is like.

[@suusje004]

@@ThatsaTechnicalFoul they also pass others, never stepping away from their sick game. My father also didn’t get his wish fulfilled and he was too sick to stand against it.

[@bonnielewin8520]

A narcissist family is the most unloving heartbreaking cruel thing to experience. I have also had similar experiences.

[@nicolewright5342]

Thank you for this!!!! 😊

[@lisaproustresearch]

I find extremely interesting that without ever going to therapy, at age 24 I was so deeply hurt, betrayed & attacked by my "mother" (such an inappropriate label sometimes) that I immediately cut ties for 11 years. The concept of NO CONTACT until healed was intuitively exercised. Finally, when I was "ready" I re-engaged , only to stop again for about 1 year, 1 year later Finally, last Dec. after a set of actions that were dismissive, aggressive & extremely painful, I walked away and I will never come back I was so numb to the attacks that I couldn't feel them (or cry) and I realized that was when I was truly done.

[@charlottethanner4952]

You are so right! At the age of 12 I decided to leave her as soon as possible. She hurt me again and again. I was responsible for every thing that went wrong in her life. No contact is the only solution. I was the reason she had to marry. This woman is still evil at the age of 89 her sister told me. My brother who already died was subservient to her. He got divorced twice. His wifes never had a chance to become happy with him.