Episode Forty-Seven: Am I The A**hole? | Violating Community Guidelines

[@julianaholth5135]

one time i posted on r/amipretty and someone said. “you look like ted cruz.” then i deleted it and tried again and the same person found me again and commented “oh look it’s ted cruz girl.”

[@xlouisexox]

Christ🤣😂😂🤣😭😭😭🤦

[@chey5087]

Lmaoooo

[@meg.h.]

@Mark Aspen Girl what the heck is "bad screenshotting skills"? Like what was ur screenshot like?

[@sEaSoNaLMiLk]

LMAOOOO nooooo

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

No 💀

[@jessicapirnat]

as crocheted clothing has become more trendy, i would just like to remind everyone that crochet is a highly technical skill that can only be done by hand. most people who can make things like patchwork cardigans have been practicing and honing that skill for years (like the op says they have). to ask someone to spend at least a dozen hours (probably more) making a custom piece of clothing to your measurements for less than a couple hundred dollars is fucking insane. but because crochet is seen as a 'relaxing hobby' and fast fashion has warped our expectations in such a drastic way, people feel entitled to items that are clearly worth hundreds of dollars for as much as you might spend at a pacsun. absolutely the fuck not the asshole.

[@alexaliss8233]

Thank you so much for this. I've only been crocheting since July and already people are asking about commissions- not really realizing that it can take dozens and dozens of hours to make the piece they're requesting. Thankfully everyone in my life has been chill once I explain it, but people really be out there thinking I'm just pulling shawls and blankets out of my ass.

[@Anna-19928]

Yep, when she said the price (that she told the friend) I was like “that sounds reasonable.” I’m not a crocheter but I commissioned a cardigan once and paid $250. My measurements, my color choices, their time! Worth it

[@sonofabatchobrownies]

Thank you! Also keep this in mind with sewing and quilting! To a lot of people it's just a blanket, to other crafters it dozens of hours of technical labor! I have saved so many afghans and quilts from thrift shops just because I can't walk past all the hours someone poured into their work just sitting on the shelf 😂

[@tink6225]

THANK YOU

[@julliannacarmona6206]

I made my niece a blanket and my coworker asked me how much it would be for one and I was like uhhhhh well this costed me 100$+ in yarn and I worked on it for a month so you do the math 😂 I’d sell it for around 600$

[@kaitlynmcclure4921]

“I have only worked here for 8 days” took me OUTTT

[@samiraynay]

Finally I can let my three brain cells relax

[@jacehexom6230]

Thank god

[@mariya_tortilla]

taking a breather from using them rn

[@KingOfGaymes]

Time become brainless while listening to this

[@maggieg.6005]

You have 3???? Lucky 😔

[@dumbdonny4824]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@AevaSantini420]

them thinking a rainbow baby means gay is taking me out lmao

[@michaelpena780]

Especially cuz u can tell they have no clue what it is 😭

[@iseetheWAYVision]

i thought it was too until i saw the comments oof

[@DairyField]

Did not know either, was laughing along too picturing a baby pop out with a little flag they get for free 💀

[@vindifference]

tbh in a decade or so people will no longer know what it means, and thru spread of presumption and misinformation, the term will become solidified for gay.

[@shinigamisway1645]

Shit I didnt know what the term meant until I read an earlier comment. I really doubt they meant anything by it.

[@heatherduke5410]

One of the most hilarious AITA I've seen was one where this guy was all upset that his girlfriend, who was a preschool teacher, made her own clothes and face masks and they'd have whatever the kids were being taught on it. Like different animals or the planets. He was ripped apart in the comments and the girlfriend dumped him.

[@KingOfGaymes]

Why was he upset 💀

[@heatherduke5410]

@@KingOfGaymes I really don't know. He expected people to share his outrage and disgust in how she dressed. They did not. Everyone thought that it was really adorable, honestly. Especially since the kids apparently really enjoyed it.

[@novatm13]

Thats literally so wholesome. He was def the assh*le in that scenario.

[@bethswiftie]

Mrs Frizzle?? 😍

[@hannah4204]

Or that one where the guy (and his WHOLE FAMILY) thought it was weird and condescending that his girlfriend (maybe wife?) Made cookies for a bus driver.

[@ultvio9965]

Brittany’s dad telling her what to say to her bully is hilariously relatable

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

I know my dad and uncle came up with the best quips I was like FFUUUUUCK I wish I had thought of that. I at least learned how to turn every one to a deez nuts joke eventually. Vital to my survival.

[@moonlunatic]

My dad told me to “slap that bitch” at 13 😂!

[@frankensteinlives]

The person who spiked their work food with hot sauce actually ended up being exonerated. It turned out the HR person who tried to get them in trouble was dating the lunch thief and eventually both the HR person and the lunch thief got punished.

[@carolync.1910]

"if you've ever been divorced... that's crazy" is making me spiral

[@danpaxton3535]

lmfao

[@Haunted-Void]

The first story right off the bat reminded me of when my ex said I was pretentious for being proud of my Mexican heritage

[@brittneyriley2648]

racism!

[@Haunted-Void]

@Lilymoon thank you, im okay I just hope they never say that to another

[@bellesoares8523]

This is why I find it so hard to date outside of my nationality, I am Brazilian, and have only always dated and been with Brazilian people, because it’s so hard for me to connect with Americans because we don’t share the same cultural customs

[@Haunted-Void]

@@bellesoares8523 I definitely see that, honestly my ex was 'sad' about not having cultural things to celebrate so its possible jealousy played into it almost like an envy but I never gatekept anything from them I was happy to share my culture but I guess sharing is different than from having your own

[@SaintShion]

That's such a red flag to me. 🙅‍♀️ I'm Asain American and my husband is a Mexican immigrant. My dad's family is v racist towards darker skinned ppl and didn't want to have the party I wanted. So we had a formal 1 in Japan w my fam (My husband found out he doesn't like a lot of Japanese food xD) and than a backyard party in Mexico with karaoke, fireworks, mariachis, homemade food, and all my in-laws, and our dogs. I think you can tell which 1 was obviously funner. Idk why a lot of people in USA act like their better than Mexico even they don't know anything about the culture. Mexican ppl are always so accepting. His family and friends have accepted me more than my own dad's family has.

