How To Use Deep Coaching Techniques In A Coaching Session | Rich Litvin

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[@jennyryan1949]

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[@lkn7935]

The way Rich throws the voice modulation and that pauces.. Brilliant. Instantly he created that connect with coachee n he gained her trust. Spot on.

[@mindvalleycoach]

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[@bringit-tolife]

I love turning the client's challenge into a superpower and asking them to share how they do it. Brilliant.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great takeaway! Thanks for sharing :)

[@Claritymind]

I like Rich's approach to ask the client to teach him the pattern the client has gone through and now wants to change to live a fuller life.1) The client becomes the expert and gives the steps to reach a certain goal (here, not desired). 2) The client sees that if there is structure in a destructive pattern that was unconsciously set as a standard for themselves and then the possibility to create a newly designed and chosen pattern at their own will. Love this video. Great quality life coaching sessions like these are jewels. Thank you so much once again for the Evercoach channel to be available to all.

[@mindvalleycoach]

So glad you enjoyed it! And amazing takeaways from the conversation. Thanks for sharing ❤❤

[@saraelateif]

This actually got me to understand why we are so good at teaching others what we fail to teach ourselves. I believe that from every struggle we learn something for ourselves to take us to the next step but because we drown in the feelings we forget the main point 😊. Very insightful coaching session, I love the ‘change the perspective’ and ‘draw the key takeaways from a struggle’ approaches.

[@thespeakercoach]

The flipping of perspective to keep the client spinning and looking inside for answers. Great!

[@ajitnawalkha6019]

yup. simple and powerful!

[@karenkeybrowning516]

I appreciated his fabulous transition statement, using a positive emotion going from future to present. A good transition can be underrated and when forgotten turns the dialog into something mechanical vs a caring conversation.

[@mindvalleycoach]

We couldn't agree more, Karen! :)

[@tiisetsozane_boxfree]

One of the most vital things I've learned is that the coach asks probing question that enable the conversation to go deeper

[@mindvalleycoach]

Spot on, Tiisetso! 😉

[@sumanasethuraman]

What was most powerful for me was talking about the future as if it were the present - knowing in your bones everything you are doing right - you already have all of the answers/choices you can make for a better life, if only you could tap into it like this! And talking about the present as if it were the past is also so amazing, it takes me out of the pain of the present experience and helps me see my unhealthy patterns clearly.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great insights, Sumana! Thank you for sharing :)

[@cindythackston2300]

I noticed Rich didn’t hesitate to interrupt his client to redirect her towards powerful insights and away from limiting beliefs.

[@ajitnawalkha6019]

Great catch!

[@Primeaux182]

I wondered about this interruption during a previous coaching demo. I found it really helpful. I have struggled to do so myself in previous coachings I gave... only to see the conversations is going nowhere and the client not getting a lot out. There was too much talking of the client without challenging beliefs and me leading the exploration. Thank you for the great catch. I will try it out and use the new awareness! :)

[@erienwfryer383]

I was wondering about this interruption and the method in which it was done. I was not sure if this would be considered rude since the rules of engagement were not clearly stated at the beginning of the session. I like to let people know at the beginning of the session that I may "lovingly interrupt" them so that we can maximize the effectiveness of the session by remaining in areas that we can directly impact.

[@wendypaquette1676]

I love watching Coaches, every time I write down new techniques to try. Thank you.

[@mindvalleycoach]

That's awesome, Wendy! We have loads more coaching demo's you can enjoy ;) Thanks for sharing :)

[@michaelkratz4444]

Love Rich's tone of voice and how it pretty much stays the same.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Thanks for sharing, Michael! ❤

[@carolinarahe2684]

The way he started the "session" I think it is one of the best I've seen. By putting her client into a perspective of a winner (her future self) she will become more comfortable, more secure and at ease when the time comes to talk about her present and her issues even her body posture changed. She already feels like a winner, so wouldn't be a problem to talk about her "past" I think. Also from the coach perspective, in a matter of minutes, he knows clearly what is his goal, where he needs to bring her client to and where to focus to start asking questions. I will call this technique "starting from the finale"...found it FANTASTIC! Thank you Ajit for sharing this.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Beautiful insight, Carolina! So glad you enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@MinervaGoddessofWisdom]

I loved seeing this. Thank you for sharing! Things I observed are he wasn't afraid to get present off the top, he takes pauses, he takes the client into future thinking and I really LOVED the technique of "Teach me how to make 3x the revenue and get burnt out?" This draws out the blocks that the coach and client could work on next if that is the desired goal. Thanks for this! I am registered for his 8 principles class and I cannot wait!

