Exit Your Comfort Zone: Rigid Personality to OCD

Lidija Rangelovska described the connection between a lack of self-discipline and issues in self-control. When we lack self-discipline, self-efficacy is impaired.
Self-efficacy is the ability to secure good outcomes from the human and natural environment.
When it is adversely impacted, the result is generalized anxiety.
The response to this dread of change is to institute rigid control over oneself and others as well as ritualized coping strategies and processes. In extremis, this ossifies into obsession-compulsion.
Personality disorders and primitive psychological defenses are examples of such rigidity: they start off as positive adaptations and end up as straitjackets.
Every new information or behavior is made to fit into this mold, which is how addictions work.
What can you do about it?
1. Identify the constricting rigidity and magical thinking
2. Exit the comfort zone
3. Shift locus of control, develop self-efficacy where it is lacking
4. One day at a time, no grandiose schemes
5. Alternate between addictions until you are addicted to nothing and on one.
Rigid controls often lead to self-trashing.
Physical self-trashing: promiscuous self-objectifying drunk sex, alcoholism, drug abuse, heavy smoking, medical neglect, or self-mutilation.
These are all forms of self-rejection and self-loathing, a denial of life itself and its potentials, slow motion unfolding suicide.
Other, no less pernicious and life-vitiating forms of self-annihilation, perhaps because I am their most devoted practitioner: making all the wrong choices knowingly; self-sabotage; teaming up with wrong partners, institutions, or mates; buffoonish or obnoxious public misconduct; a lack of impulse control; inability to delay gratification; perfectionism; procrastination; rumination; avoidance; and numerous other forms of self-defeating, reactant, defiant, and passive-aggressive misbehaviors that constrict life and render it unlived.
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[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

This video describes me. I seem to go about everything the hard way, then afterwards I will find out how simply I could have done it. Other people seem to know.

[@erirosesan]

Love this video professor!!!! Excellent content. Huge fan of your channel and I'm so grateful I found it.

[@username-jc2tp]

You're so good, Sam, thanks.

[@nicknorizadeh4336]

Thank you Professor Vaknin! This really helped me gain new insight into how to tackle my OCPD

[@abdelfane3789]

Thank you Sam .. this is an incredible advice 👍

[@sandragalloway3275]

Need to give this a go. I have rigid control issues, and what you say is so true. Thank you.

[@user-fs3it1tm8u]

Thank you Sam!

[@rolibajpai8366]

Thanks a lot dr Vaknin

[@drkknath]

These practicles steps are really help ful though unconventional such as switch between addications. Rigidity is the primary symptom and also cause of all kinds of mental disorders.

[@Makewayproduction]

Watch "Yes Man". Perfect example.

[@vela-rn2jz]

Dr.Vaknin, Will you please considering doing an entire video on high functioning Cluster B personality disorders? I couldn’t find one. Thank you! VC

[@chrissyprice7483]

Third

[@dakrontu]

But being self-disciplined means you are able to rigidly implement the same kind of efficient routines that an undisciplined person with OCD implements. Same outcome. As an Aspie I can be super-efficient in my rigid but carefully-designed routines, not because I am highly disciplined, in fact quite the opposite, but because I know those routines are the fastest way I can get thru mind-numbingly boring repetitious processes needed on a regular basis.

[@dd4138]

Good for you 😏

[@6219rey]

You do not seem to give any importance to the pregnancy period and the birth circumtances. What about if you had a traumatic birth or your mother had a very stressful pregnancy?

[@jensanges]

This is so helpful for everyone Sam, thank you ❤️‍🩹

[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

What is a person who will try and get away with not answering you when you speak to them. Or can't bring themselves to even say hi or please/thankyou. Its this defiance disorder. Demand avoidance?