F*** the fear, it's not real anyway! | Deri Llewellyn-Davies | TEDxUniversityofEdinburgh

Deri Llewellyn-Davies deals with the three big F words, to unravel why fear can feel so real, whilst being entirely irrational. Fear is implicit to courage, a supposed essential trait for success in business and life, but what is it really?
This talk was delivered at Edinburgh's iconic Central Hall on Thursday, February 18th 2016 and was a part of series of talks given at the TEDxUniversityofEdinburgh 2016 Conference.
When it comes to Deri Llewellyn-Davies, the phrase ‘suited and booted’ takes on a new meaning: there aren’t many men out there who spend their days in a pinstriped three-piece and their spare time climbing the highest summits in the world. Deri Llewellyn-Davies is a speaker, entrepreneur and author. He has climbed six of the highest mountains in the world, completing the legendary Ironman, and recently made an attempt to scale Everest. Using the principles of purpose, vision and values, Deri aims to enable businesses and individuals alike to fulfil their potential.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@riwajchalise8317]

I am a Nepalese and I saw and felt that catastrophic disaster. Whole country was restless as well as sedated at the same time. I was in a room preparing for my final exam. I could barely walk, I somehow managed to find my mother and sister we hugged each other for 2 minutes. we could do nothing, but pray for our lives. That's the closest I have faced death, then we ran to an open space barefoot. We had nothing to protect than our lives.

[@Michutix]

Don't get why people are hating on this guy, his talk was great and inspiring.

[@thiery572]

@jd jd Interesting point.

[@caseyoliver18]

Michel R he has a unique way of expressing himself he has a great sounding voice

[@SeeBillyRun]

Good talk. Tough crowd.

[@BizCoachLadyT]

People who live life according to their own rules are often criticized by those who are afraid to step outside society's boundaries. It's easy to sit back and judge him as arrogant, vain, boring, self-grandizing, etc while you troll the internet looking for some inspiration to help you live the life that you are to afraid to live.

[@mangoyacho]

Well said!

[@fettmitsalz]

yeah but you have to admit he's a bit of a douche..

[@Renzov12]

Preach!!

[@jimwilliams4088]

I thought that he was amazing

[@teramariee2659]

Yes, very well said! Glad I found this....four years later lol😄😘

[@TariqKhan-xt5qs]

People hating on this guy because of his attitude which you perceive as arrogant, are afraid of the truth. This guy is living his dreams something that i can say that i am not and something that most of the commenters are not doing either, which is why we watched a ted talk like this in the first place. You special little unicorns want everything sugar coated for you so you don't have to face the reality, but in order to solve you real problems you need a real solution not a sugar coated one.

[@haivelmu6382]

Well said.

[@tmber01]

One of, if not the best TED talk ever!

[@paulnewman4624]

What is it about fathers and sons.. The moment he told the story of his father on his death bed was the moment I cracked . The hard truth of that moment when life is about to end when you finally realise too late that you could've done so much more. Even the small things of saying to your 8 year old son that you're too tired to go in the garden and play ball with him and then you watch him slump on the sofa disappointed. Those small things bite you back later. So get your arse up and play ball with your kid, write that book, do what your gut keeps telling you to do . That's it really!

[@gempassion]

Let's go world! Let's come alive! Let us live life to the fullest. The sweet contact that we want so deeply with life and what we love most let's do it! Never look for the wall. Live the dream!

[@mrssomuchmore7193]

hey Deri, awesome talk! I listen to Ted talks while I clean at night. I've had such bad anxiety for the last 5 years and these talks have helped so much. yours resonated with me because of recent events in my life...both loss and unexpected responsiblities. I agree with the ego fear thing because I've lived it. dealing with the fear is becoming easier because of talks like this! thank you! it's the beautiful moments

[@ashleytaylor994]

Adventure is not fear. Dealing with anxiety, depression, self consciousness is real fear. Overcoming that is true courage.

[@wonderwoman1199]

Thanks for that inspiring talk. I love to trek. I've climbed hills and mountains. But not Mt. Everest. Just upto the base camp. And yet I loved it. I felt like I was in paradise. The view, the silence, the sound of wind. You are right about fear.

