Everybody Loves Raymond Uses Active Listening - from Parent Effectiveness Training

[@sarahwright7076]

This is the only episode I can recall where Ray is really enthusiastic about parenting, and even takes the lead.

[@guitar556100]

Sarah Wright and Debra still found a way to be pissed at him lol

[@puckutubesux7356]

Ray's smarter in the earlier seasons. They made him a doofus later on.

[@milkynasus7030]

Imagine if he handled the Ally's F episode like this. That's why I like the early seasons the best.

[@deborahklinlger8565]

A good episode. Ray did take over this parenting of Alley, but it was effective. I would of like to see more of Ray being successful at something domestic. Debra became upset & jealous because for Ray actually using what he had learned & but he was smug & that's what pissed her off. In most episodes Debra plays the poor put upon woman with Ray & his family. Her character plays that she is smarter than Ray & his family. A very eye opening episode. In the end of the clip Debra acts like Ray stomping off, roles were reversed. Deb not used to that.

[@milkynasus7030]

Ray and Debra had much more positive qualities and didn’t fight much this season. It’s only in the later seasons where Debra’s bitchiness and Ray’s stupidity and laziness starts to show.

[@stephvandykeozzy]

I love it when Ray makes that sounds as if he's in victory.

[@graceturner5161]

haha this is such a great example of active listening! It is amazing how much you can learn from this show!

[@sk-fkths646]

And even learn some new things from Debra....

[@nancykane1178]

Yeah, letting the kids get away with stuff. That is a lot of what is wrong, anymore. Kids are getting their way, on too much stuff, anymore.

[@sundromos9456]

@@nancykane1178 The kid didn't get away with anything. She was given the chance for a do-over. But you'd rather she just got punished without all the talk?

[@DR---]

What are you talking about? He didn't do any listening. He just kept saying how the daughter felt and I do not know how he came to all these conclusions but I know it wasn't from listening to his daughter.

[@Shamonwhitehurst252]

Na…whoop her ass …a child should never be given options and freedoms ….they need discipline

[@skynelson2883]

We used this video in our motivational interviewing class

[@rebeccahall9355]

This episode of Everybody Loves Raymond was a great example of reflective listening it was quite hilarious that he was very excited to finally have his chance to use his skills from his class on his daughter. Similarly, I felt the same way when practicing reflective listening with my friends and family. Amazing Show!

[@ParentEffectivenessTraining]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@Shamonwhitehurst252]

Sounds like liberal crybaby parenting crap….just spank her

[@デイヴィッドグレイ]

showing this to my university students to teach them about active listening

[@asinger1026]

Everyone Loves Raymond is still one of my childhood classics.

[@stevenwright8335]

showed my wife this, amazing.

[@zufgh]

The humour of this scene is how Debra becomes the petulant child and Aly becomes the more respectable, mature one.

[@pralad1]

Thanks for clearing it up for me 😊😊😊

[@zufgh]

@@pralad1 In retrospect I don't know why I felt the need to say that. :D

[@joanclayton5212]

That’s where Aly gets it from.

[@GibbyCat]

So wait. Debra drags Ray to an active listening class where he picks up the lesson, uses it successfully on his children (and parents) and she's upset about that?? Yeah, real fair.

[@r011ing_thunder6]

LMFAO

[@kzarkage]

She's known to be a bitch

[@nolsee1176]

She wanted him to improve just a little so she could continue feeling superior. It’s very typical of her character.

[@HikoSeijuroXIII]

It's called being female.

[@syonaaggarwal3442]

She's upset because he never usually listened or helped parent the kids. And then the one time she forced him to a class and he picked it up naturally, he acted so smug about it. She's annoyed because she usually does all of the parenting, and Ray got the glory here for actually parenting his child for once.

[@billhiggins2003]

The better parent is more often than not, the one who is around.

[@QuietlyCurious]

There are parents who smother.

[@Deborahtunes]

Just because a parent is "around", doesn't necessarily mean they are better. Some simply like to play the martyr, because they want sympathy...

[@ilahmaecunanan2629]

Active listening is great for the kids.

[@shimanigan]

Excellent job, Ray! Now, if you could just do that with Debra..... the world would be a better place.... Lol...

[@joegaito702]

One of TV best sitcoms ever to the barone family love and appreciate you guys and a good laugh to the actors and actresses who passed away my thoughts are with your family you may be gone but not forgotten still a classic to watch thanks you guys rock ! Joe

[@question7615]

A friend of mine worked as one of the editors for the show

[@farishope6540]

What s/he told you about behind the scenes 🤨

[@leythonlopez-ty5dm]

Ray makes a good point

[@Stoneman180190]

The early seasons was when Ray was a much better parent, he actually had interest in being one.