[@ajitnawalkha6019]

awesome! thanks for sharing this.

[@christinefrancois6371]

What I loved most overall was seeing how Rich helped her transform her negative perceptions of herself and her work to one of a more positive nature. Her ability to laugh was priceless. I saw her truly stop and THINK. Also I loved how he got her to FOCUS on the conversation with HIM and not the audience as if she was a performer. He created that level of intimacy even with the audience of 400-500. Truly masterful! Thank you Ajit for making these opportunities for reflection and deeper learning possible! :-D

[@mindvalleycoach]

We're so happy you enjoyed this, Christine! Thanks for your kind words and reflection ❤

[@lallabouchraelamrani]

I really like the fact that Rich makes her visualise herself being her dream state , it must me a great feeling , then he makes her conscious of her burn out of today .When she teachs him the cause of that burn out ,structure starts to show up for her . In such a short time ,she is inspired to have another job helping people , not to fall in that trap and found herself already a step forward in her dream state

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great summary! Thanks for sharing :)

[@chus.cartes]

There is so much Love in this stage and respect and authenticity and true Silence. So beautiful :) Thanks

[@mindvalleycoach]

So glad you enjoyed this. Thanks for sharing 💜

[@celialedesma6595]

Pause -how important, not just while coaching but also in our own lives. - Thanks for sharing Rich’s technics, he is a master.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Yes, he is! Thanks for sharing, Celia ❤

[@angelicadejesus801]

I loved the approach of the starting question. I had to stop the video to answer it for myself. It not only elevates the person to a more positive state but considering that I aspire to work with young adults, it gives me the perfect initial understanding and insight of how far they have thought about their future and how clear they are about it.

[@mindvalleycoach]

What an amazing reflection, Angelica! And special kudos to you for stopping the video and reflecting on it yourself, what a great way to elicit insights! Thanks for sharing ♥

[@JUSTCreative]

The slides were also very powerful, even if they did not go into much detail... eg. "Perspective VS Instructions" and "Serve VS Please". The essentials.

[@mindvalleycoach]

So true! Thanks for sharing :)

[@aixadiaz6283]

It is amazing how the space and quiet time he took brought him the proper conversation and was very calm, I was already stressed thinking "why he doesn't say anything" I was quite uncomfortable and silent, need to practice that more in my life.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Oh yes, Aixa! It's a very powerful tool once you master it ;)

[@jannortonfairchild4571]

Sooo good! Love how relaxed and fun he was and the session became light, fun and very powerful! She was right there with him! As she lit up, you could see her ahas right before our eyes! Great lesson about really connecting with someone and engaging with them in the power of fun & play! Fabulous!

[@mindvalleycoach]

So glad you enjoyed this, Jan! Thanks for sharing :)

[@mantaliteyonchampyon8986]

Thanks for breaking this down to the T! I’ve learned and grown so much by watching your videos. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@mindvalleycoach]

We're so glad you find our content helpful! Thanks for sharing :)

[@kimrocheleau9981]

Thank you for your insights Ajit!! You explain well and rock this knowledge! Peace.