[@Souppuddle]

The college fund one is actually insane, they literally commited a crime and blamed her for being upset?!?!

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

I know. As someone who’s various family has tried to leave money when they die I’m just like sure friend you realize the rest them poor as mfers gonna Hoover it up before we get it and my parents never had shit to save for me. But! My husband genuinely had one that was spent on my brother in laws 3 failed degrees, my sister in laws degree and eventually my brother in laws art degree To top it off most money I saved for my own college fund they spent for my dad to go to school. TLDR; My broke ass ended up not only paying for my community college but also for a rich boy’s graduate school I couldn’t afford for myself 😂 If my family had blew threw 80 grand on ??? ID be pissed. At least my parents had a good reason. Medical debt and educating my dad to get him out of hard labour.

[@emilywires5692]

As a plus sized woman, I don’t want someone making comments about my body so making comments about anyone’s body should not even be a thing. The plus size woman didn’t want what she was dishing out and now she’s sad.

[@moonamigi]

Yeah no one should really comment about people's weight. Most people struggle to some degree with their appearance even if they're "average or mid-size", so hearing comments isn't helpful

[@nessmarie6044]

its esp sad since u know what's going thru her head when ur in a similar situation as her. prolly feared that her new coworker would attack her for her weight so she went n did it to her first, stooping to the level of the people who's tormented her. its sad n i really hope she realizes how wrong it is

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

as someone who's been very overweight and quite thin at different points in my adult life, I would never DREAM of commenting on another person's body. Ever. When I was bigger, I was terrified of anyone commenting on my body because I was convinced that everyone noticed my size and thought I was gross (obviously irrational as I never thought of other people's size, other than constantly feeling the biggest in the room and worrying about comments on my own body, but I guess ED brain is irrational). When I was smaller, I STILL thought way, because I had no concept of my actual size (again, ED brain). I'm not at my heaviest now but definitely plus size, and I have a much better idea of what I really look like vs what I feel like, but I remember so vividly feeling the same way even when I was almost at an unhealthy low weight. You never know what's going on in someone's life, whether they've gained or lost weight due to an ED, cancer, depression, stress, etc etc etc.

[@shinigamisway1645]

You know they say, "if you cant take the heat, get out of the kitchen. " I dont think the op was in the wrong in the slightest. All she did was feed her coworker her own medicine, and obviously she didnt like the taste 🧙‍♂️

[@deadskinconsumption]

Exactly how I saw it! I never comment on people’s weight bc I would never want anyone pointing out stuff about my body that I may be insecure about

[@basementdwellercosplay]

The first story you read the title of reminds me of a story on AITA where OP was tired of their coworker stealing food from them(which they told the person many time to not steal their food). Their coworker was proud Muslim so they put pork in their sandwich thinking the coworker won't eat it and they could eat it that day. But the coworker ate it and halfway realized it had pork and started yelling at OP and reported them. Like if you have restrictions on what you can eat, don't be surprised when you steal food and it's not to your standards

[@inmyworldkindagirl]

Same thing happened to my friend. He had a Muslim coworker who would always come over and take food (that he bought) from his plate in the cafeteria. He told her politely to stop and she got offended, said he was selfish, and always gave him stink eye after that. I think muslims have a strong sense of community, but when you move to another country, you can't assume that other ppl share your values. Like, make it make sense.

[@SharkUsingaComputer]

@@inmyworldkindagirl i understand repeatedly being ignored like that sucks but imo secretly feeding someone a food they cannot eat is too far 😬 there is no sin on the muslim's part bc it was accidental and life goes on but it still feels fucked up do

[@Erica-ms1kn]

@@SharkUsingaComputer nobody was secretly feeding anybody anything, he just brought in his own sandwich for his own personal lunch and had no intentions to give it to anyone else to eat

[@shinigamisway1645]

@@SharkUsingaComputer uh. He wasnt "feeding " anyone anything. A rotten thief learned a valuable lesson. Dont. Fucking. Steal. From. Others. This isnt fuckin complicated 🤣🤣💀

[@lacedupsm]

@@SharkUsingaComputer the entitlement lmfao

[@laurenrenee949]

these free flowing episodes that don’t have to be about deep topics are always my favorite

[@marcellakilgarriff]

Yes! I love it when they have more freedom to just chat and improvise. They both have such brilliant comedic timing that really shines when they're not tied to a deeper subject matter

[@OllieWi]

@@marcellakilgarriff y

[@OllieWi]

@@marcellakilgarriff yy

[@OllieWi]

@@marcellakilgarriff y

[@Ezra_Scales]

Not even 5 minutes into the podcast and they're already talking about anal fissures

[@KingOfGaymes]

What did you expect honestly

[@sydneykb7714]

I knew the risk I was taking when watching this while eating

[@shai-like-chai]

More like 50 seconds in and theyre talking about anal fissures 💀

[@smy627]

Right in front of my salad

[@kyleehyde6766]

new record lmao

[@laurennnn9642]

I’m adopted, so growing up people always picked at that. One day I finally had enough in middle school, turned around and said “My mom got to choose me, yours got stuck with you.” Never got taunted again 😂

[@inmyworldkindagirl]

Great comeback!!

[@laurennnn9642]

@@inmyworldkindagirl lol thank you, my mama came up with that 😂😂

[@Pre-Nup]

DAMN

[@kalliehill1838]

So are all just going to ignore that this is a stolen fake tumblr story?