[@amosmaka6030]

Student Surpasses....oh nah nevermind, The Student BECOMES The Master!!! Ray, I tip my hat to you...

[@SleeplessInSeattle-24]

Debra was so weird. She actually liked when Ray was sloppy and as soon as he was better, she couldn't stand it.

[@JohnnyDominion]

It's a case of be careful what you wish for.

[@Panwere36]

That is because far too many women need the excuse that men don't do anything to really parent. The moment that is shattered, people start realizing that more women than should be allowed get away with using it to justify things like flying off the handle. Debra was nothing compared to Marie, though.

[@benjaminpoirier6297]

It can be like that with relationships sometimes. If you marry someone go out with someone you like. If I had the choice to take the parenting class or say to the kids no tv I would take the parenting class.

[@Person-mh6xq]

@@benjaminpoirier6297 huh?!!

[@mr.b9613]

Maybe because she's in love with and used to the dorky dude she married?

[@Panwere36]

This is a slice of reality that was a hallmark of shows like this one. More than a few women say they want their husband/boyfriend to be more active and to listen more.. but in reality if we do.. that robs them of all their excuses to do things that are not reasonable as well. An active father, especially one who really listens, picks up on so many things.. especially the little manipulations that some women always get away with. Debra never got as bad as her own mother or Marie because of moments like this.

[@freddymolina4079]

Good video

[@dannyrichards6233]

Thx 4 sharing

[@starlight_wlfxe4077]

I don’t even know what to say. I’m only here because my class is doing a project on this for whatever reason.

[@rishirama6883]

bro sameeee, this shit is so wack

[@sofishticatedgaming4417]

Ray is influencing her with his opinions about how he believes she feels throughout the entire interaction.

[@pavelpeev1229]

No, by being empathetic he can see how she feels and he reflects her emotions this is a complex type of reflections if she didn't feel this way she wouldn't agree ...

[@iRazenrak]

He was guessing and happened to guess right. But he's her father so he's gonna be insightful on her history and feelings.

[@ekaterini001]

This is exactly how it works! 💕

[@bradlawson2772]

Is this something that can be utilized for educational purposes, or is it copyrighted?

[@vijaychoksi8936]

Generally speaking using copyrighted material for Educational/Higher educational purposes do not run afoul Federal Copyright laws.

[@rociob8781]

We watched this episode for my parenting classes this week. I love it!

[@andrearing5764]

I am having to watch this for a child development class

[@allylee3628]

I think Debra is frustrated with Ray because its the first time he has showed any initiative after she makes him go to a class to learn something helpful. He mocks her the whole time but then realizes the stuff works when he experiments with it. Debra is frustrated because Ray is always the opposite and hasn't caught up quite yet to this quick but temporary change. She simply never expected he'd actually get it. She stays mad though because Ray gloats about his short term success of application of something Debra hoped to understand but feels probably defeated Thinking Ray would never get it or support her in applying it herself. Gloating was the worst think Ray could have done. Shows he is still immature and now dangerous with a bit of helpful information. And Ray most likely will never use the technique again, because, as we all know, Ray is simply too lazy to follow through.

[@r011ing_thunder6]

Becoming a good parent is a temporary change? Sad. Edit: man after reading the rest of it you sound like a jealous hater :/ are you like this irl?

[@Jollyswagman7]

I bet your not married.

[@heesuhill8198]

season 2 ep2 'Father Knows Least'

[@simpleobservation9470]

Whatever works

[@JolmerWouda]

Haha so true how effective it is to give refections:)

[@jeanethlarsen8096]

This is also one of my favorite episodes-I have all of the seasons and episodes,all but one I watch these shows whenever I can This is my second favorite episode I also like Voting for Debra,Someone's Cranky,Bad Moon Rising,Tasteless Frank and others

[@Behen786]

I couldn’t stand the way Deborah treated Ray. She could have thanked him and learned something. But nooo. She’s embarrassed he won in solving this parenting situation.

[@benjaminpoirier6297]

My parents used to fight and that’s why they are divorced. And I liked it when Ally crossed her arms. I’ve crossed my arms in gym class in high school and kids at school told me to not cross my arms.

[@Deborahtunes]

Deborah became my least favorite character on the show. At first she was sweet. But once the kids came along she turned into a grouchy, miserable, abusive shrew...

[@tommysshinebox1661]

@@Deborahtunesexactly. Why turn it into a competition? Who cares which parent is right as long as the situation gets better for all and the child learns? The parents are a unit and Debra always needs an ego booster or to “win” at something and drag Ray down. It’s a shame. And It’s a very bad quality for a duo. But, on the flip side, I wish I could run into Ray at a bar and be like, “hey, every morning do 2 things spontaneously around the house that need doing,” and there would be 90 percent less tension in the show. Lol.

