Dealing With Favouritism at Work: What to Do When Your Boss Has Favourites

[@carmen_sandieg0]

The favorite in my workplace is someone who is best friends with the assistant manager and produces 5% of the work that everyone else does. She is also a troublemaker. I’m sure this is not uncommon.

[@AbsoluteMdot]

This is happening at my work too.

[@peonyflowers23]

Same.

[@knoxx1111]

Same here. They even went to High School together. I don’t know how much longer I can stay here.

[@erisjohnperez7414]

What will you do? I'm experiencing the same? Should I resign?

[@1MissRosmerta]

Most favoritism is clearly favoritism, it's not that hard to spot. A boss would have to be a complete moron to heap praise upon praise on one person in front of the entire team for months without the real reason being revealed, duh.

[@blackmary9995]

Rejection in the workplace means that it's time to Leave. A lot of good people left because of this Madness. And you should not have to kiss nobody's @22. Everybody should be treated fairly and all these little monopoly games got to go.

[@kararonin]

I agree, everyone should be treated fairly at work.

[@mikepuleo9375]

​@@kararoninIf you do good quality work and are productive, you shouldn't have to bend the knee to be treated respectfully and fairly.

[@ross3986]

This happens at my job so much. All the “popular” employees constantly promote and boost the egos of the employees they know personally or find attractive yet everyone else doesn’t get noticed at all.

[@robberblack8899]

Whatever the boss do favoritism to some employees, Karma will get them soon.

[@AbsoluteMdot]

Karma never skips an address

[@peonyflowers23]

💯

[@robberblack8899]

@@peonyflowers23 yep facts

[@robberblack8899]

@@AbsoluteMdot absolutely a fact

[@TonyaKelley-d8h]

Dealing with it now. Incompetent, unqualified leadership from the director down to my direct supervisor. I am 49 years old and in my 15 plus years as an educator, have never encountered this type of disorganized, backstabbing, inequality in a department. I've used all of the suggestions in this video and more, which resulted in me being labeled as the problem. Unfortunately, quitting is NOT an option.

[@lindamartin2766]

When this happens, honestly it’s time to leave. In the REAL WORLD favoritism doesn’t change in the workplace. I’ve seen it happen to others throughout my working career, and it also happened to me. The “favorite” can do no wrong, will continue to get special treatment, and the boss will have a blind eye to all wrong doing that has occurred. So save yourself some grief for something you cannot change and just leave all the toxicity behind you. It’s very refreshing on the other side, I promise.

[@ryanbarker3978]

Do. Not. Treat. People. Like. This. If you’re a leader, you are responsible for developing EVERYONE that reports to you, not just your “favorite”. This is also how high performing teams get broken apart. The “there can only be one” mentality is so toxic and can kill professional relationships.

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

It's in the business model of -it seems like-every company in existence now. It's like there was a secret book published by an evil billionaire/sociopath that has been printed in mass and given to those who go through the evil business ritual/initiation of losing their soul and all of their humanity.

[@1pearblossom]

I agree with the video, but it also comes down to certain people just being manipulative. I have seen it so many times, they have a way to manipulate their bosses or key people who they will be able to manipulate. Not everyone means well. An example is one coworker I used to have, she would park where she was not supposed to park, but she flirted with security to get away with it. She was the laziest coworker I had ever worked with. She manipulated the secretaries to have extra time out for lunch, etc. And she moved up pretty quick. Many later felt dumb after having helped her, by then it was too late. What bosses and key people should promote are the workers who are diligent and consistant with less talent for gab.

[@peonyflowers23]

That, or the boss is simply biased.

[@uniquestar5527]

Thank you for your advice. Yes, i always told myself that i should not let the behaviour, opinion, beliefs of other towards me dictates how i feel or how i live my life. I was felt rejected, treated unfairly in the workpkace with my boss and other co-workers, at first i feel pity for myself and hurt and so emotional in silence but i change my mindset that if i let these things affects me, i will not grow and prosper or progress. I stand tall, i stand for myself. I didn't allow those things to affect me, and i know what i am capable of and i know who i am. I have more talent and skills it's just different from theirs.

[@kararonin]

Reading this, it sounds like you've really tapped into your inner power. You're really in touch with what you contribute to the office and what value you bring your team, boss and coworkers. It's not nice to have an unfair workplace. But how you handle it matters the most. Keep up the positive energy! And remember, it won't always be like this.