[@laurennnn9642]

@@kalliehill1838 lol do I need to bring out my adoption papers from August 16th, 2000😂

[@originofsky]

as an AITA connoisseur, i am SO EXCITED for this one

[@KingOfGaymes]

Right I’m so hyped

[@Kali_0303]

Meeee I knew most of the stories already, but I stayed for the commentary😂😂😂

[@veevee6771]

The one of the skinny woman getting bullied by a plus size coworker, it's retaliation. The chunky woman was bullied and is now bullying skinny women. It's not right. As a plus size woman, it doesn't matter what anyone has ever said to you. You always show that you're a better person by never stooping down to their level. I used to be like that and tell skinny girls to "eat a burger" and I realized that is bullying just as much as what was said to me. The skinny woman is not the asshole.

[@KingOfGaymes]

It saddens me that the others in her story said only calling someone bigger is insulting. Like she didn’t like being called skinny and found it insulting but nobody cared.. but the second she said something back she’s seen as bad. As someone who’s pretty thin and has been my whole life due to things I can’t control.. being called skeletal, told to eat something and even called anorexic can really hurt a person and give them insecurities just like insulting bigger people can.. (As someone who’s been told things like that forever, trust me) To say that is “not as bad” just because bigger people get made fun of more often is just not fair at all and so invalidating to your feelings..

[@Victoriascarn]

@@KingOfGaymesexactly its both bad, yes, she shouldnt have stooped to her level, but the OP was not the asshole.

[@KingOfGaymes]

@@Victoriascarn yeah, like she wouldn’t have retaliated at all if the other woman just left her alone to begin with..

[@uhohspaghettios2391]

Abso-fucking-lutely. I've been overweight my whole life, and I used to be the "skinny bitches should eat a sandwich" type of person. It's genuinely just as toxic. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I feel like the bully is thinking, "Well, I know this girl's thinking/saying horrible things about me and my weight, since she's really skinny and especially since we work at a cupcake shop, so I'll just get out in front of her." She thinks she's taking power away from this new skinny girl who she assumes will be horrible to her, but all she's doing is antagonizing and being exactly like all the people who have ever been dicks about her appearance.

[@inmyworldkindagirl]

Exactly. How is being called too fat different from being called too skinny? Some ppl have high metabolisms, EDs, have medication side effects, etc. that make it so they cannot possibly gain more weight even if they eat a lot. There's just as much stigma around ppl who are so skinny you can see every bone as there is for overweight ppl. You just see more fat ppl in America than skinny ones, so it's more common to hear fatphobic remarks than antiskinny ones. And that coworker calling her "slim" is not a compliment. It's a slight because she is jealous of her. She's quite literally putting her down to make herself feel better about being overweight. How bout just don't comment on ppl's bodies, period. Especially when you just met them. That coworker was incredibly rude and entitled, and she deserved it nothing more and nothing less than what she got. Sincerely, one of those "toothpicks."

[@strikeforgore6626]

the story abt the workplace bully reminded me of how a girl in middle school would always treat me like a "pet" (classic autistic kid experience) and she had this huge mole right next to her nose and one day i was so sick of her patronizing passive aggressive behavior that i said "can you and your mole leave me alone?" she didnt bother me again 💀

[@444angelina]

I’m underweight due to an eating disorder and when people make fun of my size it can have really dangerous effects. while fatphobia is a much more systemic issue, body shaming is always wrong.

[@mago._.]

as someone who’s also underweight, it is honestly very disheartening how body shaming against skinnier people isn’t taken seriously. whenever i bring it up people think i’m trying to discredit fat shaming

[@ashm2338]

@@mago._. Same here. I used to eat until I threw up because bullies made fun of my underweight body. I was born with hyperthyroidism and was premature. I literally cannot help that I'm thin

[@mago._.]

@@ashm2338 and then when you tell them to stop commenting on your body, they act like you’re the bad guy bc “people would die for a body like that”

[@amethystimagination3332]

@@mago._. And people do because anorexia is deadly, yet somehow they don’t see how insulting that is

[@abbyg2970]

I developed anemia in high school. My body is so fragile now, I wish I would have taken better care of it

[@prismodius]

can we bring this back occasionally as a treat ?

[@rhivn8]

a "rainbow baby" is a baby born after one or a series of miscarriages. i'm not offended but someone might be so heads up! love you guys ❤️

[@mcm426]

Yeah I was confused as to why Brittany laughed while reading that. I guess not everyone knows what it is. But I know she wouldn't have laughed if she did know

[@tommie3324]

I was going to comment this! I know they definitely didn’t know that a rainbow baby was. I feel like they’re both very cautious about things they say and they would have never made fun of that term without knowing the full story- I’m hoping that’s the case ♥️

[@itsmj3103]

aaaaw, a rainbow baby 🥺🥺🥺❤ i love this

[@peachypie5283]

As someone with a rainbow baby I was caught off guard. Glad some commented and clarified ❤

[@lioreubm677]

Never heard of it before

[@stinkyastar]

sarah saying dirtsquirt knocked me out. literally the best duo, i love these two.

[@emilyward4388]

Calling someone toothpick, slim and too skinny IS offensive to someone who doesn’t want to be that skinny! I’m underweight and can’t gain and I hate it so much. People tell me to “go eat a cheeseburger” all the time. Why is that ok to say but if I told someone to “lay off the cheeseburgers” I would be a terrible person. Neither is ok! Let’s just stop commenting on other peoples body types in general and we can fix the issue as a whole.

[@Conformist138]

For the college fund... anyone notice the parents actually must have given the sister $160k? Because sis should have had her own fund, and she never went to college. If her own fund was depleted, and then she was given OP's fund, that means she was given $160k in 3 years, while living at home 😵‍💫

[@Maggdalena00]

Chunky girl is wrong. Sorry, she has no right to call the other person slim toothpick whatever. Being insulted for being too thin also causes ED and body dysmorphia. Don’t dish out what you can’t take either.