[@mindvalleycoach]

So glad you found this useful, Kim! What was your biggest insight? ❤️

[@omphilemosehla778]

The future self was the huh! moment for me. We sometimes get so caught up in our mental chaos accompanied but the past we keep dragging to the future and this makes it difficult to imagine exciting the future ! Loved watching this..from Nomthandazo Mosehla

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[@auden1868]

I noticed that Rich took off his jacket at the beginning. When he was starting to build rapport, trying to be more present, it was like he felt the need to be more 'approachable', to be closer to her energy level and self perception

[@mindvalleycoach]

That's a great insight, Aude! It's all about creating rapport, a safe space, and being comfortable so the person in front of you can feel comfortable too. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@SuperlifeMastery111]

The whole session flows. He makes it look effortless❤

[@mindvalleycoach]

So true! Glad you enjoyed it 💙

[@luzelenaarias2438]

Thank you Ajit, for adding this video tu your guidance format for us.... it is so brilliant , so much to get from it: the open question to start with Cassandra, the natural way to lead her to the future and bring her back to the past _present... I really have to see more of this as you suggested Ajit. Great points coming from your observations as well.

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[@healingwithsimrit]

this is a really fun, intelligent video. Thank you!! always love your videos

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We're so glad you enjoyed it, Simrit! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@David.Horsager]

This content is fantastic. Thank you for providing value to coaches.

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Thank you for the support, David! :)

[@gurminderrawal7880]

A nice learning ground. I am deeply impressed.

[@mindvalleycoach]

So glad you enjoyed this video! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@maggiearadati4197]

Insight: I like the way Rich built rapport with the coachee by validating and relating to her experience and ending with "yah so I totally get that"

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great catch. Thanks for sharing, Maggie :)

[@lyrichajer9482]

This is great! One thing that does irk me though, and plenty of people who are women, is calling women girls during the video. This was in 2020. We're at the point where we can call grown people men and women and adults (don't forget about our non-binary pals!) Thank you for sharing this. This, as well as plenty of your other content, is incredibly helpful.

[@mindvalleycoach]

We're so happy you found this valuable, Lyric! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@MyPinkIsBeautiful]

I definitely seen myself in this session as the coach. I have often practiced some of these skills, unaware that I was actually coaching. This was long before I became certified.

[@mindvalleycoach]

This is so great, Keci! You had it in you 😉 ❤️

[@aconscioustimemarcdesvaux]

Great insight. Having that confidence to pause is key and well done there. That was great to see. And becoming present. Perhaps for new coaches you might feel like you have to always anticipate the next answer or question to show you are "in control" where as its about leading and reciprocating and following the client as well, yes...??

[@mindvalleycoach]

That is so true, Marc! It's a common issue with most new coaches as they gain confidence in their coaching ability, but it's so important to pause, be present, and let it flow. Thanks for sharing :)

[@GaryTheExpert_com]

Woah! The masterclass shows the hosts! Rich has coached Olympians! That has become a goal of mine! Coach an Olympic athlete in 2024 Olympic's, additional a bonus would be, to Gold! That's so cool that Rich has done that! Big fan of watching world-class people do what they do best! #Olympics

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[@brendabrownceo]

I really enjoyed this way of guidance 💕#betterbeliefs #mindshift #othersideoffear💯

[@mindvalleycoach]

Thank you for sharing, Brenda! ♥♥♥

[@illalynn7875]

I did notice that he didn't hesistate to interrupt the client which some behavior analyst might consider rude. There is method to his magnificance and it is astounding. Thanks for sharing .

[@ajitnawalkha6019]

Thanks! He is pretty solid and disruptively good at doing this!

[@deesmith3329]

Messing with the mind can actually become a tool of control ,stay in control mechanism ,how we address our questions makes our clients feel at ease ,the tone,the energy levels ,the body language as the conversation is taking place but most of all the oneness during the session

[@mindvalleycoach]

An important skill to have as a coach! Thanks for sharing, Dee 😉

[@Czch82]

Thank you so much for this content. You guys rock!

[@plemongrass]

This was so insightful, enjoyed entirely and love also how the commentsection AFTERWARDS enables an ongoing learningprocess as all key elements are brought fwd from diff perspectives and people !! Thank u so much!! ... think i found one of my new fav channels! ^.^

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[@thetransformationalbutterfly]

Fantastic video! Thanks :)

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[@dominickoquin3103]

I’m overall just learning some of the basic strategy to coach. I’m just getting started, no income coaching yet, but I’m in a learning phase.

