EXPOSED! What men REALLY want! Stephan Speaks breaks it down

Koereyelle is back for another #MindOfAMan interview with Stephan Speaks. In this clip, he shares what men really want! Watch now to find out what makes you irresistible to men!
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[@dianedorney5147]

My mom always said be careful the kids grow up and leave...you have to maintain your relationship with your husband...

[@koereyelle]

So true! Thank you for watching:)

[@Ohheyyall]

When you’re married, it’s no longer “my” and “I”…it’s “we”…period.

[@koereyelle]

Absolutely!

[@returningtoperfection]

It's a good point, but "we" only stands when you agree. How do you get to "we" when you both "disagree"? When you both disagree it's me vs him or she vs me, and then this disagreement explodes into something you didn't see coming and worse still, something you don't understand. Your cliche sounds awesome but it doesn't sound practical.

[@whateverrr3893]

So women have to sacrifice their sexual desire and only cater to what the man wants? Honey this mindset is why more men are lonely and single today lmfaoo

[@returningtoperfection]

@@whateverrr3893 And the flip the script of your point is more women who give out for free their cooch become worth less by the number until eventually they are worthless. You can hate on the man for having standards and expectations of the woman he is involved with but when a woman refuses to express self discipline she becomes fit for the streets or a 304 nobody wants to touch anymore. Men have options here, there or anywhere they choose to get their keeper from. What about women? Once she screws her value into oblivion she becomes a shong yu.

[@KitchenDance]

Stephan, you had me at "peace". Then you mesmerized me with cooking. Ladies? Tie this together. A wonderful meal can make a man feel appreciated, peaceful and at home. Koereyelle- you nailed it when you said that cooking reminds a man of his mama. But it's more than that. Happy cooking piques a man's senses. It's visual, it's wonderful smells/tastes and nurtured. It's friendly, stress-relieving even passionate for a man to come home to it all. Yes, I'm a foodie. Not everybody is. Trust- if you play it right? Sometimes the man can't resist pitching in. Men like to move/ groove with their partner. Make sure the music is playing . Pop open his favorite beverage. And watch the magic. Observe. Find even one small skill, praise him and you might just find a partner in a flavor bomb party for two that is actually very sexy.

[@buyi249]

Wow i love this😍😊

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for sharing!

[@zaypelo]

Being able to cook and enjoy cooking for your man is a non sexual quality. I hear women often complain about being sexualized, well knowing how to cook is a really great quality to have.

[@KitchenDance]

@@zaypelo I got you and your take. think we're just going to have to agree to disagree. What man doesn't want to come home to 5 senses? Feels like, smells like home. Eh, as a wife, I never felt sexualized. Only appreciated. But yes- we played. And let's just say it led to the bedroom. Leve it at that

[@dirlenelopez6033]

Yes, yes and yes! The same I can say about men who can do things at home like electricity and assembling stuff... I find it wonderful to see he taking care of me in this way... it is definitely a big plus!

[@brianjohnson9456]

It’s not just happy wife happy life, it’s happy house happy SPOUSE! You’re a TEAM!! 🤨

[@koereyelle]

Agreed!

[@brianjohnson9456]

@@koereyelle IKR!🎯

[@travisculpepper2091]

Happy King or not a Damn thing!! 😅

[@sherylpaul-stubbs2516]

Old adages still ring true more often than not. “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach!”

[@jkweili]

I thought when you married the two becomes one? And should'nt alot of these details and wants and needs be talked about in the dating phase? This is why it is so important to get to know your partner.

[@koereyelle]

So true! Thank you for watching:)

[@jkweili]

Omg!! I am soooo excited! U replied to my comment, I love ur show ur beauty and ur personality, I even now feel closer to Stephan based on u replying, I’m a bit weird I know. Keep doing ur thang, we are watching.

[@cherrywilliams1967]

What about when every time you talk with a guy he’s always “sad” or “mad” but he’s in a relationship with someone else? I literally feel like gosh sir you’re always sad about something I really hope you find peace.

[@jackie41083]

If he's sad or mad but in another relationship, it's not your problem. Let him deal with his own.

[@marqann]

I broke it of with a married man, he stays in hes marrige, but the dude is depressed! totally, he thinks staying is the right thing but it doesn't make him happy... but it's his problem

[@KathleeninMexico]

Tellllllllllll it Stephan! Great show Koereyelle.