[@omu6740]

holy shit, brittany talking about the cons of being the “creative” friend are so relatable. when i was younger people would ask me to draw things and every time i told them i would with a price, they would look at me funny. or my parents friends asking me to make them logos or stuff like that. 😭

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

Seriously. They’re like hey learn poser and 3D model me shit on your busted ass computer 12 year old. Yeah…. Let me get right on that😅

[@daniellecope283]

It makes me think back to being a kid about aged 6 and I used to make key chains by braiding scooby strings and beads, if anyone remembers that phase. I guess I thought I was flirting and would let the boy I was sweet on come to me at the start of lunch before I sold them everyday for a chunk of time and choose through all my work and take his favourites whereas for everyone else there was a little trading business going on. I stopped cause the only time he was nice to me was those moments of taking from me, lil shot lol

[@EpicDoodleNerd]

@omu* omg same! for some reason they would also just assume that since I know how to draw and draw digitally that I can just somehow be proficient in any field of design like no? Just because I can draw on my computer doesn't mean I can just wip-out a decal for your work van? Christmas and Birthdays always make me feel ick. I'm just expected to make a card for someone with at most 2 days notice if not the DAY AFTER. It feels disingenuous and I end up feeling guilty because I do want to do something nice for them but it takes time and I just don't have it tbh.

[@ceci2339]

Here's my take on the "slim v chunky" tw: ed As someone who was always very skinny as a child, you get called out on you weight constantly. I've been told "are you starving yourself", "you'd be so pretty if you weren't so skinny", "eat a sandwich", "your skin and bones, it freaks me out", and so much more like . mind you I did not have an eating disorder and I was a healthy weight. Anytime I've brought up people shaming my body like that I've been told it's a compliment or it's not as bad as being shamed for being fat. I am now overweight as an adult and have been body shamed for that. To me it's the same. It's not okay to talk about people's body's negatively at any weight

[@Yamismol]

I’ve been extremely skinny my whole life as well and always felt uncomfortable with the comments made about my body. I got all of those, but even the complements made me uncomfortable. Especially when they would bring themselves down to do so

[@blakehattaway7762]

3:57 hearing their laughs sync up is sending me 💀

[@opinionatednobody5631]

omg lmao i didn’t even notice that

[@hantheminion]

this happened a couple times this episode and i thjnk it made my braincells mutate

[@AncientCrustacean]

any AMAB shaming an AFAB for their period is OUT OF LINE. it doesn't matter what their personal issues or hang-ups are.

[@AncientCrustacean]

she needs to dump his ass right away

[@AncientCrustacean]

and being uninformed is no excuse at all, because he is attempting to micromanage and control her and the household all around her period. someone who is uninformed but not a narcissist will sit back and listen, not try to control someone else's situation they cannot relate to in any way.

[@LeBatteur]

Even if he does have a phobia of blood or something, that’s something he needs to figure out in the privacy of a therapist’s office, not humiliating his girlfriend for her natural bodily functions.

[@EtherealKayla_]

Yea the defense on this didn’t sit well with me honestly. I’m happy I’m not the only one who was thinking this

[@savannahadams8295]

Exactly. I have OCD (not with contamination or blood phobia) it sounds like he could have it or just have obsessive thoughts. BUT it is not okay to excuse actions like that. Forcing someone to abide by your compulsions is fueling the obsessions. That guy is the asshole

[@ruruloll]

When I got my first period, I didn’t realize it until after like a month or so and thought that I was just constantly shitting myself. I told my mom that I couldn’t stop sharting and she looked at it and told me it was my period😭😭

[@Boing2699]

After a MONTH? Do you mean your period lasted that long or just that you kept thinking back on it and when it came again you figured out what it was?

[@ruruloll]

@@Boing2699 Second option lmaoo! By the time it came back around, I told my mom abt it and she told me what it was. My first two periods were more brown than red, so that’s where the confusion came from 💀💀

[@Mary1337]

LMAO IS THIS REAL people have so funny stories when it comes to their first period. Kids seeing something in their underwear. Constantly shitting yourself 😭😭

[@ruruloll]

@@Mary1337 yes it unfortunately is VERY real lmaoo 😭😭

[@humanure0]

lmaoo for real like why did none of the health classes tell us that at the start and/or end of our period, the blood is brown because it’s like old or oxidized or whatever (??) i genuinely was so concerned when i first got it. i just figured that if it was from my period, that i’m the only one that gets this wacky “brown blood” phenomena. thank god for google though cuz that cleared it up for me lol

[@CoriCar]

I was bullied for most of my childhood for being “too skinny” to the point that I got spoken to by adults in my school about ed. I’ve never had one. That woman wasn’t wrong for standing up for herself.

[@luh.4968]

same, i agree with you. Bodyshaming goes both ways

[@Manx174]

this . when i was almost 300lbs it was all about loose the weight your so fat. and now that im 115 i get told im too skinny and need to eat more and constant questions on if i have an ed

[@CoriCar]

@@Manx174 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. If you feel good in your body with what you eat don’t let anyone gaslight you into thinking there is something wrong. It’s harder than it sounds but I did it and you can too❤️

[@Mary1337]

Yup, that was me in school! I didn't have an ED. Got bullied for having one though. All body shaming is wrong, skinny or not.

[@artorhen]

Yes, poking at a certain particularity in someone, and always bringing it up is basically a sure way to make them insecure about it and blow things out of proportion until it actually affects that person negatively.

[@gillyco.7240]

NOT THE RAINBOW BABY BIT 💀 what a horrendous oopsie lmaooo

[@Sjood-qs8ol]

How is it horrendous?? They clearly didn’t mean anything bad. If people are offended that’s on them.

[@gillyco.7240]

@@Sjood-qs8ol im just joshin its not bad at all and me being a rainbow baby is the only reason i even know what they are

[@shinystickers_9313]

i didn’t catch this bit, what’s the time stamp?