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That's great, Dominick! Welcome to the community ❤️

[@petrolene_performancecoach]

This is absolutely brilliant!

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[@jorgelies3653]

Fantástica clase! Gracias!!!

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[@ellenithernandez9195]

Amazing video!

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Thank you so much, Ellenit! Glad you enjoyed it :)

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@@mindvalleycoach And thank you! All of your videos I’ve watched are so informative, inspiring and entertaining!

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[@tuyetmaihoang7946]

Thank you 💓

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So glad you enjoyed it, Tuyet! ❤

[@doram4019]

What’a the value add for further coaching explanation?! I would rather just watch Rich video.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great question, Dora! We break down the session to point out the different tools and techniques Rich uses in this demonstration. It helps coaches - especially new ones - to identify each of these and understand how to replicate them. Unfortunately, the full video is not available for free watching, we hope you could enjoy the parts we shared in this one :) Thanks for sharing ❤

[@nolanpillay360]

I liked the pause technique, he was not in a hurry at all. My other observation was Rich looking for something on the table, I think he did this twice and moved his attention away from the client, was this deliberate?

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great observation on the pauses! Such a powerful skill to be comfortable in silence. About the table, it's likely he was leaving/looking for the remote to show slides. He had a brief slideshow which he was sharing when relevant. Thanks for sharing ♥

[@vinodnarayanswamy]

Is it ok to refer the person as client ?? It would make them feel for transactional relationship and might not bond well enough

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great question, Vinod! In coaching, they are usually referred to as 'clients' or 'coachees'. You can choose whichever term feels most aligned with you. Nevertheless, one could argue that coaching is a transactional relationship in a way, where you are offering your services (a result) in exchange for money. But it's completely up to you ;)

[@victoria243]

Thanks our or your great work! What if the answer to a “set up then into future” question is “I am not sure”?

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great question, Victoria! We believe the client always has an answer, it's likely they've never said it out loud! Just keep digging! Master coach Christine Hassler usually follow-ups an "I don't know" with "Well, if you did know, what would it be?" ;) Hope that helps! ❤

[@victoria243]

@@mindvalleycoach haha… great answer! Thank you :)

[@mindvalleycoach]

@@victoria243 You're most welcome ❤

[@IamRjack]

@@mindvalleycoach Wow! Such a great way to get a client to get beyond the ‘I don’t know’ block. [Of course you do]. So if you did know,….,!!!

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[@malikab123]

I love this vid. I would love it much more without the EXTREMELY DISTRACTING 'MUSIC'. The content is gold. Please drop the noise.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Glad you enjoyed it, Malika! And thanks for the feedback.

[@akaisasori1052]

People tend to become offended when someone interrupts because their past idea of self-insignificance is challenged. I see how Rich doesn't give power to the clients' insecure feelings. Ideally, the maximum amount of curiosity he gives is enough to balance the clients feelings. It's kinda rooted in the Ancient art of Reiki: Healing without touch. Im good at interpreting energy in others and myself, whether they are near me or not.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Thanks for sharing 💜

[@shalinikeswani4661]

Hi Ajit, while Rich is a Master Coach with a superb manner and presence- I found his frequent interruption of the client's flow of speech with his own questions (even though to elicit more info) not in sync with my coaching philosophy and those questions seem pretty rushed as if to move to other parts of the conversation..and also as if to tick mark them on a checklist.

[@mindvalleycoach]

We appreciate how you wrote "not in sync with my coaching philosophy", that's amazing! It's so important for us as coaches to learn from different coaches, different methodologies, and different approaches to coaching, so we can choose what resonates with us and what doesn't. This is a true example of how you're choosing what to add and what not to add to your coaching style based on your values and philosophy. Thank you for sharing, Shalini ♥

[@Amsire1]

Can I use the coaching I learn with myself?...

[@mindvalleycoach]

Of course, Maria! A coach should always be their own best client. ;)

[@antaraflowunleashed]

He's comfortable with silence

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[@antaraflowunleashed]

I'm definitely going to re-watch this. It's really good.