[@xfactor5326]

His voice is very inspirational So deep Wish i cud hear him rant the rocky 6 dialogue ( its not how hard u hit )

[@latelate1000]

It was a pleasure to listen to this. He's not arrogant, he is honest and he admits his mistakes and faults, which is something arrogant people rarely do.

[@cabbagedavidge]

That's our problem when we hear and see someone like this guy who is obviously successful courageous, confident - and handsome taboot - up comes the green eyed monsters with their envy, jealousy and judgements. God forbid we will ever be any of those things - of cause it's ok if we all act humble and apologetic - then we are not judged.

[@MrRockstarlad]

So true :)

[@SinoxoloNhonkieGibson]

damn

[@KarlPearsall]

Another brilliant presentation Deri. We really enjoyed your talk at the Yes Group London :-)

[@Kevin-gf1yk]

A life of no regrets is the reason I ran the Boston marathon in April! No regrets for that!!

[@yabish5601]

He has a good message and he's a good person.

[@pedroeyre]

Agree nothing wrong with this type of spirit, it's him being the ultimate humblebragger and cliche dropper that grates!!

[@bridamcgarbheith8856]

Lovely speech...really good quality. Thanks

[@misslegae]

Deri Llewellyn-Davies! Thank you...!

[@Ecthelion3918]

If you don't like this guy (which is completely fine), take a good, honest look at youself and ask 'why'. And don't give yourself an answer beginning with "because he's ..", look at yourself maybe you'll have some fun with an honest answer

[@zali9930]

Son..I haven't lived my life fully...I regret so much.... Imagine if your father's last words were those.... So powerful

[@pedroeyre]

That's what I suspect Deri did... !

[@paco2244]

Very inspirational thanks for sharing.

[@JudutheFagHag]

Very inspiring. Thank you!

[@S10Alexander]

The crowd doesn't give a whole lot.

[@tommylayhew7065]

Tough crowd

[@gabedroppo5814]

I know right bro?!?

[@mohamedaly7539]

+Tommy Layhew too many women

[@Burigan]

Haha! I was thinking that the whole video..so true

[@yourlipslikeice]

seriously

[@vonmillz2014]

its a Ted talk not a comedy show...this is not for entertainment purposes.

[@williamshakespeare4013]

F*** the fear... of self promotion.

[@PeteS_1994]

I agree tbh, I I think the word narcissist is tossed around too carelessly nowadays.

[@williamshakespeare4013]

***** Yes, if you ever get an opportunity to give a Ted talk, use it to talk about yourself. It will be to everyone's benefit to find out how amazing you are.

[@PeteS_1994]

William Shakespeare Ok, I will, what's wrong with being an amazing you?

[@williamshakespeare4013]

***** Absolutely nothing. I am actually surprised you're holding back the good stuff about yourself right now. It always helps make the delivery of any point more focused and concise.

[@bosyeux2]

fuck the fear of give a truly boring tedtalk.

[@Alex-ll4xm]

Damn this is a great ted talk

[@IadoreyouMaxxy]

He was awesome! Thankyou loved this talk helps alot

[@merry6117]

I've just found this video- Was your audience dead? No responses at all. I laughed several times!

[@soph909]

Loved this 👍 such a good story

[@iamabigailbarnes]

Thank you for sharing your truly inspirational story Deri and message that the best time to live is while we are still alive!

[@juanrosa6133]

AWESOME!

[@samanall2824]

really nice must watch

[@alexanderluis5997]

Fear is our best friend

[@HamzanMartinez]

Well done.

[@dirkslifeadvice5339]

"Fear is a choice. We are all telling ourselves a story, and that day mine changed." M. Night Shyamalan

[@kevinisawake]

THIS GUY IS RAW - you cant laugh even if you wanted during his whole talk. The crowd was in full FEAR....hahahahaha.

[@lordofgraphite]

Can barely hear this

[@bosyeux2]

lucky you

[@montieburns007]

Real life 007!

[@JunkiesTube]

NOT!

[@amdrinkslushees7963]

I was thinking that lol

[@smuthcreemnl]

I grew up in the ghetto around gangsters; you cannot have fear. Having fear will kill you faster than a bullet. Three o'clock in the morning, looking at the sky as I bleed all over the sidewalk and nobody is coming...... You can't have no fear..... Today is a good day to die......