[@AuraKitsu]

@@shinystickers_9313 30:00

[@alexmarkadonis7179]

My mom taught me about periods when I was 4 years old. It is not hard to learn about these things. The only difficulty I ever had was when I had to buy pads for my mom and the old-fashioned pharmacist thought I was pranking him. A 40+ year old man thought I, an 8 year old boy, was taking the piss and trying to seem like I was buying pads for myself, not my ill mother.

[@sarahlandry2988]

When I'm having some kind of emotional conflict with someone I use the AITA format to work through it in my journal but I never actually post them to Reddit lmaoo. Love this episode!!

[@maddiehansen5661]

wait i LOVE this idea i’m gonna try it omg

[@_Moe]

I do the same thing! It's like writing an angry letter but not sending it! Just getting the thoughts out there makes them more solid and understandable.

[@segamai]

Compleeeetely disagree on the one where the skinny girl gets bullied. Yes, fatphobia is ostensibly the worst of the weight shaming options, but not by far enough that bullying someone for being thin is incomparable. Regardless of how society views weight, interpersonally it is SO damaging to be bullied for it. And it’s very lofty to suggest taking the high road but that’s just respectability politics and let’s be very real for a minute, bullies only get defeated on their own turf and you don’t owe ANYONE the other cheek. I’m glad she retaliated in kind, fuck that other girl

[@laceOlivia]

I agree. BUT. I also think some AITA stories are posted just so Reddit and the OP can dump on a group they hate. I enjoyed Reddit a lot less when I realized how many posts are made just so people can shit on women

[@moonamigi]

Yeah bullies will only stop if you "speak their language"

[@patrickm2006]

@@laceOlivia Honestly, I'm not surprised :( How did you find out there were some fake ones? or was it just obvious?

[@humanure0]

@@patrickm2006 i’m curious about this too. it’s especially bad when the misinformation being spread causes you to form a bias over time. like you see enough shit said on the internet about something in particular, you start to see that “something” in a different way. i’m afraid to be on here !!

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

@@humanure0 yeah I think AITA is having a bad influence on my view on men… So many stories I’ve read of husbands and boyfriends who are straight up disrespectful, lazy or manipulative. I tried telling myself not all men are like that but then I remember my own experiences and it only gets worse. Meanwhile most of the women in my life have only ever been great and that’s why I’ve always gravitated more towards making female friends rather than befriending men. I do enjoy that subreddit because of the ridiculousness and the hilarious and satisfying comments but the stories about men are honestly making me afraid of ever having a romantic relationship with a man. I am heterosexual to make matters worse 😅

[@madisonstoner7405]

Something that kind of gets me about AITA is the fact that so many people show up to be supportive in truly fucked-up situations. Reddit users come out in droves to call out about abusive relationships and offer guidance. I'm not crying, you're crying.

[@sweetembrace6706]

except that reddit leans young, white and male and that SHOWS frequently. they never take in social or cultural context.

[@iseetheWAYVision]

@@sweetembrace6706 this!

[@Feliciatanktop]

@@sweetembrace6706yeah the bad thing about Reddit in general is the vast majority are white American men. And it makes anything that's not centered around this group downvoted/hate-driven

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

It’s like a crazy mix. To laugh at socially unaware dipshits and cry and offer support at those going THRU IT.

[@sairuhbby]

"we have such short attention spans that we can't just read something. it has to be read to us while something else is going on" me: _stops knitting_ IT HAS BEEN 2 MINUTES

[@morganvalerie120]

HAHAHA me reading the comments while listening

[@pauldee1577]

SO glad Sarah brought up that Sophie is probably a narcissist. Narcissists will use their presence in your life as a bargaining chip, hiding from their partners as punishment. They will also get jealous of their partners' relationships with other people. The guy's mom in case #2 is also almost certainly a narcissist...speaking anecdotally as a guy who has dealt with that. Sounds like his mom uses her explosive rage to get what she wants, and she has conditioned him to avoid that explosive rage at all costs.

[@BadDrawer]

So for the annulment you have 3 days, and I know this because of a hilarious interaction with the judge that did my courthouse wedding with me and my husband. Literally as soon as we were married he added "and you have 3 days to annul with no consequences". It's still a joke with my husband and I as a way to lighten the mood when one of us is frustrated- "God you are SO lucky it's been over 3 days!"

[@SarahELynchDesigns]

The crochet one hits close to home with me as I crochet and often sell my stuff. I HATE when people send me pictures of stuff and tell me that I should make it. No pattern attached or sometimes it's knit and not crochet. A friend once posted a picture of something that was knitted on my fbook page and I said how cute it was, they told me I should make it, I said unfortunately it was knit and I crocheted. She and an additional friend that I had meet through her reamed me and said I should just be able to make it from the picture, that was true creativity and it didn't matter if it was a picture and not a pattern... So glad to know that they know me and my skills better than me!

[@alexaliss8233]

ugh... how those people already feel entitled to your time and your talent I'll never know. That's really frustrating.

[@Squishyfl0wer]

Sarah talking about her first period cracked me up. It reminded me of when I got mine at school in 7th grade and didn’t know how to put on a pad when I went to the nurse. So I put the sticky side on my fucking cooter and legs. Do what you will with this information

[@ohcanitbe]

Dude same

[@Squishyfl0wer]

@@ohcanitbe gotta love Indiana sexual education

[@ohcanitbe]

@@Squishyfl0wer LMAO I’m from indiana too

[@Squishyfl0wer]

@@ohcanitbe they failed us both💀

[@Goose-pic]

That sounds so fucking painful😭😭😭

[@lukesart8023]

Can we please get a part 2/extended series for this topic? I love y’all’s reactions and perspectives on this! 💖

[@AnnaTofCharleston]

I started my period at age 11, a month after my mother died. And kept it a secret until my pediatrician ratted me out. Let's just say summer of '08 was very transformative for me.

[@bs5817]

I’m sorry for your loss anna

[@Zimzum93]

I got my first period the morning after my brother died if suicide and I found his body. I thought I was dying of stress. I was 11 as well. Sorry for your loss.