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[@JASMINWALDMANN]

Very good coaching on stage; all he used are NLP "techniques" which he pepped up a bit; background music is more distractive rather than supporting the message you want to send across

[@mindvalleycoach]

Thanks for the feedback, Jasmin! We're glad you enjoyed it :)

[@russellmarvin2850]

What I noticed is she is holding back some stuff about her feelings. What she really feeling. When she can get that off her mind and say it then she will be miles ahead

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great catch, Russell! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@tracystewart6403]

I wonder about the opening question; is this not Rich leading the conversation to go a certain way!

[@mindvalleycoach]

Well, there are many ways to start a coaching conversation. In this particular example, Rich is asking the coachee what would make that conversation powerful for her by inviting her to envision her ideal future. It's just how you frame it, but in its essence, the coachee will define what she wants to take out of the conversation regardless. At least that from our point of view! Thanks for sharing, Tracy ❤

[@lindahmavave]

I observe that he does not prescribe. How does he stay away from doing that. I struggle in this area.

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great question, Lindah! Remember a coach's role is to draw out the answers from within the client, not give them the answers. Try changing those thoughts and rephrasing them into a question, or using silence as a pause to let go of those thoughts and come back to the present moment. Hope this helps! ❤

[@lindahmavave]

@@mindvalleycoach Thank you so much! Yes that absolutely makes sense! I am going to definitely start doing that!

[@mindvalleycoach]

@@lindahmavave You are SO welcome! We also recommend watching this video next - it could inspire some ideas on this approach: kzbin.info/www/bejne/n2aTh6p8Z5tnra8 :)

[@cbbvuukkkuecvmpqrvxn]

I have noticed that the coach often breaks the silence and breaks the client's words: normally this is prohibited during a coaching conversation by the coach; Is it okay to do this? I don't feel comfortable talking to the customer, I generally want the customer to vent as much as possible, obviously in a relevant context Thank you

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great question! Although it is important to avoid interrupting the client, we do believe there are times and situations where clients can unconsciously go in circles or tangents and it's crucial for the coach to be able to identify these moments and bring them back to the present. And sometimes, that requires the coach to kindly stop the client. In the specific example of Coach Rich Litvin in this video, as it was a live coaching demonstration with limited time available, he did share with the volunteer coachees in advance that he'd be guiding the conversation to make the most out of the time they had. Therefore, it is also important to note that a coach should know when and how to use these tools adequately. We hope this clarifies your question!

[@stephanierondeau2828]

I like how he asks her to teach him about increasing 3x revenue and getting burnt out… because he’s transforming her story, one begins to see that there are strengths there, even in her story where she is furs and sees herself as a failure. I

[@mindvalleycoach]

Great insight, Stephanie! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@IbrarAliKhan]

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[@mindvalleycoach]

Thanks for sharing 💜

[@Bakchodivox]

It simply went over the head even then you explained it

[@bioraphaelsabidare678]

Silence/pause/slow down

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[@entrepreuneusee]

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[@dianemiller354]

the commentator is so annoying - nothing like a master coach. Would rather watch without his constant interruptions.

[@Moh.ali.lifetips]

I think he takes time to pause so that people can think about what they said.

[@mindvalleycoach]

That's a great interpretation. Silence and pauses are actually great tools for coaches to allow the space for words to sink in and insights to happen. Thanks for sharing 💜

[@victordirectdemocrats]

Impressive!; all comments hiper woaw! Moses, Jesus, Mohammed did not pull that! OK, i will leave you yo enjoy the ahah! or, is it ha!, ha!

[@johngcahill9583]

hah ...my ass

[@daniellykaufmann]

did she had the baby?

[@victordirectdemocrats]

Not impressed. The whole thing looks staged. I am not saying it is, but a crook would do the same.

[@mindvalleycoach]

We're sad you feel that way. The coaching session was planned as part of the live event, but coach Rich Litvin didn't meet the participants until right before his talk started.

[@victordirectdemocrats]

Not believable

[@mindvalleycoach]

We're sorry you feel that way!