[@barrygaynor1025]

Awesome show.

[@KennyG881]

Debra really can't stand it whenever Ray is in the right.

[@prideaviles5867]

Idiot

[@levievans2964]

Horrible wife

[@sk-fkths646]

She thinks of him as a pessimistic person or something?

[@petercoakley3724]

What episode is this from?

[@ilahmaecunanan2629]

Father Knows Least

[@shacharhanan6083]

does anyone know from which episode and season this video is?

[@pennydollar1586]

Where is Ally now? The person who played the Ally character, what's up with her?

[@leahc9723]

No her brother, one of the twins, committed suicide. She's still alive

[@shenkwen]

@@leahc9723 She's not Ally any more though..

[@priyanshawadhiya781]

Infosys LnD sessions are lit af

[@KaoticDude]

Debra just doesn't like when Ray does something better than her or if Ray thoroughly enjoys something. When Ally preferred Ray's children's book over Debra's book, she spoke down to Ray. When Ray started cleaning up more around the house in the humm vac episode she didn't like it only because Marie suggested it. Like who cares if it gets Ray to clean up around the house more hell Marie can suggest whatever the hell she wants. She even admitted that when Ray cleans she goes behind his back and does it herself cause how he does it isn't good enough.

[@nanna307]

waww, this is a foreign television comedy show that is very funny from every word 😵😵😵

[@rahulcanada21]

I feel like for once Raymond's Actually being a real dad

[@curtrupp4259]

He had some moments basketball t ball buying ally the dress the time he told off the kid Ally was crushing on 😂

[@patmaurer8541]

Ray needs to Active Listen to his wife--RIGHT NOW! Because we never outgrow our need for acceptance and empathy. I actually use P.E.T. more with the adults in my life than I do the kids. Because kids are still open and honest, and they respond right away to being treated with respect. We grown-ups have a lot to un-learn about how to be human ;-)

[@Shamonwhitehurst252]

Man shut yo ass….a child needs discipline and not given options. This parenting crap is why we have a world full of disrespectful people

[@Aven-Sharma1991]

What a very sexist attitude by Deborah towards Ray. She felt offended by the fact that he actually managed to get the situation under control and even SOLVE it. Instead of praising his efforts like a good and loving wife should do? She instead opts to walk off in a huff!!!

[@cgreen399]

The one he interacts with his children😮

[@bethiej1027]

I love ally ❤️

[@benjaminpoirier6297]

Beth Jarzabek she’s cute.

[@deannaroberson8012]

@@benjaminpoirier6297 She really is a cute little girl

[@benjaminpoirier6297]

@@deannaroberson8012 Ally is a person of my interest.

[@nitinkataria6030]

She is so sweet.....

[@iRazenrak]

Debra has to be the only wife in all of reality or fantasy that isn't turned on by her husband caring and loving for their children.

[@randyjones5664]

Everybody loves raymond show is very funny and a good show

[@joannpizzo6939]

Are u feeling angry debroah lol Ray reflect backlol

[@jpg7616]

Uses good listening with his daughter. She leaves happy Doesn’t use it with the wife. She doesn’t

[@wilson5889]

ray really being parental

[@bruh-my4ne]

helo

[@wilson5889]

@@bruh-my4ne hi

[@johnscott8749]

My birthday is September 1st 1 1991 I'm 30yearsold I will be 31 in 5 months iam a virgo I work at frichsbigboy on the west side 5pm to 9pm Friday night 10am to 3pm on Saturday morning and Sunday morning 9am to 3pm on Monday morning and Tuesday morning

[@nicidevine6670]

How sweet

[@DR---]

This doesn't look like listening. It looks like Raymond just knowing a bunch of stuff his daughter never said.

[@melanieruttle1515]

I really like Deborah trying hiding her daughter Ally’s did and I mostly love ❤️ Raymond came in trying experience Ally think her toys that’s is true I mostly like Debora says be class says no tv That’s was a good one on Raymond why couldn’t says lose your privilege Some parents always talking their young kids age

[@KrystalHarwood-ty7rk]

thid little girl could act as well as sing!

[@johnscott8749]

My birthday is September 1st 1 1991 I'm 30yearsold I will be 😁 31 in 5 months iam a virgo

[@Captainhook201]

Textbook display.

[@fawadahmedshaikh9893]

Debra HS issue

[@isabelholcraft6610]

Active listening does work. Debra dragged ray to the parenting class. If they didn't go to the parenting class he wouldn't be using the active listening, he would be saying hey no TV. Ray used active listening to his parents.