[@IceThawing]

wow good talk bro

[@socialsindhis]

Awesome Speech . . .

[@roughlyEnforcing]

dude is james bond, no one gay or straight is gonna say no, if he asks them out.

[@blackout2430]

Amazing

[@themightychabunga2441]

Skydive!!!! Climbing mountains and skydiving and such are risk based choices one can make or not. Real fear involves situations in which we have no choice or control. Illness and death,being confronted with a armed robber or assailant/animal ,going into a prison and numerous post-accident scenarios'

[@RPKD88]

No, in many of the situations you mentioned you still have some choice or control (except for death).

[@themightychabunga2441]

KaBhi18 Really? You have experience?

[@RPKD88]

TheMighty Chabunga Some of them yes. I'm just saying that there are always other options for some of those things right? Like for example, when confronted with an animal or robber you have a choice on what action you take.

[@kdarlack]

I can't hear you! Have someone fix the audio!

[@THeMssproject]

big like!

[@sheherhers415]

He should be the next James Bond

[@IadoreyouMaxxy]

He would be awesome

[@caseyoliver18]

Anyway fear creates anxieties so yes it is very important learn to face your fears. However it's okay to be afraid sometimes but it is also okay to kick fear in the teeth and show Fear who's boss. Don't let fear control you. You control fear otherwise fear Can hinder your life and stop you for doing things that you want to do in his life. However used common sense if something doesn't look right to you if it looks dangerous stay away from it don't pursue. There is a such thing is being overconfident so got to be careful.

[@thiery572]

F*** the fear!

[@niteshplanet]

Tough Crowd

[@denizbaransel]

Scene reminded me the crime scene of Lincoln's assasination.

[@FayAlexGG]

I like adventures ☆

[@feenix1014]

Fucking Life Changing

[@superlongnamefive]

tedx support group

[@Slarti]

I have not climbed Everest, all I have done is walked over the Thorung La (5,416 metres 17,769 ft) which is way lower than Everest however it is still difficult. However this talk comes across as not being particularly inspiring to me.

[@MarmaladeStex]

Is it Better/Worse to be Afraid of/Fear The Unknown or the Known?!.

[@SiennaArmstrong]

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[@wonderingthoughts926]

To me, this guy sounds like he’s bragging a lot. In my mind it’s easy to face a fear that is an actual rational fear. To face the fear that you’re convinced someone’s watching you in the middle of the night, that if you do complete that obsessive ritual you’ll crash the car and die, the feeling of constant worry, over irrational fears, that’s what’s virtually impossible to overcome.

[@OneAndOnlySplintz]

FEAR IS FAlse EVidence Apearing Real

[@amadeuscrossing7061]

You aught to finance my trips. You said you lived, let me live. help others live too with all of your unneeded wealth, Welsh sir.

[@tmber01]

+Cesar Medrano Go out and create your own wealth. It's called working at something that actually has the potential to produce the means to afford you your dreams. Life is NOT a welfare situation.

[@patriciaoffer9585]

Mark B It's a bit of both, I think...

[@heroofbattl8357]

Im telling you am not going to preach to anyone all i can say is you need to face your fears so you can be aware off the reality passive will make you aware but 10 years and active will make you aware in two years

[@altart8102]

That audience......

[@PazLeBon]

i have no calling, fears or real regrets and ive half my life to go yet zzzzzzzzzzzz

[@mariarayo1430]

amazing life experience,shame he did not learm humbely

[@mariarayo1430]

james dean thank you!.I thought it was humble 😊

[@Musiclover8825]

your surname sounds incredibly similar to a Coen Brothers character

[@matthewcupelli5901]

Damn Ted your sounds systems got some issues

[@Cognitiveleaper]

Imagine that ........... a man who is impressed with himself.

[@c.r.salvador2827]

"Was I scared? No, I was confused, because this was a fear I had not faced." I mean...

[@mahendrakumar-uw9qb]

It will be a stupidity if I dont mention that you have changed a bit of me.

[@8jakeP8]

So basically this guy's Dad traumatized him into having a fear of regret. Regret is no more real than fear, it's temporary, pointless, and self-made.