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for watching!

[@riekabosman7894]

Im so glad we are having these conversations! Thank God!! Bout time x

[@alicesutton559]

Thank you for these quality key notes I know sometimes it’s hard to remember all these qualities but if we just be natural to the relationship they will come out and have communication on what each other likes thank you so much I know for sure all these qualities that you have stated I am doing already great job Stephen for bringing it out to the world.When it comes to the child I feel that if you were in a relationship and you didn’t have the support most women or runaway from wanted to have a child on their own they really need the support of a man to be a part of that process. Because that’s how I feel there’s a gentleman I’m seeing and he was asked if I would want more kids I told him no but if I said if I had somebody there to help me I would do it again.

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for watching!

[@candaceclark9266]

I don’t think those requirements are realistic in everyday life! This is why people are single it’s getting out of control now!

[@jkweili]

I don’t think he said in everyday life, I thought he said those things should be in a relationship at times and men find them irresistible..I could be wrong but that’s what I interpreted.

[@richricogranada9647]

The wisest guy on dating advices is-by far-RC Blake’s. I’m White and listen to him

[@kelseyjanae1]

When it's real love, you won't become suddenly unattracted if they get a new haircut. That's not real love.

[@den-zellmusic6309]

He just mentioned a handfull of stuff men highly appreciate and she was already seriously reaching her limit 😂... Did female consider how long their wishlist is? Or not even wishlist... List of *hardcore* demands

[@TomikaKelly]

The average woman RARELY gets much of her wishlist.

[@ypmm53]

Stephan always spits the truth or at least what makes sense!

[@treywalker9103]

Yes, mom's cooked & ill still visit at least twice a week for that meal. That said, mom's was a married woman till death did her & my pops part in 07. She cooked for her husband & sons & we were happy from all I could tell. Same with my grandparents on both sides. Married households where the wife cooked. I miss my grandmother's cookin just as much as well as the sauces & other hookups my grandfather's added from time to time. Point is, yes ladies. Learn how to burn. A lot of women today can't even boil water & that's just tragic

[@TomikaKelly]

A lot of women don't care to cook, let alone boil water, because they started realizing there is little to no ROI for putting themselves through all that trouble....

[@laurameadows]

Stephan Speaks is correct about lonely men. I have dated men that break down and admit they haven't had sex in years. But for women, we can hook up any night we pick with whoever which I don't recommend. When it comes to having children 2/3 of women have children and 1/3 of men have children. Women want the men who are 8's and up and below that the men get nothing or have a difficult time. For women just about all women can have a man, not the high quality men but maybe adequate. For the male 8's and up that's where the completion gets difficult and that what we all want.

[@koereyelle]

Thanks for sharing

[@crystalbolden4081]

The woman who gained 100lbs and fell out with her husband, lost it, got him back, then gained all 100lbs back again may love him, but with him she looses herself. Either he sucks the life out of her by overwhelming her with wife duties, or there is some neglect from him or abuse going on that drives her to get depressed. In that state of depression, she’s not thinking about eating right or exercising. She loves him more than herself, but people are in habit of being together so she rather be with him knowing emotionally he drives her to pig out and neglect herself…. In my humble opinion💯‼️

[@emory4258]

I am a woman and I dated a man who was almost always in a crisis!

[@ranmas2004]

Look at her reaction when he said cooking. Its so sad that our black women these days just totally ignore catering to their men. Back in the day we used to be the closest race as family concerned nowadays women don't even care what men want they only think about what THEY want and try to put value on that. We LOVE a woman that cooks, that was the FIRST thing about my wife that drew me in was the fact that she could ABSOLUTELY THROW DOWN in the kitchen!!!

[@TomikaKelly]

Nah, Black women started realizing that there was little to no ROI for doing all of this...

[@Jazz313]

Clean & informative ❤. Cook and sex that’s the basic men need, whether they make 30k or a million

[@vivs8108]

So helpful

[@soniagonzalez1462]

Awesome Q/A

[@luvmeeshpodcast]

Gratitude 🤍💗💜✨🫶🏽

[@marqann]

I'm very manly, for me the psysical is so much a lovelanguage for me, I littealy wither if I can't feel his physical attraction, huge for me..

[@WakeUpLing]

Make home the most desirable place to be 💯💯💯

[@ishmeetkaurkahlon8242]

Where I can know the full episode? and which episode is this?