[@uniquestar5527]

@@kararonin Thank you so much! ❤️

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

I hope you're planning on leaving soon. Acting like what they do doesn't bother you but it does is bad for your mental health. People will screw with you as long as you let them, which means you will have to do the hard thing and stand up to them. Once you do that, you will get in trouble for defending yourself. So leave and find a place where people actually treat one another with respect. The boss don't give a shit. No point talking to him or her.

[@donalddias3746]

Find a Better Job. And, put in a Two Weeks Notice.

[@kararonin]

If all else fails, that's probably the best option.

[@pexist88]

Or in secret find better job. Once you get accepted into it, leave when the work flow gets hectic with effective & immediate notice.

[@ngwei2255]

Tats wat i facing. 😢 n always get angry with me n nt the rest.

[@ndo.bchizzle]

Or start your own business

[@peonyflowers23]

@@ngwei2255that’s awful. So sorry!

[@LOLITASIMONE]

Favoritism has nothing to do with what you do or if you do it well

[@lesleycronin832]

You're not wrong. The favourites at my work are the laziest and worst workers. Go figure.

[@trudyletson1264]

yes i'm dealing with this right now at my job i feel terrible

[@kararonin]

Well I hope this video can help you.

[@stephanietucker249]

I’m 20 and experienced favoritism in retail. I worked at a daiso for 3 months. I was part of a new store setup so spent the first month and a half working full time helping set up the store. I was one of five less white employees on the team and the rest were Hispanic including the manager. I didn’t think much of this at first of course. But during store setup, they’d speak Spanish to each other majority of the time unless they were talking to me or one of the other two white employees. Then once we opened, things went downhill. The Spanish speaking employees got way more hours than me. And especially those who made friends with the manager. They got most of the hours. Even one of the associates was getting more hours than the store’s second assistant manager. And they continued to speak only Spanish unless they were talking to me. This made me feel so left out and discriminated. And when I quit they didn’t even say anything to me about it. I got no response to my two weeks notice email and no one said anything to me in person about it. Not even a simple thank you for your hard work text on my last day. The manager never said a word. That made me feel super disrespected. I put in so much hard work there and they didn’t even appreciate it. I’m so glad I’m out of there. It was quite the experience

[@tisurmaster]

don't kiss ass. LEAVE.

[@daletaco475]

I'm working in retail and ever since I've been at my current job I've been told "This guy is so good, he gets all the donations, and works so hard." I've observed him and all he does when he doesn't have a customer is look at celebrity gossip on the PC. The store manager told me "Stop putting stuff under the counter next to the register because that employee doesn't like it." Now that employee is even telling me to stop. I've told the other managers that is favoritism and is one of the definitions of a hostile work environment. I guess I'm gonna have to tell the store manager too. I get really nervous when I'm standing up for myself though. I do more than what is expected of me as well. Resetting plannograms, printing out price tags and putting them out, etc and I have brought it up and been told I do a good job. But the minute I try to make my job easier and faster I'm told to stop.

[@kararonin]

This is a difficult situation to be in Daletaco. It sounds like you're really proactive at work. For the things you'd like to change to make your job more easier, I'd run the idea by your boss first. Tell them what you'd like to do differently, why, and how it will help team. This might help them to be on board as it makes it seem like you're making the decision together.

[@daletaco475]

@@kararonin The store manager is the type of person to always have a reason why we can't change things or why he or his favorite want things their way. I might have to take it to HR at some point tbh. I've been thinking about doing that. But I would hope he actually listens before it gets to that point.

[@raminbaghirov9998]

​@daletaco475 Unfortunately, once you take it to hr, retaliation will start. Intimidation and etc. They will eventually let you go. Better get a different job it is not worth of your sanity my friend. Been there and I feel you very well.

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

The company was is THE way of doing things. They absolutely hate it when worker bees actually figure out how to do something faster and better. Favoritism exists everywhere. There is absolutely no point to complain (if you have already). The bosses know. They allow their buddy to do it. If you complain, nothing will be done. They will just make you more miserable. Put up and shut the F up until you get another, better-paying job.

[@alexandabbyskon1923]

At my job more lazier kiss butts , coming to work late and smelling like weed than yup you can get promoted real fast at my place... Or not doing anything except just doing one small job... Because they feel like I'm better at there job than they are

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

To me, that wouldn't even make sense if these employees grew weed for a living. You'd at least have to show up on time and be competent.

[@tisurmaster]

We have this indian manager who hires all the incompetent Indian team. Everyone knows it and talk about it. It's clear and intentional favoritism, quality doesn't matter. The quality of work went downhill fast.