[@skymoore3177]

El Jake yea but no regrets sounds better than being a bitch and justifying being a bitch.

[@willbyrne3160]

lol "traumatized"

[@andrewgoldin6905]

That’s a good point but I think that regret is what pushes people to move through fear. Why face fear to begin with if it makes you uncomfortable? Because you know if you don’t you won’t be able to live with yourself.

[@nilomejia6010]

he fears regret, so I guess fear is real

[@thiery572]

Haha.. interesting point. I guess between all the fears, that one is the one he fears most, so he's willing to climb mountain, etc., to avoid that particular one. Some people fear of wife, though. :)

[@teacherparkshe5722]

Right

[@PlanetToPlanet]

Totally thought his title meant Fuck the Fear

[@gabedroppo5814]

That's not what that means?

[@mikeock1939]

+Gabe Droppo Fist the fear

[@jarad1385]

Bet

[@itseveary5756]

I hope the crowd is laughing and we can’t hear them

[@EclecticInsights23]

can you f**k the fear? bt for that you should be aware of that.Take a challenge and name your fear on fb page "Goodbye2fear". like, share and subscribe to it.

[@manuelschmoller426]

Title of the clip: F*** the fear Length of it: 19:11 Gun nuts know what i mean. I take this as a sign

[@AlexBerezovskyJr]

who let this guy onto a ted stage? for the record, i think ted talks are a national treasure. i have watched most of them but this nigga? shit he like a well mannored, well spoken Jersey Shore cast member. This talk has 10% to do with the complexities of fear and 90% to do with how much of a bad ass this guy thinks he is. He spends the majority of his talk regailing us with tales of of his adventures and presents nothing substantial on the subject of how and by what proccesses one should go about "facing the fear"

[@kevinrex7414]

The fuck you talking about? He talks about setting goals and start out small to gain momentum.

[@AlexBerezovskyJr]

+Kevin Rex clearly u aint seen too many t-talks

[@s7v7nfiv5]

F.alse E.evidence A.appearing R.eal

[@cy9141]

so... this is what Simon Cowell's been upto

[@user-vw7qe1cf9x]

A good bit too pleased with himself. I like the message, though.

[@water0000]

Wasn’t really a tough crowd, he just presented anything remotely comedic in a very flat way

[@rmartin6914]

Audio sucks...

[@chillydoog]

What a choad

[@TheEloquentEye]

I just can't be inspired by people who do something a inane as climbing a mountain for absolutely no fucking reason.

[@FingerbangDPG]

Bowing grande finale? Just the worst.

[@juliusilori]

Girls...Daddy's a jerk!!!!....

[@sarahdunn4592]

Wow. That was awful. Bet he's great to hang out with.

[@mattinuk]

more modern nihilism. dull.

[@adila-ot7ze]

date me date me

[@seventimessevenequalsforty3775]

What a tool.......I hope people got paid to sit through that

[@manikdesign]

exercising your ego in public is definitely not a good way to build an effective organisation - sam walton owner of walmart

[@mathewbrown9890]

lol this guy think my fear is unreal? everyone in the world has this fear....the fear of talking to a crowd

[@thiery572]

"the fear of talking to a crowd" Seriously? This particular one I am not afraid at all. But I am fear of everything else.

[@_maze_4733]

I'm always disappointed with ted talks for some reason, always lacking in substance for me.

[@crikeymos22]

Wow. How annoying. Not many people laughing either.

[@alexjulia4870]

The amount of times he digresses just annoys me

[@AnkitPatel-re2oc]

get to the point

[@Vorpulus]

Ironically, this idiot has been driven to do all of these things by... his fear of having regrets on his death bed. There might (and infact, probably is) some truth to what he says, but he's still clearly deeply concerned with image and guided strongly by status (or ego/self whatever you want to call it), and is therefore utterly useless to anyone concerned with the truth (which should be everyone).

[@juliusilori]

bit ( A.LOT.) up himself!!.. Yawnnn!!......audience like me are BORED silly!!.......zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[@1greenMitsi]

You mean you quit your job and earn more in a month than you did working a whole year?? Is that why your advertising it on youtube and flogging off 'startup up packs' at $59.95 a pop???? Take my money!