[@koereyelle]

Here it is kzbin.info/www/bejne/Zqi0aId3opeLaM0

[@1111ScorpQueen]

What about what women want?

[@TomikaKelly]

Ever since I started exploring this relationship guru niche, I've started to realize that many women have little to no ROI for their love and labor in relationships...

[@MingoDiMedici]

What's most important is that the woman or man isn't so prideful they believer serving their spouse is beneath them. Some women work so much, the energy isn't there to cook a lot or learn to cook. But for most women, they think it's beneath them because of societal programming. Remember, Jesus washed his disciples feet and said the greatest among us should be as a servant.

[@amandaforrester7636]

In my experience, its only something I want to do when I feel valued, loved, cherished and served too. It's hard to want to serve a partner who treats you with contempt, and I'm sure that's true for both sexes.

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for sharing

[@crystalbolden4081]

Facts and tips❤🥰

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for watching!

[@maryanndiamond1690]

This was spot...

[@dr.kimbrough4506]

I ain’t go make the cut, sis!

[@kaleidojess]

sex, I’m beginning to think that’s what men really want in a relationship. Men don’t seem to have as much of a heart capacity as most women.

[@marqann]

Actually I want that too it's my lovelanguage...

[@tinker2217]

They do. They just don't show it as much as we do. Remember, they're taught to not look weak, don't cry, Toughen up. You can't be told that for 18 plus years then just switch it off. I wish men were allowed to express their feelings more and still be considered masculine... but When they feel vulnerable enough with you and SAFE, they open up.

[@ifinditinteresting.8709]

@@tinker2217 i dont think women should speak for men. It misleads everyone.

[@scorpiostellium]

Sex is a huge way men connect and show love when they’re in a relationship.

[@TomikaKelly]

💯 Men absolutely DO NOT have the same heart capacity as women. (Not romantically, at least). Based on some of what I've observed, many men get into relationships for the main purpose of getting their "needs" met.

[@BlvckshadeMarle2265]

Stephan says: "women do tend to give leeway" Koereyelle says: 'women do tend to be lenient' Sadly that's lots of room for weakness as long as I'm not constantly being led on. It's always a good thing to give someone an honest clue about how they're really feeling. An honest woman usually gets not taken seriously and usually gets led on... self-honesty can be everything

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for sharing

[@light.path5]

Stephen please make what women want from relationship marriage 😄

[@TomikaKelly]

I love Stephan, but whenever I hear all of this amazing advice about whatever want, I can't help but wonder: So where and how does the woman benefit from this exactly?

[@sarahroberts6413]

It’s essential that a woman knows how to cook her man a meal

[@westernstar9121]

23:20 will buy heartlogic, the man that wasn't helpful with the kids should be more helpful with the kids and then find another woman to have a kid with who wants to have his kid 😊 and still be helpful with the kid

[@keys8885]

A woman going from long natural hair to Michael Jordan we definitely need to have a discussion

[@koereyelle]

lol

[@Jaeh1]

😳

[@natianacaldwell]

Yay good thing I know how to Cook lol

[@LeslieNice]

Honey! We need to talk. This man does a good job appointing out the things that are easy to talk about, without much fear of being slapped. I think he makes some very excellent points but he's leaving out some of the down-and-dirty. I think your girls want to know how to get 100 messages a day? I think they want to know what makes him think about her every minute of the day? I think they want to know why men choose some girls in the world every morning, and every night to relieve themselves. ? Honey I'm afraid he doesn't know those answers, or at least he's not willing to give you the specifics. Because most of them are politically incorrect. His perspective is also quite narrow as an African-American man. American men have been raised in an environment saturated by women. So they grow up with a compulsion to seek the approval of women. And women hate that. He is perhaps unknowingly, censoring his answers. OMG! WTF? Peace? Cooking? Those things are nice and important part of a domestic partnership but Dey ain't nowhere near the irresistible category. Irresistible is something that Compels them to respond

[@jpdag05]

Man, I hope she isn't married...

[@koereyelle]

She is. Happily 😍

[@jpdag05]

@@koereyelle For real? In that case, I'm genuinely happy to hear that.

[@veronicawilliams1957]

What happened to her eye??? That doesn’t look good! I’m concerned…

[@koereyelle]

Who’s eye?

[@ifinditinteresting.8709]

Yoooo. This is TOUGH. NGMI.

[@koereyelle]

Thank you for watching!