[@kararonin]

That's a real shame.

[@nikosbalakos6525]

When someone plays favourites and ignores merit its time to leave. Its a groupset of behaviours that some bosses have that you should be VERY weary of.. lying, spreading rumours about people they don't like, scheduling daily meetings and asking the person to quit, etc. it becomes a self fulfilling situation if the target complains about being picked on, the boss just says this person has a bad attitude. Once the person they were picking on quits or they fire them they just move on to another target...

[@alexaarrah696]

One girl who was a favorite at my old job wasn't a good worker but she did want to be in the same job as our boss a clinic manager. She called out every week. She made mistakes. Alot of people didn't like me at that job.

[@KO-im6sm]

Ive been in my job for two months. The guy that hired me quit. Now I’m under a guy 14 years younger than me. I’m new to the job and have been reminded 5 times that I was supposed to work for the other guy that quit. Plus, I’m not his hire and he is playing favorites with his new hire that was hired after me. Plus, He sends her on trips that she asked for. This guy was a good rep and now a manager… peter principal. This clown knows what he’s doing. I had a convo and he has a BS answer for everything and no consistency. He even said on a call that she will be his rockstar

[@kararonin]

This is a tough situation to be in. It seems you've already done the right things like talking to your boss. It's unfortunate, but sometimes people are just toxic and no matter what you do it won't change their behaviour or approach. If you're not being recognised for your potential, perhaps you need to consider moving teams/departments or at the last resort, companies. It's not easy. I know. And it's probably not what you want. But will you be happy if you stay in this toxic environment?

[@KO-im6sm]

@@kararonin totally agree. I’m looking now. I had no control over my boss leaving and I took a $20k paycut which I’m mad that I did that so I’m interviewing and will let hr know what happened when I leave. I’m in my 50s too and it feels a bit discriminatory but hard to tell. He is aware that I have noticed favoritism and he gives me a virtual event to attend to appease me. I’m documenting everything he does. What’s sad is that I come in and put my head down and went through their training for a month. I will tell HR what he has done. He’s super inconsistent in his responses to me so I told him im not bringing it up again. I go around him for help because anything I sell, I dont want him having credit

[@funnyclips7716]

Hey brother/sister I am stuck in a situation like this I interviewed in a place for job they think I am unfit for the job but someone from that place recommended me to them in place of him. I mean he is leaving the job because he got a better job and now he just needs a substitute in place of him. he will get me the job, I am pretty sure but should I go for it in the first place or should I wait until everyone from that place is confident enough to hire me. I hope you get this message and reply to me.

[@funnyclips7716]

I am personally reluctant because I think this situation will create complications for me mild or severe I don't know but I think there will be complications. But every friend of mine is telling me to go for it.

[@SharmillaPillay-h4o]

I'm in this situation. I'm going through anxiety because of the blatant favoritism and injustices that's in my face everyday. I work hardest and earn the least. People who have no inkling of the business, act like they own the place. No skills whatsoever but expect and receive all the perks. I'm frustrated and have reached a point where I need to remove myself from this environment that has stolen my peace 😢

[@bluray76]

So here’s one. I’m just a warehouse worker, material handler. I applied for material handler 3 and it was between me and 2 other guys. One being a favorite because there is a small group that hangs out together. So the favorite got the material handler 3. They told me it was not just the work but he did more projects. He didn’t ask to do them they picked him because he’s with the group. Also there’s more of one race so I’m outnumbered in the company so they are able to communicate better. So I have more experience and bust my butt. How can I not be upset I got over looked by someone who hangs out with that group and race when they stick together?

[@kararonin]

This must be a difficult situation to be in, especially if you're more experienced than the other person who is getting the better projects. I would talk to your boss and let them know you want to do those projects. Ask what you need to do to get them. As for the "group", try to connect with individuals in that group first. Find a similarity or commonality to connect on an individual basis. Or you can provide help/support for things they don't know how to do. Over time, do this with different individuals in that group and they may be more open to you.

[@skylerlindeen1732]

You work at Frito Lay too 😆

[@aninditade2]

So what about if the boss has less skills and favouring another low skilled guy ? 😢

[@mikepuleo9375]

Excuses are made for the less skilled and they don't have to be as productive,but at some point they should have to show progress in learning and getting better at it instead of 2 years later and they still suck

[@frufrubb45]

Hmm funny not once I talked to them, they keep goving me unreasonable excuses . So I tried 100 times to do waht the favorite is doing and nothing. Obviously its not me at this time

[@rolansanchez7046]

What if I have done all your suggestions but still the boss doesn't give me opportunities for growth, you had this feeling that your boss didn't really like you from the start, what should I do then?