[@katestrayer1825]

I’m obsessed w all this period talk!!!! I laughed so hard. Being 14 and suddenly having my period was such a funny time of my life. I was like I’m a woman now????

[@isacarral2736]

I was 12 and was like THIS CAN’T BE RIGHT, I AIN’T NO WOMAN 🗣🗣🗣

[@hannahcrouch22]

One of the first AITAs I saw was on Twitter about a man cheating on his wife with a coworker for years and leaving her high and dry with like nowhere to live it was AWFUL I will never forget it

[@catbeara]

1:09:00 this whole bit had me dead lol "Thankfully, all my grandparents are dead." "Happy Funeral, grandma." "Sorry you died." "Feel better, hope you get well soon!" 😂😂😂

[@Gorentaya]

I love this episode alot, there was just one thing that didnt sit right with me. Which was the weight thing. As someone who is severely underweight and suffers from a very hard and complicated eating disorder called Arfid, that story stuck with me. All my life ive been called “thin” or “a stick” or what have you, and it is genuinely hurtful. I dont want to be skinny. I hate how i look, when i look in the mirror i see a skeleton. Im unhealthy, i lost a big chunk of my hair last year due to not eating, and overall it has effected my muscles and bones, im frail and my body always hurts. The person who was telling their story could very well be in the same shoes as me and we wouldnt know. And it is just as hurtful to have your weight be pointed out to you if even if youre underweight and not overweight. It leads to alot of health and self image issues all together My biggest trigger is hearing being called thin is a compliment. Because i am slowly dying because my body refuses to consume food like a normal person. Society has painted being physically unwell and literally killing yourself as beauty, and it is terrifying. Being underweight is just as serious as being overweight. And its not being taken as seriously because again, its seen as beautiful. Thats all Thought id share my perspective.

[@jaushabakkas8127]

the double standard is ooozing on that one, I think it should be noted, that all thing is depend on that person, if called "Skinny" is hurtful, what makes it any different than any type of insult? You can't say "you should go for other thing", why not? called skinny is no more less hurt than called "fat". bruh

[@humanure0]

I HAVE ARFID TOO!! sorry for the caps but it’s so rare to find someone else with the ED i have. i’m sure it’s not even a rare disorder to have but nobody just knows about it yet. which of course makes it so hard to find treatment. i just want you to know that i feel you. 100%. i have borderline osteoporosis due to this cursed disorder. i’ve grown up all my life being told that i should eat more, or that i look like a model or some shit. Now, i don’t love being told that i’m underweight and should eat a sandwich or whatever, but i would absolutely rather that then when i’m complimented on being skinny. i HATE more than anything, the fact that the way that i look is unhealthy, is glossed over and considered desirable by people. it’s so damaging being told that people wish they looked like me. makes me doubt whether i should be actively trying to better myself and my physical health. i can’t even imagine how much more harmful that kind of remark is to someone with a body image based eating disorder. having already thought that they need to look thinner, and then being told that they look like a model or something. our society is so fucked.

[@thatgirltianna_4872]

“Did I poop” took me out I was trying my hardest to hold in my laugh

[@robinbailey6580]

i usually like to listen to podcasts while i walk around the grocery store to help with my social anxiety. but every time i listen to this one i end up looking crazy laughing to myself in the bread aisle 😂

[@marialane5193]

I have never felt so personally seen by a comment😂the worst is when you do it while accidentally making eye contact with someone, I just burst out laughing and can’t explain why

[@starstr1ke203]

YESSSS Yall bring me so much joy it's actually insane I love this podcast so God-damn much

[@Grace-ig7vm]

SAAAME

[@canislunaticus]

31:35 lmao someone at work asked to commission me for like a card (like I do xmas cards, pretty detailed portraits with drawn frames, glitter etc) and I said it would cost atleast $20 for A5 card and she expected it to be like $5 max $10 lmaooo

[@freezi-drink]

As a plus size woman, the girl that was being harassed was in the right and her response was actually v funny. The 'chunky' woman has clearly never been put in her place and needed a fucking reality check

[@allexn9213]

Ok the period one I relate too. I haven't even heard it yet but my parental units that i don't live with anymore used to ban me from sitting on any furniture when i was on my period. I usually didn't go downstairs but when i did it was for dinner and while everyone would sit in the living room, i would be eating on the bench in the kitchen above the living room. They said it was because i 'stained it' but i got a video of my dogs licking the same spot for 20+ minutes which left a stain. They don't do it anymore but ill make it a deal when ppl are over like 'am i allowed on the couch or are you worried my blood will stain it?' They don't like it much

[@Deniicea]

So I was sleeping (living together with my ex) when I woke up to the bed shakinng. When I looked over he was pleasuring himself. Not just the fact that he did it right next to me but when I glanced at his face to see the corn he was watching... IT WAS HIS MOM. No not someone who looks like his mom, his actual mom. I've seen her many many times before and recognized her instantly. I was gone the next day.😂

[@Kat-ju3yi]

I got an annulment. We were married about 6 months. Long story, but annulments means you were legally never married. It’s also way easier than a divorce. My reasoning was I was not in the right frame of mind to make a major life decision.

[@grandmasgopnik9642]

Cool 👍

[@courtneyless2245]

Please do another am I the asshole episode. Could listen to this all day

[@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594]

My friend was on her period last month, and she ran out of tampons and asked me if I could get some for her. I did and I thought “Oh ill get her Reese’s too because I know she likes those,” so I’m standing in line at Walgreens and this old lady is behind me in line, and she leans over to me and said “You’re a good boyfriend. You’re girlfriend is lucky.” I didn’t have the heart to tell her that I am a gay man, so I just said “Thank you.”