[@Esmeralda-bl3ld]

My parents used active listening on us, back then it was called leather ,which made you reflect when you thought of doing anything out of line again.

[@GregWatson-wb8yd]

Little Madilyne now 32

[@rolo1955]

Never thought this show was funny!

[@ignaciogodoy7095]

Ray did a home run, and Debra was all nagging about it, million of man suffer of that same old shit

[@EYTPS]

A non-profit organization knows a show is making fun of their beliefs... and then uploads the clip to their KZbin channel... *At least they're active listening*

[@ollyhasit]

whos here from the green belt course?

[@speedy9753]

Who are the worse kids in the neighborhoods 👵 👴

[@jono3665]

Raymond's parents! They were arguing about a lost piece of lost mail and he managed to quell their argument. If I'm remembering right

[@obitouchiha6439]

Debra is being petty. Her ego is so fragile that seeing Ray resolve a conflict with their child more efficiently than she could made her feel powerless. If that's not a sign of emotional immaturity, I don't know what is.

[@adriannavasquez7463]

She shouldn't be so upset

[@ekaterini001]

💕🔥

[@heidirourke2259]

Ally was always kinda of brat and spoiled at any age I understand it's part of being jealous

[@jamescaputo3885]

Active listening is good but people not always gonna listen you and when children grow up in family where parents listen them and later get in evil adult world where nobody cares who they are finally they need psychotherapy. Children need also get thick skin and dont think people will care so much about them

[@valentincavazzos4420]

If only parents can read their children without punishing or to do the unacceptable abusing them

[@ilnazko7977]

Букины

[@nitinkataria6030]

I wonder how can she have different hair than her parents

[@rociob8781]

Its not really their daughter..?

[@leahc9723]

Children can often have lighter hair as kids, and have it darken as they grow up. My dad was a bright blonde child up until middle school. Then, it turned brown.

[@kerenacosta7966]

Raymond does have the blond gene through his mother

[@sarahwright7076]

Debra also has a blonde sister.

[@nitinkataria6030]

@@sarahwright7076 Nice to know that.

[@bobblehead8923]

He got gloaty. That's why Debra was pissed.

[@fercho2040]

Why was this woman such a B towards Raymond? It's been decades since I saw this show, so I don't remember if this was her usual attitude. Poor guy, if that was the case.

[@LloydSkyLion]

I always thought they'd eventually get divorced years after the show is over, you know if this were real life. As funny as it is,they have an awful marital dinamic.

[@alishashay17]

Right. In the finale I’m surprised that they are still together

[@bwstar12]

She probably wouldn't have been upset if Ray wasn't so smug and trying to take over the situation by mansplaining and solving the problem for her that she was handling herself. XD Classic Ray.

[@binkybarns6836]

Lol

[@r011ing_thunder6]

Hi binky big fan

[@brianbrown2237]

😆😆

[@guesswho7894]

I dont like debra

[@mayonnaise2560]

who does

[@calvada1]

Guess Who? Why?

[@Doriesep6622]

Normally I'm on her side, but she was out of line here.

[@milkynasus7030]

No one does, it’s like she was created to be unlikeable.

[@dylansingh8343]

so beaitiful, GAZARR GAZARR INNA a mudphker BUILDING

[@anhw3303]

It seems unrealistic that Deborah was the PR professional and couldn’t do active listening.

[@BlueRazor69]

Proof positive that as bad as Ray is, and he’s a buffoon, Debra is just as bad

[@peterle6883]

Debra was the most unlikable character.

[@peterle6883]

Children actors are obnoxious.

[@BDUBZ49]

She did a great job in this scene.

[@ThothTheAtlanteanK]

Men are better Parents, Thats all there is to it.

[@ThothTheAtlanteanK]

Definitely when you have a system in place that make it impossible to parent their own kids, that's what you get. Men have no choice but to walk out the house. Save your replies, I already know where you're​ going with your comments.

[@ThothTheAtlanteanK]

Right! I'm trolling my comment thread? Wow! See how quickly these issues get resolved on YT with butthurt Trolls like you.

[@briann5524]

You feel annoyed because crashinator didn't show appreciation for your comment. Haha that was my half ass attempt at active listening.

[@goldengirl5165]

crashinator1 true but in my case, my mom is the one who walked out.

[@michaeljacobs6151]

Kenny James nah mothers are better

[@babshock3372]

Debra’s abusive. I guess that in a way he is when he rubs things in at her expensive. Anyways, toxicity isn’t funny to me. Anger isn’t either.