[@kararonin]

Good question Rolan. Are there are other managers you can talk to? Do you have an HR department you can talk to? Sometimes these things can help in working through the favouritism. Keep in mind, and I don't say this lightly, but there are some work cultures that are toxic throughout. And no matter how much you try to fight against it, the toxic culture is so ingrained, it won't go away. If that's the case, you may need to decide whether there are better opportunities for you elsewhere. I'm not encouraging you to immediately quit, but to ask yourself whether you need to plan a career change.

[@jyotirmaydeb3153]

Ma'am as always video was informative with new things to learn in workplace. Just after when the video finished an add came and in that was leadership coach and writer Robin Sharma Sir explaining about the technique and lessons we can learn from his book, "The Monk Who Sold his Ferrari". Now, I realize that ma'am when we are curious to learn the whole universe will bound to help you in learning.

[@kararonin]

I'm so glad this video was helpful Jyotirmay! Keep up with the curious and learning mindset. It will open up the universe for you!

[@Chocokaylarobin]

I feel like I try but don't succeed honestly half of me is like "why do i even try" like "Is it me? do i say the wrong things?" idk i feel like i just gonna give up. I do great work but other than that that's all it is nothing personal its always walking on eggshells around me and I'm being nice but i feel like w how my work environment where they mostly complain that's not mine. Alot of the time they think what i do is what she does.

[@rajukanojiya524]

Thanks for such informative video.......very helpful like always❣️

[@kararonin]

So glad to hear that Raju! Thank you for watching!

[@bhimpokhrel8386]

Very informative video. Thanks for creating such nice video related to workplace and favouritism.

[@kararonin]

You're welcome Bhim! I'm glad it was helpful.

[@theguynextdoor4978]

At my job the pretty girls seem to get all the benefits. Some of them even climb the latter before someone more deserving of it even gets a chance. Whenever I come up with some great ideas, someone else steals it and they get all the recognition for it.

[@kararonin]

That's a terrible work situation to be in. The next time somebody steals your work/idea and takes credit for it, try the tips in this video kzbin.info/www/bejne/mZyUo6uJp6l5gtU

[@pexist88]

Search for another company to work for. Once you get in then quit. Hopefully the new job with welcome your ideas.

[@mojojeinxs9960]

Boss hire 5 of her close friends. call them The Ugly Others. Long term care facility has no place for nepotism. Specially when resident abuse is covered up to protect these lazy pricks. Can't wait to find another job. Other staff are fed up with it people quit because of it. Putting her nurse's license in jeopardy to save a someone from getting fired for abuse.

[@ripleyevil9135]

The chosen favorites usually are kiss-asses anyway. Me, personally I can’t kiss ass and do my job but that’s just me. I definitely don’t go above and beyond the constraints of the workday. If you do, the boss will expect it from you all the time. Right now, I’m content being the sarcastic one that leaves her work at the office at the end of the day.

[@the_paranormal_factory1812]

im on a roster for a talent agent, and they seem to have favoritism, and its annoying

[@stadinm1]

So we should go above and beyond to get the basic opportunities that we are entitled to get by BEING HIRED? So life work balance is what?

[@ipconfigearth102]

you say it so normally... but people are people- they will be emotional!

[@francisdavid9707]

You are wrong. My boss is threatened by my efficiency

[@shailajashetty3240]

Thank you... well said 👍

[@kararonin]

I'm glad you liked this video!

[@MKrealife]

The favorite at my job knows where our boss lives. Not just the area, but their address. 🤔

[@RY-fe3rt]

If you're a middle child, you're emotionally mature enough to take it with a pinch of salt and maybe even a private chuckle. 😁

[@erockpatton]

Work harder prove that you are the MVP. Most of the time its people that want to coast that complain about favoritism.

[@kararonin]

That's a good point.

[@Tom-si5ec]

Nobody cares if it is earned fairly.

[@christinacarper2376]

Not necessarily. Going above your pay grade can attribute to worse treatment.

[@gissellerojas6597]

For all of you saying that you need to leave, don’t! You stayed there long enough to be leaving at the first inconvenience, show them you are better than them, be professional and prove them wrong, you got this.

[@LOLITASIMONE]

You are not clear when you explain about favoritism,

[@alizaidi2893]

Video summary : YOUR THE PROBLEM,