[@madiisonrivera]

still better than most friends!! your friend is lucky to have you 🫶🏻

[@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594]

@@madiisonriverathank you 💜

[@bri_gregs213]

everytime they upload im always checking to see if brittany has a new sticker on her laptop

[@Boysrule000]

I was crying when they were suggesting the girl from the period story was going around leaving kiss marks on his furniture whenever she sits. The idea of her scent marking his shit by leaving pussy prints killed me 😂

[@jr0ckz89]

on the facebook aita it really is like the joking example you gave of “he communicates with you! with loud sounds” 😭 once there was a woman asking if she was the asshole for bringing her ex back to court for violating the custody/restraining order and people were really like “omg ur daughters so lucky to have a father that cares about her!!”

[@jae4ze]

I've never like clapped back at someone for mocking my weight but like I used to get called skeletor and told that I look like I'm dying and that I should eat a burger and shut up and such, I was just underweight because I was in a growth spurt and fast metabolism. It would make me feel like utter shit but I just ignored them for the most part and tried to move on with my life.

[@seacherub]

UGH the crochet story is so true, i crochet to help my anxiety out and the amount of people who ask me to make them ELABORATE time consuming expensive things for free is crazy. I love giving my creations as gifts for birthdays and stuff. It’s so weird to me, only one person has actually offered to buy my crochet and i love him so much bc he actually respects the grind LMAO but really its such a weird phenomenon that people just think that its not worth paying for?

[@jadlad9666]

"enforce your ethnicity" 💀the audacity

[@themaiker_]

I want this to become a series so bad. Just reading aita posts lol

[@aros1425]

The Facebook marketplace, missed connections, this episode, etc. are my favorite episodes!! Their ability to react and improv to a post is amazing! It's a huge reason why their Zillow Gone Wild series is so popular.

[@xKatTheBratx]

Oh thank FUCK this is exactly what I needed today. Love you guys.

[@kinghanaa1157]

sarah just saying “yuh” every 2 seconds kills me every time

[@guisantos2934]

This is my favorite VCG episode so far, I laughed uncomfortably loud at my dog, who did make me feel like I was the asshole 😂😂

[@pnuthead13]

I work in property management and a woman came in to tour the property one day. She was seated out at the front desk working with our leasing consultant but abruptly left without actually touring. I came out of my office about thirty minutes later to ask my colleague a question and the guest chair in front of her station (which isn’t in her full view) was absolutely covered in blood. I felt sooo badly for the lady who left - she must have known what happened.

[@MaxxHamilton]

Played this episode on a long car ride with my mom. Almost lost hope with the poop/infection stuff but the rest of the ep got some genuine belly laughs out of my mom so ily guys truly a pod for all

[@KathLady]

I never listened to your podcast and I lost it when y‘all had the period talk. Couldn’t handle it, laughed all the way through this section. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@pixality7902]

From the other side of things, comments about being skinny can be just as awful as those about being fat. The difference is people recognize it as insulting when the person is fat and don't when they are skinny. I had a point where I was literally unable to eat solid food due to problems with my esophagus. It was torture even being around food and 100x worse when people made comments about how I should eat a burger. I would have given anything to eat a burger and could not. We do a lot of socializing around food and couldn't participate because it was so difficult. I imagine it is similarly emotionally difficult for people with eating disorders or other medical conditions.

[@sunvibed]

Hey y'all to answer the annulment question! It's different from a divorce bc a divorce legally ends a legal marriage whereas an annulment is voiding a marriage on the basis that it was illegal and should have never happened. What that means state to state might be different but its usually things like having been under the influence at the time of marriage, only getting married due to being tricked/lied to about who the spouse is, someone not being of legal age, incest etc. And this has to be legally proven for the marriage to be annulled. So if someone cheats or decides they want different things, they qualify for a divorce but not annulment.

[@peachbunnys01]

Being called skinny isn’t a insult but refusing to call someone by their name and constantly talking about their body isn’t the same as just calling someone skinny. I’m a bigger girl and I can say I don’t blame her for calling the girl chunky. I definitely disagree with them the way they were sheltering the plus size women when she was bullying a women on her size as well.

[@WanderTrust]

im way too proud of this but I was in a movie theater once, and this guy in front of me would NOT stop talking. So as I'm watching this movie, being periodically pulled out of it and seething with anger, thinking of what I can say that isnt just 'hey can you STFU' and being super agro...I landed on possibly the most passive aggressive but turns out, most effective solution. The guy was sitting just in front to the left of me, so there was a perfect space in between the seats for me to just....stretch my leg out and land my boot directly on his shoulder. This of course startled and confused him...I continued to watch the movie and when he finally turned around to ask what I was doing I said 'oh, do you not like that?' He said 'no not really, what are you doing???' to which I replied 'well, i figured since you decided to talk through the whole movie that I could also just do what I wanted.' And i've been chasing that high ever since. That was that, i think he was pretty embarrassed and definitely shut up for the rest of the film XD At the end of the movie his buddy apologized to ME and I just said it was fine and we kind of laughed and brushed it off. So even if ITA i have zero regrets.

[@ailenmarie5056]

This isn’t even two years old??? I feel like I was an earlier evolution of human when I listened to this!!

[@Bri_x3]

PLEASE do more reddit topics these are absolute gold, i couldn’t stop laughing 😭

[@theonionqueen3519]

36:58 Jesus, I’m a 5’9 115 pound lady, and me and my brother call each other Chunky (inside joke unrelated to our weight) I was surprised when I heard the story because it reminded me of myself! Edit: I think she is NTA. I have lived through the experience of people constantly commenting on my weight because I’m really thin, and it is really damaging. It puts your worth in your weight, it makes me panic when I gain weight because who am I if I’m not the ultra skinny girl? I’ve been called toothpick, slim, string bean, and it fucking sucks. She asked the coworker to stop, she didn’t, anything now is fair game.

[@meggokappo]

The only reply from OP in the period one is her saying "Lol, honestly he's a great guy when I'm not on my period" but at the end of the day, if your partner isn't great to you when you're feeling like garbage (ESPECIALLY if they're someone who doesn't have to deal with periods), then they aren't great at all. My boyfriend literally reminds me to take Midol because he doesn't like when I'm in pain from cramps, will bring me the bottle of Midol in the morning so I don't have to get out of bed, and always asks if I need him to stop and get me something on the way home from work if I'm feeling bad. I wonder how OP's boyfriend would act if OP got a stomach bug or something. Seems like he'd just lock her in the bathroom.

[@nerd_world8919]

53:28 glad that y’all considered her leaving parts of the story out. Cause as I was listening I was like “okay but what prompted this?” Like it makes you wonder if she has indeed bled on the furniture in the past and now he is worried, or that she has a very heavy flow that causes issues. Definitely feels like details are being left out

[@yea0000]

i’d love a part 2 to this! or just more AITA stories every now and then

[@Veebobeebo]

I've seen videos of proposal's during weddings and from what I can see the couple getting married are very into it and want to share that special moment but if you don't want that than the person asking to propose at your wedding should respect your wishes because there are ways to make a proposal just as special

[@selenac9941]

My first thought about Sophie was I just don't think introverts propose at other people's weddings

[@alicethemad1613]

Honestly I feel rlly bad for the husband in that story too. His mom is actually abusive if he has to worry that anything he does that goes against her will make her ostracize him from the entire family. Like that’s straight up emotional abuse, I’d hate to see what she was like when he was younger. Abuse is hard to escape from so it makes sense why he would keep trying to appease her and just let her do what she wants.

[@geminaljane]

idk if you guys want an answer lol but annulment requirements are tough, it has to be like Sarah said cheating or something drastic, but it can also be because the marriage was predicated on a lie by one person (identify theft, undisclosed financial or legal problems, etc. also, in an annulment you don't usually get a settlement, but in divorce the legal default is 50/50 split assets.

[@SilverStone017]

My AITA situation was my brother scaring me in Walmart with a ghost face mask, fully knowing it was probably gonna happen, and then I just punched him right in the nose XD

[@floraa4270]

YTA

[@suhdude9560]

NTA

[@TriciaStewart84]

NAH

[@YuriPlisetskyKinnie]

NTA

[@rachelchandler5711]

Honestly this episode could turn into a whole series. I'm putting my vote in for a pt2

[@k-popprincess416]

The actual line from Liar Liar goes: "Mr. Reede, several years ago a friend of mine had a burglar on her roof, a burglar. He fell through the kitchen skylight, landed on a cutting board, on a butchers knife, cutting his leg. The burglar sued my friend, he sued may friend and because of guys like you, HE WON. My friend had to pay the burglar $6,000. Is that justice?"

[@gabsolute]

This episode really reminds me of the earlier episodes like LinkedIn Influencers, Fanfiction, and Craigslist Misconnections… Like making fun of people who they don’t even know yet know so much about them is so funny 😭

[@flubberbubberc.4331]

I disagree that the cupcake slim girl should have not said anything. Don’t dish out what you can’t take back. Chunky knew that she could pick on slim and not be in the wrong.

[@danilion6880]

Please, y’all need to do more AMITA videos, this is amazing

[@juiceyborger]

41:43 in a similar vein to sarah's go-to insult, in middle school once texted a kid who bullied me with his little clique something along the lines of "your sidekicks act like they love you so much, but in reality nobody would even care if you got hit by a train". needless to say, his mom called our teacher and i got a very scary talking-to. listen, it sounded better in my head

[@tater.tot.freak.]

Frankie Muniz actually had a bunch of head injuries so he literally doesn’t remember his childhood/upbringing. Malcom in the middle, agent cody banks, big fat liar, he doesn’t remember any of it. So wild.

[@jhart1127]

Da fuq?

[@gumshake689]

i remember he said that it wasnt because of head injuries, it was due to the stress of child acting

[@tater.tot.freak.]

@@gumshake689 nope. He said on Steve-o’s podcast that he had a lot of injuries from sports as a kid and then crashes from his racing days resulting in about 9 concussions

[@emmaboivin6893]

My great grandmother would notoriously reuse cards like Sarah but unironically. She would cut out the bottom of the inside where someone had previously signed and just sign it herself again. I've gotten cards with crossed out ages, "happy birthday grandma's" and so much more 😂

[@hazelandcats]

I also thought I had shat myself the first time i got my period, so i hid the evidence only to discover an hour later that it had happened again. Told my mom and she was like lol that’s your period

[@mk-md2oz]

about the crochet one; I am a tattoo artist in training and the amount of people who are like “so I’ll be getting free tattoos for life” and get mad when I say no…WHAT DO U MEAN? I’m paying for the things to tattoo you, why would you not pay? Im not about to pay YOU to tattoo you…come on

[@mytearsarepurple]

Sarah talking about how she dumped her diva cup into the sink reminded me of when I had to dump my dads pee cup thing ( he was a double leg amputee and restricted into a wheelchair so he couldn't like pee in the toilet) and I went to go empty it. IT NEVER OCCURED TO ME THAT I WAS SUPPOSED TO DUMP IT IN THE TOILET AND NOT THE SINK. I panicked as soon as I realized and yelled to my parents " OH MY GOD IM DUMPING DOWN THE SINK" literally as the last drop came out

[@jackwack5402]

Yooo the Sophie and Cassie thing makes so much sense because my best friends partner was so quiet and mousy when they came to visit (they were long distance; us in Australia them in Eastern Europe) and it was so confusing because I always heard such good things. Then over the next year I would frequently get crying phone calls from my darling best friend about their terrible behaviour and it was a fucking TRIP because huh???? i couldn’t believe it was the same person!!! and i am very familiar with the textbook narcissist behaviour of being so charming or reserved but they’re a maniac behind closed doors. It was painful to watch my wonderful friend who is so very sweet and lovely not have a fucking clue what was happening and be so in love

[@jazzyrevenge93]

AH a new episode. Now I can wash my dishes with something actually good to listen to